Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED

[@irenedog2734]

I don’t get why there are so many negative comments; I totally agree with her view, and it is a shame modern society diminishes friendship to a less meaningful relationship while it can be life saving

[@zifebort2308]

same, idk why but reading the negative comments kinda hurt on this. Cuz I agree with her statements too. I feel like either friendship or romantic relationship can't be compared to which one is a deeper relationship. Both are meaningful, but just have a different concept. It's like how family and friends are, usually one is closer to family and others with friends.

[@AlbertDrippinOnestone]

What negative comments? I don't see any

[@hasancan3993]

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[@salhimoussa4930]

I believe that friendship holds a much deeper meaning and significance than mere emotional attachment. Unlike romantic relationships, which often hinge on various interests-be they sexual or material-true friendship is grounded in genuine connection and mutual support, free from ulterior motives.

[@McArRuIzO]

Want to know a secret? Your partner should be your friend as well. Unfortunately, people don't really "like" their partners past what they can offer sexually or financially. A lot of folks say their partner is their best friend, but in reality, they wouldn't even be work acquaintances if it weren't for the romantic aspect. The absolute best romantic love comes from, as you said, mutual support and genuine connection coupled with the romantic gestures.

[@salhimoussa4930]

@@McArRuIzO I respectfully disagree with the notion that your partner should also be your best friend. My own experience taught me that my wife and I, despite being best friends, ultimately divorced. In contrast, my parents, who were not friends, maintained a lasting relationship. For any relationship to endure, it must be founded on respect and mutual appreciation above all else. When respect wanes, separation often follows. So, while friendship is important, I believe it’s not essential for a successful partnership.

[@hasancan3993]

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[@chetthebee1322]

"I'm not waiting on a lady, I'm just waiting on a friend" -The Rolling Stones (1981)

[@alisabethalyse5244]

I believe it takes like minds to agree and accept the emotional closeness this calls for. We’ve been so conditioned to traditional aspects of relationships that we don’t realize how much loneliness there is out there. Even so called “close “ friends aren’t forth coming about their inner most feelings of disconnection because it makes you vulnerable and then what’s the solution. The Village aspect is especially needed today - so many are suffering in silence. Not only that people just need support. I’m not talking about financial - but true step outside of your comfort zone help. We all need it!

[@JaeJekyll]

As an asexual that was never in a serious relationship til my 30s the message in this TT is soo needed for a LOT of people.

[@misanthrobot]

agreed!!

[@dystopianaverice1981]

You are not asexual lol

[@misanthrobot]

I love how Cohen mentioned the other dynamics of relationships in older societies, like ancient Rome. There is a clear difference between the ancient and modern idea of relationships. Today, it is common for us to expect to receive the most intimacy from marriage, but *that* can become more of an expectation than a reality. I'm absolutely on board with Cohen's perspective and significant value of friendships.

[@lcharris1685]

Best friends are forever

[@TracyVang-d9e]

psychprofile AI fixes this. Friendship equals romantic love's meaning.

[@justanotherfrog]

Loved her book! I’ve always felt that our society doesn’t put enough emphasis on friendship and needlessly promotes the idea that a romantic partner needs to be everything. It’s unrealistic to put that burden on one person

[@XondamirXudoyberdiyev-un7kw]

I think we need to look for friends who are loyal and kind to us.❤

[@caver6292]

I am lucky to have such friends that mean so much. Great perspective.

[@lamedumbjoker]

In my country we're trying to pass "Companion law" where two adults living together and agree to be "partners"(w/o romance involved) can be given the same privilege as married couple. Very much an uphill battle, but I would love for it to be a thing.

[@BabeKay01]

Yeah I’m the states, Texas has it after 6 months I believe

[@kmacgregor6361]

​@@BabeKay01 That's for common-law marriage (looks like it's called cohabitation in Texas) but you need to be in a romantic relationship.

[@bjdefilippo447]

Which country?

