Where did unique beauty go? Use your beauty flaws to your advantage

It's the best time to use your beauty flaws to your advantage. With the rise of "same face culture", when everyone is striving for the same flawless face, uniqueness is the most underrated advantage you have! Where did unique beauty go? With the erasing of every "flaw", who becomes recognizable and unique? Let's dive in.

[@clairereilly2778]

I love seeing old music videos when people had crooked teeth and acne scars and dodgy haircuts. People looked so real. 😂

[@unblahyourself]

I love that term, "dodgy"! I always have a dodgy haircut! 😅

[@Chaotic313]

Yes! I watched Ground Hog Day recently and Andy McDowell had normal, not blinding white teeth and fine lines etc. It was so refreshing!

[@missmayflower]

And I love British tv shows cause they’re filled with real people.

[@odothedoll2738]

@@missmayflowerDr Who companions! They’re all gorgeous because they’re chosen to be “something for the dads” as well as playing an important role in the show. They all look very different from the classic era until now. All the way from Kate Manning’s big smile to Millie Gibson’s thick eyebrows.

[@MiniM69]

That occurred in a vacuum though. It was rarely women who were permitted to be imperfect under the public gaze or if they were, they’d already flouted conventional standards of beauty (butch, fat, older, POC, queer, etc.) and therefore, cast aside by the tastemakers as worthy of public attention. Little girls swarming Sephora are indicative of the hyperfeminine ideals foisted onto women, girls and femmes thrown into hyperdrive via the internet. I agree with the sentiments in this video, to be clear. As for your point, let’s not romanticize a very flawed past for the sake of providing contrast.

[@Epiphanystone]

I would love if people stopped calling distinguishing characteristics flaws.

[@unblahyourself]

Gosh you're so right! We need to change the language! I'll start right now! Thanks for this!

[@CeliaTyree]

What is a flaw then? Is it impossible to have physical flaws, in your opinion?

[@Phoenix.219]

​@@CeliaTyreecall it a flaw if it causes some inconvenience like in case of teeth, sometimes it's just a gap but sometimes they are causing actual issues so that's a flaw. Face not being symmetrical isn't causing any issue. Nose being bumpy won't cause any problem, that's just genetics but crooked nose due to deviated septum does cause breathing problem so that's a flaw.

[@mightytaiger3000]

Or calling people with visibly botched surgeries “an unattainable standard of beauty” just because I’ve heard dozens of people state the same opinion.

[@bigb853]

Totally because it buys into the notion its a flaw....

[@margaesperanza]

I used to work with a South Korean lady who candidly discussed having a "surgery fund" for her daughter so her kid can have work done at 13 and pass off as a "natural" beauty who looks like her mom. The lady herself had a ton of work done (it was good tbh, nothing over the top but still different from her old face). When she looks at her kid, she sees her old face and she hates it. I cannot even imagine having a culture that passes down astringent standards and one's personal trauma on to their kids, but she claims its normal for them.

[@Mellibellie]

My mom got her nose done and every time she’d look at my nose it was like she thought it was ugly. She never said it but I could see it in her eyes. She’s had over 13 surgeries and puts her self loathing onto me every time she looks at my face or body I feel like she’s judging. I’ve fixed this by staying away sadly and working on my inner love. Beauty fades and I think that some people never worked on their self love internally ❤

[@toroyoko]

plastic surgery done at 13?? 😭 that’s wild

[@BeaLucile]

Plastic surgery is very common in South Korea - in some communities, it's almost expected. Many of them have separate savings and funds for it. There's literal statistics that 1 in every 4 women ages 19-29 in South Korea have already undergone plastic surgery, and that's 4yr old data from 2020!

[@ShrenyaMallik]

It's not much different in Bollywood circles in India

[@vdesena3546]

@@MellibellieI’m sure ur beautiful !! Just love yourself n judging is for the ones who can’t really deal with their own BS!! God bless

[@melissasaint3283]

"There is no great beauty without some strangeness in the proportion" ~Edgar Allan Poe, From the short story "Ligea"

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

Absolutely true.

[@PreferredMethods]

I miss it…

[@b3atricks]

i love this short story so much

[@Chaotic313]

I'm a portrait artist, and I find this "same face" trend horrifying! I use the uniqueness of a face to capture someone. And I worry about the children born to these people when at some point they realize they have the nose or eyes etc. that their parent deemed unacceptable. How can you teach self acceptance when you didn't accept yourself?😪

[@unblahyourself]

Wow, what a thought. Thanks for bringing this up! Ugh!

[@emanuelebabici]

What a cool comment! Your ethical dilemma is far more interesting than what I thought, but we know from Darwin, if you change your connotate during your lifetime, it doesn't transfer in your genetics. So imagine those kids possibly coming to the world and looking nothing like their parents. And then they find out, they actually did look like their parents, but the parents decided that those features were unacceptable and changed them.

[@SibilaDelphos]

@@emanuelebabici That is what is happening in Korea , then teenage ask their parents to pay for plastic surgeries with 16 -18 years old ...

[@spacebar9733]

That’s why I can’t get plastic surgery. What message does that send to my babies?

[@kikimons99]

A woman who's had cosmetic procedures can actually teach her daughter to love herself more than the mother did at her age. By admitting her insecurities and past actions, but instilling better beliefs in the child and being honest about these issues

[@Tanguy63ify]

Internally, individualism is becoming stronger and externally everyone wants to look the same. damn scary.

[@unblahyourself]

Yes that IS strange! Neat insight.

[@camillem103]

It’s almost as if one feeds into the other: people want access to the same social capital that “conventional attractiveness” affords, but once everyone has access to that capital, it loses its value. Hence the “main character” / “that girl” discourse and its accompanying individualism and narcissism. I also think that’s why aesthetics of old wealth are on the rise too, as aesthetic treatments have downgraded from a luxury for the few to a more accessible/new money commodity

[@pern1121ep]

​@camillem103 an organic species that is being shamed out of its own blessedly diverse expression in order to narrow down which cyborg prototypes corporations will sell the most of in the future. Kardashian Klones. This is the transhumanist agenda in its most sinister form....self hatred and mimicry.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

They claim individualism..but they aren't. That constant OPINION of being a unique individual is part of the NPC starter pack. They are literal NPC's. You aren't your own individual if you copy/paste big corporation, big govt ideals, opinions, talking points etc.

[@chatrandibujosfelices]

@@RunninUpThatHillh That´s so true, it´s part what you said and part narcissism, disguised as individualism.

[@koikoi15]

I think Korea might be the mother of god of this "same face" phenomenon. I'm a native Asian, I can tell different Asians apart, but 20 years ago, I was on a Korean Air flight. The appearance of the flight attendants absolutely stunned me: at a glance, they looked EXACTLY the same. It's only when I started to really pay attention to the subtleties on their faces, I started to notice some differences. It was absolutely WILD how uncannily similar they all looked. I didn't know Korea is the capital of plastic surgery, but after I learned about it, it no longer surprised me.

[@katraylor]

I had a Korean friend who aspired for a while to be a flight attendant. It is apparently INCREDIBLY competitive, and you really do have to have exactly the right look. She eventually gave up, but while she was still trying she actually got her jawline shaved down (had to drink through a straw for a few weeks) to fit the aesthetic. Can't even imagine.

[@a1exneedsahamdleplease]

I had a friend who was a flight attendant for a while and she was super creeped out by how identical the Korean flight attendants looked. She said it was extremely uncanny

[@brbgrapes]

Yeah SK might be an outlier on this one. Because their society is very competitive due to a small country with limited resources and a high population. So plastic surgery is seen as a status and you are forced to compare yourself with one another

[@kingmaafa120]

No disrespect However I Lived in Korea ❤but kinda creepy at the same time .. even korean women told me so ..

