Women discuss why ride or die girls finish last. If he is 35 and doesn’t have his life together leave stop helping them build. Why helping men build doesn’t favour women.
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@TheKatangeseDollar7 ай бұрын
A Nigerian lady made this mistake. She was well established in the UK with permanent residency. She had her own home and high paying job. She met another Nigerian who was on an expired visa, living sharing a house with 10 other people. She fell in love, brought him into her home. They got married and she sponsored him for permenant residency. She polished him up, and gave him money to start an importing business. She even gave him money to send back to his family in Nigeria. They had 2 sons. Once he got PR he visited Nigeria often spoiling his family with her money and for business reasons. On one occasion he stayed in Nigeria for longer than usual. He told her it was for business. Guess what, a mutual friend had sent the lady photos of her husband's wedding to another woman. From the photos - the man had been funding his new wife's and in laws' lifestyle including a new Range Rover and house. Ladies, do not make this woman's mistakes.
@Priscilla_Boye7 ай бұрын
I hope she left him and is doing well as for the man karma will reward him it’s only a matter of time.
@mistery20557 ай бұрын
Damnnn
@valerie.7 ай бұрын
the thing is if I were the other woman, I swear I would divorce him based on how he treated that previous lady. Because that evilness is still in him and may come out when I am pregnant.
@clapwithonehand93047 ай бұрын
Wow.
@Andrea92_917 ай бұрын
@@valerie.This. If he’s willing to do that to another women, he’ll do it to you. A baby won’t save you, but will serve as leverage for the man.
@septemberjai52167 ай бұрын
“If he’s struggling let him figure it out before he comes to you… If nothing is not working out for him, he’s not ready for a relationship.” *A word* 💯
@clapwithonehand93047 ай бұрын
Men are also gold-diggers but they don't use that term rather they call it ride or die.
@MsSemki7 ай бұрын
Men are much bigger gold-diggers than women are.
@Olivia848186 ай бұрын
That’s exactly what he told me
@dr.m61526 ай бұрын
Fr😂😂
@bliss2526 ай бұрын
Omg 😂 I'll be using this line.
@briasworld85 ай бұрын
Struggle "Love".
@septemberjai52167 ай бұрын
“Ride or die for yourself, show up for yourself.” 👏🏾🙌🏿
@kennyav257 ай бұрын
I did that and I was left with debts and a child. He married someone else and she's enjoying his success. NEVER AGAIN 🙅🏿♀️🙅🏿♀️
@joannmatsuis7 ай бұрын
Me too😂😂😂as soon as he got a job he married someone else 😂 men
@Redskywinter2044 ай бұрын
@@joannmatsuis Men are putannas They should be treated as expendable! Never pay for dildo on legs y’all got a smartphone and Amazon app😤 Stop slimming it already🙄💯👍
@Khanyotoo6 күн бұрын
I did the same thing, I've moved back to my momma's house to start over at 40 and I'm left with a child and debt
@kennyav256 күн бұрын
@@Khanyotoo I'm so sorry hun. Now we know better so we're doing better
@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke2 күн бұрын
@@Khanyotoo Your child is a boy or girl?
@kayshawnsimmons55857 ай бұрын
Building a man, will cause him to hate you.
@pausedforcyberbullying_7 ай бұрын
He didn't like her from the start she was a lick so he was being phony.
@kayshawnsimmons55857 ай бұрын
@@pausedforcyberbullying_ EXACTLY, 💯.
@levelupgoddess92897 ай бұрын
Sure will.
@kuwtkkids93047 ай бұрын
@@pausedforcyberbullying_when u said he never liked her is it based on her looks?
@missxmarvel7 ай бұрын
Building a man means grooming him for a gold digger.
@munix93517 ай бұрын
As a rule ladies. Men only need 1 mother.
@Celestials1aurora7 ай бұрын
what if they never had a mother though-?
@faith.1787 ай бұрын
@@Celestials1aurorathats a them problem.. doesn’t mean we as their non maternal family should mother them . That’s not our job
@Celestials1aurora7 ай бұрын
true but shouldn't we be nurturing and caring too? I mean as long as it is both ways and not one sided.@@faith.178
@munix93517 ай бұрын
@@Celestials1aurora send him the top five therapist's in your city
@beautifullEternal6 ай бұрын
@@Celestials1aurorahe shouldn’t be dating if he’s emotionally unstable 🤷🏾♀️
@meganakinsanya47027 ай бұрын
My mother always told me never be a build a man contractor 😂
@Andrea92_917 ай бұрын
Smart woman!
@abrotheryourbrother34297 ай бұрын
For millions of years, women still haven't learned that you (a woman) ought not to build a man at all. It's not a woman's natural or spiritual role. You ought to hold hands with a man and walk with him (complementing each other). It's a man that's given the natural and spiritual responsibility to build and do so many things for a woman... according to the Word of God
@BlackRaven0007 ай бұрын
@@abrotheryourbrother3429yeah they built r@pe, murder, arson, corruption, DV, bullying, slavery, trafficking, pollution, temper tantrums, disrespect real well. 80% of all the autoimmune disease sufferers are women. Weight gain, frayed nerves and trauma are the only things y'all "lead" women and yourselves into.
