When You Have Lived Your Life in SURVIVAL MODE

[@LaughingFirst]

I had a therapist appointment and we talked about self-care and she gave me a list. As I was going over the list the only thing that popped into my mind was, "this is a waste of time." I was shocked and saddened that I thought caring for my self was a waste of time. Then it dawned on me that I don't want to "waste time" by doing those things because I'm trying to survive. 😭😭😭 Just one more day, just one more step, just one more week. I'm just becoming aware of what I use to escape, to disassociate and it's hitting me kind of hard. 😫

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

It can really be overwhelming to acknowledge all that we have invested to survive and what that really means for us and has meant for us. This would be a great time to help your system process the overwhelm so that the overwhelm is used for healing and not pushing you further into survival mode. I teach some helpful interventions for just this kind of processing work and I send these through my email list. You can sign up through my website www.rachellemccloud.com I wish you the best on your healing journey.

[@nicoleadiaz1]

Yep I think this way EXACTLY as well. The only thing I don’t see a waste of time is being with my kids. But now I’m putting off my responsibilities to spend time with my kids. Responsibilities that I’m doing to get me out of survivor mode.

[@lsdivers]

that's the worst bit, when you realise your in survival mode and you start taking the steps to get out, your hoping for improvement but instead your hit with all the crap you tried to dissociate from. its like theres no winning 😂 but there is, persevere

[@kelay626]

Same! And self-care is SO foreign because Im conditioned to ignore my own needs. It started early in toddlerhood when I was appointed responsible for my parents’ self esteem/emotional regulation.

[@jamesbyrne9312]

Great insight

[@parbieT]

Not me listening to this while having a bath because silence is too loud. My tv broke yesterday , was mad but then i remembered i have been manifesting slow living and now God forced me to go on tv break

[@sandraalegria3439]

Always turning something bad into a blessing in disguise.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@parbieT - oh, how this happens. ❤️

[@christineplaton3048]

Very first time I have heard validation of what Im going through. What I have lived for so long.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Zakiyyah-ex8hf]

Suffering from Narcissistic Abuse and Dealing with Adrenaline Fatigue is no joke! I honestly don’t think people care unless it’s them going through it. I’ve been burnt out since in my 20’s in and out of therapy and the solution I feel is removing yourself from the entire environment or people unfortunately some of us just isn’t lucky…. It’s Fucked Up

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

The combination of Narcissistic Abuse and Adrenal Fatigue really is no joke. I have a couple of videos that may interest you one is about healing when you live with your trigger: kzbin.info/www/bejne/poPEZWarqpxprKs The other is this one: kzbin.info/www/bejne/f6WriJ-ffsppidE I'd love to hear your response.

[@riah4320]

I spent my whole life in survival mode. I just came cross your video. I'm coming into my healing state. This is the first time I booked a trip for myself. Trying to live is my biggest goal for 2024. I'm starting to feel more peace but every once in a while i still find myself back in the state of survival mode. I have to walk on egg shells with my parents. This is one of the hardest journey ever. I procrastinate in college but im pushing through.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I am so happy you are coming into your healing state. Enjoy that trip. Also, it is perfectly normal to come in and out of survival mode along this journey and throughout life. That part of our brain isn't going away, it is meant to be here. As you continue to regulate and process triggers and unresolved emotional distress and painful experiences, your brain will get more and more accurate about when and how to use survival mode in your life. You'll find that you can stay more and more regulated in situations that would have dysregulated you and you'll also have access to more of your power to create change. I am wishing you deep wellness.

[@MyUnrefinedLife]

07:31 Woah, didn't realize this. I realized i was affecting my kids but not that i was a part of their nervous system regulation, and that my inability to regulate my own was being taught basically to them. Makes sense though. Gotta fix this ASAP

[@shea5542]

One comforting thing for me is to listen to womb sounds

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I'm glad you found something comforting. That is so important. Thank you for sharing what works for you.

[@victoryamartin9773]

Is that like whale sounds?

