Why Being Intelligent Is Hated by Society | Schopenhauer

[@danielrichwine2268]

I became a much happier person when I stopped expecting people to understand me.

[@disklamer]

Would you care to explain ;)

[@LeoFlandez]

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[@CallousCoder]

@@disklamerbest response here 😂

[@AnnYakey]

Good one! Im working on that one...

[@AlexKamillaKroy]

basically

[@mittinana]

I've heard it said that intelligent people do not like being around those who are smarter than them, and that's definitely not true. It's a rare delight to have someone who's brighter than me make suggestions and point out flaws in my arguments. When I'm the single intelligent one, things get repetitive and uninteresting.

[@michaels4255]

Yes, I do wonder whether, instead of being a "relative" trait, there is some absolute threshold above which almost everyone appreciates intelligent discourse. I do believe that a more intelligent world would be a better world, or a more intelligent society would be etc., but I have my doubts that we can arrive in that place by natural selection. It's like you can't get from the lower hill to the higher hill without going through the valley, and the valley in this case is likely to be the valley of artificial selection, which implies a far higher degree of social control over reproductive choices than most of us are comfortable with. Alternatively, I like to think that it could be done with financial incentives (sticks for high achievers who fail to reproduce or reproduce too slowly and carrots for low achievers to reproduce less or at later ages), but I also think a society wise enough to design and enforce an effective incentive system over a period of centuries would need to be more intelligent to begin with than any society that now exists.

[@GodwynDi]

@@michaels4255 I think there are several thresholds. The area between significant intelligence and absolute genius is pretty broad. Everyone in that category probably gets along well. It wont be the content of thought that varies, but just the speed at getting there. Much lower, and the intelligence group actually cannot comprehend the same thoughts as the more intelligent. The same barrier between highly intelligent people and true geniuses.

[@evad7933]

It is true. It is relative. People avoid threats to their ego.

[@operandexpanse]

Yes, being around more intelligent people “awakens” my brain. I think more clearly and outside the box, and I notice that the other person sees a lot in me that I don’t see in myself, good and bad.

[@badmiddens]

Indeed. I believe its the people who only think they are intelligent who bristle at being among those who actually are.

[@lilmizchiv1]

My grandmother always told me I was going to have problems keeping friends. She said I was beautiful and smart. It's harder to bring people up to your level than it is to drag you down to theirs... They have gravity working for them.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

This is true. Good analogy.

[@WJohnson1043]

We all have problems keeping friends.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

@ When you're wired different it's a lot harder.

[@danacoleman4007]

wow! what an insightful way of looking at it and boiling it down to its essence! sad, but also funny and very true!

[@septemberamyx]

I love that!

[@artfx9]

However: just because people don't like you, doesn't mean you're smart.

[@carloscontreras4707]

😂 yea

[@62Movement]

Exactly And smart people, as mentioned in the video, understand you can learn something from anyone… so they ARE a mirror simply transferring the observers confirmation biases, judgments and own insecurities back at them.

[@cameoh.1771]

Lol that's fair. 😅

[@harderthanitlooked]

It usually means that person isn't silent.

[@AspartameBoy]

Ah. You ARE smart.

[@chrismaxwell1624]

I like being around people more intelligent that I am. Makes for great times. I can learn from them, I can talk to them.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

Being around highly intelligent people will reveal your own gifts to you.

[@terrorists-are-among-us]

Me too. Too bad they rarely exist 😂

[@markniblack7160]

Exactly

[@wkrp01]

That's cool if you actually found people you can have meaningful conversations with. The video suggests finding your tribe and that the Internet can help with that (9:20). I haven't found it to be true. Sure, you can find some person on a random online forum, or maybe these KZbin comments, but they're not the people who will be in your life or even meet in person ever. The chances of having longer-term in-person friends with similar intellectual interests are almost zero. Heck, the chances of having any real friends at all is pretty low these days for anyone (after student life is over).

[@Guesswho-x4o]

I couldn't agree more

[@whodefan]

The smarter you are, the pool of people you can meaningfully connect with shrinks dramatically. It's a life destined for solitude.

[@notavailable.000]

the more you know....

[@matthewdaniels2839]

That’s not really true though. The creator of this video put it nicely. There are examples of highly intelligent people who found a way to make their ideas understandable to the wider public. It depends on the type of intellect you possess, but there are most likely ways in which people of all levels of intelligence can have a profound impact on your life. As smart as someone may be, there is still a limit to the lense in which you see the world. There are still disciplines in which you cannot dedicate yourself to, if not simply because there is a limit to what you can commit your time to. There are absolutely people of average and below average intelligence that understand certain concepts better than you do. To appreciate the value in that will help you have much better social interactions in life.

[@gemini62167]

LOL. You make it sound as if that is a bad thing. Solitude does not equate to loneliness. Not by any means of the word.

[@BS-detector]

Less people means less drama, and less drama means more time for deep thought. It's a win win.

[@sepg5084]

Intelligent people are not hated, pretentious people are.

[@cautiousoptimist1926]

Most people are herd animals and they conform to common beliefs and behaviors because it makes them feel secure. Those of us who question the status quo cause them to feel threatened.

[@katehamilton7240]

More than that even, we evolved to fit in in order to survive and not be cast out of the tribe.

[@sirtomasin4202]

Yes. They also fear taking responsibility. Maybe they lack the confidence of conviction or assertiveness to go against the grain. I get called opinionated by those that have none LOL

[@Katie-yu1cv]

@@cautiousoptimist1926 nice comment I'm not smart enough to fit in anywhere. I think too deep and read too much. I must be really stupid if I need to read many thousands of books and still don't know enough to join the herd.

[@volkerr.]

However you call it - currently the name sigma is en vogue - its aprox. 10 % of all people who are able to keep their free will.

[@volkerr.]

@@Katie-yu1cvso be an opportunist. Use the herd when you need it. Else stay on your own. Isn’t that called clever..?😜

[@johancoetser906]

People will often attack origional thinkers as if their life depends on it. Humour helps to deflect aggression...

[@faithlesshound5621]

I see this as a homoeostatic mechanism of society. New ideas threaten the existing state of affairs and those who benefit from it. Priests and teachers stamp out questioning and neology , and so do parents in most societies.

[@ShiftingCloudsYT]

If you’ve ever wondered how empires fell, this is exactly it. Human behavior. We shun the best and brightest and reward the most familiar. Then we are completely confused and astounded when people who think exactly the same can’t figure out a different solution for a problem that will end society. Then we go on to repeat these follies era after era, with even more confusion and astonishment when the same exact things happen! It’s almost like we are doomed to repeat things unless we learn from them or something… almost like we are here to learn and not be rich, popular, attain materials, etc. hmmmmmm???!!

[@jkkim6928]

Homeostasis, inertia, all perfect examples

[@kshillingford4921]

Who wants to placate and tap dance for the same hostile insecure idiots all day every day in order to make them feel more comfortable when they refuse to and/or are incapable of reciprocating to an even moderate degree?

[@Zodroo_Tint]

@@faithlesshound5621 You talking about people with some sort of power but most of the attack coming from people with no power at all.

[@basicbreakfast]

Society rewards conformity and compliance

[@johnmcmahon5225]

Who is "society"? Is there a society headquarters that sends out bonus checks? You are dealing with individuals pretty much 100% of the time.

[@basicbreakfast]

@@johnmcmahon5225 society=the collective the herd, mooo

[@johnmcmahon5225]

@吕咪咪 A plumber, a lawyer, a fry cook, and a teacher all dress differently to go to work, based on the particular job they are doing, not what society has set as a dress code. What is the standard that determines how each employee should conform to society's expectations and be rewarded accordingly? It's different for each one of those occupations, and not the same for everyone within those occupations. Most of the expectations in the workplace are set by bosses and co-workers who are individuals. We are constantly dealing with individual people, who it is more important to please than "society," which is only easier to blame for our problems.

[@johnmcmahon5225]

@basicbreakfast The herd is being directed by a cowboy or shepherd or a dog. It is not determining its own path. People imagine that if society is changed, then a lot of problems would be eliminated, and that is nonsense since you would have the same individuals. Besides, try to change a single person! Good luck with that. People are not sheep. We have names and are all different in many ways. Everybody is not obeying the shepherd.

[@airahayashi2919]

​@@johnmcmahon5225nah... the bigots do (the sheep)

[@davidgrigg7398]

It's because intelligent people are not easily lied to or manipulated

[@WJohnson1043]

I disagree. Being intelligent doesn’t make you any less a fool.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

​@@WJohnson1043there are some things only experience can teach

[@mylessalmon2569]

@@WJohnson1043 People do it on their own; it's ultimately lack of self-esteem.

[@channeldoesnotexist]

@@WJohnson1043 intelligent doesn't mean you have degrees or know a lot of facts lil bro

[@aaftiyoDkcdicurak]

Intelligence isn't a factor for people who join cult's it's when people "think" with their emotions that they are vulnerable.

[@christopherjohnson1803]

I have always felt this, whenever I expected to have a conversation about important topics it gets shut down and people start talking about the weather or sports.

[@transphotography]

It’s because you’re not talking with the right people

[@xcabczyxabczzz]

Can we talk about the socioeconomic situation of the world?

