Why I Dropped Out of College & Why It's Okay to Fail

[@C0nejaa]

College isn't for everyone. A lot of my high school teachers say that. Some people are meant to achieve things without having to go to college.

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

Exactly!

[@AllThingsKen]

dumb comment

[@celestegarcia8903]

Parallax Peak no, it is the truth.

[@AllThingsKen]

sounds like an excuse not to go to school lol

[@celestegarcia8903]

Parallax Peak school isn't everyone's calling. you cant program all human beings to want school as their goal.

[@LongCOVIDAdvocator]

Who else was anxiously overwhelmed at college, because you have social anxiety? :(

[@caroline-pm4mo]

im still in high school but im dreading college so much because of how socially anxious i am. every day at school is hell for me and im always on the verge of crying

[@annagreiner5167]

yasssss girl

[@jumpman2326]

Andres Ugale Me

[@me7058]

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[@Lilyyth62825]

I'm only in highschool and I'm already overthinking about college :(

[@kaymonet4249]

People always say, "Go to college first and then follow your dreams." I tried that. I went into college, being optimistic about it and found myself completely depressed and stuck. School has never been for me. So I left. I thought there was something wrong with me for not finishing-that only made me more depressed. I lost weight because of it. I was in a very dark place. Sometimes you aren't meant for normalcy or mediocrity. And that is okay.

[@Angelramirez-nv4ce]

I agree you right I was like this to

[@maryammahmood4375]

I feel exactly the same way 😔

[@itshazzybee]

This is me rn! If i pass my class ill fail myself, I may be able to face my parents but not myself. My major makes me want to cry and stay asleep for days...Its completely different from what i expected. Its not that i hate Finance or Accounting its just that i absolutely despise the whole system and course structure. I hate it sm. I am a bright student so me feeling like a complete failure is alien to me but its ok! I just took the wrong path to the right destination. I have my finals today so lets see how that goes.

[@Plavokosi_Marko98]

I was in IT course but a year ago I dropped out of college at second year st age of 22. I am currently crying because I feel like I will not be able to survive on my own without a certain skill. I am working for a delivery as a cyclist, and I make an okay salary but still I wish I was programmer but I dropped out due to the stress, anxiety and depression. I was in very bad state of mind. I regret dropping out cause I wasted years and money amd want to go back to finish it but I understand that mentall illnesses were too much for me and caused me to drop out. 😢😭

[@horizon5677]

Going and graduating from college it's not mediocre, you know.

[@anna7543]

As a teacher I feel ashamed watching this and I feel the need to apologize even though we don't even live in the same part of the world. Education is supposed to be empowering and create tools to use further on in life. I try so hard to keep my classes relevant to my students and to put emphasis on the learning process instead of the end result. I always ask them to show me their drafts, sources, mind maps or notes so that we can discuss their work before they hand it in bc I want them to know that learning isn't static. And yet there are so many with the same profession as me who teach the same classes for 20 years and take pride in that F they get to give to some students. It makes me sad.

[@jeanp.5929]

What do you teach by the way?

[@anna7543]

Jean-Eider Pierre-Louis I teach English and Swedish for upper secondary school students (in Sweden, but perhaps that goes without saying).

[@witneyh9353]

This is so crazy that you're a Swedish teacher... I moved to Sweden from the UK after leaving my Bachalors place at University for Biomedicine. I left to follow my own dream however I have really been struggling to integrate here and finding a teachers who care about helping people learn the language. I went to SFI but it was around the time many refugees came so my class became so full that we didn't have enough teachers, so I had to start again. The teachers also didn't WANT us to succeed or integrate. They mocked us if we tried to find work and refused to test us and prepare lessons for us. I am in the process of designing a page for other students who come to Sweden with all the information I have learned. I am glad you take pride in teaching your language and hope to find a teacher like you.

[@anna7543]

Amina I don't know what to say other than that I am so sorry for your awful experience. Good luck on your project!

[@TheQueenPsChannel]

Anna Zäll I have a teacher now who is the bane of my existence. She’s such a negative and downing spirit, and I dread any form of structured writing and English courses because of her. I used to like English courses, but she had sucked all of the life out of the courses for me.

