Why do I Feel So Angry??

As you know, anger is often a secondary emotion. Meaning that it’s used to protect us from something else we are feeling, such as humiliated, hurt, scared, rejected or anything that’s hard to admit we feel. Anger can seem safer than those emotions, and when asked what’s going on or how we are feeling, we can confidently say “I feel angry!” Or even if we aren’t comfortable feeling angry or saying that out loud, we can stew in it instead of admitting to ourselves that we are actually very hurt. In other words, whether we express our anger outwardly or not, it’s still there and more comfortable than the primary emotion.
For the most part, anger exists as a way for us to get out of any threatening situation and survive, that’s why when we feel vulnerable, hurt, or humiliated (for example) anger pops up and distracts us. It senses the threat of more hurt or upset and protects us. And if you hadn’t guessed this already, anger is triggered by our amygdala. You know, that part of our brain responsible for our fight, flight or freeze response. That’s why anger can often feel so out of control.
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[@Katimorton]

Did you watch the end of the video?

[@wooosh8712]

only the end

[@jackie8640]

Yes

[@vanessaweitzmann7239]

I always watch the whole video

[@SusieQ78]

Oh yea...I love blacklight. I do a lot of blacklight stuff in kids/ youth min :)

[@thomascoleman298]

Yes. Thanks for talking about these issues in the we, us, our vs you. Inclusive, team approach to problem solving. Anger mgt 101. Journal, talk about it, write it down, prayer meditation.

[@pvdm709]

I love how you say “because I am a therapist, I know when I screw up”. That is so true

[@jessicajohnston5693]

For someone who is studying to become a therapist, this is good to know 😅

[@sherylw4599]

I was "taught" as a child not to express my own anger, or punishment would follow. I'm only now learning how to even recognize that what I feel is anger. it's never too late to learn and benefit from therapy!

[@darlvader1652]

If you fell angry just let your anger talks and never hold it You could express anger in front of your parents and tell them what they have done to you And trust me you will know what anger is

[@loribothwell5493]

I got spankings when I was angry and shamed. It's coming to the surface now.

[@paulinejulien9191]

same

[@osse1n]

Nothing wrong with any emotion, it's how we choose to act or react upon them that makes a huge difference.

[@Katimorton]

Exactly :)

[@ernestoberger7589]

Yeah, I've read that bumper sticker as well.

[@SPLIFBEATZ]

give him an award or nobel pice price

[@RonLarhz]

Should therapist make u feel you shouldnt express anger(in their presence/at them)?

[@ethanpoole3443]

I’m going to disagree with respect to hate and envy. We would be much better off without those two emotions in my experience, but hate especially. I have never seen anything good come from hate as it exists to demean and destroy others (and self when turned within, which is precisely what happens to those of us who were victims of others’ hate as children) and envy, when combined with ego, serves too often to be the inspiration for hate towards those perceived as somehow “different”. While I may struggle with hate for myself because of the abuse I endured throughout adolescence, I will never hate any other living being.

[@tomatobastardo2637]

I just feel like there's no justice. People wrong me and get away with it. I can't let it go. I'm always thinking about it. I'm always angry.

[@ethanpoole3443]

At some point you have to let the anger go or it will ultimately consume you. Either find an acceptable outlet for the anger or learn to forgive those that wronged you, not because they deserve such, as they seldom do, but because YOU deserve that peace. There will never be real justice in this life and that is one of the most difficult truths to accept if you believe in right and wrong, but this is the only world we have and the only life we will ever get to live. You may also wish to consider being evaluated for PTSD or Complex PTSD if there has been significant trauma in your past, as I’m guessing there has been, as there do exist good trauma-aware therapists today who are compassionate and can help with treating such today (unlike 30 years ago when those of us with childhood trauma were turned away and told to simply “get over it” and left to our own devices, there thankfully are good options for help today). But I do understand how you feel as I, too, had to find a way to let go of that anger in my mid-20s before it consumed me as I had bottled up so much rage and anger as a teen from the years of abuse I had endured multiple times daily as a consequence of others’ hate. While I found it within myself to forgive my abusers decades ago, it is only in this past year that I was finally able to get help for the Complex PTSD that has largely run my life for the past 36 (of my 48) years as there was no treatment available whatsoever 30 years ago and the psychiatrists I saw back then only further abused my trust...keeping me from returning to therapy for another three decades. But, thankfully, there are compassionate trauma-aware therapists out there today that can help us. It is OK to seek help!

