Why and how you sabotage love (+how to stop)

[@gatsbyspet9344]

When I’m alone I crave emotional and physical bond, but the moment I actually start talking to someone I completly freeze and then try to run away as fast as possible. Why are we our own worst enemy?😩

[@laurena9215]

Saaame and it's really bothering me as if there was another me that didn't want me to be happy. It's tiring and saddening

[@kaurin3311]

'we' aren't, YOU are

[@vanessasalamon8750]

Maybe dive into attachment styles, I would say your style avoidant attachment

[@flamingaish]

@@vanessasalamon8750 fearful avoidant

[@junyaiwase]

better question is why you are not seeking help

[@TheEverGrowingRosey-333]

I’ve noticed I’ve sabotaged friendships, from feeling like I was being abandoned & that became a self fulfilling prophecy.

[@amandaconstanza]

oh god, I think I do the same.

[@karvemi3716]

same sis, it gets really hard sometimes

[@Ryan-jq8ov]

seeing the end before it happens is truly a curse

[@grace.flores1731]

Thank you for this!!! He literally just broke up w me but that’s bc I worked so hard to ruin the relationship just to confirm my insecurities. :(

[@AnaPsychology]

Ahh I’m sorry to hear that :/

[@prettyangelic]

Wow, I’m glad that you pushed your ego down and recognized that. It takes a lot of courage, it’s the first step to bettering yourself. Continue down the endless path of knowing yourself, I wish you good luck on your journey!

[@darthtyranous4514]

To know your failures feel worse, than to not. But it is necessary to become better. Keep going, little by little, I'm sure one day you'll find someone :)

[@baguetteluvr]

i got this recmmended after my breakup too its really sad he was the healthiest longest relationship ive had :( he told me to heal myself with all the advice i get , i really want to make up for my mistakes and change my mindset so im oing to do my best :((

[@anonymous-zo4qh]

it's tough to realize that you are sabotaging yourself and your partner, while thinking that you are putting a lot of effort into the relationship fun stuff

[@ameliarodriguez-py7jg]

I sabotaged my last relationship. Almost everyday I got upset at whatever he did and I realized now it's because I haven't healed. He was a great man I can admit that; quite understanding, responsible, mature literally ticked all the boxes. He grew up around healthy marriages where if there was a problem they would communicate while in my family there would be arguments and fights everyday. I was told to talk to a therapist and I tried 2 but they haven't helped one bit. I still hope we rekindle in the future

[@IvonaFlakus]

🥺 I see it’s been a year 🙏🏼 how are you now?

[@evalisseblooms]

wow same

[@Psych2go]

This is a good topic!

[@vijayshrinivas4863]

Hey 👋 You have a great channel 😄

[@kayshawn.]

AHH MY TWO FAV CHANNELS INTERACTING??

[@MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA]

Damn good material.

[@Abba-dabba-doo]

Psych2go is the last channel you guys should be watching if you care about credentials, veracity, or fact checking lol

[@meagles1333]

"gaze at reality, even if it isnt what you want to see" solid advice

[@rhonnieminnie]

my ex self sabotaged a very healthy supportive relationship. his past relationship was extremely toxic, so i feel like he tried to "overcorrect" by leaving me so he could justify that he does have the capacity to leave a "bad relationship"...except, he ended a good relationship in a bad way.

[@riccardodelloste2949]

Self-sabotage is so harmful I can't even tell. I feel that in my case there is a fear of abandonment at the base for that. At least, that is what came out from my therapist. The thing that surprises me the most is that, apparently, I tend to self-sabotage potential relationships before they even turn romantic. Probably for fear of rejection and for fear of being vulnerable. I am not even sure whether that is a thing that has ever been researched It was an interesting topic! Your videos keep helping me in this journey of self-development. You are amazing!

[@alexdevcamp]

This has been very helpful for me. I just went thru a breakup and realized we both contributed to the failure. We both had trouble proactively working on problems, which led to her becoming uncommitted and me pretending the relationship was better than it actually was. In the end, she left me even though I was still committed. I wish I could go back with what I know now, but I know I needed to go thru this to learn and grow. Hopefully next time will be better.

[@jimm3205]

WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY do we do this? I RUINED MY LIFE by self sabotaging the absolute love of my life. This girl was like she stepped out of a dream. Beautiful, sweet, INTENSELY affectionate, so deeply in love with me and I treated her like GARBAGE. I NEVER thought I'd have it in me enough to lose such a precious gift. It's been 35 years and she's still always on my mind.