[@cafeonmars6731]

College doesn't even guarantee success !!

[@chantalsworld6229]

I know that's right!!!

[@naleenishyes5544]

CafeOnMars sure doesn't

[@kaielyse9313]

C people who major in the medical field are guaranteed success?? lol your major doesnt even play that big of a role, its about how hard you work. thats what she said in the video.

[@yagirlkayy5060]

C Okay, you brought race into something that had absolutely nothing to do with it, but you white people swear everyone else is race-baiting. Get a fucking life you moron and mind the business that pays you, idiot 🙄

[@paigeellifrits6270]

C you’re a racist piece of literal shit. Fuck you

[@lacreme3084]

I dropped out of college and since then i worked for NBC Wendy Williams VH1 MBFW Bravo and now Travel Channel. My friends who graduated with the same major are substitute teachers not knocking them but just saying its about ya hustle and the most creative ppl always drop out. I cried and drank a bottle of henny then got back to business

[@jkeyahhiggins3876]

HER z what's your IF. can we network

[@alexiswhitley4510]

HER z what if being a substitute teacher was their goal? Lol you have to start somewhere

[@emmarose7491]

HER z How did you get the job without a college degree? This is inspiring.

[@lacreme3084]

Alexis Whitley then id assume theyd go to school to be a teacher -_- . They want to work in the television industry thats what they went to school for thats still their goal.

[@lacreme3084]

Emma Rose i interned for a few months @ jerry springer/steve wilkos and worked my ass off till they offered me a job (as to how i got in without a degree - basically i went to a community college and signed up JUST for an internship course [one class three credits] so i could get the "credit" that was required to intern- basically i planned to lose money for that internship cause initially it wasnt paid). You have to be diligent about what you want and speak things into existence. I took that chance of paying $300 or whatever the course was just to intern and i worked my ass off and they offered me a job a few months into my internship.

[@Nvynzell]

“So what’s the point of wasting your time on something that doesn’t make you happy, when you can still fail at it?” YES AMEN

[@nicoley.7429]

I literally typed in "college is making me miserable" and found your video. Because I've been contemplating dropping out. And you speak so much truth here. So much truth. Much love to you.

[@nanamahalo5019]

What are u doing now?

[@astoldbyivy]

I needed this! Everyone in my family has graduated college and when it came time for me to graduate high school, the thought of college was the last thing on my mind. I expressed to my family that college was not for me but next thing I know I'm in college. I feel as though I'm going to school for my family and not myself. My honest goal in life is to just be happy ❤️❤️

[@Cho0segoose]

its the same for me

[@rascal211]

Are you going to be happy unemployed or working at walmart because without college options are not good?

[@jeremiahasa8652]

Ivy Aplerh same but if I find another way maybe trade or something. I might out happiness has always been important to me. I just don’t want to spend my young years going after things I really feel dont matter

[@pheeuh]

same..

[@lexirogers5523]

i totally get this

[@jackksterr]

Thank you for sharing this. I dropped out of college after my first semester( I was just turning 19) just bc I knew in my heart that I was not happy, wasn't benefiting from the major AND classes I was taking, and I was miserable to even get up and go. I didn't want to open up to anyone about it bc most of my friends & family are in college, & I just knew they and my parents would scold me for being "lazy" or "going through a phase" as well. It was never a phase, I never had the drive since I was little to go to college. I always dreamed of being my own boss. I am so thankful I did what I did bc even though it did upset my parents at first with my decision, I saved myself from being in TONS of debt, stressing over a major that I didn't even want to commit to, and being stuck in a place I had no motivation to grow and progress from. Now I am chasing my dreams, saving more money than ever, so happy everyday I wake up, and leaving for a makeup academy in NYC spring of 2018!!! I am so happy & thank God for shedding light into my life with this huge decision. I was so depressed bc I seen everyone seem so content with their lives settling for what is deemed as "normal" in society. Go to school, get a degree, have a family.. settle. I refused to be content with that lifestyle, and made the scariest decision of my life. To be different. I pray all of you who have been up countless nights thinking about what to do with your lives, go out there and chase it. If you don't, might as well let another person take that chance.