@bliss2526 ай бұрын
😂😂
@Redskywinter2044 ай бұрын
The B word is better for gold digging BM really cuz hit dawgs holler😂
@Lilzki7 ай бұрын
“Invest all you effort and energy into yourself” thank you for reminding us women to look after ourselves, our health and our own finances
@scorpionqueen667 ай бұрын
Truth and FACTS!!! That's exactly how I'm living my life, and I always lived by that philosophy!!!! I put MYSELF first before anybody, especially a self centered and narcissistic man!!! F all men at this point!!!
@munix93517 ай бұрын
Also stop having join businesses with these men!!! If he wants you to work with him. Get it signed legally. 1. Be his employer 2. Get paid a monthly salary 3. Get shares in the business Do not go into business with a man. Do not.!! Be a paid consultant. Everytime he asks for your advice make sure you invoice him. Payment must be made for everyting!!!!
@moeshasmiles6 ай бұрын
We need to speak more on this! A men wanted wanting you to help him with his business. Promising you guys will be able to sell the business once it’s you’ve built it up for millions. How can women protect their interests legally
@albertinag.demoraesm.95117 ай бұрын
I had built a man for 5 years. He saved money, he earned more money, he moved to a bettter city, to a better job. When i had to do a surgery HE LEFT ME cause he doesn't want to take care of me in the post op. 5 years building a man up and he left me with nothing, I moved from the house with 2 luggage and my cat. NEVER AGAIN. Thank you for all your words here.
@FantasticBooo7 ай бұрын
Hope you are doing well today
@may-fz3tn6 ай бұрын
Only build up husbands when they leave take half next time.
@briasworld85 ай бұрын
Sad.
@DinaLorr7 ай бұрын
For some reason they end up despising you, & a broke man is a dangerous man
@sinovuyobudaza71677 ай бұрын
Never built a man but dated a man who was at the same level as me. He still felt the need to compete with me. Never understood his behavior because I had never dated anyone who saw me as a competition. Eventually, I got it and left. If a man that's on the same level as me can show me flames, how much more a man that's below me. No one can ever make me feel bad for dating men who earn more than double my income. I have my own property and car, don't come near me if you don't. I'm never going to be a man frustration tool or trauma dump when they feel like they are behind their peers.
@melindaroop13467 ай бұрын
Been there. And when I started stepping up the game for myself and reaching my own goals, he got EXTREMELY jealous OF me and the gaslighting....all of a sudden I was "selfish" a "bad mom", had a "huge ego" 😂.
@latinaking38166 ай бұрын
Well alrighty then 👏🏾🎯
@latinaking38166 ай бұрын
@@melindaroop1346 They are literally demons walking earth!
@SnowofLight7 ай бұрын
'If he aint got it, he dont want it' Unfortunately, this is true. Some people would rather complain than improve.
@user-ec5uh3qs1f6 ай бұрын
I am 51. My man was 70. He said I was too old. Every time I turned around he was saying how old I was. I had to remind him how old he was and how he keeps using adhesive on his teeth. And how I can get someone in my 30s if I wanted to. He can't. But it was sad how he kept trying to put me down for my age. It's ridiculous
@Slayy05a6 ай бұрын
Girl, leave him😭💀
@briasworld85 ай бұрын
What?! The AUDACITY of him!
@nicoletara3535 ай бұрын
@Barree1 she said was, so assuming she left. hoping 😢
@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition27 күн бұрын
Gross
@jademcl47277 ай бұрын
At that point, you're not a partner, you're a sponsor 😳😳😳
@somebodycomelistentothispo72177 ай бұрын
Been married for 17 years and together 22. Have never did ANYTHING for my husband financially and he’s talking about striving to become a millionaire in 2024. Men will strive to do better when u make them ladies. My husband knows I will leave him at the drop of a dime because I do my part as a wife. I work and none of my money goes into the household
@jakblk7 ай бұрын
All due respect, saying that you would leave your husband of 17 years "at the drop of a dime" is AWFUL.
@kaylam87077 ай бұрын
💯💯 Cuz a man will have no problem cheating and leaving a woman that starts slacking on her part.
@catesj157 ай бұрын
You go girl! I mean-Queen!!! 💚✨
@TOFFEETASTICC7 ай бұрын
@@jakblkNo its not. Husbands are more likely to drop their wives if she’s terminally ill or gains a million pounds. 😕🤷🏾♀️
@sammich-lp2qm7 ай бұрын
@@jakblk no, he knows he doesn't want to lose her. It doesn't matter what she says. IF HE BROKE, LEAVE EM! Ladies why we ever gave them broke mFas a chance IDK.
@chanela.77867 ай бұрын
Literally witnessed aspects of this within my own parents. Dad went to jail when I was young and my mom stood beside him and paid some of his books. Still ended up cheating on her and was actually jealous of her making money when she was successful doing real estate and even tried competing with her when it came to getting me bday gifts. She bought me a pearl jewelry set for my 11th bday and he gave me a card promising to take me to Disneyland(never happened)…a lot of men don’t have the same level of appreciation nor respect and will feel emasculated
@amazinggrace3137 ай бұрын
I can’t imagine why on earth a woman should help build a man for?? A man?? A man?? Hell to the NO !!!
