WHEW!! Da'Naia Jaxn TELLS ALL !

[@Tennyson1470]

It is so fitting and hilarious that you recorded a commentary video on Derrick Jaxn in a car - it's almost poetic.

[@TheeJessieWoo]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 oh nooooo I’m hollering

[@thestylingtwins]

Yes!!!😂

[@Shanice___Loves]

🤣

[@nneynaeneyi]

Lmaooo realizing that

[@ymdroid73]

As soon as I saw that I thought she was trolling Derrick and it made me click even faster.

[@indiashante1560]

Da'Naia's issue was she loved Derrick more than she loved herself.

[@tiffanybarefield1227]

This! Her self worth was tied up into him.

[@ascott4502]

THIS🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@DanielleTRushin]

She actually wasn’t in love with him, she was addicted to him. And infatuated. She didn’t love herself at all so how could she love anyone else. Nether of them knew what true genuine love is.

[@Dizizjaz08]

Wow!! This is spot on

[@keke145]

Yup. This is most women’s issue.

[@ebonyevaughn]

2 most valuable things I’ve learned: 1) My grandma always say get you a man that likes you more than you like him. 2) I remember at like 19 or 20 I invited the guy I was dating to a family function and he never showed. I was calling and texting him and my dad told me “there ain’t never a reason for me to have to chase a man. If he wanted to be here he would. Men are chasers and my only job is to choose wisely.” I ain’t chased a man since.

[@sallyhemings2295]

EXCELLENT 🥇ADVICE

[@gigiarmany4332]

great advice, great parents👍🏾🖤🔥💥

[@PrinnyAshhh]

wise people in your life

[@KendraRN]

A whole entire word

[@IvyElizabeth918]

Your dad is absolutely correct

[@leahsletzion3086]

No matter how much a women changes to be 'the most desirable', it will never be enough for a broken man

[@tyiingram9878]

Come on nigh 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿💯

[@brooklynforever1990]

Say that

[@Lady_Tee15]

Yes!!!!

[@CocoChanelle-1]

A LUST spirit is never satisfied. It’s always craving more.

[@jasmynelliott]

If that ain’t the gospel truth!!!!

[@gmarie3082]

YES!!! The verse about parents not provoking your children to wrath is ignored almost as much as the verse about husbands loving their wives as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it.

[@wendivamusic]

THAT PART!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@hermiaz94]

Amen 🙏

[@jennifer-3]

I just posted about this and my mom got mad🥲🥲🥲

[@pinkchiffonluv]

The amount of times my mama preached this verse to me ☝🏽😂😂. It wasn't until I found the second part...she ain't mentioned it again since!

[@mz__jehhh]

Baby…….THIS!

[@goddessinfinity1]

The moral to her story is stop caring what men want and focus only on yourself. Love yourself and only date men that like you more than you like them. Stop being male identified and have your own identity. Being married to men and having his children is not a flex. Being happy, living your life on your terms, having the freedom to pursue your goals and dreams, and loving yourself totally is a definite flex.

[@leahsletzion3086]

Yes generationally women have suffered with personal identity and power, it's now time to step into that value so the feminine and masculine can finally be equal in our society. Let's gooooo Godessssssss

[@hoganessence14]

Yessssss gurl 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@kokowalker]

Yesssss to everything you said!!!💯👐💅🙏💞👏

[@cheriepomba]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@shaybutter3403]

"Her silence kept him around" .. Whew! U had a word today Jessie!

[@thefaithwalkertv]

“Side with misogyny because you want to be CHOSEN!” This right here 🔥

[@TheSpoiledbrat96]

Derrick was the wrong messenger but the message was always sound. The hypocrisy was just ASTONISHING!!!

[@Garglemymayo]

Imo he's the best messenger cuz he was speaking about himself. Get it right from the horse's mouth lol

[@samonej.7335]

@@Garglemymayo that’s a good point.

[@AshleyT716]

Yeah, this is definitely a situation where you had to separate the art from the artist lol

[@Silver.Forest]

Perfectly said.

[@Silver.Forest]

​@@Garglemymayo right! That's what I've been saying as well. Very good point.

[@CharisMaggieTV]

I recommend that y’all go watch the full 2 episodes cuz not only did sis hold herself accountable, she was witty and funny, sassy… a whole mood. Very different from what we saw on her socials when she was going through it. Sidenote: the only thing I wish she held herself accountable for is the curse post cuz it turned out that ppl were not lying about Derrick. I can acknowledge if it was done in a moment of frustration and feeling attacked by ppl judging you

[@rachelsweets]

I agree

[@vernette378]

I agree. She took the scenic route on answering that question when all she had to say was, "I was getting attacked left and right. I was angry and lost my ish in that moment so I lashed out. Period.". Beyond that, I think she did a great job of being honest and taking accountability for her role in the dysfunction. It was enlightening and really sad at the same time.

[@deeniesmothers9310]

@@vernette378 except she went with, "It's not my fault I know my Bible." I know that not only she was dealing with Derrick trifling self, but attacks on the internet too, that's a lot, but now, 2023 she still stands firm and doubles down on it with her master's degree from Oral Roberts University.

[@CharisMaggieTV]

@@vernette378 she lost me when she said “it’s not my fault y’all don’t know your bible” as Jessie said, it’s giving very much extremist. But overall, she held her own in the interview. I just hope she properly heals cuz not taking accountability for that part but everything else has me like hmmm. But everything else, was gucci. She got personality and funny which can take her far to do other things ❤️

[@CharisMaggieTV]

@@deeniesmothers9310 lol it’s the doubling down for mmeee

[@nicolegibsonlmft]

Jessie please continue to speak on these things and KEEP DOING YOU! My husband met me at a party that he was dragged to (he’s an introvert lol) and he saw me cutting TF up! Every time I saw him over two years I was being me 100% and he loved it. So do you ladies cause the right person is gonna come and love you for you. And leave Jessie alone cause there is someone out there for her who is gonna be at Carnival with her partying and still love God. Periodt!

[@brooklynforever1990]

💯🎯

[@TheCRYSTALLURE]

This!! Never dim your light to find someone. And that includes women who are deemed “hard”. Nah. You’re perfectly fine being you!! You will get your person. There is someone for everyone (even the a-holes sooo)🤌🏾.

