Why I Don't Drink

[@BOBSMITH-YouTubeStoleMyHandle]

Don't ever aplogize for being yourself. Drink or don't drink, its totally up to you and its really no ones business. Rock on man...

[@Grim_reviews]

I'm just going to say I'm proud of you for not giving in or doing something you don't want to

[@cranklabexplosion-labcentr8245]

As a casual drinker, and the lover of the taste of beer, it’s refreshing to hear from someone in the most based and non cynical way possible. We need more of these kinds of vids.

[@TheMetalAllfather]

Honestly yeah. I like beer because to me, it tastes good. I like pot because it eases my mind and helps me decompress from a lot of stress and anger caused by chronic depression, and Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. But hearing someone calmly explain, in the most non-bias way possible why they don't, and NOT be an asshole about it? Pretty fucking based.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Thank you, was hoping that would be how the message got across

[@riffsfromtheabyss666]

Agreed

[@magvs_mæstro216]

Right?

[@luissosa320]

Basically you're a bore!

[@colinrussell2017]

Alcohol: The only drug people think you have a problem with if you DON'T do it. Great video man!

[@stufterzrl7051]

I started drinking at 13 and went crazy for the past 3 years. I am now 16 and have been sober for 3 months now. It is really a words difference when you don't need to look around for hiden alchool the whole time, i have much more energy and my relationships with everyone are becoming better again. It's nice that you never took up drinking in the first place, despite being so influenced by it. Keep it up!

[@microwaveableselfie3421]

That’s awesome man!

[@georgepooploslovesme9227]

Our stories are so similar, the ages too, good luck to you 🙏🏽

[@copeenthuisiast5453]

At 13 thats very fucked up. Glad u got ur shit together

[@mikeviolate666]

Stay away from the booze bro I started drinking heavily at 18 I'm 34 now and still have my struggles. All alcohol dose is make life harder for people with additive personality. Keep up the good clean work kid 👏.

[@Volzotran]

@@copeenthuisiast5453 that is sadly the norm in Europe, most people I know start drinking at 14 (Germany), I personally drank the first time with 16 which is considered late here

[@leonardomontauti7072]

My already high respect for you has gotten even higher. I'm a straight edge guy in a little town in Italy, here the legal age for alcohol consumption is 18, but no one respects it so there are tons of people around my age or younger, who crave alcohol and love to be stupid not giving a shit on their health, and it's just sad. I'm often looked at as an outsider, but I'm proud of my decisions and I'm determined to stay sober.

[@Aleex553]

Bella Leonardoo

[@boneless4799]

Grande!

[@leonardomontauti7072]

Sono felice di vedere qualche italiano qui! Per farvi capire, la città di cui parlo è Teramo. Tranquilli, se non l'avete mai sentita, sappiate solo che si trova in Abruzzo. Molta gente qui dopo che sa che non bevo e non fumo mi dice:"ma allora che fai nella vita?" "oddio ma come ti diverti allora?" Rendiamoci conto della chiusura mentale e dell'ignoranza di sta gentaglia, e la cosa più brutta e preoccupante, è che sono tutti miei coetanei.

[@basswitch525]

@@leonardomontauti7072 bro qua è uguale ma con la keta porcodioooooo

[@leonardomontauti7072]

@@basswitch525 non oso immaginare il degrado

[@vivianfreites328]

It is super annoying when people just won't understand I don't drink. It really makes social interactions harder for my introverted self. I really appreciate this video

[@drankFoD]

shouldn't it make it easier?

[@BeelzeJon]

As a genuine fan and lover of drugs and music alike, it is always refreshing and very welcome to hear this sort of opinion. It's the sort of no BS, down to the core opinion that you'd like to hear more out of people, but for whatever reason, it's becoming increasingly more rare. Keep it up brotha \m/

[@meycredible4099]

Okay, I know probably no one will give a single crap but I have been in and out of addiction million times all before turning 20 so I'm giving myself the right to speak here. This video made me tear up. I personally started drinking to deal with potential bpd and depression. Not to mention stress from school and homophobia/biphobia. Almost my whole family has been an alcoholic or is related to someone who drank profusely. Over the summer of last year (2021 to be more specific) I fell into a deep despair of a shitty workplace, bad relationships, and sexual trauma. I won't go into deep detail here but it obviously messed me up big time. So I turned to the most obvious "solution": alcohol. At 19. It eventually turned out so bad that I had to literally warn people from making me drink. I had to cut a lot of people off for forcing me to forget my morals. This year I had a relapse. Arguments, almost getting kicked out and struggling with accepting myself followed by me coming out to my parents. I eventually pissed off to Germany but believe it or not, a couple of beers were what kept me basically "alive". I still struggle. I currently am not perfectly sober while typing this out but I hope one day I can fix this. That I can somehow leave this unhealthy coping mechanism behind me. That I can express myself and my emotions without having to numb myself beyond recognition. I'm sorry for writing a straight damn essay here. But maybe this is the right place to let this go. Thank you

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Hey thank you for writing. Keep on the straight and narrow, you got this

[@exit2exist676]

im so sorry to read this! pls know ur not alone and dont ever give up. u r apprecited and loved by our metal community. i truly hope life lifts for u. thank u for sharing ur story brother

[@meycredible4099]

@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Thanks man. Your videos helped me a lot already. Keep up the good work

[@burningbelow4424]

In recommend going to treatment. It's the only way an addict can recover, you can not do it alone

[@georgeohwell7428]

Why are you giving the sex thing a wide berth? It's like you traded the "power" alcohol gave you with "identity" and the fake propaganda "love machine" behind it. just by inserting LQBT stuff, Power/sense of control/attention is what it seems you seek to feel. You might be better off talking down to a dog with patronizing baby voices, what most people end up doing. They take it in stride and even kiss you. You do you and best of luck.

