Why do we lie? - CrowdScience podcast, BBC World Service

[@SaBoTeUr2001]

When i was studying overseas (Australia), at first I thought people are so friendly, always asking me how I'm doing. But soon, I noticed they did this less and less. I didn't realize that they didn't really want to know how I was, so when I answered honestly, they were put off and started avoiding me. How depressing is that? I have to lie to keep them happily uninvolved with me.

[@Sskim-ue6]

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[@islamsabry7705]

it's because everyone is loaded with unhappy feelings, so when they ask you this, the only thing that's really attracting them to continue the conversation is the hope that there's someone really feeling good and not as depressed as they are. Man, modern life is slavery.

[@dharshinithilagar4415]

@@islamsabry7705 i agree with u . They neither want to hear unpleasant things nor care about others' problems.

[@RosaGlez-ls1oz]

That's common in occidental cultures, just a social and absurd formula.

[@aphaseelec]

How you are going is a greeting for strangers, not a tell me your life story.

[@celineW99]

I'm dutch and I love the honesty here! I think it's also better for the mental health for both!

[@RodrigoAntes]

Bbc is jimmy savile

[@jye.9]

This video provides so much information about so many interesting questions. I realized that the type/color of lies can be applied not only between cultures but also between generations. Through this video, I learned how to be kind to others and myself as well.

[@AronaCamara-eg9sd]

I will download this for my English learning and improving. Thank you for sharing. I'll listen to that as soon as I can.

[@sofiahabtemariam6628]

“Very interesting topic. In my opinion, I prefer children’s lies over adult lies, not in phrase support lines, but in general, because adult lies are often noticed as shameful. Thank you.

[@sajadkarimi-qd6cn]

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[@arzubursali4826]

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[@EnglishStoryShared]

Thanks for sharing this podcast! It's always fascinating to explore the reasons behind human behavior.

[@BradBeck-sg6wl]

Lies often act as shields, protecting us from harsh truths and social judgment. Modern psychology suggests we lie to preserve our self-image, avoid conflict, and foster connections, reflecting our intricate dance with truth and deception.

[@Martin-u2g]

My parents were the catalyst that taught me to lie. Basically i learned that if i talk about certain things i get in trouble, if i ask questions i get in trouble and if i don’t give the answers they want i get in trouble. So i started lying. Nothing wrong when dealing with unreasonable people. I got the belt for things like that and it is funny how your view changes when you catch your parents lies out regularly but you get a hiding for your own

[@English5daysshortsS]

I appreciate the ending. Even if it’s not entirely true, being polite sometimes makes me feel better. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

[@100xEnglish]

Thank you for sharing the knowledge about English language..I don't want to stop watching you because I don't want to stop learning ..

[@aqdasikram]

it starts with learning the first language. where you have to be taught expressions for sake of learning.... i have two sisters, my father is a farmer, a complete essay on my cow where no one in my relative or neighbourhood ever had it. the expression is delinked with reality to make you learn to speak out of box suitable to situation than reality

[@BurcuGünay-e6t]

as a psychologyst; this podcast is really informative about this interesting questions. In Türkiye we always ask each other "hey how are you, how its going everythig okay?" and we mostly answer this questions by saying "im good, everything fine, im totally great" even if we sad or not feeling alright, even had a bad week. And there is nothing wrong with that.😅

[@susysamalex]

The BBC teaching people about lying, how very apt!

[@Katarina-z5g]

Thank you so much that you were shared with this a video and I learned about it.

[@MoeSatAung-wr5sc]

Thanks.I am listening from your videos to improve my English listening...

[@richarddunn164]

Lying can sometimes be an important self defense mechanism in various scenarios if you feel vulnerable so it is necessary sometimes to lie in order to gain or protect, but most of the time even if it causes a loss telling the truth is ultimately the best strategy in the long run for 3 main reasons, 1. You do not have to think of anything to make up so it's efficient, it just flows 2. It's simple and can be relayed in very few words, mother nature is on your side by choosing not to add more chaos to an already chaotic world through lies (think entropy). 3. You do not have to defend it once told, people will find out the truth at their own pace. Lying has its time and place but knowing when that is, that's the problem people struggle with. Wisdom I live by. 🧠

[@richardleirer]

Wow, celebrating children telling Lies and believing that is an example of a beneficial growth milestone is a benchmark for the downfall of our world. A special Thank you to therapist and counselors who have helped us become this way.

