Why I Deleted All My Dating Apps (And Why You Should Too)

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

Dating apps put men in the one down position for so many reasons. I have used them simply from laziness. It's easier to stay home than get dressed up and say hi to strangers. However, that laziness comes at an extreme cost. Dating apps are bad for men's psychology for so many reasons. The women I met in person and formed relationships with were MUCH better in looks AND personality than the ones I met online.

[@adrianskarpetis]

hit the nail with this one bro

[@Andreas_K_III]

But where do one meet this women in person?

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

@@Andreas_K_III Outside your home.

[@Andreas_K_III]

@@JohnSmith-ks5xwreally?

[@metalassassin8841]

@@JohnSmith-ks5xw Unless... They are locked in your basement 🤣 Thanks for the laugh ahahaha

[@onredalert1]

The dopamine hit isnt only for the dating apps. Its for all social media in general.... get rid of social media all together

[@adrianskarpetis]

honestly yes, people suffer from social media twice as much

[@fembot521]

I’m an older woman so was dating in the early 2000’s when dating apps were not popular at all and it was embarassing to meet your bf on there. Now that my husband died I am back in the dating scene, well not really because dating apps are all there is and it’s so so so foreign to me. I can’t choose a man based on looks and a small bio. I went on it for about two weeks and would get 30+ likes a day and it was 99% men just wanting sex. Rude comments, rude messages. It started to taint my view of men honestly. It’s toxic.

[@mrfake675]

Hope you find someone nice

[@melodymodica7922]

Dont give up hope, just keep strong boundaries, ask a lot of questions and take things slow. If a man is rushing things that is a red flag and he could be a narcissist! Also watch out for men trying to use women for money, I see nothing wrong with splitting a tab or buying small gifts if youve been dating a while. Be wary of younger men, not saying their all bad but Ive seen some talking badly about mature women. I say 10 years younger or 10 years older is good, a huge age gap relationship rarely last. It was years ago but I did meet a great man on online dating, only reason we didnt stay together was he lived far away but he never rushed me and we talked on the phone for almost 2 months before we had our first date in person. There are a lot of men using online dating because they work long hours, they are introverts and some work night shift and struggle to meet new people. Not everyone using online dating is bad. Also always meet in public at first to be safe!

[@DeportillegalAliens]

The reality is if a man finds you attractive the only thing he's thing about is banging you..this is natural

[@fionadale1011]

Dating apps can work if you approach them right. If you only swipe on 'thirst trap' pics, filtered pics, don't look for any aspect other than looks it's not going to work is it. Try to match someone with an equal social footing (what job do they do?) interests/ things in common. Family situation. Distance/practical aspects. The purpose is not to get laid asap or to feed your tiny ego it's to make a friend but this whole approach supports why dating apps are awful for women too - because the men on them are only after one thing and don't give a shit about you as a person!!!

[@iRespectMen]

Exactly. I don't know why once you let men in on something, they'll spoil it pretty quickly. They messed the whole OLD scene up and then complain that it's messed up.

[@GrandMalCsur-x1t]

Dating apps are like poker machines. Intermittent reinforcement. Then when you get all these matches, everyone has the paradox of choice. After you've dosed yourself up with dopamine, you naturally counter it. The come down mirrors depression. The texts are boring and repetitive. Yeah, I wasted too much time on these.

[@pimziengs2900]

Good video man! Especially the part about discipline: I am a very disciplined person and the moment I start using dating apps I loose my momentum and become very depressed in a short time. Making dating apps manageable is (most likely) impossible in my case, although I am very aware of how the algorithm works and dating apps in general. Something which I found out, but don't hear that much about it, is the following viscous cycle: 1. You want to date girls 2. You download a dating app 3. Your mind becomes a mess (depressed, anxious, awkward, cringe, etc) 4. You become unable to attain the girls because of this state of mind, even if you would meet girls via the app in case you are lucky! Also becoming more disciplined and getting on your purpose (whatever that might be for the individual case) is infinitely more fulfilling and generates true happiness for you and the people around you because you become a source instead of a sinkhole.

[@ekazan07]

Congrats my man! Dating apps are HUGE waste of time for the majority of men, and it speaks no value of who you are. Don't feed this bs system.

[@adrianskarpetis]

Hit the nail on the head.

[@ndz1748]

Crazy how relatable this has became especially in this last week… the odds of me finding this video has got me dumbfounded

[@adrianskarpetis]

haha no way!