[@kianamoore6850]

I needed this I'm in college at the moment and feel so pressured to do nursing because they "make good money" but I have this strange feeling im not meant to work a 9-5 , idk what I'm supposed to be doing but i feel it isn't that. I love psychology and criminology but I've always had this dream of opening my own boutique and doing youtube but I'm from a small town and everyone here goes to college.

[@Nina-856]

@@kianamoore6850 There are majors that are related to what you want. You can have a look at that.

[@anelanedeljkovic7454]

Can you give me your instagram? I felt exactly like you and I have same dreams, to save money and go to mua academy. Did you achieve this?

[@cheenu2193]

I feel you how miserable is it. When you don't even have the power to wake up and go to college.

[@ataberdi2064]

So inspirational story. Congrats on your grit and bravery❤🙂, And what are you doing right now?

[@TennehSillah]

"You have to control the things you can control, because there are a lot of things we can't control" amazing

[@MentalHealthForUs]

Failing has been my biggest teacher in life. If you are not failing, you are not making any attempt at progression!

[@IsomerSoma]

" If you are not failing, you are not making any attempt at progression!" That's a useful believe but it's also false.

[@virtualsof]

You give me hope.

[@ElleNovak]

honestly Asia you are one of the most put together, smart, and inspiring people I know.

[@Cho0segoose]

My parents want me to go to college and be a engineer but i highkey wana dropout and make music cause i just feel like im meant to inspire others

[@hina-5401]

TruckZone this is exactly how I feel

[@Nina-856]

Then go for it. But there are still majors or programs for music. You can try that. It will at least get you started on something. My sister is in music production btw and it's going great.

[@julissahernandez1413]

TruckZone Do it!! Look into a music school, or certain programs that focus on music specifically that'll help you get to where you want to be. Good luck! 😊

[@lifeasthekingg9441]

Aye be the best damn rapper/producer you can be

[@sajaniskanthan9402]

You only have one life, parents think of children’s of extensions of themselves, but you are your own person, and also your parents are gonna die half way through your life so ur just stuck with some career u hate.

[@SushiFairy]

I'm so glad you made this video! I'm also emotional, especially this month 😭. I've been feeling a bit sad lately because I feel like I should've accomplished more for my age. But, everyone's progress is different. You inspire me to work harder! Thank you and congratulations on your play button! ☺️💕

[@kealoha1234]

I just want to say thank you. I've been depressed for awhile because I've been comparing myself to others around me. I have felt like I've been a disappointment for awhile because I'm not at the same place as people my age. I left my 4 year university after one year, went to community college, and I was supposed to apply to transfer this fall. I messed up for two semesters and dropped my GPA like crazy so I can't transfer to the schools that I want to transfer to. It seems like I have to stay at the community college for two more years so I can get my AA and raise my GPA. I was supposed to graduate from my 4 year university next year. By the time I graduate, I might be in college for 6 or more years just to get my bachelors. I have to accept that I'm going at my own pace and that I shouldn't push myself too much or I'll burn out and get even more discouraged. Your video is what I needed to see today. I will achieve my goals of working in the music industry at my own pace. Just because I don't graduate college in 4 years doesn't mean that I am less of a person. I may have messed up my GPA, but that doesn't mean that it's the end of the world. Life goes on and I must move with it. I have to put in the work. I'll make it when I make it. I have to get rid of this mentality that I'll expire. I don't have to achieve all of my goals instantly. It takes time and work. Thank you for reminding me.

[@kealoha1234]

Update: I found out that I can do academic renewal! Keep your head up, everyone. Keep pushing. Keep hustling.

[@brennahasselmann8075]

Jade what is academic renewal ? Can you now graduate in 4 years instead of 6?

