Why Are Modern Women Running Away? ©

[@Deshawn1]

Time stamps 0:00 Opening Song 🎵 Your Good Lies By Vividry 🎵 2:52 🎬 Show Starts, 5:53 🕯 Candle Of The Evening Le Labo Pin 12 🕯 6:15 Fragrance Of The Day Attar (Very Hard To Find) 9:10 Monologue, Modern Women Warning Signs 13:10 Explanation Of Signs 40:17 Moving Along 48:30 1st Caller age 29 1:12:30 2nd Caller age 25 1:24:28 3rd Caller age 34, Say Less 1:32:02 Return Of Money World 1:33:30 Back To Show 1:44:45 (Men Call In) 4th Caller Wink, Married 10 years, 5th Caller age 37 1:50:12 (A Lady) 5th Caller age 22 1:52:50 Closing Words 1:59:04 Outro

[@namenome3680]

Deshawn , my man !

[@Dan-kw7io]

Man is quick!

[@michaelsinclair3321]

👍👍

[@shadyeighty1]

right on time

[@jayceewilliams5250]

You the consistent mvp DeShawn

[@trojanworks1]

Kevin's perceptive accuracy is what annoyed so many toxic women who are conflict avoidant... He held up the mirror and scared them with their own reflection. This man's legacy has yet to reach its peak.

[@robertp411]

I’ve noticed that west coast east coast “big city” progressive woman are particularly disillusioned about the sexes, about women’s role, about their standing in society. Universities nurture this societal distorted conformity.

[@emexokezie7796]

💯 Well said!

[@TheBuildersTable]

The description of the mother/daughter dynamic speaks heavily to my daughter and her mother. It's uncanny, isn't it? Gold P.

[@xwildlionx]

It aint just kevins perspective lots of NIGGUHS ALREADY KNEW THIS SHIT JUST DIDNT MAKE A FUCKING TALK SHOW OF IT.... BLACK WOMEN ARE RETARDED AND BRAINWASHED THAT WAS ALREADY KNOWN

[@shaunpicasso6439]

Absolute facts

[@Echelonthemyth]

I just divorced a woman that is exactly everything kevin described it gets no more on point than this ! If you run into this type of woman , she will drain you of all your resources and energy ! She appears innocent and genuine , but on the inside she is a ravenous wolf, devoid of sincerity, and completely deadweight 💀 run away men run far away from her !

[@toniwilliams9817]

I'd rather hang out by myself and with my man than to hang out with single women anymore.

[@skinfanjay]

Sista. Williams you are doing the right thing 💯

[@_dj_dubz_]

unicorn!

[@theeagleslairchannelwithcoacht]

My mother was single. She was hardcore and very controlling! Because I didn’t do in my life what she wanted she treated me like a traitor and I felt it. However, my decision has led me to 25 years of marriage to a man that loves me deeply and takes very good care of me. Because my mom couldn’t control us she lied on us to other family members and even attacked my husband in our home! I feel what he’s saying about some mothers. God has truly blessed me bc I long divorced my mothers ideology, her mindset and her advice. I’ve always been respectful but I lovingly separated myself and it was just fine.

[@tdrive398]

Society needs more women like you to be vocal. The ratchets and homewreckers have no problem being loud and "in your face". Too many women are afraid to go against the Girl Code and speak Truth (thereby saving other girls from mistakes and misery). Womyn won't listen to Men- that's on ya'll...

[@NicholesInItaly]

Wow, this is very identical to my situation . Everything you just said. Just wow

[@antoniotula262]

Must have taken a lot of courage, but definitely needed to be done!

[@ros6656]

@@NicholesInItaly Same!

[@DJRenee]

Lucky you .. for real

[@Mula_G]

“She can’t be your wife, she’s married to her own mother” Spot on Godfather, Spot on

[@bornstar481]

@ᴋᴇᴠɪɴ sᴀᴍᴜᴇʟs fake account with 1 subscriber

[@corondasmith6464]

What if she has no mother?

[@mikeprice8307]

@@corondasmith6464 then she's a widow

[@_btcjones_]

Wish I knew that would actually become my problem

[@CFAB8453]

I have a close friend that is an only son.. His divorced mother is living with him and really ruining his personal relationship. This is not a rare situation to just women.

[@kamayawaddell6479]

Damn Kevin... you described my old self all the way. I recognized that the old me wasn't getting me what I wanted. I've since matured, set healthy boundaries, listened to my parents side of the story, seen healthy relationships, watched your channel 👀, had therapy and as a result, my fiancé and I are getting married this October!💍❤

[@bxi1547]

@ᴋᴇᴠɪɴ ꜱᴀᴍᴜᴇʟꜱ wow dude you’re really creepy

[@mekon1971]

Congratulations!

[@jbb8261]

Congratulations!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@djbabbotstown]

I wish you guys a long and productive life together.

[@myisglim7801]

@Charles Smith smh how do you know that? Stop being an incel

[@nelsonperez007]

I just shared this with my x wife and her mama and they was so mad! Called me up and tried to tell me off. I was just trying to be helpful. Thank you Kevin for helping me to understand I could never fix them. I now understand years of pain and stress I put myself through. Be Blessed GodFather.

[@mon-doe3951]

Damn you sent it to both of them 😂😂😂

[@Soulsafari516]

@@mon-doe3951 😂😂

[@louisj4645]

I like the way you think sir lol

[@antoniotula262]

Truth hurt em!

[@nelsonperez007]

@@mon-doe3951 yes! Her mom called me at work to gimme a piece of her mind. As soon as she started, I quickly said have a good day and hung up. No accountability. She just wanted to use me as target practice with her SIGN language techniques. Not today.

[@javierst.martien4232]

I cannot believe the absolute accuracy that this man spoke. My fiancé whom I loved so much was a definite conflict avoider and non communicator. I thought everything was fine but she suddenly left me out of no where and told me all these thing that she doesn’t like about me in the way out. Didn’t communicate with me about them ahead of time. Also she had some mother/daughter wounds. Mom divorced her dad. Mom is ambitious several degrees. After listening to this I’m glad I’m not with her anymore. Thank you Kevin RIP

[@imshaun4563]

I miss this guy so much I'm going back over episodes I missed and the ones I caught just to marinate in the knowledge he drops. Mother have a tremendous effect on their daughters. It's ok to want to take care of your mother who needs help, us generous high quality men understand that but when the woman projects her need to do that onto her man or subtracts what she gives him to give to her mother that is the toxic problem.

[@benyaminj.akadarrkknyt5273]

Me too....

[@kdot5221]

Me too

[@chadhampton2176]

💯💯👊🏽👊🏽

[@BG-gr6vc]

I still have a hard time believing he's gone. I feel like he got taken out.

[@kdot5221]

@@BG-gr6vc he definitely did it was a set up

[@mrso2574]

Kevin hit the nail on the head with this one! After I got married, I realized that I needed boundaries with my mother. 57 with two masters degrees & single as hell. I refuse to allow myself to be her retirement plan. My husband doesn’t deserve to have to bear that much responsibility on the household. ABSOLUTELY NOT! Idc how guilty I feel.

[@MOTV583]

I hope you can follow through, but it's hard. No matter how much you want to say no it takes a special type of person to follow through when they're starting to decline and the only choice is the streets or your house. I've seen it. These women swear up and down that they would never do this to their children's families, but the choice isn't theirs. They leave you with the burden to either leave them to die on the streets while they get Alzheimer's or something or reluctantly take them in. It's not fair. And i'll tell you, nothing puts a strain on a marriage like a mother-in-law that doesn't respect her daughter, her family, her house, and her daughter's husband. They'll walk up in that house like it's theirs, and not many women have the courage to check their mother and tell them this is their house so they better act correct. And they take their mother's side over their husband.

[@A_Girl_5]

Same here sis.

[@antoniotula262]

Salute to both of you for recognizing & taking action!