[@noname-of2yl]

This is exactly my life. I cant move on bc there is no justice, people have abused me and abandoned me without any repercussions while I’m left traumatized and suffering. It’s not ok

[@annevnht9303]

I FEEL YA

[@griffin1837]

sameee

[@darlvader1652]

I fell that bro I can't forgive them only anger lives inside me because of them they reuinied my life and they fucking get away with I want to murder them or destroy them as they did to me

[@lisasnoozy3749]

I wasn’t allowed to have feelings growing up and I’m learning to feel now. Anger is one I don’t know what to do with yet. I genuinely feel angry when I’m hurting. I’m learning to journal and paint my feelings too. Thank you for your videos Kati!

[@janinewhite5438]

I'm exactly the same. It's such a new thing to me 'feeling', it can be overwhelming

[@lisasnoozy3749]

Janine White same

[@marynaswanepoel8364]

Right! This year is the first time I'm actually allowed to be angry and now I get angry all the time and I dknt like it😅

[@mementomori5374]

Exactly the same when i had exteme fever i had to go to school or work emotions were for the weak

[@KS-ne5mq]

I’m always angry because my whole life everyone else’s decisions affect my life in the worst ways.

[@flodarry9351]

you sound like a victim

[@johndawn4612]

Yeah this is a classic victim mentality which usually goes along with blame which isnt generally helpful

[@ila84leejoon]

@C MNB I agree with u. I used to so obediently follow other people decision in the past. As a result, I became a person who is undecided and doesn't know my own worth and interest in life. Right now, I job hopping after graduated 2 years ago. Still looking for what I love to do but hopefully will get there soon. I would say believe in yourself and don't afraid to try.

[@R9oxy1]

I never thought about anger being a cover for another emotion. It made me realize that I’ve been feeling rejected for a while and didn’t want to admit that to myself. Thank you so much Kati your videos are amazing!❤️

[@madhavikamble7264]

So introspective.. I definitely need to find my primary emotion.. I also agreed with you that anger helps us in setting boundaries.. Thank you for the video

[@Katimorton]

Of course!! I am so glad you found it helpful :) xoxo

[@fredericmoresmau4303]

I'm not angry I'm sad

[@jahinoel1365]

This made me realize something so important. I’m angry all the time bc I can’t admit that I’m hurt and people did that to me. I was made out to seem like an angry person with issues but I’m a hurt person that, at the time, wasn’t able to admit that I was hurt/wronged.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

Anger is a "self preservation" emotion first, worst, and foremost. 9/10 times, someone gets angry because they feel their sense of self is being violated. It's just worth acknowledging that there's a difference between "sticking up for yourself" and "bullying". ;o)

[@klaudijamasandukaite9409]

O M G I so needed this right now!!

[@Katimorton]

I hope it helps!! xoxo

[@AngelGarcia-jf1zq]

When I’m angry it’s because my own family tries to hurt me when I have nothing to do with their problems.

[@mementomori5374]

Thats so hateful

[@johndawn4612]

This is a victim mentality

[@iris__and_rhizomes]

Kati, your videos are such gifts. Thank you. This video comes at a particularly opportune time - I’m really struggling with a lot of anger. It’s big anger, as you called it. I totally agree that suppressing anger increases distance between you and your true self. I’m just beginning to understand this. That’s why this video is so helpful. I’d never thought about the relationship between suppressing anger and setting boundaries, but I totally see that now. I had never understood why it was impossible to stand up for myself. But by pretending I wasn’t angry, I was denying myself access to the truth. How can I tell others my truth when I myself am not aware of it? Kati, you’re awesome. I need to send you a letter. So much has been happening in my life! I think I’m finally on the road to healing.

[@julieadams930]

THE END WAS WONDERFUL. YOU ARE WONDERFUL. YOU SURE TALKED ABOUT SOME THINGS WERE JUST MEANT FOR ME. I HOPE I CAN WORK ON THEM. TY KATI

[@AleesatheIsraeli]

Anger is an expression of injustice you feel. Its normal feeling yes love this....I try to understand why Im feeling this way..My therapist...when I reach Anger its a warning sign to hate...etc. I internalize things alot. Very good vid its a secondary emotion. I meditate slow things down this way Im more able to deal with stuff. Mental health is like a dominoes what you take in can affect you also. Try waking up early seeing your kids wife, husband etc before they do to school can help you throughout the day and but things in perspective.