[@8no1likeme-infinitestar65]

Wow great video. Thank you 🙏 I have been suffering in suvival my whole life and recently retramatized multiple times in the past six years on top of childhood trama... I'm finding it hard to meet my basic needs and be financially independent. Fighting for years now for SSDI and afraid I may loose and become homeless again ..I am in constant fear and know I can't heal like this so feeling hopeless at times and can't find any real help or support due to no money so it seems only wealthy people get to heal... sadly

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is a hard place to be and a place healing can happen. I offer a free training on my favorite interventions for inner world transformation and trauma recovery. You are welcome to join, learn the interventions and see how they work for you. Here is the link to enroll: rachellemccloud.thrivecart.com/interventions-for-iwt/

[@sandraalegria3439]

Please turn it around. List all the good things that have hapened. Keep praying and your situation will change. I lost everything and God has restored my hope that I do deserve to be rich and prosperous. I never dreamed big and asked God for exactly wgt I need.I hope your stuatin changes, don't give up,the best is yet to come. I am learning patience because God woks slow.

[@Pxtherine562]

Even wealthy people don’t heal. There’s things even money can’t fix

[@FSCOUNTESS]

Felt your energy speaking with care - it’s very healing. ❤️‍🩹 lots of love to you !

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you! ❤️🙏🏽

[@MKSpeakz]

I'm on the other side now, it's weird feeling safe. It feels kind of boring tbh but it's a lot better than being in fight or flight at all times

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Yes! I'm doing a series on this and did the first video today. Thank you for sharing your experience. If you want to check that video, here is the link:kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKu0hXeYeJmZj8U

[@jaselexo]

how does it feel? how did you realize that you had made it?

[@jasonfitzpatrick414]

I'm jealous. May you always be safe.

[@akaylacuffie5638]

This because one day I didn’t have anything to worry about. All of my bills because all of my bills were paid and I just didn’t have to worry about anything and it felt so weird. I find myself waking up trying to look for things to be upset about and it really makes me sad.

[@RenaeLin-e4k]

Yes, the survival state is exhausting. That's what I have been in since I was born. I'm just tired and done with it. I'm alone with no support. So I am ready to go and get outta here.

[@theotherpen15]

A big part of survival mode that I learned that we really underestimate is food and nutrition That's a subtle layer of trauma that is often REALLY POWERFUL both in harm if left undressed and benefit if gotten together That's often why you may have people who didn't by any objective measure had a bad home environment BUT have trauma symptoms. It's often toxicity or malnutrition coming in

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

There is truth to this. This is why it is important to get to the root of the symptoms and sometimes the root is in food and nutrition. Foods can send us into fight or flight and both foods and deficiencies can result in all kinds of symptoms of anxiety, depression and traumatic stress.

[@hollybritton7255]

I was standing in my large pantry recently and had the realization that I have been in survival mode all these years. The pantry may or may not have anything to do with it, but it was a great visualization. I think mostly in fight mode which have given me great drive to prepare for the "future". While it sounds good, I think there was a hidden anxiety.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Yes. Anxiety can really stay hidden like this. Thank you for sharing your realization.

[@4th_Disciple]

You perhaps keep your pantry stocked up in a way a survivalist would while preparing for an apocalyptic scenario buying things that have long shelf lives for example.

[@allisonb.8492]

Wow. No words. This is life changing.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@allisonb.8492 🙏🏽❤️ It really is. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here.

[@attheranch873]

You can use EFT, more commonly called tapping to take trauma out of the nervous system permanently. You can learn to do it on yourself on KZbin, see the tapping solution.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is true. I do find that the standard way of using EFT can be helpful at times. It can also often be an obstacle for people with complex PTSD, leave them dependent on others for scripts and just plain limiting. The way I teach it in my free program, allows people with complex PTSD to accomplish a lot more, be more independent and get more in touch with their mind-body system. However after saying all of that, you really can learn EFT on KZbin with a simple search.

[@sharonscott1776]

I was in a relationship with a drug addict for over ten years. I know when I’m active addiction they are in survival mode. I feel I was all those years, could never relax, always wondering where is he, why isn’t he answering my calls, did u use drugs, has he cheated on me, is he going to leave my front door once one of his drug clown’s contacts him. Then there’s his drug debts and people coming looking for money, two of his junkie females assaulted me as he would come back to me. I know I deserved better and I just accepted the small bit he was giving me in the relationship. It was so draining. Nov 2022 I asked him to leave and it wasn’t until I didn’t have that heightened anxiety I felt so drained tired no motivation. I suffered hair loss from stress, my cortisol was so high.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for sharing your experience as well as how the stress affected you. It is pretty intense to have the heightened anxiety resolve and notice how drained, tired and unmotivated you are afterwards. I hope you have recovered. ❤️

[@donnabarnes-adams6178]