[@juniorjames7076]

I'm college class of 1995. I went to a predominantly White college because they gave me the most financial aid. Also I knew there would be Black people there, maybe not a lot, but I significant minority. And there were. But I was very naïve. I really thought in college I would find a compatible partner, a BLACK woman! A Black woman interested in intellectually curious, well-red and upwardly mobile Black men. Boy was I wrong. I looked at how the White, Asian, Middle Eastern and international women were marrying their cohort men in our class left and right. But the Black women at our school, when they weren't solely focused on their academics and grad school, would be messing with thugs who lived off campus, or known Playas on campus whom they KNEW weren't serious. Decades later in 2010, there was low key reunion in my local area. Sure enough, many of the Black women who showed up were successful lawyers or corporate executives, and ALL of them single moms. The most successful of them was top criminal attorney in a white shoe law firm. At the reunion she was 6 months pregnant. Single. The baby daddy was some White judge who didn't want to marry her.

[@mrso2574]

@@A_Girl_5 yup create your boundaries. your husband comes first!

[@croatiancroissant28776]

Kevin is saving the lives of men who are willing to listen. Literally saving lives. Man, these videos are always on time. My recent ex left after 4 years without one word. I asked her when she was going to move out of her parents house. I figured four years(6 after divorce) was good enough time to figure that out. There was about ten seconds of disagreement, and I never heard from her again. Completely ghosted and on to the next guy. Any time I wanted to talk about something adult, it would be too much for her and she’d get “stressed”. Her parents take care of her completely, and she bounces around life like a 13-year-old girl. Plus, she has her own kids. The blind leading the blind. If they can’t talk like adults, run. Her parents are successful, but I think Kevin is spot on that she was never affirmed. Dad was never around, and mom is a space cadet. He’s also spot on about her being all about her career(she’s a secretary, but you’d think she was running Ford Motor Company). She avoids life by pretending work is everything. It’s the one place she never gets told she’s messing up. Kevin knows his stuff, for sure. He even knew her age. 34. I really did feel like he was talking to me. She even called herself an “Empath”. Believes in “Angel numbers” and crap like that to determine where her life goes. Kevin, you just gave me peace of mind I didn’t have an hour ago. I really needed this. I feel like celebrating. I’m going to listen to this once a day until I heal from this mess that I created by sticking around way too long.

[@moblack5883]

your ex sounds like my ex!!! when I would discuss adult stuff she would say oh you my dad? get mad etc and storm off.

[@croatiancroissant28776]

moblack mine wanted me to BE her dad and take care of life itself for her. She’d cover her ears when I’d discuss adult matters. Fact is, her future husband will have to replace her father, treating her like a daughter, if it ever happens.

[@lefty206]

No offense at all, but I'm jus curious why you didn't end the relationship when you saw how she is.. especially if the kids aren't yours?

[@rbguerreiro2466]

@@lefty206 it's easier to blame others.

[@-glitch-8195]

I think It all boils down to conflict resolution. Relationships require you to be cordial and discuss issues that arise and negotiate a thoughtful resolutions throughout the course of your lifetime. You have to be a problem solver and highly emotionally self aware before you even begin to deal with that of other people's emotions and possessions. So many people do not realize what they're even agreeing to when they get into a relationship. There are 4 types of personality traits that I've noticed regarding conflict, 1. starts conflict and addresses it, 2. dislikes conflict and will not address it, 3. dislikes conflict but will address it and lastly, 4. starts conflict but will not address it. The last one by far is the worst and it is also the majority. The funny thing is too many people never thought beyond their own manipulation. Thats when they'll hit you with "its too much for me I'm stressed out". They're essentially letting you know they're out of moves.

[@laraoneal7284]

This was probably the most powerful message from Kevin EVER. I’ve experienced this myself with some variance but the end result was the same. Rip Kevin.

[@RealtyWebDesigners]

Amen - He's in heaven - He trusted Jesus as his Lord and savior. He was giving us men a message from on high without lies.

[@imshaun4563]

Yep just watched this. I missed it when he posted it. But he speaks well beyond the grave. May he live on in our youtube algorithm so the difference he made can continue in us. His page is like a Bible for the dating market and relationship market.

[@Gods-bad-boy]

It's frustrating because so many men (including myself) have always KNOWN these signs but social pressure told us to ignore the signs.

[@Lover-ur4te]

Out of “love”

[@Gods-bad-boy]

@@Lover-ur4te Well what I thought was love

[@GiganticSky]

Yep, we were given the old tropes of 'a good man should heal a broken woman' and 'if you cant deal with her at her worst, you dont deserve her best'...the reality is they should seek a professional and come to terms with their own choices before entering a relationship.

[@brianmoore3063]

Big ol facts my guy.

[@Tential1]

That's what drove me crazy. Literally. Feel like I lost a part of my sanity living a lie. No one would say the truth, and when I did say if, I was the crazy one.

[@CategoricalImperative]

I am an appraiser. I was doing an inspection of a womans home in her 50s. Based on a photo that I observed during the inspection, I realized that the woman's son is a part of the same social organization as myself. When I let the woman homeowner know that her son and I have something in common.... she found it appropriate to complain to me about her son. She said that she is a single mother and her son went out of state for college, which made her sad. Then after he graduated with his bachelors, he came back home. She thought that he was back to stay. She became very upset discussing that her son decided to move away again to work and pursue his masters. She argued that her son could have pursued the same work and educational endeavors while living with her, and that he didn't call her as much as he used to. The whole time she was complaining..... I was felt SO proud of this young man that I had never met. It appears that he grew an enormous pair of balls, and decided to divorce his mom. BTW, your mom has nice boobs.

[@abrahamlincoln8913]

Rip Kevin! I was in the middle of this one when I got the news of his passing. Man, he was in the process of taking off!

[@christopherstewart3558]

Oh my gosh...Kevin just described exactly who my wife is and what she did... ghosted me and moved back with her mother in November 2020. She took my daughter on a three week vacation and never returned despite my daughter pleading with her to return! I was saying this stuff around the house and my wife couldn't handle it! She created a emotional abuse to make a case to move back with her mother. In the beginning all she talked about was her career! She was married to her career and her mother.

[@chadcapitol6674]

In due time, you should replicate your self preferably a man-child,

[@pjbpiano]

Christopher, that’s quite a one sided story. First of all, what did you do that make her leave the house eventually?

[@HenryDime1.0]

One sided and sounds a little off. Take responsibility you chose her! Take your power back and go to therapy. Peace and love my brother!!!

[@stephonjones46]

Going through a divorce now and she acted the same way when it came to adult issues. No accountbility for her mistakes and screw ups. Expected me to just move on. But if I did something she proceived as wrong. She claiming emotional abuse... Got to her phone and now I got receipts

[@jahmilae5]

Next time if all a woman talks about is her career in the beginning... don't marry her. Pay attention to red flags.

[@erskinhansen1715]

“Conflict resolution” doesn’t mean you have all the answers, it means you’re willing to work toward a solution to your problems.

[@tajhill989]

Tbh I thought that was pretty obvious

[@J.Black-n4n7]

KS is undefeated! I just broke up a 5 month relationship in February because she put her career first, she was conflict avoidant, and did not have emotional intelligence. Plus she moved her mom in a month before I broke up. Sometimes I’m conflicted on if I made the right choice, but this message came at the right time in my life. Thank you KS! “ You can’t make this shit up.”

[@citystarproductions6703]

@@J.Black-n4n7 damn bro don’t believe that‼️thats a fake account

[@charlyb9194]

He hit the nail on the head with the mother daughter wounds. My parents divorced when I was 15. Mama tried to depend on me emotionally and still does to this day and I’m 26. Mama didn’t have any friends and was so lonely that she did everything in her power to keep me from leaving home. She hates the fact that I started my own life and that I don’t jump to for her when she calls for something.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Wow 😯 I am 26 too and in the same situation. I am trying to move out and do me.

[@TheDCGuitar13]

The more they wanna shut this man up, the more he’s proven right every single day.

[@alexdavis454]

Big facts

[@deejae2489]

they wanna shut him up because he speaking facts and holding women accountable, especially with BW

[@ludacorleone8563]

@@deejae2489 this man is a legend

[@freeindeed8416]

You here too? My man✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾

[@djbabbotstown]

He’s speaking your experiences. They can’t silence him because you refuse to be silent. For me. This is the Word.

[@BG-gr6vc]

I feel like this dude got taken out. He had all colors of people listening in, his message was reaching everybody who had ears to hear and eyes to see. He was becoming a leading force for bringing back traditional relationship dynamics and culture. He was waking too many people up.

