When You Grow Old, If Your Children Don't Respect Or Ignore You, Stay Calm And Do This- Zen/Buddhism

[@mechelesee4875]

This will be the year of 5 squats for me. My son has estranged himself from me. I have chosen to accept this. However, he is often on my mind. I have decided every time I think of him, I will do 5 squats. This way, I will benefit. Physically and mentally. I wish him peace and joy and all the blessings from heaven. And I will fill my life with things I love and enjoy. My gardens, My cat. My husband. Nature and 5 squats.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@mechelesee4875 am glad you got the information thanks so much for watching

[@CiaofCleburne]

Blessings❤

[@taroman7100]

Mine has too, over Trump. He became a leftist lunatic and swallows the whole package. I dont understand why anyone would want to have children. They arent worth it.

[@Polyp1-3]

Bless you 🥰🙏🏻

[@MayuriPatel-iw5xo]

I’m sorry about the estrangement. But you’re focusing on what you do have - a husband cat and gardens. And you’ll be fitter!! One day he may want to come back and that’s ok you’ve not wasted your life waiting.

[@thethinkingman9338]

I gave my daughter everything she could have possibly needed, as a single dad i worked long hours to provide a comfortable safe home, she never went without, I made her the most healthy of school lunches and cooked for her ( and I ) good meals every day, I loved her more than life itself. today I am 62, she is 29 , never rings me, never visits. in 2024 I was diagnosed with a rapid form of skin cancer on my face, 5 hr surgery , over 100 stiches, followed by 2 months of radiation treatment. she never came to visit me. my heart is broken. i just don’t understand

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

As long as you did your part as a parent just leave God will fight for you

[@drewodessa2483]

Because her mother and the culture poisoned her against you most likely. The West is grossly subverted. Western tradition is not supported. Who knows what it's being replaced with? I do. Impoverishment and Slavery. Save yourself. If you can't take care of yourself how can you take care of others? Get to a good place and they will follow when they see what their world has in store for them ... Extinction.

[@christabel4921]

@@thethinkingman9338 incredible selfishness! We should all form a group so we support one another ! I did the same thing as a single mom with a son .

[@Sharon-st9st]

I am so sorry

[@VickieHisBeloved]

you are a very good and responsible father. never beat yourself up for doing your best. shame on her ..but sometimes the pain we feel from an absent parent is deafening. its not you. someday she may realise what she is losing🥰❤️🙏🏻👍 we here all love you

[@koolkidsresale7536]

I have a son that's big polar. He never shows respect or gratitude for all I do for him. And I'm not the kind of parent who throws it in his face. But he's disrespectful, talks ugly to me and never really shows gratitude for everything I have done for him. He's narsaccistic and a sociopath. I wish him well. I pray that he finds peace and happiness in his life! He's 33 yrs. Old and has made some bad mistakes in his life. He likes to blame others. I know I need to sever our relationship so I may have inner peace and happiness. I love him dearly and wish him well but I will no longer let him use me for his advantage. I guess since he is now doing better financially he feels like he doesn't need me anymore, possibly. I know he has big polar but he refuses to get treatment. For my own sanity and happiness I can't continue to try and help him. Some people can only be loved from a distance. I hope he will accept accountability for his own failures. I pray he does get help for his bi polar. I always wish him well.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@koolkidsresale7536 you are a good parent, take steps of the advice given and everything will be ok

[@audreycooper9739]

Praying for you

[@MaryKingsley-py4js]

Take heart; their are so many of us today suffering the same. It's also to do with athe way narcissism has been cultivated since the llate 1970's in particular.

[@LinF299]

You do need to leave him and I know how hard that will be. If he gets help it will only be when he doesn't depend on you. I am praying for you, take care of yourself. This is the first step. ❤

[@kimberlykapusty2374]

My son sounds exactly like yours and I feel guilty for distancing myself from him. I had to leave, it has really taken a toll on my mental health.

[@BuddhismBliss-eng]

Respect and dignity are earned over time. Staying calm and leading by example is truly the best response.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@BuddhismBliss-eng 🙏

[@bethharvey5170]

Love for a child often resembles expectation. When children know their parents are worried about their choices and actions, they may cut off the relationship simply because they want to continue engaging in their negative behaviors. Loving parents get in the way of what they want to do, and are discarded.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@bethharvey5170 🙏

[@houndlover870]

I'm a discarded parent because I won't party with her. I understand.

