WHY ARE FRENCH PEOPLE SO RUDE? 😤

Bonjour, it's Théo 👋
Welcome to this new episode of "Spill the French Tea" where we dive into French culture ! Today, we are trying to understand why many people think that the Frenchies are RUDE, and if it's really the case... 🇫🇷
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[@aurevoirpet-ourfrenchlife6772]

We live in France and overall we find people very friendly. However there are the odd one or two rude people who we have encountered but we just say that you get rude people in any country. The last one was a woman who accused my Husband of stealing her trolley in Lidl and was trying to take it off him despite the fact it had his empty bags in it. He gave up arguing as she was shouting really loudly then she saw her own trolley further down the aisle, shrugged her shoulders and left his trolley. Now that is rude. No apology or nothing. 🙄

[@emperor_ivan]

That’s not just rude that’s fucking ridiculous lol

[@frenchguytheo]

Oh this woman was out of her mind 😭

[@raymondpaderna9215]

I've been visiting Paris since 1984 & every trip has been pleasant & memorable for all the right reasons. The locals I've encountered have consistently been accommodating & polite so this reputation of rudeness among the French still eludes me up to this day.

[@frenchguytheo]

I'm so glad you had great experiences in France!

[@ramona100]

We went to Paris last year and stayed for over a week. I expected a bit of rudeness but honestly experienced the opposite - everyone in the shops and restaurants were warm and kind (and one cashier at La Grande Épicerie ensured that we did not over pay for a cloth bag). Everyone seemed to want us to leave happy. We fell in love with France and will be back!!

[@fabricerubio1070]

Yes... but we were stinky !!!😂😅😂 Kisses from 🇫🇷

[@frenchguytheo]

I'm so happy you had a great experience in Paris!

[@andrewbhurvitz6298]

So touching. You describe the integrity of bonds in France. Another way of thinking about "rudeness" is that the French so value their friends that they don't care to perform superficial things with people they just met.

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank you !!

[@KrisKk08]

It seems counterproductive to be rude to people pouring money into your city as tourists though isn’t it? Especially if you have a business that depends on tourists.

[@juneparham576]

Merci. I have been to France several times and have only met a few rude people.

[@alicedrobot]

Wow, you speak english so nicely!! I am love with your blog❤🌷🌷

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank you so much !

[@Parischick11]

Great video! I have very pleasant encounters in France (the occasional rudeness but that’s not just France and I don’t take it personally) I have never had bad experiences in Paris and have met some of the loveliest people (locals) there. It does help that I speak intermediate French 😊. And I’m probably French underneath as I’m direct, honest and not afraid to speak these words. 🤷‍♀️

[@frenchguytheo]

Thanks for sharing your story ! I'm glad you've met truly kind French people

[@mrhairymechanicman]

Having just returned from spending a whole month in France I would have to say that the French people are hands down the most friendliest and kindest people that I have ever met!

[@frenchguytheo]

Oh I'm so happy you had a great experienced !!

[@katrinlausch3078]

Only in Paris but I met people from Paris in the Bretagne and they were the kindest and most helpful persons ever. People are people you will find nice and rude ones everywhere 🤗

[@jfrancobelge]

Indeed, no country on earth is exempt from rude people. Paris in particular has the drawback of any large city worldwide, it's a source of stress that takes its toll on people and their behavior; saying this as an ex-city dweller, now a "refugee" in the countryside 😀.

[@frenchguytheo]

You are so right ! You can find kind people everywhere, so don't waste your time with the rude ones 🙏

[@denisemarino3021]

From the USA. You explained this topic extremely well. I like your mom. She seems like a good, caring woman.

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank you 🙏

[@manuscriptsdontburn]

Theo, I have good news for you: the word 'honest' is pronounced in English in a French way, without 'h' 🙂. I know how difficult it is for the Romance language speakers to pronounce 'h' but in this word you can just relax and skip 'h' at the beginning. I like your channel, you create positive vibes.

[@mahandogrusoz7679]

Theo, I am watching you from Istanbul! You are doing a terrific work!

