WHEN THE NARCISSIST SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE

[@annamariehewitt3173]

IT'S THE REALIZATION THAT I WAS BETRAYED THAT IS SO HARD TO DEAL WITH...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💪🙌🙏

[@azucenavarin4504]

Same here. Very difficult

[@annamariehewitt3173]

@@azucenavarin4504 IT can take as long as a year to recover from the BETRAYAL...

[@azucenavarin4504]

@@annamariehewitt3173 wow I! I’m sure hoovering on their part only makes it harder and prolonged 😵‍💫

[@carolkendall824]

@@annamariehewitt3173 Even sometimes much longer. But don't short cut the grieving process. Let it all work it's way out of you and surface so you can get rid of it like a bad and foreign piece of debree!

[@EP61]

I ignored my gut feeling. Never again. What you are doing is a noble task, a high calling to something the world desperately needs: enlightenment on narcissistic personality disorder.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you E P..🙏🙌💯💯

[@bradmcewen]

Yep. Starve them from supply.

[@katiemiller4187]

Me too.. always trust your gut.. hugs

[@vvvvel]

That's when you realize.

[@Cowgirlkate]

Well said, a fellow warrior too.

[@c.l.9344]

A narcissist will subtly reveal who they are over time. It's takes discernment and education of what the signs and characteristics of a narc are. And not allowing your empathy to blind you. If you're an empath you'll attract narcs. Be extra discerning of who you have in your life. ♥️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight C L.. 💯🙌🙏😉

[@Jay-xx5pg]

Why bc so forgiving nd trying so hard to be compassion for them(((

[@donnahazlett7305]

This education is priceless. And you're exactly right, I didn't have a clue what narcissism was. The narcissist I was with toward the end started telling me that he knew he was abusing me but he didn't want to hear about it and that if I ever brought it up to him I would be dead to him forever. I thank God now that I am dead to him. And I can only hope that it is forever.

[@ammj6202]

Donna- My God, Im so sorry. Something similar was said to me once and it is the most startling thing you can hear much less try to comprehend.

[@donnahazlett7305]

@@ammj6202 Yes it is. I was so beat down, confused and afraid. It made me physically sick. I pretty much lost everything but finding this KZbin channel has changed everything for me. I'm going to build a new life now and it's going to be good. God bless you and everyone on here.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Donna..💯🙌💯

[@bradmcewen]

Whoa. That makes your decision easier. Wow.

[@jong5150]

It won’t be forever Donna. They always come back with a Hoover. Prepare yourself by educating yourself so you will ready and prepared for it.

[@christine11347]

Getting my time back was one of the greatest gifts after it ended. I do what I want when I want. There is nothing more lonely then living in the same house then when you were with a narscistist. We had the life sentence but we found our out and now we are free to have our new beginning. Luckily for them though they now have that life sentence. They never will be able to be paroled from their inability to feel, love, ect. Forever empty shells. Wow how the tables have turned when you realize WHO is now in charge. They have no more power unless we give it to them which I Never WILL again and I hope no one in this community will either.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Christine 💯🙌🙏💪

[@christine11347]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🙏

[@carolmininger9012]

Yes yes yes

[@christine11347]

@@carolmininger9012 ❤️🙏

[@lauracarstiou3505]

He even said right before the discard how he felt empty. Yes waiting for someone to show up on your behalf after you give and give.. that's a lonely feeling. For the last year all l felt was heartache

[@cinthial7220]

No more overlooking any toxic behaviors out of family friends or anyone because once toxic it’s just a matter of time until it shows back up again and again

[@beckyharrt]

I just found a note that was given to me in the beginning of the relationship. It said, I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you. Another time he told me, I’m a better person when I’m with you. I asked him to explain but never got an answer. How foretelling!! Another thing: I heard it explained about us being just objects that it’s like a person in war/battle. They will use other people for human shields, to protect themselves. Users, to protect #1. They are addict, needing to use partners for their own good. Very sad human beings.

[@joolz3078]

I had those notes throughout the whole of our nine year relationship. That's why the discard felt so brutal. I will never understand his mindset. Sending healing vibes to our community and thanks again Andrew for your insight and understanding. ✌️

[@misfit7866]

I had notes like that too they all use the same playbook!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this happy harpist 💯🙏🙌

[@realchristiansandtheendofd8567]

He would send a loving email and in ten minutes a hate email

[@lauracarstiou3505]

I swear they got their hooks from the same text book.

[@weirdlua]

I relate to all of this. It’s a shame that there are people who can not value an honest, good person.

[@treelover1050]

YES. SO WE HAVE TO LOVE OURSELF FIRST AND USE OUR GUT AND BOUNDARIES TO PROTECT OURSELVES FROM UNWORTHY PEOPLE EVERY DAY.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely agree Ana..💯💯

[@jannlewandowski5540]

These narcs "feed off of GOOD PEOPLE like us. RUN FROM THEM!

