Why Does A Narcissists Eyes Turn Black When They Snap

[@alana.indigo]

When I saw his eyes turn black i remember asking him “what happened to you??? You look like there’s no life in your eyes anymore!” His response…a smirk. And that was the day i moved me and the kids tf out of there!

[@glendaanderson1119]

I've seen it! The color was gone in his eyes, totally! And that smirk is no joke! It's one of warning to let you know that they're not done. They black out and anything can happen. In the middle of the room and you have a person standing there, totally shut down, doesn't hear you.... dangerous!

[@alana.indigo]

@ VERY dangerous. I’m sure he was trying to un al!ve me numerous times after that smirk.

[@rinasroads404]

Omg, so even when he was conscious again? ​@@alana.indigo

[@Beautifullymonique]

My ex eyes did the same thing I just stayed silent until he finished packing his things so he could go I was in disbelief ended up giving him a text and told him that he needs to go to church and get a cleanse or something cause there's definitely a demonic spirit inside of you. The smirk made it more scary. That was it for me.

[@Aquarius9292]

💯💯

[@victoralex7757]

I’ve seen the “demon” eyes also! Can’t unsee what you’ve seen. It took me 20 years to get enough abuse to leave, but when I saw the demon in her, that assures that I will NEVER go back!

[@Eloquently_Rud3]

One of the scariest things I’ve ever seen

[@Diedra-v4i]

@@Eloquently_Rud3 exactly

[@MaraiahRimando]

If Judas Iscariot existed during Jesus times the demon made the narcissists his human form. 💯

[@cherobinson6371]

I actually sen a Narcissist shape shift into a Demon Like Body as they crossed the street in front of my car. He even looked at me and Smirked! Had a 4 foot tail. These people ? Are the ones who trying to sell us on aliens are amongst Us meanwhile? Take the mask off them? And you are looking at Demons. The Alien thing? Is a lie. It’s the Cover the distraction they use. Narcissistic are Demons.

[@Durhamcricket543]

Why is about “your” needs not being met? What about the needs of the partner being unmet while “they” are having affairs???? It’s not always about you and when you see those eyes, there’s no going back.

[@OfSoulAndSin]

The black eyes are REAL! I’ve seen it with my ex.

[@yasminabelkacemi7938]

Yes ots true for all sorts of disorder, borderlines are like that as well

[@ChildlesskatLady]

Someone else said it .... The black eyes and the smirk. 2 of the scariest things I have encountered, sadly more than one person. Lee's book title keeps resonating w me "it's not your fault" ❤️‍🩹 💔❤️‍🩹

[@Anonymissus]

@yasminabelkacemi7938 that's because narcissists, borderlines, and bipolars (all bipolars, types 1, 2, and 3) are demom possessed, this is demonic possession not a personality disorder, seeing black eyes are a sign of demonic possession (just like how the wide creepy demonic smile is a sign of demonic possession as well, the black eyes are easier to explain)

[@earlgill1331]

Me too

[@Nikkimiddleb]

Black eyes, clinched jaw and the evil expression. FACTS this is real….

[@cmbr.]

I've seen it. Pupils get huge and some weird mist coming out of their pores. Such sad humans full of rage

[@MentalHealness]

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[@chellotrevino7323]

Wow 😂😂😂😂😂😂 don’t gotta be narcissistic for that to happen lmao

[@TanyaDavis954]

Merry xmas ​@@MentalHealness

[@bluetopaz81483]

I too have seen it ,and it scared me to my core 😩

[@sondra4789]

MIST? lol I’ve seen the crazy eyes. No “mist”… lol

[@Andreaaaaxxxxx]

It was the scariest thing I had ever seen in my life. His eyes turned black. I prayed silently, and it felt as if he sensed that I was praying, which made his eyes grow even darker

[@SweetLittleSoul]

😮

[@hayleesaige7263]

The same thing happened to me on multiple occasions… It eventually escalated to him trying to murder me. It’s a literal MIRACLE he failed!

[@jewelsfree8104]

Wow

[@Tina-yu1ze]

@hayleesaige7263 😱​😱😱Thank God you escaped🙏❤❤❤

[@nickylove8612]

Your story gave me chills and because the black eyes with these narcissists are so real makes it even more scary I pray for anyone who's going through this keep me in prayers as well as I'm just finding out last year about my boyfriend being a narcissist as well as his mother and I believe the whole family for real I've done been through some mess and I've been with this man 13 years and all of this is starting to make sense to me of why things was the way it was but just didn't know about narcissistic people at the time

[@francescamiller4340]

The Narc💀Eyes turn Coal Black while they're in RAGE with a Steady Stare when u see that. It can get Scary, or also Dangerous!!

[@tinajeppesen5948]

The steady stare during a rage. The shifty eyes when lying. Darting back n forth, very weird.