@tajr.26507 ай бұрын
I was good friends with a couple that lived together and he would pay for MY drinks when we went out then later ask her for money he paid for HER drinks later. It blew my mind she put up with this when I found out. She did so much at home, had two jobs, and he owned a thriving electrician business. He clearly had zero respect for her. So glad she finally left him.
@exoticallovergirl7 ай бұрын
A man that I cut off because he was too broke just reached out to me and gave thanks. He told me how I inspired him to level up his finances and now he is making $20k a month. He wants to take me out now because he is ready... me too big daddy me too 🤣😂🤣😂
@Gracella-vm1lz7 ай бұрын
❤️👍👍👍
@jmo76767 ай бұрын
Don’t go , it’s a trap !! It’s a revenge move . If you turned him down , stay away .
@CanadianCatScratcher-ff4sl6 ай бұрын
How did it go, if you went? Did you notice any changes in his attitude?
@briasworld85 ай бұрын
Lmao. 😂 You're funny.
@brown_and_curly_ne_girly45517 ай бұрын
“They should have pets” he’s my favorite 😂
@xxshanxx42907 ай бұрын
Acrimony is very good movie that portrays why it’s never good to build a man
@sammich-lp2qm7 ай бұрын
Girl, I watched it again and I was like, hmmm. How he took her for granted in his youth and how he kept taking and taking. These men have zero remorse for what they do. As a woman I could never abuse someone like that. I always pay back my debt. Unless the debt belongs to the USA you feel me lol cuz these fools be trying they hardest to break you.
@levelupgoddess92897 ай бұрын
I watched this movie years ago and I was so pissed. EVERY woman should watch this show.
@sasshil42027 ай бұрын
I actually cried during that movie. It hit a nerve I’ve never had anything as mad as that happen to me but I know what it feels like to be betrayed and being disappointed by someone who you thought was the love of your life.
@videoettaceo89007 ай бұрын
My longest relationship is a great example.
@sharriri30307 ай бұрын
Whew chile the rage that was in me that I thought I put behind me when I watched that movie! I felt EVERY bit of Taraji character Ive been that woman. I can never watch that movie again but I know.
@queenla2277 ай бұрын
Facts. Stop dating and marrying potential. I know of what I speak. If they don’t mess up your life, they will slow your progress so much because you have to wait for them to catch up and/or grow up. It’s not fun, and you end up mad at yourself for wasting time.
@d.thompson74647 ай бұрын
Ladies… if a man puts his hand out to you there should be something in it.
@MsSemki7 ай бұрын
Build the man up. He will take everything good that you have from you and then leave. He won't even remember your name. He'll say: "Sarah? Who's Sarah?" That, after you've put every bit of your energy into him.
@damabelcedeno55247 ай бұрын
Never build a man because once they reach that level of success with your support- they will not want to give you any credit! It’s resentment and it’s ego based. He does not want to be reminded that he needed support. Men like to make it look like they accomplish things in their own. The best thing to do is if you’re in a relationship where he is not yet at his level of success, allow him to figure things out in his own. Make your OWN decision as a women on whether it’s worth staying or not, because they will also not express it. 🫠
@Penelopeking17 ай бұрын
She will build him forever. He will forever need help with something The helping family part is not discussed enough and the biggest scam of all. It's like cheating with another woman but far far worst because it's a lifetime of sponsorship, it happens right under her nose and society will praise him and boost his ego. On top of that the family will join forces to keep her submissive and assassinate her character if she dares to speak up against it. Once he is tired of helping them he will quickly find something else to invest in but it will never be the 50:50 wife that helped build him. I know far too many women end up resentful and sick.
@Kayprofessor7 ай бұрын
Paid for my man to get through college cause he said he would take care of me after that. I dressed him real nice and all that too. When it was time to take care of me when we had a kid he said “no, you paying for me was your choice.” He knew what the deal was supposed to be. He left me for another woman at the job that I killed myself for him to have cause I was washing his uniform and raising our kid by myself and working. He left me with no money and tried to have me thrown out of the house. The house that I got us. That could have been the end of the story but the court saw what he did and sided with me. He eventually repented and is being the husband and father he was supposed to be. That took prayer and intervention ladies. And he has free will so he did not have to repent. Don’t build a man. Get a man that is ready to build a life with you, not off you.
@vizeas7 ай бұрын
So after everything he did to you.. you still agreed to marry him? I’m confused. I am glad if you are happy, but I hope you are setting money aside just in case. Your man showed you who he really was when he abandoned you and your child when he accomplished his goals.