[@aluisious]

@@xcabczyxabczzz Only if you've thought about it enough to stop regurgitating what everyone told you your whole life.

[@tofo2]

This week, it’s not very windy in northern Europe. As people chose wind power to ease their fears of rising sea levels and climate catastrophes, they forgot to consider its performance when there’s no wind. By being that careless, they are now blessed with the reality of an unstable energy market.

[@frequentlycynical642]

@@xcabczyxabczzz Why? What does this suggestion have to do with the topic?

[@markbentley7830]

I finally understand why people always think I’m judging them and why I can feel tension build when I talk about anything other than sports😞

[@FranklinJuniper-uh2lk]

Wow. That was a revelation, wasn't it? I have been accused of being judgmental, and truly wondered where that was coming from. I certainly did not feel judgmental.... I truly did not know what I did wrong. Turns out - nothing.

[@mnbvc907]

That`s why so many people, particularly men, like talking about sports. It`s uncontroversial.

[@valentinelove9463]

@@mnbvc907Would it still be controversial by debating over which team is better?

[@molamolalaaa2968]

Same here. I can’t talk to some people on anything other than food.

[@FranklinJuniper-uh2lk]

I had a formerly good friend yell at me about a magazine subscription she had made. She yelled she didn't want my "judgement" on it. I was truly mystified. Not anymore. (It's a magazine. I was about to say oh that's interesting, or some such. Why would I even care about her magazine subscription? I was so confused.)

[@zornslemon]

It’s important to remember that even if someone is less intelligent than you, they still know things that you don’t. You can learn from almost anyone. If people know that you are smart, and you ask them for their opinion, and are genuinely interested in their response, it’s a big ego boost for them.

[@FASBLAQUE]

🙄😑

[@WJohnson1043]

Yes! More light, less heat.

[@annchurchill2638]

If you find yourself having to talk to someone who is not too bright, interview them.

[@mervynsoo8353]

Agree we are all professionals in our own narrow.fields

[@dgillies5420]

This is something i have believed all my life and nobody ever said to me until now. I believe every person's life experience is a learnable moment that can yield insight, and value friendship in anyone, as a result. I know a lot of social or political climber people who select friends carefully and reject most people which i believe is a mistake ...

[@maxamillion2140]

I live in a big city, I started making friends in a mom and pop bookstore. After talking to the owner, I started to meet all the regulars. They're much older than me, but extremely smart. I sit there and listen and sometimes provide insights. I like being around these people, and I like their perspectives.

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

📙 🛋 ❤

[@RajeevSulochan]

Remember, there will always be someone more intelligent.

[@1stTnetix]

Best comment by far!!

[@krhalley]

actually, process of elimination...no. Somewhere there is the ultimate alpha and she's waiting to enter the ring.

[@valerietaylor9615]

I've yet to meet anyone more intelligent than me. 😂

[@biondna7984]

And more beautiful, handsome, strong, etc. And less so, all of the previous. On it goes.

[@brucewalters8635]

@@RajeevSulochan jealous? Lol

[@hungothanh4913]

when I pretended to be weak, people were very friendly to me. However, the moment I showed true strength by displaying talents and achievements that they couldn't hope to obtain in their life time, they quickly turned face, behaved ill toward me. I realize that if you possess great talents and ambition and you want to hold true to your value, not being a people pleaser , you are gonna have a lonely road ahead. But that is a trully worthy life.

[@NKRclassic]

I totally agree with the last sentence. Human envy is a strong thing. You must be much stronger to obtain the best.

[@Kwadratura]

When I am weak, people don't care about ne. When I am strong, people don't care about me

[@hungothanh4913]

@ yes, we need to cultivate inner strength to overcome obstacles and not being affected by other's pettiness and envy.

[@JaimeWarlock]

I became suspicious of this, so when my parents moved and switched to a high school in another state. I pretended to be dumb and made a lot of friends. The principal would hold a school meeting in the gymnasium every couple months. In the middle of my senior year, during his announcements, he asked me to stand up. He then tells everyone (about 400 students) that I got the highest SAT scores in the history of the school. My cover was blown. After that, all my new friends accused me of tricking them and hated me. I joined the honor society after that and most of those kids accepted me. Plus, they were suspicious because of a previous incident. I was working nights at a restaurant and often fell asleep during class. One time, a few months prior to my cover being blown, the chemistry teacher yelled at me for falling asleep. She then points at a problem on the chalkboard, accuses me of not paying attention, and asks me to solve it. The thing is that she hadn't taught it yet and was just trying to humiliate me. It was a balancing problem which I was already familiar with and quickly solved it. A few kids start whispering that she hadn't taught that yet and were confused how I did it. As for my teacher, she was speechless. These were the smart kids and they started asking me questions after class. I just played it off as getting lucky. Apparently though, they had discussed it in their honor society class, and decided that I might be playing dumb. The whole experience taught me several lessons. One, the smart people will figure it out if you are smart. You don't need to tell them. As for regular people, just be careful not to ever flaunt it, then they won't really care. And when they say something dumb, just smile and ignore them.

[@granthurlburt4062]

That's my experience. I spent years in graduate school, a lot just because I liked being around intelligent people from whom I could learn things, who liked to discuss things out of the fact they were interesting, and who laughed at my jokes. Managed to get jobs teaching anatomy.

[@cbxxb4841]

People feel more comfortable around someone they feel is not as smart as them, as you learned.

[@annchurchill2638]

@@cbxxb4841 It is not my job to make other peolplemore "comfortable".

[@heide-raquelfuss5580]

​@@cbxxb4841 I feel more comfortable, who are smart, curious about understanding things, without being competitive or combative or both, where protecting EGO is not a thing. I like to learn from someone else, who knows things i do not know.

[@dgillies5420]

When i was in 6th grade and the teacher was having problems with a disruptive class she would hand the chalk to me and ask me to teach the class while she observed from my seat. It made me uncomfortable but i never thought about how it might have hurt my image with others (maybe insensitivity can also be a blessing.) I went to an elementary school full of professor kids so i was probably not the smartest kid in the class but her choice probably hurt me with some kids ...

[@mattwhitaker3979]

The Japanese have an old saying about this. "The nail that sticks out gets hammered down."

[@satrah101]

Wrong

[@siggyincr7447]

@@satrah101 What do you think is wrong, that the Japanese have that saying or saying itself is false?

[@glenneric1]

@@siggyincr7447 I think he's just hating on smart people, thus proving the video.

[@raygunsforronnie847]

My interpretation of that saying is "conform and obey or face consequences."

[@Emiliapocalypse]

I believe Australians have a saying like “tall poppies get cut down”.

[@antonjoubert6980]

I always let people underestimate me, makes it easier to see the fakes and manipulators and generally saves you a lot of grief.

[@evad7933]

This begs the question of how one comes to believe one is highly intelligent.

[@Orosian5]

When enough people are relatively less smart, it's a fair conclusion.

[@evad7933]

@@antonjoubert6980 I love your modesty.:)

[@BlackDoveNYC]

I wish I knew how to do this.

[@antonjoubert6980]

@BlackDoveNYC don't volunteer information in conversations where you obviously know more than others etc. listen way more than speaking

[@elbarto7420]

If it wasn't for the smartest people among us, we wouldn't have progressed so far as a species, yet so many try to drag them down.

[@TitusSamuel-qd2uy]

🤔🤔

[@alanaglaser7695]

Yeah.... because they're truly that fucking stupid. They'll hold themselves back to try to hold you back

[@gabenewell3955]

​@@TitusSamuel-qd2uynothing about the comment was hard to understand

[@lespectator4962]

Smart people just need to be smarter about using their smarts. 😂 Politicians work the way they do for almost the same reasons. I learned this the hard way over the years.

[@migs192]

Sometimes they even validate their actions of dragging others down by saying it creates competition or a challenge which ultimately nurtures skill. That only works on certain skills but anything that consumes mental strength isn't a good pair with stress.

E N V Y , especially when someone who THINKS he's a big-brain is confronted with the reality that he's far from being the smartest guy in the room. Truly intelligent people, however, often respect and revere superior minds, and are inspired by them.

[@samuellourenco1050]

You said it all.

[@KidsLearnHTML]

"Truly intelligent people, however, often respect and revere superior minds, and are inspired by them." 👈🏿This right here! Most intelligent people don't parade it around. They know they're levels to this. Good example: I've reached 2124 USCF in chess. That's 76 points from officially becoming a USCF chess master and only 2 out of 100 chess ever get there. That being said, I've seen World Chess Champion Vishy Anand analyze a game up close. Let's put it this way. A total beginner is closer to me -than I am to Anand. The gap is THAT wide. Yet, I celebrate it and do my best to learn from it. I've unfortunately had people envy me of my chess game, and I'm like, "Bro, you don't understand."

[@aluisious]

You've got it. I love finding someone who has figured out things I haven't. They're like a well of insight. I just try not to annoy them.

[@clogs4956]

The Dunning-Kruger Effect vs Imposter Syndrome. The latter often suffer because of the former. The latter also prefer to avoid the company of the former…

[@MOAB-UT]

@@KidsLearnHTML Humble brag.

[@hattree]

I had to learn to not care what other people think in order to survive.