[@paulettelamontagne6992]

I'm I'm discarded because I can't let her around me on drugs she won't get off drugs and get her son back from father I had custody of them the first 7 years of his life. Then a long Court battle when dad showed up. A lot of money heartbreak Florida has no grandparents rights took me a year and a half but he got my boy and it hasn't let me see him in 5 years and while I love my daughter. I resent the fact that she won't straighten up for her child who's with that monster. And she helped him taken from me my beautiful daughter that I spoiled and worked for that I gave elaborate parties and the best of everything and gymnastics and ski trips in Key West trips and it goes on and on and now she's just a mean hateful narcissist I should not have spoiled her. All I can do is pray that she doesn't die on the streets and that my grandbaby doesn't forget his own Nana and then he comes back last time I saw him he was dead he'll be 15 next month I just pray the Lord brings us all peace

[@paulettelamontagne6992]

Oh my goodness I should have proofread before I hit send I used talk to text I said 10 Not Dead I don't even like that up there in writing but I don't know how to get rid of it

[@anaf752]

@@paulettelamontagne6992 It’s okay! We all make texting mistakes! You can go back and edit your comment by pressing on the 3 gray dots on the right side of your message.😀

[@franharris2277]

This is just what I needed to hear . Thank you

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@franharris2277 Thanks so much for watching, I appreciate your support

[@Zorba.]

A gift today from beyond. Not to subtly blame myself for my daughter cuttimg me out of her life for 2 yrs now without a word, and to put loving kindness toward myself along with total acceptance of what is as my orientation. Feeling loved and deep peace and contentment are not dependent on others now. This has veen the discovery and confirmed from beyond today. 🙏✨🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@Zorba. Thank you

[@funkymonkey8308]

Thank you for sharing my younger son did the same over a year ago.

[@kittyOshaughnessy]

❤❤❤

[@victorbarbeau3130]

Both my daughters from 2 different mariages abandoned me when teenagers. Broke my heart deeply. Scar will not heal. Miss them so much. They were each everything to me. Now I realize they do not exist anymore, they changed so much I do not recognize them anymore. It is a never ending grief

[@JimMartz]

​@@victorbarbeau3130 Sorry. I hope you can find some peace soon.

[@Loveisthelaw69]

Ripples in a pond settle when left to take their own course ❤. I feel your pain in some of the comments, I've had similar experiences with several of my children. The greatest love is to set someone free, including ones self. May peace be with you always ❤

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@Loveisthelaw69 Thanks so much for the encouragement.

[@Loveisthelaw69]

@@ZenPhilosophy1723 your welcome. And i appreciate it ❤

[@KJ-vj8nt]

"Ripples in a pond settle when left to take their course" wow, that's powerful. I will stop pursuing my estranged son. I will stop making ripples even if they are unresipicated kind words

[@kittytlee]

Yes, set yourself free.

[@gordontravers9768]

Estranged from my daughter for 30 years. This strategy assists me greatly. Practicing Buddhism for 3 years. Blessings...🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@Oryx5244]

This was helpful, and the comments are very helpful too. My adult daughters have been quick to judge their brother, aided by his ex, and can’t see that there are always two sides to a story. Since I’ve told them they shouldn’t judge, I’m in the dog house too. Having come from a dysfunctional family where mommy dearest was hellbent on making sure her kids didn’t get along, it pains me. I’ve been grieving the close family I thought I had, but I now realize that wasn’t the right way forward. This video has shown me that there is another way, a better way. Thank you algorithm 😊.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@ladeek35]

I’m helping my elders (aunts/uncles) age out of earth. Every conversation this pain is brought up. This video reinforces some things and gives me new ideas to help my people suffer less. I wish I could send this to my people, but they don’t use tech.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@ladeek35 Thanks for watching

[@LindaDavis-id3ns]

Very helpful, at mid 80’s it is a new stage of life to understand and except. ❤

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@shimacoody4089]

Though my only child ignores me a lot, I hope for her to have the best karma As long as my daughter is happy 😊 That’s all that matters I have peace I think I make it that way These videos help Thank you 🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@shimacoody4089 Thanks so much hope you got the lesson use it well and everything will be ok

[@marybusch6182]

Peace of mind

[@ralphkinkaid5558]

Best that she ignores you. You wouldn't want her trouble in your life. Move on.