I’ve been running, jumping and trying to survive my whole life. I started laughingly calling myself ‘The Goodbye Girl’… like the movie. I had to start to make light of things because I couldn’t deal with my reality. I have literally been trapped before and planned to jump a barbed wire fence in the night to escape. (No, I’ve never been to jail, but I’ve felt like I was in jail.). Sometimes I just revert to my childhood when I could laugh more… cause I can’t deal with the pain and shame. I read a meme one time that helped some. It said when a major issue comes up, just yell ‘plot twist!’ And change course. Depression medicine helps a lot, but they can’t increase my dose because I previously started having glitches with higher doses that made me start to stutter. All I could think of was tardive dyskinesia. I asked to doctor to give me just the minimum dosage otherwise I’d need a love-me jacket in a rubber room… cause I’d be crazy depressed if my reflexes were out of my control. Anyway, I’ve lived with a lot of anxiety for as long as I can remember. It’s gotten worse over the years until I’ve become close to being a hermit out of fear of the world and fear of me making any more major mistakes… I’m just stuck. And it’s affecting everything…my body is taking a lot of neglect presently. I’m just so very tired. I’m 56 years old and trying to find a reasonable way to rise up feel like I’m good enough for anything any longer. I’ve been escaping all these years and I’ve finally just stopped and feel the weight of it all crashing and crushing.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are in a really tough and yet powerful place. That crashing and crushing feeling is why most people never stop running from the anxiety, depression and posttraumatic stress. And yet this is the stuff that when it gets processed is the missing pieces of emotional wellness that your brain will finally be able to utilize and healing and transformation occurs. And this process is a lot faster than people think. It can occur in weeks or months and the revitalization and wholeness that experienced from there is so good and yet almost unbelievable. I encourage you to grab an intervention that your brain responds to and help it get all of this crashing and crushing distress processed. If you’d like some direction with this learn more on my website and sign up for my email list. I start sending out free trainings on my four favorite interventions. You can try them out and see and feel how they work for you. Www.Rachellemccloud.com

[@MisseverythingNewNew]

Dear God, I know I need to talk with a therapist 2024.... hearing all this is so relateable for me.

[@Chickeedo]

Same here

[@elainebezak7158]

Same here

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for taking the time to share this. Others feel the same. I encourage you to do inner work that goes beyond talking. That may go without saying since I preach about doing the brain work. But I want you to really get the most out of your healing efforts. Have you signed up for my free program Interventions for Inner World Transformation? These interventions are my favorite to supporting brains to resolve symptoms and solve problems. If one or more of these work for you, you may want to find a therapist or follow a process that uses that intervention. If you haves signed up, you can do so on my website www.rachellemccloud.com All the best to you, Rachelle

[@fifikhatun3698]

I just had my first ever therapy session and learnt that I have been in survival mode my whole life!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Oh, this sounds like one of those beautiful, painful bittersweet moments. I’m sorry and congratulations. I’m wishing you all the best on your healing journey.

[@MyUnrefinedLife]

04:03 love this analogy about the calm duck above water, but the vigorous paddling under water. Describes it beautifully

[@noniousxltruffles7454]

THAT'S JUST LIFE!!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for sharing your response and comment. I appreciate this feedback.

[@CydTurner]

My therapist didn’t understand when I said I used reading as an escape, she thought it was fine bc it was reading, no maam, I want to be present..

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Lol! “No, ma’am. I want to be present.” Yes! So true. I’m loving your certainty and yes, you can get that.

[@asjeble]

After 5o years coming out of depression and survivalmode see the devastation and a waisted life behind me. That is a great lose and a big shock. I have to proces that and grief for the life i have never had.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is a real issue and this grief is real, valid and important. Facing these issues and realities can send someone right back into survival mode. Supporting our brain with interventions can make a huge difference.

[@asjeble]

@@rachellemccloudlcsw After 30 years proffesionals will not help me anymore, refuse therapie and send me away. I hope i can find the right help.

[@kelay626]

Wow! My trauma therapist has helped me so much but this is a new discovery for me regarding why I need constant distraction, constant means of stimulation going at once, the need to be a multitasker daily as a nurse and mom. My overeating,, oversleeping since childhood, reading three or more books at a time, all related to decades of covert trauma. My HRV at age 48 is dangerously low. The path to healing is a challenging one, but I had to cut contact w toxic family of origin because my teenage daughters need me to be healthy in order to give them all of the emotional support and unconditional love they need to grow & become happy, healthy adults. #1 priority!! ♥️ Thank you for educating ~ survivors need this!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I'm glad this video helps you make sense of what is going on. I hope the understanding helps reduce shame you may have for these issues. Good for you for making choices for healing and to prioritize healing in your life, even when those choices were tough ones. You and your HRV matter.