[@k6nny681]

I'm 19 years old and my mom died at 42 last month because of alcohol. Alcohol as been my ennemy ever since my mom started drinking, just the sight of a bottle of anything that has alcohol in it makes me sick. I've seen my own mother slowly destroy her life over the past 8 years and it basically destroyed a good part of my life too. I'll never drink and I think people should never start drinking as it's too dangerous even if you think you can control yourself. I'm happy to see that other people understand how bad it is.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Sorry for your loss. Way too young to lose a parent

[@Joe.888]

Sorry for your loss mate. I was 23 when I lost mine , same reason too. Stay strong. All the best.🤘

[@isaak1748]

My grandpa also died because of alcoholism when my mom was only 25, it's truly devastating to have to see your parents self destruct like that. I'm very sorry for your loss and hopefully you're healing!!

[@annetteslife]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom two years ago but it wasn't from alcohol use but a heart attack caused by obesity and uncontrolled diabetes. But my family lost a dear friend to chronic alcohol use in 92. This friend of ours drank four bottles of straight up Black Tower wine as well as several bottles of straight up vodka daily. He came to visit us about two weeks before he lost his battle he did not look healthy at all and he did was drink and there was no way could have been able to stop his drinking while at our house he was that far gone.

[@devboyd1783]

People are WAY too surprised when you state that you don't have any addictions or desire to do these substances socially. I like to have clear thoughts, I like to be aware, I don't need any substances to have a great time with people.

[@cdsmetalhead99]

🤓

[@jackson.6282]

Lots of people use because it numbs the pain of being alive. They look at you funny because the majority of people suffer to the point of feeling the need to numb it. Such as getting surgery. For instance I cannot make it without weed. I’ll self harm or do other erratic shit to suffice my addiction to feel something. So we look at you funny because you’re different. I cant relate to someone who doesn’t have to numb their pain, because clearly you haven’t suffered as much as me. We aren’t going to see eye to eye. And if you truely just have suffered balls to the wall sober, then congrats, but I find it highly unlikely than anyone can suffer to the point of ptsd and not end up using substance at some point, or coping with an unhealthy behavior, even if you are able to put it down. Long story short, we look at you funny because there is a clear and obviously massive gap in life experience. Trust me, you learn a lot going through the ringer with drugs, and that’s knowledge your never going to have. (Albeit maybe a good thing) because some people never learn and never grow.

[@ceilingfan6969]

Exactly !!!

[@user-mv2qq6lp2u]

@@cdsmetalhead99 🤡

[@thelonesurvivor3955]

@@cdsmetalhead99 fun fact,alcohol is a depressant,and getting rid of it also takes priority in your bodily functions,so less to no gains for you.

[@kevinbrooke8104]

I've gotten those same reactions for over 20 years. "What do you mean you don't drink, what do you do?" I'm begining to enjoy this question, as I list off my travels and adventures, and then I ask them what they've been doing. It always shut them up very quickly.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

All the money that they spend on beer could easily go to a concert ticket or a plane ticket. I’ve met a lot of my heroes and I’m not even 27 yet. Fuck staying home.

[@JohannaMirthless]

I'm a tattooed metalhead and don't drink either. Have not had a sip of alcohol in about 12 years. It was really difficult for me when I was younger (metalheads would often bully me and try to force me to drink) but now that I'm older, most people don't care anymore and if they do, they are not my friends!

[@MothAV]

As a recovering alcoholic I can say I have mad respect for you! Your strong willed and don't let yourself be influenced by others. You are awesome!

[@dfreeman13]

Hate the taste of alcohol myself. And I'm pre-diabetic. So alcohol is a no go. Got hit by a drunk driver as a kid. I still feel the effects to this day. So that almost completely turned me off from alcohol. My mom rarely drank because she saw how her parents were when they drank too much.

[@ThatsWhtasUp]

Damn. Me n da boyz all drive drunk drinking vidka right from the bottle💯💯😂

[@taratatatat]

I think it takes a lot of courage and balls to make a video like this. As someone who is on the verge of quitting drinking altogether, you hit every nail on the head!

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

You’re good enough without the bottle, I wish you luck!

[@thing8357]

As someone who drinks and smokes weed the amount of times I have been at functions and have seen the answer "no" be met with shock is ridiculous. Not everyone has to have vices in life and that's fine. And I despise how society treats drinking, I drink for a buzz and the taste not to get plastered, act like an idiot, and throw up on myself.

[@SwoleBenji]

I'm so glad to see someone with similar opinions as my own. What's funny is the algorithm sent me this video and I immediately clicked. For me, I think it's because I'm a super-taster, so alcohol just ruins any drink it's in. I never seen the point or purpose of "getting drunk." I'd rather be coherent and able bodied than all the negative side effects drinking has. It's super expensive compared to other regular drinks, has no health benefits, and everyone I've ever been around who drinks or does drugs are just worse off in every way. Great vid lad, glad to see someone openly make a video about this subject. I might have to do something similar for my audience and watch the metrics.

[@madisonknight7443]

Proud of you man, 👏🏻 I grew up seeing my mum struggle with alcoholism, I hardly drink now as an adult because of the cycle of mishaps I have seen through the no.1 role model growing up. Could write a memoir of my dear mum damaging cars from drink driving, being rushed to the hospital 3 times, neighbourhood drama, humiliation at parties ect ect. I find more joy going for walks after a meal, dancing to upbeat music and socialising over activities such as mini golf, pool and bowling. Alcohol and drugs not necessary.