@sammich-lp2qm7 ай бұрын
@@vizeas right. After all of that? He just didn't want to do all the work with the child because, it's cheaper to keep her. She once again took his accountability and consequences and made it easier for him when he ruined everything and was willing to throw it away for some tail. shT like this🙄
@Kayprofessor7 ай бұрын
@@vizeas I am still technically divorced, I chose to finish the divorce because I am protecting myself in that way. I may not ever even live with him again because I am so happy with my own space. I learned so much about boundaries and feminine energy that he will never get me in that position again. Because he is dealing with a new person. Our interactions are different now. He pursues me and I receive. I know my worth now and he hast to work to get his family back all the way. I’ve done things too in the past, never tried to hurt him but I did. He has gotten a lot of mental health help and came back to his faith. It’s been a long road and I will marry him again if I see long enough change. If he slips much at all I will move on. He got really lost and is finding his way back. I feel very in control of my situation. I have money because the court makes him pay 😜 but I am waiting to see if he continues to pay when alimony ends 😘 So far it’s been almost a year of me getting pretty much whatever I ask for. I need at least another year and a prenup 😄 I believe in God, I believe people can repent. But I’m not stupid
@Kayprofessor7 ай бұрын
@@sammich-lp2qm you are correct about one thing. He realized on every level that life was better and less complicated with his family in it. He fucked up bad. How did I take accountability for him? He is the one paying loads of money out to me. I don’t have to work anymore and he treats me like a queen. I have my freedom and he takes care of his son when we are together as well as apart. I know it’s not a situation that everyone would understand. There was a lot more to it like him having PTSD from combat etc. not making excuses but you don’t know everything. And I don’t feel like writing a novel right now. God bless.
@bee-qc3cd7 ай бұрын
Lol
@margodphd7 ай бұрын
I'm all for equality and all, I'm trying not to be judgemental, prejudiced... But unfortunately, You are all correct. It's just the way it is and denying reality only causes pain. You can either pat yourself on the head for "not being a gold digger like other girls" but that feeling isn't worth how men will treat you for it.
@lindaaih7 ай бұрын
Well done ladies for putting this out there🎉 Some men (weak men) will be in your home and in your bed and despise you. 90 day fiance tells us all we need to know about the lengths some of them will go to manipulate and scam a woman to get what they want. Thst even includes putting a ring on your finger. I don't have daughters but if i did, id show them this.
@bluebutterfly50627 ай бұрын
When our parents were in charge of deciding what man we would marry, they would not allow you to be with a man that did not have his finances together. They would not let you marry for "love" because they knew that wouldn't put food on the table Men want "love" so they don't have try. You can build with love, but you need a foundation first.
@marcilynn29437 ай бұрын
Nope. It was just little girls being sold to old men. Quit playing that up like a good thing. Women deserve autonomy over our OWN lives and bodies.
@Seamannon7 ай бұрын
@@holyempressw8531 In what world or timeline? What exactly are you talking about? Where in the world does it currently happen that 40+ guys are legally marrying 14 year old girls, because they consider 19 year olds too old already? Are you talking about your own fantasies or some kinky anime stuff? Is this something you learned by visiting adult entertainment websites or the redpill community? Are you someone who likes to seek out romantic partners on Epstein's island? I'm very confused by this message.
@Soneelicious7 ай бұрын
@@Seamannonsome african and Asian countries it’s legal over there 😊
@Seamannon7 ай бұрын
@@Soneelicious OMG, That's horrible! I'm so sorry for anyone who ever experienced this scenario. No girl should be ever forced to marry any guy under official laws! No 14 year old girl should be ever set up to marry any man, especially not a middleaged one! No 19 year old girl should ever feel like she's too old to get marrried or that she has to compete with 14 year olds for any male affection. 40+ men should be ashamed of themselves for even considering to pursue children romantically, that's disgusting. Men who look for wives among women half their age are troubling enough already, even when those potential wives are adults. Why is this still a thing? These laws should certainly be updated.
@jewelb94336 ай бұрын
@@SoneeliciousIt's legal in 41 States in the USA too. 20 of those states don't even have a minimum age for marriage. Politicians are a bunch of perverts themselves, they don't care about women or children 🤮
@levelupgoddess92897 ай бұрын
I’ve ever loved a man enough to take care of him. TF I look like, his mother.😂😂😂😂 I think TF not.
@Lightboltmotivationofficial7 ай бұрын
Moral of the story don’t help men
@helloes62367 ай бұрын
Totally agree with this.. you helping a man build himself up, nurture, support financially doesn't guarantee anything. Been there, done that, we date now only men who are already there. No more therapist, financial support, nurse and all the other hats to wear. You do it all and they still gonna lie to your face and tell you that you're demanding.
@Becky_Cal7 ай бұрын
0:27 She’s got it right! If there’s any upgrade that needs to be done is upgrading yourself!
@zanealexanderZA7 ай бұрын
Don't invest in a man because someone else will reap the rewards Get a man on your level or higher Also don't feel that having a man is the all of life Get a partner not a project
@ruthmchuwen7 ай бұрын
You’re not his dream girl if you help him built.. Men show up ready for the right one. Otherwise, he’ll feel emasculated and tell you he didn’t ask you to do all that.
@BlackRaven0007 ай бұрын
But greedily snatch up all of the resources regardless.
@dakotahearst9086 ай бұрын
I helped a “friend” push his car. It would always run out of gas and it was like I could feel the way he viewed me change but.. why..? And ik it’s a whole video here but still
@angelaramsay17787 ай бұрын
Whether they and you, are 22 or 62. Let them be fully baked adult before you entertain them. You are NOT their mother, helper, maid, fixer, problem solver, stylist, life coach, CV writer etc etc etc. IF, you are drawn to that sub par male , obviously or less obviously, fix that within yourself. You are YOU , with a bomb of talent and abilities . Believe IT and say no to the parasites. xxxxx
@cruiseny267 ай бұрын
Plus these men get resentful that they need your help….