[@tochiimoh9428]

The vax got him

[@pandaman1677]

He got taken out. I’m sure he had the best healthcare and took care himself to the T

[@dye-monbradley2072]

I been saying the same thing

[@GrownManUniversity]

Me too. Whats the lady's name he was with that night? Still not records of her.

[@DeirdreSenior-k3h]

He was murdered.

[@erictoomer5665]

I'm taking soooooo many notes physically and mentally from Kevin that I WILL NOT be fooled again... To God Be The Glory!!!!!

[@myredpilltherapy8601]

I’m not sure how old you are but isn’t it amazing as we age we don’t view the opposite sex as we did as we were younger. I don’t view women the same as I did when I was 20. I’m 50 turning 51 at the end of the month. I don’t have that idealistic view on women or on love but I did when I was 20. It’s funny Tina Turner wrote that song What has love got to do with it? LOL…… Marriage has nothing to do with love and is plainly a business. Love comes after. I even view relationships in the same category now. That’s the mistake with women when they were younger. Should have picked a guy then but made the mistake to want hot girl summer to go on forever. Now I have the same pleasure as the women I know in my 20s turn into spinsters. Guess what? Not my type now. LOL. Jerry Seinfeld said the best revenge is living well.

[@erictoomer5665]

@@myredpilltherapy8601 I'm 31 and you're telling the Truth fam, I was praying for all kinds of women when I was even younger and trying out my last name to theirs and all but Man as you grow, you're like, ''Lord No I didn't want that in marriage''! Tina did sing that didn't she and many of these broads still ain't listening...

[@reese85]

Think Tina turner is a bad example! Cuz her marriage seem strictly for business! But I get what y’all are saying! Just don’t think you can put that on every marriage tho! Just my opinion

[@erictoomer5665]

@@reese85 That's my man's point, it can't be about love FIRST! Kevin has also said that..

[@rangariraikunedzimwe2780]

Indeed, to God truly be the glory 💯👍👍

[@toddshanks4633]

Wow this is on point. You have described my ex wife to a T. I couldn’t even talk about certain issues without her shutting down or dismissing. And I can tell you these women never admit when they are wrong. Hell will freeze over before that happens.

[@jeffepstein6911]

My man ✊

[@RoccoLennox]

I'm going through the same thing with my wife.

[@Demarcussykeshwh]

That was my conclusion too that women are afraid of responsibility will literally say any saying from a poem or a song or something they think is witty as an excuse but it makes no logical sense to the situation lol Just say “mybad” and move on Jesus!

[@juniorjames7076]

I'm college class of 1995. I went to a predominantly White college because they gave me the most financial aid. Also I knew there would be Black people there, maybe not a lot, but I significant minority. And there were. But I was very naïve. I really thought in college I would find a compatible partner, a BLACK woman! A Black woman interested in intellectually curious, well-red and upwardly mobile Black men. Boy was I wrong. I looked at how the White, Asian, Middle Eastern and international women were marrying their cohort men in our class left and right. But the Black women at our school, when they weren't solely focused on their academics and grad school, would be messing with thugs who lived off campus, or known Playas on campus whom they KNEW weren't serious. Decades later in 2010, there was low key reunion in my local area. Sure enough, many of the Black women who showed up were successful lawyers or corporate executives, and ALL of them single moms. The most successful of them was top criminal attorney in a white shoe law firm. At the reunion she was 6 months pregnant. Single. The baby daddy was some White judge who didn't want to marry her.

[@daveshore8671]

@@juniorjames7076 brutal A judge knock her up. Perfect 👍

[@josepherwin5122]

God Bless this man. May he Rest In Peace in the Presence of God! Miss you mightily, Mr. Samuels.

[@kenethw172]

KS still doing the lords work, and a great advocate for black men worldwide salute

[@jesterbons1558]

quit with black men thing lol all men deal with this unless he speaks on something specificly black related

[@croatiancroissant28776]

All men. Women are all the same creatures. The Bible says so. Even Eve wanted the one thing she was told not to touch. “No man’s gonna tell me what I can and can’t do!” They all want what they can’t have.

[@AOSMusicProd]

The american black community is on the forefront of this social catastrophe however this is a worldwide man issue. As a swiss americain living in europe I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that these issues are universal.

[@brianmoore3063]

@@jesterbons1558 No ones quittin shit "Jester". Lol Get out ya feelings playboy.

[@jesterbons1558]

@@brianmoore3063 lol clearly you in yo insecure black boy feelings brian lol because we know you u aint no playboy 😂

[@YamahaR12015]

Really think it's time we talk about mothers saying "I did thr best I could" as an excuse for being a bad mother

[@CiluhStyle1]

He has already its somewhere in his video just lookout for title with mothers in it.

[@ziiiiiiii754]

It’s a genuine excuse to be fair, their best just wasn’t good enough though. They only do what they know, and sadly what they know isn’t enough to be an effective mother.

[@tyopuignthyetouynndkmekt1225]

or this "It's all I knew or know to do".

[@tyopuignthyetouynndkmekt1225]

@@ziiiiiiii754 ...I learned from my broken mother, after years of her using the excuse "it's all I knew, that she did what was comfortable for herself and/or what ultimately benefited her short term. That is the narcissist in her. I realize now that she never put the family first, it was all an illusion.

[@ziiiiiiii754]

@@tyopuignthyetouynndkmekt1225 what I said was in the general sense. I don’t know your mom personally. I think most moms don’t know any better (in terms of overall positively raising a kid), but some definitely do and choose to do wrong.

[@mattiepierson2756]

I asked my mother, why she felt I owed her all the time. She said, “because you do for taking care of you and helping you with your son.” That was the day I started to distance myself and seek therapy. And at 35, I wish I had asked sooner…. I cannot mentally handle being single, alone and my mom’s husband….

[@user-on6kt5tc4j]

ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ✚𝟏𝟔𝟏𝟗𝟖𝟑𝟔𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟕✔ ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs ʟᴇᴛ ʜᴇʀ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦ ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ ◦◦

[@MRILWANUCOMEDIAN]

📱ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝🧬 ✚▫️𝟏𝟔𝟔𝟗𝟑𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟑𝟗𝟓✉✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦◦.....

[@Firenmage433]

Holding child rearing over your head, for you and your kid! Wow, that woman is selfish!

[@crys1511]

Being the oldest of three & literally being the second mom to my sister and brother my childhood was stolen from me. The mental & physical abuse my mother and beta father put me through because they were miserable with their lives & never dealt with their personal issues never felt right to me. I never felt love or good enough, more like a punching bag and maid for them lol sadly. Once I went to college, I finally went to therapy Thank God and realized that it's not my fault the way I was raised & I had a choice to do better so I did. Thank you for talking about this Kevin. People always look at me crazy when I speak the TRUTH about how my parents raised me because it's "disrespectful". The way I was raised was disrespectful !! lol I still talk to my parents here and there but rarely. they refuse to acknowledge their treatment towards me and say it was "my fault" "I was a bad daughter" so I keep that same energy because I will not let them ruin my adulthood. they already took so many years from me. Anywayssss THANK YOU AGAIN !

[@antoniotula262]

I hope ur bro & sis understand & don't resent u out of either ignorance or parents manipulation. I've known where a parent turned the younger siblings against the older child.

[@DJRenee]

Good for you for standing up for yourself.

[@crys1511]

@@antoniotula262 yes after moving out I was not able to see them because I was a “bad influence” for a few years. They’re older now & have their own phones so I’m able to speak with them

[@antoniotula262]

@@crys1511Yup, I knew it. Good you're able to contact them directly & they see you for who you really are. Best wishes!!

[@juniorjames7076]

Good for you. Well, I had a domineering mother and beta father as well, but I guess I was the spoiled son. My sister and I are not close, and for years never spoke. I now realize our mother is to blame. Our mom is in a nursing home now, and I delicately have to remind my sister to at least call once in awhile and maybe visit twice a year. Well, I get it now. I get it.