[@collinmay1461]

Actually if you do that you're more likely to be at a disadvantage especially if you ignore what they say. Paying attention is very important like at context clues and tone of voice, whether they are trust worthy or not and all that other shit that goes into social wannabe whatever bullshit.

[@hattree]

@@collinmay1461 I will listen to people, and talk to them. When I say not caring, it's not internalizing any negative things they say to me. I do care about people close to me and that I "let in." I generally don't care about people I don't know. The people who give you unsolicited comments about your appearance, tell you you're stupid, or tell you that you're stupid because you're overweight. I have no time for them.

[@collinmay1461]

@ Oh yeah that does sound pretty stupid for them to say huh, Either way good luck with life on the on the other side my friend.

[@Kwadratura]

How?

[@hattree]

@@Kwadratura How what?

[@k.chriscaldwell4141]

Smart people are not disliked. Thinking people are. And people that challenge people to think are despised. _I think, therefore they’re coming for me._

[@BigJohnson-g3j]

"2% of people actually think. 3% think that they think. 95% would rather die than think." - Bertrand Russell

[@didacusa3293]

You mean, “Cogito ergo me venturum esse”?

[@arizonabluejay]

​@@didacusa3293 there's substantial difference between cogito and cognito, in Latin and in life

[@nostorynow9350]

good disernment.

[@michaels4255]

Most of us are mentally lazy. Thinking feels like a chore to most, even for most people who are highly intelligent. Have you seen Bill Gates' middle brow taste in reading material? He is probably smarter than I am, but I find his book list boring and mediocre. The exceptions to this rule of mental laziness are people with a certain personality trait known variously as Need For Cognition, Typical Intellectual Engagement, Epistemic Curiosity, or Openness To Ideas, all different instruments for measuring the same underlying trait. However, this trait is only weakly related to intelligence. This is one of the reasons why intelligence isn't everything. Think about the gifted athlete who doesn't like to train. The elite performers have some combination of above average talent and above average motivation.

[@aerrrona]

being intelligent feels like i need to cosplay "human" everytime i interact with others.

[@Copulu]

Ur actaully a cat 🐱

[@Anooy55]

For me, on the contrary, I like being with people who are smarter than me.

[@NoptamAswos]

Definitely true with me as well. Life stagnates if your intellect does not grow.

[@Anooy55]

@@NoptamAswos yeah and This is one of the reasons for the development of humans and the world

[@donho1776]

I also enjoy being around smart people

[@VíctorManuelSolísMacías]

That´s the smart to do, whenever possible, be with people who are smarter than you. Why? It´s just like in chess or in sports generally speaking. You´ll only learn and advance if you play against those who are better than you.

[@shoshashosha9257]

Sames :)

[@Problempossum11]

A lot of people with autism struggle with understanding social cues and hierarchies, people with autism also often have higher intelligence, especially in specific subjects that they are interested in. Imagine my surprise when I found out that being gifted often leads to alienation by my peers. My child autistic brain was gullible and naive and I actually thought that being smart would bring me praise and acceptance by my peers. It took me to high-school to realize it often only bring ostracization. As an adult I've surrounded myself with other neurodivergent adults and former gifted kids and none of us get scared or jealous of each other's intelligence, infact we often inspire each other

[@Waldemar_la_Tendresse]

💡

[@kaseyboles30]

I got an adhd dx and a mensa membership card shortly before turning 20. Didn't find out about the spectrum untill 41. That's 4 decades of not understanding fully what was going on.

[@Waldemar_la_Tendresse]

@@kaseyboles30 One of the big tragedies is probably that there are literally millions of people with the same or comparable problems despite all the allegedly effort to gain knowledge on the side of science.

[@kaseyboles30]

@ Agreed, the science will eventually get there, but it's still got a ways to go. Another big issue is that even with professionals Autism is still largely seen as only existing in prepubescent white males. The number of stories of women (for example) who've gone through years of multiple dx's of bipolar or borderline personality before getting the right dx is just insane. Adult woman of color? cannot be autism. And even now finding service for autistics over 10-12 years old is impossible. I looked into this a few years ago and closest I could find was 200+ miles away and taking only teens on down with a recomendation and 6 month wait, IF accepted, by a gal who apeared to be nearing retirement age.

[@Waldemar_la_Tendresse]

@@kaseyboles30 In my opinion science one biggest problem. The motivation is not necessarily the gain of knowledge as a service for the people, but it is rather driven by the needs to raise the profits of a few. This is unfortunately true not just for the field of psychology but for so many other fields. Computer science for example is a field I know more or less pretty well. It has developed into a big pile of 💩 with so much possibilities and yet pretty nothing works as it could or should. Non-working software, faulty hardware, a good reason for the next version, of course to be paid by the customer who is stupid enough to do so and spend most of his life to work for the stuff he never wanted but bought because of the promises of advertisements. I have looked at the MENSA website, but I firmly believe an organization like this should enjoy being able to accept new members who have proven skills and most importantly should allow EVERYONE to do so. And that's why I very quickly backed away from it.

[@Istandby666]

I've always loved hanging out with intellectuals. You shut up, listen, and absorb.

[@curtismmichaels]

Not to cast aspersions, but that seems... um... smart.

[@MisterWillow]

This* ! Enjoy the learning. I always do and did. Great advice

[@splat752]

Is there an actually an internet group that allows people who genuinely want to learn from each other?

[@keldonator]

They probably weren't intellectuals otherwise you wouldn't have wanted to be around them 🤣

[@BigJohnson-g3j]

Well, certain kinds of intellectuals yes. There are definitely "intellectuals" who are book smart but real world stupid and have little wisdom.

[@theexplorer7139]

I got bullied intensely during my high school years. I was so miserable during that time and wondered the same thing as Schopenhauer once did. Thank you for this Video, I appreciate it.

[@rexfrommn3316]

Young men who read a lot or spend significant time studying and learning are often socially shunned in high school. I preferred living in a world of books rather than one filled with girls, prom dances, and social gatherings. I had a few close friends, but it was a small circle. I spent much of my time riding horseback or hunting. I never enjoyed varsity team sports but stayed active by running and lifting weights. My peers didn’t like me, so I focused on keeping my mind sharp, staying informed, and maintaining my physical fitness. I’m now 62 years old and still live this way. I served 20 years in the military as a soldier, earned two college degrees, and continue to read voraciously-both online and in books. I realized long ago that I would never fit in socially, so I stopped caring about friends or status. Today, I live with my wife and am content with the life I’ve built. I study chess theory even though I won't ever be a grandmaster. You just have to keep walking and keep learning everyday.

[@yourlocalgamedev1834]

Just have tofind what matters to you. The masses can fixate over their share sense of community all they want

[@FriendofDorothy]

Thanks for sharing that. My only eye-raiser was "spent much of my time....hunting". I don't associate hunting innocent animals with intelligence but I relate to the books thing.

[@RonnyAndersson-q9b]

Alot of people running around trying to put others in boxes. Then judge those boxes. "How dare you think outside the box!".

[@RKO1988]

The fact you chose to go into the military proves you're not smart

[@swit2732]

Your not alone, 55 retired, alone and knee deep in software, electronics, 3D printing etc creating things that don't exist, and reading university books.

[@TerryThomas-v1c]

I have found that people will be more accepting of my intelligence when their intelligence is acknowledged. When I was teaching, I invited everyone's participation by engaging their input. I coaxed the shyest of my students by adding their ideas to the pot. When you stop treating your students as stupid, you will be amazed at how really smart they are. Education is not a straight line from A to B, it involves disarming the defense reaction that societies superficial judgement puts on individuals. You can't educate society, for it is suspicious of intellect, you can educate individuals when you engage their intellect. When you show respect to your students, they will always return the favor.

[@pavelpetrov2939]

10:15 Benjamin Franklin strategy really is one of the best methods to help people feel appreciated, but outside of educational setting trying to figure out when it is time for deep thinking and when is to keep your thoughts for yourself is most important in my opinion

[@TerryThomas-v1c]

You can lead a rewarding life if you pay attention. If you are a teacher and find distracted students, it is because their inner thoughts are more interesting. It is important to make your subject more interesting than their preoccupation. It is my duty, as a teacher, to inform the student that he is capable of more than mediocre though, because he/she is.

[@VíctorManuelSolísMacías]

Very good point about inviting everyone's participation and never treating your students as stupid which, by the way, is not the case. I´ve taught for over 40 years, and it took me some time to reach your insights.

[@katehamilton7240]

Also humour helps! It can be exhausting pretending to be dumb, for women there is even more pressure, but its also fun to act silly

[@dianatorralbo7690]

Philosophers made questions and answer the questions of their students. It was a dialogue, not a monologue. That made them develop their critical thinking and feel honore and seen.

[@bipolargamechanger]

It’s not lonely to be alone when you’re intelligent. That’s a projection from others.

[@calderarecords]

If you're lonely when alone, you're in bad company.

[@andreamortimer2610]

Me, myself, and I make for great company with wonderful, challenging conversations! Happens quite often that we disagree with one another but we very much appreciate the various opinions and how civil and respectful we are in our discussions! I also always find something interesting or new for myself to do which leaves me never bored! 😏🤗🤗

[@streamofconsciousness5826]

I'm not alone, I am by Myself. Great comment, glad I am not alone in thinking that.

