Why haven't I healed or awakened yet? - Jeff Foster

Author/teacher Jeff Foster busts the core myth of healing - that you should be healed 'by now'. Healing is not a destination, but a present-moment welcoming of all the 'guests' in awareness, a call to LOVE. Sadness, anger, fear, doubt, do not want to be healed, but held. Filmed live at a meeting on 26th April 2015 in the Netherlands. www.lifewithout...

[@kodica48]

"The heart never says: 'Why are you still here?!?' The heart says: 'Ah, you are here..

[@lovewings6021]

Awesome perspective "your sadness does not want to be healed it wants to be HELD". Thank you for this! And I love your laugh! 😊

[@pretzelzotikos1885]

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice. meet them at the door laughing and invite them in. Be grateful for whatever comes. because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

[@birdlynn417]

"They don't want to be healed, they want to be held". :) This is so beautiful, thank you, Jeff.

[@lazarostzampazis5028]

This guy brings me peace.After having a moment of ''realization'' (an hour), my world fall apart.It is pretty tough to accept that.My mind is going crazy, really, with tons of questions.I cannot explain it with logic so I am afraid.But I try to accept it.Peace and love.

[@matthewervvin]

We're not going to find that place where unconditional love is conditional. Thanks for the reminder.

[@andreabolding5281]

"ah hello fear, I am not afraid of you (or alternate emotion sensation), I love you, come take my hand, let's walk together." ... bring loving kindness to it, hold it, sit with it, soothe it like a baby, sit, sit, sit with it until it's no longer needing your attention. tell it's welcome back, whenever it needs to be seen or heard again. - from the teachings of Richard Miller and Thich nhat Hahn

[@anner.5347]

So the message is there is no hope. Sadness wants to be heard and held and it never will be. My family tells me "just move on". They want me better now and if I'm not then I have failed them so I end up faking it - so they won't be disappointed in me but eventually I break down and then they know I was lying to them - so what do they want from me? I can't heal today and I can't be who they want me to be so I lie. It's a vicious circle that leaves me wandering like I have been for as long as I can remember, wanting so much to come home to a mother who will hold me in her arms and tell me I'm safe and loved. She's gone now, she will never tell me that. If I can't heal today, just "get over it" then my family thinks I'm not trying and they are exasperated with me and then I think why am I here so that I will be remembered as a whiner and a loser. It makes me tired to think about it all.

[@wilma8326]

Don't accept ANYBODY, even not your family, to tell you how you should behave!!! Find someone who cares about the real you. Wish I could hold you like a mother XXX

[@timmyskidoo2253]

All messages are clear, its our brains that are clogged. Great message Jeff, for some reason my ears were open tonight. I listened to this a month ago but didn't hear with the same clarity as this evening. [Dammit! Why are all my emotional children brats. Oh... right open heart.]

[@OrdinaryLifeofLili]

Love the way u teach Jeff. Surrender... acceptance... no control...feeling the emotions.. :))

[@ViswanathPulabaigari]

Mind(ego) says sadness should not be there. This is the resistance that gives life to the sadness. Ego loves this resistance. It is in the resistance that the ego lives. If we do not resist, that is literally death of the ego. Then, who is there to feel the sadness? So, sadness dies naturally. So, death of ego is the death of sadness. But, then the Ego will resist the ego... this is the real trap. What else ego can do? It wants to be egoless! This is a vicious circle which keeps the ego surviving, hence the sadness surviving. Then what can I do? (This is the big question). Allow ego to be there. Allow sadness to be there. But, be with your presence, as the witness. Alas.., there is no guarantee. Seeing this in its entirety, if happens, may be useful. Please see the fact that there is no guarantee, there is no security. This seeing may be useful.

[@metkamagdalena]

Oh wow. This is the Best picture of emotions i ever saw. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@vireokarvonen5636]

Love your words of wisdom. My heart is open. Yes sadness wants to be held not healed. Thank you Jeff. This will serve the women I am blessed to serve. Deep gratitude.

[@evgeniaanyebe911]

that is what I needed to hear . they need to be held , not healed. aleluya , brother ; )

[@gayleprinceau9268]

What a blessing in THIS access of the ❤️

[@spmgijsbers339]

This person is awesome!!

[@ryanjohnson4239]

As an Adult child in recovery this is an amazing insight

[@rpascale9963]

This is so important, I have shared with so many people. Thank you Jeff, may you experience healing

[@FaFa-bw1mm]

why am I "Still" feeling sadness? -still=contains expectation by now it should be gone -there is not such thing as "still", it was so unkind -I should be over this by now -Example:There was a knock on your door, a child walks in. The child was looking for a home and was sad. -the sadness child that feels like a total failure comes to visit -we come to the old thought: why are you still here? the sadness just want to be allowed in now, but we ask:why are you still here? the heart says:you are here there is no "still", only "here'/"by-now" -the rage, the joy, the sadness, the unworthiness are all your children, because you are their home -sadness does not want to be healed it wants to be held, which is the healing ironically -it wants to be included in the wholeness -In the end you are the home, you are the process -sadness will come and leave and come -if your heart is open, doubt can enter and go -entertained all of your guests -that is how you break the violence -when sadness child comes to visit -"It is okay". Hold it in your presence.

[@johnnywlittle]

Fantastic way of looking at it Jeff. Wonderful.....Thank you

[@aharevival936]

Profoundly insightful and so relevant for so many people. Thank you!

[@nicoledelissen977]

Profound It is all me All-inclusive My love is everywhere, no hidingplaces 💜🐚🙏🤸‍♀️☮

The most beautifull and powerfull energy I hav'nt connected sor far ! : This is my favorite youtube video, amazing, touching, so true, so true ! so deep ! so consciouss ! so allowance so so so ... thank you Jeff foster for the energy you allow us to receive from what you share to us here, thank you, thank you, thank you !