[@naarwhals]

this is so interesting. I hate lying and am bad at it, so I learned to be straightforward and honest while also deflecting controversial questions....

[@tommasoolanda1665]

Love the bit of comedy at the end 😄. Btw, the first time I stood in front of the BBC building in London I almost cried. Such an immense moment. Due to my passion for Doctor Who.

[@dinaminkina1221]

Thank you so much for this conversation especially for the last revelation by the end of this broadcast

[@toilingandmoiling]

Thank you very much. I have enjoyed listening to the podcast. The theme itself is very interesting, and I had a great practice in listening (I'm not a native speaker).

[@ChutamaneeratSaeLim]

I do love the ending, at least, I may feel better, when I'm trying to be polite by saying a lie😂. Thanks for sharing it via this angle of view😊

[@somalishorts6351]

Thank you for your sharing good importance topic. I appreciate all of you.

[@seangnyvith735]

From Cambodia 🇰🇭 ❤

[@khh7266]

Today I dicided to learn English so I will listen videos of this channel from today!

[@niorlevineaba9503]

decided

[@truthoverlies1820]

BBC are experts in this field!

[@Gateway-y2e]

😂

[@littlefluffybushbaby7256]

So why did you visit? Either to hear what it was about, in which case you must think the BBC has some credibility, or simply to leave a snide remark without listening, in which case how can you judge? I had a look at your channel and your playlists. You seem to be into stuff about time travel and weird nonsense. I'd trust the BBC more than your half-brained expertise.

[@truthoverlies1820]

@@littlefluffybushbaby7256 In order to understand facts from bs you have to look at both sides deary. It's tragic that you're so emotionally attached to the ministry of truth that you can't see the wood for the trees. I clicked on the video to see how the ministry of truth were reporting the narrative. Once I could see through the lies I was then able to call bs..and leaving a truthful remark is not only our right but our duty..especially in today's world. It's interesting that people like you always try to attack the character of others rather than discuss the subject at hand..First of all I would say time travel is impossible..but just because I don't concur with the premise of an argument doesn't mean I lose all interest.. I'm interested in all manner of subjects, not just regime approved ones. You maybe limited to a certain realm of interests but I'm certainly not..I'm as inquisitive as they come..and its only through curiosity that one strengthens their discernment.

[@truthoverlies1820]

@@littlefluffybushbaby7256 also I've just made all my other playlists public..you might want to look at them..u might learn acting or two!

[@ohoh-988]

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[@ZohidQurbonaliyev-v9k]

Thank you BBC learning English These podcasts are useful for me

[@EnglishLearningLab245]

What an interesting topic! I learned a lot of vocabulary and better ways of speaking in this video

[@Stella-bl7te]

I enjoyed the final part of this show! Thank you!😂👍

[@김수안-b4e]

It's Very interesting! It's beneficial. I agree with this content.

[@Gaminghandle949]

Here, I’m listening from Phnom Penh Capital, Cambodia. ❤

[@bksandhyamansia2279]

Beautiful conversation......it can be more transparent with video

[@geneziogenezio7579]

That's Ridiculous Not Everyone Lies Still Have Few Honest People In This Disturbing People World...

[@littlefluffybushbaby7256]

Unfortunately studies show that pretty much everyone does on a daily basis. Often not malicious lies but those little fibs we say to avoid making others unhappy. It's a form of social lubrication we learn at a very young age.

[@letolethe3344]

@@littlefluffybushbaby7256 I know, isn't it great that people care enough about others' feelings to tell small lies?

[@nicolarollinson4381]

There's a difference between lying and stretching the truth 😁. I can also be too blunt or too truthful. I've learned to modify that, in order to be kind to others and also to myself.

[@ellislegg3937]

Too truthful? We only speak or know our own experiences. Is that the truth?

[@anadeleon8804]

😊 interesting topic and very informative. While listening, I realize that graduation / colours of the kinds of lying can also be applied not just between cultures but also between generations.

[@CybillNash-w6j]

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[@SaoriNaraoka]

Thank you for sharing.