[@seraby7151]

Tbf... They are pretty similar already pre-surgery 😂 Racist??... Yeah shut tf up, Im asian too. Edit: anyway, I also think sk is the extreme of this phenomenon.

[@earthmamma85]

The beauty standards of today are just awful. We’ve lost what makes us interesting and individually beautiful

[@Talletc]

Platic surgery is making woman into monsters

[@Bunny11344]

I’m fine with them ruining themselves tbh 😂their body their choice

[@brbgrapes]

Wait til you find out what the beauty standards of the 1800s were. Or 1900s. Or 1990s when if you weren't stick thin you were ugly. Stop complaining and if you don't like the trends don't follow them. No one cares about you as much as you think

[@mariagordanier3404]

Agree. The bratz doll look is overrated.

[@funnygaming2672]

@iklijkwelgekmetmijneigennaam back in the day you could be unique and plastic and still look like you ,not anymore...

[@delilahhart4398]

The only reason why Bella Hadid has a modeling career is because she's undergone so much work that she looks nothing like her real self.

[@amara75284]

And the craziest thing is almost the same thing with Angelina Jolie, the "most beautiful woman on earth" is a label gained because of a full plastic surgery face, i know its just a commercial thing but we cant deny that it impacts on us too (especially on girls)

[@marialeon7197]

Nah, it is because her parents are famous

[@delilahhart4398]

@@marialeon7197 That, too. There are so many "celebrities" who have become famous on account of nepotism rather than their own merits. The Kardashians immediately come to mind, of course.

[@cigarettearms5992]

@@marialeon7197 Yes that definitely got her foot in the door but Bellas modelling career was flopping until she went under the knife, Gigi has also had a ton of work done which is definitely more subtle but neither of them would have their careers without their extreme surgical transformations.

[@ifeyhome]

Even model Giselle had a nose job, like 80% of female celebrities

[@cido2270]

I’m a 19 year old girl. When I started growing up and losing my baby face my features started showing theirselfs. I got my father’s big croocked nose, my grandma’s small chin, my mom’s not very curvy body. At first I didn’t even realise how big my nose was, cause you know, that wasn’t what a 7 year old had in mind all the time. Then people started teasing and bullying me because of the things I wasn’t responsible of. Strangers, relatives, even my own parents were making fun of my features. And I want to highlight, they were all adults. Not children. Because children don’t care about those things. But somehow, It was bothering every adult around me. When I would cry about it - which happened very often- everyone including my parents would say, don’t worry! The medical field is very developed now. Just wait untill you are 18, you can get plastic surgery then. It’s nothing to worry about, it’s fixable. You just have to resist till that time. When I was 10 my parents forced me to get braces. I never wanted them. But appaerentally, my chin was something that should have been fixed immediatelly. Don’t get me wrong, it was completely healthy, just ugly. I refused the braces, I didn’t take good care of it because I hated it. I hated that even my teeth were something that had to be fixed. Everything about me was wrong and had to be fixed. I had them for 4 years, around 14-15 they took them out. The doctor said, because I was refusing to use the rubbers and other stuff you have to do to get your jaw pretty, there was nothing left he could do. So he took it out. My parents till this day whine about how they paid for me to be pretty but I refused, how ungrateful I am. Last year I turned 18. Everyone is constantly telling me to get plastic surgery. For my nose, chin, boobs. My self confidence is nonexistent. Since the day I gained consciousness of my appearance, I hated myself in every single second. I don’t remember a moment when I felt not even pretty, but normal. Children grew up, started adulting and my appearance started bothering them as well. Right now, all I want is to just exist. To just be, without people having any thoughts about my appearance. Good or bad, I don’t care, I don’t want any of them. I just want to cover every inch of me, so people would have no choice but to see only my inside. Me. Not the body I didn’t chose. Thank you for the video, really. It makes me feel at peace that people like you are still existing. 🌷🫶🏻

[@unblahyourself]

Wow what a story and thank you so much for sharing! That is heartbreaking that your family simply could not let you be you. It's freeing to realize that we can just exist as long as we don't value validation. Unfortunately, some people love to give their un-asked-for opinions on all sorts of things... ❤

[@BiddyBiccy]

I'm horrified you've been treated that way. There is nothing wrong with you. Beauty goes much deeper than looks. You could look like these "same face" women and be a total witch. It's been my experience that the people I've considered to be the most attractive have been what would be considered "plain", but they're such wonderful people it makes them look beautiful to me. Nobody should EVER tell you your looks aren't good enough. Good enough for what? For who? It's meaningless, and it's nobody's right to criticise your appearance. I'd rather hang out with you than any of the people who put you down and laughed at you.

[@zinkin_sad]

Sending love to you ❤ I have rather big nose too and not the best jaw. Plus my body type is reversed triangle, which is the least feminine. But it doesn't worry me that much, I can't spend my life for someone's expectations. And I can be happier than any beauty, because I learn it every day, no matter what 🫂

[@caras4766]

So sorry you've had to deal with this from the people around you. We all deserve to just exist and not have so much attention paid to and value placed on how we look.

[@gretelmolgora5688]

You are not ugly. ❤

[@Alice45894]

I'm so bored of the lack of variety in modern beauty ideals

[@bossyboots5000]

Omg, completely. IG influencers all look identical: same eyes, nose, lips, face shape, same makeup style, same hair style. It's boring af. And to make it worse, there are plenty of vanity filters that give the illusion of those cookie cutter features. If I were a photographer I'd probably shoot myself (no pun intended) from the boredom.

[@tabbyh77ify]

At the height of full glam, 2016-ish, I saw an online article about a makeup artist who specialized in wedding makeup, with what had to be at least twenty or thirty before and after pictures. He managed to make all of these brides look identical. He used the exact same techniques on all of them. No bringing out their unique features, no variations on lipstick colors, just heavily contoured Kim K cut and paste. It haunts me to this day.

[@TonyMaynard-SD]

that sounds horrific

[@ketameanii]

i notice a lot of makeup artists on insta did this for prom girls makeup like they do one look and it makes everyone look the same

[@madamedex5989]

As a makeup artist myself, this is either what sells for him, or just a lack of versatility. If a makeup artist only has one look, that's very limiting!

[@PaulaRoxana-pi3gj]

It also always creeps me out. Look at actors in best Hollywood movies, all of them have some makeup on in every scene, but the artists are so good that they manage to still make them look very diverse, subtle, and usually like themselves. That's what makeup should be about, accenting each person's unique features, eventually correcting what you'd like to. I'm always stunned somebody calls themselves a "makeup artist" (and it's honestly majority of IG/KZbin ones) and all they can do is copy paste the same look of whatever the current trend is. Even if it doesn't suit the person's face at all, but nah it's "trendy" so that's what you'll get.

[@ThePianoKeys]

It's probably what his clients asked for, and it's really sad that so many people think there's only 1 way to look beautiful.

[@Eeppydeepy]

It’s kinda hard to sell products when you embrace your natural features

[@unblahyourself]

Isn't that the TRUTH!

[@homiekeen23]

It's more than that. Marketing can sell anything. Even diversity. You could have thousands of lines and products for each type of feature and make tons of money. It's this mass culture that makes us all want to be like the "it" girl or "it" man. It's our mentality as humans that when we see someone successful (in any aspect, money, dating, etc...) we all want to imitate them and be like them. This always used to happen, it's just worst now because we obviously evolve and there's always more and more that we can change/alter. Long time ago maybe only a hair colour would become trendy, then a specific haircut, then a treatment, then a hairline because now transplants are available, and so on and so forth

[@bluepainting5043]

You freaking said it!