[@heydavis4168]

Thank you for this gift of insight and practical knowledge. Sometimes you have to unplug, remove yourself, and seek inspiration and enlightenment. Blessings to all 🙏🏻

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@heydavis4168 Thanks

[@KAJAMAJA122]

Truer words have never been spoken “ attachment is the root of suffering “ . Profound words proving comfort and understanding .

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@chillout1424]

Thanks for the great video. It’s perfect for the new year.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@victoriamihai2239]

Really good video. Thank you. I hear of many children these days, especially adult girls who cut off their parents. The same thing happened to me. I brought up my daughter mostly as single parent. She was the nicest child up to the age of 13. From then on, it was a struggle. I protected her even from her own father. At 19 she wanted to be with this boy she knew from primary school, then high school. I helped them be together. After I helped them buy a house, she completely cut me off her life. She says I did not listen to her when she was a teenager. I don t know what she means. As she turned to her teenage years, I started to see a different person in her. I turned more inside myself for peace. So when she cut me off without reason, it did not hit me that hard. I pray they are good and I just focus on myself. If I could have just a bit of communication, it would be wonderful, but I have no power to change anything. I just pray God will change things for the best. Thank you. 🙏🤎

[@MaryKingsley-py4js]

I'm in exactly the same boat. It's a sign of the times. People generally are not as loving as they were. The young have been cultivated to be self-centred.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@MaryDBethany]

Wishing you the best. You sound very wise even though I know this rupture brings great suffering. I have been through the same, and have reached a similar position as yours. Peace and joy to us both.

[@Loveisthelaw69]

You have the power to change the self from within. I resonate with your comment, keep well ❤ 🙏

[@bethanymcevoy6591]

Projection of her on processed issues as a teenager which is a diff8 ult time for humans. I hope she uses forg8 ness to bring peace in her life. It takes two in a relationship even a parent child one. I find girls are raised so different from boys. I raised 2 sons and my married one teach3s me a lot of how his wife was raised so different than him.

[@freedmm3122]

A friend once told me “ if you want to get along with your grown kids ,dont ask for anything and dont expect anything

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@Roberta_Esposito]

Gave my six brats, the universe they couldn’t care less about me

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Take care of yourself and everything will be well.

[@SaltyMinorcan]

God bless you

[@joycekepic8947]

Well, I had to did the same thing and neither one of them speak to me and I was a single mother

[@Brenda-on7hy]

Love yourself and send best wishes to them without strings. They ay Coe round. They may not. I raised my grandchildren who have gone no contact. My heart bleeds for them but I must accept what I cannot change and approach everything with live.

[@jamespn]

My mom and dad gave me life, I’ll handle the rest.

[@codzy3532]

im 61 a woman and my 2 adult kids dont have time or ring me sometimes i ask God u carried these kids u looked after them now.......God is my comfort an refuge when my kids talk bad about me behind my back God defends me ive seen it the Lord is nigh unto those of a broken heart amen an amen if we cant see our grandkids we will see them in heaven amen

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@codzy3532 Thanks so much for watching am Glad you are a good parent.

[@my2cworth4U]

2 principles that work: MYOB and JLM ... Mind your own business & Just let them! Both release you from expectations and suffering.

[@ralphkinkaid5558]

If they don't ring. It's to your benefit. It's time to love yourself and enjoy your life.

[@helenfalco7601]

Thank you. This video popped up in my YT feed, like a blessing. Been working on improving my relationship with my daughter. She turns 25 next month; and is really starting to come around again. I think, because of the meditation and self-reflection I’ve immersed myself in. Also likely she finally has matured enough to see what her father has put me through, with parental alienation tactics, while single-parenting. Learning how to detach, and let go. That has been very hard for me. Your teachings will help me even more! I’m getting my journal to write down your steps from this video. Thank you. 🙏 🧘‍♀️☸️

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Much love

[@my2cworth4U]

2 principles that work: MYOB and JLM ... Mind your own business & Just let them! Both mindset release you from expectations and suffering.