[@HeathenDance]

Each individual has his/hers own personality and character. I'm 40 years old, and was a heavy drinker until I was 30. Obviously, drinking is bad for your health. Very bad. That's undisputed. That being said, I can honestly say, the stories, the memories, the epic episodes, that I gathered, thanks to those wild and intense party years, always involving drinking with friends and girlfriends, are something that I treasure very much. Also as a metalhead, playing in bands, and having like-wise groups of buddies. And it was not just the "wild stories." Also, cool, relaxed and deep conversations, having drinks at night, listening to some calm music. To each his own, some people are happy joining a monastery. To ME, personally, to paraphrase Jon Nodtveidt from Dissection: Open yourself for Chaos. I mean, I know it's the super fluffy duffy 21st century, but we're still metalheads, right? Alcohol is an important part of Metal music, for these reasons. James Hetfield, Dave Mustaine, Dimebag, Lemmy, etc. Hetfield and Mustaine stopped at the right time. I'm sure they treasure all the drinking memories as well. In any case, nowadays, with the intense internet social media, people simply don't need to search for the thrill anymore. Everything is available on-line, chatting with friends, dating girls, music albums, movies, etc. If it's good or bad? It's a matter of perception, I guess. Probably both. I think everything and everyone is becoming too tamed in my opinion.

[@lb1203]

My husband gave up drinking a little over a year ago now, and I gave up drinking almost completely as well. I indulge in a drink on special occasions, but it's always just one. And even lately I havn't even wanted one anymore... It's amazing how quick you loose that desire once you just make that choice to give it up. My husband was borderline alcoholic and he found a youtuber named Sober Leon that helped him out. His drinking was the main thing that actually caused us frustration as a couple and it was not an example either of us wanted for our kids. I gave into the pressure to drink as a young adult, good on you for standing your ground! It's weird how people almost take it as a personal attack that we've given up a vice and have bettered ourselves. It shows you how insecure people really are with their own drinking issues...

[@blackmetalhead5883]

Don't ever feel bad for not having bad habits like other people. Drinking and smoking does nothing but destroy your life anyway.

[@mistermoo7602]

Awesome upload 🤘 My best friend is a hardline straight edge metalhead I met in high school. He aligns a lot with your views here. I and many friends started smoking weed in college, but he hasn't left my side while staying true to his own values. I can't ever imagine calling him immature for his conviction. An absolute legend of a man, his kindness and his will are both bountiful and to be respected.

[@HSarwar422]

We all have our battles and I am going to face these changes a lot since I'm still a young teen but as an adult like u, I'm glad that your alcohol is MTN DEW and METAL! Ur an inspiration to me and I hope u keep staying healthy and strong. Rock on tony!

[@bezoticallyyours83]

Clean metal heads: Metal is the only drink i need! The next day: 😵‍💫 Oww...too much headbanging. :p

[@exit2exist676]

@@bezoticallyyours83 hahaha yesss

[@DanteD3ad]

Sober metalhead for life 🤙 I'm glad I'm not the only one dude

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Can’t wait to see your vlog!

[@weirdodingogaming]

Now i have a video to send to people who call me boring for it. As a 17yo teenage guy, here in my local area, the most common and cool thing is to start drinking at about 14 and also going to parties after 16. The amount of people who get injured by drunk people or even die of alcohol poisoning is crazy. Additionally, i hate parties. Loud terrible music with touchy drunk people who think everything is fine what they do, because they have an excuse for it (not even gonna start about the drug issue here). Sorry that I want to stay healthy mentally lmao You put it to words amazingly, thank you

[@dissolve3925]

Well said, I always hate it when people ask me why I don't drink or take drugs I just have no interest in it, I never have. Just because we don't want to consume these substances as a form of escapism doesn't mean we are stuck-up or holier than thou.

[@i.cant.sleep.anymore]

Idk why KZbin suggested this to me but I clicked immediately. I also don't drink at all, and I hate being around it because I know I'm going to get slack for it. It's like you not drinking causes other people to feel guilty and they get annoyed at you for it. Bizarre. Subscribed, I like your vibe 🤘 Edit: the part about dating - yes!! When I say I don't want to be around alcohol, I mean it!

[@helenafreitas4467]

Been in metal concerts since I was 14 years old, never did drugs, never smoked, hate the taste of beer, music is what gave me the high and euphoria I needed. If you're a young metal head, don't fall for the peer PRESSURE bulshit, use ear protection, stay healthy and enjoy the music!

[@brad2299]

2 months sober here after drinking for 17 years, and I can agree with pretty much every single thing you've said here. It took me a long time to really see the forest for the trees, and I'm never going back to how I was. I was one of those "party" metalheads who felt like part of my onstage persona was being drunk and obnoxious, which I thought equaled "funny and entertaining", but now I realize I was just acting stupid and people were more just laughing AT me, not WITH me. Now my health is improving, my weight is dropping like crazy, I've got more energy, no more headaches/hangovers, and my emotions are way more stable. Hell, my music output has increased drastically as well; I honestly don't know how I was putting out music before at all when now I want to write stuff just about every day. People who pressure you to drink with them are just trying to drag you down into their misery, even if they don't consciously realize it. My advice to ANYONE who is curious about alcohol is just simply: Don't do it, It's absolutely not worth it. Best case scenario is you end up hating it and never drink again. Worst case scenario is you get addicted and you start craving it for the rest of your life. Alcoholism is a very slow, sad death, and it affects everyone around you as well as yourself. If someone wants to have a drink or two once a week or so, then whatever. But NEVER make a habit out of it, and don't ever feel pressured by friends or family to drink just to fit in.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

I’m glad things are better for you now, congrats!

[@Mrig12000]

Oct1 was my 2 years of sobriety. You can do it stay the course and accept you will never drink ever again good luck my friend.