[@Nina-856]

I have been dealing with this as well. I compare my self to those that are full time students and to those that have jobs as well, and those that can manage their time better that I can. I had to quit my job because I really need to focus on school. I am FAILING. I've been taking college classes at my own pace as well, but I've learned that everyone is different. Some of us take longer to achieve our goals other don't. It was difficult accepting that. I had gone through dark times as well. It had led me to dark thoughts, but I thank God that he still gives me the courage, faith to continue to work hard even if I have doubted my self, which I still do, and I have fallen many, many times. I haven't been attending one of my classes anymore, and it's finals week. I have literally given up on that certain class. I know I will have to retake it again (I had taken it the previous semester but withdrew. I know that will be on my transcript though, which is bad) but have accepted that I will have try as many times and will take longer to graduate. As long as I have the motivation, courage, and faith to keep going and work hard, I know I can succeed. I actually needed to see a comment like this. I was literally looking up "falling college" I was hoping to see some motivational videos and comments, but I'll I saw in the comments was that college is stupid, that it's not for everyone. But I'm glad to have seen this comment, I'm glad I can relate.

[@beautybitten]

Can KZbin just push this video on everyone's recommended page? Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable with us. This is such an important message. You're always coming through with the videos at the right time (at least for me). I'm so happy to have found your channel! And congratulations on everything that you've achieved so far!

[@raybuck3998]

Me2 :)

[@hawaiianBombshell]

So true. Speaking from personal experience, comparing oneself to others is so TOXIC & painful. Unfortunately it's a hard habit to break especially when the facade of achievement is all around.

[@arbitrarylib]

Exactly.

[@cartoonishclaude]

It’s even worse when others mainly your parents compare you to others.

[@manahilgulrez12]

You know this kinda reminds me of rapmonster's quote. He said, " happiness is not something you have to achieve, you can still be happy during the process of achieving your goal." Not sure if this is relevant or not but I felt like sharing. We all work so hard, to be happy. The fact that you can fail on your route to "happiness" just saddens me. So why not do something that makes you happy, so that even if you don't get what you want, you'll be satisfied.

[@jess8812]

army!! i love you

[@manahilgulrez12]

love you too fam♥

[@chiiichiiichiii]

manahil gulrez thank you army💜

[@linds6067]

[@everythingmya6332]

Getting good grades isn't a guarantee that your life will go well, You have to do what makes you happy. -Minghao

[@Nina-856]

School is not about getting good grades, or about learning objectively. I know that there are people that care only about that, and see it as that. It goes deeper than that. It's to teach us to push hard, to set goals, to manage our time, to make mistakes and fail, and to accept them, not ignore them. It teaches us to be intelectual, which is what makes us successful in life. The problem is that society makes or defines school as a negative thing but it is not. Once you pass all those barriers or layers that are portrayed, you'll see the deeper meaning of school. It's to set us up for our everyday life whether you notice or not. These are the skills needed for life. Not that facts that are learned.

[@dindaseptiara5393]

is that a quote by minghao as minghao in seventeen??? when did he said that if I may ask

[@marianormann9599]

This should be a Ted talk

[@NatashaGrace]

Maria Normann I love Ted Talks , when I was in high school we used to get them all the time I loved it!

[@leslybaez4024]

Honestly!!

[@Theodoraaa]

" Happiness is rooted in negativity and grows into something beautiful; The branches of happiness can sometimes break along the way but they just grow back stronger " Love this !

[@MorganTracyJ]

This inspired me so much!! Currently, out of College and living back at my parents home and I feel like a failure on random day!!! Thank Your for this encouragement I needed it!!

[@justanotherpersonxo]

Morgan Tracy J i am where you are right now

[@Chosen.1296]

I'm In the same position. Feelings worthless hopeless. Not Smart. Hell for me a guy with ADHD it's bad enough. Everyday when I'm out in the world I can't even communicate. And whenever I hear other people stories about there kids or people my age or younger going to college I feel like an idiot and its tough enough being African American in America already. And I'm a positive person so I barely show my true feelings when I hear other people lives who's more advanced. And most are white. Not throwing the race card. That's not what I'm about but I'm being very honest and clear.

[@Nina-856]

What did you study, and why did you land on this situation?

[@arbitrarylib]

Heyy Morgan!

[@janellejeter4475]

I don't feel like I was doing anything right since I started college. I feel so stupid and out of place like I'll be a failure because I just can't get it right. I don't think college is for me, but I'll find my place eventually. I hope to help people learn from my mistakes and actually go for their passions.