[@sarahmottramart]

I’m seeing more honouring of diversity in younger generations. Maybe American Culture is in the duplicate trend.

[@generalgrievous-]

It's a gimmick that's for sure.

[@cotus2]

I think we will reach an over saturation point that will eventually cause natural features to be desirable. Just wait. It saves money and unnecessary complications too

[@meganrichardson6471]

Yes. Other beauty trends go in and out of style. I’m hoping this one will also.

[@unblahyourself]

Let's hope!

[@ForbsieLaLa]

I think we are kind of getting there, covid sort of opened the door because there was limited opportunity to go out and look like everyone else and be seen

[@Oceaniac]

Well hasn’t that happened already? I’m not a tiktok user, but I have heard and seen discourse regarding natural beauty and something called the ‘clean girl aesthetic’ (? I could be wrong about the name). But those people who do natural makeup looks still have perfect noses and eyes and hair and the same slim face shape. They still look copy and pasted to me, except they look more ‘natural’ compared to these kardashian clones

[@jokujaba1831]

​@@OceaniacNatural beauty tends to mean that instead of getting surgery, you already had that face. At least in my experience it still doesn't allow much imperfections

[@rebekahsunday3254]

I will never ever ever change my face. Embracing the beauty of who I am is an act of rebellion.

[@Scribble.Scribble]

As Andy Frisella said, “personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion.” Exceed in being you :)

[@annagrigoryan7339]

@@Scribble.Scribble i feel the same way about refusing to have a facelift despite aging :)

[@penneyburgess5431]

Even Marilyn Monroe wouldn’t be accepted by modern standards. Audrey Hepburn would have been forced to have cheek implants, plumped lips, a boob and butt job. I think of all the iconic beautiful classic actresses that by modern aesthetics would have been altered it makes me cry for today’s women. I remember when I was young reading an article that asked ‘what kind of beauty are you?’ I didn’t fit any of the types, but a bit of myself in a few. I realized I had an unusual and unique look that was mine to celebrate and enhance. It gave me an incredible feeling of self worth. In the movie ‘Penelope’ it’s not until she tells her mother ‘I like the way I look’ the family curse is broken. I wish today’s women could say the same.

[@Rebelheart15]

Marilyn had surgery!!

[@Joy.W.]

@@Rebelheart15and still she wouldn’t fit the standard of today. Unfortunately she could barely do that as herself back then.

[@MsEmm10]

Totally incorrect. There is plenty of famous curvy models. Marilyn also had a few surgeries. And there is a current movie star who looks like Audrey - Lily Collins. Keira Knigthley is a natural beauty without implants that is very successful. So yeah you're not 100% right. But sadly we do see subtle tweaks on natural beauties like Margot Robbie, Taylor Swift, Blake Lively etc while still maintaining their uniqueness.

[@goldendiamon]

I had an asymmetrical face because I save my nephew from an accident when I was a toddler ..And people teased that I have divided eyebrows and now people love to do the eyebrow trend like what my other eyebrow looks like

[@possumgirl_25]

I’ve personally been embracing my big forehead lately. It makes me feel like a 15th century duchess with a fat dowry. These features we mock have so much elegance once you really look at them

[@unblahyourself]

I love this so much

[@jacquelynroe9036]

I have a big forehead too! I love this perspective ❤ (And it seems I’ve passed it down to my daughter so I better get comfortable with it so I can make sure she is someday.)

[@Astr0629]

Same, big forehead gang. I remember at a museum in DC reading about how West African cultures found beauty in and valued a big, high, round forehead and I instantly felt a sense of pride. Never forgot it and never disparaged my forehead after that.

[@mariagordanier3404]

I have a big forehead and notice they are coming back. I do not think my charles degaulle nose will be coming back anytime soon though, but I like it now.

[@lilywondertwin]

Big forehead equal big brains !

[@gailwilliams5278]

I thought it was because of my advanced age (a little over 70) that I can’t identify todays’s celebrities. I’m so glad to know they look the same to others as well!

[@unblahyourself]

I'm always like, who are all these people??

[@RangeGleasry]

Imagine the existential crisis the same-faces must have when you go “who tf are you again?”

[@dawnelder9046]

There was a plastic surgery show on about 10 or 15 years ago. The Swan. Afterwards everyone looked the same. Became real creepy. A few years away from 70, but remember when stars all looked different.

[@FitnessSweets]

Not at all. You’re right, and of course I find myself wanting changes 😢

[@lyndaharrison8747]

About ten years ago I dated a man who kept telling me I should cover up the 'blemishes' on my face. I was alway perplexed whenever he said this because I had never noticed any 'blemishes'. Years later when I was studying my face in the mirror I realized what he was referring to. Around my mouth area I had a whitish mole that if you didn't know me could look like a pimple, a medium size flat brown mole, a small red patch of spider veins that was there since childhood and on the other side of my mouth two small brown flat moles. After 40 years I had never looked in the mirror and seen 'blemishes'. I had just seen my face with my moles and other marks as completely normal and completely natural. I had never ever thought of them as something that should be removed or covered up. I'm so glad that I never did either of those things. Today he's single and lonely and I still have all my so-called 'blemishes' and I'm as happy as pie.

[@unblahyourself]

Lololol I love this. ❤

[@TheMAmeph]

❤

[@dawnelder9046]

That is the playboy magazine effect. I asked my husband why his one friend never married. He was looking for the perfect woman in the magazine. I saw an interview with one of the centerfolds. She said it was a good thing her name was on it as she would have never recognized herself. Funny, like most people, he was a good solid 5. Average. But he wanted a 15 out of 10.

[@tpilot_error404]

That partner just wanted a trophée to make his ego shine. Never stay with people that want you to change.ä Your true potential is inside you.

[@stellarsjay1773]

I notice that you gave up on him. He didn’t realize his personality had so many blemishes :-)

[@louise.x03]

one of the things that has always helped me is knowing that it took thousands and thousands of my ancestors in order to create how i look, so many stories, so many battles, so many love stories happened in order to create me :)

[@susan9498]

I love your comment.

[@Scribble.Scribble]

Awe 😭❤ We are the product of so many generations of the “most beautiful person in the world”. I think about how my Dad calls my Mom the most beautiful woman in the world and it’s the sweetest thing.

[@Ella-te7fe]

This is such a beautiful comment ❤

[@alonespirit9923]

That is well worth remembering and taking to heart. ♥

[@michelleduncan9965]

BEAUTIFUL Louise!!!!!

[@honeybee6154]

One of the most beautiful women I ever knew had a big strawberry mark on her cheek and she never wore a lot of makeup. Just mascara, a little blush. Maybe lipstick. Zero foundation or contour. She had the bluest eyes!! Air dried wavy hair. The way she carried herself with class was just amazing. Sadly she passed away from breast cancer at only 52, just a year after diagnosed. But she was unforgettable in her kindness, sweet nature, interesting personality, and natural beauty. She was a school teacher, a paralegal, and sometimes a stay at home mom. She really represented all women! Ps. I was her young babysitter and as I got older, I was honored to be her friend. ❤

[@unblahyourself]

Thank you for sharing! That's a really sweet tribute to your friend!

[@AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist]

That's beautiful ❤️

[@reddishsky8614]

❤❤❤❤

[@chasethehorizonx]

This sounds like my friend Steph. She's goooorgeous, and has a strawberry mark. Her eyes are like translucent, pale sapphires.

[@annasanders1977]

Yes! One of the sweetest and prettiest girls I knew had a large port wine birthmark that covered half her face. It was so unique and made her even more beautiful!

[@soniaoliveira8207]

The french have a phrase "jolie laide" beautiful ugy - embracing the unique character of ones appearance and making it the feature.

[@unblahyourself]

Ooh I like that. Gonna look into it....