[@baliplaygirlkji4633]

This genuinely is horrific and terrifying to me. I feel like everything goes back to the way we’re raised because girls who know how to be treated and were shown a lot of affection and attention are less likely to end up in relationships that are abusive.

[@empreenergy3376]

But u can do the work to heal and get better❤

[@jvhunt6319]

Yes

[@cyndigooch1162]

Baliplaygirl Kji That's exactly right and my late father hated girls and women due to his own unhealed childhood trauma issues, hence why I used to be drawn to those types of men. 😥

[@marciawynter5155]

I agree !! She said her mom was 16 Dad was 18 her dad wasn't sure she was his and all his attention went to his sons I guess her mom had to work and did not spend much time teaching her to love herself !! She was just a lost child and her husband use that

[@chandraross1506]

I listened to that video 3 times, lol! Da'naias issues started way before Derrick came along. Her mother failed her. She needed so much extra care given her shyness, timidity and i partly feel shes on the spectrum. She was basically bait for this man. Men are hunters, he knew that she was broken enough to keep quiet and let him live his life. The whole debacle is absolutely insane. Another issue is black woman not dealing with trauma and throwing themselves into church. Thats a whole other issue.

[@cashmereglow7549]

She was sexually assaulted before she married Derrick. But I see the fake sisterhood is putting most of the blame on a woman who was a trauma victim and heavily indoctrinated by religion from her family at a naive young age. Women who come from hyper religious families then being raped on top of that can damage the brain. Any type of trauma affects rational decision making skills. But most women only have smoke for Da'naia. While leaving Derrick Jaxn unscathed. I guarantee the stupid judgmental bishes judging her are *still* subscribed to Derricks channel. Oh wait, they *already* are. Cheating narcissistic men are always coddled. While their victims are shamed.

[@deeniesmothers9310]

I agree, and I question the therapists (3), and none of her giving her any type of diagnosis, not even PTSD, but the girl had unaliving ideations, loosing weight like crazy, and possibly hallucinations (seeing her daughter being lifted up from the bed). Something had to be going on there, even a smidge of depression.

[@chandraross1506]

@@deeniesmothers9310 I also think this girl is a great pretender and also a manipulator. Ex. She would be in the closet trying to get derrick to feel sorry for her, coddle her. Trauma that has not been dealt with will fracture an individual. It's like she has multiple personalities, given different parts of herself and showing up different for different occasions. The way she talked in that interview and the way she talks on her IG are NOT THE SAME. IT WAS SO MUCH TO UNPACK, and it can't be done with one go round. Lol

[@noluthandosibiya108]

That last part!!!

[@labelsandlife]

Definitely in the spectrum

[@shhhperry9852]

Sis when you said demonic… I felt that. I have been thinking “what kind of man can actively be doing this to his wife (and kids), then shoot a video pretending to be the opposite of who he really is”? A man with something sitting on his shoulder.

[@femdivinemind7777]

It’s not even on his shoulder it’s within his while underneat

[@shhhperry9852]

@@femdivinemind7777 when I said something sitting on his shoulders… it’s an old southern figure of speech, that is a reference to demons mounting a person, and riding them like a mule so to speak. It’s just one of those old sayings like “eat the meat, and spit out the bones”…

[@femdivinemind7777]

@@shhhperry9852 oh I know 😄 I was just emphasizing all up in him underneat lol cs whatever he had had been at home for a looong time (a Caribbean way of describing it I guess lol) xx

[@femdivinemind7777]

@@shhhperry9852 sidenote - I genuinely feel like demonic ancestors come to earth same way some chosen ancestors come back

[@femdivinemind7777]

@@RearviewWisdom because they likely carry the same vibration - a lot of church leaders are walking demons 🤧💯🤷🏾‍♀️

[@thevegene]

I need the Jessie Woo Black Womens Calendar. Each month has a black womens theme and each day day needs a joke 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@thevegene]

Each holiday I meant… Not each day!

[@mahoganysoul7195]

💯💯💯

[@trudy_triad]

I was just saying, based on her name for every month, she is an AMAZING content creator/media personality. She must get her flowers. And I ain't talking about the high maintenance ones that die. I mean a golden trophy, the shape of a bouquet. Okay???! 🔥

[@surgtechbae]

I agree!

[@INC408]

This is such a cute idea 😂

[@allusiveallure656]

I’m so happy you spoke on mother-daughter jealousy!!! I don’t even talk to my mother anymore because her jealousy became to much for me. My mother being jealous of me made her ignore her boyfriends abusing me. It also made me extremely insecure and dumb myself down my whole life. My entire childhood I just thought my mother hated me, but as I matured I started to understand she was just jealous that I was lighter skinned; more out going; more popular; and more independent than her. 😥😥😥 that’s a pain no amount of therapy has been able to heal.

[@BeautyNBrains86]

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope your mom will see the error of her ways & reconcile. Jesus.

[@keke145]

Omg so sorry. 😢

[@cochrancochran66]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Honeysuckle73]

(((hugs)))

[@Shemashay]

What’s crazy to me is that WHEN WOMEN like CYNTHIA G tells y’all the truth y’all don’t listen but WHEN A MAN tells you this y’all like “omg really, that’s sooo good” like so many women just have NO self esteem

[@ongoingsky9347]

Exactly! It’s like it doesn’t register unless it comes out of a man’s mouth. Like will y’all please stand TF up fr??

[@min_blogs28landing32]

Speak for all the pick mes. The irony of it all

[@Shemashay]

@@min_blogs28landing32 I’m confused at your comment?

[@min_blogs28landing32]

@@Shemashay I'm saying tell those ( Pick Me women) again and louder so they can try to finally get it. It's ironic (odd) for them to listen to men that are obviously manipulating their minds just to do the complete opposite of what they're preaching to these women, but the women won't take sound advice from Cynthia G who is trying to help them understand a dusty will forever be a dusty with complete data analysis

[@justinebailey5333]

Yasssssssss

[@alyschajohnson6668]

Your videos actually make me look FORWARD to driving, look FORWARD to cleaning. You are literally the best. The BEST.