[@5Gburn]

I'm a writer, and when people ask me what I'm up to, well...I just tell them matter-of-factly in a casual one-liner, and they promptly change the subject no matter what. (I write fiction, if that matters.) One guy I know, who talks about himself nonstop, replied, "Good for you," smiled, and sped off to his next thing. 😂

[@quarkybill]

To be lonely is to yearn for company. Not all those who are alone want, much less invite, others to be with them.

[@whoopdeedoo876]

I am attractive and intelligent. It has gotten me nowhere in 50 years except for men lusting after and wanting to control me, being stalked. Women have always been jealous of me. It's been a very lonely life despite me trying to treat everyone with kindness. Today is my birthday and I just want to cry.

[@JoDo777]

Don't CRY❤ Life is about focus. Don't focus on NPC's! Non player characters😂 Focus on YOU! Once you memorize the characteristics of narcissists/sociopaths then life becomes a breeze! You're here for a reason, to let your Light Shine! Just ignore & avoid losers. Be cordial, yes, but have personal boundaries. You got this! It's the Age of Aquarius. Pluto is in Aquarius for the next 20 years❤😂 The last time that happened was during the years 1777-1798. If you know your history then you know !!!

[@kengaroo5170]

Happy delayed birthday 🎂.

[@ramonpablito9154]

you are probably insufferable like the rest of the comment section

[@adamharris9982]

I am glad you are here to have made this comment. I am sure there are others who you have made a lasting positive impression on as well, even though they never vocalize such. Happy birthday!

[@sparking023]

A little late but happy birthday

[@jasonsimpson1609]

I have been dealing with this for years. People flip out and I'm just standing there

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

Yes.

[@VincentZevecke]

me too, for decades for me

[@glassjester]

It's frustrating. Especially if you make every effort to be polite and considerate, and it makes no difference.

[@jasonsimpson1609]

Horribly frustrating - it really does not matter what you do. But it also points to something else going on that most scientists refuse to acknowledge, although I guess some are becoming more open these days (eg Donald Hoffman, Sheldrake, the late Talbot etc).

[@EndPoliceBrutailty]

Totally understand. I've had people give me threats that I've never seen in my life and wasn't talking to or even looking at. They were in front of me in line.

[@rwesenberg]

Excellent. The intelligent do not conform. Indeed, they can not. The intelligent must practice diplomacy to succeed. Genius is rarely acclaimed while alive.

[@sirtomasin4202]

Like the prophet who gets no respect from his neighbors. " Oh, isn't he just the carpenters son" ( said about Jesus)

[@volkerr.]

In German there’s a proverb: „der Prophet gilt im eigenen Land meistens nichts“

[@randymillhouse791]

@@WildernessScout Buy a mirror.

[@siggyincr7447]

The highly intelligent are just as capable of rationalizing bad reasoning and keeping their thoughts to themselves, in fact more so. What you are describing isn't intelligence, it's ego.

[@rwesenberg]

@ It is ego in that it involves a consciousness of self. But being conscious of the self is not the same as the self. Highly intelligent people do observe themselves and others. Their intelligence is a mirror of themselves and others.

[@simonhadley8829]

I'm about to attend a funeral for a dear friend who was that rare exception. In virtually any gathering, he was clearly the smartest guy in the room, yet instead of being bothered by it, people came away feeling better for it. His genius was comforting and I miss him terribly.

[@adamofblastworks1517]

I am so sorry to hear that. May he be well remembered and celebrated, and his memory cherished by all.

[@simonhadley8829]

@adamofblastworks1517 We're all gonna get shitfaced and arrested in his honor.

[@Julianninha]

that’s beautiful

[@ServantofYah7]

Sorry for your loss friend

[@RaeLuna-g9w]

This is why I’ve decided to be a good listener and ask questions. I know people get uncomfortable, but doing this protects me and helps me know who is decent and kind. There are people out there who will appreciate you, you just have to become more selective.

[@MaGioZal]

Man, I felt the same thing my entire life. People always said “you’re intelligent”, but for me this resonated more like a curse than a blessing in social terms. This video opens our eyes about what’s behind these strange relations…

[@N3mdraz]

People who think they are intelligent dont see their shortcomings in every other field. I'm not sure if intelligent people exist, sure brilliant people who excel one field, but they can be utterly stupid in common stuff.

[@SeanHollingsworth]

I love talking with people who are smarter than me. I love bouncing ideas off of them, and them showing the details of how they built a given intellectual foundation.

[@31minutesago]

What is dirt? Who makes it?

[@Futuresolidsnake]

I have always tried to be around my older peers when I was younger. I really love being close to people who challenged me. Anyone I could learn from. Now it is the opposite, I love when I can help people who want to learn and appreciate my experience. And I dislike large social gatherings because I feel isolated. I really want to sell my place in the city and move somewhere where I can find peace away from the negativity of people here. I am happier when I am alone. Away from the rat race and the insanity that I see growing more in my country.

[@secondmouse2650]

OMG... it's a blessing to bump into genuinely intelligent ppl. Makes my life worth living. Too many ppl are stupid and they drag us all down...

[@cartoonraccoon2078]

@@secondmouse2650 OMG those ppl...

[@marieburton4714]

@@secondmouse2650 Drag you down? From your high throne? The audacity!

[@yvonnejackson1696]

Intelligence takes many forms. A person can be mechanically smart, clever in social situations, book smart, gifted in common sense ability. I’ve never thought of myself as anything other than book smart. Looking back on a long life, it seems to me that I got along very well with people who were not necessarily book smart but highly intelligent in other fields. The people who seemed to find me off-putting, rude or intimidating were those who only viewed intelligence as being book smart.

[@sirtomasin4202]

I forget which of the ancient Greek philosophers wrote about your comment. Socrates or Plato perhaps. He questioned what was intelligence. He spent days observing all the various men in all the local jobs. Potters, weavers, carpenters, farmers , politicians, doctors, etc. His conclusion was that each were amazingly intelligent and the best in there field, but very ignorant and incompetent in the others. There may be more to his writing , but i don't remember it. It has been many decades since i read it. Methinks he agrees with you!

[@jensstubbestergaard6794]

Yes that is all very comforting but the intelligence quotient is developed exactly because the usual pattern is that those that excel to is uniformly well across loads of disciplines. Clearly it is not uncommon to see individuals that excel exceptionally in a particular field and decides to hone that talent to the maximum but this does not suggest that they could not have chosen other skills and have excelled in those too.

[@ERK_hanna]

What book was it?​@@sirtomasin4202

[@dikhed1639]

That's good. and as you most likely know, book smart is NOT intelligence. Book smart is merely knowing "facts". I know a guy who had one of those brain things where he remembered everything he everr read, and everything he ever heard. But he was one of the least intelligent people I met in college. Oddly, he made me feel like my skin was two inches thick--this was because he had no social understanding. He couldn't tell you what the things he remembered meant (unless he read what it meant) and he could not synthesize ideas. I am very book smart as I enjoy reading, but that in itself, does not make me intelligent. Intelligence is what you do with the information in the books.

[@CallousCoder]

Some of the dumbest most useless people I had the displeasure to work with were PhDs with allegedly high IQs. The best engineer I worked with, that I place above me any day, was a high school dropout. But he lived computers. And he had the rare ability to actually explain solutions and problems in layman terms. Unfortunately he went from freelancer back to wage slave because he had a hard time getting hired because he had no diplomas. His merits would be obvious if people bother to read a CV. And we loved sparring with each other because we had some knowledge overlap but also totally different areas of expertise. So we picked each others brains. And we tore into each other’s code and solutions relentlessly. We knew we could handle it and saw if we banter. 16 years on and we are still in contact. He keeps asking me to the join the company he works for. And I say: “what is there to do for me? When you are there and you’re friend you say is smarter than you. When I say you’re smarter than me!” 😂It’s just that I do t like that type of systems, as i explained to him but otherwise I would. I could learn many new things.

[@irenehartlmayr8369]

Very good.And perfectly true. Intelligence provokes agression, disbelief , envy , spite and a lot of other disagreable human traits. It also makes less intelligent people project THEIR lack of intelligence,or other faults,onto the more intelligent people !..

[@FASBLAQUE]

Yes, it does, especially when the truth you speak dashes their cultural beliefs. In that case it is better to be quiet and watch for your own safety and well being.

[@mellissadalby1402]

I don't know if I would call myself intelligent, but when I found ridicule when sharing ideas way back in Kindergarten, I decided that I don;t care what other people think, I will sekk knowledge and gain understanding of the things in this world. I never had a lot of friends, but I usually had one good friend at any given time, with whom I could share ideas and from whom I could also learn. Life is easier when NOT trying to fit into a situation in which one doesn;t really belong. It is important to let go of the rejection and just be friendly to people whether they are friendly back or not.

[@SailBale007]

I am a fit, petite, middle aged woman and I have always been told by both men and women throughout my life I am intimidating &/or intense. I spent most of my life consciously trying to avoid circumstances and people who would likely be threatened by me. But the truth is, even my own family members espouse and act out their disdain for me with eye rolling, making fun of my vocabulary, being snarky, telling me how I may interact with them - therefore not stepping on their toes, not actually listening to anything I say, etc. Not a one of them is concerned with what I thinking or feeling about anything. They love to pick my brain for problem solving but only listen for what they want to hear even then. I’ve only ever felt lonely when I wasn’t alone.😶

[@antonboldsword3770]

It's terrible to feel like you haven't had a decent conversation for decades with anyone you know...