[@Baby_ghost__b]

There is a video made by Stephanie Lange. And she basically called being borderline ugly. It's a good video that talks about the same topic.😊

[@clarebear4313]

Apparently, Edith Piaf said "use your faults, use your defects...then you're gonna be a star" 🌟

[@Agapeschant]

I don’t think it’s a phrase that’s very used, I’m French + lived in France for the most part of my life but I literally never heard that before haha (I’m 27)

[@Balkanbabygirl]

only white ppl can be french 🙃

[@MinaCalanbriar]

This is all social media's fault. One of the many reasons why I deleted all my accounts. I was born in 1981 & remember being young before the internet existed. The girls of the 80's & 90's were the most beautiful. My favorite actress from that era is Fairuza Balk. Such a unique lady!

[@unblahyourself]

Fairuza Balk! What a unique and cool gal!!

[@ashleysalazar2012]

I wish all women would wake up and realize we're all more than our face and body. Our value is who we are as a person. If you put all of your everything into your outer appearance then what are you when it's gone?

[@hollythornell5262]

Many supermodels in the past had hooded eyes, it made me embrace mine

[@unblahyourself]

Did anyone even know hooded eyes were a "thing" until recently? I didn't!! and I have at least one hooded eye.

[@alexiarose4212]

I habe hooded eyes as well. I think itbis beautiful!

[@chasethehorizonx]

Same. I adore my hooded eyes.

[@gospoa5533]

I have double eyelids, but hooded eyes are so beautiful to me... I like that sharp look

[@theshellest]

Right? Jennifer Lawrence has hooded eyes and I hope they stay that way

[@kimberlytran3784]

One influencer called it the 10x rule. We see our *perceived* flaws 10x more than anyone else would. In fact, if you mention a physical insecurity of your own to someone else, they will often go, I totally don’t see that flaw on you. I told my husband & he said that’s a great point; it’s not just women & girls who do that ❤

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

“It’s not just women and girls who do it.” Yes! I have two young adult sons and I can vouch for this.

[@Phoenix.219]

It was the same with my teeth. I have big gaps, not just in front teeth but everywhere but it's kinda evenly spaced and not just looks like there is one tooth missing and others are completely in place. But I have only 26 teeth at the age of 29, so that's the reason there are more gaps, the gaps in incisor and canine in lower jaw is more and probably size of 3/4 of a small tooth but I I have big lower lip so they are not visible even if I do full smile although the gap in upper front teeth is obviously visible. That's why I used to smile only with closed lips & I even got comfortable with full smile in perhaps last year , also just bcz I was genuinely happier and kept laughing and then was like why should I not laugh just to hide. Anyway my boyfriend once shared that she showed few pics of mine to his friends and one of them had me smiling and that gap was visible & I said "why did you show this one? " and he said "bcz I love this ond, you are smiling widely" but to probably comfort me he said don't worry I showed other ones too. At that moment I felt a bit bad that maybe it's not a big deal. I am still not 100% comfortable with my teeth but my gums are healthy and I don't want my healthy teeth to get damaged in any way that's why I don't want to get them changed bcz many ppl get different issues after treatment. They are perfectly functional and healthy.

[@geslinam9703]

Yes! I was just talking with a coworker two nights ago, who has been obsessing over her hair, which she says is thinning and is so upset about it. I had to laugh, because every time I look at her, I’ve always think, my gosh, she has the prettiest hair!!

[@homiekeen23]

And other times we are not aware at all of our "flaw", until everyone starts pointing it out, they do see it 😅😅

[@usehername1]

True! I didn't even notice her crooked mouth, and even after she mentioned it I had to really look.

[@lindabolique72]

Makes me think of Barbara Streisand's nose, Lauren Hutton's gap, Cheryl Tieg's thinner lips. All beauties but so unique and fun to look at.

[@hayleybrooks04]

How does this video not pop up on every teen girl's feed? They need to watch this. I was born in 2005 and there is some toxic stuff people keep feeding girls my age. GAls, we've gotta save younger girls from falling into the nonsense of needing to fit a certain beauty standard. 🤞🤞

[@unblahyourself]

Thank you! I'm so happy to hear that others feel the same way!

[@muirgirl]

Gets even scarier when you see the research on how children are impacted by these faces, particularly the blunted emotional development as a result of limited emotional expression (shoutout to botox and fillers).

[@tessmoffett5512]

That’s crazy. You mean kids are stunted because their parents don’t emote enough to them?

[@muirgirl]

@@tessmoffett5512 Yep. As primates we rely on observational learning and our emotions are included in that. Anything that limits your ability to emote likewise limits your childs ability to feel.

[@HumppaOrDeath]

I've noticed this in TV and movies. I always thought it was just because everyone is pumped so full of botox that their faces don't even move anymore. I miss people who act with their faces so much.

[@muirgirl]

@@HumppaOrDeath The toxin itself also reduces the ability to empathize in people who have injected their faces. We have known this since 2011. Fairly well enumerated literature on these things. Its insane botox was ever approved to be perfectly honest.

[@HumppaOrDeath]

@@muirgirl that is absolutely insane and horrifying. I hate it here.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

The 90’s were such an iconic time of beauty. You are such a beauty.✨🌸✨

[@unblahyourself]

Thanks so much!

[@shrimpdance4761]

You said your mouth is crooked, but I can't tell. I love your 50s glam style!

[@seraby7151]

Not a good time for body positivity though. Everyone wants to be a heroine chic back then.

[@heather5926]

Audrey Hepburn is a good example of unique beauty. She didn’t have work done. She was just beautifully her ❤

[@redheadedstepchildatwalmart]

and now we have ariana grande showing audrey's picture to her doctor

[@szelengtan1677]

A box of supermodel chocolate. Wow! I miss those days.

[@Dwynfal]

Such a good analogy, I love it!

[@missmayflower]

Seriously! I can’t tell who I’m looking at anymore. I actually cried when I saw what Renee Zellweger did to her face. She had the most unique, distinctive, gorgeous look. Now she looks anonymous.

[@ranandiebraut7425]

Like Jennifer Grey

[@missmayflower]

@@ranandiebraut7425 Yes! That was shocking and sad.

[@milkflavored]

So true! I loved her in Empire Records (one of her earliest films) so seeing her today was truly shocking!

[@brieannab5371]

Kate Beckinsale was the one that got me. She was so gorgeous I couldn't believe how much plastic surgery she underwent

[@2Ten1Ryu]

I heard Renée Zellweger had an accident that damaged her face, so some reconstruction was needed. I'm not sure if it's true, though.

[@ikik1648]

As an Asian guy who hails from southern China, the rise of K-Pop stars and culture has given way to this “same face” phenomenon where slim, pale faces are desired. And yes, the eyelid surgery for eyes to become more Caucasian looking has started to take hold - it really really sucks, because when you’re adamant about not changing the way you look, but yet everyone around you is changing, it can feel like you’re doing something wrong.

[@unblahyourself]

Hugs to you! It's purely awful when the standard is surgically necessary.

[@ikik1648]

@@unblahyourself- our society had agrarian roots so my guess is that by looking pale one can seem more within the nobility lol (cause they don’t need to work out in the sun too long). I just wished people took this video’s message of individuality into heart, they would have happier lives

[@elizabethjones8465]

They are just going to make us natural women stand out more, in a good way, and just wait until the trends change & their decisions, in many cases, are permanent.

[@unblahyourself]

ABSOLUTELY!!

[@juiceitup7915]

😂😂I thought I was the only one that noticed. I'm black and I noticed it in our community as well.

