Why I Don't Feel Excited | Tessa & Dodie

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[@erinriley3912]

i love how they both follow heavy statements with "eeeahhh" noises and dramatic gestures, i feel that

[@lucymoon]

i loved this!! vulnerability rules

[@Succer]

Hello Lucy, you're pretty cool and beautiful.

[@polyritmo]

@@Succer lol...

[@Ellellevlog]

Friendship goals. Love it. Adorable.

[@Ellellevlog]

I want Dodie to do my makeup!

[@pageturner242]

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[@rositarose7928]

they are nt gay?

[@msmusik2]

Do you ever get those feelings youd click with people so well if you ever met? I feel like id be such good friends with them if we ever met!

[@teskedeschepper]

Gosh Tessa I can relate SO much to the 'not feeling excited' thing. It feels like some kind of self defense mechanism, preventing the feeling of disappointment. I love these kind of chatty videos.

[@briannalanzen3749]

Mental health tip that helped me loads: When you're scared to feel excited, see the excitement as a separate entity, disconnected from the cause of the excitement. Because being excited is so pleasant, let the fact that you are excited suffice so that there is no pressure on the actual event. I hope that makes sense :)

[@tessaviolet]

yes i like this

[@PokeySoggybottom]

Excellent advice! A somewhat parallel idea and a lovely mantra to live your life by is 'carpe diem'. The definition actually encompasses more than just 'seize the day'. Here's how Merriam-Webster defines it: carpe diem: the enjoyment of the pleasures of the moment without concern for the future.

[@sofiamorehead418]

Question: how would one do that? It sounds like a wonderful idea, but I'm not sure how to go about accomplishing that...

[@martinsakmens8352]

You Perfect day and video tessa violet ☕🌹🍹🌹❤️♥️👍

[@martinsakmens8352]

You beautiful woman you tessa violet ☕☕ good figurē cool figure and dodie clark cool figure and tessa violet ☕ good figurē cool figure and tessa violet ☕ good figurē ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ you beautiful figurē and you eyes fantastic ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@estiez2217]

I just love the way Tessa talks. Like the words she uses and how she uses them it's just really nice to listen to. Am I being weird? She's just very intellectual and clear spoken

[@sydn9737]

pluto and charon I agree!!!

[@hanninhahfp]

Omg tessa's talking voice is so different from her singing one, I had never heard it before and I'm a little shocked now tbh

[@samhawk6709]

Hannah Paskin same lol I don’t really like it

[@ICOEPR]

great chat :)

[@David-np2gb]

oh hey its a sammipoll hello

[@tessaviolet]

U

[@MrKevsta999]

You two should make a podcast. I love listening to the two of you just talk to each other!!

[@zannahlu]

👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

[@ghostgnome7629]

👍👍👍

[@brendalee2383]

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[@steph3448]

love you girl! 😍😍

[@mikaylarasnick]

i agree zannah

[@wot3356]

got em

[@nitroneonicman]

This needs to be a series

[@lennytrue8576]

YES YES YESSS

[@Callmethespaceman]

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[@sarar5646]

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[@mythics102]

yes pleASE

[@Msfamou]

you guys are so cute together

[@dakotastroud9198]

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[@itslaiza8077]

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[@crisk75]

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[@samhawk6709]

They aren’t dating

[@madihindson1614]

DODIE IS MAKING AN EP WHAT WHAT WHAT HOW DID I JUST FIND OUT ABOUT THIS AHH ITS GONNA BE SO GOOD!!!!!

[@Ellellevlog]

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[@jetstream6745]

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[@letsbestrange9807]

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[@Orcagirl54]

I JUST FOUND OUT TOO BUT OML

[@bees7525]

AAAAAAAAAA

[@Elbrownn]

Why was this so relaxing

[@tessaviolet]

[@Helga-fe5xl]

ASMR?

[@AbigailJoyyy]

I love listening to you speak Tessa. This may be your first "sit down-ish video" but I'm in love. Also, Dodie you're great because you're you and I love you forever and always.