[@SailBale007]

@@themusicbook8679 🤓

[@thwood40]

The last line rings true. I’m never more alone than when surrounded by ppl alien and alienating to me

[@An_Indian.]

It makes me glad to realise that since the early years of my life, I've always admired smart people and have been respectful to them. I love people who talk facts, explain you wonderful concepts and improve your understanding of things.

[@katehamilton7240]

Humour helps! It can be exhausting pretending to be dumb, for women there is even more pressure, but its also fun to act silly

[@yourlocalgamedev1834]

Just turn the entire conversation into a freaking mess and mince and mix the words or perspectives like some mad scientist or bartender

[@BirdTalk13]

@@yourlocalgamedev1834😂 LOL

[@katehamilton7240]

@@yourlocalgamedev1834 Lol, sometimes I do exactly this. Because..why not?

[@katehamilton7240]

@@yourlocalgamedev1834 Works every time LOL

[@sirtomasin4202]

I've learned to respond with " I don't know. Ask so and so" I chose so and so to be the person who gives me the most pushback.

[@ericrawson2909]

This is really so depressing. Like humanity is doomed because people won't listen to reason.

[@cubey]

Religion still exists; that should tell you all you need to know.

[@scottthorson11]

@@cubey Exactly!

[@user-pt1ow8hx5l]

Listen through to be end....

[@ayoutubechannelname]

People have been predicting “doom” for ages.

[@k.chriscaldwell4141]

My thesis is that evolution stopped with the foundation of civilization and cities. Basically modern man is nothing more than a technologically advanced caveman society-follow the “leaders” blindly, subsume self to the group, and NEVER, EVER think.

[@cameoh.1771]

This video makes me feel less alone. I thought it was just my experience being intelligent from a young age to adulthood and still being mistreated for being smart, capable, and easily proficient in most things I take on.

[@truthislovefaithisfreedom]

So true; when my cousin gave me a brain teaser puzzle that no one in her college was able to solve and I quickly solved it, rather than showing excitement, she was obviously angered because I had by default made her and her entire student body look small - it was a pivotal moment of realization in my life.

[@peezieforestem5078]

Doesn't that make you question things though? A truly smart person would have foreseen this reaction as a possibility, and would not have acted as you did back then. So, it could be that it's not that all her colleagues weren't able to solve the puzzle, but rather some of them were smart enough to pretend they weren't able to solve it.

[@truthislovefaithisfreedom]

@@peezieforestem5078 I was very young back then and that was a seminal moment for me

[@Kwadratura]

What brain teaser it was?

[@truthislovefaithisfreedom]

@@Kwadratura a series of dots in a square pattern that had to be connected with 5 straight lines.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

I walked away from real estate just one month after getting hired because of how I was treated by other agents. I went into that job believing they were market experts. I made the mistake of telling them I enrolled in classes, graduated, passed the state exam in 40 minutes, and got a job there all in 30 days. It was like a bunch of angry fatherless teenagers every time I talked to them. Truthfully, I lost all respect for those people and their families. I won’t even talk to people who are associated with them now. Northwest Florida is filled with that behavior, which isn’t a big surprise.

[@DR_1_1]

Never brag about your intelligence... It's just the majority, no matter if they are into RE, Florida... the fact that they make loads of money just reinforces their ego, probably.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

@@DR_1_1 I didn't brag about it. I told them that trying to get the job. I was under the impression they were all superior to me, and I wanted to impress them. I found out they are just a bunch of half-raised idiots who treat people poorly. And none of them make loads of money. It's honestly embarrassing listening to them talk; it's pitiful. They're very insecure and mediocre at their jobs.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

@ My previous comment was automatically deleted. They don't make lots of money. I told them about my accomplishment because I wanted the job. I was naive and thought they would respect high performance. I won't ever give them the time of day again.

[@FASBLAQUE]

Because the universe had something bigger in store for you.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

@@FASBLAQUE I would like to believe that. I hope it is true. I am currently waiting on a phone call that may lead to me becoming a corporate level manager, a break I desperately need. I don't think I'll ever get another opportunity like this, but we'll see.

[@notablemind]

I work as an instructor and I think it is good to look for opportunities to "simplify a subject matter to a new audience" (aka dumbing things down). Simplifying a subject matter makes it more accessible to new comers, regardless of their intelligence level. Even intelligent people are more likely to dismiss a new subject matter if they feel uncertain about the costs and effort to learn it. If you present complex subject matter in a simplified way that is relevant to their life, it may convince them of the benefits of learning outweighs the cost. You can always tell people you've simplified the subject matter for them. And if they want to learn more, "here's the path to do so". This is one way to "build a new tribe"... recruiting others by communicating simplified versions of complex subjects while also letting people know you've only given the oversimplification of it. Free movie preview, but you must last the ticket to watch the actual movie

[@martakeczek6476]

As a woman who waits for ADHD diagnosis after struggles through years, who tried to be either self-employed artist, or start group projects to gather creative people or who enjoy hobbies that take time...or wanted to work as forklift operator (true story failed....) ...and is told to be pretty, smart, intelligent....yet criticized and shunned out AND I adore Nikola Tesla and Einstein since childhood...thank your for that video. brought a light in my decades of loneliness

[@yourlocalgamedev1834]

You don't have the buzzword illness they are pushinh in everyone. So you can relax. The compulsion we have to be apart of a group has to be ignored at times to find a level of peace.

[@TerryThomas-v1c]

As a teacher, it is not my job to let you know what I know, but to awaken you to what you know. Nothing makes me happier than to see the lite in someone's eyes when the grasp a concept. To be enlightened is to be free to explore tomorrow, to be unenlightened is to be tied to the past.

[@ronnronn55]

@@TerryThomas-v1c And then pass along what they have figured out to another student. That for me is a real joy in working with students. Ronn

[@Fejmeister6]

Me too - coulda REALLY used this vid 50-60 years ago.. Or even LAST year..!

[@Fejmeister6]

Ftr, I think somewhere between Tesla & Ramanujan, there's a viable starship..

[@sirtomasin4202]

Wow! Thanks for the affirmation. I have been struggling with this for many decades. I did finally come to the same conclusion as this presentation, but it was a long painful journey. Have any of you noticed that it takes less than 10 seconds for someone in an intelligent conversation to twist it into a joke. I'll set the scene. Small group talking. Two intelligent the rest average. A topic comes up that spurs one intellectual to comment with great insight that triggers the other intellectual to respond in kind. The two will be lucky to get 10 seconds worth of meaningful conversation before being rudely interrupted by a buffoon who quite masterfully makes a related quip putting an end to the meeting of the minds. So sad. I will leave you all with this. It is a quote being accredited to A. Einstein. " If you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room"!

[@LinMonash]

Damn it. I've been in the wrong room all my flippin life!

[@annegoodreau4925]

My mother. So many comments with the undercurrent of "You think you're so smart, well, what about this? and that?" The last instance that I remember was a public humiliation, no less. Everyone thought she was such a nice lady. I don't miss our conversations at all.

[@abowling5759]

It’s very sad and lonely when the person who hates your intelligence is a parent. I am so sorry you went through this as a defenseless child who needed her love and support.😢

[@notavailable.000]

dont let it get to you. its a big world, universe out there. let those bad comments slide off of you and go explore.

[@laurar430]

Ouch, that hurts. My mom: "It must be nice to be so smart." and "Do you know what's wrong with you? You have an overdeveloped sense of imagination." Everyone thought she was a nice lady. Family is too familiar.

[@kaisquared90]

Unfortunately, intelligence is a feeble shield against deliberate emotional sabotage, especially from those you should have been able to trust. Don't let the past keep you down.

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

Everyone thinks she's a nice lady...she's just good at manipulating.

[@blueartist1000]

Smart people love to be corrected.

[@marieburton4714]

I love this comment 😊

[@WinChun78]

Smart people love meeting people who are smarter still, because it nourishes their minds and enables them to learn more.

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

Elon musk doesn't. You're wrong

[@gman3840]

​@@Dave_of_MordorNone may understand the Musk apparently. His ways are myriad.

[@siggyincr7447]

Depends, if you correct a person in away that they feel is denigrating them, ego kicks in and they will get defensive. Highly intelligent people aren't somehow immune to the irrational effects of ego.

[@lindatallon9217]

My intuition.....and gut instincts are my best friends......this video totally confirms what my life is like.....i was born a LEADER....

[@moatdd]

I find I can get along a lot better simply by resisting the urge to correct people, to let people finish their thoughts or sentences no matter how much you might disagree with them, and to let them go on their way even after saying something you completely disagree with. I call this the sleeper approach. Nobody has to know how or what you really think. What I do, in exchange for constantly passing up on opportunities to share my points of view, is a chance to blend in and observe people that I otherwise would have had fruitless and heated arguments with. If you maintain your silence long enough, people will begin to seek your opinions, but again, you have to only let out a small portion of it. Choose your best words and just give them that. Go for the highest quality rather than the largest quantity and really ration how much you're going to say.

