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Are you an adult survivor of family scapegoating abuse (FSA) and feeling stuck or blocked in your recovery efforts? It may be due to your unconsciously holding a tremendous amount of 'toxic shame' - yet you are not even aware of this. Licensed psychotherapist and Family Systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville (author of the best-selling book on family scapegoating, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed') explains how toxic shame develops in response to the damaging 'scapegoat narrative' and why it can be so debilitating to adult survivors of FSA and interfere with their recovery progress. She also shares how she helps her clients begin to recognize and release this form of deeply held shame so that they gradually are no longer triggered by it. See chapters (below) and trigger warning for more details.
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🔥Trigger Warning: If you feel activated watching this video, turn it off and perhaps return to it at another time or consult a licensed Mental Health professional. Viewer comments may contain descriptions of child abuse and neglect and can also be activating.
0:00 - Intro
01:38 - Toxic Shame and the damaging Scapegoat Narrative
02:25 - If you're feeling stuck in your recovery...
03:24 - The lie that you're fundamentally flawed
05:29 - Dysfunctional Family Enmeshment (aka 'The Family Glob')
06:37 - Toxic Shame and the 'Fawn' Trauma Response
07:56 - About the Scapegoat Narrative
09:56 - Your body and Toxic Shame
12:12 - Being 'tarred and feathered' in groups / systems
13:49 - Which wolf are you going to feed?
15:30 - Silence is Complicity
18:46 - How Toxic Shame can sabotage your recovery
23:30 - Healing from Toxic Shame
Rebecca C. Mandeville is a thought leader and recognized expert in abusive family systems. She is also the author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role' and a clinical expert in KZbin's Health Partner Program. You can visit her website at scapegoatrecovery.com.
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