[@AbigailJoyyy]

I just love this because it just feels like two friends having a nice chat. (Or three, if I include myself ;))

[@tessaviolet]

+Abigail Cunningham ❤️

[@edenoforion]

I'm so incredibly happy that I'm in tears. That's happened a lot actually. I feel like I'm sitting with friends just talking about anything. When ever I watch you and Dodie's videos recently I try not to happy cry but I do. You guys just make me so happy and you're such lovely sunshine angel dorks. I'm so excited to see you guys in Nashville. Since it's the day before Halloween I kinda wanna dress up but if no one else does Imma melt into embarrassment even though I know no one will judge me because of this wonderful audience of people that you guys have. Ugh decision! Look cute and adorable or look cute dressed as Dil Howlter or a Skeleton or a Mermaid but feel like poo if no one else dresses up..?

[@edenoforion]

Also apologies for my habit of run-on sentences.

[@Jesse0Lucas]

It shouldn't be a problem to dress jp as something if you can convince some friends to do the same. Or just post your idea on the subreddit and ask if someone else wants to do it aswell

[@suhnlit3884]

omg I know exactly how u feel :') i love KZbinr s like Dodie. She makes me feel like I'm at home and just hanging out with friends and it's really calming.

[@idgafiminfinite]

Aww I love you two and seeing you guys open up and comfort each other and just chat is so nice and calming. It seems like you have a very good impact on each other's lives!

[@tessaviolet]

[@pageturner242]

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[@estherrichelle9147]

agreed! this was so candid and sweet.

[@ArielMcCleary]

To listen to both of you talk to each other in this setting is so real and honest. I love it. I also can relate so much to Tessa's feelings on releasing your musical creations out into the world and being vulnerable with it. Really awesome video!!

[@SOSKate]

I didn't know if I would be interested in this video at first, as I'm personally not a make-up kind of girl, so watching tutorials or other people putting it on doesn't do much for me, even if they're channels I like. However, I loved the conversation and ended up watching the whole thing! You're both lovely and kind women, and I related very heavily with you Tessa, in particular on creativity and the safe space you create for yourself. I often create with the mindset of "No one will see it, so I can create this for me and be satisfied!" but I think the bad side of that is that letting your work go is 10x harder. There is suddenly feedback, online and offline, and you start to question yourself on something you were originally very proud of. Keep trying hard to work on it. This video was relaxing and great!

[@tessaviolet]

+SOSKate yeah and I guess it's hard to to feel not like your art is being critiqued, but that your taste is being questioned. There is literally nothing I would change about my EP but it's hard to wrestle with people saying "you made bad choices." But even within that I'm like haha THATS LIFE BAEBEYYYYY (but still! Hard!)

[@PellitoMusic]

Haha same, I liked this video even if I´am male :D ...it was so fun to watch :)

[@Abijean]

Gosh, I really love your friendship so much. It's been so fun to watch it grow! This fall will be so awesome for you all with EPs and tours and things :D As far as getting excited about things, I think I have the opposite problem. I make up these plans for how things will go and get very excited about whatever event in my head... and then inevitably feel let down when it doesn't live up to those dreams. It's weird.

[@ErdTirdMans]

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[@briannalanzen3749]

I commented this separately for Tessa and Dodie but I wanted to make sure you could see it as I think it would be really helpful : When you're scared to feel excited, see the excitement as a separate entity, disconnected from the cause of the excitement. Because being excited is so pleasant, let the fact that you are excited suffice so that there is no pressure on the actual event. I hope that makes sense :)

[@Abijean]

This is a really helpful concept! I've never thought about separating things out like that but I can definitely see why it would be a good idea in this case! Thank you for the advice and for taking the time to comment it here as well :)

[@briannalanzen3749]

I'm glad I could help! :)

[@eh8772]

The chat was great and cute, but it just kept bothering me that Dodie only put the foundation halfway up Tessa's forehead for some reason haha

[@AndreaCardenas]

Same 😂

[@indieconquers]

LAWL same thought it was justme

[@alondra9111]

saaammeee, I thought I was being crazy

[@annbellgrau]

Me too, and the tip of her nose bothered me too for some reason ;D

[@TheMarijaSunshine]

Same!!