[@cielnguyen1308]

I think she is still thinking about you too, and wishing you well, because I was too in a similar situation...

[@lynnlytton8244]

My guess is that it was terrifying to have that relationship, knowing there was a possibility it could end. I would also guess that at least once a nasty little voice in the back of your mind told you she was way too good for you and any minute now she would leave. The only way to control the outcome in those circumstances is to leave her, or to treat her like garbage until she leaves, and you can at least feel like you were right all along.

[@mal.28715]

I am in the same boat. It surprises us - well it surprised me I never thought I would be the one to do the hurting either, I always thought that I’d be the one to get hurt. Nobody talks about what to do and how to get through it when you’re the one that’s done the hurting. The guilt and self-hatred just eats you up and it feels like I can’t even do anything.

[@bleachynator]

I’m also fighting feelings like this while trying to function in a new relationship. I am acutely aware of why/how I was able to feel and act that way, but I can’t understand how to stop and I’m worried I’m gonna do it again.

[@combobreaker449]

My ex-fiancée of 4 years would tell me they wanted quality time, then when I made plans or hung out with them they were always on their phone. They never really wanted the quality time, and self sabotaged the relationship. No amount of gifts, touch, words of affirmation (would say I said I love you too much and she felt pressured to say it back, weird behavior), acts of service, etc were never good enough for her. I ended it because it was getting to the point where my own sanity was starting to unwind. They can figure it out and sort through their own issues, but it deeply pains me knowing how much I still love them.

[@debwood4298]

Thank you I believe I have fear of commitment! I am currently in a relationship and going down the self sabotage I have done many times before

[@kannine]

This made me realize how much I've been sabotaging many relationships in my whole life :) it happens everytime, when i like someone, i want them to like me back, the second i know we have mutual feelings then I'd just run away ;-; too many excuses ;-; it scares me until now..kind of knowing and afraid that i might fuck things up. Too complicated yet sad at the same time

[@hirakchatterjee5240]

I always end up with people where both of us sabotage the relationship with a combined effort , and almost all the points you mentioned tick. Its like all of them happen . It has just left me over with a very bitter taste, and I have been fed up of hurting myself and others. Too bad I am discovering this video too late, could have saved some trouble if this video was made a few years ago. I was about to give up on being in a relationship ever again, maybe this will help me re evaluate , thank you doctor.

[@basedneeble7350]

Wim hoff meditation will change your life

[@mekman4]

Thank you for this. Anxiety has always caused me to sabotage close relationships in the past. Not every relationship, but anxiety has made me assume the worst where there was none. And I fear that my anxiety has been contagious. Thank you.

[@Victa444]

I never get past the talking stage, i knew I was the main cause of it but didn't quite understand why I do the things I do or how to stop

[@bianca4829]

This brings so much regret. Hopefully we can all heal from this nightmare roller coast. ❤

[@jazmincortez1297]

Your skin looks bomb

[@DannyBoy443]

As she is describing what not to do, there is a theme underlining good behavior that would handle all of this: Be honest in a simple non angry way and do it consistently. I like to handle this by asking a LOT of questions to my girlfriends about what they're going through. Couple that w/ choosing someone well and a little leadership, and that would be a good base.

[@o.revi.]

Oh yesh...these silly annoying feelings we all dont like about ourselves 😂😭 Dr. Ana, thank you for making this video ❤ It helps to hear you talk about the concepts and ways to go about with it. I say that because I am many of some that didnt have a loving father who was a narcissist parent and who didnt know to communicate nor work with my mom. Then I get myself into relationships with men who blame me for making them feel a sort of kind of way of themselves because I didn't know how to communicate. So I took the blame because that's how I'm conditioned. But no more! I'm happily in a beautiful relationship with a man I got very lucky to catch via dating apps. Communication is key and to know how to practice on communiting is incredibly challenging. It's not part of most individuals' language landscape. It's literally re-programming your mind to respond differently to a romantic dilemma. Mental workout baby 🤸‍♀️🤸🤸‍♂️ Much love to anyone who is finally able to speak gracefully on their own behalf ❤

[@kellyjelly1624]

I've done this a couple times until I worked on myself, then I met a man who did this to me and it is painful to experience, and very frustrating. But you can't force someone to see their worth or get help

[@davidevans7477]

Sometimes I have sabotaged, other times I was scared I was sabotaging, but was really just noticing what I did not want to believe. Like being straight lied to, serious mismatch of actions and words, etc.