[@VerdePenguin]

The reality of the situation is is there are plenty of men watching this video thinking about either a current or past girlfriends or wives that fall within this category Kevin might not be trying to name people but men at home definitely are pinpointing the realities, from their past or present situations and reflecting upon that This is one of the most insane/trus podcasts or videos I've ever heard I need to download this one

[@kennethstone4590]

Listening to Kevin I’m 33 and definitely wasn’t ready to accept these things as a young man seeking women. I’ve definitely stepped my gam up

[@VerdePenguin]

@@kennethstone4590 The key is consistent improvement The scents of the day help out as well

[@mr007able]

That's right my friend, I'm one of them

[@-BLACKLION]

That statement about feminism accomplished what slavery, Jim crow and all the other things they used against us🤔 was a very profound statement.

[@Olyphantman]

Yup

[@joshuhlman2559]

I find about 95% of what KS talks about apply equally to white men/women as well. So many career girl/boss lady/masculine energy women are ruining their best years (before the wall), or making poor decisions like having kids and getting divorced. Stay true to yourself and make yourself better every day, king. You don't get money chasing women, but you do get women chasing money

[@Olyphantman]

@@joshuhlman2559 agreed. I’ve dated all races and this applies to the western modern woman mentality across racial spectrums.

[@-BLACKLION]

@Rick Sale Jewish ships didn't bring us nowhere, most of our ancestors were already here. There were few brought from Africa , and subjected to the suffering of slavery. They use that to say that WE'RE ALL from Africa, and that's just a flat out LIE. This land belonged to dark skin melinated people, who were here 1000s of yrs before white people came outta them caves. Yea the ancestors of the dark skinned melinated Brothas and Sistas , that are running around here right now.

[@the2ndcoming135]

Out here purging n*ggas off or something I guess😏

[@Lover-ur4te]

Yeah Unc was talking out of his body on this streams. This and the one broadcast where he talked about women being scarred by their mothers were the best streams of the year so far. Wow.

[@PRINCESTREETBOYSARTISTPAGE]

Undefeated

[@keithmackall]

I’ve dated these women before and asked why I didn’t work it was them not me

[@anthonywlong]

Yo please tell me or link the one about being scarred by their mothers. I need to listen to that one

[@antoniowilson1696]

@@anthonywlong check his library It’s call mother daughter

[@Lover-ur4te]

@@anthonywlong It's titled "Are Modern Women Proud to be Selfish?"

[@AWesker99]

As the youngest of 3, I watched my mother systematically destroy and manipulate my older sister psychologically and emotionally while coddling my brother. She used guilt and shame as the weapon of choice and Christianity as the ultimate shield. When I reached adulthood, she told horrible malicious lies about me to the family and played the eternal victim whenever I put my own interests and needs first. It reached the point where I had to cut her off completely. I know this show topic is about the women but the son/husband pathology is also a serious problem in our culture. Too many Black men are in a state of arrested development because they're paying their mother's bills and/or feeling guilty because they promised to buy their mom a house. Meanwhile the clock is ticking on their lives and nobody is looking out for men in society.

[@createluxuryliving8136]

This is so true I have been saying this will be the eventual downfall of our society.. Single mothers who get son husbands and those son husbands never fully maturing into fathers and the cycle continues for the next generation

[@spiceboxify]

now you talking...cause its terrible out here with the dynamics....i got two brothers with serious issues...love hate mommy issues.

[@BCDC123]

He’s absolutely correct. 36:44 My ex fiancée had to pick. She chose her career over family and love. And I told her that her mother would not be moving in with us. She was the youngest daughter. She had an older brother and sister. She always bickered about how her brother could do whatever he wanted to do as a kid. I feel sorry for her because it’s unfair. I hope her mind changes so she can be a wife and a mother to someone. But I ain’t having it.

[@eazyroc3594]

I went through the exact same thing except her mother, brother, and sister couldn’t stay stable financially and she kept trying to play hero.

[@donewiththeworld]

@@eazyroc3594 I'll play hero to the family that raised me, fed me and helped open a number of doors for me. That will never change.

[@leonelorozco2514]

Shit. Well played. Having this clarity and determination brings great results. Salute.

[@blasiankiki7831]

So if your mother got sick in age you putting your mother in a home?

[@juniorjames7076]

I'm college class of 1995. I went to a predominantly White college because they gave me the most financial aid. Also I knew there would be Black people there, maybe not a lot, but I significant minority. And there were. But I was very naïve. I really thought in college I would find a compatible partner, a BLACK woman! A Black woman interested in intellectually curious, well-red and upwardly mobile Black men. Boy was I wrong. I looked at how the White, Asian, Middle Eastern and international women were marrying their cohort men in our class left and right. But the Black women at our school, when they weren't solely focused on their academics and grad school, would be messing with thugs who lived off campus, or known Playas on campus whom they KNEW weren't serious. Decades later in 2010, there was low key reunion in my local area. Sure enough, many of the Black women who showed up were successful lawyers or corporate executives, and ALL of them single moms. The most successful of them was top criminal attorney in a white shoe law firm. At the reunion she was 6 months pregnant. Single. The baby daddy was some White judge who didn't want to marry her.

[@nokuthuladhlamini664]

I feel like I am blessed to hear such truths from Mr Samuels. Been following Mr Samuels for months now. Today's broadcast has nailed it down for me. I literally just signed myself up for counseling. I am willing to do all that I can to fix years of 'a belief system' that I inherited over my younger years to be a good wife and mother to my future family.. Thanks to you Mr Samuels!

[@mandlamashinini2701]

MaDhlamini, thank you for taking such steps for our future.

[@foodforthought872]

Congratulations, ma'am you are on your way 👏

[@nokuthuladhlamini664]

@@mandlamashinini2701 Aaw ngiyazibongela Bembe. Kuthiwa, when you know better, you do better.

[@nokuthuladhlamini664]

@@foodforthought872 Thank you so much.

[@stephonjones46]

@@nokuthuladhlamini664 black American man who married a Malawi women. Now going through a divorce. She fits this to a T. Raised her siblings because her dad was running the streets and sleeping with prostitutes. She was determined to not be her mom and had a hate for men because of daddy issues.

[@Melissa.Simmons]

I wish I could like this video a thousand times. Kevin knew what he was talking about. My mom tries to use me as her bail out plan and my bother is better off than I am. She treated him better than me. And me she treated me worse than 💩 on the bottom of someone’s shoe. Crazy thing is my bother stays in the same town as her and I live over an hour away.

[@djhyperkid86]

Years ago I had a woman tell me that she felt I was too intelligent for her and she felt she couldn't teach me anything. At the time I thought it was a weird thing to say. But the more I thought about it, I realized I was probably one of the few guys who she wasnt able to look at and feel she was better than in some way. In my case, I have a career, I workout, martial arts, own my vehicles and have built up a decent network in the journalism world. I just never really talked about it. It was just a part of my life. I think it made her feel inadequate in some ways. Oddly enough she is back with her mom, no kids, no husband. Just her degrees and career. It's amazing how some have such incredibly large egos.

[@themoonsanus7213]

That happened

[@mile3018]

They go back to the place that built them. Where the enemy of the enemy becomes their friend.

[@robertruschak7083]

🏃‍♀️

[@barryrisper1166]

I'm not a gambling man, but I'll bet she's one of those women who say men are "intimidated" by her?

[@roberttyler5808]

The minute he broke down the modern woman with bulletin points this was going to be a banger.

[@Rellevant]

The monologue summed up my soon to be ex wife. It's sad that this mindset is so common that it's this predictable and cookie cutter in our women. We as men invest so much into having a family and being a man of value. We go into debt, start businesses, buy homes, invest, save, buy cars, tutors, etc to provide just to end up with someone who self sabotages it all. Then the courts support them for it. Good luck to men that want families.