@saharkhalili53037 ай бұрын
Men are an extension of capitalism, the exploitative system they built and promote. Women are not exempt from this opportunistic system
@Becky_Cal7 ай бұрын
Amen! They will take what they can, from whom they can, with one singular focus: themselves. Men created capitalism, exploitation, pimping, every negative greedy, self-centered, inhumane practice in this world…Trust, they will take advantage of you in a second if it means they end up on top! Don’t do it. Don’t do it. Don’t do it.
@Heyu7her37 ай бұрын
This exploitation predates capitalism by millennia
@AccordingToWillow7 ай бұрын
@@Heyu7her3true but capitalism really dropped a brick on the gas pedal
@kittensmitten32877 ай бұрын
Males are consumers by nature and women are the resources. Be wise and be careful who you get with.
@themom22506 ай бұрын
I have never heard this type of behavior said in this way. You are spot on.
@aurora87497 ай бұрын
So true. When I got my first apartment with my kids father he initially was working FT and I only part time and I was paying more than half the bills at first and eventually he stopped paying anything and was having to borrow $250-300 from his parents to help me pay rent. During this very miserable, stressful time for me he plotted to leave me....alone with three kids, making $1100 a month...I found an apartment application and I looked him in the eyes and said, "If you're planning on leaving, you better find somewhere you can take the kids because I'm not going to be on the street with them while you're living it up with a bunch of roommates. He denied that's what he was doing but he was....and he changed his attitude.
@Seamannon7 ай бұрын
omg, that's just disgusting baviour! How did he ever justify that crap in his head? Sorry you had to suffer that kind of treatment. Hope you"re doing better now. I wish you all the luck you can get on your way forward, blessings to your children as well! May you be able to find success and fulfillment in life!
@NimeetaA7 ай бұрын
stop having babies with broke men. men are supposed to be investing in us
@stephaniebrooks80447 ай бұрын
That gentleman was exactly right! He 35,if he don't have it,he don't want it!!!
@sourcandydoll7 ай бұрын
We live in a patriarchal society. Men will always have that advantage over women because of that, so if you can go or and get your own, why can’t he? The guy in the beginning was right: he didn’t want to. Leave him where he’s at.
@vanessaharris63417 ай бұрын
And will try to move in with you and flex on what you have built as if yall built it together!!! LMAO 🤣
@yuriosato35656 ай бұрын
A man is NEVER the prize the least he can do is pay.
@user-it5ub8gq6e2 ай бұрын
Yes he is a booby prize
@MiscellaneousMeMe7 ай бұрын
Honestly, I remember about 10 years ago, I nearly started a company with an old (actually first boyfriend) that I re met up with. Why did we end up starting a business with him………he spun me this sob story about how his brother had killed himself and so I felt a little sorry for him. Anyway….I fell into a deep depression shortly after meeting with him and planning to start a business. I text him to explain that I could no longer be in business with him and never once heard back from him. You would think that someone who experienced a death in the family from suicide would at least reply to the text right? Lol I now know that that depressive episode was my ancestors telling me to sit the fu*k down. I could have so easily gotten into so much debt because of him. Thank you ancestors ❤🥰🙏🏾
@tynaangelici30237 ай бұрын
I will build myself before I build a man. That’s just time money and energy wasted. At least if I invest in myself I will se a return on my investment.
@bliss2526 ай бұрын
Yup. Someone I know who was ambitious and doing so well in life (owned a home, etc.) let a dusty in through her doors. She also helped him get citizenship... Long story short, she had to flee back to Africa with their child due to abuse, and she now has nothing. He lives with his new wife in the house they'd bought together.
@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast7 ай бұрын
❓❓❓ Ok there were some good points but am I the only one who fastforwards past the people who refer to women as b!tches? I can't even take those people seriously. "Lemme disrespect women while stitching a video to help women." 🧐 We're always expected to accept anything and everything.
@Lilzki7 ай бұрын
I don’t fast forward those bits but I too don’t like how they are calling women bitches. How that is becoming normal.
@chanela.77867 ай бұрын
That part or calling women “females” it throws me off😭🤮
@BabalonNuitАй бұрын
Agree. If he speaks of women disrespectfully he's a misogynist.
@cognitiveblur7 ай бұрын
I live alone and my partner helps me with some stuff, but he was basically moving in here. I cut that right away. I don't wanna be a maid to someone in my own house. He is a great person but i just don't wanna live with someone. I did this with my past 2 boyfriends and it was the worst thing i could have done. Not anymore.
@lataynewilmot78577 ай бұрын
Listen, we can learn a thing or two from Acrimony. 🤷♀
@houstonveganchick56597 ай бұрын
Facts, if he wanted, he would have it,
@SaveageQueen894 ай бұрын
Amen Queen!!! Men will call women gold diggers for taking help from other men, to get on their feet. Yet when a woman builds a dude up, he turns around and breaks her. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging us to find strength in our struggles!
@Olivia848186 ай бұрын
I appreciate this thread, those ladies don’t understand how much they are helping other women from doing the same.
@Syn-ls3eu6 ай бұрын
I just think of ONE person. BETTY BRODERICK. She is a bright and shining example of what can happen if a woman becomes a Bob-The-Builder.