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@berkeleyfuller-lewis3442]

I'm an American who has visited France 11 times. Countless times I have observed other Americans (mostly unawarely) doing everything possible WRONG, while interacting with the French. I WAS very lucky to have had an incredible Parisien high school teacher who taught us not only FRENCH, but ALSO French manners and customs. Being calm, soft-spoken, POLITE and patient -- those are NOT "American" habits. Growing up, we all instead learn that being "assertive" and "direct" -- "gets results." But such behavior in France translates as: "I am a superior person. YOU don't matter. Do what I want -- you peon." (This is the EXACT OPPOSITE of "equality" and "fraternity." !!!!) Even in Paris -- I have seen massively over-worked waiters who have gotten pretty jaded (shell-shocked by 3,000,000 tourists a year!). So, in Paris Bistros (not in super-rush times), I enjoy "melting a waiter" -- by being calm, funny, and showing that I get his or her challenging life! I usually succeed. This is not "all about" US pushy-and-unconscious-appearing 'Murkins -- we are visiting THEIR country. (Google-Translate French below . . . ) Je suis un Américain qui a visité la France 11 fois. D’innombrables fois, j’ai observé d’autres Américains (pour la plupart sans le savoir) faire tout ce qui était MAL possible, tout en interagissant avec les Français. J'ai eu beaucoup de chance d'avoir eu un incroyable professeur de lycée parisien qui nous a appris non seulement le FRANÇAIS, mais AUSSI les mœurs et coutumes françaises. Être calme, parler doucement, POLITE et patient - ce ne sont PAS des habitudes « américaines ». En grandissant, nous apprenons tous qu’être « assertif » et « direct » « donne des résultats ». Mais un tel comportement en France se traduit par : "Je suis une personne supérieure. VOUS n'avez pas d'importance. Faites ce que je veux, espèce de péon." (C'est EXACTEMENT LE CONTRAIRE de « égalité » et de « fraternité ». !!!!) Même à Paris, j'ai vu des serveurs massivement surmenés et assez blasés (choqués par 3 000 000 de touristes par an !). Ainsi, dans les Bistrots de Paris (pas dans les périodes de pointe), j'aime « faire fondre un serveur » -- en étant calme, drôle et en montrant que je comprends sa vie pleine de défis ! Je réussis généralement. Il ne s’agit pas uniquement de « Murkins » américains à l’apparence arrogante et inconsciente - nous visitons LEUR pays.

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience ! I think you are right on this thing about not pushing too hard, taking the time and letting French people do the job in calm ! 🙏

[@MLeonard317]

Thank you for sharing this video.The only person I know who's French. He is Very Funny and Smart. He is not sullen like Anglos think French are.

[@frenchguytheo]

Oh I'm so glad you've met such a good person !

[@christiannikodemus]

I am from Canada, and my first ever French teacher in elementary school didn't like me and singled me out in front of the class, when I got to high school my French teacher was not as mean but was just mean enough that I didn't participate in French class and ended up failing and taking another credit instead. I only knew how to say my name in French until about a year ago and then I met someone who is Acadian from Canada and super nice and began learning French on Duolingo, I'm now almost at an A2 level and love the language. I didn't realize I was associating the whole language and culture with just one mean teacher in elementary school, since I now have a whole new appreciation for French culture I became curious to learn more about what I tuned out for so many years!

[@frenchguytheo]

I'm so glad you had been able to experience French culture differently after this bad teacher ! It can be so hard to overcome a bad first experience when you are a kid !

[@janebaker966]

They're not!

[@elvergreen5284]

May I share? I feel calm, open and interest watching you videos😊

[@frenchguytheo]

This is so kind! Thank you so much 😊

[@medman6649]

French people aren't rude, not even in Paris. I'm American and spent a week in Paris, and everyone I delt with was polite enough, with very few minor exceptions. Hot tips: Don't dress like a scum bag, and make an attempt to speak French. Also, be courteous! If you are polite (say: hello, excuse me, please, thank you) people will be polite back to you. Amazing concept, I know.

[@drum7121]

I just don't like the arrogance

[@shweefranglais7900]

I think you have summed up the French psyche very well ; both the good and the not so good. I think a big thing for foreigners visiting is to really make a huge effort to learn the language. It goes a long way towards building good relations. It is your homeland, your country and we are always guests even if we live there. I do not live in France. However I am working very hard on my French and aiming to achieve a high level of fluency in time. Of course what each individual can achieve is going to be different. Your English is very fluent; except ,uncharacteristically, you got the title wrong. "Why do people think the French are rude? " or "Are French people really rude" would be correct.

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank for the title correction ! I've just changed it 😉

[@rddavies]

I think you (as a visitor) have to radiate the right kind of energy, understand the rules of politeness and yes speak and understand French. If you do that it's fantastic. If you don't understand what's expected of you, if you can't speak and understand, if you've got a chip on your shoulder then yeah, not every experience is going to be a good one.

[@KrisKk08]

When French people visit Italy or Spain as tourists are they fluent in Italian and Spanish?? 🤔 When French people visit Asia are they fluent in Asian languages? 🤔 When French people visit Portugal are they fluent in Portuguese? 🤔 Etc etc etc..

[@idontknowwhyihavesubcribers]

One thing about the French is that they tend to be quite self-aware ;)! It's true that they can be a bit tough with strangers, but a French friend is a friend for life.