[@thegodivashorti]

Not you in the car! 😂😂😂

[@diallodiaries9612]

I didn’t even realize the connection lmaoooo

[@tarao4382]

😂

[@TheeJessieWoo]

😫

[@KristyLeeps]

@@diallodiaries9612 Qp

[@CYThornton1]

I immediately starting laughing when I saw her in that car 😂😂

[@Str4b3rryyt]

Sorrows, sorrows, and prayers to her. This is yet another reason why single women shouldn't be listening to these gloating wives. Many of them are struggling in silence.

[@watermelonsavannah]

Jessie girl. You are right Da’Naia is an extremist. This is a trauma response that is common in ethnic communities. I am currently doing my PHD on this, but you’d be suprised how many “anointed” religious leaders had traumatic lives only to emerge reciting holy words in their entirety or being in tune with spiritual worlds. Im not saying it cant happen but theres a certain amount of delusion that comes out of severe mental pain that can give way to this also. This thinking removes deep accountability and allows people to use God to make sense of their pain, or spirits to make sense of other peoples actions. Im not saying God cant do you like he did Job, but sometimes you have to say to yourself naw I was naïve and that was what started this mess. As a people, we need to take heed and heal our wounds at the root cause, I hope Da’Naia can see shes is very close to abusing people the same way she was abused and take heed and heal. This is how the cycle starts. A broken soul who’s pain is labelled as purpose too quickly. They are then given the title of “leader” and start a cycle of abuse in the very place people came for healing!

[@musicbyarnica]

amen love this! well said

[@kat64470]

That's so cool that you're doing your PHD. Do you mind saying what you will do with a PHD? I'm planning to do my masters in marital counseling. I hope to be in your position what day.

[@Tootsieroll9856]

Thank you for sharing! I’m interested in learning more about this. Do you have any resources I can refer to do a deeper dive? This is super intriguing

[@ayukobale321]

It’s not a delusion. It’s finally realizing that only God can give you internal peace and satisfaction. Not your wife, husband, children, education , career , money and what not.

[@LisePlansandJournals]

🎯🎯🎯🎯you’ve said it all

[@EvolvingMama_]

Whew I listened to both parts thoroughly. I def was one of the ones like “ma’mm you look Cray 😐” but God will humble you quick cause I can relate to her entire story😩now I’m sitting here typing this with my helmet of salvation on ‼️😭🙏🏾

[@bestlife9143]

Laughing & agreeing with this message 😅

[@demewharton9646]

😂😂😂

[@danitzahjacobs]

😂😂😂

[@tyiingram9878]

Why is this hilarious 😂😂😂😂. But I can’t shade the honesty. Growth is amazing

[@justinebailey5333]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@joellaibe997]

“The first time he wants to make a public declaration is when he wants to use you to save him.” FELT. Thanks Jessie.

[@mollypercet8593]

Yeah, she lost me on that second interview. Da'nia needs to continue her healing journey away from the public. She has been through extreme trauma and a lot of self torture/harm. I'm sure she is mourning the loss of her relationship with Derrick. He was such a huge part of her life all of her adult life. Those feelings just don't go away because you divorce. She needs more time in silence away from the general public.

[@suras8984]

Your self worth and attachment style are the main things that will dictate the type of relationship you will have. D'anaia would have always ended up with an abuser because her self worth was so low and she had no boundaries. Anxiously attached people will usually end up with Dismissive Avoidants, Fearful Avoidants or Narcissists. All this dating advice is literally just distraction and noise. Attachment Theory is the only thing you need to learn and apply to become healthy and find a healthy partner.

[@Haulapsychology]

Attachment theory is the truth. As a psych grad student this is what I am looking at and literally early life experience dictates your outcomes not just in relationships.

[@sheila1391]

Really working on changing my anxious attachment style to secure attachment style. I feel like if u are securely attached u can choose what is good for and walk away from doesn't serve. Just relaxing in your self worth and confidence

[@suras8984]

@@sheila1391 Yes girl you said it so perfectly!!! I still have a lot of work to do but I can easily spot and walk away from DA's and FAs even though I am an FA myself lol. It has improved my work dynamic tremendously where I really struggled with being valued by trying to prove my worth instead of just being worthy

[@suras8984]

@@Haulapsychology I agree it can definitely spill into other aspects of your life, like self concept, work, career, friendships, family, money management etc. I still have so much work to do but my life has improved so much and I finally feel like I am on a path and not lost like I was. I am no longer attracted to other insecure attachment styles (at least ones who are not self aware nor working on themselves) and I feel like I have healed enough to match with a secure person. I can tell what attachment style someone is within a few dates. I am way more valued in the work place. It's truly life changing!

[@sheila1391]

@@suras8984 turning 30 has really opened my eyes to how I move with no boundaries, people pleasing, being too nice and lack of self awareness and it has made me have low self esteem- I didn't even notice that. Affecting my relationships and my career goals. Honestly, I've been learning lot from you tube videos about being self aware and healing. I just want to be confident in who I am . Healed and happy. I can't wait! ☺️ sending blessings to you on your journey!

[@destinylove1673]

I can always depend on you to defend and uplift black women. Main reason why I click on all your videos so fast Edit: You also hold us accountable as well. Thank you for addressing the pick me’s in our community

[@millsfactory88]

Any month of the year 😂

[@CM-sd1tw]

No fr! I love seeing black woman support other black women

[@thestylingtwins]

Yes ! Love it here.. I miss the brownies too 🤎

[@gigiarmany4332]

EXACTLY 🔥💥🖤❤️

[@arryvul]

"WHEN PPL SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE..." is a Maya Angelou quote.

[@always_priceless5598]

I also used to work at a church and be in leadership for YEARS. My entire 20s and I would never go back!!!! (Well unless God explicitly told me) As soon as I left God moved on my life in a way that was INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!!! He has continued to blow my mind!! I look forward to continuing my relationship with Him over them.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I'm glad you were able to get clarity and draw closer to God. That's a blessing!