[@rachell4417]

Amen to that

[@cynthiafortier2540]

Putting all the pieces of the puzzle together takes time. When you finally see the whole picture it is quite shocking. Thank you Andrew for your support and validation!! Keep up the great work!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Cynthia always welcome 💯😊🙏

[@gloriadonahue7241]

According to Dr Ramani, we all have been listening and learning and educating ourselves about narcissism that we all have the equivalent of a master's degree in the topic of narcissism.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Education is empowerment 💯💯

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Yes yes now I will consider myself a well educated and graduated 🎓 in sychocology even do I don't have a license yet ...I can even teach and educate people on these demonic and toxic people ....I love people with all my heart I choose peace and serene over conflic etc....

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Yes yes absolutely I do have equivalent of Master degree in sychocology etc even though I haven't been to college for I know for sure I'm qualified for PhD as well ...I'm now well educated on these demonic and toxic people I can spot a narcissist mile away ...I will never engage , interact , associate myself with toxic people ever again ...don't get me wrong I love people with all my heart I have learn to love them from a distance because I don't know what they're doing behind close doors or the scene etc.....

[@MJ-qb5ph]

PhD with multiple research publications!!!!!

[@vvvvel]

It's better to be in the know...!

[@bandieboo8102]

These people are aholes......they lie...they demean you. They will put you down again and again...and again I so wish all the good people here a better life. Blessings x

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Amen 🙏 thank you Bandie..💯🙌

[@carolmoger9869]

The hardest thing to face is that they know what they are doing and they are doing it with destruction in mind!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely true 💯💯

[@sheilahogan7014]

These videos are helping me feel whole again. I was unceremoniously ghosted and dumped-it took me a full week to understand what had happened. But you’re so right, the signs were there, I just didn’t recognize what they meant. Never again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue on the path Shelia.. you are doing great 💯🙌🙏💪

[@donnahazlett7305]

They're like a tsunami on steroids aren't they, they destroy anything and everyone in their path.

[@christine11347]

💯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😉💯

[@stephaniehall6309]

I call them the terminator, and now I’m Sarah Conners ready to kick some Narc but

[@MikedeVeltaMusic]

Brilliant, thank you. I’m just coming out of the shadows now. Loving myself a little more each day. After my abuse and discard from my daughter I knew I had to let go. She was trained from a young age by my ex to to take what she could, that I was undeserving and should be punished. I’ve had 27 years of punishment from her Mother and now a carbon copy of that evil. I cried a river, but now I’m out. My beautiful little girl sadly died in my dreams.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Mike.. I appreciate your honesty and kindness 💪🙌💯

[@thekellers5041]

My condolences it’s very very tough with children since we feel protective bonding as parents 🥺 As you see her as an independent adult cherish your memories of any childhood times and let go, seeing yourself not losing her but allowing her freedom to choose. 😐*hugs to you* It’s hard

[@sweetcello3358]

I’m so sorry you too are going through this. It is so difficult. Love is energy and we can still love them even if allowing distance and time … send your music into the world we need it!

[@MikedeVeltaMusic]

@@sweetcello3358 Thank you , it’s taken my whole strength to keep faith. I had to let go or I would literally have a nervous breakdown. It has been a living death, I have mourned so deep only good knows the evil orchestrated against me. It was made to break me. But yeh, my victory is claiming back love of myself and my day is coming. No one escapes judgement in this world, and it will come. I have faith.

[@MikedeVeltaMusic]

@@thekellers5041 Thank you for your kind words, I grow stronger now, a little each day. May God bless all who are persecuted for their kindness and empathy

[@HellasGD88]

Andrew I had a gut feeling about him but I ignored it, the first time i saw him instinctively I knew something was off centre, a madman that disguised everything he did with 'humour'.

[@christine11347]

@@karabela19699 Absolutely rude sarcastic humor....I'm just joking...it was a joke....your so sensitive....your so serious.....So absolutely rude on every level ... .it's funny when you tell them something serious though like someone died...someone is sick...there was an accident....their first response is your joking right.....yes because that's what I want to do call you and joke about that someone died. Fun times on the crazy TRAIN. So glad LAST stop was Freedom LANE and I Jumped off and am never getting back on again

[@christine11347]

@@karabela19699 Wakes with these narcs and their families are absolutely the worst. They are like the deceased person isn't even laying there. There are no tears it's like a big supply party for all of them..the eulogies forget it. So uncomfortable and unnatural just like everyone else with them

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely Christine 💯🙌💪😉😉

[@HellasGD88]

@@karabela19699 Exactly disguised as a 'joke'

[@HellasGD88]

@@christine11347 yes exactly they're cardboard cut outs/zombie zero emotion or empathy.

[@pinkposey8134]

Thank you! Nothing is good enough. We alter to keep smooth sailing, it doesn't work.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely true Pink Posey 💯🙌🙏

[@janetwarren2686]

My narc blamed all that stuff on alcohol!" Has anyone else had that reason told to them from the narcissist!"?

