Who Will I Marry? | Jonathan "JP" Pokluda

Most of us are searching for “the one,” hoping along the way we’ll find the person we’re supposed to marry. But if you don’t know what you’re looking for in a godly spouse, you won’t find it. In this message, we look at 1 Timothy to learn more about what qualities we should look for in someone.
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Ayeee love to hear it!

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Same

[@JohnSmith-fu2kz]

I just started dating my first girlfriend ever: I am 21 she is 19. She has never had a bf or kissed anyone and I have never had a gf or kissed anyone... Thank you for this advice, I am continuing to pray about my relationship as we grow in Christ together, Thank you so much for this God

[@dapperdan1017]

Word of advice. Same situation, but we're both 21 now and have been dating for 2 years. Have fun and learn about each other, but do not lose sight of your goal: marriage. It's an evaluation first and foremost. Do not be scared to talk about uncomfortable things. Seek out conflict and vanquish it together, dont ignore issues. I'm in that spot now bc I don't know if she has the same drive/fight for goals in life and for her pursuit of me as I do for her. You want someone that will always pick 1) God first, 2) you second. Everyone else and everything else comes after those two. I'm scared about the possibility she might not change and I must leave as to not have a potentially horrible marriage. Pray for me and good luck. Trust God

[@cbebop5]

@ Dapper Dan, this was very sound advice you gave, full of wisdom. Lifting you up in prayer, may the Holy Spirit guide you to the right decision. God bless.

[@Buyeke]

@@dapperdan1017 Hey. I don't know about your particular situation but I do know that most women don't make as much effort in pursuit in a relationship. Like personally I wouldn't even know what to buy my significant other for their birthday 😂🤷‍♀️it's not such a nice thing but that's how we're brought up. We're taught to be wives and caregivers and to cook and clean but nobody teaches us how to really treat a man's heart. I'd suggest you talk to her about it SERIOUSLY. Give her a little help or ways you'd like her to show pursuit Also, you could introduce a system where one weekend of every month you sit and analyze how your relationship has been going for that month. I think that would really help

[@hamilton9651]

21 is an infant...try being a man who is single and never dated at 41. And I am sick of hearing how little Susie didn't get enough love from daddy, so she dates Johnny Thug and ends up abused and divorced by 35.

[@willyoung6488]

JP you have impacted my walk as much as a pastor can that’s not my local church pastor and I can’t thank you enough for your obedience in bringing out Gods word so clearly. Praying for your continued blessing and impact you have on others

[@brianmiddleton1002]

"You want their repentance to be as notorious as their rebellion" 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

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I’ve must have watched about 4 sermons today going on 5 now. I just can’t get enough it’s awesome! 😄

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Saw the livestream yesterday and was so stoked that JP was back! :D Thanks, Porch, I love these messages so much :D Thank you Lord

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the porch is ridiculously amazing. I always feel and see Christ through y'alls teachers/preachers so thank you. and JP is my favorite pastor.. he's the most compelling one I have ever heard

[@lilibethburkhart1540]

Hoping this video gets a million views cause the is the Truth so many need to hear. So blessed by this!

[@EricGMaina]

So glad Jp is back!! Love from KE

[@luwin1111]

JP!!!!! Ugh... So excited. He's great.

[@Mkayzeee]

Thank you for inviting PJ back!!!

[@rosalinamichael3094]

this is really good thank you. i am encouraged

[@seascape1059]

An awesome sermon on this topic. Best one I have seen by far! So encouraging. Thank you 💕

[@intangible7404]

This is awesome and just as good as his Fantasy Wife and Husband series, but the Fantasy Marriage one pins the entirety of marriage and the bible together in a way I've heard from no other Pastor

[@irenemillersieme8151]

I absolutely agree! The Fantasy series transformed me!

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So grateful for this ministry

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🔥🔥 always a GREAT word. 🙌🙏

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God is doing amazing things🙏🏼 I’m so grateful for him. He saved me.

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Love this church so much

[@elainemiller266]

Thank you Brother Jonathan 😊👍

[@kendrasiddiqui9991]

this is wildly awesome

[@dapperdan1017]

I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 21, been dating since 19 and this has been a huge impact on how we evaluate each other.

[@niniwiens8587]

Jp!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@pawanmunnangi7128]

My ex broke up with me and one of the reasons she gave me was that she didn’t want to wait for the first kiss. And she wanted a godly man! 🤷🏽‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@dapperdan1017]

Yes if someone wont respect you avoiding something that you feel will tempt or make you stumble, she is not for you. Kissing isnt wrong nor ungodly, same as hugs, hand holding, cuddling etc. What's wrong is if you become sexually excited (turned on) from that actions whether its holding hands or kissing, you should not do that as to not awaken love. "For everything is permissible, but not all things are beneficial" -Cor 10:23

[@wagingwar5553]

🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

[@peterkettler2070]

God Loves YOU...

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The Porch is so lit xD Just starts off with a heavy trap beat lolol. #JesusIsDope

[@mscottster444]

I love this guy. JP is the best. Just bought his book 💪

[@mariahconklin4150]

Nice! He has a book out? I may just have to check it out . I’ve seen two of his sermons and they are pretty great.