[@cb4664]

I wasn’t a pick me, I just got married because that’s what I thought you were supposed to do as an adult woman. It’s the magic formula for happiness: go to college, then get married to your college ninja and have a family. So I got married and quickly realized no that shit ain’t. 😂 I realized I was now simply some ninja’s new mama, effort-free live in sex, live in maid and live in cook and I needed to appreciate that I had a high earning man who chose me. Everything about me was no longer important- I was there for him. He was important. The ninja even convinced me to quit my job and be totally dependent upon him. Pure psychological hell. This was in my mid 20’s to early 40’s. I am now in my 50’s and still haven’t done it again. Been with the same man - whom I love DEARLY since my divorce but terrified to marry him for fear he might switch up on my behind after. I’m also a believer but I just can’t perscribe to the “you gotta have a husband” to be a good follower of Christ. It was the most depressing, inauthentic, gaslighted 😂 part of my life.

[@femdivinemind7777]

As an ex church girlie (born + bred SDA) and what you said about the most demonic men being in church is the TRUTH - the amount of beautiful, virtuous, homemaking, homeschooling, bread making , prayer warrior women who go DOOOOOGGGED out , abused , broken , pushed nervous breakdown etc etc is/was ASTONISHING…I could go back now and break up marriages with revelations of activities I know that went on when I was younger with deacons, married men etc …I’ll never forget how they condemned women who got pregnant before marriages though…

[@moriahminji]

Girl I also grew up SDA. All you said is true. The church allows abuse and church men/boys… let’s not get to that. I have seen soooooo much abuse in the church and a lot of leaders are sociopaths and narcissists. I wonder why abused women turn to the church for help ik multiple that have done that only to be blamed for breaking the marriage and causing abuse. Honestly better to reach out to a professional marriage psychologist or smth. Till date , I fear church men few are fully converted ( spiritually)

[@femdivinemind7777]

@@moriahminji allows abuse , hides it , facilitates marital and child abuse abuse forcing women to stay in marriages (humiliating and ostracizing if they don’t ) sends young women off to get quiet abortions because they got pregnant by PKs, etc etc the church is toxic af - most of my relational trauma both romantic and non romantic is from church people - my first proper church boyfriend in highschool (went to an sda school ) slept with my best friend within 2months of dating lmao like the way they used to go on was WILD even the “godly preaching” ones - it’s like the church was there to put a spiritual justification for suffering at the hands of men honestly - the amount of apples the passed round to show the diminishing of a woman’s value though… 🥴🤔🙄…let you be one to call it out and you’ll be branded as demonic for criticizing the church - I knew a case where a girl got abused as a really young child and this boy was allowed to be around us unsupervised be in the chior be preaching etc her father would give him lifts shake his hand etc looking back im like they don’t/can’t even protect little girls …I remember how many seminars we had about telling the church leadership before the police when abuse occurs 🫤

[@femdivinemind7777]

@@moriahminji 💯💯💯💯 absolute SOCIOPATHS they actually get angry when confronted and dole out weird psychological punishments and try break you down if they realise you’re a sovereign woman - the amount of times older men in the church , deacons and pastors warned boys off me yet I was a very naive very god centered virgin prude waiting till marriage and their daughters were laying it low and slanging it wide at camp meeting from early 🤧

[@Mimi8402]

Lol so true..I’m a preachers daughter and I avoided them all like the bubonic plague.

[@femdivinemind7777]

@@Mimi8402 y’all PKs are the worst wym 😂😂😂 jk jk jk !!! I was always an observer and wanted to wait until marriage so I was kinda out of the loins sharing loop lmao all through my teens I watched them run amok and see how older men would tell them to “sow their oats” but call lil girls fast and tell them they’re leading men to sin for showing their shoulders 🤧😐it’s amazing how many times I was called a jezebel - I didn’t mind much though cs I liked jezebel for some reason 🤷🏾‍♀️ she was a boss ass biblical baddie imo - lol

[@2009Holleywood]

When Dinay talked about their daughter and how she felt jealous of her daughter. And how her daughter looked like the woman he cheated with. She said she felt like her daughter wasn't her own. That was really sick

[@Yespls888]

It was very honest...not sick. Sick is keeping it a secret and harboring hate. Not acknowledging your past feelings and being released from it. Huge difference

[@Lee-ez2pu]

Yeah that was mad weird....it was giving drive off a bridge with the family type vibes....I hope she's truly healed

[@kianajohnson9984]

It’s something that happens all the time, it takes a lot of strength to acknowledge it & get help over it. I’d rather her do that than let it fester & harm or mistreat her daughter

[@sophiafrancois4532]

She was really in a dark place. I don't think she's fully out of yet.

[@GreenGorgeousness]

​@@Yespls888 it's sick and honest. Both are true. You got to look at the sickness in the light to cleanse it, but it's sanitation duty still.

[@camillehomez1894]

This past year has been very revealing to me as to why I am still single (at 39, no children) and haven't been "picked"...lol. Is because I am a truth teller. I will not keep your secrets. Lol. I call men out on their b.s. and hold them accountable. No doubt I have met men, tried in relationships however as soon as they find out who they thought was quiet and a doormat was actually someone that won't let them do emotionally abusive things, will not allow them to use me etc...they run!! Lol good riddance. Nevertheless, I am wanting to attract healthy love and I am continuing to heal. Dysfunctional relationships continue because of unhealed trauma and keeping quiet about and accepting treatment that you are unhappy about.

[@Nitabita_]

This right here! Same! I will not be anyone’s doormat.

[@wendybrewster3935]

Get a man don’t let your eggs all die get a baby no one is perfect. No man is perfect

[@camillehomez1894]

@@wendybrewster3935 Actually, I don't want it any kind of way. I am working to heal to participate in healthy relationships. I won't miss the blessings God has for me. I'm being directed on His path. No, no one is perfect, and I am not seeking perfection. However, engaging with men who are extremely toxic, block building a bond, will not heal/grow, low self-esteem, emotionally abusive, sexually abusive, physically abusive, financially abusive, no commitment, plays games, does drugs, can't keep jobs. wants me to do all the work in the relationship etc. (the list can go on and on) ...that's not ok for me to parent with. Years of putting up with emotional abuse and toxic abuse in childhood and adulthood made me a perfect match for men who want to repeat those same patterns. I am worthy of more. You won't find perfect people in the world, but if you do the work and heal yourself you can be part of creating healthier relationships, where you aren't recreating trauma for yourself or children.