[@rcz2023]

You are wise beyond your years, thank you so much for making these kind of videos.

[@Sam_Martyn]

could you do a video talking about how people get attached easy, i found out that in some cases it links to abandonment issues and that is something that applies to me and with how you go into so much detail i’d love to see a video on it :))

[@nat-gp6bx]

thank you for this! recently had to end things with the person I was seeing for a while because she did something really self-destructive (old behavior from prior trauma that cropped up again after years) that hurt me and us really badly…even though it’s so hard for both of us she decided that she needed to step back, go to therapy, and try to figure out what’s going on with herself and heal from whatever trauma caused her to act out really out of the blue and self-sabotage something really great and healthy…it was hard to hear that she thinks it’s because she, subconsciously, probably feels like she doesn’t deserve it, and is scared she can’t live up to what I/we need, so that fear took over and yeah…it’s hard… we have lots of love for each other but at least right now it’s for the best 🥲 and I’m glad she wants to nip this in the bud and work on herself and if we decide to come back together sometime in the future I’m sure we’ll both be better for it

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’ve been guilty of self-sabotage so many times over the years. I’m not sure fully how to stop myself 😅

[@juliets.5958]

When I watched it at .75x, that was the right speed to watch so I could absorb what was being said. Thank you!

[@miniscusapogee9129]

felt this felt this felt this felt this felt this felt this felt this felt this

[@90210raul]

This is some good stuff, self-sabotage if feel is more prevalent in those of us with a bit of a narcissistic personality. Thanks for the insight.

[@snaakie]

Not really. My ex wasn’t narcissistic at all. Just really really scared. More like OCD relationship

[@felipecorena5692]

In a way love is still involved, to fall quick is to involve love that's in all ways, you got in a great topic. A house with love in it is better than any lie that's about love.

[@oliviadart612]

Thank you for this video I really needed this. I just spent whole weekend with my boyfriend and I wanted it to be amazing but I was crying the whole time :(:(

[@universalcreator888]

This channel is gold. Thank you

[@patrickrad1735]

To help people that’s great to help people that need it 😊

[@virginialee5065]

Very informative video, tysm! I've never even been in a romantic relationship lol, but now that I'm nearing 30 I feel like I'm really missing out and I guess there's an underlying reason behind the fact that I've always considered love not worthy of my attention...? I'm not aro/ace, so that's probably some kind of negative stereotype or something along those lines. Moreover, I come from a country with a pretty homophobic government which has desided to lash out on LGBTQ+ people, so exploring my needs in a relationship as a bisexual is kinda difficult atm 😅 For everyone who's interested in this topic I really recommend a TV show called "Couples Therapy". It has really opened my eyes on some of the negative behaviors that people unconsciously engage in. A must watch, I'd say.

[@musklemon5698]

I watch your videos all the time, they are so informative and calming at the same time, I have always thought psychology would be interesting if ever I started reading about it, but your channel is so perfect to learn. Thanks a lot Ana! Please keep uploading your research and everything like you already do

[@hammerbro2005]

this is the most helpful thing i’ve ever watched

[@sanecatlady]

Still something I struggle with. I'm planning to get back with my ex but I'm ashamed of what I've done to him in the past and even though he's moved on from that and still wants to be with me, I still resent myself for the things I did. I didn't realize how much I needed him until now, and I still am scared I'll mess up the relationship with my insecurities and guilt from the past.

[@basedneeble7350]

My partner doesnt tell me somethings, like she doesnt tell me whats shes doing very much, even if I ask wyd, she doesnt share as much as I want to know and i dont know how to communicate that without it being a self sabatage-like situation. And its a long distance relationship. So im ignoring my feelings about it and just going to settle for this for now cause i know i can be overthinking sometimes. But theres something about this person that i fundamentally dont trust and it sucks cause i dont know how to rebuild trust, especially with how she communicates. Makes me feel miserable sometimes, because i dont always have trust issues in the past, its just with certain people who communicate poorly, or kinda superficially.

[@G.Syunaflor]

I am in the same situation

[@sheldon3043]

This really helped me understand where I went wrong in previous relationships and what I need to do moving forward to cultivate a growth mindset. I’ve been learning a lot from the gottmans as well.

[@patrickrad1735]

Great job I am getting a lot of things done with this so fantastic job I like the advice 😊great job 😊😊

[@SoVidushi]

3:54 i remember ana using this anecdote as her own past experience in a previous video, idc who it happened to, it is a good example either way :)

[@christianyaerger1751]

It might be useful to explore how these patterns may emerge in childhood in response to emotional neglect or the like. Internal Family Dynamics is a wonderful topic and I'd love to see your take on it!