[@maureenbanks3702]

I have six kids and many sob stories but what I do is pray the rosary everyday, sometimes several times a day and Mary unties the knots in my mind and heals the shreds of My broken heart!

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Peace is your inner peace 🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@RealityBuddhism]

very useful for my family, thanks

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@marymacdonald2379]

I get along with my grown kid; he has been an adult for 37 years. I'm glad for his love and am happy he has a full life, including a good wife and two children. I choose not to burden him with my expectations.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Show kindness ✴️ and peace 🕊️

[@hellok7877]

It has broken my heart and no letting go will make it better💔💔💔💔💔

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Just get the beginning, from the lesson you have got from this.

[@hellok7877]

@ZenPhilosophy1723 i get the message but it really doesnt work. 😥

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@hellok7877 take time you will heal

[@ld4122]

So sorry you’re going through this. I have been through it and it takes a lot of time to heal.

[@maureenackerley8024]

I feel your pain, my heart aches every day! My psychiatrist told me it's my choice to be happy or sad. I didn't choose to have my son's turn their backs on me. How can I be happy! 😪💔

[@wtf_jose]

When my marriage ended recently, my adult son went no contact with his mom. That broke my heart at first. But now, I'm content with the fact that the last I saw and talked to him may have been it. I don't know...we'll see. However, I'm not going to sit around waiting and worrying. I have my own life to live. I love him and wish him peace and success.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

May you have peace 🙏

[@nancysmith3400]

Very helpful wisdom teachings, thank you🙏🤗

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@nancysmith3400 Thanks for watching

[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Show respect and love and support and faith and accept 🙏❣️🌹💞

[@TheHealer8911]

❤without a doubt ❤☮️

[@marybusch6182]

Peace and compassion.

[@lynnstorm4590]

Thank You ❤ I really needed this today 😊

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@lynnstorm4590 🙏

[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Be free from suffering

[@BuddhaMind7]

Your teachings are a bridge to deeper understanding.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@casanova2232]

Blessings to you your family and friends and associates 🙏💕

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks so much for the blessing.

[@nisa1388]

I needed to see this. I understand and I am at peace ❤🙏🏾

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching 🙏

[@naturelover1284]

You're so powerful for only a time it's hard to give up isn't it

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@christinav3383]

Wow I’ll try that. I did the exact opposite but now I’ll be peaceful and no nagging to my adult children.

[@katella]

No nagging? Are you really nagging or is that what they are telling you? The next step is constantly monitoring yourself, walking on eggshells for fear of being rejected. Why should you have to act this way toward someone who you've spent all your adult life caring for.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for understanding the lesson

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@ricecake026]

That what you seek is inside of you

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@jacqueline359]

None of us come with a guide book 🙏💃💕

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@happyjoy338]

I have three sons all of whom did not need mom anymore once they turned around 15/16 the oldest has come back since then and now I'm being Grandma to his children and mom and best friend to him. The other two are still young and haven't gotten that far yet but in the sadness of abandonment I know that they'll come around again and we will be good friends.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Everything will be well

[@kittytlee]

Great reminders. Thank you!

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@TheBuddhasInsight]

Thank you so much, beautiful of word wisdom

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching

[@marykellerzacks9110]

One can only change themselves. Keep positive, embrace love prayer and hope. Merry Christmas

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@RichardJMcCoy]

If ones actions are their own karma as stated, I continue to pray for my daughters ...this was perfect for me...Thank-you.. subscribed

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@RichardJMcCoy 🙏

[@jacqueline359]

We are ALL IMPERFECT PERFECT HUMANS We are all on our own path We can only try None of us Child or parent can ever be perfect because we are all learning as we go how to be this human in this very difficult to navigate world We can only accept be kind patient & seeking wisdom & hope we can learn how to love & care about each other better 🙏🙏💞💞💃🏃

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@krupavatiprabhu1798]

Thank you for the words of wisdom ❤

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Much love ❤️

[@SonbaNguyen-r6]

thanks you very much

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@BuddhaMeditationPath]

This part at 2:15 is so inspiring!