[@mickey10jb80]

You are such a balance. It seems like women are so divided. Everyone is either considered super independent or a pick me and nothing in-between and it's exhausting. Your channel is refreshing AF. I can always count on your take on a topic to be genuine

[@strudelh]

Exactly, I found her channel through her LIB reviews/commentary. Jessie is so funny, but she also tells a lot of truths, she has a very open-minded perspective and I LOVE that ! She sees all sides of the conversation.

[@tawshisms]

⬆️

[@sharnicaxd5321]

WHEWWW THIS VIDEO WAS TOO REAL!! The conversation was so fruitful and you gave us a little bit of vlogging as well!?! Sis the more I watch your videos the more I learn about you and the more inspiring you become you have such a supporter in me. I'm only 20 but I can't wait to grow into such a beautiful, highly intelligent, hard-working and just plain funny woman as yourself

[@deeniesmothers9310]

I was with Da'Naia with all the empathy and sympathy because the girl has been through a lot, but she lost me when she went 10 toes down on her interpretation of those bible verses. A lot of people in the comments were irritated with Laterras laughing, but I think he was trying to tell her she was wrong. Maybe he was afraid she would curse him too. I didn't like her arrogance at that point, and she has a very arrogant way about her when she is "spreading the gospel". It's great she's confident, but there's no humility or humbleness to her in that respect, and it's very off-putting.

[@andreacharles6123]

I stopped listening right at that point because regardless of how she feels nobody lied. Her husband willingly left her unprotected and exposed to these attacks. And she knew this man wasn't shit before we did so that interpretation was trash, degree or no degree. Lost all empathy at that point.

[@Yespls888]

People were also very arrogant with how they were coming at her. I honestly found it comical. I just don't think people like their own medicine at times. There's a time to be meek and there's a time to tell people to stfu...in Jesus name. 😂 Then again, if we like everything about a person...9 outta 10 they're not being truthful. So I'd rather get how someone REALLY feels, "right" or "wrong" than a water downed version of them

[@Yespls888]

​@@andreacharles6123 that's some pretty conditional empathy 😂... Seems like only the people that were attacking her to begin with would take offense. Sure, I thought she sounded crazy at first but I gotta admit, she had a point too.

[@lilyxo6914]

Yup, she was talking all that crap and now wants sympathy from us. Sad she went through that but I do not pity her.

[@smarti1144]

​@@Yespls888 right. she was being tongue in cheek at that point. She was giving dry weird humor and that's why he was laughing. It's very interesting that because someone is Christian they can't really express anger or hurt. Now who she should have taken a page from was Tabitha Brown. Now she can give a sweet version of stfu and stop talking about me and mine. We're in the comment section and hopefully will never know what it feels like to be fodder for the blogs and KZbin content creators who don't know you but have so much to say. Like even white outlets had picked it up at some point. I don't necessarily agree with her interpretation but she did what many folks who have an amen corner online do: use Bible verses how they want.

[@classicrebel9577]

Girl I don’t even want to be a wife. I thank God for giving the ability and strength to manage on my own. Cuz the trauma of marriage with these men ain’t worth it.

[@everydaylifebeautywellness6806]

Jessieeeeeeeee!!!! This conversation is giving me chills. So true as black women, we need to wake up and bond together, learn how to encourage each other, and promote peace, sanity, health, and whole relationships. Great commentary.

[@ClowneryAtItsFinest]

❤

[@Nmendenh-rl6ej]

Please be safe and AWARE of your surroundings Jess. I know you were just at the charging station, but Atlanta is shifting.

[@planetChristie]

I seen Derek at a Hookah Bar in Dallas with a girl a month before he asked for a divorce! I was like this man has no shame. The girl looked young, stupid and happy to be on his arms too. He is fine but ain’t that damn fine to be putting up with the bs. I hope she find a better man and she look so much healthier without him! This why I date other races. I’m not competing over the little black men we do have who is “high value”.

[@seriously2798]

😂chile...am nosy. Was it uptown?

[@planetChristie]

@@seriously2798 lmao no it was a African spot in Addison 😂

[@Callme_Paola]

What sad about this, it is those women don’t care if he is married or not they are happy he is fucking them ( but not for too long tho) because Derrick Jackson will be onto the next one quickly

[@nanaa.4011]

I hope she gets truly healed instead of getting another man

[@LeadershipInTheFeminine]

Wow Jessie! You are full of the gospel and the spiritual discernment is good. You’re so right this was a true spiritual battle for this couple. There needs to be much healing spiritually as well. She felt with extreme situations and using extreme spirituality for it. Amazing take on how this situation reflects on black women as a whole. We need to change or ways

[@agirlnamedkeith]

Girl, my mama loved to use that verse on me until I got brave enough to remind her the rest. I never heard it again. 😅 I’m with you. That man got some spirits on/in him.

[@shantesummers5775]

Girl you brave for stepping to your mama like that. 😅😅😅

[@agirlnamedkeith]

@@shantesummers5775 🤣 It didn’t happen often! I’m fortunate she can be reasonable at times. 😬

[@shantesummers5775]

@@agirlnamedkeith 😂 Well I applaud your bravery. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@privatethoughts85]

"Her silence kept him around" aka We teach people how to treat us. When we continually allow people to mistreat us, we tell them that their behavior towards us is acceptable. It also reinforces a victim mindset by not acknowledging the role we often subconsciously play in relationships by giving others power to mistreat us. That ish is detrimental to your overall self concept and mental/spiritual health.

[@FloEunice]

Thank you lord, something to watch while working because baby part one and two was a lot !

[@Theeglowgetter34]

Yess I’m glad you brought that verse up. When I finally started reading my Bible and came a cross that very next line , I literally drove right over to my momma house and had a conversation about it!!!! Because I’ve been bamboozled !

[@notjustaprettyface]

Right 😂😂😂😂

[@jemimajanvier4706]

It really stood out to me that she became pregnant 3 times while he was openly cheating, deceiving, and manipulating her. I just can't fathom or reason how and why a woman would let a man have access to her body under such circumstances, and to willingly participate in bringing children into the dysfunction. I command her for her bravery and for taking accountability, but I also agree that she is not fully healed.