[@vtw2510]

This is the best explanation of survival mode I have ever listened to. So helpful! Thank you!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you! That is such a high compliment. I’m glad this video helps.

[@richardbravouk]

Isn’t it, sometimes someone explains something in a way that just makes sense.

[@CaseyBledsoe-s5o]

I really appreciate a person who guides with their heart 💚 thank you.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@CaseyBledsoe-s5o You are very welcome. Thanks for taking the time to leave this comment. I appreciate you.

[@christophergordon6250]

This is awesome. This message came at the right time. Thank you, Rachelle.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I'm glad it did. Thank you for leaving this comment and letting me know.

[@christineplaton3048]

Very IMPORTANT to understand this.

[@Dogspit99]

Also a healthy diet makes it easier to manage what you're talking about imo so your brain/gut microbiome isn't distracted fighting off endocrine blockers

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is very true. And sometimes people are too overwhelmed, frozen or traumatized to take action in that area of their lives. It's okay for them to start at the place they can and build on from there. If one has the resources (mental, emotional, physical, financial, etc) to implement both that would be ideal. Thank you for brining up this important issue.

[@aaronvoel]

Thank you for the video, I found this very helpful. I am learning how to calm my nervous system and feel safe, I believe I will get there soon!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are very welcome! Glad it was helpful! I believe you will get there soon too.

[@DARKARTSPHOTOGRAPHY]

With a disability and no family this has been so hard..i know cant be around faliys or family routine after yesrs in the gutter . I pannick just seeing it . Self sooth with pot. Then that leads to finding the next mix .survival is seeking.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is a very painful loop. And it is truly difficult to do this work with no support, but not impossible! Getting your brain the support it needs to start shifting into healing and thriving so it can break this survival and lack of support loop you've got going on, is something you can absolutely do for yourself to get your life transformation ball rolling. I invite you to try out my 3 favorite interventions this kind of brain support, here is the link: rachellemccloud.thrivecart.com/interventions-for-iwt-yt/ Wishing you the best, Rachelle

[@Wingedmagician]

The exact video I need right now.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I’m glad it showed up for you. You are welcome. 🙏🏽

[@nicholerust048]

Thanks for sharing this explanation. I've had people tell me "I KNOW you have ADHD" possibly but I've also lived a lot of my life in a sort of survival mode. I've not personally experienced any real abuse either so I've denied "it's trauma" but it IS.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are very welcome. Interestingly enough, the trauma that leads us to live in survival mode can be personal, generational, intergenerational, national and more that isn't directly ours. Either way, we treat the trauma and resolve the effects of the trauma.

[@dqena]

You know, it’s hard even talking to people my age (22) I’ve been through so much trauma and had way too many close calls. Whil most of the people i meet openly admit their rich or they’ve had a good life. Although i don’t blame them for it i just feel disconnected from them. I can talk to people like a grown adult can but i just don’t have the social cues to make jokes. I can be nice though lol

[@JustChristianThings]

I’m 32 now, I was always the same way. Struggled to fit in with people my own age, no problems being professional or talking like an adult because idk it’s different kind of socializing. I always felt so awkward.

[@dqena]