[@KisDraga]

I needed this. I've been feeling really angry for a while now. Not having a sense of self during it ... was interesting and validating to hear. There's definitely a lot of layers going on with the feelz.

[@toooldtobejunior]

Thanks a lot. Watching your video, I remembered that I was experimenting with my emotions about ten years ago. I had twelve cards with emotions names on them (both "positive" and "negative"). When I had a minute, I was randomly picking a card and tried to feel that emotion. It helped me to recognize my emotions latter. I think it is what I need to do again now as I want to get more emotions aware. P.S. Nice glowing picture.

[@bryannaweigel9581]

Just want to say that I started watching this and realized I needed my journal to process the three parts you mentioned in the beginning. I restarted the video and made three sections so that I could help myself process my anger. One section was asking where I feel anger. The second section asked what set me off and what is the primary emotion my anger is hiding. The last section was for brainstorming new ways to express my emotions. I’m still filling this out but I wanted to say thank you for taking the time to explain anger and help with giving steps to process it. I’m dealing with a very stressful job and it’s affecting lots of areas in my life, not to mention my own negative self talk. This really helped. Thank you!

[@cstevens8788]

In every video you create something jumps out at me. This time it was "Freeze" which is exactly what I did not realize had happened. I had more important things to concern me than the horrible anger I was feeling so I froze. After I was free to get out my anger I was told how I would only be hurting myself if I let it out. My only option was to forgive. BS. I stuffed it so deeply that I've made myself sick. Now I will work on forgiving myself because if I had not frozen I could have stopped it before it hurt someone I loved dearly. Momma bear here feeling guilty. Thanks, Kati.

[@jackattack7871]

Thanks for the video. I’m a public librarian and branch manager which, contrary to librarian stereotypes, means that I’m nice, compassionate and helpful. Had depression in the past and it’s re-emerged in the past year with lots of anger. Unfortunately, my family bears the brunt b/c that anger is tamped down. Your channel has been a source of help & inspiration. Thank you

[@diablominero]

Anger feels like being more alive than alive, like excitement and the pure joy I get from a few kinds of energy drinks. It feels like pure energy sitting in my body, offering to help with whatever I need, and giving me (seemingly good) advice about what to do. I feel powerful, intelligent, and certain about what the right thing to do next is. But it's also a scary because when I'm calmed down, I often regret doing some of what it told me to do. And also the sense of personal power flips on its head and feels terrible if something prevents me from doing whatever seems to come next.

[@moamenmoataz6135]

Anger, although scary, is one of the keys to self-awareness. As you said it's a good indicator of what sets us off, what our boundaries are, from that we can get an idea of our ideals, personal values and standards. We don't need to feel bad about it, but we need a suitable way to deal with it. Btw, this collaboration is awesome, do it more often. Actually having a painting for different emotions can be awesome.

[@anthonymicele8897]

I miss the moments of happiness that I used to have.

[@graemedicks3139]

Great video - it all makes sense.Often you hear someone say that [they have allot anger to work through] well this makes sense in that, thir anger is fundamental as both a boundary for self identity and pointing to underlying hurt/pain. Also imagine confronting ones' primary hurt/anguish without any secondary anger to provide inner protection - it would be crushing,almost difficult to function in daily life. Furthermore the secondary anger and it's intensity is a value of sorts, otherwise a persons primary hurt/etc would be almost without validation .

[@deborahalexander9068]

I really want to be a therapist so I can help people from hurting themselves and help them control their emotions. Katie has helped me so much to learn a lot more about this stuff. Thank you!!!😁❤

[@spacedorito4335]

watching your videos makes me realize how much i need therapy but also.. reaching out is so difficult. every time i think about bringing it up to my parents i get a lump in my throat.. it’s so easy to say there’s no need to feel ashamed about reaching out a hand, but it’s a whole other thing to actually believe and act on it. it feels easier to just be mad at myself about everything even though it isn’t a healthy mindset to harbor. anger is akfjfjxfhf

[@k0chum]

i love the reasoning of doing the blue. I do that in my journal a lot. If i am having a particularly negative and angry day, I will do a water color painting over my entry for that day. A way to add beauty to what I view as hatred.