[@BeautyNBrains86]

Well said! My exact sentiments!

[@nightingaleofficial3604]

She admitted she’s not fully healed when she was asked about dating again.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

Technically she was pregnant 6 times

[@minkagaston]

6 times. She said she had 3 abortions.

[@reinajalana]

When we look at some of these naturally gorgeous celebrity women who feel the need to keep going to get outrageous cosmetic surgeries that greatly distort and eventually diminish their looks...all the while continuing to deal with dudes who aren't nearly as attractive (in looks or personality...and sometimes financially).. Tells you all you need to know. The mind is something else. Low self-esteem, low self-respect, massive insecurity will have folks out here doing and putting up with all KINDS of crazy, illogical things... Not to mention, you combine that with other parties willing and ready to take full advantage... Nasty but very common combination and recipe for disaster. 🥴😔

[@at_homenaturel8169]

You hit a lot of key points Jesse. I watched her interview and even though I can empathize with her, but the fact that she needed three therapists makes me wonder whether she was trying to do whatever was necessary to keep Derrick in her life or was it really to save her sanity 🤷🏽‍♀️.The part in the interview where she talks about crying in her closet just so he can come find her and console her tells me that she knew how to manipulate him too, And if one thing didn’t work then she would try something else. She was in too deep with the toxicity. Hats off to her though for taking some steps into healing, but like you said you can’t use the word of God to curse people because your “husband” asked for a divorce 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@reedkicker443]

No, the three therapists aren't the problem. It's most likely she didn't see the correct type. She needs to see someone who is trauma-informed, whereas most work using CBT which doesn't work for a lot of people, especially those with severe trauma. Also she is suffering for toxic Christianity she is really caught up in it.

[@yaisa111]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😏 that alll that☑️

[@femdivinemind7777]

She had his kids by then - she said she wanted him to find her but I don’t know if he actually did - she was crying because of how he was behaving so I wouldn’t say it was manipulation tbf

[@Seaux_What]

She was absolutely manipulating the situation as well.

[@Sstephluv03]

I’m glad you mentioned she has a lot of healing to do. Because during the interview they both kept saying she’s healed.

[@deeniesmothers9310]

Ooh, she is far from it. Hasn't it only been since last September? Nine years of abuse, plus abandonment, SA, ect., and in less than a year she's healed? It's great she can tell her story, but she's had a lifetime of issues.

[@LisePlansandJournals]

They kept saying ‘healed’ cause it’s the name of the $7k course she’s selling.

[@Ladylanier329]

Yessss just be yourself if he’s the one he will love you the real you.

[@SincerelyAngie]

Yes, spiritual abuse is real. As she was telling her story, from the beginning until the very end he was manipulative. From the asking her if she was a model in school to him living in a condo away from his family. He groomed her and planted seeds since the start. Thank God she is coming out of this stronger than ever.

[@monicasoyombo3360]

Facts.

[@TB-ev2hg]

I truly appreciated her vulnerability, transparency and accountability. One thing that disturbed me greatly is her perceived jealousy of her own daughter. Another thing is that he ended the relationship. She had no real intention of ever leaving him. Lastly, she contemplated unaliving herself several times due to her marriage. Her self esteem and self worth were nonexistent. She admitted not having or setting rules, expectations, standards or boundaries. I pray my own 18 yo daughter never falls victim to this

[@Promentalist]

Jess you are becoming very dependable for what needs to be said. Thank you my good sis! Now let me go stream your new song 🎧

[@milkteaserenity]

I really need a relationship/general advice video from Jessie, I’m always amazed by how well she analyses those situations.

[@Simyfy]

This idea of being married is the most important thing is across the board. In Indian culture (my ancestral culture) women are told to endure getting beaten and only up until recently did divorces become somewhat “acceptable” what a sad world it is to be a woman

[@Lady_Tee15]

So sad

[@amby3805]

Even at the end, he was the one to end things after everything she was put trough. I hope she has truly healed and closed that door forever, but realistically this is the type of healing that will take years.

[@Ashley-so3ce]

Subscribed! Your commentary on this situation and the current state of black women was SPOT ON and also objective, especially the point about Da’Naia being the model example for how the KS types preach that women should be. Nothing but facts!! I also loved the interview she did, because her testimony was so important. Sis held nothing back, and we need that right now more than ever

[@kishaquiller505]

I hope women learn from her. Being a pick me seeking marriage as validation when you just get dogged walked. Validate yourself stop looking for another person to do so. Now she has done all that just humiliated and a single mom

[@dionysus9876]

Derrick is a whole a** demon. He totally disregarded her mental, physical, and emotional health for YEARS! Just played straight in her face. And then made a profit off of videos subconsciously telling his wife that he's trash and she should leave him. And she didn't. I can't believe HE asked for the divorce after everything she went through?! Ain't no way!

[@psionicpowers132]

Karma never misses any address, he will regret it..

[@Karsyn_Marie]

Narcissist

[@gingerhoney4031]

Da'Naia Jaxn is a prime example of what you get from following KS's advice.

[@RQWhatItDo]

What?! Lmao Ik y’all have this deep instilled hatred for KS, but cmon now. Da’Naia was not the type of woman Kev championed.

[@kmack3561]

Yeah that did not make sense Ginger

[@seektruth5750]

@@RQWhatItDoif you’re talking looks then that’s why KS advice was the bottom of the barrel. She was submissive , let him cheat, non confrontational, loyal, domesticated, all those things KS claims men want and got with him before she was even 20, meaning in her YOUTH AND PRIME and he still was dirt to her. KS was a hypocrite who died with I believe a hooker or something like that by his side, not married, not leading a household and a poor relationship with his kid, so no. Also, he took pride in hating bw and the women he praised like Jeannie Mai, saying men,I know he meant bm, marry women like her, well, the divorced in less than two years and it’s messy on her side, she’s having a whole. I guess he’d say she’s having a “feminine diversion”, spare me. And yes, he championed everyone other than bw.