@@JustChristianThings I suppose part of me doesn’t want to belittle myself just to make others feel some sort of appraisal in their childish behavior.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective. This is a painful and uncomfortable one. I think this is also more common than we talk about. So I'm glad you are sharing your thoughts. It may be a while before people your age unfreeze from their own trauma to find words for it and begin sharing and relating with you. Regardless, the more healing and integrating you do with your trauma, the more your brain is free to start working on thriving skills like social cue recognition and responses.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for sharing and jumping into this conversation, which I'm also jumping into. But I wanted to add that you're right they are different kinds of socializing and are utilizing different subconscious programs. Often with professional or adult relationships there are lots of power and social dynamics that can allow or force us to hide our authentic selves. This can be easier because our brain really doesn't have to integrate as much of our early childhood experiences into the programming. It’s almost as though our brain can build these programs without as much interference from early childhood experiences. However peer to peer socializing requires more intimacy and requires us to have completed many developmental milestones that those of us trying to survive our childhoods or our mentally ill parents/families of origins just didn't have the support to complete. And we're also running subconscious programming for intimacy that was built in early childhood by our caregivers. They are assembling this for us from their own intimacy programming. You can see that if their intimacy programming isn't great ours wouldn't be either. So, when we try to socialize with peers or have intimate relationships of other kinds, this does involve our early childhood experiences and what we learned about intimacy from our caregivers and we can really see our developmental and intimacy challenges. Many of our brain's don't like to look in that mirror and will just avoid it entirely and as a result we'll have no friends and no intimacy. Other brains will pursue it desperately, even while our intimacy and developmental challenges need some healing and overhauling and then we'll just run into failure after failure socially and romantically. It's sad and it's unfortunate, but it's good to know that it's not one's fault and the good news is that we can resolve these developmental and intimacy challenges at the subconscious level and experience transformation in our relationships and our brain is designed to do this for us, it just needs the right support. And that kind of brain support is a little different and looks a little different than what we're used to. But it's the foundation of what I teach in my free program Interventions for Inner World Transformation where I share my 3 favorite interventions for supporting brains to do this kind of healing work. If you're interested in giving it a try here's the link to enroll:rachellemccloud.thrivecart.com/interventions-for-iwt-yt/ Also I'd love to hear your thoughts or if you have questions about what I'm sharing.

[@christineplaton3048]

Absolutely appreciated. Difficult to find resources.

[@arab6745]

Thank you.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You're very welcome!

[@Z00XY]

Its really nice to hear you explain what I thought was me just being weird :') Im hoping I can start the journey to heal soon it is really exhausting mentally, physically and emotionally to be subconsciously always stressed and nervous Sadly like a lot of others Im still around the people that cause all my anxiety and its scary to look for therapy on my own

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I’m glad this video benefited you. It sounds like it is time to heal. And we can heal beautifully even when we live with people who cause our anxiety. I hope you find the support you are looking for. I encourage you to enroll in my free program if you haven’t already. You can find the link in the description portion of this video.

[@jennifers5778]

Wow.

[@miahmill1019]

I appreciate this video❤

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Wonderful. Thank you for letting me know that. I appreciate your feedback.

[@christineplaton3048]

You are soooo on point for me :) .

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

❤️🙌🏾

[@annaj3170]

Very encouraging and hopefull video! Feels so empathic and makes you understand both yourself and others better

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for your feedback and taking your time to leave such a heart warming comment.

[@matikramer9648]

I know video was posted a year ago. Rachel, thank you. Even if you will never reply to me... But for me this video is more dear then diamonds and all the gold.... I was trying to get myself off survival mode the last half a year.... I found myself dragged back in, probably I lived in that state at least half of my life, since I moved to Jerusalem... I never knew that there are tools that can help me, and lately found few of videos about it on KZbin, including about neuroplasticity of brain... I am so happy fondling your video... My relaxation wasn't in vain, and is very dear to me... Thank you for the validation and encouragement Very grateful

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@matikramer9648 - Oh, that is wonderful. I’m glad I have shared something so valuable to you. Thank you for sharing this comment. There are tools! Neuroplasticity is real. And we can shift out of survival mode.

[@matikramer9648]

@@rachellemccloudlcsw thank you , thank you, thank you

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@matikramer9648 - You are very welcome!

[@JT-wc7me]

I already did enough work. When does good life start?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@JT-wc7me - I appreciate that. It really is up to your brain to decide that enough work has been done. But when I find most often when people say this is a lot of work has been done and it just all needs to be brought together. Many therapists don’t know how to do this, because we are not taught how to do this in school or as we learn interventions. My program is the result of me learning how to do this and to support the brain to make our lives work and become more and more satisfying. My program isn’t about doing work for works sake or just resolving symptoms. There’s so much more to life than not having symptoms and your brain needs to be good at that too. I am not sure what the answer is for your question, but there is an answer. All of my healing opportunities are designed to help people find out the answer to just this question.

[@scapethegoat.]

This Video is honey to my ears

[@Still-We-Rise]

❤thanks

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are very welcome.

[@shea5542]

Really great video. I hope your channel grows immensely. This was so valuable and you are very insightful

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I appreciate that! I hope so too. Thank you for taking the time to comment. I appreciate your feedback.

[@carlynnexposito5342]

This video really touched everything I’ve been experiencing. Thank you so much for this

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are so welcome. Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate that.