[@francescamiller4340]

@tinajeppesen5948 Yes it is very weird☠️

[@annascorpio117]

Thanks for sharing that was deep. I’ve seen him get out of control and later act like nothing happened 😢

[@mollykayramstack6193]

The dilated eyes and the smirk are horrifying! He had rages before but his psychotic break was in his car while he was driving. He went off for over 15 minutes - complete psychopath! When we finally got home, I left and never went back alone!!! Anytime I had to pick up things to move out, I had numerous people with me. Out 5 months now - thank you God! 💖🙏💖

[@spicydragonroll88-wd2jl]

Keep strong ❤

[@Shyshyg01]

@@mollykayramstack6193 I’m glad to hear you got out🫶🏽🎉 it’s been 7 months for me and I did the same

[@BelovedKB131]

My soon to be ex-husband choked me and his eyes went black! He did this at the beginning of our marriage! It was a scariest thing to see!

[@flowerbabyblue20]

Be careful getting out. Don't tell him your plans.

[@cutewithoutheetbs0282]

Exactly my story except it was 8 yrs before he got physical and put his hands around my throat. I never been more scared than seeing thoes eyes. I'll never forget it. That was my wake up moment. I knew if I didn't leave for good. I wouldn't get a chance to leave. Now I still have to co parent and I suffering extreme memory loss at 35😢 I miss old me.

[@veda1306]

Same thing happened to me I was scared and shocked to scared to tell anyone. To this day he denying it saying I probably done it to him smh.

[@Kayra-Letsdothis]

I understand what you're saying, and I agree. I don't believe in demons, but the psychotic break makes sense.

[@jimicahayes9032]

Your choice, Babby I'm spirit ✨️...(empath) And I use to hear how people could see them ( 😈) on/in others....I always listen and pay attention period....

[@rynbruce5018]

Because thats what Satan wants the world convinced of to deflect blame onto the human and that its their problem and their mental health. He allows society to think that our brains can snap- but it's influenced by something heavy and dark. Ergo why plenty of people don't have a psychotic break. If it only happens to the vulnerable and depressed and insecure and trauma ridden, they are weakened from demons, intrusive thoughts, and other things that allow them to be inhabited and controlled. You've likely already seen demons within yourself or family members that you're not recognizing as demons. Did you know jealousy and envy is a demon? Did you know road rage is a demon? Did you know cheating is a demon called Jezebel? Did you know not paying for the 12pk of soda under your cart is a demon? Did you know fathers abandoning their offspring is a demon and specifically said in the Bible to not do and for fathers to not provoke their daughters? Did you know skin conditions are demons just like the lepers in the Bible which is today's form of excema, staph, and psoriasis rashes? Having thoughts to abort is also a demon. Resentment, bitterness, murder, and cursing, are demons. These demons corrupt people to be unGodly in any way as a way to win over creation that was created in God's opposite image. Satan wants to prove that we are all like him and will never believe in God's words which quite literally advised us of what to obey and what they can attack if the person is lukewarm and with increased attack onto the believers to weaken them away from the light and kindness and love and consideration and qualities Godlike they were on the road to. If it isn't something God or Jesus would say or act like, it's demonic and satanic and not a healthy human and one with demons. Society needing answers to everything about space and etc needs answers for people's behavior and created mental health excuses and distraction describing the individuals upbringing/ environment and emotions as prime cause and susceptibility to losing their morals, decency, ethics, conciensciousness, family values, self worth, and etc without pinpointing anything that could make the brain do this. They say altered chemicals in the brain that naturally do this to thousands of people instead of the ruler of Earth who was allowed to test people and has motive and discreet ways to stay hidden while the human is blamed. They are unseen for a reason and gaslight and manipluate to avoid exposure so they can continue to play in the dark before Jesus comes back and to gain souls for hell by this lie that they don't exist.

[@MW-vy6dt]

When I first saw my ex's eyes turn black, I didn't know anything about narcissism. I still remember how shocked I was. His whole face looks like a demon. I'm not saying he's possessed, but he looks like one in that moment. All his hatred comes out. I've seen it many times..

[@veda1306]

True first time I saw it he was strangling me he was not listening when I asked I couldn't breathe. I really thought that was the end of me suddenly he snapped out of it. To this day he denying he did that I knew nothing about narcissist behaviour so glad I know now.

[@xavierking6639]

There are people whose lives were lost due to this psychotic break. Intentionally harming people and not remembering does seem like an entity has taken over. I've seen the narcissist go from snapping to speaking with a regular voice and then snapping again. It was like a tug and pull. Very scary to witness.