[@nrcarl00]

Mariah Conklin what book?

[@ColtenHood]

I felt personally attacked at the part about Proverbs 3:5-6 😂😂😂

[@redblacktichy7713]

In the past the people may not divorce from each other but not sure that the marriages were better than nowadays. For example see the Roosevelt-couple

[@BruceJC75]

I’m definitely in rebellion about marriage, and I’ll keep moving the goalposts for myself till the day I die; but at least I don’t practice witchcraft with all that enneagram BS.

[@michaelgrass9940]

One is missing. If you read NKJV it is actually 6 things that Timothy was supposed to be an example. We were missing Spirit.

[@mariahconklin4150]

That’s why I think it would be so much easier if both parties told their testimony every ugly crappy thing they’ve done so that they can move on and be happy.

[@doricesaya4474]

@Mariah conklin I totally agree with you

[@porscheG56]

Idk man. If God leads your steps, and the plans he has for your life. He included the person for you to marry. Your telling me he though of EVERYTHING but left that one thing out?

[@jennyfer757]

Hey can you guys seriously talk about “when you’re the bad guy” “when you’re the cheater” because I can’t seem to move on from my ex and feel as if I’m the one who ruined the relationship. I did. I cheated. I wasn’t with Christ then. But now I am and was wondering if you could just talk about letting go of what you did B.C. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@DD-pv2jl]

Was your first kiss with your now spouse after or beginning you two were married? So tired of married people telling singles how wonderful singleness is. Try being an older single treated like a second class citizen by the married people in the church, & feeling like you’ve been forgotten by God.

[@mariahconklin4150]

Psst. Even before he told me about his life I research people but you never truly know someone until years later unfortunately.

[@kkluvdancey51]

AMEN

[@TheCondescendingRedditor]

What if she's a suitable spouse and would be a great mom and is very physically attractive but I just don't feel anything for her beyond that? It might be a problem with me, how do I solve that?

[@Midnight_Lantern]

I am absolutely against taking the Lords name in vain as a believer, but to say anyone who swears because they got something slammed in the car of a door, et, that theyre "unclean/poisonous/negative" etc is rediculous, legalistic, and majoring on minors. Theyre just words, and what deems them appropriate or not depends on context, how often theyre used, where and how.

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@32

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32:36

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[@debbybird996]

Not getting married again no reason to made a promise to self he knew an had nothing to say except to disrespect my boundaries an keeps trying not

[@hamilton9651]

Many churches are directly responsible for the large number of older single adults in longterm unwanted singleness! Happily married pastors ignore the real needs of singles and tell them to be content in Christ Jesus and they don't even need a spouse. While technically correct the way the needs of singles are wholesale ignored and their feelings disregarded I have no time for these videos telling me the same dismissive information.

[@DD-pv2jl]

So true. Singles are treated like second class citizens by the church. Married people in the church (including those in leadership roles) are more than happy to give singles (especially older singles) bad advice because it is no skin off their backs. If these married people telling singles how wonderful singleness is, I’d like to see these marrieds take a vow of celibacy until every single they know has a spouse.

[@hamilton9651]

@@DD-pv2jl That will never happen. I'm sick of hearing use your time of singleness to improve yourself and get closer to Jesus. Are you seriously telling me that every married couple did that? Especially the ones married right out of college?

[@lydjoy3385]

@@hamilton9651 no they didn’t use their time wisely, which is why half of marriages in the US end in divorce. and the remaining half that is still married isn’t perfect. some of those couples shouldn’t have been together in the first place if we’re being honest. and christians aren’t an exception either. lots of dysfunctional people who should have gotten closer to god while they were single, and gotten some healing. i believe (and i know, because i’m single myself right now) that if more christian’s ACTUALLY worked on their relationship with god, god discipline, and therapy, they wouldn’t be jumping into marriages or relationships every five seconds. they have made marriage an idol and that is reflected in the divorce rates, the infidelity running rampant in their marriages , and their children being out of wack with god.

[@melaniemartin4319]

What is 1 timothy?💙💙😘😘

[@enduring22]

The bible...1st Timothy is in the bible

[@hpebrent]

This is poorly titled. It is instead a message about what ro look for.ih its got jokes and laughs But its zero help for the faithful Christian single who hasn't been asked out or met anyone. Is there even someone for the single desiiring marriage at all? Without prospects? And his fake apology to singles? Fake because nothing will change. There are a thousand messages on KZbin exactly the same as this one. So what? Despite the words blah blah, the church will still treat singles as second class. How about you srep out and actually help?

[@Linda-ot3pj]

I still believe God has something to do with finding a spouse. He put ADAM to sleep and created EVE. Specifically for him

[@mskindness8117]

I am a Christian Filipina woman struggling in dating. I am looking for a single Christian guy. Anyone here? Been dating non-Christian singles got tired getting hurt. :(

[@supplantermusic9413]

Jesus is Lord

[@feliciaconnelly6508]

Jesus did not get married because we are his bride he is our husband and he would not commit adultery.

[@xulanwang3041]

I honestly thought this is some cult church when seeing the sermon title lolll🫠😂😅