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks so much for watching

[@pamwinter7876]

This is just what i needed to hear today. Thank you ❤

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks so much for watching

[@deborahthomas3475]

That was perfect

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Am glad you liked the, welcome again and again.

[@stacg45]

Such wise words! Thank you

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Much welcome am glad you learnt come back again and again

[@madeleinecunningham6782]

Beautiful . . I have an adult son who suffers from serious ADHD. It is very difficult to follow these wise words with mental illness…

[@clairecarscallen]

My experience too.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

May God give you strength and happiness everyday

[@mlcarey1000]

My daughter suffered a TBI 4 yrs ago & is a different person who lacks empathy & compassion. I have some understanding of what you're experiencing. It's such a struggle to let go of feeling responsible to help yet detach and remain supportive. Wishing you a deep peace

[@debbiesather2571]

Very very awsome helpfull for day to day living living in Graditude. every day 🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching

[@juanitahardy8583]

Pray for their souls

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching

[@Indigo60]

Being a parent is a lifetime of challenges, requiring unconditional love. Being a child is a lifetime of challenges, requiring unconditional love. Just remember your time being on earth has been longer than theirs and you may be gone by the time they see their own truth. If you gave unconditionally, you feel positive energy for your children and the path they choose to walk. Unconditional love accepts all as it is and there is no guilt.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@burgseeli1911]

Thanks for the reminder, I really needed it and appreciate...it's very helpful. May everybody find the peaceful wisdom, because then heavens gate will open

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@burgseeli1911 Thanks for watching

[@pjg3953]

I like that both monks have very similar and carefully crafted facial hair.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@aketulafono1605]

🤲🙏Thankyou for your Kind Words of Wisdom 🤲❤️ & God Bless Amene Amene Amene

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@Jackie.Miller65]

Tears. I subed and took notes. Thank you from a grateful heart.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@TheBuddhaWithin-s3d]

🌟 "Such a beautiful message! Staying calm and practicing self-awareness is truly the key to finding inner peace, no matter the circumstances. Thank you for sharing this wisdom! 🙏✨

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching

[@my2cworth4U]

2 principles that work: MYOB and JLM ... Mind your own business & Just let them! Both release you from expectations and suffering.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@my2cworth4U very true we need to stop having much expectations.

[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Like holding a beautiful ❤️ flower 🌹🌼 in hand

[@Sam-gz1mb]

Thank you 🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@timibuli1501]

It’s natural!❤️

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@christinae.burlison936]

I needed this…. Thank you❤

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Much welcome back again and again

[@katharinawelles6540]

Beautiful video/teaching! You explain so well the difference between love and attachment, which seems difficult for many to understand. You have a new subscriber! 🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Welcome back again and again much love

[@MariaBanholzer]

Merci! 💗💖🩵🫶💓💙💜♥️💚🌟💫✨

[@timibuli1501]

If they are happy I don’t need nothing else even if they think da old man is out of the fashion 🤣❤️ I love them together with their little faults ❤️🤣 I was in their shoes too when I was younger 🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@isabellealmodovar4838]

Thank you. ❤ i needed to hear that to resolve my pain .🙏

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Wow Thanks so much for watching.

[@DanaMay-r6q]

Adult children are busy living and trying to survive in the world. It's life.

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[@lindajohnson9282]

This is a great way of allowing poor behaviour to continue. If you, as a parent, can’t gain any kind of respect from your own child, how do you think they’ll treat anyone else? With respect? I don’t think so. Don’t excuse or reinforce bad behaviour, no matter the age of your child. Parents are there to teach their children, young or old, for your benefit, their benefit and the benefit of the world.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks

[@rosemarykennedy5430]

You don’t “teach” anyone anything, that’s an illusion of control.! You can only be the best behavioural model you can knowing that it won’t necessarily make a significant impact on your child.

[@lindajohnson9282]

@rosemaerkennedy5430, sometimes we have to actively teach because leading by example isn’t enough. And I always find that people are more willing to ‘follow the leader’ if you explain it all to them while you show them. But I suppose young, woke people can’t help but diss everything old-school… which is why the world is in such a mess now! Learning through osmosis isn’t a thing! I pity the children who you failed to teach because you didn’t want to “control” them. May they know better and seek a mentor elsewhere 🙏🏼

[@lynnwilliams4024]

@@lindajohnson9282I totally agree with you. I have worked with children for many years and recent generations that have been pampered, not corrected and led to believe they are the centre of the universe are the most miserable ungrateful young adults I have ever come across

[@jimmckeand4610]

The only reason parents give their children a hard time is because they love them and are passionate and only want them to do better than they did

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

True, Thanks for watching

[@ralphkinkaid5558]

Unfortunately they never recognize that.