[@cammyt9030]

Yep the 'baddie' / 'hot girl summer' aesthetic! Everyone looks like clones now

[@LisaF777]

Yes, online espcially, many have the same wig parting, white toe nails, bbl (some), tight clothes ,long nails, eyelashes, make up look and selfie pose. We can look at each race and pull out similar trends to be honest. Nothing compares to the 90s and before ❤️

[@juiceitup7915]

@@LisaF777 😅😅

[@moniqueabundance]

​@LisaF777 I think everyone is literally copying each other. Now I can't stand to see bbls, unless it's super natural ie not big. It seems from the female rapper look, that's what young girls think they need to emulate. I'm looking at myself and I really am toning down that kinda look. For example I've gone off lashes and no long nails. I want everything softer now. The spider eyelash trend esp needs to stop asap

[@moniqueabundance]

​@@cammyt9030Instagram literally has versions of the same thing

[@ursamajormouse]

I feel so fortunate to have been a teen in the 90s. Unique quirks have always been what attracts me to a person and the "same face" look makes me feel uncomfortable and I can't place why. Like an instant feeling of mistrust, as though the person is wearing a mask. It's odd.

[@GeorgiaGeorgette]

Perfectly put!

[@kogo8107]

That’s the “uncanny valley” feeling. It’s an instinct to protect you from danger where you feel something is “off”.

[@MrLadyGenevieve]

Sure, being a teen in the 90s was great, if you were skinny. If you were fat, you were teased mercilessly. The eating disorder, heroin-chic decade, post every celebs cellulite on a magazine cover decade.

[@yudollia]

The thing is I feel like people ignore that there is a secret recipe for beauty. Because despite certain models being unique, their distinctive features are just a handful. Like 1 different thing, while the rest is traditionally attractive. Usually it will be like yes this model has downturned eyes, but the facial structure is above average. Truly different people do not rise as high without any of the traditional features

[@clairestz1328]

Exactly! For instance, they tend to have high cheekbones.

[@mandalamia]

Truly different people make a bigger impact face to face.

[@jessica1580]

I recently was looking at red carpet photos from the early 2000s & it was so refreshing because while everyone looked great, they all looked different. Everyone had makeup on, but none of it was perfect. The clothes were all uniquely styled and everyone looked REAL. Today, everyone aims for absolute perfection and they all end up looking the same.

[@zaprude]

This is honestly such a tragedy. Millions and millions of women are feeling bad and finding flaws in themselves just because our economy and social media landscape revolves around these ideas and ideals. I am 39 and feel so darn lucky to have grown up in a time before social media, selfies and influencers. It makes it easier to create a healthier distance to it, and just plug off and be myself, and look myself. Whatever that means.

[@moniqueabundance]

I would be horrified to be a teenager now. The shallow pressure 😢, I worry so much for my son. Its such a crazy world now.

[@someonecallsmeauggie]

That is a wonderful perspective thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

[@candelaphilippsen5889]

I feel really disconnected from my generation because of this, I've been for years and years so pissed off by this weird phobia that society has for uniqueness and difference. I just find it so strange, why would you want to live in a world where everyone is the same? When did humanity get to this place? I really wish people could learn to appreciate beauty again😞

[@Creatorka-ri5df]

And with everyone dressed in gray and nude, to distinguish is an impossible mission

[@unblahyourself]

It's definitely a neutral world right now!

[@gretas6794]

As someone with quite a unique and "interesting" face, i really appreciated this video. Id never get surgery but that doesnt mean seeing the same Instagram face everywhere doesnt affect my self esteem

[@Tammy166]

This reminds me of an episode of “The Twilight Zone” called “Number 12 Looks Just Like You.” In it, each sex has two looks to choose from, and surgeries for people after 16 or 18 were mandatory. The surgeon explains that by making everybody equally beautiful, they’re able to get rid of things like job discriminations and the like, but our protagonist argues, “But if everybody is beautiful, than nobody is.” I highly recommend the episode, so I won’t spoil the ending.

[@veronicado1016]

I actually saw that one. The ending made me sad but it was still a good episode.

[@unblahyourself]

Wow I really need to see this! Thanks for the hot tip! Sounds totally timely.

[@mamadoom9724]

It made me think of that episode too. It’s so sad to think about what society has become.

[@legslikewhoa]

There’s also a YA dystopian book series titled The Uglies by Scott Westerfeld. It’s great, and eerily mirrors what today’s screen generation is facing.

[@suehuff8065]

You remembered it better than me, I saw it when it first came out and it was very creepy...never forgot it...

[@jessIe76468]

I always hated people saying: "oh no my nose is too fat" or "my double chin is ugly". Like it made me boiling mad because considering a facial feature ugly is not a thing you're born with (babies aren't embarrassed of being chubby or different) but society plants these lies upon us and we believe them. If you believe a random opinion online of a stranger you don't even know, might as well just believe in your own. It's young years wasted in many girls and yet they know it but have this strong desire to fit in and let themselves knowingly be tricked by useless trend that change every few years. Their beauty is in chains and I can't help but be furious. Sorry for the strong reaction.

[@SDReelsOnline]

Do people not realize that big, fake lips are not attractive? If you're aging and your lips begin to thin out, LEAVE THEM.

[@stillhere1425]

Yes! They don’t look younger or more voluptuous: they just look as if they are having an allergic reaction.

[@canadagirl7157]

It was liberating when I got to the age when I realised that what other people think of me is not my business. And I like my face. I have a crooked tooth which I think is cute and gives me character. I have a big Greek nose which is part of my heritage. Anybody with enough money can buy a cookie-cutter nose, but my ancestors going back centuries might have had mine. You have to remember as well that beauty standards change. I overplucked my eyebrows in the early 00's and they never grew back properly. Better to celebrate what you have!

[@michellelee6260]

Opa!! Amen sis!! I love unique noses! Actually- what I mean is I love the ones that are a little bigger and have a bump - the ones people always seem to feel a need to “fix.” I have seen women have surgery and exchange the beautiful family-strong-heritage-featured noses - for something way more common and un-extraordinary. They bought the world’s current idea of attractive over the timeless and privileged gift of unique beauty from our Creator. It is terribly sad, actually. Like an insult to God and family - a rejection of something so good. I love the way you said it - many people in your family have probably had that nose..! I used to teach sociology. Every culture has its ideas of beauty- but it unfortunately is becoming cookie cutter all over the world with our social media influences. I love the beauty our Creator has created-no one can improve it!!!

[@canadagirl7157]

@michellelee6260 wow, just beautifully put! :)

[@cookie_dough_hangover]

I was a teenager in the 90s. Even the models back then had their own unique look. Cindy Crawford looks so much different than Linda Evangelista. We only had one Claudia Schiffer. Only one Kate Moss! I must admit that not many of us teenage girls were insecure as much as girls are now. It's sad.

[@unblahyourself]

All truth!

[@zofiajaneczek184]

We were not able to buy our looks at that time, many of the models from that time were indeed natural beauties. Naomi, Kate Moss, Christy Turlington just to name a few, absolutely gorgeous. Not to mention totally opposite but just as stunning beauty of Grace Jones. Those were simpler times too. There’s too much pressure on younger people to look like their filtered self all the time. It’s absolutely easy to spot who’s had work done because they look too perfect. Absolute perfection looks eerie and odd to the observers eye. Kind of like people changing their eye color with surgery, they look freakishly unnatural, like a robot, like the eyes don’t belong. The best types of procedures are done so subtly that you can’t tell anyone has had anything done.

[@Baby_ghost__b]

That's a lie. Many girls at that time got an ED. And if you were black it was worse with the big lips and butt.

[@cookie_dough_hangover]

@@Baby_ghost__b not my friends

[@katie8325]

But the 90s supermodels were out of this world attractive and had incredible bodies that were unattainable for 99% of the population. Let’s not pretend they had a positive impact on young girls. Also “heroin chic” was an aesthetic. And this was positive?!