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

There is no accountability from them..ever..💯💯

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Yes

[@Alyssacaronefamily]

Your saving me many head aches, lowering my anxiety and brightening my day. Thank you! IF THE SON THEREFORE SHALL MAKE YOU FREE YE SHALL BE FREE INDEED!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 💯🙏🙌

[@monicabelle8581]

When I exposed my narc …and questioned him as to why he was still sitting at work in the coffee room when he was supposed to be out 2 hours prior…he couldn’t look me straight in the eyes…it was the first conversation in 6 years where he looked sideways…as he was telling me lie after lie…and the more he did that…the more my voice escalated asking him why he was lying….and when he had no: more energy to lie because he knew I knew…I told him it would be the last time he will ever see my face…and I told( him to look at my face and say goodbye…and when he looked straight at my face, I didn’t recognize his face…you know when the coaches explained that the mask fell off…well, in my case it was a mask that fell off because I saw a different person in that instant …to which he topped my ending the relationship with a …’I will see you in the next lifetime…and hung up…’after 6 years of being engaged…we were supposed to marry early 2022…and from that telephone call…I never got an explanation nor an apology …but then again…I did block him…but imagine after 6 years of courting a narc…one telephone call that he never expected and I smelled the fish …and saw the deceit…he showed his true colors…if this is not a true demo situation for everyone in here on how narcs are…I don’t know what is…But I’ve been blessed to cry alone and talk to myself(lol) and listen to the amazing coaches and their educational advice…and I promised myself that out of this …I plan to emerge stronger than ever…The universe always lifts up the people that were good…and I hope the universe brings the rightful Karma to those that hurt. 🙏🏻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message thank you for sharing this Monica 💯🙌🙏🙏

[@treelover1050]

I'M SO GLAD YOU DIDN'T MARRY THE NARC OR HAVE ANY CHILDREN WITH HIM. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

[@monicabelle8581]

@@treelover1050 Thank you. I know he would have used me more and stolen more of my time and then would have left me for the lions…so glad I escaped.🙏🏻

[@dawngardener9586]

Thankyou for another heartfelt and empowering video Andrew. Yes forty years in the fog living in a distorted reality, an illusion that he did love me despite all evidence to the contrary. It is a deeply painful awakening, thankyou for being there to guide us through, you speak our truth with such honesty. Love to you and to all the amazing bright lights on this channel, together we will support each other and heal. God bless xxxxxc

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Dawn 💯🙏🙌💪😊

[@CstWstFllwer]

First 30seconds of this video was on point, hit the nail on the head. Exactly I, we, us who tried to make the relationship work are empathetic people, co-dependent whatever u wanna call it but we wanted to see it through. Forgive & forget & move forward, but the Narcissist continued using our kindness for weakness as Ammo to keep trotting on our heart & our boundaries, life etc. Okay im going to continue watching

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

They push until they can’t anymore 🙏💯😉😉

[@crencottrell7849]

"Uncaring, unloving and unempathetic" Yep EVERY narc I've dealt with pre-discard, discard, and post-discard matched that description 😅

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Cren..💯🙌😉🙏

[@MJ-qb5ph]

YES!

[@BabyDoll-xw6ex]

OMG! I’m at the end of a narcissistic relationship. I have been struggling with it so much. I am so grateful to have come across your videos. I’m having trouble blocking him, but I’m getting closer to doing it as I’m going through these videos. Thank you so so so much for your wisdom and advice. I’m crying now with gratitude towards you. Everything you say is what I’ve lived for the past 10 years. Thank you. 🙏💖🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome BabyDoll..🙏🙌💯💪

[@charlee6956]

Stay strong lady. Im with you on the journey~

[@Suzielu1]

11 years married... Cover narcissistic in my case... So suttle I couldnt exactly tell what was off... I could literally not believe what I was seeing and hearing.. At the end.. When I confronted him.. He completely removed the mask... And it was terrifying..he could care less what I felt..what his family felt... It was all about him.. He did not care to pretend anymore.. The entire thing was an illusion.. It is by far the most traumatic moments of my life... I flooded my brain with info.. And that has given me strength and finally some ..some closure. You are not alone.. Most people around us don't understand but I come here and vent and hear others stories..we are survivors! 🙏 stay strong!

[@pineapplerings6744]

My whole LIFE!!!! The discard was treacherous!!! Andrew can you do a video about the Narc receiving their KARMA!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@FieryKTarot]

When u love a normal person, u do hold space for them unconditionally. We just didn't love normal people

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏😌

[@glendawatkinsroche4255]

You describe my past last life with my EX that it is almost scary to me! Yes education is the key. Thank you so much for your videos

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Glenda 😉💪🙌💯🙏

[@esh3333]

One of the scariest moments during my healing was realizing the common patterns in narcissistic relationships.

[@jong5150]

@@esh3333 It’s so true. It’s like they are all computers and have uploaded the same program. Imo it’s the devil at work. The devil uses these people to cause pain and suffering to good hearted people of this world.

[@JD-lk7im]

Yeh. You're correct... The Love bomb, looking back, is terrifyingly replayed to me nowadays...

[@vincecavedog3219]

At the end of the relationship when she dropped the mask she was unrecognizable it was freaky!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯💯

[@pauleastwood3694]

I had the same thing it nearly killed me after 3 years together, now I really miss her and am very lonely, struggling

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Same

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

@@pauleastwood3694 the first two months are the hardest man. It will get better

[@paulwisdom1090]

I know exactly what you mean, mine looked unrecognizable to the point where I even asked her "is that you or someone else?"!!! She looked like an angry evil satanic daughter!!!