[@elodiejanemf6598]

True true and true! I was in therapy for 8 months ( thank you Kevin 💕). I thought my problem came from my present/absent father but I realized that I also had a real relationship problem with my mother, who was too close. This therapy allowed me to remove all the blockages I had and above all, to realize that it was indeed my mother who had led me to doubt men and who always spoke to me negatively about men! Kisses from France

[@HanmaSaitama]

J ai l’impression qu en Europe c est encore pire que chez les black américains, en tout cas pour les gens nés en 90+

[@MOTV583]

What he said about trying to start a life with a woman that's married to her mother is so true. The last thing a man wants is to support his wife, children, and a mother-in-law that doesn't respect him, especially if she's declining (they only get worse with age). And too many times these women do less than zero to prepare. No retirement, life insurance, will, estate, organized papers, financial power of attorney, medical power of attorney, etc. It will all work itself out meaning you and her daughter are going to magically figure it out. Now remember her daughter doesn't like to deal with anything hard so guess who is going to figure it out? Also remember her daughter can divorce you for whatever reason whenever she wants like she doesn't feel happy anymore. You don't want to go through a disorganized woman's papers while she's losing her mind. Now imagine how she'll treat you if she doesn't even like you.

[@promoshaq]

Aye bro at what point did he start talking about that

[@tm5123]

@@promoshaq It's a fake account, look at his profile, or just notice the text is different. Its just a bot trying to leech cash of popular youtubers, by pretending to be the youtuber, and selling scams to them.

[@ABa-ve3ul]

Go marry a dude

[@PandaCoasters]

@@ABa-ve3ul Dress size?

[@thewarroom007]

👌🏼

[@nunkap8874]

Woman, Be alright with being bored. -KS I love this! 26, Married woman for five years and my husband is my BEST FRIEND and we live a Happily boring life I wouldn't trade it for the world 🙏🏾

[@manifestationmanjegdiamant3748]

Wow… preaching to the choir ( Hispanic women) my wife has no empathy, mother daughter conflict, conflict avoidant and all her brothers were coddled. We are getting divorced because she is a total conflict avoidant and is running away. We have a 1 year old child… but we never talked about ending the relationship with me. And where is she at, moved in with her mom in Colombia. The only difference is I have a Masters Degree and I have a successful company. And her mom is married with a step father, but I have felt like her mother has always been an issue in our relationship. Wow, so right.. married to her mother

[@DJRenee]

Please encourage her to get therapy and not give up on herself. If you can clearly see her issues, help is around the corner. It is important since you guys share a child. If she utilizes the next 12 months getting real therapy and counseling, you guys maybe can salvage your marriage. Doesn't sound like you hate each other at all. She just needs assistance seeing what you have identified and knowing how to work through it and move forward healthily.

[@ss-yl1gk]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴍʀ ᴅᴀɴɪᴇʟ ,ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs.................

[@ss-yl1gk]

📱ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝🧬 ✚▫️𝟏𝟔𝟔𝟗𝟑𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟑𝟗𝟓✉✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦

[@hope-joy-peace]

My Mum has been telling me that right before he passed my father said I would be the one who would never leave her & always take care of her. She was 46 and she has been trying to make me responsible for her for over 20 years. Even though she got remarried. It has taken me years to remove that heavy weight of responsibility, and I’m the youngest with two older brothers. If I move across the country, she follows me. I have now set some boundaries which therapy and my husband have helped me with. I thought I was suffering somewhat alone, until I watched this. Thank you for sharing. These mothers are really heavy burdens that deeply mess with your mental health.

[@user-xo3zp9gz8t]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡɪʟʟɪᴀᴍs sᴍɪᴛʜ ,ғᴏʀ sᴏᴍᴇ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs......

[@user-xo3zp9gz8t]

☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ✚𝟏𝟓𝟒𝟎𝟐𝟒𝟎𝟒𝟐𝟗𝟗✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦

[@myisglim7801]

Sadly, that’s what ppl do to daughters. Some see daughters as difficult to raise but find comfort in knowing having a daughter they will be taken care of when she get old and/or sick. Sons as more preferred but they don’t usually have the burden that daughters have. This is deeper than he thinks it is.

[@savvyroca]

O boy haven’t listened to K.S. In 6 months. This episode strikes me to my core and I’m only 30 minutes in. I was basically conceived to be my mother’s bail out plan. She chose my profession. I was thinking of getting a doctorate (don’t laugh) but have decided to prioritize intimacy over self-reliance. It took a long time to get here. But through therapy and relationship coaching I’m doing a 180. Hopefully this time next year I’ll be in a committed relationship.

[@queennaomi2643]

Kevin you hit the nail on the head man!!! I'm the youngest of 2 sisters and 1 brother so I didn't recieve much of the emotional neglectful abuse well I didn't realize as much until I got much older. I'm 28 and realized my mother has been using MY LIFE to make hers much easier! I'm furious because it took me this long to realize. It's insane. Me and my older 2 sister who have been her crutch for YEARSSSSSS have just instilled boundaries that all this enabling ends now! Of course she blame US for doing her so wrong. I poured my heart out to her and told her how we feel and guess what BRICK WALL! No emotional intelligence. It's unhealthy and I will not take care of my mother anymore. I'm DONE. This is MY LIFE! And to think my dad was barely around I still have a much better relationship with him bcuz I don't have to take care of him! I don't hold my parents pasts against them but we are older and know better and it's never too late to right our wrongs but my mother thinks we OWE her!! Oh and she told me she don't owe us shxt! HER OWN KIDS! She has an attitude everytime she has to babysit her own GRANDCHILDREN!! After she sold drugs, did drugs, had us in an unhealthy environment oh and we were in CPS for 3 years! It was never addressed we were never in therapy we were just thrown back with her to just get over it. Also when we came back home all of us were in high school. My sisters got jobs and were pretty much forced to help with bills. My mother can't accept that she was too busy living her best life that she forgot WE were her kids not her roommates. No hugs no I love yous at all. She instilled no values no morals no nothing!! I ended up in a physically/ emotionally abusive relationship because I didn't know better. Mind you my own mother was in the same relationship for 10 years and didn't even help guide me out of my own or even just be MY crutch as my mother to tell me HER DAUGHTER DESERVES BETTER! I guess she didn't think I did. Who knows why. The damage that is done to black women by our own mothers is damaging to us and our black men. My ex who was a complete narcissist also had a narc mother who treated him as her other husband oh and the kicker SHE WAS ALREADY MARRIED!! Oh and lemme add that she was a retired crackhead! She had 5 kids and 5 BABY DADDIES! Attitude NASTY. But she was a born again christian. 😂🤣 Can you believe she got someone to marry her! A good dude from her church mind you she drove the man to ACHOLISM! I believe he was married once with 2 kids by the same woman. Her narc asx didn't and still don't deserve him. Anyway she also played a huge role in his demise as well as mine for even being in that toxic relationship with him. I'm so happy that this is being brung to the light. Black women ARE OUT OF ORDER. We are the foundation, the advisors, the helping hand, the CRUTCH! But too many of us are trying to live our BEST LIVES SINGLE. Make it make sense! This generational curse needs to end this generation!!

[@Wrestle_Kingdom]

I’m sorry you and your siblings had to deal with that I’m glad you realize an trying to have a better life for yourself because to many parent think just because they gave us birth that means we owe them even though most of the time they didn’t even want us because they didn’t plan us they was being reckless most likely

[@JM-ev8wt]

Counseling will definitely help you deal with your trauma.

[@blackgira7056]

Going through the same thing!

[@chrystaljenkins5622]

True healing can begin when the issues are brought to light - wish u well

[@citeebayconvey2935]

Wow

[@shanaebrown2301]

I’m grateful for my mom and dad! My mother said you can always have a career but you can’t always have a healthy happy family. She just got her dream job at 52. Put it on the back burner to take care of my siblings and hold my dad down. My dad took care of us and was actively in our lives. They told us don’t make that mistake. THANK YOU KS

[@tdrive398]

Same. So grateful for my parents and grandparents. The moms waited and got their "dream job" after Empty Nest started. In the mean time, they focused on building their legacy.

[@antoniotula262]

That's what they don't teach in school. Def need more parents like yours!!

[@tdrive398]

@@taelove9830 You're free to do whatever you want- but choices have consequences. If you want to choose your dreams over investing in what is best for your children and allowing someone else to inculcate them with their values... then there are likely to be different outcomes. You do you- I'm glad that my mom and grandmothers chose the paths they did. They never felt slighted and were always exceptionally proud of their accomplishments and how they had (and will continue to have) lasting impacts into the future. Children are our messengers to the future. The females in my family chose to invest themselves into us- that was their dream. Being a mom is one of the most awesome responsibilities on the planet. If you want your message to the future to be: "ME!!!", then the audience and impact may be somewhat limited.