[@MentalHealness]

😫😫

[@jenettejohnson4291]

I literally thought my ex was possessed from the look in his eyes and how terrible he was. He blamed me for things he’s done. It was a long 13 years. I’m so glad I finally got out. I’m scared to date again. I’ve been single for 6 years. My psychiatrist assured me it was him and not the devil lol

[@j.stevens4758]

Going thru the same thing

[@marviceshanks4954]

If I had not actually seen this, I would not believe it. My ex jumped on me and with God as my witness, his eyes turned black and his teeth appeared jagged like a wild animal, the scariest thing I've ever seen. Definitely possessed by something not of this world 😮😮

[@tammymartin9664]

I had similar experience.. cannot foreget that feeling. Pure demonic feeling

[@ReRe_642]

My ex voice changed. Frightening

[@Curiamacabre]

I used to call him werewolf

[@karmabender]

They are energy vampires

[@Sarah.Ivinson]

See if agree. Mine was on me choking me and his eyes were black... gone... dead... it's so sad. Never forget it

[@ivy.jepson]

The video I’ve been waiting for!! Thank you Lee!! Definitely the scariest experiences you can ever see.

[@KetelineSaintluc]

Honestly learning about a narcissist makes me feel so bad for my ex and for all narcissists whether they know what they doing or not. It’s sad because they never at peace until they make someone suffer and they are never satisfied and they didn’t do this to themselves it just happened to them. Although what he did to me and his exes were terrible but man I feel bad for him. I used to want bad things to happen to him so bad I still do sadly but apart of me feel bad for him after learning that it’s a disorder they had no control of and learning about you Lee makes me feel bad for narcissist.

[@Surfbicardi]

@@KetelineSaintluc do not gaslight yourself. They DID do it to themselves. They made and continue to make the conscious and deliberate choice to protect themselves by hurting others. Yes, they might have experienced trauma but most if not all people experience some form of trauma in life yet, the narcissist coping strategy is to inflict chaos and pain??! As adults, it is their responsability to seek help and pursue healing. They get zero sympathie from me because at the and of the day, the people they’re doing damage to, were never responsible for their trauma (real or imagined).

[@Tina-yu1ze]

Yes, but you have to protect yourself 🤗🤗🤗

[@tinajeppesen5948]

I only feel bad because I’m 100 percent sure he is bipolar as well. The narc behaviors that go along with it is why I don’t feel bad. All very mindf*cking & confusing!! You love this person they turn into someone u don’t even like, much less love. Left with good memories too tho. It all sucks big time.

[@Julie-j9w]

Ty Lee. You have been instrumental in my healing. I found your channel a while back when I didn't realize what I had been through. Hearing you talk, educate others has really helped. I've witnessed that rage several times in my life. It's Scary. My family member told me she couldn't remember and I believe her. She was gone like she wasn't there. I've had to learn strong boundaries. Wasn't easy because I'm really soft hearted. It's hard when you love someone. I've learned my worth. I put my anger and hurt aside and chose forgiveness. I keep my boundaries but I still have love in my heart. You do need to be cautious because it's a situation that can become dangerous. Not always but it does happen . Ty for your courage and sharing your knowledge.

[@arlenabrown1815]

His eyes literally turn black. His eyes kind of shake and glimmer. Its crazy

[@tammymartin9664]

I saw my mother look up at me while im on the phone talking to my daughter, i glanced towards my mom and instantly her small blue eyes turned pure black. The whole eye. It was scarey as hell. It was like, just for a minute though... Thats when i really knew she was not alright.

[@TanyaDavis954]

😂😂😂😂😂😮

[@marinablackie]

I saw those black and empty eyes of my ex in the middle of an argument before he hit me, then I took a step back with tears and looked at him to recognize maybe some empathy or regret, but it was literally nothing. The argument wasn`t even that serious though, he just constantly wanted me to suffer. I ran away from him without looking back. It's been a couple years, but it still haunts me...

[@MentalHealness]

😢😢

[@Tina-yu1ze]

🤯🤯

[@Tina-yu1ze]

💔💔💔💔💔

[@Ruby.EarthAngel86]

I’ve seen the demon eyes a few times when he was in an abusive rage. He’s also told me he was the devil. I didn’t have my own mind to think at the time so I just brushed it off after the incident because he’d apologize and say he loves me. Now that I look back at all I’ve been through, I thank God he kept me alive so that I can heal and live my best life after I leave him. Currently Working on a plan to leave this marriage safely. 12/25/24

[@etherealdeal1792]

I’ve seen and noticed it before I even knew about narcissism. I remember telling my mom how disturbing it was how his green eyes would turn black in a moment of rage suddenly. I noticed it a lot

[@GMSTP]

ahhh ohhh - the eyes suck you in and yes there is maximum dilation when they are both angry and fighting the fear of losing their control over you - pure rage - no coming back from it really

[@JennEx89]