[@honghungnguyen710]

Can anyone fill me out the name of the theme song at "The Shepherd Boy" part? Thank a lot. 11:00

[@letolethe3344]

Can you use google?

[@ndirangugichuki6260]

Being polite is a uncontrollable defence mechanism in everyone, that is why we lie. For those who have children, how many times have you lied to them ? Just think about it. Even to our own friends, sometimes we lie to fit in, not to disappoint someone, to make others or someone happy. The problem is when you start lying to yourself.

[@basicbro9714]

Wow it's a great context to talk about!!❤

[@salimkhalid5442]

How we ask questions to BBC ?

[@SaddamHossain-td1lc]

The biggest benefit of telling the truth is that you don’t have to struggle to remember it.

[@LovingLifeOnLess]

We lie because we KNOW or we BELIEVE the truth isn't good enough.

[@toniacollinske2518]

That was fun. Having moved to Ireland from USA, I've had to learn a new method of lying. Will you have a cup? Oh no! I'm just here a moment. 15 minutes later... I'll put on the kettle. No, no. I'm just off. 10 minutes later... Will you have sugar in your tea? Yes, please

[@alaanabil6310]

I admire this podcast ❤

[@GeronimoLizarraga-w7h]

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[@xzyeee]

We learn to lie from our parents but there's an innate desire to when looking out for number one.

[@littlefluffybushbaby7256]

It's a survival skill that even animals use. Not uniquely human, nor a totally bad thing. For instance, imagine two people are being shown someones baby. One says "what a cutie", the other says "OMG what an ugly baby!". Who's the monster? The liar or the honest person?

[@xzyeee]

​@@littlefluffybushbaby7256 humm...both actually. The first, for telling a lie and the second for the exaggerated truth...which is a lie. There is a more objective way of describing the truth. Lies start wars...ask Putin.

[@littlefluffybushbaby7256]

@@xzyeee I can't agree that you're a monster for telling a lie when the consequences of being utterly truthful causes pain. I think if you said someone's baby was ugly that's more likely to 'cause a war' than saying it's lovely. Like it or not, lying is part of getting along socially. As for Putin's lies starting wars I think it's somewhat more complicated than that. Politicians, like all humans, lie all the time. It doesn't always lead to war.

[@timtaylor1365]

"The more they lie the more they don't care"....where have I heard that before? Oh yes, relating to a recent occupant of 10 Downing Street London .

[@moamarsayed9778]

You haven't any channel on telegram? If you have can you send me the link The podcast is very benefit for me

[@MysteryofTheTrinity]

Kids always know when parents are lying, at least unconsciously, and they learn to lie from their examples. That's sad

[@letolethe3344]

"Kids always know when parents are lying." Horse-shit. The number of kids who believe in Santa, the Toothfairy, and the Easter Bunny shows the opposite.

[@m03i]

The final part was really fun😂

[@Meryem-p2n]

İ'm watching in Turkiye, thanks for podcast

[@poorsam9173]

This should be an introspective piece.

[@FarhodbekHakimov-ff8qo]

Children usually deceive to someone , actually to their parents , by being afraid of them that's the main reason why they lie. parents have to speak with their children friendly and they should try to scare

[@letolethe3344]

"They should try to scare"? What?

[@ГлебИващенко-р6з]

Большое спасибо за ваш труд

[@ZohidQurbonaliyev-v9k]

Thank you

[@Asalchinoo]

9:13 "For heaven's sake, the man shouldn't appear on the podcast again; he just stumbled."

[@EE-uj6tw]

4:17 Skording?

[@AlejandroRodriguez-fw5rq]

Estos podcast ayudan mucho a mejorar el inglés

[@erraticuk]

Is it by watching the BBC?

[@syedattaullahatta4055]

Hello! It is a nice topic, I am very simple person, I think the people tell a lie for their own benefits,A new question accours in my mind, how we can stop this unpleasant ,criminal habit from human's mind ,in this moderen technical era ,can the scientists invent the device which reads/detects the human mind,especially in order to distinguish between lie & truth floats in our minds. Is the invention of this unique device possible in the future? Thanks to bbc for a nice topic.❤

[@margaretcholaymar3161]

Poems cannot be versed without lies. We have a saying in our country.