[@tdrive398]

@@taelove9830 Not every man gets to have "his dream career"; many of them work (often in jobs they don't enjoy) in order to provide for what *is* the dream of most Good Men: a family (wife and children). He works so that his wife- the mother of his (hopefully) children- can have the luxury of staying at home and protecting, nurturing, educating and preparing their legacy. f-3nism has really done a number on many modern womyn wherein they think the opportunity to remain home and not have to slave away in the corporate grind is somehow oppressive. Social media is full of modern womyn who wake up after 10-15 years "pursuing their dream career" and realize, "💩, I have to do this for 35-40 more years?!? Where is a 'real man(!)' who'll come in, take me with all of my relationship baggage, my kids from Chad and Tyrone, and allow me to sit at home?" They're tired and "I'm done with fun, I'm ready to settle down"... wow- what Man wouldn't want to sweep in and pick a fl3male that has used up all her "fun" and youth chasing Chad, Tyrone, Pookie, Ray-Ray and the rest of the Philly phone book, while also being burnt out from the corporate grind? Hmmm... Choices have consequences...

[@taelove9830]

@@tdrive398 wtf are u talking about i know to many single oms married and now have a blended family, calm down yl love to down single mothers who stayed to take care of the kids. Women really need to leave these kids with yal ass so they can be free. anyway i wasnt talking about single moms i said its not every woman dream to give up her dreams for a family thats so selfish tat men get to live there best lives but we have to give up everything for a fuckig husband and kids....husband who will probably later in life cheat on u anyway. IM not ding that.

[@ilyanettebernabel6239]

Thank you Kevin for putting this out there. I have definitely been this woman and I have been working on the mother daughter wound syndrome in therapy especially in my current relationship. "There is hope ladies, therapy." Yes indeed!

[@NicholesInItaly]

This was heartbreaking to even watch, it explains my mother sooo well . I don’t know where I got the strength, but I left home finally at 21 , got married and had a child . I’m now 27. The best decision I ever made. I guess one day I just got tired of my mothers bullshit. Single mother of three , two fathers (one in prison for life and one a drug dealer/gangbanger). A big ass stereotype. I got the strength from somewhere to leave and I will forever be proud of my decision. And when I left , she was furious, it was almost like I was doing something wrong to her by trying to live my life. It’s a fucking shame.

[@antoniotula262]

I'm amazed at the strength & courage you & others here found to cut that umbilical cord. No doubt saved yourself much future grief.

[@DJRenee]

@@antoniotula262 she sure did

[@GETBIG4WARD]

I’m proud of you for being a adult at 21 and making a life changing decision kudos to you for standing up to your Mother she is your Mom but even you can tell her life wasn’t the way to do it and you changed it RESPECT

[@NicholesInItaly]

@@DJRenee thank you , means a lot 🙏🏽

[@NicholesInItaly]

@@antoniotula262 thank you 🙏🏽 you’re absolutely right

[@aaronanthony3843]

I cant lie this is enlightening and discouraging all at the same time

[@cptbob100]

lol, so accurate

[@BryanRKeith]

Hey Kevin.... Miss you man! You're needed!!! Love ya fella! Rest easy.

[@Mariahtheskyrimchick]

Kevin: Ladies get out the tissue. Me: 😭 too late . Such amazing content!!! Mr. Samuel's I found your channel in the hopes of learning to be a better girlfriend an instead I found this 💎 of content. You have changed my life. In less then of a year of watching your show I've gotten married to a wonder man, learned to be a better wife/ woman and I am currently working with my mom and grandmother to undo years of trauma and pain. Seriously thank you!

[@tdrive398]

Now you need to be a good (active) example to the women around you- especially girls as they mature. Society needs more women like you to be vocal. The ratchets and homewreckers have no problem being loud and "in your face". Too many women are afraid to go against the Girl Code and speak Truth (thereby saving other girls from mistakes and misery). Womyn won't listen to Men- that's on ya'll...

[@user-fp9tu8uk8i]

APPRECIATE YOUR TIME HERE 💯 MAKE A NOTE TO WILLIAMS SMITH ✍️ FOR SOME INVESTMENT IDEAS......... ..

[@Mr_LE3]

I dated a couple of chicks that were married to their mother! That sh!t was the worse, we couldn’t do nothing without their mothers being included somehow, someway! Crazy part, the mothers be low key hating and the daughters never see it!

[@ss-if2zu]

☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ✚𝟏𝟓𝟔𝟏𝟕𝟐𝟔𝟒𝟓𝟐𝟒✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦◦◦◦..

[@winwinwin481]

They see it they just to weak to address it.

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

As a woman how old she was

[@Mr_LE3]

@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 one was 25 and the other 28

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

@@Mr_LE3 as a woman stay to yourself this dating shit is not worth it ion

[@chrxtopherr]

In 2020 I had an explosive breakup with an ex that left me pretty roughed up mentally for like 12-16 months. Seriously got bad. It’s a story, so I’ll save it. One of the things that bothered me most for so long was why and HOW things got so bad, so fast. It was like a switch. And after watching this… I’m starting to see how it connects and it actually helped me let go even more. Understanding that it wasn’t a reaction to me necessarily, but a reaction to the principles at play like conflict avoidance and all that. Anyway, thanks KS. Has helped a lot

[@hbgguled2495]

Was she avoidant I'm interested in knowing how she wrecked good thing

[@user-ir4dj8sy1c]

Same here, like what the hell just happened? And how and why did the switch up happen so fast....

[@manknowsnothing3796]

Sounds like she was a narcissist.

[@Showbo252]

Experienced this myself I dated a woman for over a year and it was like dating a high school aged girl because her mom controlled her life! She was 30 smh

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

That because she is still living with her folks

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Similar what I am was dealing with

[@Showbo252]

Yup her mom was living with her

[@Moshuun]

Damn. This is the first time I was CURRENTLY going thru something you’re talking about. But I realized it AFTER I was married. 🙄

[@aziefabdoel2556]

I realised after divorce

[@Militarize]

Same here brother

[@craigrichardson3566]

she almost got me

[@ABa-ve3ul]

What about dudes w mummy issues. Stephan Speaks always is warns about those dudes

[@yokahudivine4746]

yup. same here. i truly wish i had this knowledge before my first marriage.

[@TheManley3]

Kevin thank you so much. I thought what I was experiencing with my wife was such a struggle and no one could relate to me. Your platform helped me get out and this particular show nailed the relationship I had!

[@anaarrendell]

By the time you said to get out the tissue, sir, it was too late! I needed this information so long ago. It’s so on point!! Hopefully, I can work on the damage I’ve done to my daughter before she becomes like me. We have to do better and we have to help each other do better. Thank you Mr. Samuels.

[@DJRenee]

RIGHT.,.....Bless you

[@Pysnpai]

Therapy sis. It helps. I’m praying for all my sisters going through this 🙏🏾

[@juniorjames7076]

I'm college class of 1995. I went to a predominantly White college because they gave me the most financial aid. Also I knew there would be Black people there, maybe not a lot, but I significant minority. And there were. But I was very naïve. I really thought in college I would find a compatible partner, a BLACK woman! A Black woman interested in intellectually curious, well-red and upwardly mobile Black men. Boy was I wrong. I looked at how the White, Asian, Middle Eastern and international women were marrying their cohort men in our class left and right. But the Black women at our school, when they weren't solely focused on their academics and grad school, would be messing with thugs who lived off campus, or known Playas on campus whom they KNEW weren't serious. Decades later in 2010, there was low key reunion in my local area. Sure enough, many of the Black women who showed up were successful lawyers or corporate executives, and ALL of them single moms. The most successful of them was top criminal attorney in a white shoe law firm. At the reunion she was 6 months pregnant. Single. The baby daddy was some White judge who didn't want to marry her.

[@straighttalk87]

Kevin broke my ex & her mama relationship down perfect 🤦🏾‍♂️🎯🎯

[@Jcg2nd]

Many of our failed relationships, I concur.