@sxycrml356 ай бұрын
I did this for 11 years, and as soon as he got in a better position in life, I was an afterthought. Now I'm building me and could care less about his or any mans issues. Now he gets to watch my glowup via social media, and that petty part of me loves to see his face knowing a ninja can't get NOTHING from me ever again. Don't build a man, ladies. If he ain't got it, then he doesn't deserve you. Men will move mountains for the woman they want. If he's playing broke with you, then you are just a placeholder until the one wants comes along.
@briasworld85 ай бұрын
So true.
@selrox8794 ай бұрын
Its always like that. Anyways, wish you love and peace❤
@meowkitty29567 ай бұрын
Ride or die with someone who is willing to ride or die with you with ANY relationship
@Dca2524 ай бұрын
Men hate how weak they were in your presence and will despise you for it, for tolerating them that way… you became weaker than him in the process and he knows it
@Crisjola7 ай бұрын
Love this video!! My momma has always said (because she was/is successful and did her own thing while in the rat race back in the Day) that “men find me intriguing, they want my help to either be just like me, or to help them ‘get on their feet’ and once they have gotten some of that power back, they proceed to try and break me like I’m a wild stallion.” The rather… extreme way I describe it, since there is a massive gap in time between a baby boomer parent and my millennial butt, is that that happens all the time, except, I have so _many_ hobbies and interest (any sort of career for me, personally, is separate and what brings the money in, though I hope to merge some things soon-hobbies + a small business) is that the men I know (and I’ve dated several different ethnic groups because when tan I am very Middle Eastern/Arabic looking and “exotic” ((rather dehumanizing tbh))) that there is almost nothing that a man can do or say that would put him _above_ me. And they’ve made up in their heads that I would actually care if he he was more skilled at something, or what have you-I just want to do stuff with a partner, it’s not a contest except in silly fun. And because I have those varied interest, instead of wanting to break me like a horse, it’s closer to attempting to skin tiger. Everything I am, from hobbies, to education, to etc etc etc (which aren’t how I define myself, why I’m flippant about the list) is seen as “dangerous” so they want to neutralize that danger. If someone views you as a man eating tiger, but is fascinated by all you are _as a tiger_ finding out that they want you to submit completely, and once you have helped them get their crap together, they remember the tiger is dangerous, and try to skin it so they can prove they’ve conquered the tiger, and then turn around and use everything they learned from the tiger, to get someone else. (Had another thought, it escaped me. Will edit the post if it comes back 😅) I love your videos. Especially because it’s not all filtered through “but not _men_ “ when everyone one knows that is not what a woman says when she is frustrated with the min in her life. I really appreciate your channel. I hope it doesn’t get deboosted once the YT highlighting black voices week/month stops.
@CyberMachine7 ай бұрын
Being exotic looking isn't dehumanizing.
@Crisjola7 ай бұрын
@@CyberMachine this is true. But having your entire _everything else_ from personality to intelligence dismissed, put down, and generally mocked, with the only focus being “oh you’re _only_ attractive because you’re exotic looking” is very much dehumanizing. It follows the same principles of a man being judged only for his d^ck size (which I happen to fine offensive on their behalf) as dehumanizing. It’s dehumanizing when you can’t actually tell if someone is talking about a car they think is sleek, or a real person. Being exotic looking while still recognized as a person with interests and etc isn’t dehumanizing. Being compared to a lambo is. And this also goes for the women who “jokingly” compare men to d^ldos and how they’ll “never measure up.” Which just means people are having crappy s^x, and not that men can’t compete with some motors and silicone. Edit for clarity; If someone is dating you _ because_ you look mixed race and thus “exotic” and for zero other reasons, that is dehumanizing because it’s reducing you down to only looks. And at that point I’d rather suggest that whomever thinks that finds a middle the road priced sports car, and he involved with that, since if someone, to the people K was referring to suddenly decide that they only like half Asians and that trait is the reason r they are the interests in her (or him) then that is dehumanizing. It’s not appreciating beauty. I’ve had plenty people tell me I’m pretty without the under or over tones of being compared to an inanimate objet.
@CyberMachine7 ай бұрын
@@Crisjola Life is a whole lot easier when you realize men primarily care about looks and there's nothing that we can do about it.
@Crisjola7 ай бұрын
@@CyberMachine I can have standards. Also they might prioritize looks (I’m lucky to be conventionally attractive) but the absurd jealousy I’ve run across from men who _just cannot stand_ that a woman might have more education than they do, or know more about something than they do with their hobby speaks to more than just looks. They’ve been socialized to be entitled to whatever they want regarding “the fairer sex” and that has created fragile egos where a woman who might know more than they do in some shared hobby is almost always immediately put down and told they can’t _possibly_ know anything about said interest. They no longer have to be mature and responsible so they feel entitled to whatever it is their mind can come up with. I have nothing against the Feminism of 70 but they absolutely caused (accidentally) men to go “oh, you work, still clean, and will raise the kids? Neat. I can do nothing.”