[@faraazmohuddy2970]

It's better to take risk go outside hit the gym dressed up well walk with confidence just improve day by day the right woman will come with patience not instantly by the way I'm from Mauritius a small island in the indian ocean

[@adrianskarpetis]

Amen brother, keep self improving in all areas

[@dand6520]

Dating Apps is such a waste of time, regardless if you're successful or not. All that effort just for a ONS with a girl, is such a waste of time that you'll never get back.

[@adrianskarpetis]

100%

[@Mr_Banker222]

Well said

[@Adrian-bt4nf]

I think if you can naturally meet a decent woman thru day to day then it’s much better than dating apps

[@polycrase]

Most men would be ecstatic if these dating sites lead to hookups, instead of the ghosting, flaking and rejection that they experience from using them.

[@432hzjamz9]

they always lead to hookups for me, I'm just honest about what I want

[@chrisb3189]

@@432hzjamz9 What are you looks out of 10?

[@432hzjamz9]

@@chrisb3189 idk I have never asked to be ranked but I've never considered myself good looking.. fact is the more experiences I have with women the less I want them. The majority of them are genuinely evil while putting on a sweet facade.

[@KwertyKeys]

Maybe because they realise that you’re only there for hookups?

[@432hzjamz9]

Women love hookups too tho they just have to pretend that they don't due to societal standards

[@tygriffith7893]

They absolutely crush your confidence

[@D3emitz989]

Self improvement content is just as addictive and time consuming, especially for young men. Coaching, reading, learning all very positing but if you don’t execute it’s just a waste of time.

[@BlahBlahPoop617]

I think there is a an effect similar to selection bias effect but on dating apps and for women. Dating apps probably attracts mostly damaged and broken women. I mean, if you’re a pretty woman who isn’t as damaged yet, do you really need a dating app? No. You probably have no problem getting men in person initiating with you. I don’t think it’s possible to find mostly ‘normal’ women on dating apps. Of course, that’s not to say women are inherently different. They all have the same female nature looking for the best deal. But I think the ones in real life mostly have enough options via other social media or in person and haven’t been emotionally damaged enough to resort to dating apps. Dating apps seem to have mostly left over women who are at 30+ or approaching 30. By that time they have a higher body count and much emotional baggage from that. So they’re very jaded and bitter. Or the apps will have young feminist women who think they’re empowered to sleep around and drank the feminist kool aid, and probably have daddy issues. There are exceptions I am sure but those are the two groups which seem to be the majority of the women on dating apps. It really is a waste of time. Better meeting women first in real life because that way they can get a feel for your personality first because vibes and all that matters to women. Of course looks matter a lot too but if the guy looks handsome and like a bad boy but has a very ‘nice guy’ personality the woman will usually be turned off by that so that way they can get a feel for personality, etc. Another issue is that A LOT of the women on those dating apps only mainly use it for validation or ego boosts. Literally. They won’t date guys on there but just use it for validation. Also issue is that the algorithm favors women and discriminates against most of the average men on there so most average men who will get no to very few matches just end up giving the dating app makers money/profits despite being discriminated against. Most young men need to focus their best years on learning skills or getting a good education and making money and being established. Women are depreciating commodities. Investments aren’t. Women will always be there. Your time will NOT.

[@MichaelJames-dr2yo]

Are you saying that women don’t like men who have nice personalities?

[@LearnCompositionOnline]

Better late than never. I just spent 3 days of my life in this evil virus

[@DJTerrellRussell]

Deleted them brotha your right though. All the dates I've been on, all the money I've spent for me not to like them in the end or for us to break up within weeks is just not worth it......cold approach is the way to go..old school works great....make you fellas to present yourself well at all times dress nice up keep . You never know who you will run into out there !

[@Pete-q8b]

Great clip bro. Exactly what I was thinking earlier today.

[@DavidW-ux2gc]

I've met some good vvomen and had a few long-term relationships from the apps. But I've come off them since August as I needed a mental break. They're good if you know how to use them, but you can't overdo it. If you feel yourself becoming burnt out with them, then it's good to take a break. Apps should only be used as a supplement. I haven't approached a vvoman since 2012 as I became too reliant on the apps and for them to approach me. Too much of anything is not a good thing.

[@Crypto-Ninjaz]

Dating apps suck !

[@АлісіяБондарук]

I love this! Never used them once and never will. 😊

[@robertsmith2088]

I'm actually watching this video as a happily committed young man to a lovely person met offline two decades ago, looking at how horrible the scene is online. Also it seems less people are looking for love, romance, sex online than before due to the charges associated with them. Once upon a time people who were online looked desperate, but now people who pay a subscription to use online dating look desperate.