[@apparitionindustries]

I love seeing a video like this. I am almost 23 and have also never drank. Ive taken probably less than a dozen sips of alcohol throughout my life and I have yet to have a drink I like. I decided not to drink cause I have a very addictive and extreme personality and I know any drugs or alcohol I would go wayyyy overboard with. People tell me I will change all the time or that I'm avoiding alcohol to feel superior to other people. Its sad that just because I am choosing to avoid something that I know would ruin me gets so heavily judged and misconstrued. I had a good friend tell me they didn't trust people who wouldnt do drugs or alcohol cause "they must be hiding someting". My family didnt have any abuse issues when I was growing up either, this is an entirely personal choice cause I know how I am with things and taking things to a level of extremity thats not ok. I also have a very outgoing personality and I have never struggled with social anxiety so I still love going out with friends to dance and meet new people and all that jazz. All my best friends drink and thats no issue with me cause they can all control it. They never care that I dint drink, actually they love it cause I am always down to DD and nobody feels like theyre missing out :) There arent many of us out there who chose to not try any drugs or alcohol from day 1 so its refreshing to know other people get the same shit for it. I totally agree its so annoying having to constantly explain myself to the "why dont you drink" question. So over it

[@iachtulhu1420]

Hi from a straight edge metal punk guy! Very similar story to yours. I never drank. Ok, I tried few things early on but didn't stick with me. In early high school days my metal buddies were demolishing themselves with can after can of beer. I was out of sync for a while and I felt bad for not having the desire or need to blend in with drinking. For a while I got peer pressure stupidity, even from my own parents, but after I while I got even more opposed to it 'cause I saw it as a form of social conditioning. At first I hated that shit, but then I understood it as a form of my own little rebelliousness and I wore it as a badge. Next stage, I dropped the idea that I'm in any way, shape or form, superior to anybody else because of my stance on substances. Now, I'm pretty regular dude of 36, I can hang with any kind of crowd, drinkers, smokers, straighters, and I don't feel out of place, not because I'm really not, but because I stopped caring. I don't preach, don't bother people with my own stance on this, I just do my thing. I remember all of my parties, am sane and able, don't have hangovers, issues that go with alcohol use (be it health related or other general reasons) and I like myself having some control over myself (not too much control, being a control freak isn't good :)). So kudos to you. I sense that we are rare, especially in metal community.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Thank you for typing this! Good to hear from ya

[@Regurgitated_bat]

Oh my god you just said what's been in my mind my whole entire life! I love these videos of you just talking to us, keep up the great work!

[@supahspartan64]

Absolutely based. I enjoy drinking in social settings, but I never enjoyed going over my limits. I think there's a certain glorification in our culture of drinking a lot or trying to get as drunk as possible, and that's unhealthy, and I think people that consume alcohol ought to establish some limits for themselves when drinking.

[@johnmcaulay5938]

I haven't drunk alcohol in over 32 years. I just lost the taste for it. I can't stand it. I drink Coke, Irn Bru and coffee. I'm happy with that.

[@itzkool4]

Well, I've never seen someone that honest about alcohol or drinking in like years, i personally don't drink and never did and never will, and seeing someone on KZbin talking like this about all the bad affects drinking could cause to someone even if they weren't hurting anybody is a helluva way to show me that life still got people who avoid stuff out of human sense and not try and get addicted to them just for human pleasure 👍🙂

[@RetroEduardo]

I don’t drink. It’s just not my thing. All my good friends left me because of how honest I am of not drinking. I’m glad I’m not alone.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

They’re not friends, trash took itself out

[@van.hanson]

Fuckin’ preach 🤘. I’ve been told that I’m boring and that nobody likes me because I don’t do drugs or get drunk. But they’ve never experienced what I had to go through at a young age with my father, watching him ruin his life, but then many years later fixing everything. I’ve known too many people ruin their lives or tragically die from this. I’ve also been designated driver and been told by BARTENDERS and peers that they don’t respect my sober decisions. Fuck all of that shit. I stand with Killbot here. If anybody reading this is recovering from alcohol or substance abuse or on your way to recovery, I wish you all the best.

[@cookiesontoast9981]

My wife has never drank in her life, not once. She just thinks it's stupid and irresponsible. Me personally I only ever drink on special occasions, parties with my friends which only happens like once a year, my wedding, wedding anniversaries etc. Any other time I prefer not to drink, I'm rarely in the mood and as you said most of the time it's unnecessary when other drinks just taste better anyway. You are definitely right about people who just drink for fun and have no meaningful hobbies.. I honestly can't imagine life without hobbies.. In the towns I grew up in every Friday and Saturday night is "let's get as drunk as possible" night. Every. Friday. And. Saturday.. the entire town.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Also some of the towns I stayed in over time

[@isaak1748]

As someone who has struggled with alcohol and drug addiction since I was 14 and to this day I'm still on and off in my addiction, I absolutely respect and understand you. Alcohol is such a slippery slope and there are some people who can just drink once in a while, there's other people like myself who can't. Sometimes it's better to simply not drink because you never know how your mind and body are going to react to it, I was addicted ever since I tried the first sip of alcohol and quickly I started doing drugs too. It has destroyed my life not just socially considering that I've hurt my family and friends, but also my body. I have very poor cognitive skills from taking drugs and drinking in my most crucial developing years. The fact that someone would ask you why you don't want to drink is wild to me.

[@AcidDischarge]

I’m glad you talked about this. I quit alcohol and cigarettes since 2019, life is much better. It’s true, you find out quickly who your real friends are when you tell them you’ve quit the party lifestyle. The ones who are still doing drugs and drinking don’t wanna hang out with you anymore or want anything to do with you. I used it to suppress all my trauma and emotions that I didn’t want to go through or deal with. The worst part was I became Nihilistic with Narcissistic and Sociopathic Tendencies. Once I quit all that, I no longer am any of those things. Metal music,my girlfriend and a lot of talk therapy saved me from that hell I put myself in. Alcohol and cigarettes had to go

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

I’m happy for you, man. Keep fighting the good fight

[@AcidDischarge]

@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack I will \m/ >< \m/

[@desmondvanecko2343]

This is one of my new favorite videos from you. I’ve wanted to drink and smoke when I was in middle school but after I started high school and getting into the local music scene in my area I saw so many people doing drugs and drinking and acting like idiots. I’m already a dumbass and I don’t need the shit that just kills you from the inside for years to do that

[@gandora9649]

It’s legitimately refreshing to hear about another metalhead that’s also always been against drinking. Specifically the current drinking culture. Honestly, I’ve always seen it as a complete waste of time and one of the worst methods of escaping your problems. It was kinda difficult when I was younger seeing some of my friends become so engrossed in the whole idea of getting drunk every week, spending a huge chunk of their paycheck on beer, and waking up with a terrible hangover the next day. They also became kinda boring as all they wanted to do was go to a bar. I wondered “What happened to going to a new restaurant? Going to a concert? Going to a movie? Playing a new game? Reading a new book?” Here’s to a life of sobriety!