[@frenchguytheo]

That's true!!

[@anastasia10017]

A Frenchman I have been acquaintances with for a few years came to my city for a week. I arranged for him to have free accommodations (cat sitting), I spent the whole week taking him sight seeing and when he left, I got not one word of thanks. Not a text. Nothing.

[@frenchguytheo]

That is so rude !

[@anastasia10017]

@@frenchguytheo and that is why the French have an international reputation for being rude.

[@LivsT5]

This is so typical they are rude! I live in Paris and they have no manners, only are polite if it makes them look good in front of others. They are lazy, selfish and terrible at communication, just awful.

[@xxstormxx56]

I do not think the French are rude, I think Scandinavians are super rude! I think overpriviledged people are quite rude without realizing them. People are just angry over small things, I encountered some people who looked for food from trash bags and dumpsters, they cleaned them, cook them and feed to themselves and to their children.

[@GiantJake]

I have been to France many times, I have only ran into rude people on the Metro and it wasn't rude to be but older pensioners. My last time (Nov 22) one was threatening an older lady for calling him out for not paying to get in as we all went through. My French is not great as it's been decades since university my body language stepping between them made him leave her alone. Otherwise I find the French to be kinder and more helpful than others on the continent.

[@BerndBorchert]

Bonjour. What is the name of the French "Drama" TV channel?

[@frenchguytheo]

We have multiple of them, especially CNEWS & BFM TV ! (Also the TPMP show on C8)

[@FrenchGlobetrotter]

Imo it's not French people....a lot of French are actually nice and helpful especially when you visit places outside Paris 😉

[@odettehokemeir4425]

If some one is rude to you that is their problem, not yours. Rude people need to get over themselves because most of the world doesn't even know who they are, so they are NOT important 🤣

[@sandie157]

My experience is that the rudeness I saw only happened in Paris. And primarily that was because people were hurrying. Sometimes people are overwhelmed with tourists in Paris, especially in the summer. I understand that. I didn't like it, but I understood it.

[@frenchguytheo]

Yes you are right ! The big city effet I think

[@Juan_Dystopian]

I met a couple of guys from Bretagne and they told us that the bad reputation was with people from Paris 😂 the rest of the French were nice people, in general, they said. I guess there are stereotypes within the same country.

[@frenchguytheo]

Yes the bad reputation is always toward Paris ahahah

[@Jessica_P_Fields]

I've been to France twice (Paris and Lyon), and I haven't met anyone who was rude. My French language skills are not very good. When I'm in France, I always greet people in French and ask in French if they speak English. If English is not an option, I use my bad French skills. (If I'm very desperate, I will use my phone as a translator!) I've found French people to be very patient, pleasant, and polite overall. For what it's worth, the "rudest" people I've experienced as a group outside of my home country were British people in London. Even there, most people I dealt with were polite. There's always someone who is rude in any group, regardless of country. It's not worth dwelling on it in my opinion.

[@frenchguytheo]

I'm just so happy you've met kind French people 🙏

[@user-xg2vy3ri6r]

Stereotypes exist for a reason.

[@redprevo]

Every year I go to France, and I still have not experienced rudeness from people, except from Madrid,Spain. In fact I am looking forward to Nevermore 2024 avec Mylene Farmer the Goddess of music, so excited !

[@Juan_Dystopian]

LoL I'm sorry you had a bad experience in my country. In general people from Madrid are not considered rude in Spain, just entitled, maybe. I guess you had bad luck.

[@frenchguytheo]

Great music taste 🙏

[@reginabaldwin7543]

The French culture practically invented hospitality. I think their sublime confidence gives insecure people the impression they are rude because they cannot imagine such confidence. The French are lovely, hospitable, open-minded people with a dash of well-earned national pride. Viva la France!

[@bevvyjune4753]

No they are just rude , no need to excuse it

[@enriquesanchez2001]

THEO: ♥ WHY ARE FRENCH PEOPLE SO RUDE? Is the correct sentence structure, my friend! ♥♥♥♥

[@nanoupunkie]

lol

[@frenchguytheo]

Thank you ! I've just changed it 👌

[@enriquesanchez2001]

@@frenchguytheo ♥ Thank you, THEO! I only want the best for you and your channel! 😄

[@frenchguytheo]

Have you ever met rude people in France?

[@nanoupunkie]

j'adore les rudes boy in Paris, ça m'excite ouh lala

[@enriquesanchez2001]

Thank you for revising your title, Theo

I'll watch later, but in my experience most are very nice and polite

[@SorrelBigmin]

the title for this is bad english my friend. just to let you know so you can change it quickly

[@frenchguytheo]

Yes I've just changed it ! Is it good now ?

[@SorrelBigmin]

@@frenchguytheo yes perfect !