Why Bride Price Is Tradition Without Logic In Modern Africa

[@londiwecelimpilo4068]

Questions 1.Who came up with the brideprice/Lobola idea? 2.Whoever came up with the idea,in which state of mind were they?(upset/depressed/broken) 3.What if our forefathers made a mistake/wrong decision about this idea, it mean we are just carry&pass-on ancient errors? 4.im from S.A (Zulu tribe)a man can even pay up to R60 k for Lobola,even more if the lady is educated as if they doing a favour to the groom. 5.Lastly,how come white people dont pay brideprice but they live happly and their inlaws know their boundaries. But for blacks,a brides/wife you are expected to work hard to prove to ur inlaws that you are a goodwife? Thanks in advance

[@TheSubiShop]

I don't have good answers for those questions. However, one thing is clear...balance is the key here. If the family of the couple act in the true best intrest of the couple then there should be no problems ( with or without bride price)

[@kelvinwarren8761]

I just negotiated the bride price with my fiancé's family and it was within the budget I set before coming here. I can feel the level of appreciation from the family and my woman. If anything do it for your woman. Just make sure that its within your means.

[@TheSubiShop]

Yes, thank you. Your situation sounds very reasonable

[@africaine4889]

15000$ thats a lot of money. Unfortunately some families just want to enrich themselves. Bride price is just symbolic and some tribes kept it this way. Like in gambia u onoy give kola nuts

[@TheSubiShop]

Thank you. You are right, it's different from place to place

[@kilabob1200]

Good vlog

[@TheSubiShop]

Glad you enjoyed

[@KZ-gh4yt]

Great video and a very nice topic. Finally someone is talking about this bride price thing. I agree with you brother all the way. Bride price is absolutely ridiculous. I also think the bride price is one of the reasons there's soo many unmarried single girls. because most guys aren't trying to pay no bride price. I don't think a woman should be sold off like a product from the shop. They should put an end to bride price. Keep up the great work guys 👍🏿

[@TheSubiShop]

Thank you. I should have spoken more about how it discourages men to marry

[@KZ-gh4yt]

@@TheSubiShop yeah it does and in Uganda if you see the tribes that have the highest bride price and asking for things like 15 cow's have the most single women. Like the ankole tribe from the west and the northern tribes . They are very many unmarried women because they have a ridiculous bride price tag attached to them 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@Silverbackugx]

@@KZ-gh4yt It also contributes to the large number of baby mamas. Males and females will naturally get together and children will be born and many times they don't become a family is because of that ridiculous outdated and irrelevant nonsense.

[@Silverbackugx]

Only in a corrupt society can money be equated to proof. I wonder how many innocent people are in jail because they couldn't pay "proof"..lol. and just how many guilty paid their "proof" to the right person. Thank you for a well thought and articulated common sense cover on this with just the facts and no feelings. If there was some huge extravagant wedding, I would whisper to my new bride that her family was eating that car that she wanted and her friends were drinking up that land she wanted to buy, and as she filled people's pockets with money she would also know they will be leaving with the children's school fees. Brideprice is an outdated practice that invokes poverty, domestic abuse, and resentment. Life is not a fairytale on any continent.

[@TheSubiShop]

Thanks for sharing your perspective brother