[@johnstoner666]

I’m an alcoholic. People are far better off not drinking alcohol in about every way. I’m proud to say I’m working on my problem. I have many loved ones to help my problem around me. You’re a sound man.

[@n7grenadieryt]

I come from a longe line of alcohol distributors. Your stance is good and reminds me of what my uncle used to say. Don’t drink to forget or to solve your problems , drink to have fun if you want to.

[@nvthedrummer]

This is a beautiful video, dude. I am also a non-drinker and I consider myself a straight edge person. Why would I drink? I'm not a big party person, but I could just go to a party and go crazy without even drinking alcohol. I can be a fun person without alcohol. I do have friends and fellow family members that are casual drinkers. For me, there's no point in drinking. There are so many other things in the world except alcohol. Without alcohol, I can focus on important things in my life (college studies, work, my family, physical and mental health)

[@steenbeanl7170]

Yeah, I can relate to the alcoholic parents.. But they were functional, and so they hid it well in public. Home was a whole other world. I respect your opinion about not drinking. It’s nobody’s business Thanks for posting about this

[@edwardsilver5640]

The first show I saw you at without your Grandpa I asked hoe old you were and bought you a shot. I hope you didn’t feel any pressure to drink it! I have close family with substance abuse issues so I don’t pressure anymore else knowingly. Good on you for being true to yourself.🖤

[@loco_hogg133]

I am a drinker but I never push it on anyone and never ask if someone drinks. I will offer a drink if they say no for whatever reason I respect that it is a great thing you don't drink you aren't missing anything 🤘

[@tonyhawk1948]

I really admire you for posting this kind of video, it's a great example for younger ppl

[@harlowroad413]

This felt good to hear bro, Sometimes I start to feel alone because of how common getting wasted is in your 20s. Been straight edge since I was 16. And every time I tried to give a girlfriend who drinks a chance it never works out. I gotta be more cautious of that.

[@ImperatorGrausam]

Something I personally can relate to. I'm sure this comment will be extremely confessional but whatever, it's the Internet, and I hide behind my profile picture. I've sworn off all recreational drugs, including even the most "tame" like tobacco. I've many reasons for it myself. One's that I'm religious, another is that I have many addicts in my family and I've seen first hand how addiction ruins lives, and also because I just want to keep my mind completely sober after having experienced multiple psychotic episodes from 2017 to 2019. My brain already has problems, and I fear even the most tame of "mental lubricants" could worsen my condition. I admire that in speaking about this topic, you aren't doing it from a perspective of looking down on others, or rather that you're better than them because you don't drink. This sort of perspective, especially here on KZbin, where it seems many love putting others down, is rather fresh and I deeply respect it. I love your vids man, keep it up.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Putting other people down isn’t the answer, I find. Actually was apprehensive about putting this up because I’m not used to doing videos like this. But, figured it would reach people. Glad you’re doing better now!

[@ImperatorGrausam]

@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack I appreciate it man. It definitely reached me, and the points you mentioned resonated deeply with me.

[@RaduBigGun]

I don't drink too! I quit it years ago. I was never an alcoholic. Great video!

[@BlackSailPass_GuitarCovers]

@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Right on, man. I quit this year. P.S. Banning alcohol wouldn't work for a variety of reasons, but banning alcohol _advertising_ and getting big alcohol money out of politics are two massive steps we could take to minimise the damage it causes to society.

[@ToTheGateway]

You are such a strong and powerful individual! We sure as hell need more people like you 🤘🤘

[@somekid7]