[@divinesilence]

Such an excellent explanation for this topic! 👍

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you. 🙏🏽

[@adrienne7642]

Wow that was really helpful! I'm so glad I found your channel

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Great! Thank you for letting me know and I'm glad you found my channel too.

[@doseofdanny]

You are such a smart person and a great explainer, I’m so glad I found you. I hope I can get a session one day

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you so much! I hope so, too! That would be great!

[@Sesshy12324]

I’ve been in survival mode all my life, so I worked hard and saved money and then something happened and now it’s all draining. I also have charges against me. It’s just a minor felony charge but I can’t relax because of it. My entire life I wondered if I could ever live in peace.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I feel for you what you are sharing, I can only imagine how deeply triggering and insecurity all of that is for you. And it is possible to live in peace, even with what you are experiencing, but your brain has to create that for you and it would need specific support to shift out of survival mode and into healing, thriving and creation mode. The interventions I share in my free program are helpful for helping the brain create this shift. Have you tried these yet? Here is the link if you’d like to try them: rachellemccloud.thrivecart.com/interventions-for-iwt-yt/

[@8no1likeme-infinitestar65]

I was even discharged from my therapist after two years, saying " we've done all we can for you here, you need a traained trama specialist...lol Didn't effect my abandonment issues at all...lol

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I am so sorry for your loss and pain. This happens more often than not and while your issues are not too much for a trauma specialist, one without this specific training would not be able to offer more than a secure base. Which is VERY valuable in the healing journey! and not usually enough for trauma recovery. It's too bad they weren't able or willing to support you while you were also receiving support from a trauma therapist.

[@whatsupwithtorii]

❤❤Why are there so many negative stigmas against plp who have been in survival mode ?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is such a great question. I could write chapters and chapters in response to this question. I think it boils down to ignorance, denial, inexperience and the amount of social and systemic change that would need to occur if we acknowledged this part of our brain and how it works.

[@mosis3287]

Northern GA - 57 still surviving state

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is real. It's never too late to shift out and its also very normal to have grief about this. I recommend enrolling in my free program, Interventions for Inner World Transformation, to trial some interventions that may help you shift out and also to process the grief. Here is the link to access the program: rachellemccloud.thrivecart.com/interventions-for-iwt/

[@sharonanderson-eh4on]

Ditto but I'm healing myself now. Be the change in yourself blessings ❤

[@IBLong2Him]

Thankyou for this video

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are very welcome.

[@compassrosewitch]

Your explanation is spot on - Thank you

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are welcome! Thank you for the feedback. 🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@Griot-Guild]

Is anyone here in survival mode due to financial reasons? Like im homeless atm and im trying to get out i make 30 an hour tho

[@DARKARTSPHOTOGRAPHY]

If you dig deeper it may be the instability. Stress is emotional physical, mental, and financial.

[@LoriBothwell]

Oh hun. You are in my thoughts and prayers ❤The world is making things so hard. I had to sell my home to avoid bankruptcy. It has kept me in survival mode for about 6 years

[@earthlingandextra]

u can do it 💯

[@MrX-s5l]

I'd probably be better off homeless. I stay at home because I can't afford to move out. But my "family" is all the bad in my life and all my problems, they ruin my name to other friends and family in society, treat me like shit. All I know I'd this is not how to live.

[@MrX-s5l]

Best of luck

[@richardbravouk]

Excellently conveyed. Thank you.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You are very welcome. Thanks for taking the time to leave a message.

[@victoryamartin9773]

Thank you for describing the problem so clearly. I have hope now for finding a way through this lifelong tunnel of darkness, but first I need to ask: is it possible or even advisable to move out of survival mode while you are still being abused?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@victoryamartin9773 great question. I will answer this in a video. I’m leave the link 5o it here when it it is ready.

[@pattiking]

This is such great info!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Thank you! I appreciate your feedback. 🙏🏽

[@MrX-s5l]

I need a therapist like you but cant afford it. Sad world.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Have you tried my free program? You can find the link to get started in the description of this video.

[@nicoleadiaz1]

Love love this !

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I'm so glad! Thank you for taking the time to leave your response.

[@faygreville8368]

Im so glad I found you going through hell

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. I'm glad you are here. Please ask me any questions you have. If I can help, I'd like your trip through hell to be the as short and healing as possible.