[@logansoeder6031]

I 100% agree that pressing your anger down creates cognitive dissonance. I was in this myself for a long time and only now am I truly understanding how important it is to express anger and frustration. I’m sad to say that I’m certain most of my family has this dissonance from unexpressed anger and other emotions. It’s so hard to break out of that. I’m not sure they ever will.

[@jaquelinealmeida9476]

Recently I've been dealing with anger in a particular situation and I've realized I have a tendency to grow my anger every time I'd think about it, it could get stronger and stronger. But since I've noticed the emotion behind it, it kinda disappeared? This video helped me understand the process of it. Thanks Kati, your work is really helpful.

[@davidroache8655]

A therapist created more anger problems for me due to her approach. She knew when she screwed up; she just made excuses when she found out I was switching to someone else. It is really sad that the mental health profession doesn’t do more to stop such therapists.

[@Tensolin01]

I would say anger has its place. But it’s not good to rely on it.

[@Katimorton]

I agree... we all have anger and it's necessary in life, but we shouldn't let it run the show. xoxo

[@darlvader1652]

Anger is the way for me

[@ryanamahasarigustiayu9339]

100% agree .. Instead of express the anger, i prefer to think again what emotion i want to hide. And it does work .. So i can explain that actually i was scared, i was dissapointed, i was hurt, and when i did it, i can use my logic optimally 😊😊

[@nikkimckay860]

Such a calm and soft voice 🙂

[@alexisclark9588]

Hey, Kati, I noticed you have a lot of videos in regards to relationships, how to tell if they are unhealthy, healthy, and how to maintain them but what about a video on how to repair and mend a relationship, especially after things like addiction issues? I was kicked out of my house for relapsing, I unknowingly hurt my dads through my addiction and broke their trust but how does one move past that in a relationship?

[@reveranttangent1771]

I try to treat my emotions as friends trying to give me advice. They might be right, they might be wrong. What they have to say might be imprtant right now or it might not be important right now, but it's rude to ignore your friends.

[@j.bailey5619]

Hi, kati. I'm going through a really intense breakup. It's the worst heartbreak I've had in my life, and my childhood was riddled with trauma. I'm in such a bad place and I'd love a video on breakups, especially for someone who is consistently suicidal and lonely, and doesn't seem to benefit from institutionalization. Thank you ♡

[@_just_TK]

Jane Bailey ck out Kati’s video on healing from a break up. So sorry to hear ur in a bad place right now but know that with the right help it DOES GET BETTER!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3vUaoV5rJqNoqc

[@admirbarucija2018]

I hope you have a happy new year Kati, thank you as usual for your amazing channel!! ❤️ I believe anger can be used productively, it doesn’t necessarily have to be bad.

[@tigershark7100]

Yes I completely agree with the stuffing part and not doing what you should do but do what the other person wants to...I’m going through that at this moment and going to have to shut that person out of my life in a kind way

[@PhillipRajcany]

This is such great timing for this talk in my life at present. One thing at 3:30 that you said rings true for me too. I have felt that sense of becomming small, the internal pressure of anger being held in by the overriding fear of expressing it poorly, if at all. I notice that it starts in my chest, and extends up through my throat, neck, and all over my scalp and face (especially between my brows).

[@ruebene2223]

The biggest problem with anger is that it is viewed as "inappropriate" in most situations, which encourages us to stuff it down. I'm still working on it but what helps me is mindfulness meditation. I.e. being curious about it and just sitting with it. Feeling it, embracing it, and then letting it go. Not pushing away or holding on to it. Hope this helps!

[@jessicajohnston5693]

I had an NJROTC teacher that would always tell us to "Get mad, then get over it". I also don't like how anger feels, but anger can give us the power and motivation to change something we think is wrong. So, anger can be a needed force of positive change when expressed properly.

[@silascochran9705]

Anger can be a fuel a motivator if restrained it is my main motivational Force when I am angry things change I change them😡

[@mireillelebeau2513]

If you want truth creativity you have to explore all emotions both the beautiful ones and the ugly ones. That is a beautiful sentence.

[@soyyo4154]

"I AM!!!! NOT!!!! ANGRY!!!!!"