[@sidbell2722]

I love Dodie Clark. I discovered her on 8tracks and has been a fan since..Her voice just puts my mind to ease

[@nelebrng3924]

I really love how honest and real you two are

[@misshaack]

They way you phrase things and your voice combined is just so very soothing!

[@tessaviolet]

[@SnoConeWars]

I loved how Tessa kept moving her eyebrows while Dodie was trying to do them

[@misstonix]

you're both lovely and you spoke about things that i relate to and feel that no one ever really talks about and i'm glad you did this

[@tessaviolet]

[@adab3ar291]

I love watching you guys when it rains because it's just so soothing

[@eldritch.madness]

"[Falling in love] is a willingness to be seen and rejected, but it's not just that; It's hoping you won't be." ~Tessa Violet, 2016 That hit me right in the chest.

[@JustMeAlicexo]

I normally don't feel excited like you Tessa but, this tour is giving me the perfect moment to be like AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! (Hopefully) see you in New York!

[@tessaviolet]

+neverlandrogue hope to see you there

[@MementoMoriarty]

+Tessa Violet I feel deeply ashamed to type this, but it's twenty one pilots. you are supposed to spell it out.

[@mjgautrau3167]

SEE YOU IN NYC

[@JustRaboHD]

+Charles Damon no you dont you can say tøp or top

[@MementoMoriarty]

+Rabondo I was referring to the numerals. You can say top or tøp but you can't say 21p. you are supposed to use the letters not numerals.

[@DanaAndersen]

People that can make messy hair look good make me so jealous

[@Ellellevlog]

My hair has been a mess everyday recently. It does not look good.

[@tessaviolet]

that's funny because I feel the same way.

[@DanaAndersen]

100% promise you both look great

[@freedomsfuckinfree]

You are amazing. Keep making music. You are so beautiful. And you just made a pun. You are awesome

[@martinsakmens8352]

Dodie clark and tessa violet good morning you ☕☕❤️ ilove beautiful eyes fantastic ♥️ good morning ☕☕❤️ good you figurē 💋💋💃💃💋 kisses sweet kisses you

[@OneTimeIWentToTheZoo]

That's some hard core friendship goals right there. You both are so beautiful and lovely and your souls just mix so well together.

[@vvictoriasmr]

"Have the courage to be happy" is something we used to recite in my drama class. I hope you do Tessa.

[@thewinterizzy]

This was downright mesmerizing. I'm not a makeup person but I like listening to you talk. And as it turns out, I love watching other people put on makeup and talk together, apparently. I adore what you said about allowing yourself to feel excited, or sad and disappointed if be. Definitely one of my favorite videos you've ever put out. Your gals' friendship is beautiful.

[@PearlSparkles]

I'm a young stupid mess I don't care I don't stress But people say I should They say that the worlds new I shouldn't be blue But let's be real I have different feelings too There's just one that I'm missing They say be delighted But I just don't feel excited They ask me why They think I'm daft You can't miss a feeling You have the whole pack And you can say things you can call me short-sighted But I don't feel excited I'm feeling grief They say it's weird I just don't know I feel things like fear But the one I don't have Is the one people hold so dear

[@avery-kz1bx]

Pearl S this is amazing!!

[@Velocitist]

this brilliant

[@sophswell]

i just put chords to that and HOLY CRAP it’s so pretty

[@emilybeckley921]

This is so good, plEase keep writing

[@SlRIUSBLACK]

Im just gonna make a tune for this real quick...