That is dissociation, Lee. And there are many levels of it. Everyone with trauma dissociates on some level. That does not remove accountability for it. That’s like saying alcoholism is a disease (yes) and then saying- it’s not my fault that I ran over that child in the street. I’m an alcoholic. This is a symptom of my disease 🤷🏼‍♀️ Mental health disorders rarely excuse someone’s personal responsibility for their actions, regardless. Temporary insanity” as a legal defense is rarely valid. I teach psychology and cover every bit of this. And reducing narcissistic abuse to the level of an avg mental health disorder also denies accountability. Narcissist abuse is very next level, toxic, malicious behavior. It’s not even comparable to the average domestic violence relationship. Far beyond that. I do appreciate your drive to improve upon this- that is significant- honestly when it comes to any personality disorder. But (in my personal life, with my ex husband)- I have seen the “black eyes.” Victims don’t refer to this as being a demon because they think some evil spirit took over this otherwise good person. “Demon” come up a lot because the extreme level of hatred and toxicity that the victim is attacked with- it is far beyond any level of typical conflict with any other relationship. It is particularly sadistic & cruel. It always appears that the narc takes great pleasure in causing the other deep pain- the deeper the better. And it is shocking to the average person. Even to me, as someone who is in this field & understands. That shit is heart & soul piercing. And this kind of pain is literally only experienced via a narcissist. Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by a lack of conscience. Humans have a critical period- the first 7 years of life. This is when you develop a conscience & empathy. Once this stage passes, you can’t really fix it. It is caused by the environment- the toxicity of their caretakers in this time. Can we later improve someone’s empathy? Yes- some. But not genuinely enough. That individual will never have a conscience and empathy that is at the same level of the average population. That is why prevention is key. We need to provide a loving, safe environment for our children as soon as they are born, in order to insure the best outcome for them. Toxic childhood environments/ trauma IS the essential cause of personality disorders.

[@gooftroopg2623]

It's nice to see a comment rather than my ex was a narcissist. Some people are not aware of their behavior and automatically label themselves a victim of narcissistic abuse. Literally every woman I've ever encountered on a dating app has had a narcissistic ex partner. Ironically these women are the most callous and manipulative.

[@JennEx89]

@ I understand that it is way overused now- it is. That said, my mother is a narcissist. I removed her from my life at 20- and it was truly the best choice my sister & I made for our mental health & futures. I did a stellar job of keeping those types of folks out of my life… until I didn’t. Until I was broken. Then one got in. A few “friends” followed while that door was still open. I got with my ex at a very broken time- my father was dying & I was scared. And he was a “friend” & I trusted him. And I was attracted to his (what I thought was) “strength”- I couldn’t see straight. All I knew is that the rock in my life was about to be missing (DAd) & I think I was reaching for anything that resembled strength- to insure I still had a “rock” in my life. But he wasn’t a rock at all. What I picked up off the ground was a time bomb. And when it exploded- it blew everything in my life- EVERYTHING- to smithereens. Decimated. I am still rebuilding- will be for a while. He literally took away everything I had- my own home, car, career.. and I left with none of it. Nothing. Starting over from the bottom at 53 years old. If I could go back in time- I would remove this man from ever crossing my path. Even as a friend. Personality disorders are tricky diagnoses. People that have them often fall into more than one type- have features of others & so on. Can take a long while. So no one should be flippantly throwing dx at anyone. You have to meet the minimum criteria for any disorder to be dx’d. There are minimum criteria in each category for a disorder. I assure you that most of the ppl being called a narc by an ex are likely not true narcissists. That said, we ALL have features of various disorders- everyone does. That’s pretty “normal.” But having features of something DOES NOT mean a person has that disorder.

[@philima]

People stop putting blame on supernatural things. I 100 percent agree, keep the responsibility with the abuser! And be careful, I barely survived that stare. I knew it was absolutely crucial to get the f out, that's killer eyes. Have some sense and survive.

[@BurnedBeauty2018]

I have definitely seen baby blue eyes turned completely black.

[@bekind7288]

Yes, solid black. Like a fight/flight reaction, psychotic break describes it perfectly.

[@Minister-Misty]

As a former Therapist and person of faith I'm praying for anyone seeking TRUTH. The truth will set you free. Ask GOD to lead you to the your own truth and that of the person(s) in your life that have confused and hurt you. Narcissistic abuse is layered and complicated for even those of us who were surrounded by it all of our lives. I've been fooled myself. Have faith & grace for yourself!🙏✝️

[@amyitis]

It was the smirk with the black eyes that made me feel like i was seeing things. I thought there was no way it was possible.... i thought it was just me until i came on your channel and it validated what i saw.

[@DJRemme]

I've seen it with my Ex!!!! I knew I wasn't tripping!

[@juliecarson7364]

Man, I'm not kidding, I have seen the one I knew, his eyes got pure black and it was a scary moment.