[@markedwardspezenosky5814]

Lmao

[@Anuyushi]

I have a form of autisim which makes it a struggle to not only feel emotions, but express them. I'd rather people think I hate a gift instead of jumping up and down with joy and telling them how much I love it. Though when I was very young, I had extreme anger issues and often got violent with teachers or doctors, but the thing is, I never wanted to. I always thought my anger was valid, and fighting back was something I HAD to do or continue being pushed around and talked down to. As I grew up, people started treating me with more respect and my anger diminished. It felt so nice to not fight people, it made me realize how much I absolutely hated it. Today, I would much rather be talked down to and pushed around than snap at someone. I take in any anger I feel and direct it at myself silently. I prefer admitting humiliation and embarrassment, and treat anger as something I refuse to acknowledge. Anger has only ever done me harm. The last time I got angry, my little sister had stolen my DS and I went off. I thought it was valid, I felt completely violated because she dug through my personal things to steal from me. I almost wanted to cry, I was shaking and could barely think straight with how angry I was. The first thing I did was run up and start shouting at her to give it back. Despite me feeling valid in the anger, it only escalated the problem until the entire house was yelling at each other. Being angry is such a disgusting feeling of hurt, I can't stand it.

[@jennifermorales2753]

the problem with me is, sometimes, anger feels good or I thrive off of it. Like I dont want to stop shouting or cursing. When I stop I feel terrible after ward and then guilty

[@WutwereUexpecting]

I needed this. Yesterday was rough.

[@gurudra]

Anger is like acid that can cause more harm to the vessel in which it is stored, than to anything on which it is poured

[@Katimorton]

I love that!! yes!! xoxo

[@ernestoberger7589]

Hahahahhaha

[@janinewhite5438]

Wow!!!! Really needed to see this 💗

[@kerrylarmand6301]

Ooooooh...that's a gooder......I like that one...thx bud

[@chelseygarrett4221]

I've also heard having anger towards someone is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.

[@ooppii1]

Anger is one of my main motivators - to the perfect way to push you to do something you've been scared to do (you have to able to cool it, though!). Also realizing what's behind the anger is key.

[@SusieQ78]

Thanks Katie! Umm, think im going to watch this one 10 times after I get off work. I push it all down. On a side note...I wish I could find one of these art therapist, and I love blacklight!!

[@wax9007]

Beautiful video, thank you Kati

[@katiecostello5532]

Just what I needed! as always, thank you Kati

[@tracyzimmerman7912]

Kati Morton experience anger from someone else like abuse as a child. It does you affect how you perceive things. You haven't mentioned this.

[@joisea9509]

Growing up I was told I had no right to be angry or that there was something wrong with me when I expressed anger. I was not allowed to fight back when my siblings harmed me physically, tore up and threw away my stuff, slam doors on me, or when they constantly insulted me. I received beatings not them. I received the cursing out from both parents, not them. My dad even swung a two inch pipe at me once when I argued with my sister who had stolen something from me. Now my therapist yells at me because I commented on something said that upset me. They said there was something wrong with me too.

[@wootwootwoot32]

Calming video needed this today! Thank you :)

[@undeadpresident]

It's good if you can channel it productively, but destructive if uncontrolled.

[@RosheenQuynh]

I don't have issues bottling up my anger - I have the opposite problem. I already know that my anger hides my sadness 99.999% of the time unless I get _extremely_ sad. I cannot STAND crying, it leaves me feeling so helpless and weak. Abuse has left me feeling like that most of my life and whether or not I grieved my abuse, I don't know, but each go hand in hand and I'd rather be angry than sad. I know crying is cathartic but when I spend so many hours of my day angry at every little thing, that'd translate to crying at every little thing and that's just messy. Asperger's is also likely why I there's way for me to stop, think, and then react - there's just a reaction. Everything hits me all at once. I'm sure if I cried more and let things out, it'd be a little better, but then I know it'd get out of control as much as my anger is. There's no balance for me and it sucks. Not to mention that crying that often would mean I feel weak and helpless more than I already do. It's just easier to just be angry at everything and feel like I have some control over SOMETHING in my life, even though I really don't and I'm just a tantrum-thrower :/

[@undeadpresident]

Anger exists because throughout history people (and animals) often hurt each other and are not open to being reasoned with, so aggressively dealing with them becomes a functional recourse to solving the problem.