@MothersHeartGypsyDoVe7 ай бұрын
@Crisjola That last part...it's exactly what I'm seeing as well. They have now decided they want wombmen to do it all. While they sit at home playing video games, likely having any children doing chores while they play like an oversized manchild. Seems they want to be treated like the wombman now but they have a warped idea of what that is. Somehow they want role reversal but not willing to do the cooking,cleaning, laundry, birthing and all the other hard-work a Mother and wife does. Yet they want to be wooed like a woman an treated with all the perks. They think wombman have. They are clueless apparently to all the oppression wombmen have endured over many centuries.
@lmboyd37 ай бұрын
Angie Stone sang about this in her song “Baby”. Funny that every generation of women is talking about this topic. Good points and advice in this video for women not to “build-a-man”.
@TT-xz5sy7 ай бұрын
That’s my jam 🙌🏾
@ColoradoFalls7 ай бұрын
IT DIDNT WORK ON THE PLANTATION and look were we are now . I LOVE BLACK MEN FROM AFAR !!! FAR FAR AWAY
@AquaticStarchild7 ай бұрын
why do so many women accept being called b-ches? to call a woman a female dog seems to be the norm in some communities. I know it ain't so in Africa but in the US it seems to be the norm. I don't accept it.
@porchiajohnson14417 ай бұрын
As a black woman I hate seeing so many black, latino, and queer men so casually refer to women as bitches and hoes. I never befriend these men or be in their face. I personally don't even like to use curse words.
@MVPA-io5ee7 ай бұрын
Same where I live... 😅
@ds372157 ай бұрын
It's American hood culture to call women "b.tches" and "females." I'm American and don't speak that way or associate with anyone who does.
@may-fz3tn6 ай бұрын
It’s not the norm in America, it’s only among low value men/ women.
@BabalonNuitАй бұрын
As long as women overlook verbal disrespect, it will invariably lead to PHYSICAL disrespect. If men don't respect you from the get-go, then don't expect it to "get better". He showed you right there what he thought of women, when he referred to them as "bitches" (or other derogatory names).
@heneverforesakesme40387 ай бұрын
let me drop a name: Betty Broderick...
@SK-le4lj7 ай бұрын
Smh I felt for her
@shannongray-chappell60827 ай бұрын
I believe the same thing went for Steve Harvey's ex-wife and Kevin Heart
@Childfree3347 ай бұрын
I have no sympathy for Betty Broderick. Ain't no way in heck a man is going to push me to the point of unaliving him so I will spend my life in prison. She was stupid and messy. I just would have taken half his fortune and gone about my business. She destroyed the lives of 5 kids in one fell swoop.
@TheKatangeseDollar7 ай бұрын
@@Childfree334 According to Betty's daughter's book, Betty was the aggressor in her parent's toxic marriage. Her aggression towards Dan increased when he left her for Linda. Dan and Linda were no angels either.
@Childfree3347 ай бұрын
@@TheKatangeseDollar I take what kids say with a grain of salt🧂. She doesn't know everything that went on in her parent's marriage. She is angry at her mother for unaliving her father, and rightfully so, but that gives her a reason to be biased.
@chelle9677 ай бұрын
If that's the case then we should just remain single. I hace met many people who have drained me financially and ruined me when my ass was better off single....
@LoveMarie-us2iu7 ай бұрын
Helped him to and from work with any little bus fare I had he got himself a car with his first check and wouldnt let me drive his car so I could look for a job by his second pay check he took his whole check and left me and our kids with no food and no money and gave it all to the same woman he cheated on me before that called our kids bastards and said f$#k them and she's absolutely enjoying it and said she wants to hurt me. He did this not even 3 months after my mother passed away. I am traumatized, I'm nearly on the verge of losing faith in a God, I dont trust anyone, I have secluded myself and I only go out when I have to do something for my kids. I dont want to be around anybody I'm broken inside and I'm just finished I dont want anybody anymore I just want to stay away from everybody this entire world I jus want to stay away from it.
@Victoria-qk3mu7 ай бұрын
I hope you read this I love you with compassion Stay strong God is greater than any wicked force
@LoveMarie-us2iu7 ай бұрын
@@Victoria-qk3mu I needed to hear that thank you
@SOUNDofFREEDOM24246 ай бұрын
God bless you. Psalm 91& Psalm 23. Stay strong. Jesus loves you ❤️
@SOUNDofFREEDOM24246 ай бұрын
And I'm sorry to hear you went through that. Don't give up 🙏🏻
@mrsmoderation77186 ай бұрын
The side chick talking about women being desperate for a man is a walking oxymoron though!
@DWPersianExcursion7 ай бұрын
Love and support from Texas ❤
@Yabucoagirl7 ай бұрын
They’re not much better next door. San Antonio 😂😂
@DWPersianExcursion7 ай бұрын
@@Yabucoagirl I'm in north Texas, ☆
@StellaDallaz3 ай бұрын
You’ll help a man build a foundation but he’ll build the house with another woman!
@pastelmoon91186 ай бұрын
ironic how men call CF women selfish but then they literally tell women to forget their own dreams, own wants for life.... to build HIS own successful career " need YOU to be miserable so I CAN BE HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL!" totally not selfish!!! 😂
@user-fu1gm6vu1l7 ай бұрын
Love this video from SA
@Lightboltmotivationofficial7 ай бұрын
Thank you Priscilla 😊
@Priscilla_Boye7 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@doneshacotton47257 ай бұрын
Yet I know some people trying bash me for not wanting man I have to help. They say I act like I'm better than them and not in my feminine energy.. Sorry but my thing is this. If you can't put in. YOU CAN'T HANG. Cause IF I can't put in... I AM NOT DATING YOU. This ain't the 1600s to 1970s Another thing the horrible economic downturn since 2004 has messed a lot of people up and folks still trying to recover. Or the right things never happen to the right people but still be careful out here.