[@Clari3yquest]

I just realized I've always used this being unaware it's a tactic.

[@MarkesZa]

I don´t want to be liked by idiots any way.

[@jensstubbestergaard6794]

Jus the same it would serve you well to be able to be liked whenever you feel like it and also you are probably not a wise judge of intellect so you might accidentally reject someone you should never have rejected - no romantic movie or book ever written would really work out without opposites attract despite initital tension. In the olden days it was called manners.

[@rambabu84]

Very simple. That ends the argument! Only if most could practice!

[@Neat_profile]

"I much prefer the sharpest criticism from a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses" -Johannes Kepler

[@marieburton4714]

Calling people idiots doesn't bespeak of intelligence, in my opinion. Arrogance is often lurking around the corner.

[@WhitneyAmos84]

😂

[@stevetonnesen3666]

This was an extremely helpful explanation that I had never heard before

[@myfriendgoo2816]

+1. Especially the part about why having more intelligence is uniquely threatening to people.

[@SmokedUpMage]

So true, I'm an introverted extravert and did not get there easy. Had to put myself out there a lot and not be afraid to expand what I was comfortable with. Push yourself, be personable, and don't be afraid to be who you are. Carrying yourself confidently will get you far.

[@Charms5678]

I tend to score very high on IQ tests. And I often find myself rejected and ignored from what seems to be casual social interactions. I have noticed in my lifetime that I do make people feel uncomfortable, but could never really understand why, this video explains it perfectly, I assumed other people thought the same way I did, but they don't, and I unknowingly make them feel dumb, and often when I was just asking a question and kind of thinking out loud and wondering.

[@tomk2720]

What a gift that morons exclude themselves from you

[@jensstubbestergaard6794]

Read Pride and prejustice. Being charming might be a god sent talent for some but it is not outside the realms of the possible to train your people skills and presuming that just because you feel ackward you are doomed to that feeling is ridiculous. Apply some of that IQ strategically.

[@affirmagic1]

Reading about the Dunning Kruger effect helped me understand most of my co-workers - 90% of whom were above average.

[@jasondashney]

"I assumed other people thought the same way I did,". Lately, I've been thinking that it might not be a case of thinking differently, as much as it is a case of people having different motivations. If your motivation is to fit in, it's not "stupid" to "believe" the prevailing narrative. It's logical, and probably the smartest way to go about it. I am cripplingly objective, and it always drove me completely nuts when other people won't look at things in a way that I deem honest. But if they have a completely different motivation, of course their process will be different, as well as their outcome. If my (hardwired) motivation is to be objective and theirs is to achieve an end, whether that is to be purposely in denial because it's easier to cope, or whether it is to socially fit in, or to get ahead at work or whatever. Maybe their goal is just to come to some sort of conclusion so that they can move on. Perhaps they don't like to think deeply about things because they feel it is a waste of time, and they are probably right ha ha. Anything that doesn't lead to more happiness is probably a waste of time.

[@bostonfrank6739]

do not associate with low IQs

[@adamlea6339]

I have always been introverted by nature and have had far less social interaction than many people. I also often find it hard to connect with people in a social setting as my interests are quite niche. Many social conversations are around TV/celebrities/famous people/royal family which I have little interest in, and similarly, few people want to have a conversation on the fantastic geology of the Scottish highlands (with illustrative photos) or curious mathematical results, hence I tend to exist pasively more than interact and thus make minimal impression. I think there may be another aspect not touched on in this video in that intelligent people are likely more open to challenging people's opinions which are logically unsound, which is likely to frustrate them rather than initiate a back-and-forth constructive debate. I'm happy in the company of someone more intelligent than me because if we have a disagreement on something, they can challenge my views with strong counter-arguments and make me think, and sometimes reconsider my own thinking, which to my mind comes under the category of personal development.

[@ericrawson2909]

Same here. I don't mind being proved wrong because truth is what I seek. I am being helped, not denigrated. What is so frustrating is when you present facts and people deny them because they believe the media.

[@annchurchill2638]

One of my friends I love to talk to is smart in other areas than mine.We have arguments,but never get "personal" Sometimes he wins and sometimes I win .Then the argument is stettled and we acknowledge who won.On to other things...

[@evad7933]

People prefer ego stroking to enlightenment.

[@volkerr.]

At the end of August 1869, Leo Tolstoy wrote a veritable Schopenhauer panegyric: "Do you know what this summer has meant to me? Uninterrupted enthusiasm for Schopenhauer and a series of intellectual pleasures that I have never experienced before. [...] I don't know whether I will ever change my mind, but now I am convinced that Schopenhauer is the most brilliant of all people [...]. When I read him, I cannot understand why his name could remain unknown. There is at most one explanation, the very one that he himself repeats so often, namely that there are almost only idiots in this world."

[@bostonfrank6739]

I agree. 99% of the population are idiots

[@Tony_Fot]

Thank you for using the word "panegyric"! In the context of THIS youtube video in particular I somehow found it refreshing to discover an unknown word from a bright person. Cheers!

[@volkerr.]

@ thx. 😊 I‘m German and of course Schopenhauer used the words of his time. And panegyric is just this meaning of the German word „Lobrede“… 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@LinMonash]

Too true.

[@faithlesshound5621]

This reminds me that Schopenhauer's was one of the three or four portraits that Einstein kept on the walls of his office.

[@Maro95]

What an amazing video. I paused it multiple times just to let what I heard sink in. It's an ultimate summary of Schopenhauer's philosophical work on the topic of Intelligence. All in less than 12 minutes. With answers to common misunderstandings. Just amazing...

[@volkerr.]

The most important thing in life is not to take yourself too seriously

[@marieburton4714]

I very much agree! Everything in life is relative, so is intelligence.

[@DR_1_1]

Yourself, and the world... else we would all be Karens and drama queens.

[@mikegLXIVMM]

Especially, if you work as a clown. 🤡

[@volkerr.]

@@DR_1_1 there’s a lot of people with a high need for recognition..

[@DR_1_1]

@ And I guess we all do, in some ways... but narcissists are a pain, even more so for covert and malignant types...

[@donnabailey566]

I used to dumb down a lot in my hometown in Ohio, in order to be a part of the crowd. Moving to New York City 50 years ago changed my life, because I met other people who were intellectually curious like myself; people who are well read and who are interested in the arts, like theater and museums. Getting away from the provincial environment that I grew up in was one of the best decisions of my life. I have a bigger life now, and I'm so grateful.

[@FewFew77]

Those rural folk are so dumb and us city folk are si smart. Feral apes push us onto the subway tracks and when a vigilante puts one down, us enlightened smart city people take to the streets to protest for our simian mud people. Our house didn't burn down because of DEI, it's because of climate change. That's how smart we are.

[@shrishri8898]

So one should go to study in. Ohio

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

I'm excited to make a change like this. Where I am originally from the average IQ is probably about 60. Moving away from there was life changing. I'm looking at moving from where I am now too. It depends on my job search.

[@evad7933]

I wonder whether it is a myth that guys are not turned on by intelligent chicks.

[@cameron.t]

Olympia is a place you should avoid 😂

[@enumaelis1448]

1:00 Wealth, physique, and strength are all attainable through merit should one try hard enough. Gifts of intelligence is more so purely innate in nature and something you’re born with, and yet it yields myriad advantages in life, hence the resentment from those who lack it.

[@Shigginjigz]

Physique to some degree. Some people are naturally prettier than others yet we still value it.

[@enumaelis1448]

@ By ‘physique’ I was more so referring to being physically fit.

[@Jazzafritsch]

​@@enumaelis1448 intelligence isn't innate, ability to learn is. No one is born with a theory of relativity in their heads

[@Emmanuel_Rocha]

Certain types of intelligence can also increase through merit. Intelligence functions as a set of interconnections which you can develop with practice.

[@enumaelis1448]

@@Emmanuel_Rocha I don't define things such as knowledge or acquired skills as 'intelligence'. However, if you do, then you'd be correct within the parameters of your interpretation.

[@NYs9thwonder]

I embraced the loneliness and happily made my own way down the long and narrow road of solitude. I long since decided that I was not going to compromise on principle or ethics to appease the insecurity and allay the fears of others. To be true to myself, was to always be forthright in my convictions, social costs be damned.

[@GeoffBeggs]

Great video. Ignore those who claim it is pretentious - they are (unwittingly, it seems) demonstrating your point.

[@katehamilton7240]

Also humour helps! It can be exhausting pretending to be dumb, for women there is even more pressure, but its also fun to act sill

[@disklamer]

I tell people, hey, don't worry, an engineering degree does not prevent me from being a dumbass either. People start making interesting faces when they do not know what to say. They never stop to ask if I actually have an engineering degree, either.

[@michaels4255]

@@katehamilton7240 Yes, playing dumb can be fun for a short time, but if you try to do it consistently, it becomes, ironically, a cognitive burden since you constantly have to monitor yourself.

[@Dale-q5c]

Intelligence is shunned in our society, can't have anyone else getting on top....

[@notavailable.000]

lol, truth in that. you will need to nurture yoursleves. as there are others more or less clever, with old wisom to guide them in staying at the "top"

[@markstahl1464]

You know who likes intelligent people? Other intelligent people….. sometimes….. A large dose of humility probably helps too.