[@carolkendall824]

Andrew, you have a gift of bringing comfort to others. I was married to a narc for over 33 years. The damage they can inflict on you is incredible. I had shut down and could not cry for 17 years - thinking everything was okay. January of 1997 I had a dream that forced me to cry and then the dam burst! Memories flooded back of so many things I caught him in and could not confront him with in younger days for fear of his reactions. Once the dam burst I could no longer hold it back and began to confront him. He became more and more dangerous and very violent because the narcissist cannot be confronted with who they are. They cannot bear to have their false image stripped away or revealed. Long story short, it finally ended when I told him I could not take it any more. Took a long time to get to that place and then a long time to recover. I had to grieve the death of the marriage (or the dream inside of me that never got to happen) and the pain of realizing what I had allowed myself to be put through. But never again will I let anyone treat me badly! I have found me again and my life turned around to very happy and the freedom I feel is amazing. Although I read a lot of self-help books when the marriage ended, the violations are so great that even 22 years later I still find the need for validation - plus continued awareness so not to ever fall prey again to another madman! Your videos do just that! You also know first hand what it is to be used and discarded and have your spirit crushed. But out of the ashes God is using you to bring clarity and validation back to others. Bless you for being real. Your messages are so uplifting and your voice is very soothing. Your mission benefits many!

[@gansgevtekked1917]

Thank God they showed me who they really are. Now I value my freedom and time more. I was stuck and lost during those times but now I am free!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message 💯🙌🙏

[@papadonttakenomess1764]

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯😉

[@tinajohnson7524]

Andrew, this is spot on !! Wow ! I relive the moment I decided to stop the madness, and it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. I only knew I had to get out. I was rendered homeless and had to find a shelter for women in domestic violence. I stayed there for three months,and I finally got my own place. I've never felt so liberated and sane ! My super power enabled me to see the narcissist in a guy that has tried to date me since I'm free of the other. I'm not in the dating zone anyway, but I am so much more aware for when the time may come. I really have come to the point of being super grateful, in a empowered way, for the life lesson. I just love your channel! God bless you Andrew ! 😇🥰☺

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Tina..💯🙌🙏😊

[@elhadjdiallo633]

That's the reason why I'm still single until I find a well educated high class woman!!!! She has be narc free etc....toxic people and narcissists are delusional, dangerous, vindictive, health sucker!!!

[@carriedillmann4455]

My God everything and I mean everything you said happened to me and now after he left me and now being divorced I experience the happiness and freedom you talk about too ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Carrie 💯💯🙌🙌😊😊

[@treelover1050]

GOOD FOR YOU. YOU HAVE A NEW LIFE AND FREEDOM.

[@carriedillmann4455]

@@treelover1050 Thank you so much!!

[@marybarton5651]

Oh boy, ain't all of this, the ever loving truth...it's definitely true...every word describes most of my experiences with the narcissists I've been with......invadate....degrade...I had forgotten how to validate myself when I was with them, but now, I have my eyes wide open, and I am relearning to validate myself. Thanks to all your videos and others. I have learned that I can't fix anyone but me. I'm so glad that I stumbled upon this channel.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this ☀️😊🙌

[@c4481]

Road trip together…I was driving and took a wrong turn. Boy did that mask ever come down! You would have thought I ran over a small child by the way he went off!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯🙌😉

[@maryomahony5648]

True He never said sorry to me Everything..he said was my fault Yes the end of this so called relationship...he never asked how I was keeping...nothing I can now do what I like I joined a gym and go every day now I sleep in when I want I read again I pamper myself more now..this and every thing else was taken away from me...because every minute of every day belonged to him..not me Before I met him I loved life ..I loved looking at the stars before bed and the beautiful moon..I loved waking up to the beauty of the day...he took it all away...but not anymore...it is my life now..I breath again and i thank God...I am alive x

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful empowering message 🙌💯🙌

[@DonnaLambeau]

Thank you, Andrew. I've learned so much from your videos. Thank God that the community has you to educate us empaths. I pray everyone has a blessed day. I hope you're on the healing path. God bless everyone with peace, joy and love.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏💯

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

After you realise..here is it..they are no more than clown to empath...we are contributing to happiness...love to alll

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@nancyfeke9585]

I watched a Video on KZbin the other day...I don't have His name at hand. He referred to the Movie "The Sixth Sense"... He called it the 'Seventh Sense'. With what we have experienced with a Narcissist, educated Ourselves....We can spot them Everywhere we go. Not to dismiss them, be aware and know what You are dealing with. It is freeing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Nancy it’s completely accurate 💯💯

[@tiptopdadddy]

The goofiest thing about my ex is that she styled herself as a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She even did an anonymous interview on a podcast and kept it secret from me. I listened and despite 4 years together, being engaged, buying a house together, me facing down her felon ex…she didn’t mention me once or that she had a fiancé. I rationalized and didn’t bring it up. When the discard came she minimized me, our time together and the life “we” had built. These people are the emotional equivalent of The Terminator, no feelings, no remorse, can’t be bargained with on a mission for themselves and no one else. They won’t stop.

