Why Asian Men Are Emotionally Unavailable

[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

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[@flo4606]

Ether's def underrated. Would like to hear her thoughts more or an episode interviewing her

[@katsufatsu]

Definitely! They tend to talk over her a lot in this episode. I don’t think it’s intentional at all but I would love to hear her perspective more :)

[@flo4606]

@@katsufatsu I agree I def don't think theres any ill intent

[@puffin3dee]

Esther can get this ____

[@jordinhan]

Esther seems like a real wholesome human being. We want more of her! ❤

[@joisimone]

I think wootak didn’t give himself enough credit. I think he brings hella knowledge to relationships. He seems wise for his age

[@michaelcolon-discala3110]

Congrats on 100k, I found this podcast a month ago and I’ve been hooked. I like how it doesn’t feel like a podcast, just 4 friends talking and laughing.

[@4dvil]

this podcast is genuinely really educational and funny especially when Wootak goes into depth with certain scenarios

[@tink6225]

wootak Is the goat

[@stanman7840]

Thank you Wootak for being disagreeable, strong-minded and speaking out about your own thoughts and feelings! Your opinions are very worthwhile and valuable. I think that’s obviously how a podcast should be hosted, but it’s so much better to hear the honest opinions and your justifications. You guys all do such a great job. Thank you all for such a fantastic production.

[@myalteregoissasha630]

That little non-verbal conversation between Wootak, Jeremy and Viet when Esther said the person who was supposed to support her didn’t got me replaying that scene like 5 times because there is clearly spicy tea behind that story but no one said a word, they just kept giving each other side glances and trying not to laugh hahahaha (1:15:07)

[@stayPeculiar]

omg yesss I checked it out alot too!! some juicy stuff here

[@suukyig5168]

Noticed also from the tahoe episodes that Jeremy has a tell---he drinks when hes uncomfortable so you KNOOOWWWW something is up :))))

[@wellnesswithlivrose]

Might’ve been cause Viet hit his vape and didn’t wanna blow it out or somethin but you might be right I just noticed that tho😂😂

[@little.tricks]

Guys you have love bombing wrong. It's a tool narcissists use, it doesn't mean showing extra effort and romance at the first few months of a relationship. It's also not love bombing to put consistent effort in to continuing to "date" your partner after being in a relationship for a while. It's the Hallmark of a great relationship to not stop showing them you love them and care.

[@en2336]

Same energy as guys who use the excuse that they're not a simp to avoid being a kind and caring human being. It's gross these people are spreading misinformation

[@vaselinesandwich5157]

@@en2336 they’re just misinformed, no need to be rude

[@alondraa057]

Jeremy: “I’m really good at listening” Jeremy: **continues to talk over Esther** 😂😂 22:55

[@lol-zt7gp]

i felt so bad that she got talked over

[@dayaniboatman3557]

I have to agree with Viet. There is so many things that adults were able to experience as a child and I was isolated and wasn’t allowed to have those experiences.

[@bainmoosh6993]

10:09:35 It does matter. In my experience the guy needs to be more in love because if the woman is the one that's more in to it then the dude either gets scared and pushes back or just gets too comfortable and stops trying.

[@bleetles8663]

i love this podcast bc of yalls dynamics. this was the episode i introduced my brother to y’all and i had to explain that you guys were just being silly goofy this episode 💀

[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

lmaooo

[@snugspenguin]

Participation ribbons are definitely fine for elementary age. Its just to reward all the kids who are engaging in activities that are not required of them! Its just trying to encourage them to do more. And that isnt going to rob them of wanting to do better, cause every kid of course loves to win lol

[@lrz2410]

the hugging your friend's significant other debate was so funny to me cause here in italy we just hug and kiss everyone on the cheek no matter who it is

[@aznmushi]

I’M SO GLAD YA’LL EXPLAINED THE PERILLA LEAF THEORY!! I’ve never understood why it would be so strange for the boyfriend to help the friend, but now that you explain that the leaves are difficult to separate, I get it.