[@RestoringKarma]

“The rise of same face” is wild. 😂

[@iamReptar]

Those eyelashe extensions give people the lazy eye look.

[@di7787]

Instagram is to blame. Some pages even warp some beautiful famous women's features and put those fake Kylie Jenner lips.. on MF Angelina Jolie ?? It's sickening

[@gildedpeahen876]

the most beautiful people are always different. it's an energy as well, a desire to fit in will never emit a radiance of beauty. it's self love that resonates as beauty

[@unblahyourself]

That is the truest thing!!

[@eili8806]

In Hollywood most aging people look ridiculous and insecure. I love how Jamie Curtis and Jodie Foster look GREAT, natural, and secure in themselves, confident. Changing with age is normal. "Fixing" yourself, removing your own natural face, in my opinion looks bad. I so agree with this vlog, make a decision to accept yourself and your uniqueness, also as you age. We decide what attitude to have to things, our brains have neuroplasticity. Choose attitudes that serve you.

[@redheadedstepchildatwalmart]

kate winslet is another one who seems to be aging naturally. and she looks absolutely gorgeous EDIT upon another google search, it actually looks like she did get some fillers recently😢

[@NellyNutmeg]

The same face trend reminds me of the twilight zone episode "number 12 looks just like you"

[@odothedoll2738]

I was just about to say! Rod has an uncanny way of being right, in his writing at least.

[@unblahyourself]

I definitely need to watch this!

[@veronicajata3121]

I just wrote a paragraph on this episode for my english class. It was so scary omg

[@ms_prescott_regrets]

I just added that to my comment too!! I think a re-release of that episode is due. I wonder what Rod Serling would think if he saw this now?

[@herbmamasujaiatpeacefulwel8569]

I was just thinking of this episode! Rod Serling was always a man ahead of his time!

[@meganrichardson6471]

I’m so bored with celebrities and movies now and this is part of the reason. Why would I see a Nicole Kidman movie anymore when she’s become an alien who can’t act because she can’t make expressions? Remember curly, freckly, strawberry blonde, small eyes Nicole Kidman? I loved her and her spunk. I don’t know this current one, she looks like everyone else and can be replaced by anyone else.

[@unblahyourself]

Oh yes and she used to have eyelids!!

[@HumppaOrDeath]

She finally became one of the Stepford Wives fr

[@allegrosotto2126]

Easier to clone like that…

[@MariaElena51185]

Cloning centres abound.

[@redheadedstepchildatwalmart]

i saw the trailer for the ryan gosling / emily blunt movie and i could not figure out who i was looking at! had to google it to find out it was emily blunt. and i also notice how many male celebrities have clearly gotten a lot of surgery/filler. its tragic that so many people feel the need to do this. i believe age is something to be proud of

[@weltschmertzz]

This starts from people pointing out a "flaw." Men are rarely criticized for their looks. It's mostly women. Ergo, this problem. I've never liked the Kardashians, but I don't hate them. They are a mirror of society. They are geared towards what people reward with attention, influence, and money. I'm lucky to be living in a country where it is rude to comment on appearance, so you rarely see anybody who has had any cosmetic procedure done.

[@unblahyourself]

Interesting! Where do you live?

[@margieblackmore4469]

Men are criticised for their looks!!!

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

If you look at pre-plastic surgery pics of them, the Ks all looked good! I’d understand them doing anti-aging tweaks when they were older for wrinkles, but the stuff they did to change their young faces was criminal!

[@slyphwing]

It’s social media…

[@rosered3919]

Stephanie Lange is a most exellent channel for the young women on this topic.

[@unblahyourself]

Oh yes! I like her!

[@hyperhege]

She is such a treasure!

[@nalurodriigues]

That makes me remember that once I saw an influencer saying that the most beautiful women called "unique" and "one of a kind" are often diminished for "big nose"(Gisele Bundchen) or "no curves" (Gigi Hadid) or "male features" (Gwendoline Christie) or "looking like an alien" (Tilda Swinton). They're constantly said to be above-average women and, at the same time, too fascinating to take your eyes off them to the point that media tries to find more flaws to nitpick on.

[@krystalhooper8508]

i accept my unique features, i just wish it were easier to believe that they can be perceived as beautiful by others, especially nowadays :/

[@kellykersten8828]

Get over yourself. They are beautiful!

[@darking1977]

I'm totally with you about this Ppl are boring today Inside and out

[@turragorman59]

Gone are the days of Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, Elizabeth Taylor or Sophia Loren. Today it is duck lips, Botox, breast implants and everything nip/ tuck one can afford. I agree with you, today women don't embrace uniqueness.

[@snehaphilip5481]

Many old Hollywood actresses had plastic surgery and makeovers in order to fit into the beauty standards of that time.This is not a new phenomenon,it’s just that we are more exposed to plastic surgery because of social media and celebrities being on social media(it was more secretive back then).For example:Rita Hayworth had to change her name (because she was half Spaniard and half Irish and executive changed her original name(Margarita Carmen Cansino)because it was too ‘ethnic’ and having an ‘ethnic’ name will drive away audiences at that time) and also alter her features to make her look more ‘waspy’(electrolysis to make her have a higher hairline and dying her natural hair from black to red and nose job).People from those days have to change their names and looks (uniqueness)in order to fit into stardom.

[@lonewolf8667]

@@snehaphilip5481 Yeah, so many people latch onto this idea that most celebs were natural before 2000. Monroe had work done and some intensely heavy makeup. Her famous lip shape was created with several lipsticks of different shades.

[@chidiogoikeh4550]

These women not only had many surgeries but their faces weren’t really that unique from each other. They all had the same basal face features that we’re and still are considered the beauty standard 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@veronicajata3121]

All of those starlets had to be palatable to the american audience. People always like to look at life before the modern day with rose-colored glasses but that's far from the truth. The beauty standards of today had to come from somewhere.

[@illiciumverum6149]

​@@veronicajata3121Modern beauty standards come from porn and drag culture. Same thing happened in the early 2000s with Playboy magazine worship.

[@kendspan212]

Ok just want to say how stunning you are. You remind me of Marion Cotillard. Also I relate to seeing all of my flaws after being on camera. But I love myself for who I am. After having kids I realized just how perfect we all are. Like, we are walking miracles yall!

[@unblahyourself]

Absolutely! Babies really change your perspective on lots of things. Thank you!

[@allieconzola]

Omg she does!!

[@pamelaritchie3659]

This lady describes herself as having flaws, I think she has great characteristics.She is beautiful, feminine and elegant! Variety is the spice of life!

[@tiny.giant1]

I love that you said they were a box of supermodel chocolates, that is the perfect example of how they looked in that picture. And how humans are in general. Also you are absolutely gorgeous!

[@French-Kiss24]

You are so right! They tried to get Barbra Streisand to “fix” her nose. Thank goodness she knew better. Unfortunately, Jennifer Grey did not. She lost her following because she looked like everyone else. I don’t see asymmetry in your face but I do hear it - just a tiny lisp. It’s wonderful and softens your presentation. For most of my life, I described myself as “not blonde.” I’m a brunette, but most everyone around me had light hair. It has taken me years to celebrate my dark hair.

[@LauraJdogmom]

I was going to mention Jennifer Grey, but you beat me to it! When she got her nose done, she went from interesting and unique to boring clone. Such a shame in someone with her talent.

[@unblahyourself]

Even though I don't know Jennifer Grey personally, I was also very sad to see her fix her nose to fit in.

[@Luxurymoneysimplified]

Kpop idols have entered the chat😭

[@user-po9ne6tx1c]

K-pop fans are NOT ready for that conversation tho 😭

[@Cynical-kl3wy]

@@user-po9ne6tx1cThat’s honestly why I’m so drawn to Danielle from New Jeans, she has such a unique face.