[@lovewins19]

That makes so much sense! You feel like your grieving! Exactly

[@hannahuang8981]

YOU HAVE AN EP COMING OUT DODIE HAS AN EP COMING OUT I AM SO FLUFFING EXCITED FOR NEW TESSA AND DODIE MUSIC AAAAAAAA I CAN'T WAIT

[@tessaviolet]

+Hanna Huang ❤️❤️❤️

[@DaPaKa]

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[@gabriel-dx9hw]

You need to do more talky rambly videos like this you're incredibly intelligent and well-spoken and I enjoyed this a lot

[@nadiakeaton5680]

i agree

[@audreylasaten]

i feel so comfortable while watching this i felt like you're just talking to me and sharing your thoughts, your voices are so comforting not in a weird way lol

[@gabyfenwick3104]

1. Dodie looks so good in this video 2. DODIE YOU'RE MAKING AN EP AHHH 3. TESSA YOU'RE MAKING AN EP AHHH

[@emilylivingstone8968]

This is so incredibly sad and real, I can relate on the feelings too much:(

[@emilylivingstone8968]

You're both so wise and gorgeous too

[@fryingpan1014]

I SPIT OUT MY DRINK WHEN DODIE MENTIONED HER EP IM YELLIN IM SO EXCITED

[@helenedmunds2932]

Loved the video!! Its very nice and comforting to hear yall talk about things i feel and go through and know i'm not the only one!

[@thecron8485]

I see your comments at Andrea Mitchell's videos

[@RachelAnn]

I LOVE the dynamic of the two of you together. Beautiful darlings.

[@brillistar]

I loved how honest this video was. A lot of times people on youtube seem very fake and friendships seem forced but I could tell you two were very honest in everything you meant.

[@LeighAnneMarie]

This was such a deep conversation. Please do more talks about vulnerability, allowing yourself to be happy, etc. I really relate to everything you were saying, Tessa!

[@chlowaiii]

ok but tessa, you saying "i refuse to be excited about anything until its happening" oh GOD that is so me i lit never feel genuinely excited for anything until i'm actually doing it bc of the possibility that something could go wrong its sUCH A PAIN

[@sk8rgirlo]

I really love how deep your conversations get, it's really nice to hear you two being so honest together!

[@christianpeebles6394]

I love this video so much, Im literally crying because of how much I relate to it and how genuine you two are being and its just so.. perfect!

[@jbkjbk1999]

Dodie's rant about overthinking happiness and not being excited i was like OH BOY THATS ME

[@aliceh.8390]

wondering if the EP is going to have a physical version.. and you two are so nice together! it was a 10/10 video

[@tessaviolet]

Thanks, Alice!

[@kerriohs]

I come back and watch this every once in a while because I have the same struggles with vulnerability and trusting others (don't we all) and this really helps me check in with myself and feel like I'm not alone in this struggle.

[@NatalieEng113]

This entire video was a couple of people who i really admire tossing back and forth feelings and ideas i SO relate to and it's so nice to know other people, especially people you admire, feel the same way

[@SamWest96]

Oh my goodness Tessa, I've never heard anyone express how I'm feeling. I left my job in May to pursue a career as an actor/singer and I've been finding it really difficult to apply for stuff and go to auditions. You've summed up why - it's so much easier to live in my head with my dream roles, than accept my skill level and also that the industry doesn't want me to succeed the way I do. Thank you for expressing these thoughts!

[@SamWest96]

Got to the end - with the vulnerability of being excited thing - I guess I'm going in at the deep end because I'm planning an impromptu trip to Australia to see a guy I haven't seen in 6 months and also my brother who I haven't seen in nearly 2 years and I'm SOOOOO EXCITED!!! I can't not be! Because even if nothing comes of the trip romantically, I still get to see Australia for the first time and hug my brother and his kids so it'll still be awesome!

[@ClaudiaManiac]

This video could not have come at a more perfect time for me! I'm starting University next week and I'm not letting myself get excited for it at all because I'm only thinking about what will go wrong. This made me realize that it's okay to be excited and also terrified for what's to come so thank you and I love you both! :)

[@tessaviolet]

Yes! Feel big! Dare greatly! I recommend the TedTalk by Brene Brown called The Sweaty Creative. (it's on KZbin)

[@Zoye123456789]

I was crying so hard and in an extremely dark place, then I turned on this video. I'm so calm and feel so at peace right now, thank you.