[@Harlem_Renaissance]

I experienced this the first time the narcissist ever attempted to be physical towards me. It was almost like he wasn't there. Luckily, I got away before he could physically harm me. He was furious at that moment, but til this day, I dont understand what set him off.

[@KD-RE]

The”1000 mile stare”

[@MentalHealness]

💯

[@donnakjohnson]

Hey Lee 😊 ❤️

[@arwynjames]

@KD-RE I've always heard "yard" but yes it's like extremely high and pinpointed focus and pure judgemental disdain for nothing in the space in their sight. Blind eyes on you, but their sights are set on something precise and abhorrent and inferior... and ELSE.

[@therealsalathea]

That scared me. It was at the end when I confronted him about cheating. If I wasn't spiritually strong, I would have 🏃🏾‍♀️.

[@JulieGracie]

Yes, every time my blue-eyed narc flew into a narcissistic rage, his pupils would dilate so large that his blue eyes would turn black.

[@MentalHealness]

😢

[@Autonomy_Reclaimed]

You said “taking pictures off the wall”….EVERYTHING you are mentioning about everything is on point. It’s almost like you have a camera in my house. My soon to be ex-wife went through the house in a rage and took down all the pictures in the house, when I told her I am done.

[@MsSpatchzrus]

Lee thank you for covering this topic

[@chinwenduchinwe586]

I saw those eyes with my ex and it 100% was a demon. I rebuked it in Jesus name and left the house. It was no narc nonsense for about two days.

[@brinicole87]

I remember seeing his eyes turn after I confirmed his cheating and he was unable to gaslight me. I left and never looked back.

[@ChildlesskatLady]

Lee, Thank you for being vulnerable & sharing this story. The brain is so powerful yet we know so little about it. Knowledge is power. Thank You, MERRY CHRISTMAS 🎄🎁

[@Prana_Akasha_Al]

I remember the black eye moment…each time, I thought I wasn’t going to make it. It felt very demonic. And once you get out, It is very very scary to co-parent in these dynamics. I pray every day to be delivered and get out of this dynamic completely.

[@kr1459]

I have experienced this a lot over the last six years but not as much as the last two weeks he was here. He is in jail now, and I hope he stays there.

[@LOVE-MY-JURNEE]

I have seen this three times in the same person I couldn't even look away like a circus side show it's crazy

[@mrmusiclover87]

In my personal experience, it's more the full on sociopaths who constantly look "dead" behind the eyes. But narcissists can do it too, but usually only when they are enraged...which is often in all fairness.

[@Just...Peachy]

I've witnessed this and it's extremely unsettling!

[@joannturi3968]

My sister's jaw line and facial features start to transform like Lou Farigno in The Incredible Hulk. My mother's eyes turned bright yellow in the mental ward like Michael Jackson's eyes did at the end of the Thriller video. My friends eye color shaped into flames while we had lunch once. The demon definitely surfaces through the eyes no matter what color, shape or size they may be. Another friend had what appeared to be a frozen tear drop stuck in the bottom eye lid never to roll down the cheek again. It just sat there, cold as ice.

[@cc1k435]

Would never have said it was true, but finally saw it in my ex and knew it was time to go. Stuff of comic books, completely dysregulated.

[@moniquebutler5151]

But that’s dangerous when you can’t remember. Smh someone can get killed and all you get to say as a human is you didn’t remember. Scary situation.

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@beverlyjackman2669]

It’s all demonic . I could see rage in husbands eyes when confronting him about something like the look was pure evil like I didn’t recognize him it’s awful

[@Bianca-sw5id]

Merry Merry Merry Christmas y'all , from South Africa

[@crystalball3717]

I hear you Lee and I respect and appreciate your positioning. I’m not sure if I shared this with you before, but one day back in 2016 or 2017 I saw a literal demon jump out of the center of his face. We were taking a kissing selfie while walking over the Rainbow Bridge in Tokyo and the picture didn’t work. When I asked him if we could take another one, he turned away from me toward the water and when he turned back I saw the demon jump out at me like a hologram from the center of his face. He turned back to the water and when he looked back at me, he did a Cheshire Cat grin and said ok, come on, let’s take another one. This happened to me. Prior to this, I must say that I didn’t truly believe in this type of stuff, but I never judged others for believing. I now know without any doubts what I saw. Since sharing this I’ve had 4 others tell me that they’ve witnessed similar.

[@GinaSmith444]

Thank you Lee for sharing your personal story with us, that took a lot of courage ❤️ you definitely give hope to the ones willing to do the work to change. I respect that you have worked hard to be a better person, husband and Dad. Merry Christmas to you and your family 🎄

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@timekeepsonslipn]

I personally seen it happen!!!!!! He was MAD and his eyes turned COMPLETELY black and he was gritting his teeth. I only knew a little bit about narcissistic abuse at that time, but I didn't know what the heck to think and it scared the hell out of me . The man has bl 6:11 ue eyes .