[@teoleno4019]

I used to be kpop fan many decades ago. I got sick of hoe similar everyone looked.

[@rainbowunicornnun]

I thought I was crazy, I legitimately cannot tell them apart within a band and between bands 🙈🤣

[@HollyMurphy3]

I can’t believe how much we’ve regressed.

[@Jacubamustoff]

My teeth are not perfect but my smile is unique and adds character and I get compliments on having a beautiful smile and I am 52 yrs old! Beauty is from within!!

[@seraby7151]

Teeth relate to your health, not beauty. If you have serious problems, it will affect your headaches and jaws down the line.

[@Radhaaaaaaaaa]

I'm glad u talked about it. I thought it was only me who sees everyone look identical these days

[@Mellibellie]

Same

[@betequeue6233]

Funny, how you noticed the negligible asymmetries, there is really nothing that sticks out at all! Lips and teeth don't align perfectly in most people, I wouldn't even think of calling your mouth crooked! Your face looks very well put together actually!

[@unblahyourself]

Well thank you for saying that! I actually had someone email me to call me a crooked mouth hillbilly. Sometimes one just has to laugh about it! 😅

[@RagDollCookie]

"I couldn't tell who it was" haha, that is so accurate

[@lauraschmidt4197]

Wow 🤩 Finally someone is calling this BS out! Bravo! Clone Wars need to stop and people need to just be themselves.

[@xXNekou]

It's a vicious cycle when evey couple of months or years trends change again, and everyone panicks because suddenly there's a new "flaw" they need to fix, and a new standard they need to fit in. It's a never ending battle that we can never win, and we just pour a lot of money and time into something that is unachievable

[@TheMAmeph]

Yeah exactly. I hate the word flaw describing feautures of our looks so much. In actuality there cannot be a flaw, just a different look.. and that's coming around to always trying to adjust yourself to a current trend, right? So early this year a friend of my daughter's asked about a part of her body if that's "supposed" to look like that, and I didn't even understand the question. Did she mean is it healthy or is something medically wrong? No, she meant like according to beautystandards. So first of all I don't know a lot about that topic, and additionally I was confused how she brought it up in our conversation, so I probably didn't answer wisely right off the bat. But since then we try to talk openly about our childrens' worries regarding that topic, and it seems they are especially influenced by social media and k-pop, so that's obviously a global trend across different cultures.

[@Jessi-44]

Same face syndrome is such a strange thing

[@LeahEstella]

I keep feeling we'll eventually swing the pendulum back to center and celebrate all our variations of beauty. The pendulum is always swinging.

[@cosmic_seabunny]

As an artist, I LOVE giving my characters distinguishing features! Big round eyes, sharp fox eyes, oval cat eyes! Small noses, sharp noses, big noses soft noses! Soft curvy bodies, muscular bodies, etc! I have always been a firm believer in unique beauty and practice it myself with keeping my mole and prominent eyebrows! It breaks my heart when people literally CUT OFF/OUT their unique features and harm their body for the sake of looking like so and so.. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! So much for saying the things that I’m not able to say! ❤ It’s nice to know someone out there knows and cares about the value of human beauty!

[@mariagordanier3404]

Good comment.

[@unblahyourself]

@cosmic_seabunny thank you so much!! ❤😘❤

[@lindacurtis7267]

Most of the women on American tv do look like they’re made from plastic. If you watch the news readers and some celebs in England they look so much more natural. Love Hannah Waddingham and Isabella Rossellini.

[@oceansdeserts4446]

Isabella Rossellini lost her contract with Lancome in the mid-'90s when she started aging. She was deemed too old to model cosmetics at 43. How ridiculous. America has always been a youth-obsessed society in my lifetime.

[@lindacurtis7267]

It’s good to see Helen Mirren in ads for cosmetics, although there are still lots of ads for “wrinkle “ creams being shown on twenty somethings!

[@oceansdeserts4446]

@lindacurtis7267 Why are older women relegated to anti-aging products, though? Can't they advertise anything? I buy much more than anti-aging skin care and would like to see more women 45+ without overdone faces, like Drew Barrymore, etc.

[@lindacurtis7267]

That’s a great point! And also shouldn’t we be “pro” aging not “anti”. I do find it difficult to find great makeup for my skin since it definitely changes .

[@oceansdeserts4446]

@lindacurtis7267 I think the beauty industry needs to just use the term "mature skin" or something like that, even if it's just semantics. I'd rather be in that category. I use Rx Retin-A for "anti-aging" via my doc, and nearly everything else I buy in the skin care aisle is just for sensitive skin. That anti-aging term just turns me off. I don't find that any of it really works anyway, and I'm amazed at all the young women now who are spending hundreds on this stuff in hopes of never aging. That's impossible, even with great skin care, a healthy diet, exercise, not smoking, sun avoidance, etc. If all that had worked like I thought back in the '90s, I'd still look 21! Good luck with the makeup. I just focus on my dark, patchy brows and use a bright blush to look alive. I miss mascara, but it burns my severely dry eyes. The wonderful Prescriptives concealer I've used for 29 years is gone, as is the entire brand, and with my eczema, unique skin tone, and mature skin now, I have little faith I'll ever find a replacement when my last tube is gone. It is frustrating that the beauty industry is designed for 20-year-olds who don't have allergic skin.

[@corilia9529]

The celebrities are never happy with their money and looks.

[@dw3675]

That’s the irony of it

[@SpaceyKasey17]

I used to hate my nose until the day I realized my nose is the same as my grandfather. And my brother and some of my cousins. Its unique to our family and its a great daily reminder of this genetic legacy we are all a part of. Somedays yes it annoys me, but i would never get rid of it

[@robincrowflies]

I can't help but think, if women used even half the energy they put into making themselves conform to beauty standards, they would be so much more productive and powerful. We would not need to rely on "beauty" for power.

[@LauRa-xh7db]

I love looking at old potraits and paintings. While there were just drawings they still tried to catch the unique feature in the faces. People like Marie Antoinette or Empress Josephine were considered beautiful, despite their „flaws“, because they dressed well and behaved gracefully. These graceful women would be considered ugly today.

[@milkflavored]

Honestly I hope we shut celebrity culture down before giving up unique faces bc I know which of the two I prefer…

[@Darling_Nicci]

It's not just celebrities though. Imo non-celeberities, wannabe-onfliencers, more often than not are the ones who take these trends to a whole nother level.

[@mandalamia]

If you ever look in the mirror and feel ugly, just remember: the bigger your heart, the brighter your smile, the more beautiful the world.

[@RabidRekijo]

This was in my recommended and I planned to sort of half watch this while I got ready for bed. That didn't work out. Speaking of individuality, I must say you have an extremely captivating and comforting presence. I haven't seen someone so "real" on KZbin in awhile. It's refreshing.

[@unblahyourself]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@JaneCrossan]

I loved your video so much. You look so pretty and unique with your lovely short hair and flattering makeup. Iam over 70 and I despair at the way many young (and some older) women want to look the same, with long blonde hair extensions, false lashes, loads of makeup and plumped up lips. When I was young my curly hair was unfashionable and I wanted a long straight style. I was slightly overweight and I cut down in order to be slim. Needless to say, Mother Nature wasn't having any of it. I now love my curly hair and accept that I will never be slim. I like to see women who have an individual look and know what suits them. I have never seen anyone else address this subject, so thank you ❤

[@unblahyourself]

Thank you for sharing, Jane! I'm glad you liked this video and thank you for hanging out with me. I'm so happy to hear that you have embraced your uniqueness.😘

[@HAMZAPINE]

I was so insecure about my looks which got me into total depression and social anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms

[@FabioPioFersini]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@ToniMonteroroman]

Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@ChristianMaxwell-sz6bf]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosingg was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@FabioPioFersini]

Is he on instagram?