[@ttayebro]

it’s just really interesting to hear men speak about what they want out of their emotional connections

[@mini_mair]

I can’t wait until Nectar is in Texas 👏🏼 100k, y’all should do a live recording in front of an audience! A meetup type thing! But also, more tattoos is always a great idea 😅

[@wmphatic]

I normally disagree with Brando on a bunch of different topics but the participation award sentiment I understand because in adolescence the joy of the game comes first then the pursuit of excellence, everyone wants to be the best and very few are, this shouldn't minimize the achievement of kids who work and genuinely try hard at the game, if we only acknowledge the best, statistically few people would every be awarded, this doesn't even mention factors related to the coach, the sport, the interpersonal dynamics on team sports or personality psychology of the child. We all get 1st place at being ourselves.

[@estiventaborda]

The most organized chaotic intro 😭🤣 Fucking love y’all 🫶🏾

[@tzecarnaz1351]

Dude I thought I was tripping! I was looking for this video, Also For 100k why don’t you do a fan meet up and play anime themed games. The cast can even dress up as they’re favorite anime etc.

[@delfinamosto4632]

I love you Esther. I dont know you but I do think you are a nice and kind hearted person. 💜

[@Kayyall]

Found this podcast because SuburbTalks and finish all episodes in just a few days. I can’t wait for Esther’s and Viet’s sister episodes ❤ …

[@kaylasoriano2086]

wootak interpretation is interesting. my thing is if you were born into a socioeconomic status that’s poor under the current society we live in it’s hard to get out of your situation. (It’s not always necessarily the person)

[@BevBee]

How did I just discover this podcast now!? Honestly, going to binge all the past episodes. It feels like I'm just hanging out with my Asian fam. I dunno how to describe it, it's just a rad podcast that makes me feel comfy like I'm wearing a huge cuddly hoodie. Thanks so much for all this content, looking forward to more from you guys.

[@EstherYJChang]

❤❤❤

[@suz-2050]

1:37:11 nah I agree with Brando, he’s right no kid who’s 5-10 is gonna be thinking “oh wow my dad is awesome for not gifting me but gifting my brother because he finished brushing his teeth before me” that instance would bring unnecessary constant competition in that relationship and yes it would discourage them. Kids aren’t mentally developed enough to understand the concept of preparation for the long run, they’re in fact extremely impressionable so it would just psychologically mean to them that they aren’t good enough as their peers. (although wootak’s mentality makes sense, it would only make sense in adulthood or close to adulthood years, at a developmental age is what I’m trying to get at) however for participation awards, they get a pat on the back for trying, therefore encouraging them to work harder to get a hug next time (greater reward) and THAT is how you encourage impressionable kids to work harder, since that’s when they at their own will strive to compete with themselves, or push themselves harder should I say. it all varies from a person’s will power, I’d understand in an instance where someone grows up spoon fed all their lives and become expectant but, to children rather than a sense of entitlement it’s a form of encouragement.

[@casthesweetheart]

I was literally looking for this video 5 minutes ago 🫣 Happy you re uploaded it!

[@bridgetbenoevil]

Sorry if I’m wack for this but I think Esther and Jeremy would be cute together. 💞

[@eleonorahard1124]

Me too, and can definitely see some sparks between them ❤

[@QE-mf6gd]

Congrats on the 100k y’all.

[@manmann6949]

UTI squad showed up. Posted at 80k, watched two days later we at 117k.

[@abbiefrost1404]

for 100k have wootak make custom drinks for each of you (and himself) that fits their personality

[@stephanieantonio2187]

Something id like to see is about selflove , how to grow as a person,mind & to become successful

[@LiterallyJustMyThoughts]

Anyone offended by a woman calling herself a woman is ridiculous.. Girl.. Yes You can say Women and Woman

[@LoraJayne]

I think guys definitely think about ideal body type even in a relationship but I think women typically are more emotionally involved so will compromise body type for emotions - if that makes sense. Love the channel btw

[@sarahjohnson1632]