[@JacobSouthall-t6x]

Good video . I liked it because u gave different ways and examples of why and how we self sabotage because there is not just one way or reason people do it, so it’s good that u were conscious of that

[@WorldofAlexia]

yayy Ana 🇷🇴 so happy to be one of the first to watch! Love your content

[@luissanchez1435]

Thanks Anna 😊 I learn so much from your lectures. I appreciate your work for social dances like me ^_^ no bitterness towards relationships but enjoyment and excitement now

[@patrickrad1735]

Great job keep it up with new KZbin videos channel

[@Joshuajdhidjdh63625]

ALL TRANSITIONS EXIST with love and goodwill, all toxicity continually extended to the depths of entrpy.

[@Ryan-jq8ov]

Acceptance (number 5 in the video) for me and maybe for some others reading is we have to accept our partners expression of love even though we don't see it in ourselves or we feel we don't deserve it. People will love us for reasons we will never understand and have to accept and trust the feelings our partners have are genuine in order to continue and maintain a healthy relationship without self sabotaging. I pray to whoever is watching this video and myself that we will find a partner that makes us feel safe, secure, and loved.

[@137Enki]

How to stop self sabotaging; Become aware of the traits of self sabotage that you being to your relationships Learn to trust more Be a better communicator Provide a safe space in the relationship for healing and understanding Have a level of understanding and acceptance for where you are and where you want be to have a healthy relationship

[@cheickonate]

thank u so much!!!! you deserve billions of views your videos can save lives 💗💓💞💕

[@user-jy6es8qp5c]

Thank you. This resonated deeply.

[@beningo6052]

I've been learning a bit more, as I want to say this, I want to learn more about relationships and how they function. I noticed that I can be overbearing sometimes, and overall have high expectations over everything. There is still a lot for me to improve on like commitment, being honest about my feelings, and healthy boundaries.

[@ecchyu]

Omg samee I wanna learn more. I just have a hard time since my friends can't really give me advice as to how it is. Can we link up so we can talk about our experiences with this.

[@beningo6052]

@@ecchyu Link up? Like you want my socials? I don't use many socials anymore. I only use Facebook..

[@ecchyu]

@@beningo6052 Yes or create a group for people like us. Then we will join 😇

[@Mpower31]

I really liked all the ways you said you could stop or not self sabotage I just wish it was presented a little slower and maybe with some examples?

[@IvonaFlakus]

Okay, thanks for giving me a list of eeee-verything I did in my previous relationship 😭😭😭💔

[@ZacheryTurner-r8c]

The amount of times I’ve self sabotaged because of feelings of loneliness and abandonment from multiple events countless friends in my childhood have made me end up here where I ruined the best relationship of my life because I was stuck in my ways and was being dishonest, I would never ever cheat on my partner but I was afraid that I wouldn’t live up or they would leave me eventually. I feel so worthless because she was the best thing to happen to me and I don’t even know what to do.

[@brentbutner1208]

Very helpful video. This describes me to a tee. Trying to figure out how to work on it.

[@annie123311]

An incredibly enlightening video, thank you!

[@jellyrcw12]

Your channel is incredible!

[@Caseyisforeverr]

Thank you Ana! I learned a lot!

[@allanngaruiya7219]

Love this video so much. IS THAT A MBDTF PAINTING ON YOUR BACKGROUND ❤❤❤❤❤

[@1994melee]

What should I do if my partner is self sabotaging?

[@AnaPsychology]

Not too much you can do to control another person’s behavior! You can only communicate the effect it has on you and urge them to work on it through therapy/educating themselves

[@amandaconstanza]

I was wondering the same, my self sabotage is to date people who sabotage relationships

[@everyminutecounts]

I needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@PurpleMetal75]

Self-sabotage is definitely a problem for me, but for far more complicated reasons. My first crush died in a car accident when I was 13, and that alone has made it hard for me to trust anyone. I feel like everyone around me is deluded by rom-com logic, and I'm the only person who knows the truth. I see some overly happy couple, and all I see are two people who don't understand that it all ends in death anyway. Everyone I fall in love with is unavailable, and those who are available are so naive that I can't stand them. I'm 32 now, and I'm at that point where I'm ready to give up and say that my first crush is the closest I'll ever have to a real relationship. It sucks, but it looks more realistic as time passes.