Tomorrow I'll be 3 years sober. I can't lie, there are still days where my migraines and stress are so bad that I want to blackout, but I'm grateful for the people in my life who make me not want to give in. I'm glad I found people who don't make me miserable, because I was surrounded by extremely toxic people for a long time. I had to cut off from them for my own safety and mental well-being. I was proudly straight-edge as a teen. I hung around drinkers and potheads but I was afraid of my father's violent punishments and scared that my trauma mixed with addiction would either turn me into a monster or kill me. Then, a lot happened where I ran away from my dad, moved far away from all my friends and started living a new life with my mom's side of the family. I went to therapy and became an adult. I was still straight-edge and proud, because fear of punishment wasn't a factor anymore. However, when I turned 21, I lied to myself by thinking I could get into social-drinking. I still had a lot of trauma to work through, and after a few months of trying alcohol, I drank it more and more. I think I stopped caring about being straight-edge because I wasn't connected with anyone else who was either. There was no accountability. I felt that I could change myself if I wanted to. It was hard living as an adult with C-PTSD from violent childhood abuse. After I moved, my friends kept slipping away and I was depressed. I was poor and had very few options in life. Alcohol became my escape. For the first year, I only drank to get buzzed, and got drunk at special events. Then for the next 4 years, I drank almost every day. I didn't have a lot of responsibilities so I only hurt myself and worried some friends. I quit cold turkey every few months, but it didn't last long. I loved drinking. I loved the taste of so many types of alcohol. I was a proud alcoholic. I was poor and worked too much, so I was a functional alcoholic. My bosses always told me I was one of the hardest workers. People in my life constantly told me I was smart and talented. From an early age, I had a lot of knowledge about things adults didn't know, but I think I just wanted the approval I was denied from my dad. I got it. I got attention, friends, romantic relationships through my talents. I thought of myself as a person with a lot of self-control, and the people around me said the same. I was very good at hiding my addiction, but over time I surrounded myself with people who accepted my addiction so I didn't have to hide anymore. Two of those friends are now dead, and I don't talk to the others anymore. I used to drink at work with coworkers, but after I moved again, I vowed to not drink at work anymore. However, I started drinking as soon as I finished my shifts. I took the bus/train, so drinking was easy. The day I got sober was the morning after I blacked out and got picked up by the cops after I slipped on some ice while walking home. I got home and puked all over the bathroom floor in front of my landlord, and I cleaned it up while I was still drunk. After I woke up the next morning, I couldn't find my keys so I thought my landlord decided to kick me out. Thankfully she didn't, but I decided to go to a secular AA group for the first time. (I'm not religious and I was sick of religion because my dad was a Christian pastor, so it was nice to find a secular group.) Then the pandemic happened and I couldn't go to AA anymore. I haven't gone to another meeting since. It's different for everyone, but thankfully I've been able to stay sober without one. I've met some great people in my recovery. I'm still poor and still suffering from C-PTSD since I haven't been able to afford therapy in many years. Some days are extremely difficult. I still have migraines as bad as the worst hangovers I had. But I stay sober because I know from personal experience that my life would get way worse than it already is. I have some things I'm grateful for, and some hope. It's enough to keeo me going. All that said, I don't consider anyone dumb or weak for falling into addiction. None of us asked for this. Addiction has been one of the most studied phenomenons in the science of psychology, and it almost always points to lack of emotional support/warmth/fulfillment in your life. Many of us were denied that because we were poor, minorities, disabled, etc. Anyway, thanks for reading.

[@notarussianbot9435]

Great job sticking to your goal, overcoming an addiction is highly admirable. Any addiction indicates an abandonment of free will, as we basically become slaves to whatever our vice of choice is. It is truly amazing when someone is able to pull themselves out of that trap and able to live with intent again. I'll bet you will stay straight since you seem to know yourself. Bravo, mate 👏

[@ThatFantasyPenguin]

Dude good for you! I hate how turning down a beer at a concert makes you less of a man in peoples eyes.

[@randomdudewholikesmusic1640]

Living in a small town, there is no recreational acfivities, but there is 2 bars and a liquor store. The amount of people I've seen fighting over cases of beer, throwing empty cans at cars, and stumbling around in dirty clothes is astounding, and alcoholism in my family is a definite reason I stay clean.

[@justinboisvert3231]

Good for you man I barely drink but I sometimes smoke weed😅 Instead of being drunk and ruin peoples fun I sometimes smoke and be in my bubble

[@simpjkee]

I'm alcoholic/addict and been sober for 12 years. I thoroughly enjoyed this video.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Congrats on your sobriety!

[@fuzzcityrecords432]

Wow, we thought we were complete anomalies not being drinkers. The looks, faces, and reactions we get when we reject a drink are as if we are freaks of nature... some sort of space travelers from a different dimension that don't belong here. It's comforting to know we're not alone! Thanks for making this video

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Thanks for watching!! :)

[@ProTobigen]

As someone who occasionally has a single fruity drink(1-2 a month if that), and has gotten high, and never drinks to get drunk, honestly man, fair, and good on you for sticking to it. You have shit in your life, that's none of other people's deal, and values, and that's good. And yeah, alcoholism is a major issue, and drinking heavily fucks with you socially, physically, and mentally. My grandfather was an alchoholic and drug addict, and it was horrid. It's understandable you wouldn't date someone who drinks. And honestly, you're just saving yourself money and uneeded risk on sticking your course. So good on you.

[@TheReddShinobi13]

I personally usually only drink one or two beers, or one mixed fruity drink. Even then, it's almost always socially. Beyond that, I don't do it often for three reasons 1. Alcoholism runs in my family. 2. I'm part native american, and a lot of us don't have the enzymes needed for alcohol consumption 3. I just don't really care to drink

[@TheMaxx111]

You are spot on. I used to drink when I was younger and thought it was fun but when I turned 21 it lost the forbidden fruit appeal and I realized it just made me tired and sloppy. I am not against altering my state or using drugs but alcohol has a really bad effect, tired, sloppy and not getting things done. I like the taste of alcoholic drinks but just hate the stupid sloppy way it make me feel. I hate all the cross examination you get from people when you tell them you don't drink. I will smoke cannabis, sniff cocaine, etc. but alcohol is just not my drug...Why is this so hard for people to accept?

[@Ethan-ct2px]

I like to have an ice cold beer after work or when I'm hanging out with a friend who also drinks, but that's about it. I usually have one drink and I never get drunk. I've seen what alcoholism has done to some of the people in my life, not to mention there's a history of alcoholism in my family. I know my limit and I'm never gonna cross it.

[@barrywalker673]

Denial plays a huge part in many alcoholics lives. I know, I drank heavily for most of my adult life. I have 1-3 beers on a rare occasion these days but when I was younger I raised hell like it was going out of style. I lied to my parents, my ex-wife and others to hide the real amounts of alcohol I had consumed. I lied about the amount of money I wasted to get wasted too. I lied to myself too many times to remember. It definitely made my life far more difficult than need be and I paid a huge toll amongst my peers thoughts of me. I commend the self discipline that you conveyed here in this video. Nice.