[@georgettemcguire6820]

Love it

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching I appreciate your support towards my work, welcome back again and again

[@DKiley100]

Thank you!❤

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@wandaszemiako9726]

♥🙏Thanks!

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[@lorra222]

Im the daughter, of a narcissistic mother and enabler father, they say they have done everything for me, but they have said and done things they think we dont respect, my mom would say horrible things and when i told my dad he said, u know what shes like just forget it, no kid just walks away. The parents did things , they just think because they helped them growing up they are owed . Ask ur kids what u did wrong, they will try to tell u, and you will disagree and say no we did everything, u dont listen to ur kids. U think ur right . We dont walk away for nothing, u are the cause.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@workathomestoners9154]

My new generation of kids do not care much for their elders-they do not even say 'How are you doing? to me.' What I do is write to them once a month, telling them I wish them the best and that I am OK. I do this every month regardless of whether they answer or not. Makes me feel great. I have done my part, their karma is their own. Peace In!

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@workathomestoners9154]

Thank you!

[@sanqingtemple6404]

Well done.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@Judyjlefebvre]

2015 was the last time i had any interactions with my 2 estranged adult sons..they can stay away as long as the disrespect from them continues.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Thanks for watching

[@my2cworth4U]

I have exactly the same issue from 2015 but have found that these 2 principles work: MYOB and JLM ... Mind your own business & Just let them! Both mindset release you from expectations and suffering.

[@KevinCrump-c1y]

I agree with all he said

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

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[@Jiorgiapeach]

If your child does not want to engage with you, it’s because you did wrong by them. Go to your child and be humble. Apologize . Ask them what is wrong. Ask them what you can do to fix things in the time you have left. Don’t be proud. Let your ego go. Don’t blame the child. Blame yourself. Children only abandon parents that hurt them deeply. This is fact. Again, If your child does not want to engage with you, you did them wrong. Go fix things. Do the right thing.

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[@SarrouTube]

If the children have the ability to feel…. Then there is hope

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

True do your part

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[@jimjeffrey832]

Abraham Lincoln -- in visiting (for the last time) with his step-mother, Sarah, before he left to assume the Presidency -- told her this: "Nancy (his birth mother) made me 'alive,' but Sarah, you made me 'human'"...😢❤😊

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[@jacqueline359]

Children don't always have a good reason to disrespect their parents, sometimes their just ignorant or have mental problems that can't be explained...

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[@rockingredpoppy9119]

Buddhism has the same answer for every question or problem - just stop wanting whatever it is that you desire. Apply this answer to everything and you won't even have to read or study the rest of Buddhism.

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@@rockingredpoppy9119 Thanks so much for watching

[@mbrights3158]

The issue for me with attachment is that love and attachment go together for me. I love and am attached to my son on an emotional level. His pain is my pain. Perhaps this is not how it is supposed to be. I guess people will say I should at least learn to be less attached so that his pain is not my pain. I once read that having a child is like having your heart outside your body...it goes where they go. But I think ancient wisdom says I must not be attached to anything, because attachment leads to suffering. I'm not concerned with being shown respect or with being ignored. I want my son to fly and never be concerned about me.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Everything will be well just do your part

[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Opportunity 🍀 of hope 🙏🤞🤞🙏

[@PorkoX9]

Some people grow up faster than others

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

@@PorkoX9 yes very true.

[@fredericksmith5829]

I have an estranged son ex meth addict with some mental issues now 36 .I have a daughter living her best life working overseas and career driven both totally different children you could imagine. As parents we give and do as much as we can through good and bad times. At some stage you have to move forward live you life what is left of it. I have about 15 Christmases left if I am lucky we have sold our houses and moving to a lifestyle village and by God we will be living the rest of our Christmases .