[@suras8984]

Jessie! Thank you for calling out this girl for not being in a good place and talking about how she's going to be peoples new saviour! People in the comment section of that interview show exactly that. People are putting her on this pedestal and talking about how healed she is and giving her a major pass on her cursing video. It had me flabbergasted. Why cant people empathize with her without getting fooled. She is into very extremist christianity. I saw the videos of Derrick being some type of priest participating in knocking demons out of people when he's the biggest demon of them all. If Jesus followed the old testament he would have let those men stone to death the prostitute; so using the old testament to back your wicked intentions of harm on other people is not it!

[@merzay3583]

This‼️‼️‼️

[@nicole_121]

Yes!!! I was looking for this! I was wondering why no one was catching that extremist religious rhetoric she was speaking in that interview.

[@100crystalbell]

Yes Jessie I was hoping you would cover this thank you. It’s sad that she looks better without him than when she was with him and also thank you for Koupe 🇭🇹

[@redaries1971]

Totem pole. Great video! She got PLAYED and she participated in it. She’d probably still be with him if he didn’t divorce her. He used her insecurities against her to her detriment. He was talking about himself the whole time.

[@Rhi86877]

It's a blessing. She may feel rejected but it's the best thing to be pushed out of such a toxic relationship.

[@KieshaDoubleU]

This week I learned how much I have in common with Denaia Jackson and Summer Walker. I legit paused at the shock of the similarities in our stories. I’d like to think I’m pretty empathetic but I did rag on Ms Jackson when she had that bonnet on. Now I feel bad cause I was geeked to marry a bad boyfriend too smh

[@smarti1144]

We're all just human sis. At least you recognize your own humanity. Many people should really know the damage thay can happen when you are attached to a person who performs narcissistic behaviors.

[@paperpetalsllc974]

My bestie sister gave me this advice: 1. Marry a man who loves you more than you love him. 2. Take care of yourself and be the woman YOU want to be, before marriage and especially IN marriage. She’s been married for almost 30 years and is the BEST woman I know… whole, happy, and relationship is still thriving. And yes Jessie we need more convo on how some Christianity is breeding women SLAVES! Lawdy! I really cackled when you had to clarify your relationship with the unbeknownst married man. 😂😂

[@bee4ever976]

I love this!!!

[@BeautyNBrains86]

This whole thing was heartbreaking. She endured so much, but chose to stay for long suffering and being put first. There's no trophy for exhaustion, low self-worth, or unaliving oneself. There's so much to unpack and so many unanswered questions. I pray she gets healed & finds joy & peace for her & her kids.

[@kardiair2]

May not come when u want him...BUT JESSIE U RIGHT ON TIME‼️ BOUT TO SIT AT THIS DESK JOB AND CRACK UP😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤

[@ruthannleverett7206]

Me too!

[@TheeJessieWoo]

😭

[@deannalenyce]

Omg yes I never clicked so fast 😂

[@anissa2361]

Yes I love watching these during lunch, lol

[@DaDonAquarius]

Derrick always benefited from their success. She was the brain of their operation

[@BeautyNBrains86]

🎯 You're so right!

[@drcandybonsu995]

She was honest and am glad she was able to talk.. but we definitely need to extend her grace for sure

[@ShayePenny]

Jessie got her a ride now! Congrats 👏🏾. I don't watch your commentaries of the shows so I be so happy to tune in when you post other videos. You don't disappoint

[@minaobas]

Obviously she’s getting better…I admire the fact that she’s speaking her truth.she’s beautiful and hilarious,she gon be alright.

[@berniceappiah-dx4ue]

Not only was this so insightful, It highlights the growing issues of mental abuse in so many communities. Especially Christianity being used to enslave so many women. It's so sad. Thank you so much for your delivery on this important matter.

[@KhloKay]

This video needs to be seen by all......thank you!

[@diamond08101]

Derrick was talking to his wife the whole time about him!

[@rosereign888]

Not me randomly opening KZbin, and seeing this!!! I’m running to my TV! To light up and crack up 🍃😭❤️🇭🇹

[@notjustaprettyface]

The very women they tell you they don't want is who love and who they cheat with 💯 you preaching sis 🙌🏾🙌🏾 this is the most genuine, insightful but raw commentary that I've seen on this matter 💪🏾 you gained a sub sis 💯💕💕 keep shining and educating!

[@dsami3207]

Love your analysis hon and I agree with everything you said. I read a comment on another post that basically said, the narcissist in Derrick would not have allowed her to put herself together before making that video. He thrives off her humiliation, and there was a strategy in place. Her not being put together would technically give him a pass - she's unkempt, doesn't carry herself well, so he had no choice but to cheat. Sis has a lot of healing to do.

[@salidathomas78]

Moral of the story.....there is nothing you CAN and CAN NOT do to keep folks (cause women cheat too) from cheating. They do it because they WANT TO!

[@bestlife9143]

Honeeeeey the way I clicked so fast I think I pulled my finger. Let me get some more coffee ☕️ 😅…and it’s 1:11:11 angel numbers. I’m on the floor ❤

[@mbalenhlebuthelezi3198]

Keep em coming Jess... I live for this notification!!!❤❤❤

[@theselflovebae]

Jessie I can relate. I went through something similar with an Ex. He had me acting out of character and I legit had to start my faith walk over and Thank God for God because wooo I definitely was healed and changed. Now I know better about boundaries and loving God and loving myself. It definitely felt like the man had me for real out of character though. I feel so blessed to know the full definition of love. Also out here in Cali ain’t no fine men at the supercharger stations 😂

[@motherof1294]

Yes, this hurt that I am feeling over him building with a woman while I thought we were together. I began to act out of character, and this did not stop until he and I got back together

[@Thebritneydavis]

This video is so real and raw!

[@naturallydope6971]

Jesse! I'm so glad you touched on this topic. When I watch that I immediately said to myself she is damaged. All the smiles and all the talking does not cover the pain. I really hope that she really finds her healing self in-and-out. Because what I saw on a another platform and what I saw in this interview she did with him a little different but I'mmma mind black business.

[@Silver.Forest]

New subscriber recommended by my daughter. You were so on point on everything. EVERYTHING! From a 56 year old mother.