[@maryjade1000]

I was on board until she said that 1 day. She just snapped out of it and then I thought yet I'll just wait for that

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

It does happen. In my case it happened at weeks of ugly crying. And it wasn’t enough healing to prevent the massive mental health crisis I would experience 3 years later. But I am grateful that the crying did work well enough to “snap me out of it” at the time.

[@maderasagrada1464]

Can you give us a free example of your techniques? for a very common problem perhaps? what about the child who experienced violence and grew up into a man with a fear of physical violence from men, and automatic fear responses to witness. Not feeling strong but cowardly

[@lsdivers]

where's the advice?

[@abrilcorominajavier9150]

Do you think me understanding that uncomfortable emotions are temporary is me starting to heal? I used to think sadness and anxiety would never go away that’s why I desperately tried to get rid of them but now I try to accept them and they end up disappearing after a while. The only thing is, will I have to put on so much effort to deal with all this difficult emotions and with the overthinking for the rest of my life? Because even though now I’m more at peace, I still have to work with a lot everyday and it’s exhausting. I wonder when will I deal with my mind effortlessly so that I can start focusing on other things.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is a sign that you are healing! Great question. I made a video about it today in response to your question. Here is the link, if you want to watch: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZ2tXnuLpLKNisksi=kYUgYWvwjk6kTQK2

[@Still-We-Rise]

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[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

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[@Musician_Robert]

scammers put me in fight mode.

[@ivannovoselac3518]

Why the nervous system can't disregulate themself naturaly? Why its must be pushstarted?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

This is such a great question. I’m going to respond through a video. When I upload it I’ll post the link here.

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Here's the video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/foisdql8i8Shnas

[@JT-wc7me]

Why is it not giving answers on what to do?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@JT-wc7me I think I do answer that in this video. But the answer is pretty simple and not super flashy so it may have been too subtle how I stated it. The answer to this is shift the brain out of survival mode. There are interventions that help brains do this intentionally instead of having to wait for the proverbial stars to align. And then we can shift our brain out of survival mode as often as it needs support for a while. I share my favorite 3 interventions for this in my free program interventions for inner world transformation. You can find the link to that above in the description part of the video. Thanks for asking.

[@A.yeeeshuh]

Hi do you think you can make calls outside of USA ,Im in south africa?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I am able to make those calls, I use zoom and whatsapp for those. If you are considering working with me, you can learn more by having a look around my website. www.rachellemccloud.com

[@traweler155]

has anyone signed up and seen this therapeutic film content? is it something safe? i am afraid of fraud please tell me if i am dealing with something safe.

[@christineplaton3048]

Ok. Can you equate this to Narcissistic Personality Abuse, and parental alienation ? The children...

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I would love to. What specific insights are you looking for? Because that is a BIG topic.

[@QueenSmokes71]

Are u still doing calls?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

Yes. I am. Here is the link to schedule: www.rachellemccloud.com/call

[@brandomorris3010]

Do you take calls?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

The answer to this is complicated at the moment. I am making changes to the calls I am taking. To see the services I offer, please go to www.rachellemccloud.com

[@8no1likeme-infinitestar65]

How much do u charge?

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You can find this information on my website: www.rachellemccloud.com

[@germanaeveretts4591]

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[@noniousxltruffles7454]

Try living/surviving WITH A PRICE ON YOUR HEAD! There's not a therapist on the planet thay knows how to deal with that!

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

You may be right. However, there is a way to do it. Maybe you will invent the process. And you are welcome to use my process and then customize it for this issue. That’s how I developed my process. I was learning from tappers about resolving things like cravings and phobias and limiting beliefs. But I needed strategies to resolve obsessive compulsive disorder and complex ptsd so I learned, practiced and customized and they way forward appeared. Now, I walk others through this process.

[@detroitday100mviews]

Wow you worded this greatly... I just understood this today the difference of the state and how to pay attention to the habits and body reactions daily.. learn thyself in this state and pay attention to the cycles or should I say patterns

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

I’m glad I could help and that this is allowing you to pay attention to yourself and learn this state. Combining that awareness with intervention use is the next healing step that you can start right away. I teach three of my favorite interventions in a free online program, Interventions for Inner World Transformation. You can give them a try and see if they help your brain shift out of survival state and turn all of your new awareness in to health. Here’s the link to enroll: rachellemccloud.thrivecart.com/interventions-for-iwt/

[@detroitday100mviews]

@rachellemccloudlcsw thank you I looked into those daily intervals I greatly appreciate you

[@rachellemccloudlcsw]

@@detroitday100mviews great! You are welcome!