[@elephantman2112]

First video I've seen from you. Even though I occasionally drink, I agree with you completely.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Welcome to the channel!! Plenty to explore

[@lepreconvict3606]

I 100% agree with the point you made at 6:45 - 6:55 ... I drink and do other things, but I always manage to keep my finances under control, more than most of my peers, anyway. People are always asking me for money, even if they have jobs and earn pretty much the same as me. It's because they abuse alcohol and other substances so much that they end up broke like 3 or 4 days before their next pay day. They don't understand that they have to SAVE FOR THEIR FUTURE!!!! It bothers me how many people can't see alcohol and substance abuse as a cause for their own financial problems.

[@EncoreASMR]

Better to be sober than an addict.

[@honkmaster]

Addiction runs in my family. The amount of horrible stories I've heard because of drugs and alcohol outnumber the happy ones. I've been lucky to have a mother who understands the horrible things a substance can do. She stopped me from self harming and drinking before it became a problem, and I'm grateful for that. One thing to remember is that once you become an addict, you never stop being an addict. You can stop doing drugs, but that need will always exist somewhere in your brain.

[@jmutil]

Some people are too messed up and stupid to realize that you can have fun in life without drugs or alcohol. Anyone who thinks that you can't have fun in life without drinking or doing any forms of drugs is a complete idiot. Real friends would appreciate you if you were sober, not go against it. I'm glad i've never had a sip of beer in my life. There should be a switch in everyone's body that goes off and shocks you if you say "Why don't you drink".

[@kellydailey1633]

Yes! Thanks so much for the video Tony, and thanks for standing up for what you believe in. I've had similar experiences with alcohol and it's not worth it. I will have an occasional beer, and I cannot stress the word OCCASIONAL any further than this, like maybe only every few months and I will limit myself to just one. It's all about moderation. And it's too bad can't be happy with that. And being a huge Doors fan, I can't help to wonder what might have been if Jim had stayed off the bottle.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Those last two Doors albums would’ve been much better, that’s for sure

[@MaiiOrduna]

I never liked the taste of alcohol either and never wanted to try to "get used to it", I don't smoke or do drugs and I'm actually happy I'm not addicted to anything. It's also a dealbreaker for me when people smoke or drink too much. Glad I'm not the only one on this boat.

[@krisamagus1]

you are addicted to some things, just like everyone else in this world. Don't lie to yourself, it is contraproductive.

[@josippoljak7561]

Dude, you just perfectly explained how I feel towards alcohol and drugs, like 1/1. Being a 20-something non drinker in the Balkans is a lonely experience, so seeing people express these opinions is actually encouraging. Thankfully, no one in my family drinks (except like, a glass of wine or champagne here or there), but some of my "friends" could never get over me not drinking.

[@ZackMorris1015]

I used to be an addict. Weed, pills, alcohol. I never did any of them at the same time though. Haven't touched pills since 2014. Haven't drank since 2021 And Haven't smoked bud since 2020 after developing psychosis with paranoia from it. Because of the psychosis from weed I was put on anti-psychotics and then switched to schizophrenic medication. Been completely sober for 2 years and 4 months now. But the damage is already done and I have to live with the consequences for the rest of my life. Lesson learned.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Keep it up, man

[@ZackMorris1015]

@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Thanks, Tony.

[@Owlpunk]

As someone who used to drink way too much, but still drinks occasionally, and *also* smokes a lot of weed: I'm genuinely envious about people like you, who can make it through this world without chemical assistance.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

It’s easier if you never start, I think. I’ve never smoked a full cigarette, so I’ll never know what it’s like to be hooked on them

[@asafoetidajones8181]

I was straight edge from 13 to 31. Definitely motivated by punk and hardcore, not just sober without that context. I found my gf in bed with a longtime friend and started drinking as a hissyfit over it. I became a bad alcoholic almost instantly. Five years later, I was drinking a whole bottle of whiskey daily (old crow, 13.99). That's like. Idk. 400 dollars a month? Got fat, red face, loner, shit attitude. I got sober again for my kid. Quit when she was a year old. She may not get a happy, successful father but she gets a sober one instead of a waste of a man or nothing at all. I still don't do any dangerous drugs, although I use sleep meds, anxiety med, etc for viable reasons. The label "Straight Edge" and all the hc culture baggage isn't important but sobriety by any name is powerful and important.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Sorry about your ex and “friend.” But hey, you made it out now, good job!

[@copeenthuisiast5453]

Hit the gym man

[@dalejrfan1971]

@Killbot&GorGorAttack!! Hi there, I've been a metal head ever since I was 12 years old, I'm now 51 years old. I really enjoy watching your videos. I have severe chronic lower back and neck pain. Most nights I can't sleep because of my chronic pain. I binge watch your videos when I can't sleep. Watching your videos helps me forget about my chronic pain. Thank you for making your videos.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Thank you for watching!!

[@gwynbleidd9000]

Neck pain from head banging? ;)

[@alexkozik3796]

Anyone who likes heavy metal is not boring! Used to drink more but now only drink in moderation meaning 2 drinks a day but usually only 1. I can tell you losing weight staying thin and not feeling like shit all the time is a good enough reason. Not to mention all the money I save that I can use to buy more metal albums. Your smart not to even touch the stuff.

[@vviimusic]

Yes, hearing / reading about how many musicians struggled with drugs and alcohol sucks. I’m not sure how so many even tried to function on this through binging!

[@SYCKNTWISTED]

Always walk your own path, Tony!!!! PROPS!!!!

[@blackveil3669]

Growing up , I've dealt with an alcoholic father the majority of my life and still do to this day ( he was never abusive , just he has a drinking problem ) , And now being at the age of 21 years old I feel guilty just drinking casually on the weekends because of what my father has gone through ( and sometimes I don't even want to drink at all cause of what my father is going through ) , Sure he is " sober" now and trying to quit drinking which is good but once in a while he will have these little out burst behind closed doors where he is fending for alcohol ... idk man its a weird situation for me , thank you for uploading this video @killbot&GorGorAttack , i will try to just take it one day at a time...