[@Kitty-ex2gq]

sounds like you’re in love with your suffering. Maybe let it go or marry it I guess.

[@eleniusxx]

@@Kitty-ex2gq What it sounds like is that OP needs therapy. I wouldn't be so harsh, the person has clearly been through trauma that they can't process on their own and it is fucking with their perception of love.

[@Dgeaurhedaikn]

I’m curious how you’re doing now 2 years later, has it gotten any better? Also I don’t think love needs to be avoided just because it will end. No matter what tragedy is ahead I think it’s still worthwhile to love someone until then.

[@sciencefreak2021]

Kind of off topic for this video. But in the future, could you do a video and/or series on emotional invalidation. I personally feel it's something that doesn't get enough attention in general from the public eye. It's caused me a lot of emotional harm.

[@skswldms]

Welp, too late. Thanks for the advice, though!

[@Laura-du5qi]

I'm the sabotager it's because I feel stuck. I am a very communicative person but my partner angry issues get in the way of me wanting to be vulnerable with him because I just get yelled at or I get petty and rude comments from him if I ever feel bad about something between us. I'm not complaining about him but some things he does trigger me and when I take the time to open up, it feels like he is closing his doors on me and start being defensive which make me want to not talk to him. I don't know how to get some support from him instead of feeling like he's against me. it's hard for me to believe he loves me when he says it afterwards.

[@Ana-dl7zl]

Uhhh that doesn’t sound healthy or like a relationship you should be in… you’re definitely not the sabotager, that’s a natural response.

[@GuidetteExpert]

Did you let him know?

[@TheStarz2826]

Leave him. You’re better off being single and happy then having to deal with a man who can’t control his emotions and brings you down. 🤷‍♀️

[@dylangeraci23]

this was fantastic. thank you!

[@aminatamonicasesay3256]

Thank you,I needed this

[@buriedtoodeep1508]

It's also ok to just be & be by yourself. Life is a rollercoaster of situations that require adaptive change, to some degree; it's how we find our success techniques. We are animals with biological impulses that aren't always in our own best interests. Remember, she's more animal than princess, because the princess parts are all transient, social and psychological constructs - often incongruent with real life as a living, breathing animal.

[@dmPesantes5]

This was 🔥

[@edehobinna]

I discovered your channels today. You have very good contents. I will take my time to watch your videos during the weekend. 😎👍

[@arisha8278]

When he's close to me, I push him away and when he's away I miss him so much. I've recently tried ending the whole thing inventing excuses all of a sudden and how it hurt him breaks my heart. I don't know where the line is between self sabotaging versus actually leaving cuz one's fundamental standards aren't being met

[@Grobrotha]

This is a ton of information in 10minutes. I will need to watch again and again

[@timetoblossom1203]

I know all in theory, but hard to apply in real life relationships when subconscious, inner child , wound , trauma and triggers are dancing all together at the same time

[@lliw4934]

I'm loving this series of videos, please keep doing them, to explain this kind of papers is high quality content !!! Thank you !!!

[@baizhuwaitingroom7057]

I see myself in this video all too well. xc And then there's my boyfriend who confessed to me he used to be abusive in the past and is scared of repeating past mistakes and I can see a bit of it now too (being pushy and trying to go fast and fantasising about our future in a way that is either unrealistic or is too intense for me at this stage lol, mostly). We're a good match in a way that we're both extra flawed it seems, but at the very least we're good at communicating honestly and being vulnerable and addressing our issues without fighting.

[@mariovj1764]

Hello great topic as always, Can you provide more info maybe related to Borderline personality disorder, usually many of the person with this condition tends to sabotage themselves

[@mikew790]

Thank you Ana. Your videos definitely help:( :)

[@mikecarbone828]

Salutations Anna! I suspect that I have employed some of these techniques in the past and that I may be avoiding any potentially romantic relationships from developing as a result of some past traumatic experiences. I am not quite sure how to overcome some of these defense mechanisms now. Thank you for posting these videos! Please have an excellent and awesome day! ✨☀️

[@btownballer27]

Based on the first 10 minutes I'm absolutely screwed. You rambled off my entire marriage.

[@ShubhamMarmat511]

Don't try to get a reaction out of them no matter what

[@MrSomebodyStrange]

Well, looks like i'm done with long term relationships then

[@xionelectra]

I don’t understand how trying really hard in a relationship to make it work could sabotage it, I’ve also never been in one so maybe that’s something

[@mariaeugenius]

Yasss about to watch this while I work, love ur vids Ana ♥

[@dayanahoyosvera4170]

Great video!