[@robanjel]

I noticed this a few months into involvement. The cold stare and the low tone of voice telling me something. One thing she would tell me is “I think you’re trying to poison me” lol. Trying to get reaction ( which I failed )Another time years later, she seemed mad just cuz other ppl close to her sympathized with me about a topic. She looked at me with that dark look and I knew, uh oh, I’m gonna get ripped apart she’s ready to discard. It’s not demonic to me it’s just the feeling of they are at the end stages the mask falls off

[@marisolflores1419]

Yes it’s real 😮 I saw those black eyes on my closest family member . She left me scared . Until now every time I see her I remember that day they were black .

[@MentalHealness]

😫

[@bravesoul7777]

I went thru this with my ex. One time he snapped and grabbed a huge kitchen knife and made a stabbing motion towards me but stopped before stabbing me. That was the last straw. It has been years and im still healing from all the abuse.

[@MentalHealness]

😶😶

[@two6hundo]

I've been choked and hit by someone wounded and hurt and they raged out because of their past trauma and I happened to be the one who triggered them. It hurt, yeah, but I really pity them. Nobody should have to feel that pain inside. I wish I could heal that. Life's already hard enough for all of us. That darkness is in all of us though. Nobody's innocent. We just gotta try to be better humans.

[@teeramon7124]

Wow thank you for answering this I thought my eyes were fooling me.

[@paulad.4578]

I one time went into a rage. It was completely scary, and I felt completely traumatized by the loss of control. What happened that caused the rage is that I felt completely misunderstood by my then roommate and was extremely disappointed that she invited her friend over and ignored me, while she paid only attention to the friend. Had there not been a year and a half of our friendship/relationship going downhill, I don't think I would have had that reaction. But I was at the end of tolerance for the loss of the friendship/relationship. At no time did I "black out" when my anger went off the rails. But I was completely unable to rein in my emotional affect. Afterward, I went to an event that I didn't attend and just sat in my car and bawled like a baby. So, there was no "possession," I had just reached the end of my tether and lost it. Thanks, Lee, for being real about these situations. They aren't always what people imagine them to be.

[@sosoc2616]

Wow. Lee, a girl I know came to my house. She ask me a question about a guy I was seeing, and when I skirted the question, her eyes turned solid black and her head cocked to the side twice!! I ain't ever seen nothing like that before!! It was like watching a creepy horror film!! PS - No, Lee, your eyes are not dead or black or cold 😂

[@Michelle-wr9sm]

Yes, it is frightening to say the least!

[@MentalHealness]

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[@lolxd9396]

Thank you Lee. I am not ready to deal with psychotic break down in toxic narcissistic people. No thank you, I am happy being by myself! 😳🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎

[@MentalHealness]

♥️♥️

[@BrandivaMcDark]

You are absolutely correct 🎯💯✨️ I've seen the black eyes, the steam rise from the pores, etc. Communication and Comprehension is 🗝✨️

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾

[@bennyjohnson9427]

I saw her eyes turn entirely black. I do Believe that they are truly demon possessed

[@MentalHealness]

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[@arthurmumelo4655]

This is so true. I witnessed this and felt hollowness in her eyes. Thought it’s just me. Didn’t know it’s a thing - a whole KZbin video

[@_seamstress.]

Seeing his eyes go darker like that was scary . He really hated me

[@bevshanks2972]

I don’t make any conclusions on possessions or demons but I have seen the eyes turn black in more than one I have dealt with.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@averagemo8487]

I saw this twice in the eyes of my ex wife! She's 5'7" 186lbs. I'm 6'2" 290lbs former law enforcement and tactical team. She attacked me and I couldn't do anything with her! I found out through a therapist that it was a psychotic breakdown. Scariest thing i ever saw in my life. I truly thought that she was demonically possessed!

[@belunu4980]

She was.

[@spohlerfoundation6916]

Just finding you! You’re a very wise man… Thank you for your healing, bravery, and generous sharing with others who are still suffering. 😇

[@variniaspartacus5860]

Black yes they go pitch black raging away like an inferno

[@impossiblegamers6013]

I seen his face change into like a demon his ears even got pointy and his eyes get black his mouth was twisted up like the joker i actually screamed when i saw it..

[@Jazzi1121]

He blacked out I woke up with him over me saying wake up wake up I woke up so mad like what if you would’ve took me from my kids what if I wouldn’t have work up!

[@GT-0524]

Psychotic breaks are scary!! I experienced that twice with my ex-husband. First time, I was shocked but lucky enough to exit our house. Second time, I made sure I was at the closest door to exit just in case it happened again and it did. Months later, an old friend of his vouched it happened before while they were in Vegas and she was so scared when it happened. Her husband had to threw my ex-husband in their hotel room because he was on a woman’s face as he cussed her out. Insaneeee!!!