[@resonance-ym8mo]

I really struggle with expressing anger. I usually keep it inside then I get anxious and depressed . When I do get angry, people either get angry or upset then I feel guilty or feel like I done something wrong. I think to myself "Is it ok to be angry?" I feel guilty because I feel that me being angry, is a bad thing. People tell me that I should be happy all the time but sometimes people say or do things to me that I don't like.

[@kbellmurray]

I actually prefer anger to sadness because it is more action oriented. I usually get sad and then angry after I’ve thought about whatever is bothering me.

[@taracate88]

For me, one of the most frustrating things is when I’m in a situation where I’m uncomfortable in some way but I’m not allowed to express myself. For example, if you encounter the police and they mistakenly believe you’re involved in some kind of crime but you weren’t. You can’t argue with them. You are just supposed to let them arrest you and go to jail and wait for a judge but you could be suffering the whole time in jail and meanwhile, you get evicted because you can’t pay anything and then they find you innocent and you don’t have any place to live or anything else because it’s gone. I’m speaking hypothetically but there are many ways this happens in life and I have the hardest time with it. My mom is bipolar so growing up was very much like being arrested for something you didn’t do. Now I’m an adult and I did the dumbest thing and got myself stuck in a crappy relationship with a guy who is a professional at stonewalling and gaslighting. I know I what I need to do but I’m so depressed because I have no control over anything and it drive me crazy. Every time I make progress, it’s sabotaged and it just feels like a harder slam every time. I don’t know how to get over it and move on because it’s like the harder I try to fix it, the harder the opposition is. It’s like Tetris where it’s easy in the beginning but it gets faster and one mistake snowballs into a game over. I have Borderline Personality Disorder which makes sense because it’s all about feeling like you don’t matter because nobody understands when in reality, you’re just feeling the emotions differently. I don’t know how to deal with feeling unimportant. I know it’s unreasonable to expect everyone to think like I do but I feel like I’m the only one who thinks the way I do. If I care about someone, I want to express it to them so they know but when other people don’t seem to think it’s important. I hear how people say they are happy with me because someone tells me about it later but when I have a one on one with them, all they do is try to explain what I’m doing wrong. I think it’s like they don’t feel the need to tell me that I’m doing good because I’m doing good but when I make a mistake, they want to tell me that it’s a mistake, usually when it’s pretty obvious to anyone. I understand it’s them trying to help me but if it hasn’t worked so far 30 years later, then maybe it’s time to try positive reinforcement instead of only punishment. I’m just saying, well I’m not but thats the point. I’m not allowed to say that I don’t like it and what would be more effective. I’m not allowed to set boundaries about how I’m treated and when I do, I get more criticism than anything. If I ask politely, everyone thinks I’m joking and if I am serious, then they say I need to calm down but I’m as calm as I can be when I’m upset. I get more frustrated because I don’t want to have to explain that I’m calm because I want to have the conversation about what I was upset about but I can’t, I have to explain that I’m not trying to get upset and every time, EVERY TIME, they interrupt me to TELL me that I AM upset and if I don’t calm down they’re not even going to listen. Pretty soon I am actually angry because they won’t listen and wont let me say anything because they are right and I’m crazy. I have had issues with my anger and I’m sure it’s a big reason why people treat me the way they do but I just want to be able to make a reasonable argument and if I’m right, they acknowledge it. I just want validation that I have something to say that matters, that I matter. I don’t know how to get people to do that and I don’t know how to handle it when they don’t or refuse to. Maybe there is already a video on that. Maybe I am just super wrong and it’s just me, but like I said, even if that’s the case, I don’t know how to handle that either.

[@Spitspin3]

I dont just get angry for no reason. I get angry when i see injustice. I just cant stand it so I feel the need to confront it. If i dont i feel empty

[@milenaciaramella3524]

You really helped me ❤️❤️

[@Katimorton]

Awe I am so glad :) xoxo

[@milenaciaramella3524]

Thank you so much for answering ❤️

[@rieschelleannjavier-basina7371]

I feel the struggle too. For me I have this look on my face on my eyes just stabbing daggers at something... Then i would mumble... Then i won't get attention.... Then I feel even worse...