[@kisscoreysass]

Putting music out there is a lot like putting your heart out there. The tie in about not letting yourself be in a position where you have to depend on others hit home. I have a hard time trusting people. I don't wanna be vulnerable but if I never am all anyone is gonna get to know are the walls I put up. Good food for thought!

[@Crystalpinkyx]

Fun drinking game: Every time dodie touches/ruffles her hair you take a shot

[@sydn9737]

Ruthie Hulme you would be so drunk lol 😂

[@petalphan]

Tessa reminds me of Pearl.

[@petalphan]

from Steven Universe. lol

[@chiefbrady5030]

YES pearl is my favorite character too :)

[@nargleish]

agreed.

[@JaliKat]

OMG THAT NEW EPISODE THO Stevonnie's voice I'm so shook

[@lemongacha]

Yes!!!

[@soldeglo]

I'm so glad that I had this in my brain before I released my first EP and album. It helped me so so much.

[@claremarie2652]

EVERYTHING about this video is so precious and pure and I love it.

[@BeardDesignfx]

I really would love a podcast with you two :3

[@pageturner242]

Tessa I love that you couldn't resist ending with a moral

[@tessaviolet]

+Nat Slogg haha

[@pageturner242]

#branding

[@Chikorita2Chante]

Came back to rewatch. This is so nice and calming. You are (at least on camera) very good together and I could just listen you talk for hours.

[@Thekhajjah]

You two are always amazing together. Thanks for sharing

[@e.osborn4047]

A DODIE EP WHAT OMG WHAT IM DYING YES YES YES AHHHH

[@e.osborn4047]

and a tessa ep what OMG HDWH3WJDJGHY5EFD

[@SamHerrera]

actual friendship goals

[@PaytonWyatt]

i love these two people and i loved what they talk about and i love how they made a meaningful video and i just really loved this. wow.

[@oliviathomas8818]

This was so insanely calming, both of you just help me relax so thank you

[@graceindia8877]

IM SORRY WHAT DODIE IS GONNA HAVE AN EP. I CRY.

[@graceindia8877]

OMG AND SO DOES TESSA. I CRY AGAIN. SO EXCITE

[@maddy-pj3oh]

WIAT WTF I AM JUST NOW FINDING OUT ABOUT DODS EP

[@Emmaline1224]

This conversation is so raw! I truly love how you open up to your audience. You let us in and let us understand how you are feeling. I think that most things said in this video was very relatable and you actually put it in words...so thank you! (:

[@user-gi8zx9de3u]

okay honestly I'm sO HYPED for both of your EPs I just

[@WaistHighView]

This was so pleasant, like I was sitting there chatting with you. You're so wise, and thoughtful, and just hearing your thought process makes me reflect on mine in such a positive way. This really struck me at SitC; it just felt like you really wanted to hear why my day hadn't been great, even though I was just going to brush it off as a joke, and it meant a lot.

[@Ellellevlog]

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[@tessaviolet]

Thank you, Espen, that's so kind. I wish I'd gotten to spend more time with you this trip. I might be back in December and we can try again!

[@WaistHighView]

For sure!

[@junebug.mp3]

Tessa omfg u talking about releasing something is so beautiful I love that ... I want that on a t shirt or something that's beautiful Mmk yeah

[@tessaviolet]

[@catsbakecookies9862]

I have the same problem with not letting myself feel excited about things and it's nice to know that I'm not alone in that. I love it whenever you two collab and just talk about life and real problems. It's always refreshing and helps me so much. :)

[@maybeillmakeit]

this video was so calming. I loved everything about it ♡ thank you for everything

[@alexthuene2806]

the first 30 seconds ft. dodie fixing her hair

[@ourevilone]

I thought a curmudgeon was a Pokemon.

[@sarahburgess7306]

Hahahahahaha!

[@yamfaceon]

This is one of those videos that I know I'll be coming back to watch it again and again. Your insights are genuinely so helpful. xx

[@omelettedebanana]

The aesthetic of your videos are so pretty and calming.