[@izmane]

You're so right. Because Kevin himself said when he was trying to go built men up he didn't have the number until he switch to women.

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

I love how they all skip pass that video

[@loliloli6582]

In this one video you spilled so much knowledge and addressed many important issues, you are an 😇this information is more helpful than any of those two 😈😈 ever could, this is a jewel.

[@viyoolacouronne6419]

Jessie with the Tessy😍🔥

[@ongoingsky9347]

I’m glad you touched on something few are saying. It’s a little scary how many are treating her like some savior light of hope. I see a scorned woman on a revenge tour. Two toxic people having their issues publicized and put on display and for all we know they like the attention.

[@amoss9737]

Exactly! I don’t understand how she’s a hero for speaking out when the whole internet apparently knew the truth before she did. We didn’t need all the sordid details to know he was a horrible husband. A lot of these details seem like they need to be kept in therapy.

[@LisePlansandJournals]

A revenge tour is exactly what she’s on. Christians, everything you go through doesn’t mean you need to ‘go int ministry!’

[@KW-zw8zq]

As always u be speaking facts 💯. Im so confident that your person is gonna find you and hes gonna treat and cherish you like the queen that you are. Love & light ❤

[@dniquemorgan]

I will say the act of wanting to understand "Why Her" you will find yourself becoming an expert n the women you perceive to be better than you/what the man you loved chose. Solely placing that as a demon negates the nance of trauma and abuse that will cause you to see yourself as the problem, which for most people positions them to want to "fix" the issue. This is how gaslighting evolves to abuse.

[@jessicarabbit439]

I strongly encourage all black women who are spiritual/relgiouse to listen to the lectures,books,audiobooks of 1. Neville goddard, 2 dr joseph murphy real non misogny interpretation of the bible.

[@beekutie1396]

I agree w/ all of this!!!!! That part about her Christianity feeling very extreme...yup. I got the same feeling.

[@lacecocoa6272]

24 years old and when I tell y’all, I have never had a boyfriend. I do want to start dating, but a part of me is so happy that I have never been a woman who chased after having someone under me. I think a part of it Hass to do with I had an extremely dysfunctional childhood and I have a lot of siblings, mostly brothers and so I saw what women would put up with just to have a man and I never want to be that type of woman. I want a happy life and if I do have a husband, I want to raise my kids in a good home I’m not putting up with cheating. I can do bad all by myself. I could take myself out to dinner. OK I can give myself orgasms. I don’t want to deal with the bullshit. And I think too many women need to stop believing in social media height of what the fairytale image people want to betray. Everyone has something going on behind closed doors no relationship and I mean no relationship is 100% perfect.

[@kmags8065]

25 years old here too , we are in the same boat sis , dating is really scary out here , the pool is full Of sh**t , when I look around people in relationships are out here playing games , hearts getting broken , then I decided to concentrate on my degree , I was told I would never marry coz am too independent, to be honest I even don’t know wat to do 🙄🙄

[@nolilolittle3986]

Girl same here and I'm 26. Dealing with subpar men is a generational thing in my family and having that knowledge plus experiencing it pushes me to be independent and have little tolerance for any man's BS. It believe I need therapy but I'll never settle for less.

[@copiouscat]

Yeah just turned 28 here and on the paperwork to finalize the closing on my new home it said “an unmarried woman” 🤣 and I never had a long term BF nor married yet because I saw all the shenanigans other women went through and said that’s not it. Ima do for myself until a man genuinely wants to be with me. It’s a different level of respect and approach from men cause they know you can’t be bought or easily Eff’d with (both literally & figuratively) being hardball has definitely protected me from madness like Da’naia & Derrick Jaxn

[@ShantrellYoung]

I’m so proud of you 😭😭 I loved seeing you chat in The Tesla looking pretty n shit 🤗🥂

[@4noory]

Jessie, you really have that special sauce! You command attention whenever you speak, I stop what I'm doing and listen. Thank you for taking the time and effort to make these!

[@keishananealey6508]

You really speak my mind and heart. The church’s are filled with hurt ppl projecting their mess.

[@Bree5three]

Glad you saw the religious zealotry I saw in her too. I fully sympathize with what this man put her through but I don't want to see her building a brand and ministering to other vulnerable women anytime soon. To stand ten toes down on quoting scripture to curse people is wild, especially if you claim to be so far healed and educated in seminary that you're ready to start a ministry. No way. Someone with true Godly wisdom would've taken accountability for the misplaced anger and apologized instead she wanna stay wrong and strong. It's giving pride and ego, much like her estranged soon to be ex-husband. Will continue to pray for her healing but please no one buy what she's selling.

[@ruthawele2102]

I love u Jessie, U hold women accountable. I love your honesty.

[@imamodel91]

"I'm black ...hehe but not regular black" .. literally what I use to say to explain my background to people 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 love you beautiful. Thanks for another great video!!! Congratulations on your song release and video!!!!

[@gotKiaasoul]

What is regular black…

[@SweetUareDesi]

Make jokes that make you look good

[@AfriqueAmericanPrincess]

What does it even mean? We have to do better? 😒🙄😑😑

[@TiffH82]

Low key anti black sentiment that a lot of “foreign blacks” spew. 🙄

[@changeoffocus1074]

@@gotKiaasoul literally just posted the same question then saw yours…. What The F is Regular Black ? lol 😂 Black that wasn’t dropped off? Like str8 from Africa original black? WTF 😂😂😂

[@Astrologcomedy]

Derrick is a CANCER girl 😂😂😂 you warned us bout them !!

[@TheeJessieWoo]

THIS IS MY MINISTRY!! WARNING YALL!!

[@Giggles50]

They are the worst!!! They are feminine and try to talk to any woman possible pretending to be their friend.

[@Minding_my_business]

Wait what’s wrong with cancers 😭 I just met one and I like him lmaoo

[@jamelablack]

@@Minding_my_business for now… 😂 (jk)

[@sherriew36]

I'm a cancer woman and I steer clear of cancer men....they are so sick

[@BeautifullyBrown]

Chile, the way she has been spoiling us with this content! 😁❤❤❤

[@cadyg2531]

you spoke a whole word, took me to church tbh 👏🏾