Love ur content! I discovered the podcast a little over a week ago and have went on a massive binge. I think the favorite food one is a good idea. Here are some ideas for the pod since u guys asked (just throwing them out there): -games (cards, boardgames, or those cards w personal questions), tho idk if it would work for ur setup - I thought the trivia episode was fun so maybe another trivia - maybe some old school truth or dare, never have I ever, etc. - or u can each do like facts, quotes, or statements, and try to guess who said what - maybe u guys can do some sort of competitions since I noticed some of u guys are competitive lol. These r just off the top of my head, maybe more will come later. Sorry for the long comment. Love u guys, stay awesome!💕

[@gaymer-j]

tbh my 2 Asian exes were so stoic and did not know how to express themselves or didn't feel comfortable doing it - or being silly or anything. made a lot of sense when i met their families... no physical or verbal affection, no joking with their parents or even aunts or uncles, it was just always serious and quiet. very opposite of my Mexican/Brazillian family where we hug each family member, I dance with my parents and take shots with them, say I love you, joke with them (even inappropriate jokes lol), sing to loud music, etc. My Asian partners tho were easily overwhemled and overstimulated, i guess. where I was just hella anxious around their families - where I felt like I just had to sit and stay quiet and just talk here and there... it was too tame and monotone, idk how to explain it, it was too quiet and unnerving - very very just formal... my only Asian partners I ever been with or hooked up with were my 2 exes - the others being mainly being Latino and Black

[@kyarbeee]

100k too small, podcast deserves more! grats grats

[@nadiat777]

“i love latinas” 💀 lmaoo congrats on 100k!! i’m ready for nectar to be in TX! also something is going on with the side cameras and I can’t put my finger on it 🤔

[@Emz1738.]

I’m just here for Esther, but at least I watched the full show😏

[@nicoleconcepcion5748]

wootok is spitting bars on what it takes to walk towards self love in this episode...nice to see

[@ubaldo446]

I like when the podcast is all over the place 😂

[@villyv444]

Im black American happy i found this channel.

[@bitterbob]

Just want to shout out nectar! The stuff is delightful! Way better than the other seltzers.

[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

thank you for supporting the show, king 👑!!! what city you in?

[@bitterbob]

@Under The Influence Show San Diego baby! I'll always support you all, you're all fantastic!

[@juliaquach3551]

i cant unsee jeremy's turtle face now ever since esther mentioned it in the last podcast omg lol

[@EstherYJChang]

🐢

[@poojiejean301]

Viet is really cooler than what i though , I really like Esther interaction, you guys in general really cool, you would be a nice group to chill with. love you guys. i liked the subject about giving award to kid that do nothing .

[@Lalalalala...]

If they’re all hungry they should’ve just make this episode into a mukbang lol

[@joenyc]

wow wootak hit it right on the nail on mastering the initial phase, and then getting annoyed deeper down the line. i wonder if it's a nyc nightlife thing bc i'm going through the same thing...

[@marians1683]

Congratulations on 100k so happy

[@marians1683]

And for the 100k go to a haunted place or do some activity idk

[@miamacias2816]

Wootak should make a drink that represents each person. Like a silly goofy one 😙

[@ImmortalDynastyTarot]

Yoooo. I was literally thinking about this the other day!? Specifically asian men. I’m half flip and I’ve dated filipino/asian guys. And ohhhhh my gooooooood. They have serious issues with opening up. And it’s def from upbringing. But damn, it’s pretty ingrained and scary.

[@jamilyaalmaaa623]

I really enjoy when guys talk about religion/ philosophy!!! Also I would like to hear more about world events?? AND space/ universe. I know that’s very broad but I can’t think of anything specific 🕺🏼

[@samiyi4896]

Came for Sahar,s episode, I stayed for y'all's vibes 🎉

[@NancyRamirez360]

Me too. I didn’t know who she was but i had clips of that episode all over my feed on all socials and so I decided to watch it and like her vibe but also stayed because I really fw this dynamic. Like If I hadn’t watched a bunch of episodes since I think I would’ve thought they were childhood friends that grew up together. Like it works well. There are so moment s I catch but mostly good vibes

[@rociomendoza693]

Found you guys around 3 months ago and have binged all your videos! 🖤 each one almost better than the last.