[@manuelalonsodominguezvazqu2145]

Thanks for this video, Adrian. It really resonated with my own experience.

[@adrianskarpetis]

Glad it was helpful!

[@IngridLennon-np4ds]

I downloaded a dating app after my 6 year relationship ended, took me close to a year. Went on one date, we were open about what we both wanted and everything seemed fine and now it’s crickets. Im only one date in and getting ghosted with no explanation, thinking there was a good connection. And this is after our date and him already planning on taking several other dates, still texting me a week after, and being so patient with working our schedules to finally meet. I’m already exhausted and I feel like I have no room to talk on my one date and it makes me want to delete it already.

[@MrLetmein2011]

Ditch apps guys please 🙏🏻 It’s a toxic distraction, it’s just competing and most of you are worth way more than this .

[@rippedkodiak]

Brother, just found your channel. Insane that people don't understand this. Subbed.Love the aussie accent!

[@adrianskarpetis]

Appreciate the support brother!

[@Sonicxis4ever]

Love his accent as well

[@cuongtang9539]

i don't use dating apps. if i want to date, i go outside to the wild.

[@powerjae4651]

I used dating apps 1 time realized they were dogshit and never will bother with them again.

[@Ludvio]

Thank you for this message

[@gh-sb1dy]

whats the best and worst dating apps you used? can you make a vidoe list of that?

[@krzysiok]

i've deleted all !

[@Gold.Circle.]

The apps don’t show your profile until you pay

[@adrianskarpetis]

interesting

[@Gold.Circle.]

@@adrianskarpetis the shadow banned me until I messaged them about it and even then I got not many matches. save your money. you are being scammed guys. and 4 years ago i was getting loads of matches. so it's not a matter of me not having a bad profile or photos.

[@TheOlzee]

The apps are a pain in the arse and they have so many female time wasters but there are still decent chicks to be found. Trouble is it’s not a 10min a day thing lol it takes a lot of time. I like to get on there go hard, hopefully find someone within a week and whether I do or don’t I delete it because they get addicting and beyond that point the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. And we can complain all we like about apps but even dating new bird after new bird is fcking tiresome. It’s all one big process in today’s era. It’s all geared in women’s favour, the men pretty much do all the work for little in return usually (what we get sex big deal, women give out sex big easily but to find a good useful woman?) etc etc. Bottom line is you’re either putting up with it and getting women or opting out and not getting any. That’s the two choices as I see it.

[@elyvenkus7485]

I was just about to try dating apps for the first time

[@STUDY-i2o]

What's your bodycount?

[@gh-sb1dy]

where do you recomend to meet partners then?

[@kamilmusalat]

Outside your house.

[@x-latetv-x6816]

​@@kamilmusalatspecifics

[@gh-sb1dy]

@@kamilmusalat okay but thers many areas outside the house. can you be more specific like outside in the driveway? or outside near the mailbox or outside near the trees or outside near the dog shet??

[@mitchspruyt]

Dude im 29 Albertan man.. when i got on tinder at 18... i literally would get close to 600+ matches in a period of 6 months maybe... bedded hundreds of attractive girls from 19-27. Nowadays tinder will not show ur profile unless u pay and only match u with very ugly wpmen or over 30.... from 600 matches to maybe 6 ... in thw same.period of time. Its degen behavior tho... time to wise up, i did that after 27.

[@Chickenpeek6342]

Holy fuck man. Count yourself lucky that you at least got a chance. I'm only 20 and started with tinder like 6 months ago. Only had 12 likes in 12 hours and then it stopped. Out of all of those likes only 2 girls were attractive. Well, nevertheless, none of the likes lead to anything more than flaking and ghosting from the girls. It really fucking sucks. I just get the feeling that I might never ever get a girlfriend, because I might not be enough. Yes, my pics sucked, but still

[@modafoka24]

@@Chickenpeek6342 I might never ever get a girlfriend, because I might not be enough. now dont believe that bro

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

Gross story. Trashy behaviour. 🤮

[@melodymodica7922]

@@A.D.I.I.D.A Women be wary, some of these men got stds!

[@fury3290]

​@@A.D.I.I.D.A It's generally how girls are.

[@greyox]

Adrian you are young, why not just do some looksmaxxing and up-dressing, then you don't need those apps at all.

[@Genevasplaytime]

Cleanse that phone brother ❤

[@adrianskarpetis]

yes brother, no degeneracy!

[@saurabhvimal1008]

My problem with dating app is once I get matches all I want is reply what to say what would she reply and fear of getting unmatched after every match

[@Ben-fc3pi]

Yes man