[@Showbo252]

Back facts i was in this for a year it was like dating a high school girl the mom controlled her every move and she was 30 smh

[@ABa-ve3ul]

Many mothers (women) are narcissistic/toxic just like many fathers (men). A relationship w either one is impossible espec long term

[@AskTheAdjutant]

Mine too... SMH

[@bigace511]

This video has my heart racing because this is what my ex was like. I didn’t pay attention Kevin… it’s crazy …I HEAR YOU SIR, PREACH!!!!

[@jamesrobinson2138]

“ I’m from the streets, I’m that bih from the streets I get the money!! Bih gimme what you got!!” Had me rollin 😂

[@prod.bylvwlee]

Bruhhh everytime!

[@CiluhStyle1]

😂🤣🤣

[@jackboy2472]

What time he said this

[@jamesrobinson2138]

@@jackboy2472 1:06:15

[@jackboy2472]

@@jamesrobinson2138 alright ty

[@davidjemison9480]

Over half of the women attending College do not use their degree nor do they make over 100k per year.

[@TradGuyTravels]

The only thing over 100k is their debt

[@joshuhlman2559]

Your videos always seem to just hit at the right time! I was recently dating a really well established "career/boss" chick. Fine af but a little bit in her masculinity at her work. She softened up when we hung out, and we dated regularly for about a month. Well let me tell you, I hung out one weekend with my best friend who came into town, and she decided to meet us both while we were out. Nothing really seemed amiss until the next day when she didn't text me back... and that went on for another week. I gave her benefit of the doubt of just being busy or whatever, and she finally reached out to me to explain that she was giving me the silent treatment for being upset about something that she perceived happened that prior weekend. Its like, relationships are hard enough without trying to fk up communication intentionally. I kicked her to the curb, bye bish XD

[@ss-if2zu]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴍʀ ᴅᴀɴɪᴇʟ ,ғᴏʀ sᴏᴍᴇ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs.......... .

[@DemureDarlings]

MY MOM WOULD ALWAYS TELL US KIDS TO SAY A PRAYER WHEN THE FIREFIGHTERS 🚒 WOULD WHISTLE BY. YOU NEVER KNOW WHO IS EFFECTED🙏🏼❤️

[@bxi1547]

Except your prayers don’t accomplish anything.

[@owen730]

And now 3 weeks later this dude is dead... ambulances were probably whistling by on their way to try and save his life. 😬

[@jungly8103]

@@bxi1547 except they do

[@singingchef23]

Prayers to the men and women who experienced these situations. Prayers for those who are actively working to improve and heal to break the stigmas in the black community. It's a fight but all of you can and will do it. Some of this content is a reminder, and makes you reflect upon situations.

[@V73usa]

One of our biggest problems is this prayer stuff…!!! We close our eyes whisper words in our head & hope everything is better. The person praying FEELS content & satisfied as if they contributed to a solution, but never lifted a finger. How many more decades have to pass before we realize it’s “Deliberate Intent” & Focus on our actions? True change will only come from a changed mindset coupled with ACTION. I.e… (it says prayers to/for = No Action…!!! Reminder/reflect = No Action) nothing Deliberate or Intentional…..!!!

[@DJRenee]

Agreed

[@DJRenee]

@@V73usa prayer and meditation along with therapy and action are all a part of the process.

[@singingchef23]

@@V73usa if you think prayer, is the issue, sir, you have deeper problems in your life, YOU need to work out. Every Christian "not the fake ones living part time, selective in the word", understand faith without works. But you go ahead and seek some therapy, work those problems out.

[@cyncerevideos5111]

Why pray for the women ? Most of you don't take responsibility. When men are wrong it's showcased when women do wrong it's only a minor mistake.

[@joyhappy3461]

Thanks for describing my life Kevin - mother/daughter wounds. I finally divorced my mother. It was painful to detach from her and let go but at 42 I’ve had enough of her abuse. It feels good to be free from her. I may never get married or have kids but I’m fine with that as long as I don’t have to deal with her again. She’s rude and disrespectful anyway.

[@gunemdown_smokey5297]

SMH you are exactly the problem in our society

[@dr.b.3888]

I hope you find love. God less you.

[@dr.b.3888]

Bless

[@TVGoldMind]

The fact you can even acknowledge the truth means there is hope. Hope you find happiness

[@Sc19869]

Damn that ghosting shit just happened to me. Kevin is on point. It was a year long I didn’t know where I stood with this women. I opened up to her and just like that ghosted, and she lived with her mom.

[@keenansmith7176]

That's insane.

[@GETBIG4WARD]

That happen for a reason meaning that’s a sign to leave her alone

[@Sc19869]

@@GETBIG4WARD yea I gave up on her. I learned the hard way

[@Cahluvca]

Ghosting= a silent blessing

[@joeam4977]

1 year is way too long to wait on a woman. If you don’t know where you stand in 2-4 weeks tops, you’re just wasting time.

[@imperialgrind3128]

Mr. Samuels was preaching. I was dealing w a woman that fit this description. Thank you for snapping me out of my stupor

[@Afrikano.]

First time you touched on a topic I had a 1 to 1 experience with. The whole monologue sounded like my ex. Her relationship with her mom always seemed like they were sisters which I thought was cool at first till conflict came and they bickered like sisters too. On top of that she always felt like she owed her mom a career, and always said she wanted to be 30+ before she thought about children. Also when it came to conflict she either deflected, turned to arguing or just ran from the issue until it caught up to her. There isn’t any amount of fine that’s worth putting up with that

[@jrkawaykla8183]

Church! My daughter is going through this abuse today smh. I fight for my daughter but I feel like she's gone. I can't tell her nothing without her mother's approval first. She won't go on vacations with me and her siblings without her mothers blessing. And if she does go anywhere with me , it all has a time limit or a list of demands , remind you ,our plans have nothing to do with her mother smh. She finds her way in.

[@ibexy]

Kevin's show has really shown how scary some of these ladies are. So this is how women really think? DAMN!

[@MRILWANUCOMEDIAN]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴍʀ ᴅᴀɴɪᴇʟ ,ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs.....................

[@MRILWANUCOMEDIAN]

📱ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝🧬 ✚▫️𝟏𝟔𝟔𝟗𝟑𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟑𝟗𝟓✉✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦◦.....

[@kaisumpter5236]

Oh my gosh Kevin is so spot on! I’m a Third grade teacher my student experiences her father beating her mother she says “I have to grow up and get a job and take care of my mother and brothers. “I probably won’t have kids”!

[@devindavila5548]

Girls Are In A Relationship 24/7 Even When They Are Single. You Don't Believe Me?? When She Is Single For Years ON PURPOSE. She Belongs To The Streets Or Chad. When She Is Always There Taking Care Of Her Mom She Belongs To The City. Remember She Belongs To Everyone But You.

[@Fabrizio7171]

Lmao only women and chad have that privilege. Lmao imagine claiming your single while actively fucking your x and other men ON THE REGULAR.

[@kyamlegend]

I had a coworker who married a woman and she moved her mother in with them immediately after the wedding. Her mother was just as disrespectful to him as she was. She told him flat out: if you try and put my mother out I’m gonna leave too AND take the kid with me! Needless to say he always found a reason to not go straight home after work 🤣

[@cameronevans9516]

It is what it is! Do not have a disrespectful mother in law in your home! If wife says she’s going with her bon voyage

[@yumiko0017]

Dang she didn’t discuss it with him? Don’t you discuss this before moving her in? It’s not only her house but his house as well.

[@sundaegold]

KEVIN this show was 🔥 everything you said was on point. I wish more women were willing to listen and most of all try and change their toxic ways. It’s very hard to unlearn certain things we were taught but very possible!

[@lauragriffin6512]

OMG, Kevin!!! Your monologue was 100%, dead-on accurate !!!!! You nailed it !!!!