@masixchell14 күн бұрын
My father taught me to never mess with a bum. To focus on my goals & dreams, not chase after men and marriage. Don’t ever depend on a man or the government. Haven’t been let down since I listened. Successful men at my level or ABOVE only 💁🏽♀️☺️
@VonnaBlessed7 ай бұрын
This is sad...but true.
@Trailblazers3237 ай бұрын
Damn, people still having this conversation?
@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition27 күн бұрын
Bro in the black hoodie spitting 100% straight facts.
@stayglitteryqueen7 ай бұрын
Thank you, rich princess life and positivity only here ✨ ❤
@yuriosato35656 ай бұрын
Stop making mens lives easy! If he doesnt want to pay for you willingly without being bitter he doesnt love you.
@septemberjai52167 ай бұрын
7:33 Luv her! 🫶🏾
@peremoboeresd6 ай бұрын
It's sad that so many women have been traumatized by these relationships with jealous men. In the same breath, don't let the trauma stop you from being the generous person you are, just find an equally generous man that truly loves and respects you. A relationship is about partnership and uplifting each other, but its tough out here. I think the internet makes it difficult for men and women to trust each other or at least that's the perception that it gives.
@davidamitchell81577 ай бұрын
Yes! Take charge of your life!! ❤🙌
@Victoria-qk3mu7 ай бұрын
Don’t ask me for Sex Don’t ask me for Money
@christopherjordan66897 ай бұрын
It's too many booty calls more than relationships.
@user-yr6xc7gg8q7 ай бұрын
I actually know of someone this worked for he became a pharmacist now she doesn't have to worry about anything
@user-pn6rd6fv9w2 ай бұрын
Good for her but that is NOT the norm
@Amethyst4545 ай бұрын
Women who build men are called BARBARA THE BUILDERS!!! (Got that from SheraSeven).
@Hardawayfits4 ай бұрын
Sprinkle sprinkle 😅
@stephaniebrooks80447 ай бұрын
I did this!,done it!,thru wit it!!✌🏾
@videoettaceo89007 ай бұрын
The way some people live...
@ambeemac38824 күн бұрын
I’m not going to lie I learned my lesson from this because I tried to be this woman who was down and had his back and I got nothing in return. I was always looked for to pay for the tab for dinner, buy food for the take out, always was the one driving every where we needed to go and he never paid for gas but once he got himself together I was never taken on any dates he would plan them but never showed up, if we got food to go all of sudden it’s 50/50, he got his car he never came to see but was driving everywhere else and if we did go somewhere we had to meet up and once we broke up he did everything for the next girl showed up to dates and paid, picked her up , went to see her in his free time and that hurt knowing I was there for at his lowest and was unappreciated for it and ever since then my standards and boundaries has been sky high and now people say I’m mean, cold hearted and shallow for not wanting to settle and paying to the obvious red flags. Can never win.
@tarahbruno37933 күн бұрын
I don’t do the most for no man ! Ladies men go after the women they know they have to come through for. You would think they would appreciate the help but they actually resent you.
@babou56946 ай бұрын
30-35 years old and still lost in the sauce? My question is that , this whole time what the hell that individual was doing ? If he ain’t got no goals, no ambition and work through them, he lazy. My name is Barbara but I ain’t no builder. You gotta remember, some people are ungrateful and some men are lazy asf just like some women out there.
@kalimbaayinde257 ай бұрын
You should pray a broke man will leave you!! 😂😂😂 I ain’t doing it. My bills, my house, my cars, and he can leave. Nope. They say lm mean.
@FantasticBooo7 ай бұрын
7:13 😂😂😂 hell yeah
@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables4 ай бұрын
You will be dead and gone before he acknowledges all your hard work and show even a smidgen of appreciation for you. If you're building a man, please understand that you are just a placeholder until he finds "The One".
@LisaLee1236 ай бұрын
I made this mistake with my ex and yet he still tries to degrade me
@verbalpercussion81867 ай бұрын
Both men and women go through this
@DanaNoName6 ай бұрын
Does it count if he's 25? He ain't 35, 'cause I would never get a grandpa to stand beside me. No, he got to 35, and is not married with kids, at this point he can just let life get past him. He's my age, and I'm happy with him. I didn't experience what these women are talking about in the video until now, and I know I picked my partner well. I didn't build him, and I'm not building him. He has a job, we're still saving money, the house we'll buy will be on both our names, and I'm NOT taking a bank loan, neither is he. Everything we do, we do cash down, with receipts and documents.
@nicorriesanders7 ай бұрын
This!
@JustDemi1274 ай бұрын
Yes. Don’t allow this women! Thank you for this video
@Priscilla_Boye4 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and commenting I really appreciate it
@PlayfulJoyful7 ай бұрын
I don’t and have never paid for anything. Don’t set yourself up.