[@beverlytaylor1745]

Hello Andrew! For those of us that aren't out yet, being aware is everything. Thank you for your insightful help in this. 🥧☕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Beverly 🙏🙌💯

[@valb9963]

They are evil.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌😉

[@valeriebogand7073]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone now we know and we will never give multiple chances

[@thekellers5041]

Andrew, I want to let you know the thing you said here that resonated so deeply with me it’s changed my life🥰 I’ve been living in darkness, in perpetual fear, in horrible self-image even though I actually was one who started my ‘education’ 2 years before I was actually able to craft my exit & divorce from a narcissist. Regardless, alone in trauma recovery my all-consuming fear had been, sh*t, I’ve spent almost 60 years stupidly getting tangled up with one narcissist after another. Berated myself why didn’t I know better! 🙄😖🤬I was raised in physical (brother) and emotional abuse (mom & sisters) My first BF and very very long relationship (10 years) was with a religious narcissist and sexually abusive monster, then I married a different narcissist and stayed stuck for almost 30 years. What an idiot I felt I was. I literally have feared continuing to live bc I worry about falling prey to the next narcissist. But today you changed all that self-abusive thought for me. Today I realized hey, wait a minute. I went from childhood to BF to spouse BEFORE I KNEW WHAT A NARCISSIST WAS! I am educated now. I am armed with plays I can use against their cartoonish playbook. I understand the boundaries I let drop and I can recognize gaslighting. (Primarily when words don’t fit actions/reality, such as ‘I love you’ but dole out unapologetic rages, passive aggressive contempt and lies) And in the past 2 months I’ve come to realize nope, I can’t be fooled again! I need not fear my future. In fact I recently encountered a narcissist in my landlord and I felt POWERFUL SMART AND CAPABLE as I undid the gaslight, confronted & exposed lies, and HELD a boundary making her move onto an easier supply. I’ve beat my past up and left it in the gutter (sorry for the triggering imagery) But, Andrew, THANK YOU! 🙏 namaste

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message of inspiration and growth.. thank you for sharing this.. 💯🙌🙏💪💯💯

[@reneblanche3573]

As an actor, I once had a big literary event two years ago where I performed live in front of a few hundred people. At the previous press announcements, my narcissistic ex-girlfriend was constantly there and also got into the newspaper through me. She even offered to anchor me at the event. When the time came, one minute before our performance, she broke out a fight backstage, accused me, left the hall and left me alone with my audience. I can hardly describe how I felt. Then after 3 days of not talking to me, she accused me of being a diva and all her friends agreed with her.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙏☀️🙌💯

[@kristinej.4182]

Through education and a deep analysis into the 7 yr relationship with my narcissist ex, I now realize who he really was and it’s scary to think that I was actually in it. The healing path is still painful but to be honest, I should really be thankful about the discard and that I made it out alive and didn’t let him destroy my finances. I was very naive about what narcissism was when I met him. I was an empath with codependency issues stemming from childhood trauma. I did not listen to my intuition. My boundaries were weak or even non nonexistent. I just wanted to be loved and boy did he pretend to “love” me during the love bomb stage. Lol 😆 Now I have woken up to a new light. I am a different person. Thank you always Andrew!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Kristine 🙏🙌💯

[@amandajohnson-williams7718]

We did not know we were dealing with a severe personality disordered person, that was the problem Andrew. We did not know their intentions and motivations, we did know how twisted and opposite those intentions were. Why would we? They were sly, very sly, they hid their true desires from us. They wanted to destroy us because of their own inner pain and demons, outside of their consciousness. They seem quite unaware of their hatred of those who are close to them. They see themselves as fantastic ppl. It's all down to their own unresolved trauma from childhood. Narcissism develops at age 5-9, by the time we meet them, the defence mechanism is very well established, its second nature, it's very definitely fixed. Anything negative they feel, they project on to us, we are to blame, we are at fault, we become the defect, that they can not accept in themselves. It's a very sad condition but one which can not be helped because they see themselves as perfect. That can not ever be challenged so there is no hope in relationships with these ppl. Just a regret we ever got involved, as for sure, for us empaths it's a very traumatic encounter. Coming together and sharing our pain is our way to healing. So thank you to all of you 💜💜💜💜💜

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful insight Amanda 💯🙌🙏💯😊

[@jilross4892]

I lost my youth and big part of my life on Narcissists! And still have some around me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue to maintain your boundaries and become educated Jil.. we are here for you always 😊🙌☀️

[@elhadjdiallo633]

Now people is wondering if I'm under age I look like a new born baby who has never sins before you know exactly what I'm driving at ....narcs have ruined millions of lives in this universe!!! Stay away from narcs and toxic people !!!!!

[@annewilliams5715]

Kick em to the curb

[@olaitsana2952]

Thanks we need people to back us..we are not alone like we feel they have done deliberately..when I got educated it was a bbbbbbbbbbbbblessing❤✨

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Ola…💯😊🙏💪

[@christine11347]

We should always be very grateful for all the beautiful blessings of the day and be thankful for the kindness that surrounds us. 💛🌴❄️🎇

[@kellimoran8402]

Thank you!! So very true!! I realize now who and what he is and now I’m out and in control and definitely educated!! Blessings!!❤️🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Kelli..💯🙌🙏

[@Wishpool]

My dad (and especially my brother) are both narcs, but I never realized it until I started researching the topic about my then-boyfriend. I've never shied away from calling people out on their BS, but my ex was a master manipulator with a ton of excuses. My mistake was buying into them for too long. No more. Your channel has empowered me more than any other, Andrew. Thank you!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always Wishpool.. you are amazing and loved 💯🙌🙏💪

[@Wishpool]

p.s. I'm starving now with all of that PIZZA talk! 😋

[@jhoniikemp]

Same happened to me. It started once I realized my then boyfriend was one. Immediately broke up with him. Then realized I was surrounded by them from my family

[@Wishpool]

@@jhoniikemp That's great that you immediately broke up with your ex when you realized he was a narc. Good for you! Having family members who are narcs, we tend to be drawn to them (sigh).