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@@fredericksmith5829 Everything will be fine

[@loreleismith5955]

Hmm, show the love, be the love for it's an inner to outer action...first open the hands and let it flow...when it tugs, cut it by letting it untangle and go; for, the highest "good" beyond the unconditional.

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[@Rachel299]

I cut off my elderly father because I am elderly too and I got sick of his emotional abuse. He is not cognitively impaired but he screams at me, is constantly critical and has been my entire life. I can’t take it anymore. He has affected my mental health since I was a child. Why should I respect him when he shows no respect for me? I would never treat my children the way he treats me.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Hope you learnt something be vigilant and do well

[@ralphkinkaid5558]

He's always been an ass and will always be. Good choice. Move on

[@Alicerose-l4h]

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[@ananamu2248]

A lot of solo mothers become estranged from their kids ...i see it as ,we empowered them to become their own empowered person . Those that had kids around were controlling and they were still seeking approval

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[@joannesmith7753]

Thank you. This video has been very helpful. Children can say hurtful things and be moody and a bit rude. I will do my best to put this advice teaching into practice.

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Wow that is a good move, Thanks for watching

[@lynnemanning9553]

THANK YOU FOR THIS WISDOM. However, there is a truth of what you may or may not have done with your kids which has produced some of this estrangement and unhappiness on both sides. It can also be helpful, in a very calm and accepting way, after you have had time to truly think about what your role could have been as a parent when you kids were young, and maybe that takes a long time.....If you are ever ready to discuss with your kids, you can approach the subject lovingly, when you are truly accepting and calm, to discuss what has gone on, from your point of view, with your kids....when both sides can handle that discussion in a mostly respectful way, that could be a further opening of the truth, and also love you feel for each other....or not.... I guess as the parent you must be ready for whatever response you get, but whatever response you get from yourself and your children, it can always change and get better....or not....just saying that words, as we know, can make things worst, BUT, can help too, and confrontation does not have to be horrible, a least from you, especially when you are truly ready to be objective, accepting, and compassionate. If it does seem to be truly impossible to talk compassionately from yourself or your kids, then you're not ready, and maybe never ready. Hard truth. But, things could go well and you inch a little closer to love and acceptance. Maybe you adopt a process where people in your family, could be given a right to address their sadness and lack of understanding with their family, and feel their parent accept them no matter what, very powerful. And, As this video tells us, and in any case, we can always go within and find peace, no matter what happens.

[@marybusch6182]

There is a book by Anne Perry about acceptance of her life long friend who blackmailed a village. We can never really know what and how our actions and words truly impacted others.

[@lynnemanning9553]

@@marybusch6182 Thank you...I'm trying to understand your response to my comment, and probably have to read the book at some point, reading a couple of books right now...Ideally, , there has to be communication and a compassionate acceptance of what people are capable of....For myself, I will eventually have to communicate about what is happening....I believe this can all be done with a lot of love and acceptance. So, one might have to have a lot of time to figure out how to do that...maybe months or years, but meanwhile you can try to accept and extend a loving self....

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Amazing, Thanks

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[@EchoesofInsightt]

Everyone grows old, but not everyone knows how to keep their inner peace when faced with indifference from loved ones. This video really made me reflect. What do you all think about this?

[@ZenPhilosophy1723]

Very true

[@GenaJohns-q6t]

Children don't listen 👂 to parents and when children grow 🪴🪴🪴 up to be adults they will not understand what to do right 👍👍👍

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[@artieanderson604]

And when a parent tells a child to go away repeatedly through the course of a lifetime and they finally get the message and stay gone.

[@ld4122]

That rarely happens. Most parents are very good.

[@pennyc7064]

And when a parent gives no emotional support, and verbal abuse with negativity, put downs...it does a number on one's self esteem. Is a reason to stay away.

[@pennyc7064]

@@ld4122 I think it's too easy to generalize. Everyone has their own experience about how things were growing up.

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[@maishatopez6203]

Gassho. Thank you for confirmation.

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[@erickriebel4366]

DO ALL WHAT YOU CAN THEY REACH 18. TIME TO SAY ADIOS AMIGO. HAVE A GREAT LIFE. I'M RETIRING NOW. GOODBYE AND GOODLUCK TO YOU.

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