[@marinanathanson4940]

Friendship is a great relationship, and when you have it its amazing. Living nearby is important for creating that kind of intimate friendship that gives back support. Many communes are living on that, everybody helps everybody. But the trend of growing lonliness and self reliance made a frienship an unaffordable luxury for many .

[@exodor1]

Watch any video on The Villages, FL. They always mention their friends. All the friends they have.

[@andycordy5190]

Thank you. When we are so not over social programming, sttereotyping, homophobia and all manner of isolating factors, this seems like a long term goal for our society or worse, a place we came from a very long time ago to which we cannot return.

[@Rodeiro_y_Baiona]

Really interesting, congratulations

[@darioadrianz]

I loved this!

[@FraeyaWhiffin]

Relationship anarchy explained very well!

[@Ainagulova]

And this pops up in my feed when I'm contemplating the relationship between Carol and Daryl.

[@sanchitagolder]

who are they

[@rhondasmith7413]

Ted and Alice?

[@Ainagulova]

@@sanchitagolder the characters from the Walking Dead series who have been best friends for more than a decade now but the fans would really welcome their romantic relationship if they crossed the line.

[@kevindomenechaliaga8085]

Everyone should consider merging friendship and romantic relationships

[@A.shk9]

Amazing

[@marki2325]

I had a friend who was my confidante and brother ( sadly passed away in his 30s ) and I’ve never had anyone like that to confide in again

[@洲冗奇]

The friend you stay with day and night is actually your spouse

[@zarahp2098]

Yes, The Village! We have that idea going as well, my friends and I. This talk is so important because our society is so conditioned to only recognize and value romantic or sexual love - but there are SO many types of love and they can be just as important. Great talk! Thank you. ❤

[@giovannifrrri5495]

A partner is the friend you spend most time with, right?

[@FlaviusDumitrescu5918]

I legit don’t understand the point she is trying to make. What do you want to change with this talk? What are humans doing that is “wrong” or “bad” or whatever, and you would think they would be better off not doing anymore? What behaviour are you pointing out to? Do you want legal recognition for friendships? If so, then this talk was not well made for that scope. Do you want people to just have deeper friendships? Why would you care and why would that be your concern? It seems to me that we might have some bigger problems on the planet at the moment that might need some attention. Or it just might be a topic above my level of understanding. Anyone care to explain, please?

[@matteomenegatti7193]

I believe that the point she's trying to make is - human connections are important - relationships are multifaceted and not so easy to label - we overhype l romantic love in spite of friendship love -> a friendship can be just as important as a romantic relationship which means that if you don't have a romantic partner you can feel just as lucky knowing you got friends

[@matteomenegatti7193]

A lit of people feel lonely (myself included) because they don't have a romantic partner And she says "bro you don't need to worry there are many ways to be happy".

[@Rithmy]

This is a big problem tho. The crisis of human intimacy. The loneliness crisis is well documented and seen. We also know that having deeper friendships is basically a protection against most psychological illnesses and an indicator of happyness. So i find it reasonable to make this shift from how only you monogamy partner has to bear all the burden towards having many emotional friendships.

[@tammy6452]

Community❤

[@no_one514]

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[@سیروس.مریدی]

دوستی هایی که از لحاظ روحی و روانی در مسیر توافق در زمینه موافق باشد لذب بخش و سالیان سال ادامه خواهد داشت در غیر این صورت به کوتاه ترین زمان پایان می یابد..

[@socratespng]

Cuz my friend doesn't have🍑😂 Edit:- Friends are the emotional scaffolding that supports our fragile existence. Without friends, life would be a solitary drift, devoid of meaning.

[@wltdo6930]

Disagree. My friends are settling down, moving in with partners and having children. As a result they quite clearly have less time and energy for friendships, it’s just a reality. Whilst I’m not saying there’s no value in having friends, you are deluding yourself if you think a friendship can be as meaningful as a partner

[@transpiler]

you’re conflating access to your friends with depth of connection. a friend can always return

[@coconuttree1972]

I agree with you....

[@denisalekaj8770]

Sounds more as though you’re not willing to accept and support their place in life right now.