[@laetitiascognamiglio5826]

@Wishpool I had the same experience than you ! After having discovered that my ex husband was a sociopath narcissist, I realized that I was surrounded by 2 more narcissist in my own family : my brother and my dad 😞 What a désillusion… And it asks me a lot of effort to spend time with them in a dinner family …But I have to go because I don’t want my mother to be sad

[@GG-lm1cw]

I felt something in my spirit from the beginning. I excused them away He always talked about his ex being a cheater and never appreciated him. Yada yada yada. Such bull. I knew ,,,, but did not have a name for it but I thought he was weird

[@donnahazlett7305]

Same scenario for me. He's no doubt talking about me to his next victim.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this G G..💯🙌😉💪

[@anneyoung2310]

Thank you so much for this, Andrew. It hurt good. Whenever someone says the narc. shows who they really are when they are discarding you, it is incredibly alarming, but real. I do believe something inhumane clicks in them when they are "done" with you, and recovery is near impossible (I've never heard of such). I needed to hear this again, Andrew: "when the narcissist discarded you, they showed you exactly who they were (without the mask): uncaring, unloving," cold-hearted, and brutal. "They did show you who they are in the end. They knew exactly what they were doing in the discard to abuse and destroy you."

[@roseannemelvin8501]

I asked my husband of over 50 years "what am I doing wromg" his reply" you try to hard". I was left, utterly confused and emotionally void. Thank you deeply for your insight. God Bless 🙏🙏🙏💛

[@ninadallarosa3383]

Thanks Andrew keep awareness and posting !!! I was so horrified with their cruelty and tantrums.

[@ammj6202]

I had "no idea" what Narcissism was other than some vague terminology that was out there. There is an excellent chance I've engaged other Narcissists and like many other people, just summed it up as "that person is a jerk". Or for one reason or another "That person is a problem, I need to stop being around them." I think what really woke me up to Narcissism was the rage. I have seen rage before... but this was different. I could SEE a pattern. When I started watching videos on Narcissism, all the dots started to connect... I mean- all -of-them. In a very spooky way, things started to make sense. Knowing, is not the same as understanding. What compounds the problem is grief, the chemical withdrawal of that trauma bond, anger, and just the overall fallout. Then it is repeated daggers in your heart as you try to accept what has happened to you. I think it over and over in my head, and one way or the other- this thing was going to end...even when I thought we were "winning" we weren't really. My life was spiraling and I desperately held on to anything I could. I am literally rebuilding my life right now.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty and sharing AM MJ..💯🙌🙏💪🙌

[@christine11347]

It's like coming off an addiction to a poisonous drug that you never knew you were taking.

[@beverlytaylor1745]

Same. You expressed what I, and most of us are feeling. Thank you for that. I hope all good things for you. 🥧☕

[@dianas2193]

I saw my husband for who he was when not a year into our marriage yet he would hammer me with words and I couldn't get a word put and then claim that he's just listened to me when all this time he was hammering me with words and interrupting me. He waits till I get provoked or reactive and he pulls the camera out and starts to record me while paints me as a crazy person at fault and he paints himself as the blameless caring person on camera while doing this I see him smirking behind the camera. Then I see he enjoyed these games these manipulations. It's destroying me. I crossed the world to be with this person who supposedly loves Jesus and now I'm alone no support system when my family and all that I know is an oceans away.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 🙏💯🙌💯

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Damn this is familiar

[@malapersad7310]

Everything you have said is so true. My daughter did say to me once that he is a narcissist, but i didnt try to find out about it. Then i came across your vídeos and i am learning daily. Yes, i am an empath and i always give to a fault. And i did make a lot of excuses for him. He discarded me on april 03 2023. I am praying everyday to continue to heal. And with your help also things are changing for me. Thanks Andrew

[@roslyncerro1263]

Version 3 is beautiful! Peace, no belongings being broken or hidden (yes, hidden!), Andrew and tribe, aren't we fortunate now? Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️

[@vladimirciric519]

If I knew then what I know now… aw man. Walk and don’t look back.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Moving forward everyday 💯💯🙌🙌

[@candidaherron6130]

One minute late and the narc would have a fit , I never could understand that ! I get exactly what you're saying Andrew !Run run run 🤦. No Contact !!! Thank you Andrew. Much needed topic 💯✌️🙏🌻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Candida 💯🙌☀️

[@candidaherron6130]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ✌️🌻😊

[@terrirobson9043]

At a great cost to me~~a lot of not good things have happened to me. I handed my power over in the name of "helping, listening, giving, balancing, being needed, thinking it was my responsibility to keep everyone happy"~~~ now I know. This video (like all of them) is priceless. This last experience was exactly like you said.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

[@annewilliams5715]

Amen!