[@Nutu28]

1- you either shine and some people not like that because of their lack 2-dim you down in order to be accepted 3- tell only what other peoples ears want to hear When you try to give advice you kinda put yourself into a superiority position or you bring to the surface uncomfortable emotions or stuff that others needd to deal with and people that doesnt seek this personal development doesnt like that and may reject tou, so you need to create a balance between this and telling what others want to hear( hearing what you need may be more hard then hearing what you want to hear most of the times)

[@FastEddy396]

I worked in cutting edge design engineering to develop unique solutions for which there was no scientific or technical precedent. I was able to make concrete analogies for highly abstract concepts. This talent made my career but also both hated and feared. In the end, I went into business for myself with a 0% bull or toxicity standard.

[@robertpolnicky7702]

The more middlemen you can get rid of the better off you are. No one between you and the customer. How many times is the middleman a liability to you to the customer and to society in general.

[@brandonwatson5607]

​@@robertpolnicky7702often enough times to where either quality or values are unnecessarily challenged.

[@notavailable.000]

nice

[@famemolto]

Some pretty good advice at the end of the video. It’s not about submitting or giving in, it’s about accepting reality and using social tactics to protect yourself instead of wasting your life raging against what you cannot change.

[@abowling5759]

Absolutely!…

[@peneljsmith]

Thanks for this. It helps explain why the two "good girls" that my mother approved of always gave me a hard time; even to returning to my life when we were all older, just to rub it in that they were doing better than me. Both are married, with nice houses. I am poor because of a disability. I also never married, as I'm not good at picking guys who want to settle down. They were both C students, and I got straight A's. They never mentioned marks, and found plenty of reasons to look down on me, and to despise me. Lately, I enjoy being alone much more now that they are truly out of my life.

[@zignetvs]

I owe you a hug. Now I know why I have no friends at age 35… always been complimented for being “so smart” but always end up quickly losing those friends as i always share my ideas. This. Helps me alot

[@TheWinnieston]

So smart but you couldn't see yourself being a total sperg and annoying people

[@wallenrod9017]

​@@TheWinnieston I noticed it. I have always been almost entirely alone since childhood. If I met someone I became friends with, it lasted a maximum of a year, usually much less (there was only one exception, but I lost that too due to external factors). It was obvious that I was the problem because I was the only common thing in all these situations.

[@tbcstuff3634]

True, all my high school teachers hated me talking. Until I got to college then they found me as one of the more intresting people in class.

[@sirtomasin4202]

After my disagreeing with one of my professors, he scolded me saying that i would hang a jury. I arrogantly told him that if he put me in a room with 11 people he would be lucky if more than me and one other actually knew what was what. This was just one of the negative pushbacks i got in college like you.

[@PerryWidhalm]

@@sirtomasin4202 Did you take in writing classes?

[@loti54]

so did your high school teachers follow you to college? Did your high school teachers also teach you in college? otherwise, how could they find you to be "one of the more interesting people in class" ?

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

High school teachers are not the same as real teachers.

[@SpamAccount-q9i]

I believe Tbcstuff meant that when they were in Highschool their teachers disliked them. And in collage the teachers appreciated their perspective.

[@Guillermo_Carratero]

I'm of average intelligence but have definitely seen this play out in high school towards smart kids. I was always very curious so I loved interacting with smarter kids.

[@braininjurydiy]

Of course. I was always smart but after finishing my degrees and gaining a tonne of experience none of my other friends had moved an inch from their lives. I felt them drift off like they felt uncomfortable around me now. I live for the hard questions and interesting dialogue, philosophy, science, history. It's all I want to talk about. I used to get to when I was a teacher with colleagues and with students, but since being injured and out of work, no one i interact with thinks of these things I never get to talk about them. It's so deflating.

[@DR_1_1]

Their job, their kids... if you can't relate, you are limited to exchange a few words in passing, at best.

[@braininjurydiy]

@@DR_1_1 It's so painful. I long for interesting conversation. I used to get it at work everyday with my teacher colleagues we were all interested in everything and what ever we'd bring up we all knew a little would discuss it and learn more from each other. I miss that.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

@ I can relate to you on a very strong level. My family and everyone around me just stare at me when I talk. I can't get jobs. People are intimidated and they treat me poorly. I sit and wish I had my phone ring sometimes and it be someone with something deeply interesting to say.

[@dewilderdbetter]

Which allows me finally to understand what happened when I observed another surgeon in the department operating and making mistake after mistake after mistake, so much so that I wrote him a one-sentence letter "If you'd like to discuss what happened today, call me," to which he failed to respond for a year until he totally botched another surgery with permanent damage to the patient, but at which time I happened to be Department Chief and when I called him in to my office, my first question was "Why didn't you respond to my letter a year ago?" to which he replied, "[Doctor], do you have any idea how intimidating you are?"

[@BirdTalk13]

He’s an idiot and should have contacted you so he could learn from his errors. It’s too bad he didn’t view your open invitation as a learning opportunity to advance his knowledge and skills. Now, a patient has been harmed due to his lack of training, negligence and excuses. What a shame!

[@dewilderdbetter]

@ But guess what? He was also the highest “producer” (did the most surgeries) the hospital had so when I as Chief recommended he lose his surgical privileges, through the hospital attorney, the CEO arranged it so that I lost my position as Department Head and almost lost my own privileges. You think state and national politics are dirty, you ought to take a trip into the heart of darkness of hospital politics. The CEO took away 90% of my practice and I’m almost bankrupt.

[@daschwarz1649]

​@@dewilderdbetter i think you failed to recognize that the note you left him was, to say the least, offputting. Your own arrogance may have been why he did not respond. There is a reason why surgeons have a teriable reputation among hospital staff ( I did 10 years around surgeons doing psychiatric care). This of course does not change that the lack of timely intervention left an innocent individual injured.

[@abowling5759]

This doctor making mistakes can have worse, far-reaching consequences on someone’s life and he definitely should have put his ego aside, in order to learn and better instead of injuring a patient for life. That is so sad.

[@Saeed-z7j]

speaking with the people in a language they understand makes a real difference.

[@mankepoot9440]

quidquid Latine dictum sit altum videtur

[@Saeed-z7j]

​@@mankepoot9440 وافق شن طبقة !!

[@PerryWidhalm]

Excellent video. Generally, the more intelligent you are the more isolated you become as the years go by. The vast horde of people simply want to be dumb, fat and perpetually amused (which is why the "smart phone" is ubiquitous amongst the masses).

[@dikhed1639]

LOL, just too true. However, I too want to be amused, I want to learn just what the universe is really made of, I want to learn what all the anthropologists have to communicate, I want to do astronomy, I want to rehabilitate the salmon (just too good to eat to allow them to all die out), I want to build steam engines, I want to write great screen plays, I want to go hiking, I want to go boating, I want .. . . I want . . . I want. . . Yes, I want to be amused too.

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

To be fair, I have Kindle on my smart phone and read books in my downtime. And I have what some call a genius level IQ. Not everyone is playing candy crush.

[@dikhed1639]

@@TheChristianPsychopath Those screens are just too small for me. But I do have Beethoven, Franz Liszt, and Mozart on my phones.

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

@@dikhed1639 I do have abnormally large phone. I got it because it was supposed to be the best phone for video, and I had a video project I was working on.

[@dikhed1639]

@@TheChristianPsychopath Ah, my wife and daughter have "tablets" I suppose one could read on those. I just like the largest screen possible even if I have to cart around a laptop. BTW, how is it, to be a xtian psycopath? Lots of fun, or huge disappointments?

[@terryte1473]

This is probably the best presentation not only about the specific subject discussed here but also in this genre about any other subjects. Well researched, articulate, clear, concise, and full of wisdom. A great project. Thanks a lot.

[@glenpeters9097]

I recall in early grade school kids would say that 'really smart kids were more likely to go crazy, anecdotally that seemed the case... The average kids never considered their roll in the equation.

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

Average people don't consider anything other than what they want in the moment.

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

More charitably. It can be about not fitting expectations. I was nice to others kids, but I think my nonverbal signals were different and they didn't know how to interpret them.

[@glenpeters9097]

@@chriswoodward-b4g I wish I could do the old Vulcan Mind Meld to see inside the mind of average people... are they really that simple???

[@glenpeters9097]

@@TheChristianPsychopath Have you seen The Imitation Game?

[@chriswoodward-b4g]

@ Well, you only have what you can see with your eyes. I'm not big on philosophy. If I see someone sitting through green light staring at their phone, or getting pregnant by a guy who looks like a shaved squirrel, or when cars are going 20mph over the limit on the highway and someone is tailgating and speeding past everyone out of entitlement; I don't need to be able to read minds to know those people are dominated by their emotions and make very poor decisions, a sign of average and below intelligence. We recently got 3 inches of snow here where I live; this is the first snow here in 50 years! The shelves at the store are all bare. It's going to be 25 degrees and 3 inches of snow, and these people had nothing on their mind but making sure nobody but them can have any cottage cheese. I just use my eyes.

[@RealistOfDistances]

If you think intelligence is hated, wait until you try righteousness. 😅

[@DR_1_1]

Moral compass, even common sense is interpreted as naivete!