[@Ishouldprobablyhidemynamelol]

I can completely understand why people drink but I personally want to have as much control over my actions as possible.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Same here

[@MrT6R6E6Y6]

Got a DUI ten years ago, been sober ever since.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

A DUI will do that to ya. I knew a guy who had 3 by the age of 21

[@theofficialneonxe5310]

I've always told people anyone can enjoy events or be metal without alcohol

[@DeceiverDawg99]

Whenever people ask me why I don't drink, I just tell them it's for a myriad of reasons.

[@IronBioMass]

Much respect to you, man. I also steer clear from drugs and alcohol (I come from 2 parents that were addicts) and I always get shocked responses when I say I don't do anyt of those things. Just the smell of smoke and alcohol gives me a headache. 🤕

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Room full of smokers, I gotta step outside. Headaches!

[@mikeviolate666]

I'm a metal head and an alcoholic and am working on stopping drinking thanks for the video killbot 🤘

[@lo0ser555]

i grew up in a small town. drinking and drugs was all everyone i knew did. from very young ages even, it wasnt strange to see a 15 year old on speed. i've never done drugs, hated they way their ruined their lives. many people have tried to get me to do drugs. luckily i am stubborn as fuck and the more you tell me to do something the less likely i'll do it. i did struggle with self harm at that time. and drank alcohol for a while. but really strictly only at parties. somewhere in my process of quitting self harm. i cought myself replacing it with alcohol. the moment i noticed that i stopped drinking too. never drank another sip of alcohol since. i've been sober for 12 years now. but i really hate answering people why i choose to be sober. i have good reasons. but you shoulnt even need good reasons to want to live a healthier life.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Glad you’re doing better now

[@foxen666]

Thank you for this honest video and sharing these wise words with the metal scene! My ex made fun of me for not drinking much, while self-pitying himself for drinking too much. Oh and of course drinking at a metal festival or concert is mandatory. It made no sense at all. As I actually like the taste of cocktails, I do make some for me and my friends every now and then. I used to make some for him too, but stopped when he told me he felt like he's drinking too much beer especially when he's home alone. So one day I didn't make any while I visited him, because I didn't want to contribute to that problem, he even admitted he had. Then he blamed me for "never making any cocktails for him".. which was totally not true. It made me angry and sad, when I realised then that people who drink too much tend to forget that so many other things in life can be more importantly and fun than alcohol. Instead they get upset when they don't get a drink every time when they meet their once loved ones. Here in Germany I often get the impression that many people in the metal scene are boring and brainless beer worshippers. I don't mind it when people around me get drunk, however I do judge them when they imply that I am having less fun because I'm less drunk or sobber. And don't dare to make fun of me for ordering a Soda at a show...arghggg

[@joeylo3543]

Yes! Never touched drugs or alcohol ever too!🤘

[@simonek1371]

I agree with you on numerous points. I've also never tried alcohol, smoking or anything similar, and I'm not planning on doing it in the future either. Appreciate the video, keep up the good work!

[@salvatorevitale138]

It's so funny I came across this video, because this is me in a nutshell.

[@ronny-2112]

It is very good that you care about your mental and physical health. Human beings fall into trying to fit into social groups that repeat socially accepted patterns of stupid behaviors, but when you reach adulthood you get a job, responsibilities come, and then maturity, so you think "why do I have to drink to fit in with my friends or to get new friends, or girlfriends?". I don't want to please anyone but myself, and that includes my physical and mental health, so I ended up feeling good about not trying to follow social patterns that seem stupid to me like drugs. I also came to this thought after analyzing the speeches that Henry Rollins and Ian MacKay always give, who are "straight edge" guys, and always talk about being far from vices of all kinds to try to be mentally, physically and socially healthy people. The elites that run society want people who are weak, easy to manipulate, stunned by vices, the internet, etc. Why should we allow them to manipulate us like this?. We better not fall into their game, and not fall into their traps.

[@KillbotAndGorGorAttack]

Believe it or not, Kiss was a good voice for me on the anti-drug thing. I was/am a Kiss fan, and hearing Gene and Paul talk about being anti-drug and how Ace and Peter squandered their fortunes solidified my views

[@ronny-2112]

@@KillbotAndGorGorAttack Am a KISS fan too and totally agree with Gene on that.

[@mimic4844]

I can't agree with you more mate.I really hate the way how alcohol is involved in this society.When I was in primary school my classmates that were like 11 or 12 years old have already started drinking and smoking and I was almost the only one who didn't do that.As a result I never really fit in and got bullied a lot of time.The same thing happened in high school and also when I started to work.I feel like the only way to make friends these days is to just get drunk,...and you know what? Fuck that,I really enjoy my solitude and I have a lot of free time for my hobbies.I went to black metal concert one night and I was probably the only guy in the entire bar who didn't drink or smoke ,thinking to myself -screw that,I'm here just for the music.The best way to treat an addiction is to never start with it,... Anyway sorry for this long comment,I've really enjoyed this video mate.

[@buried_in_oblivion]

Preach, sober since '08 wish it hadn't taken f*cking up my life first. Doing much, much better today, thanks to me not giving a flaccid sh*t about anyone else's opinion on the subject anymore. You have some excellent, extremely valid points in this video.

[@tickedoffnow]

can we be friends? I don't know where to find other people that don't drink it seems almost impossible these days

[@garywinthorp4387]

Oh shit I kinda forgot ab this guy. Glad I rediscovered And as an occasional drinker and average cannabis enjoyer I highly respect your decision making. Even if you hate drinking it's easy to be swayed be peers. Stay sober and much love🖤

[@Luk4zguy97]

I think it's great that you don't drink alcohol. Personally I enjoy it. To each their own.

[@NikkiTrip]

Sober for one year and five months now, and never going back. Life is so much better now without using drinking as an escape. I'll take my music and video games over that shit.