[@michiellalove5402]

They burn almost every bridge they have. They are destructive to themselves too. Losing jobs, compulsive sex, gambling, drinking, drugs etc.... watch how they are with their friends, watch how they talk about those very people in a negative way to you. They have on again, off again, cat & mouse relationships with most people. They are often extremely judgmental of others and have a sense of entitlement. They often want a partner who is good looking to make themselves look better. They are very vain & often materialistic people. Peace & Love

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate this insight 😉😉

[@caryn9561]

I have all narc families.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

In my case they hold the mask perfectly - my sister in law had me fooled for 35 years - but within days of staying with her and my brother she abused me to the point I was suicidal - then the mask goes back on in public. They are truly sick. Brilliant video. Thank you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you N G..🙌🙏💯

[@alexandraspeek4740]

I am not anymore the empath I was and I know that when you change they find it very hard to accept. Real loving and kind people do not have a mask . ❤️

[@jansusanjennafletcher1712]

I am a parent of a 21 year old daughter who has just gotten out of a relationship with a narcissist- for the 3rd time with the same “guy”. This last time he became physical and she has now come home to heal. You are So right on all the points of a relationship that will go nowhere! BUT- as a parent of someone who is now 21-we can’t control her or what she does. All we can do is love and support- and hope that this time ( after he hit her and choked her and screamed horrible things to her)… we can see her coming to the reality of what this person is capable of! She is one of those people who has always been “ I have to get it right”- whether in school, competing in gymnastics or a relationship. So, as her parents, we want desperately to find help for her and Us. Thank you for the honest,straight forward words of encouragement.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always Jan..🙌💯🙏❤️🙏

[@debbysmith5346]

The pizza story was a good comparison, the narc KNOWS I do not eat meat, she said order what I wanted. I got a pizza w all vegetables, scant cheese NO meat. She hit the ceiling and told me off.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯😉😉

[@nancyjapsay-fajutrao622]

Truly indeed! People saw that we have had an ideal family but they donno i was the rag, i was the financier, i was the doer and i used to cover up all his inadequacies and that the reality was that he was breadcrumbing us! Thanks

[@darthrasheed8248]

Andrew, can you do a video how the narcissist doesn’t bond with you in a relationship? That would help a lot of people.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely Korey..💯💯😉😉

[@christine11347]

You were never part of the inner circle, there in crowd and they had no problem letting you know it. It's funny I guess he thought having his new supply taking a more shared role in his spotlight. Totally backfired on him at every turn destroyed his love for the hobbies he love to torture me with. I guess her interest made them less appealing to him. So glad I am not part of this world anymore. My life is so boring in comparison and I truly couldnt be happier with the quiet love it🙌

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Yes this topic

[@paulag7108]

Aside from not knowing anything about Narcissism I had a child with this person so that would be another reason for staying in the relationship. I knew something wasn’t right from day one but couldn’t figure it out. I looked into every mental illness and it seems as though he had every one along with every addiction imaginable. It was 25 years of misery. I’m so grateful for channel’s like this! Thanks for sharing Andrew❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Paula..💯🙌🙏

[@paulag7108]

Stay strong! Your on the right path!👏❤️💪🙏😎🦋

[@theresaconley5930]

Thank you for teaching what you've learned and helping me see another layer of narcissism. Something that I recall is one narcissist being able to spot another narcissist without being in direct contact or even knowing anything about the other one. One was talking bad about the other narc, commenting on their clothes, hat, etc. Really putting the other narc down in order to build themself up and feel greater than the other one without even meeting them. I couldn't see all the fuss he was having about someone else. I think if I would be able to see the narcissists like that I would benefit in the long run.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your insight thank you for sharing Theresa 💯🙌🙏

[@dgexpressllc7450]

They know exactly what they are doing! In my experience - their favorite phrase is "when you have thought of it - I have been there and came back"

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯💯

[@claudiaaguilar6845]

Great video! Thanks Andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Claudia 💯🙏🙌😊

[@lorina-janebuonanducci.1042]

(" The tables have turned. We're in control. We know exactly where we're going and what we're doing, what we will and will 🚫 NOT allow in our lives." Beautiful Andrew. Thank you for your words.)

[@julessoultrain]

40yrs of experience of this …… your spot on . Well done 👍 keep educating.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Julia 💯💯💪💪

[@creativepersonstwo4643]

Thank you for shining a blazing theatre spotlight on: how much it hurts to be hurt by a narcissist. For giving real life examples. The pizza example is brilliant!!!, and it hits home-- it's a classic example of "Hollywood" style melodrama created by the narcissist to get all the attention on them, with them being a perpetual child. Thank you for helping me heal my heart. Each rage fit left a hole in my psyche, and each blind siding volcanic emotional explosion has left huge scars. Hearing your words is at once incredibly painful and yet these words of truth are also healing a deep well of pain with sharp clarity and love. Thank you and bless you for sharing your truth....

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏☀️🙌

[@spmoran4703]

My ex showed exactly who they really are. . . . A Horrible, nasty monster. With awful ideas about the world . As an empath I cannot and will not support these ideas.