[@annabelsc0tt]

I love it when u guys are vulnerable, makes me feel so normal, y'all are real for that ❤❤

[@annabelsc0tt]

the way I be laughing just as hard with u guys too makes me happy

[@itsolivernn]

The best podcast out there 😊🫶🏽

[@susannas2610]

Am I the only one thinking that Viets outfit was fire? Suits him well 👌

[@aweshumandy]

on the participation trophies devil's advocate argument, the encouragement on being involved in sports should come in other areas too. it's okay to take out the team for pizza and ice cream, win or lose imo. the trophies should be reserved to those who overcame the most, as a part of how competition works that's usually the ones who won at all stages.

[@mouwkado9112]

You guys are my new family from the new continent i laugh to much omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣 AND YOU SHOULD SHIP WORLDWIDE ppl are thirsty here !

[@NewtownGurl]

I stumbled here for Viet😘 Left with Wootak.

[@angierosales2376]

love this podcast !! congrats on 100k❤️!!

[@glynkj5975]

I agree y'all need to start doing meetups or something to celebrate the 100k!!!

[@cxle177]

I watched cuz Wootak is a super chill dude. Which he is seems a very familiar friend like one of the boys.

[@Ms.young_hot_yellow]

Wish y’all nothing but good things only.

[@Yesorelse]

This was such a good ep - everyone was giving such good vibes

[@Myhalamanz]

Esther seems like a chill and nice person to me. I would want to be friends with her. But I'm also very bad at reading people so idk. Also where's her interview you promised???

[@renee8906]

Jeremy ur the best and i hope everyone has a friend like u in their life ❤️

[@ashleyseee]

esther and jeremy !! 47:56 and 1:15:06

[@franky7995]

Also ester and woos reaction after jeremy kissed her hand at 2:56

[@extroverted_hermit]

This is such an interesting podcast because you can hear how living and being socialised in a Western society that believes its Meritocratic affects your values and opinions

[@extroverted_hermit]

The winning first place perspectives are so American-centric, super interesting

[@angelinajoson7852]

i loved loved the segment on why asian men are emotionally unavailable bc it reminded me of all my guy friends 💀💀

[@jonalynnn]

I’m I the only one who thinks wootak looks like thicker a keshi😂

[@Mramrose]

The participation trophie for kids convo is sooo 💀. Like life is going to humble you in MANY ways. I promise a small trophy for a kids sport isn’t going to put them on some ego trip lmao. So Esther and Brando have a point

[@strangeapril3796]

Well my type in general is Jeremy( calm, spiritually aware, smart & goal oriented) but I would go for Esther(funny, a giver, easy to hangout with & interesting) cuz her personality 👌😂😂😂

[@psyonide1394]

Wootak and Viet flirting is too funny

[@karanpuaar2106]

Bring wootak backkkk he was a good man ... .....he will be always missed 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻

[@jonathanescobar747]

First of all GREAT episode I enjoyed the whole video. Also, I LOVED the convo about participation awards and not just bc the debate was good but bc both sides were genuinely listening to the other side while also stating valid points on each side. Although I see where Brando is coming from I gotta go w against it but that’s just my opinion.

[@xxttiiffaannyyxx]

i was playing a trivia game that asked what ELO stands for, then you guys literally talked about elo afterwards! what a coincidence 😵‍💫 i didn’t get it right hahaha

[@uhmeer]

boy this UTI suburb talks feud got me divided

[@corey_el]

y'all clickbaited me with that title lol I thought u were gonna really get into it!! enjoyed the episode as always. even though I had to skip through the boobs v butt conversation lmao

[@betru2myself]

I think that book theory is only apt if the person is shallow to begin with, in which case they're not someone I'd consider datable to begin with. I'm not sure about men, or even other women for that matter, but I've definitely gotten to know someone who I considered average, or not my ideal, who I later found sexy as hell once I got to know them. All that being said, if you've been out on enough dates to know you have absolutely no sexual chemistry or attraction, it's a valid reason to go your separate ways. I know some people might argue that if everything else about the relationship is ideal, then leaving for that alone is stupid. The reality though is that for most relationships, intimacy is an integral part of the relationship, without it, eventually you'll end up resentful towards that person anyway.