[@ToniMonteroroman]

Yes he is dr.porass.

[@Dwynfal]

Hear hear Diana! I absolutely abhor same face! It doesn't help that I don't find the current same face attractive at all. It's blah, fake and vacuous. I too miss the variety that used to be prevalent in years gone by. I'm constantly attracted by faces that are a little quirky. A crooked grin, a lopsided eyebrow, a scar, a strong nose... Those faces have character and individuality. And they are beautiful!

[@honeybee6154]

Absolutely! 💯

[@RangeGleasry]

A strong nose is my My second favourite after a snaggletooth!

[@Dwynfal]

I had to look up what snaggletooth was. First result back on Google was "What is a snaggletooth and how to fix it" 🙄 What a sad commentary of our society!

[@Dwynfal]

I had to look up what a snaggletooth was and the first Google result was "What is a snaggletooth and how to fix it" 🙄 What a sad commentary of our current society!

[@honeybee6154]

I have a beautiful friend with a bit of a snaggletooth and her husband adoringly calls it her "apple tester tooth". Lol She's very pretty!

[@tinastarrie74]

I completely agree. It's so sad to see young women erasing their natural, unique beauty. 😞

[@shoppingreviews7755]

Well same face problem is also spreading in Korea. All Kpop idols look so the same now that I cannot differentiate who is who although I am Asian.

[@Chicaboom644]

Uniqueness makes life more interesting. We weren't put here to all be the same. Same face, same style, same hair, same makeup. What's inspiring about that?

[@anjamaia]

I have said this for years- “where have all the real faces gone?” (In my * Paula Cole singing voice)

[@juliekrol]

Haha, I just saw Shania’s same face…why, seriously she was so beautiful before 😂

[@saras_jeans]

Wait are you referencing the song “where have all the Cowboys gone?” Cause that’s by Paula Cole not Shania lol

[@anjamaia]

@@saras_jeansyep! Thank you

[@tcgrady2000]

You've said exactly what I have been thinking for a long time. A lot of females today are not really very attractive, in my opinion, because of the surgical procedures, false eyelashes, contouring, etc. I wish this trend would stop.

[@mariagordanier3404]

False eyelashes and contouring are really ugly in my opinion. Glad to know I'm not alone.

[@onazna7123]

Sad but true. We as society lost the value of authenticity and uniquness. I guess it all originates from the same plastic surgeon office. And please, can we see some women aging gracefully and with dignity? You cant win time and gravity but you sure can lose yourself and the battle

[@unblahyourself]

Well said!

[@suzanabrailescu4319]

You're so right! That's what I don't like about a lot of women who aim to look good - they try to look exactly a certain way in both face and body. It's so... dull, in my opinion. And sad. Also, I just have to say that I love your hairstyle. Your hair and earings frame your face exquisitely. It's such an example of how a person can be beautiful by using their unique features. I hope it encourages women to look for hairstyles / colours / clothes / jewelry etc that enhance the beauty they already have, instead of trying to look like the someone else.

[@unblahyourself]

Thank you! That pretty much sums up what I'm trying to help women do! Just be ourselves!

[@gidgitvonlarue9972]

I'm 53 - no botox, no fillers - no surgery- going to last being me as long as I can! Love this video xxxxx

[@desireevisser958]

Same here. And my own hair colour, my own nails, lashes and brows... No tattoos and no piercings except the one in each ear.

[@user-dq2ym1nn9k]

yes. my gut reaction to same-face is always the same. I think "poor thing is so insecure in themselves". Quirkiness and a strong, original character is HOT! I'm drawn to confident, original women like a moth to a flame!! I have been obsessed with the fashion designer Agatha Blois since my teens. Inimitable!

[@dmystfy]

Love the name of your channel. I would say that Zendaya still has a unique looking face. The pic you used was edited.

[@unblahyourself]

That's good to know and also scary because it's impossible to know what's real and what's not these days! Thank you!

[@caras4766]

@@unblahyourself yes, a lot of people now post 'same face' edits (not that they call them that!) of even these absolutely gorgeous celebrity's faces, so it can be hard to tell what's real and what's not. Though I believe Zendaya has had a little work done, she still looks unique and like herself. That photo was definitely an edit.

[@louisemerlyn3834]

Not a classic film by any measure, but there is a fantastic bit of dialogue and acting towards the end of the 1994 movie The Firm when David Strathairn’s character, revealing his long-simmering feelings, says to Holly Hunter’s: “I love your crooked little mouth.” Hunter’s character, until then an irrepressible chatterbox, is speechless for the first time in the movie, until after a few seconds, when she replies, “Well, it’s not my best feature.” 😂🥰 That line has always stuck with me!!

[@mement0_m0ri]

The only makeup I wear anymore is mascara, BECAUSE I feel like any more makeup changes my face too much. I get uncomfortable when I start to look too different.

[@deionna]

I never knew how to describe what I feel with makeup on but this is it! It's uncomfortable to look so different... especially foundation! that being said I think I look so strange with mascara lol so my things are blush and brows

[@paolavitale5013]

Love this! Keeping my big Italian nose has been hard but I’m glad I did. It reminds me of where I come from and people find me attractive anyway

[@mariagordanier3404]

I feel the same way about my big French nose!

[@Morwenna16]

I’m 32, small with no curves and it’s really hard to feel confident when all you can see is women with huge bottoms, huge breast and super thin waist. I feel like a child because of these pics and I have 0 self confidence. I know I should value what I have and I know I’m not ugly but it’s still hard to feel good.

[@jennys.214]

Listen, men love petite women and I’m sure you look great. Just a few years back, NO ONE would want a “huge bottom” and would likely be called a cow (not saying that’s a kind remark, but it’s true) or something similar and certainly not strive to get one! I’ll tell you what men love more than anything & that’s confidence. They also love variety and you’ll stand out in a good way. I’m on the petite side, too, and I thank God that I am. ❤

[@marwaqoura7804]

I am 47 years old woman with 'these ' body proportions all my life naturally and suffered bullying and harrassment because if them, in the late 90's and early 00's !!! ...I got divorced at 25 because of that as my divorcee prefered a flat woman ! I embraced my natural assets and never looked back..Judt do that ❤🙏

[@Joelswinger34]

You have the perfect figure for a 1920's flapper! That was the look everybody wanted. I bet you would look really cute in similar styles to what they wore. They sure did! Also check out pictures of Twiggy,the 60's fashion model. Everyone wanted to look like her. All these body types go in and out of fashion but are all beautiful.

[@unblahyourself]

@morwenna16 so strange how different we all feel about our bodies! I have ALWAYS wanted to be petite and tiny like my mom but I pretty much was born 5'9". It took me YEARS to love my "bigness". I'll tell you what my turning point was, I watched Alice in Wonderland and there's a part where she gets big and slays a dragon and I thought she looked so cool. Weird how it took seeing someone else in a movie scene before I could see myself that way. Maybe look for stylish petite role models that are cool people? Sometimes we need to admire others like us first before we can admire ourselves. I wish you the very best! 😘

[@Morwenna16]

@@unblahyourself it’s a long journey to accept who we are, isn’t it? I don’t really mind being small (I’m 158cm) but, even as a child, I was underweight and others used to make fun of me because of that. I look years younger than my actual age and I know it’s a blessing now that I’m getting older but still, I don’t feel like a grown woman. I’m learning to accept who I am everyday, it’s not easy but I’m sure one day I’ll be confident enough. Thanks to everyone for the nice answers you gave me 🫶🏻