[@shivmc4466]

This is so true Andrew 👍 this came towards thd end when the narc knew it was over no more friendship it's a relief.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 🙌🙏💯

[@tomikoeaton9786]

Well my narc dropped dead 5 years ago before I was awakened to the truth my mother is a narcissist my cousin is borderline there all crazy

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

[@haley1682]

Walked into one unknowingly thats for sure! Lesson learnt. Hell of a lot of shadow work done and continues... 5 yrs later, 6 mths into a new something.. flag after flag..Could be avoidant persona but what ever.. in a nut shell...They do show you. Block, cord cut and walk away my friends. Learn a karmic lesson and move on, its about growth and learning. Stay strong peeps 🌱

[@daniellemorse6929]

Every video gives me more and more strength. Thank you, Andrew. His last word to me was 'later' as I'm sobbing on the phone trying to figure out how to make our relationship work on MY birthday, which he wanted no part of. Truly sick, evil people.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯

[@LR-yr6ih]

WOW. This is so true! I remember one time when he went into a rage after i bought him vanilla ice cream (he supposingly hates vanilla). I was so confused, it's just ice cream. Trust your intuition, see it for what it is. It is hard to let go, but you need to choose you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯☀️

[@cheryleteale4902]

Yes the pizza saga... it always said "oh I don't want one..." but when they arrived, the narc ate as much as it could of what I had ordered in order to leave me with nothing to eat! Who on earth does this, it was a revolting pattern over and over!!!! Knowledge is power, knowledge is our key to survival .... Love your words...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Cheryle..💯🙌🙏

[@jameshogue1639]

I've had the enlightened education but having a horrible day. I had to write down , " Why does this person not think it (too many things to count) doesn't matter".

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing James 💯🙌🙏

[@jameshogue1639]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thanks

[@sll110]

So true ..... Thank you, lovely Andrew 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 😊 🙌

[@yoz4533]

Spot on again Andrew. In my case it was the Valentine’s dinner. What should have been romantic turned out a big disappointment, with him moaning about theres nothing on the menu that he liked and me feeling guilty for picking this restaurant. But having a romantic dinner is not about the food, is it?

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand this completely Yoz..💯🙌🙏😉

[@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood]

I pray I get as strong as you. Loved the video. God bless. Thank you 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

You are doing great Polly..💪💪💯💯

[@GodsChildTM]

Mine loaded up all his stuff in his truck one night and left because I had too many pictures of my grandbaby on the wall...There were 3 pictures🤣

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Teresa 😂😉🙏

[@marybarton5651]

Yeah, boy, I definitely knew who the narcissists were before the ending came. Sooo glad I'm free...and becoming freer every day

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@ninadallarosa3383]

Thank you Andrew like I keep saying I wish I knew about and had the education long ago !!! These demonic individuals are roaming this earth !!!

[@saratemp790]

One thing I started noticing more and more is, my narc is a big liar. He would always lie about what I said later on after our fights, to try and justify his abuse. So I told him I would start recording our fights, because I was tired of him lying about it afterwards. And boy he went ballistic. So one tool against a narc, record your conversations. If you live in two party consent state, tell him he is being recorded. He won't talk at first, but he will later.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Hi Sylvia.. I appreciate your insight 💯🙌🙏

[@lynneanderson624]

I got a double whammy of narcissists two of them at the same time and your so right I hadn't a clue what a narcissist was. One was a so called boyfriend and the other a so called friend. I put in something on Google one day as I couldn't work out the odd disgusting behaviour of them, things about narcissists came up so i looked in to it, I was totally gobsmacked, everything that I was hearing was all the things my so called boyfriend and so called friend was doing, that's when I realized they are both psychopathic narcissists and it's thanks for channels like this that I,m learning to find myself again, Thank you so much Andrew and wishing everyone a brighter future without a narcissist xx

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯

[@sylviamathon7095]

i had seen lots of video's about narcissist...but im glad i found you Andrew!! its clear and on track with so much information. i recognize all you are telling. ..with a kindness and loving voice. thank you for doing this❣

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯☀️

[@debbienicholson7089]

I was married to one, he destroyed my life

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending prayers and positive energy to you Debbie 💯🙌🙏

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

Dear....learn and then your super empaths

[@robertadexter7280]

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU....

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Roberta..💯🙌🙏

[@ninadallarosa3383]

Yes run !!! When you realize it !!!

[@jaquelinejimenez]

too many Chances and still he never changes.

[@ardyceelayne5804]

My Ultra Light Channel for now not using..so back to original...it is my healing energy. We are so lucky for you..Thank You..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙏🙌

[@EllieAwow]

Yes my time is all mine now and I savor it. It’s now very valuable

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Amen 🙏

[@gloriadonahue7241]

I have 'picked up' on these traits in people since I was a kid. But I just called them SPOILED BRATS. I have said this my entire life. The world is FULL OF SPOILED BRATS. Actually, I wasn't wrong, I was picking up on their narcissistic tendencies, but I didn't know anything about narcissism. Of course I'd heard of narcissism, but I thought that was someone who looked in the mirror and said they were great. Here's the problem....my entire life I was so sure that I had it figured out....that these people are brats (which they are) what do I need to research? I already know what their problem is. PLUS, there was no internet back then. There was no way to research these things at midnight from the comfort of your bed. That didn't exist. So there was no way to look this stuff up.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Gloria 💯🙌🙏🙏