[@MentalHealness]

Oh wow! St

[@MentalHealness]

Stay safe

[@GreaterDeity]

Not only that... I saw my ex's eyes go in opposite directions slowly... its like his whole face changed, he was so bored listening to me talk about my feelings. Literally a demon... can't keep up the facade. But honestly, due to their extreme rage, their pupils dilate -- it's an autonomic response to stress and FoF syndrome.

[@robanjel]

I commend how you self reflect Lee. Interesting how you say you don’t remember. Anger distorts the mind as we know. Worse if ppl are intoxicated. My ex will usually say she forgot. Another topic would be “do narcs lack sentimental value” like you say they may keep a couple things. But I also noticed they like to try to erase memory. Confusing.

[@dianestevens1229]

So he is saying that the narc is fully aware and in control of their darkness. They are aware and purposeful in the he$$ they wreak. They enjoy and find pleasure in it. If that isn’t evil then what is?

[@TanyaDavis954]

Exactly

[@MaraiahRimando]

It's only evil that has consistent and pure trippings, and dark intentions. That's how devil works on earth. 🙌

[@michellem7290]

Ooohhh I could see right through to the hatred hiding beneath the mask but I’m an INFJ empath so

[@cheyanneconnor5814]

Lee, I've had a psych evaluation and when I described a situation in which I was attacked, physically and verbally, and I could not tell you what my physical body did but could tell you all about the argument. The doctor said it's our brain's response to a traumatic situation, the natural flight or flight reaction. In my case, I split and disassociated. It's such a scary situation... Whatever you do in that moment is 100% a natural response. I've actually had a "temporary drug-induced psychosis before and there is a 2 week period I don't remember, at all. Happily, it was only temporary. And thanks to a couple years of talk therapy and meds, I'm doing so much better. Still scary though.

[@kristinujhazy8656]

Merry christmas! Yes I have seen his eyes go completely Black. He choked me and tried to kill me.

[@TanyaDavis954]

That is totally scary. The ex choked me too. And the crazy thing is, I wasn't where I p***** him off or anything, he just randomly did it. Of course, at the time I forgave him because it was a mistake 😮😢. When you leave the relationship, you just realize all the abuse

[@TanyaDavis954]

I'm curious when yours choked you.Was it like in a fight during sex or was it just random attack like mine.

[@jae701]

Same thing. In a fight mine choked me. I had to punch him in the face to snap him out of it. I almost passed out. Eyes black as midnight. I'm 2 months out of that 22 years of h*ll. Thank God!!!

[@Sarah.Ivinson]

Same!! And his eyes were looking into mine and never forget how black and dead his eyes were.

[@Tiffany-y6i]

That is scary. I know an individual that had a break and he didn't know what happened with him and now he takes medicine

[@ymmij388]

That’s interesting, I quit drinking , went cold turkey, and then I went through the DTs and freaked out. I had no idea what happened, in jail a drug and alcohol accessor told me that I must’ve gone through the DTs. My PD, the DA, and the judge agreed. My narc ex-girlfriend told me that she thought that wasn’t true she told me I must’ve had a psychotic break. I thought she said that because she is going to school for psychology. Now I think she had been told that herself and was projecting

[@Stardustpal25]

👍🏼🕯️ glad you survived and now sober Happy New Year 🙏🏼🎊

[@JazmineJadeMarshe]

My ex became physically aggressive with me in front of his family. After the event, I asked him if he was even aware of what he was doing because his eyes were “different”. I can’t remember the exact verbiage I used but it was as if he just was not “not there” if that makes sense.

[@sandymorris3854]

True fact! My ex husbands eyes would turn black. His eyes were a natural blue. I also had an ex bf and his did the same thing. He was a confirmed narcissist.

[@lenebrantley221]

I have seen this at work. The manager eyes turned jet black. It was very scary.

[@NKev-f6x]

That was the last time he saw me. After that long stare and he goes straight to bed like a baby. That was the first and last time i saw anything like it. I had to go after that weird experience. That was not a human being.

[@NakeishaJones]

Merry Christmas ❤🎉

[@jokettedj]

You just some across as a well developed person to me Lee. Now Ive been through this, 8 year relationship that fucked me up, took me sooo long to recover. And I made my biggest progressions when I understood energy and balance. As in, when people identify as 'narcissit' and 'empath", its just the same wounds but gone in two different extrermes. And the reason such fabolous chemisty, is coz each is out of balance and has what the other needs. Aka, yes , narcissit could be more empthathic, but the empath also needs to embrace their shadow, embrace their inner monster. Become whole with the light and shadow within oneself. Stop blaming the 'narcissit' and integrate it instead. Most people will reject this, thats fine. I get it. But is why you will always feel like a victim. Explore your own shadow and you will grow...