[@raygunsforronnie847]

Jimmy Carter was a righteous person who lived his moral beliefs and was ridiculed for it until fairly recently. I do not share his faith practices but I recognized that he was smart, humble, ethical, and compassionate.

[@nancynichols-l2l]

when you combine the 2 and it comes in the form of challenging someone who considers themseves a leader -watch out!

[@michielstreefland7711]

Being righteous and being a stick in the mud are two different things.

[@LubosMedovarsky]

THIS.

[@JM-us3fr]

I have found myself often playing dumb to help people feel comfortable. I think it’s important to remind people that no matter how smart someone appears in a particular domain, they are exceedingly ignorant in a dozen more domains.

[@PriitKallas]

no. intelligence is not about what you have learned

[@ghoul_on_a_hill]

Wait.. what are you saying? By playing dumb you remind people that no matter how smart someone appears in a particular domain, they are exceedingly ignorant in a dozen more domains? That doesn't make sense.

[@foresthobo1166]

uuuh, what? That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

[@randymillhouse791]

Well, your comment certainly did not make me feel comfortable. So, back at it to you.

[@JM-us3fr]

Sorry for the confusion. These were two separate statements: First, I happen to play dumb out of instinct because I feel like it makes people more comfortable. On a second note, we should all remind ourselves that we are all ignorant in many domains of knowledge, and not truly deserving of the envy or adoration of others. The first is just a factual claim. The second is more philosophical.

[@A.Luckybug]

Being beautiful and intelligent put me into a bubble. I was afraid to be seen. Now I am seen, but I keep quiet. Overall- pick which characteristic to lean on and don’t allow others to know your strengths until it’s needed.

[@jfhow]

I think its more the other way around. Being intelligent makes you uninterested in participating in stupid things that society does.

[@keijimorita1849]

trust me, it's both they are complimentary not mutually exclusive

[@TheFiddleGuy]

I think they work together to give us our world

[@evad7933]

'you' or 'one'? 'society does' or 'people do'? And how does it feel to be 'intelligent', as opposed to 'unintelligent'.:)

[@jfhow]

@@evad7933 I didn't say that, but thank you for that assessment!

[@MrJC1]

Well I must be intelligent then. 🤣

[@VickyVixen16]

A lot of people on the internet need to take the points from 8:53 onward to heart. Thanks for including the solutions instead of just hammering on how intelligent people are treated unfairly.

[@russellcollins4291]

I've often heard this tendency described as 'tall poppy syndrome.' I've learned to enjoy being the smartest person in the room, because I also know what it's like to be the dumbest person in the room. You can't go wrong if you stay humble.

[@emilybowne6043]

My experiences was that at first other classmates would ostracize me. At first it bugged me, but over time I got to where I enjoyed being alone. Later on I became cool because I adopted the motto of "come sit at our table, there's room, and if there isn't room we'll make room" whereas the other cliques would still hold to their "there isn't enough room at the table" Granted, as an adult, I still face this society push back for being intelligent. While attending college I did come across people who were smarter than me. I did my best to be welcoming to them, and I've lost count of how many times I picked up various books on subjects that they talked passionately about that I was an absolute dunce on. I still remember this chess genius telling me that what he liked about me was that I was okay with my being ignorant on subjects and humble enough to educate myself. I enjoyed the mirror explanation. This was something I had also observed but didn't have the words for

[@AllAhabNoMoby]

I have never been bothered either way about being part of a group. I am virtually impervious to peer pressure. And during my life I have indeed learned to read the room, but I just don't care if it's the right time or not; I simply cannot do small talk. 'Big ideas' are the only ones who interest me, so it's that or silence, and I'm comfortable with both.

[@theantiskiasystem2260]

Thank you for this video. I had figured as much, but you made a very simple, structured and relevant video about it. I always saw my intelligence as a curse. I was never allowed to use it, because as soon as I expressed an idea, I got excluded from the group. I still am very frustrated at all these people clearly valuing the concept of intelligence, aspiring to it even, but at the same time excluding intelligent people because of 'thinking they're smarter'. (Thereby sabotaging their own opportunities to learn!) I am silent as the grave about my scores on intelligence tests, and I feel I even lost a lot of cognitive abilities because of not being able to express them. I keep a small group of friends with whom I can converse. I need challenge. The boredom of even most university studies makes life a bit depressing for me. I keep looking for a way to meet my needs without people being offended by how I think or by what I have achieved academically. I am smart enough to act dumb, but it requires so much energy, I often cannot bring it up.

[@katehamilton7240]

Humour helps! It can be exhausting pretending to be dumb, for women there is even more pressure, but its also fun to act sill

[@sirtomasin4202]

I think it is the competitive nature of our species that causes this friction with the more intelligent. I hold no ill will towards these folks. They are just following the successful survival instincts that evolution encoded into there genes. Like i don't blame a dog for liking his genitals in public.

[@larenmunday2568]

As a general rule: never be open with everyone.

[@Anders010]

Now I feel great compassion in my heart for beautiful intelligent women with no friends.

[@myfriendgoo2816]

Angelina Jolie might be a famous example, though she can always adopt more and say she's too busy with her family.

[@Compoundingwealth99]

Very high quality video, after i watched i was expecting 100's of thousands of views at least! Big surprise when i saw only few hundreds

[@kaikorkeakoski9244]

People don't wanna know you know :D

[@almcdermid9669]

Doesn't the lack of views make his point?

[@piljkar]

Video is holding that proverbial mirror...

[@arnabkumarbanerjee8150]

Society shund always the right thing. I being a lawyer face it always for 10 years.

[@p382742937423y4]

Intelligence is not that appreciated.

[@ninepuchar1]

I dont know if I am intelligent. I often question this. Am I just stupid? How do I truly quantify it? Am I just average? The hoops, I have to jump through is tiring in the social setting.

[@Kittiesinclair5]

I have often, often, often been told ‘you’re too smart for your own good’….I never realized it was a target for others to screw me over. Thats what its turned out to be

[@gamerairtias9730]

Growing up, I never thought I was intelligent. But, I always felt 3 steps ahead of my peers when it came to critical thinking or predicting social behavioural outcomes. People would periodically describe me as intelligent but, I never knew how they had come to the conclusion. It often felt like an observation plucked out of the ether. Later in my life, It had become clear to me that my intelligence was far more sophisticated than I had given myself credit for. I achieved many scholastic feats I considered impossible, and have noticed that my cognitive flexibility tends to perform gymnastic floor routines over many others. However, for the majority of my life, I never could understand how I often was excluded from groups of classmates, colleagues, etc. The reputation known to me was always that of how nice and/or funny I am. I never felt disliked, I just felt excluded for no reason made clear to me. This video may have solved a long standing mystery that has burdened me for the majority of my life.

[@avidreader6534]

yep. find new friends. I found friends who like talking about life and deeper things with me as opposed to the friends I used to have who only liked gossiping about others.

[@bayleefrye7569]

I won't call myself a smart person but I noticed that anytime I tried to communicate from my inside without a filter , people always attack me , even those who don't have an idea about it will challenge or deny my thoughts, I mean always

[@Kwadratura]

Yeah, that is pretty common. I don't think that there's a single person who could communicate from their inside without a filter and don't pass as asshole

[@bayleefrye7569]

@Kwadratura that's true but to me I love listening to nerds wild imagination and thoughts even if I don't understand I love to ask questions

[@bayleefrye7569]

@Kwadratura I love it when thoughts and imagination go outside the box scientifically

[@Ultrox007]

I was one of the critics against Ada Lovelace. She wasn't actually a programmer, she was a translator, fluent in English and French, she translated a Frechman's findings and presented them. The UK in an initiative to promote more of 'history's most brilliant women', started pushing hard for her in 2016, falsely attributing her as the first computer programmer. Even though all she did was translate a frenchman's steam-powered automatic abacus (think a room-sized calculator that looks like a pipe-organ) to English. I suggested promoting Stephanie Kwolek, creator of Kevlar, but my proposal was denied because "She's Russian."

[@ramonpablito9154]

lol "she's a commie therefore she's bad" is Stier western logic

[@totuudentorvi7781]

The real merits of all other authors mentioned, bar Schopenhauer, were of the same caliber.

[@GeorgiePetter16]

Thanks for sharing

[@kenyanicholas6809]

Source?

[@graboidgang9077]

I thought Ada's additions to Menabrea's paper were what got her place in the history books? She didn't merely "translate" the paper, she expanded upon the work significantly.

[@rorykeefe8954]

I, as (I think?) an intelligent person, an somewhat confident as to why intelligence people tend to be disliked. I used to tend to get fed up a bit easily/quickly in arguments that have no black or white answer because I would assume the other(s) involved would take into account all the pieces I am taking in yet they would contradict mine and their own thoughts. Nowadays, I make sure to maintain calmness and clearly articulate as many of my thoughts that they’ll let me before they get fed up with me “talking down to them” (that is/was never my goal) and now I’m actually pretty good at getting others to think a bit deeper and more openmindedly consider everything, even less obvious factors and generally be ready/willing to hear other perspectives! TL;DR - Be kind to others by default and don’t make them feel dumb for not agreeing with you / seeing what you’re seeing