[@andymolina3657]

This is the best podcast

[@javionabiggs2903]

You should do a bar chemistry tattoo or a word that represents u guys and the show as a whole.

[@Ninjubee]

So we all see it right? Jeremy & Esther are together? Or am I new to this???? Lmao

[@JacquiCuff]

Totes agree with Esther! Guys go for body type eventually. Watch out if you aren't what they say.

[@JacquiCuff]

But also I'm a butt girl, slender up top and after spending years with a boob guy, for sure, when we broke up I realised that relationship made me feel inadequate body wise. Even though he loved me for what my body was like. I'd just notice subtle things that made me feel sh*t for having smaller tits. Not the case whatsoever now I'm with a butt guy who loves absolutely all of me... So nah, I agree with Esther. Gotta be careful if you are the opposite of someone's body type.

[@villyv444]

Its important for black americans to subcribe to this podcast. In our community, we are gaslighted A LOT to a disgusting degreee out of wanting a man with money. I notice the same conversations dont take place with other cultures

[@brielle6454]

Participation awards 🤔 I think there should be an age limit on that. Kindergarten (age 5-6) should be the end, because if kids are constantly told they need to do better, it hurts their confidence/drive very early and it can get worse as they get older. Let them have at least 1 little win in between. That may be their only "trophy" or proof they didn't quit 😁

[@ruhpreme]

The reupload! Was looking for it trying to finish it up.

[@josuemorales8667]

I found out about this podcast yesterday and I started listening today at work and now I’m hooked! Good vibes 🤙🏼

[@mslaydee1202]

A LIVE SHOW!!

[@cmonbruhhh]

5:19 Jeremys reaction 💀 😂 😂

[@sydneyhay1971]

I once heard someone say that truly rich men might actually love gold diggers bc goldiggers work towards a relationship only for the fact that the man has money & can provide financial freedom. So truly rich men, that know they'll always have money to provide, would love to have a gold digger bc his physical characteristics don't matter as he gets older (and a goldigger would do everything to stay hot/sexy as long as he provides no matter her age) & they both have a similar mindset of wanting wealth & living a certain lifestyle... so now I live by that & think most ppl who complain about gold diggers don't actually have gold diggers, just materialistic/shit partners

[@Kaleidoscopically123]

And yeah I think it's important for people to like each other at least closely equally enough for the relationship to be a good one. Omg I always have so much to say. Omg.

[@frosty9885]

i love this podcast

[@allyhess]

For 100k you guys should use the drink wheel hanging up!

[@abortney9067]

I definitely relate the most to brando, a surprising turn in events

[@angelbabii8]

I feel like the part about being obvs attracted enough to be on the date in the first place is my answer. I think a lot of us believe we have a standard type we go for, but in reality feelings are feelings and when you love someone or want to be with someone theyre already perfect to you. This is at least my take on it personally! I think if I was on a date and got asked that I would feel like they were either super insecure or not into me. I agree with Viet id be out of there lol.

[@cookingwithmarve]

requesting viettrap manipulates and lied to you 2hr asmr😅

[@blackcomposition2266]

so theyre dating right? jeremy and e- nah? if not they REALLY seem like it.... hope they dont break up and make it weird\............ if they are.

[@ashleymorales4295]

I don’t think so? Esther was on another podcast with some dude and they were talking about getting together

[@blackcomposition2266]

@@ashleymorales4295 oh shit

[@selena2967]

@@ashleymorales4295 which podcast?

[@selena2967]

Y'all I figured it out lol it's the Down Bad Podcast that she was on. And she's not dating that dude, it didn't work out between them. So who knows maybe Esther and Jeremy do have something going on lmao 👀

[@TheInvincibleGamer1]

Jeremy should of put on the wig when he did the girl voice i would of died XD

[@CassandraL666]

Watch Viet and Wootak flirt with each other for almost 2 hours……….. 👀👀👀

[@nikkiw4664]

Love your content on these episodes Wootak and Viet are hilarious ❤ I seen someone else say this, but it would be cool if you guys did a fan meet and greet for a celebration of hitting 100k 🎉