[@gracerodgers8952]

Excellent subject, I'll be sure to tell all my friends to check it out 🤥

[@cosminpopa8208]

we live as defensive mechanism, my relatives lied 10 years when I found out The Shame was so horrific that they had to avoid me for life, never speak or look at me or spend time with me, that s the conclusion, which is good if you want freedom and no drama

[@letolethe3344]

"We live as a defensive mechanism"? What the hell is that supposed to mean?

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[@lcmpark]

yes!

[@shaxriyorismatullayev5897]

The best topic in general the lies help in some situations and we use lies when in bad situation maybe solve problems also that situation changes good side

[@Adivergentmind]

It's just using language and our survival instinct working together.

[@ikenoyakazuhiro7660]

Human is an animal. Animals are destined to live and produce descendants. Whatever means they took for their survival, those were OK. Honesty was valueless, if it did not help their survival. Please remember that there were no moral or no justice when our ancestors struggled every day to seek food to survive in prehistoric days. Evil or not those who outlived prevailed. We are their descendants. Moral and justice are recently arrived notions. Our conscious is developed on a pace with the enlargement of cerebral cortex and its function is to help smooth implementation of our survival instinct. Truth and lie are basically no different as long as they facilitate our survival. Not that I recommend lies but lying is an acceptable natural behavior as long as it does not harm other people.

[@우멩이]

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[@Sammasambuddha]

Buddah says, "The truth you want, you seek. The truth you hate, finds you." Also, "The Truth hurts more than lies."

[@ellislegg3937]

Where is this Buddhist teaching from?

[@vi_toria_]

I can lie with my words, but my face will let the truth out

[@NPO_inba]

Very interestng topic.children lies are not on shameful facts.adults say strategic lies.

[@NidhiGupta-d1i]

Nice lesson 👏

[@JTEntertainment250]

The Last part is a whole show😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀

[@ZahraMirzayeva]

Very good!👍

[@Sammasambuddha]

But brick not hit back.

[@MOHAMMEDALI-nc6sd]

Amazing subject matter, hahaha😊.

[@zenseb7]

"Behavioural lie is the biggest lie without a word"

[@Hongsamedy]

❤Cambodian smile ❤❤❤

[@RosesDanceTherapyNSelfcare]

Nice highlight sissy, enjoy cooking mwah!!!❤❤❤💋💋💋

[@Revolvercon]

BBC need to ask themselves this question

[@genosseThalmann]

Good question for BBC😂

[@faheemkj7080]

BBc news sometimes seems fake but the podcasts are great.

[@НадіяДерен]

Wow its great 😊

[@Francis_UD]

7:12 lies of modesty or humility don't really count as lies, in my books..

[@brunomedina6868]

excelente content.

[@ХуснидаРаззокова]

I count if we live without lying, we can see how many enemies are living with us. And we have even so much problem than before. Because currently it's sooo hard to perform our plans without lying. Am I right?

[@Ramin-j6c]

I do agree, we can't share all our future plans with people around us.

[@JTSunriseMusic]

Most people lie in the U$A, but only around everything to do with business and if you tell the truth at your job you get fired

[@dannyflex6406]

The guy from Cambodia has a really cool accent

[@Ameenkhaled-rf5rx]

From Sudan.

[@janklaas6885]

📍15:20

[@nawaminau]

i try my very best not to.I hate lies.

[@littlefluffybushbaby7256]

So you meet an old friend, you're going to say "wow, you've got fat". Being totally honest would be a nightmare for others and you'd soon find yourself without friends. It's a matter of the purpose behind it. Smoothing social interactions or manipulating people. We can also lie by omission. We all lie much more often than we think.

[@boonsakweerawongchai4685]

Just come to live in Thailand.

[@busiu2115]

Ktos zrobi streszczenie tego ?

[@寄明-f5v]

i love the end of this .😂lie

[@dubiousName]

Emotion habituation, instantly thinking of the orange baby 😅

[@MuthuKumaran-hb6ku]

Awesome!

[@xhlynxhlyn]

Never trust them only the lies

[@selmamaria1947]

From Brazil in 2024!!

[@mtam7575]

My 11year old lie alot I have to keep scrutinised him all the time.

[@tilkesh]

Thx

[@guidofaria6721]

I loved it. And that is not a live.