[@galaxyshapeshifter8383]

For me the most that makes me angry is when someone don't treat me equally because of my gender even for the smalles things like being the only one responsible if the house was a mess, if I ever expressed my anger about these things to my family I'm always faced with shouting in the argument and they all agree that I'm the one in the wrong, so I like to ramble all of this to my friends instead but when no one is in my side to ramble to I just start punching a pillow, pulling my hair, biting myself even- these things has been my only way to express my anger.

[@edenangelica13]

Great Kati! Yes, art in all modalities is a great way to express or sublimate anger (or the underlying emotions)!

[@1noonoo]

Sometimes it seems like some people won't leave you alone unless you express raging anger. I think that may be because so many people are not accustomed to calmer and more respectful interactions when dealing with anger and the calmness is taken for weakness. However, generally I've found that it's easier on your brain, body and relationships if you simply talk about your anger if all parties are willing. One weird thing I've discovered is that some people become angrier when you're calm and tend to see the calm person as a fraud or a threat. I have an idea, but I would like to know from the perspective of a practitioner what that is all about.

[@BrainsApplied]

This video is very dark, literally... But very interesting :)

[@Katimorton]

hahah!! Yes it is very dark.. lol

[@petalisporcelain1346]

This was another great video especially since people really don't understand anger a lot of the time. Also I was wondering if you could ever do a video on video game addiction/gaming disorder.

[@phoebesue9390]

Omg I can’t wait I really need this❤️🤩xx

[@Bornman86]

Super stoked for a video. Really need it!

[@Katimorton]

I hope it's helpful :) xoxo

[@Kristina-nh8ki]

I'm always waiting for that "welcome!'

[@sagayapanneer9052]

Infringing my right to work and infringing my right angers me.

[@bethany-b2pkfilms792]

Oh looking forward to watching this. I've never dealt with anger like I have been lately with this depression. I don't know how to deal with it.

[@thinkingmachine354]

Bethany - B2pk films if it is anything like mine, just take everything super slow and take extra care without holding back too much (I don’t exactly know how to describe it but if we’re the same you may just understand).

[@elysian1092]

Okay I have this idea that I really want you to do, so there's a show "In treatment" there's 3 seasons I believe, and it's all about therapy and one main therapist guy who sees clients durint the episodes and through the whole season we see how the clients progress and the whole session thing so I thought it would be SUPER interesting that you reacted to the first episode or other it doesn't matter and you told your opinion as a real therapist, or you can watch it alone then give us your ideas about it what was true and what was not, it would be really interesting. (I really like your videos)

[@masteryoflife5133]

When I was younger, not until not too long ago, I used to see and hear a lot of anger so I felt I should promise my self not to act angry ever. For I have almost never showed my anger to someone. When I do express it usually alone, I feel energy flopping in me like crazy fish out of water having a seizure, once I accidentally punched a wall when I was scared then ran into the street in the middle of night in my Pajamas.

[@neilafritts7334]

I tend to channel my anger into physical activity, once my wrestling coach told me that before lifting weights you have to get a little bit angry, it seems to work for me personally but I actually have no clue if that’s a healthy way to deal with anger

[@janetslater129]

I have been told to “get angry” when working on my vault in gymnastics. However, with me, if I get angry, I tend to shut down.

[@Bornman86]

Anger has been my only survival for over 25 years. Extremely difficult as when I release anger I get seriously anxious

[@anom_vip77]

It is my first time to actually search about why i am angry 💔 i feel angry from small things and actually that happens only with my family i never get angry outside or with friends and as soon as my anger is calm i start regret that amd even cry like i know my family loves me why i feed my self that they dont and dont care 💔

[@mattidriftking3097]

I have been bullied for years too i have put my anger on my people and my family.😠 because i was tired of the way they treat me when i was 18 i stood up for myself and i was triple angry i said the right word and one word i remember was (and honesly when i turn 21 i dont know that i ever want to see you anymore) i said to mom.😢and she cried. She deserved it. But i love her even when im angry sometimes but everything is back to normal again👍 so everyone remember even when you are different and other treat you like this be strong.when you are alive. Its easy too be angry when you grow up and you can stand up for your self or fight if neccesary

[@trombonecoach]

Happy and peaceful blue can be reality...or it can just be used to paint over reality.

[@kaylawritessongs]

Would you please consider doing a video review of Netflix’s new show Spinning Out’s portrayal of bipolar disorder?