[@ekklesiajoy]

Black outs is a sign of something else taking over. Selah

[@babzarthur1841]

Yup.tge very last episode with my ex, his eyes turned BLACK. He was like a demon..full of rage.that was IT!!! YES, TGEY ARE DEMON POSSESSED. No normal human being acts like that.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@jacquelinebrown1305]

I’ve seen them, he appeared calm, yet aroused at the same time

[@TanyaDavis954]

I appreciate your stansley.I don't think they're demon possessed either. Now not all. But I do believe some psychopaths and some narcissist can be yes. But definitely not all narcs, narcs are usually just messed up people in the head

[@sweetma4life]

I've seen it happen with 3 people and it scared the crap out of me!

[@MentalHealness]

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[@kittyblue8310]

Thank you for describing what happen to you... that totally makes sense...

[@LinMeulen]

One time i asked when he was about to snap where is the scary music. He thought about what I said and yup snapped 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🙄never doing that again

[@chrtyhwrd]

When I talked about my partner to my therapist and friend, i described his eyes looking black. I had no idea it was a thing. Apart of me still does not want to believe he my be a narcissist, but he has some traits. Not all of them, but definitely has some. The other night, he came in the guess room telling me he hasnt been able to sleep. He went into talking about the issues he has with me and start blaming everything on me. He's depressed, stressed, unemployed, losing weight, cant sleep, etc. I made it very clear that we are done, and I will start looking for a place by February but if i find something sooner I will leave earlier. He started asking if we are really over;the black stare into my eyes was so loud , then blamed me for talking with ppl about my experience in the relationship, talking crap about my mom. Then kiss me on the forehead and say I love you, then come back and grab my hand, leaves the room. Comes back and lays in my chest..i watched him go from high to low in one setting. Then he texted me from the other room saying come in here, then the next morning wanting sex. 😮‍💨 he told me i had a brick wall up and ive changed so much. I realized its hard to describe my situation in words without it still sounding not so big of a deal. I found a place, but i am terrified to tell him. I would like to hear more about the best ways to exit the relationship. I dont know if i should communicate the date im leaving.

[@crob8222]

@chrtyhwrd don't give him any info. The behavior he displayed when he came in the guest room is tame compared to how he'll behave when he realizes he's lost control of you.

[@chrtyhwrd]

@crob8222 Even if we been together for 13 years? I don't want to hear him talking crap to me but apart of me feels bad if i don't give him a heads up.

[@jovanhardnett9343]

Do not tell him

[@chrtyhwrd]

@jovanhardnett9343 Okay, thank you so much.

[@bekind7288]

You're expecting him to behave like a normal person, with reason. I did the same thing. He could act normal, but it was learned behavior, he knew how to appear normal. I finally realized there was nothing I could do to help him and divorced him to help me and our teenage son. I wish it hadn't taken me 17 years to leave. He still blames everyone else and takes no responsibility for his actions. I pray for him, but want nothing to do with him. Dr David E Clarke also has specific advice on his channel. Had he not spent 6 months in jail for felony assault before I met him I think he would have been more violent towards me. It's not about me. It's not about you. It's about them taking responsibility for their own life and seeking help. Most do not.

[@24_xx]

Their eyes turned black like in a second like you have to capture it if they don’t stay black no when they’re talking to you and they’re angry at you or something you can instantly just see them go black and it’s a look that you’re never ever going to forget, it’s really creepy and sometimes if that Black eyes come out while they’re smiling oh my gosh, it is beyond me. I only seen twice with my ex-husband‘s mom and him his mom when I saw her eyes go black. Everybody thought I was going crazy because while she was talking to me, she looked at me with these eyes and she was like I am possessive explains why my husband is kind of like a mama’s boybut I mean you know when you know when you see it

[@NicaleATifa]

Narcissists are not intimidated at all...I don't understand why people making a fuzz about narcissists....You obviously never met an diagnosed sociopath, did you people? Sociopaths are way more intimidating, they're cold, have unblinking predatory stare and make people very uncomortable by their stare. Meet an sociopath tell me who is more intimidating narcissists or an sociopath 😒

[@MentalHealness]

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[@saullopez3073]

Personal opinion, not much demonic “possession” but more demonic influenced still knowing what the narcissist is doing, but the ego attachment causes the leviathan spirit to influence, again personal opinion

[@donnadaniels5095]

God bless you Lee, I truly believe you Because this is your story, and people Should Accept the truth from a narcissist your truth that you are speaking God bless you're healing🙏🏽

[@Sage-ii8rv]

When his eyes went from lovely dovey to rage filled and hate that is when I left