[@KatyAdelson]

I hope you guys come more out west sometime and visit Colorado! =)

[@mythics102]

me: *starts to ship it a lil* dodie: it's like falling in love me: *STARTS TO SHIP IT A LOT*

[@isabellacampbell6523]

OMG DODIE'S HAIR WHEN SHE MOVED IT TO THE LEFT KILLS ME WHY SHE SO GORGEOUS

[@SuperMusicalPassion1]

this is the coolest video. i love how natural it is for you to talk to each other and that its not just surface level stuff. ahhh I love you both. 💛

[@lukew3385]

I'm from new York and couldn't go to your last show in NY because is was 16+ so I got really excited you're back on tour but the ny venue this time is 18+, I'm 15, fml

[@jay-doyle]

Same, but I'm going to the one in Ohio because it's not that far from where I live in NY and it's all ages

[@tragicmoth152]

Come. To. Michigan. Sometime. In. My. Life. Time. Please. Also I want to make a gif out of that wink, Tessa

[@pageturner242]

+ THIS THIS THIS PLZ COME TO THE COLD WATERY PENINSULA LANDS

[@sonicdoor9955]

YESSSSSSSS

[@sonicdoor9955]

PLEASE COME!!! ... Thank you

[@tragicmoth152]

Watery peninsula 😂

[@kayakb]

PLEASE

[@ghostlingbud]

these type of videos are so relaxing, just two people talking and enjoying each others company.

[@lottiexox951]

I adore all the collaborations that you and dodie have made! your friendship is so adorable ! Xx

[@Sugaplumnoja]

I couldn't pay attention to them talking cause I was too busy looking at how dode did Tessa's make up and how she didn't blend the foundation on her four head and how she kept going back-and-forth on the eyeshadow, i'm not hating on the way she did the make up it's just that I was too focused on it and I'm a perfectionist don't get me wrong I love Dode

[@Sugaplumnoja]

Dodie*

[@trishaj8472]

Noha M this is all I could focus on aswell, I've come to see if anyone else noticed it aswell 😂

[@black-rose4014]

I wish I could talk to my friend about this stuff but she already has so much on her shoulders

[@elizabethklaers]

Black Rose I know I'm a lil late, but I totally agree. Like my best friend is struggling with depression and I just have lil episodes here and there. But, it would be nice to still talk about them but I don't want her to think or worry about anymore than what is nessacary in her mind.

[@sayruh2794]

1. Your videos are always so pretty and calming. I always feel so much better after watching your stuff. 2. This reminded me a lot of when I used to hang out with friends back in the day and do each other's makeup and talk about personal stuff and help each other out. Thank you so much for letting us into this little part of your life, Tessa. 💖

[@bethkennedy973]

I need more videos like this xx it calms me for some odd and bizarre reason xx just like cause your so laid back and comfortable talking to each other and the fact you are doing makeup as well is just so relaxing ! Aha I sound insane but loved it !

[@shanni0604]

"I don't have any foundation *smiles cuz she's got perfect skin

[@mujercita3304]

Are we allowed to ship them ?

[@Jesse0Lucas]

Better not to ask, but just to do

[@acompletefool]

Tedie

[@alyaafatehah7818]

Mujercita if Tessa is a bi, or lesbian. then yes, cause dodie's bi

[@oddtop5122]

Mujercita oh I really ship them though

[@icap.7166]

sorry guys tessa's dating rusty clanton

[@rebekahsands9360]

You and Dodie always make me smile. Hope you're having a lovely day. ❤️

[@clue111]

I love your guys candid talk about your mental health. It isn't directly related to mine but hearing about it makes we wanna be more frank with others I know about my own issues. Hope both of you are really doing well and I can't wait for the EP!

[@flippa00md]

Re-watching this video I realised I think tessa sounds a lot like pearl from Steven universe? Maybe it was just a specific part lol

[@blueboy697]

Sorta looks it too tbh

[@audreybannister]

Holy shit you’re both so right

[@eowyndorethy1933]

I thought tessa was drinking olive juice at the beginning of the video

[@Raya-xw5ud]

This is just the sweetest and most wonderful thing ever! #FriendshipGoals

[@mschiefmoony5398]

just seeing them talking about deep stuff makes me really happy