[@alexandradils7195]

If you are taught that it isn't safe to express anger outwardly, it sometimes forces us to turn anger onto ourselves.

[@moisesrosas7916]

1. Asi me siento a la mesa. 2. No estoy enojado. 3. No estoy enojado contigo Kati. 4. Estar enojado no es ni bueno ni malo. Es una reacción humana al descontento. Cuando algo nos molesta. Enojarse sirve cuando se encuentra en una situación de mucho stress, miedo o injusticia. Sirve para la sobrevivencia. Debe aprender a usarse. Saber cuando y con quien enojarse. Si se usa de manera mala puede resultar contraproducente. Cualquier pretexto es bueno para enojarse y atacar a los demás solo por que si. Y eso no es bueno. 5. No vi el final del video. 6. De cual video? Es todo. Gracias.

[@ThelPic]

Oh Kati, your timing is spectacular! I wish I could show you my KZbin chronology 😉

[@markedwardspezenosky5814]

Frustration is my anger..trigger...when can't change something that needs to charge..makes me angery

[@kkarolkka]

Anger is the hardest emotion for me .... I don't like it. My problem is little bit different, what if I am not able to feel or express anger at all? Maybe you can do video about this as well :)

[@gracetaylor695]

You should make more videos that are towards teenagers because I feel like there’s a lot of us who are watching that are teenagers also I love you videos sooo much 💖

[@kiawe12]

As an artist and psych student here. Just wanted to say how much I love this special format using art as therapy. It definitely helps me. Thank you both for a great and insightful video.

[@ilikaplayhopscotch]

Okay, so I wasn’t expecting to learn something THAT quick. “Hurt” is an emotion? Like hurt as in lesser betrayal? Or just hurt as in pain?

[@silascochran9705]

Hi Katie your post just popped up again for no particular reason I am that Homeless veteran but I have a beautiful cabin now it's awesome safe and sound thank you for your videos you have helped tremendously😁🌴🏠🌴

[@haileyelizabeth9466]

YAY! I've been looking out for this video, so helpful! The painting is FLIPPEN COOL. I totally am the same when I don't feel valued or important. I clench that jaw so hard. haha

[@loveworksnoevil]

i like your videos, but it would be cool if you did one on rare circumstances like if someone was in an extreme situation like heavy persecution being stalked by people all day who have daily information on you to try and mentally tortue you, how you would cope.

[@carterlang6072]

Omg I have been stuffing down my anger for so long and I haven't realized this until know.

[@pinatajuju4471]

For me anger is something I never bothered to learn about until now because it's destroying my relationship. Thank you for sharing.

[@SandeepSinghCreator]

You mean deep triggering rage as a result of CPTSD from narcissistic abuse. I like to talk about my anger. It drives me into right direction. I can't tolerate Sociopaths ruling around. And trauma bond. Thanks Katie for this video. To be seen or heard is utmost valuable. Love painting!!! It's beautiful and expressive! I love to express my anger emotions.❤️ Graffiti 😊

[@Micheline.Maalouf]

This is a really cool concept Kati! this is an important topic to talk about. Many people are ashamed of their anger and really it's a healthy emotion too. It serves a purpose and thank you for covering this.

[@Crmson117]

I warned my mother two weeks before her death, I pushed as hard as I could without screaming in the hospital. Her heart stopped two days before the appointment she'd scheduled out. She wouldn't be admitted because it was too inconvenient. My dad is getting radiation for prostate cancer. The day it snapped into place that my his allergies aren't acting up and that his symptoms line up with the sars-2 virus I screamed at him. I screamed and screamed, disgusted and enraged, I didn't understand that what he's doing that's so wrong is dying and I didn't scream last time. Now I'm down the street as he denies his last weeks, reliving my mom's denials. He's too befuddled by pneumonia, too invested that the pandemic is overblown, too scared of cancer and too scared of covid to admit he has it. And I was too scared to restrain the urge to scream, might have cost him his life. So, yeah, anger needs to be a cue for self reflection. Tomorrow is not a promise.

[@joellenlin1212]

wow, the art is absolutely beautiful and inspiring!

[@SusieQ78]

Oh, I'm excited to watch this!!!

[@Katimorton]

I hope you like it!! xoxo

[@SusieQ78]

@@Katimorton I loved it. I want to paint it out now lol.