[@Macieks300]

Not having time for friends is not an issue with friendship itself. It's a problem with you or actually modern society of not prioritizing friendships more.

[@Schitzngigzz]

I don't need to call my bff everyday for them to know I love them. But when they need me I'm there. Thats what friendships are.

[@kayleighdriessen]

This leads me to think, is it too much to consistently prioritize your close friends regardless of whether or not you also have a romantic partner to prioritize, too much for me to kinda want a friendship like David & Jonathan's (basically what Wikipedia refers to as "Romantic friendship") from the bible even though I'm not religious? I prefer to spend most of my time alone over wasting my life on non-fulflling acquaintanceships that can barely qualify as the kind of friendships I find worthy of my time & energy.

[@AbdulKaderZilani-s5l]

it's just sad that the world just keeps bringing sexuality and those stuffs into freindship, these are different things, these are making us more unsocial

[@TOWANOKITO]

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[@sooma-ai]

Rhaina Cohen argues that deep friendships can be as meaningful as romantic relationships. She discusses examples of committed platonic partnerships, historical precedents, and societal barriers to recognizing friendship's importance. Cohen advocates for expanding our concept of significant others beyond romantic partners.

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[@mariaantoniettamontella9173]

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[@v.prestorpnrcrtlcrt2096]

Since when is marriage a Basic Human Need? A stupid statement. Turned me off the rest of the video and your friends. **should state: for Americans only**

[@finlaywhiskard3965]

Never married or divorcee?

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[@techie_kartik]

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[@Misso-j4p]

It is unreasonable to mix your relationships like this 🙄🌪

[@transpiler]

why?

[@caboosebird]

Proof that not all TED Talks are worth the listen 😂

[@zeke4881]

Ummm no

[@adrianmoore2750]

It can't.

[@joseguilhermesantos7148]

She was so friendzoned so many times I bet

[@edunlap6594]

That doesn't exist.

[@zarahp2098]

Welll… I really don’t think that is an issue! Friendzoned is SO much better than being ”relationshipzoned”…! I would rather have fifteen interesting conversations with possible friends, than thirty flirts with possible partners and I hardly think I am alone in that. I think that was the entire point, actually…

[@DaveMcIroy]

Yay to promoting loneliness.

[@SomeGrunt_On_Youtube]

Respectfully as a person with many friends, but with a girlfriend who recently broke up with me, I don’t wanna tell you you or anyone else’s business but sometimes I feel like people should ask themselves in their unpredictable lives is that should your friend be your whole purpose to life? After all what would you do if that friend suddenly had to leave you for a busier but more high paying job or that girlfriend break up with you, to me it just seems crazy to think that a life can be about just constantly grasping at 1 person to be at the center of your life for potentially such a long time, like how I’ve seen so many lonely people and a lonely friend struggle with making a boyrfriend or girlfriend their purpose in life. Though of course not to say don’t value your friends cause “you can support yourself,” to me friends and girlfriends are meant to help with supporting you as well as yourself too. Anyways though right now I don’t really wanna discuss anything but just share my thoughts.

[@_---__]

Look out for those coworkers they are waiting to slide in at any moment. Never let your significant other have friends of the opposite gender. Emotional and physical infidelity hold similar significance.

[@--ART3MIS--]

ah, yeah, the ex TED! I forgot to unsubscribe (should have done this in 2016, when TED died).thank you for reminding me! have fun with that kind of... content.

[@rubemartur8239]

what happened in 2016? you got me curious. -could you do a exposition around it?-

[@Prodigious1One]

Interesting Ideas. The two person's could get married for the benefits from work.

[@monsieurtoulmonde402]

Woke propaganda as always...

[@transpiler]

@@monsieurtoulmonde402 fellas is it gay to have friends?

[@rubemartur8239]

@@transpiler friends to her seems like... you need to be partner of the person. Doesnt seem practical with everyone, its invasive as you have own daily problems, so do the person you know, and ....Friendship doesnt need medical license or any other $ favor, if she implied that... That would be I-N-T-E-R-E-S-T .

[@TOWANOKITO]

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