[@MariaHelena-uk8zu]

Unfortunately I think my own dad does most of the things that are talked about in this video... like it's been months since I started to question his attitudes, to the point of wondering if he really loved me and my sister - maybe he's ""just"" sabotaging it all without realising. The inferiority complex, the "checklist" (this one I think that has a lot to do with sexism too, idk it just feels like any woman in my dad's life that doesn't/ didn't "play the role correctly" of a mother/wife/sister/daughter isn't worth of anything), the story of being hurt once... it's crazy. I'm now in the work of healing myself, but as I'm still living with him, I try my best to talk but he takes any criticism as a personal attack, saying that I'm poisoning and ruining everything... it's tiring, he thinks that he's always right. So now I'll focus on myself and avoid repeating his mistakes in my own relationships... or should I keep trying to talk with him? Anyways, it's been a while since I first watched your vids, they showed up for me in almost divine timing as I was already deep into a moment of reflection lmao Seriously, your channel has helped me to understand so much... I'm extremely grateful for that ❤ (btw english is my 2nd language so I'm sorry if my comment was confusing ☹)

[@aidenbull7776]

I notice that one of the methods of sabotage is clinging to your partner, but one of the solutions to sabotage is commitment. It seems that in some situations, there's some level of conflict between these ideas. For example, let's say that your relationship finishes the honeymoon phase after 1 year together. Shortly after you begin experiencing conflict with your partner. Your partner quickly comes to the conclusion that the relationship will not work out perhaps because this their first or second time experiencing this. They then express their desire to end the relationship. In this situation, it seems that putting effort into sustaining the relationship at this point demonstrates both commitment and clingyness. What would be an appropriate balance in this situation? Or am I missing something important by posing this question and example?

[@majoritypatella2503]

My 2c. Commitment is good, but how you do that matters. I see clingyness as being akin to overly-attached. Additionally, the dialogue should be open between your partner, and if they want to leave the relationship it could be discussed, but ultimately you should respect their decision regardless if you think their reasoning or current experience is flawed. You cannot directly provide them with growth, they must provide that for themselves. Anything else, might suggest you have some kind of saviour complex or "i can fix them" mentality, which I think would be unhealthy.

[@Gpr1me]

I’m currently heart broken. My girlfriend just left me at the very peak of my affection for her. She just seemed to become completely emotionally detached from me for no no reason at all… I’ve asked why and she just shrugs her shoulders and says she feels nothing and she doesn’t know why. I’m struggling… Help!! :((

[@TheUnbeatablePro]

Not much you can do except withdraw and move on or give her time and space. Either way expect the worst.

[@mackenzieusher8025]

Being single is a good opportunity for self improvement. Try identifying your problems or weaknesses, and get to work on them. Seeing a therapist can often help with this, depending on where the issues lie. This will in turn improve your confidence. You don't need her to be happy! Getting broken up with is hard, be kind to yourself.

[@stevenmercado5205]

Buna ziua Ana 🇹🇩💙💛❤

[@sealwhiskers3515]

WHEN I WAS 14 A GIRL BROKE MY HEART SHE TOOK ANOTHER GUY TO MIDDLE SCHOOL PROM AND I'VE NEVER BEEN THE SAME AGAIN BTW ARE YOU UP I'M DEEEAAAADDDD

[@glipglap]

How do you know if you're sabotaging a relationship vs the relationship just isn't right for you?

[@ID_Kevin]

It can be alittle overwhelming to consider everything all at once

[@AnxiousTrap]

Great video

[@papaainsl3705]

I have trust issues , but I still give it a shot

[@MrApplewine]

I really liked her and when she didn't text me after a week I sent her a message to get her to reject me, which she didn't respond to. I think this was an attempt to intentionally sabotage the connection. I didn't even know if she had my number or got my message before I did that. I hadn't slept well in two weeks due to a housing situation and had to move. After I moved and got some sleep I was shocked by my behavior and regretted it. I felt so much shame that when she ran into me many times after that and said my name I didn't try to repair the situation. I was only 21 and was not myself.

[@Kanoly]

9:19 I looked out my window for the car also.

[@Poppy-yx8js]

I want to hear about why outsiders might sabotage your relationships with others- including friendships.

[@brooklyn26]

It's a great video it help me a lot🤗

[@aquavit]

don't get into a relationship thinking it's going to be permenent, because it probably won't.