[@ofc.s.t.smith-jones9772]

My grandfather and grandmother taught me this one remember this guys. All broken people are good for is breaking up and breaking others. They know how to divest, divorce, divide, and leave you destroyed. Never, ever decide on a woman based on feelings, looks, and or sexcapades. She has to earn any and everything thing that she wants or gets from you. Guys I'm 49 (years) if I could have had a K. Samuels in my 20's.😔 OMG (in a valley girl voice) my life was fun but I wasted way to much time with broken girls (not women).😲 Then one day in my late 20's I just decided to fix me and work on myself not anyone else. This was life changing and I got my wife a few years later. Guys work on being the absolutely certifiably best version of you you can possibly be.😉 I remember JT Money said ass, cash, or gas nobody rides for free.👌🏾

[@Johnnie2g]

Thanks for sharing your grandparents wisdom I will use that

[@InternacionalBoxing]

I'm 32 years old and been married to my wife for 8 years...We Mexican on this side and what you said about the families coming over here skipping over generational ethnic groups in USA is absolutely true!

[@zealchristian799]

"The light is on but no one is at HOME" Kelvin may you live long.

[@andrewall3193]

I say this everytime I watched Kevin's streams... "I wish I knew about him before I got married." Everything this man says about what to avoid and look for in a woman is accurate

[@omarshabazz9753]

Brother keep teaching. One of my sons spoke too you & he said you & I say the same things. Keep standing tall.

[@theeagleslairchannelwithcoacht]

I never felt the hurt of my father bc he wasn’t there. My mom has been the person to break my heart.

[@Fee-Nix]

@46:34 ‘Using daughters dating years’ I have known many mothers that go ‘night clubbing’ with their daughters, their “Do we look like sisters?” stage of life. The mothers using their daughters as a ticket or pass into the dating market. It’s as old as the Hollywood hills, mothers using their daughters to get access into the Hollywood party scene.

[@DJRenee]

Sad

[@oscarp2629]

Gold Nuggets Here! Kevin will live on and on with these life videos he left for us. RIP

[@BruBoyz]

That one chick called in just to to run away😂😂She proved Kevin right smh

[@ss-yl1gk]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴍʀ ᴅᴀɴɪᴇʟ ,ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs.................

[@ss-yl1gk]

📱ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝🧬 ✚▫️𝟏𝟔𝟔𝟗𝟑𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟑𝟗𝟓✉✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦

[@the2ndcoming135]

Yeah, man. Get just close enough to you that you reach and next thing you know she done got your ass🙂

[@RealDealy]

From my experience, he’s speaking on a codependency narcissistic relationship And, the mother isn’t coddling the son, she just can’t control him IF he isn’t the one who can be controlled. If anything he may be the “scapegoat child” who is seen as negative because he has his own mind This is really what’s happening when bw say they are raised while bm are coddled. Coddled is just another word for not being in the son’s life unless it benefits the mother, but because most men don’t do female things, the mother isn’t heavily involved in her son’s life while she can easily put her self in her daughters life and control it towards her benefit

[@ss-if2zu]

☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ✚𝟏𝟓𝟔𝟏𝟕𝟐𝟔𝟒𝟓𝟐𝟒✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦◦◦◦

[@cairomilano6049]

I think I see what you mean. It boils down to men & women aren’t the same so the treatment is different. The mom relates more to the daughter so she feels like she can have more of an influence in her life.

[@prod.bylvwlee]

Man i screenshotted this comment. 100% me and my younger siblings and mom. Even though she married my stepdad. I knew there was something off at a young age, so i really leaned on my independence. Thank god i did because a hyena family dynamic was calling my name.

[@meka8156]

Some mothers are overbearing in their sons life as well due to lack of fathers

[@RealDealy]

@@meka8156 True, but it’s the same story. It’s usually the mother really loved the father, but they just couldn’t be together In that case, either she creates the man she wanted his father to be or she uses money to keep him under her control

[@eddiecoats4191]

As soon as I got custody of my kids, I immediately stopped my daughter from taking care of my son. Made him start doing it for himself and he hated it so much. They both struggled with having family structure for a good year.

[@mile3018]

SCHOOL IS IN SESSION! *THANK YOU, KS!* "Undifferentiated from family of origin" & "vulnerable narcissism" My ex-wife always had a contentious relationship with her mom that *"fixed itself"* once the stick turned blue. Kept saying she was codependent on me... my own therapy uncovered the gaslighting and helped define all the things I went through as she became her mother's clone and lobbed "you're trying to separate me from my mother" into the proceedings. Uhhhh; they gave you away to me, wtf are you talking about?!

[@ImGoodLuvEnjoy]

I wish I had access to information about women like this years ago… would’ve saved me so much time and energy. He described my ex like he knew her. Luckily I know now not to make things work with women like this. KS wins again.

[@ss-yl1gk]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴍʀ ᴅᴀɴɪᴇʟ ,ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs.................

[@ss-yl1gk]

📱ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝🧬 ✚▫️𝟏𝟔𝟔𝟗𝟑𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟑𝟗𝟓✉✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦

[@frankbarone4065]

Thank you KS, you cleared up a hole heap of issues I couldn't understand about a woman who was not able to be free for me. It was her momma that she was married to.

[@brutalriff1053]

This mentality is beginning to bleed into other ethnicities too. My ex was a Filipina and moved to USA when she was 19, but lived in primarily black neighborhoods. Everything Kevin described here was her situation, to the tee. Single, spiteful mom who my ex always had something to prove to, couldn't be too far because her mom "needed" her. Her career was her identity because she needed to "prove" something to the world. On the other hand, I came from a whole family, got a high paying job, and provided for everything. But after 7 years of fighting and being taken for granted, I dropped her from my life, and for the weeks that followed, I saw the realization of losing a good man start to creep over her. She begged multiple times to take her back. But its too late. She's now 32 and single (but thankfully, not a mother. I had the sense to not make that mistake). It may have started with black communities, but I think the problem is becoming more mainstream than we realize.

[@maybe_keke]

This was for me and I am receiving ALL OF IT.... THANK YOU!!!

[@lioy3825]

My favorite episode. I cried all the way through and took notes and come back to listen regularly. He hit the nail on the head.

[@talesfromthestreet4448]

The first lady that didn't want to show her face wanted to have a problem with no argument....thats the problem she jus wants to be mad because she feels like she should be but nothing to be mad at!! Your giving them the chance to make an actual change for the better and they fight it soo hard instead of learning...much respect man!!💪

[@dariusthompson6680]

Oh lord, Kevin you are going to open up wounds that will never close. I have seen this and never knew as the youngest child and only male what it has done to my sister. This is tragic in our community. As a man on the dating market my heart feels so much sorrow for these women who are living this reality today.

[@user-xo3zp9gz8t]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡɪʟʟɪᴀᴍs sᴍɪᴛʜ ,ғᴏʀ sᴏᴍᴇ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs.......

[@user-xo3zp9gz8t]

☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ✚𝟏𝟓𝟒𝟎𝟐𝟒𝟎𝟒𝟐𝟗𝟗✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦@

[@MotivatedI]

Today I want to say this : We must not be sad Kevin is gone. We must be happy he left us all this content we will have forever. Valuable content that is just priceless. This episode just opened my eyes so much cause of something that happened to me recently.

[@loetzcollector466]

It was shocking listening to him describe these points. It describes my ex-wife about 80% like he was talking directly about her. You want to talk conflict avoidance? After 18 years of marriage, she divorced me with a pencil hand-written note inside an aspirin bottle

[@TierraLynn]

Thanks for including my video in an amazing episode Kevin. MONEY WORLD ! 💃🏽🥂✨

[@user-xo3zp9gz8t]

◾ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ, ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡɪʟʟɪᴀᴍs sᴍɪᴛʜ ,ғᴏʀ sᴏᴍᴇ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs......

[@user-xo3zp9gz8t]

☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ✚𝟏𝟓𝟒𝟎𝟐𝟒𝟎𝟒𝟐𝟗𝟗✔ ʟᴇᴛ ʜɪᴍ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ɪ ʀᴇғᴇʀʀᴇᴅ ʏᴏᴜ◦◦◦

[@alexhartley9133]

You did you Thang miss Lynn 👍

[@TierraLynn]

@@alexhartley9133 Thank you. So sweet ❤️

[@alexhartley9133]

@@TierraLynn no problem, just calling how I see it

[@parnaerue]

Def had issues with 3 & 5 at one point until I sat down & faced/studied myself! Now instead of running away I aim to lean into it in the most peaceful manner. I loved this one Mr Samuels!!

[@vernonpaigejr.1517]

Glad my mom was able to always be married. She didn't have to call me to bail her out in situations. That is her husband job.