[@Sydebern]

Beautiful!

[@LearningTantraTV]

I think this is good except that dealing with the mind versus the feelings is very different. AS someone who has healed people get unstuck for 30 years, I know these things can be healed and they can be resolved... It doesn't mean that we don't have feelings, it does mean we don't need to be stuck in mind loops, which I see what she is talking about.

[@faywillowstream]

Learning Tantra how can we get to a place where sadness and anxiousness don’t take up the space reserved for peace and joy?

[@gra6649]

Pain is the great motivator in our lives. If we didn't have pain, why would we be driven to find a way out. A way to get back to ourselves. Our natural state, is a state of bliss. Kind of like pure water. But life comes along and through our desires,and fears we muddy the water. Pain will drive us to find a way back to the pure water that we are naturally. Nothing has to be added. All beings are Buddha. There is a saying, "In pursuit of knowledge every day something is gained. In the pursuit of wisdom, every day something is dropped." No pain, no gain.

[@brandiwilson2580]

So beautiful, thank you :)

[@Biancatasso]

You are so sweet S2

[@mclarsen61]

Thank you for this clear meessage :D

[@Opetti]

Aww.

[@kirelight6255]

Thank you!!! : )

[@crystaljb3]

Awe. This was so so good. So many people say the same thing but in a different way. You said it perfectly. :) ♡ Maybe teach people to remember their heart. If you haven't experienced it, words like if your heart is open seem curious. Lol Just a thought. :) ♡

[@susanheidemann4248]

1:43 if you wanna fast forward and skip all the retreats, save your money, and start listening to Eckhart Tolle “ the power of now” When you learn to control the chatter, that is constantly going on in your mind, YOU WILL HEAL❤

[@lifewithoutacentre]

New video - "Why haven't I healed yet?"

[@jonasctone]

thank you!

[@jaguarazul]

thanks

[@cofiking23]

Jeff for me the feeling this pain will go on forever , I am in eternal hell, is the main thought and feeling to be accepted , after this i feel bliss. To accept the idea that I will be unhappy and abnormal forever is very hard

[@tonyaparham790]

oh sweet heart. the story is that you are in eternal hell and it's going to go on forever or that you are abnormal. that's not the case beloved. the moment you allow to feel the pain and allow the tears to flow the peace comes. it becomes more painful the more we resist or live in the story that it's going to be like this forever. there is nothing wrong with you. your heart feels and is alive and therefore experience the flows of life. you are not alone.

[@richardsrensen4219]

wow i love this

[@YonKat24]

Thank you :) ♡♡

[@inreutveckling]

Why haven't I healed or awakened yet? Therefore, your ego stands away.

[@jamesthomas1244]

Shit happens, but when there is no story that the shit is happening to a "me" -- then there is no problem.

[@studleylee]

JamesThomas I call it shite, sounds happier somehow :-)

[@anner.5347]

JamesThomas I'm sure you mean well but that's such a euphemism it feels like a dismissal.

[@letsgoforit88]

Still still still..... until when? ^^ Will we just accept it and be at peace with it?

[@peteryorke8459]

Bye now by now...

[@mariarayo1430]

i can't understand why non off spiritual speacker do not talk about our body. Depresion and sadness is very strong and it help a lot to calm you a and your mind to go out of the depresion do exercise. Walk 25 minutes once every day. Increase the minutes every week untill you do 50 minutes every day. Try to eat fresh fruit,vegetables,dry fruits and drink more water. Put in your diet; walnuts and sardines.They hay omega3 that it will help to your mind. Come on!! life is a great experient.

[@AronGoch]

Because they believe that everything is mind.... everything is only thought and perception, and the only needed changed to be made, are ones thoughts. Not ones physical behavior, actions, habits, addictions, co dependency... ect... Its a lot of playful words, that sounds nice....''All in the space of love'''...but truly no real growth or so called enlightenment ever really occurs. These teachers all knows this, but then again cant really come out and say it.... Cause is some way or another, they muddled somewhere in between it all.

[@TheScaryGermanGuy]

I don't think that you can heal a psychological problem using physical things. It might ease the pain, but it will never really fix the root of the problem.

[@plantbasedandpositive5477]

absolutely! I have completely turned my mental health, my mental space around and a major factor in that was making physical changes. The body and the mind are very much connected and what you do to one affects the other.

[@chha4947]

Doesnt that mean that you can might as well continue the cycle of violence, cause it doesnt really matter? Do what thou wilt? Sounds familiar.

[@Brizzi414]

I wonder if she really got what he was saying…

[@TJMJR1963]

Not much comfort for someone with a crippling illness that has crushed a marriage, a career, and friendships. Are we supposed to just be homeless beggars on street corners? Is that the future?

[@subbannar7319]

I always worry why life is created on earth. It is just suffering.

[@lisaseckold9296]

There is another dimension here, without which, the answer to 'hold, rather than heal' pain is helpful, but incomplete. I can't help but notice we have a (black American?) woman asking an anglo white male why, despite 20 years of spiritual practice, she is still in pain. Might it also have something to do with the persistence of gender and racial disempowerment inherent in our cultural institutions and assumptions? And how can we validate the inevitable pain this causes, and start to address its causes?

[@cosmofox]

Lisa Seckold Not true, just something you've been led to believe...that it's some systemic issue to do with society.

[@cosmofox]

Right direction, but an awfully vague teaching, can't liberate

[@N8teyrve]

Held by what? Total duality within the dream.

[@FaFa-bw1mm]

why he keeps laughing I just wonder haha:P

[@vajraloka1]

Unclear. These teachers need to sit in samadhi for more times before trying to teach