[@lunaeia9484]

You are such a genuine person Asia! I cried with you and I totally agree with failure being okay. I failed two years of university (yes university); I was doing B of Business/B of Intl studies that I felt would lead me to "success" and I didn't put much effort in because like you said, I felt entitled to pass. Every time I saw my final results I would cry and hide it from my mum and I would change my degree internally to avoid being expelled. But last year during the first two weeks of Spring sem 2016, I felt like it was time I faced what was happening and the growing debt I was burying myself under... I dropped out and told my mum; I took 6 months off to figure out what I wanted to do and worked part time to at least keep myself busy. Now here I am, I just finished my Foundation studies in Nursing course at a college with a GPA of 9.333 and next year I will be a first year again doing BN. While doing that course I was actually studying everyday. I even uninstalled games on my laptop that were distracting me (as a gamer it was hard, but I survived and I am so much more happy with myself.) So yeah, I'm proud of me, I'm proud of you and I'm proud of everyone that went through the same or similar shit!

[@VanJess]

crying watching this, hits so close to home! congrats on everything & thank you for being brave enough to show vulnerability and your real life experiences in a space crowded with so much fakeness! people don't understand that nobody's life is perfect no matter what false perceptions we're all guilty of helping create sometimes with social media. keep killing it

[@fashionoutsider]

GIRL, YES!!!!! I resinate with you on such a high level! I felt the same way leaving college and moving out here to LA but I had to do what would finally make me happy! I spend all day everyday creating and editing in my apartment and even though I am not where I want to eventually be I am finally working through my dreams. I get down on myself every single day and it is so hard to not compare. I often feel like an in between and feel worthless some days. But I know this is what I am meant to do and that I am finally on the right path. Always love the videos girl and if you are ever looking for a new friend hit a girl up! I think you rock!

[@hannahjoycheng]

You're so brave to move to LA and leave college to pursue what you love. I'm so happy for you. Even though things are tough right now, you clearly know this is right for you and you're on a meaningful path. Go girl

[@bruh...1543]

resonate*

[@jasminegordon9139]

11:06 This really resonates with me. I dropped out of college last year because I know it's not for me. Explaining to the people in my community(who are socially programmed to believe college degrees are vital for success and happiness) that I dropped out of college because I know in my heart it's not for me is like talking to a wall. Currently, I'm working OT, carrying the emotional stress that comes with being a drop out in a cookie cut community, and driving myself almost insane to pay off the debt I've acquired from school and a car so that I can fully move pass the past and refocus my energy on what I actually want in life. 💜💜💜

[@StylishlyInsane]

Yaaas girl! I'm such a believer in the power of hustle. School has always kind of been my thing, and a lot of the time people would say to me "wow you're so lucky that you're smart", but in reality I work my ass off for my grades! You're so right that people only see the success, not the hustle behind it, but they have the realize that one doesn't come without the other.

[@thokogumede9355]

I'm still trying to figure out what i want to do with my life. Im 20 and feel this immense pressure to move out and have a job. Im honestly just trying to figure out where to go. what other people do isn't about me, and i found that it's more important that i focus myself and my own journey. Hopefully, this all works out. All the negative stuff does feel like a push back but then again it shows me where i need to improve or if i need to move on. thanks for the vid!

[@arbitrarylib]

Thank you.

[@aena5995]

Omg i turned 20 yesterday i m not even in a uni yet , i wonder where u r right now tho Theres sooo much comparison even our parents do it , seeing ur cousins or ppl u know ESPECIALLY CUZ OF SOCIAL MEDIA IS SO annoying 😢😣

[@gabby6698]

I recently applied to a college where the acceptance rate is basically 99%. The joke is that they will accept anyone who can pay for it lol. Except me, I guess. I was in a rough place a few years ago, didn't expect to see any days after high school, definitely did not realize the consequences I'd have of recovery after I overcame everything. Currently I have just graduated with A's and B's and I'm working on an appeal with a few of my teachers to potentially grant me acceptance into the university. I want to thrive and flourish for the first time in a while and I'm taking the steps to do so now. So here's my "lowlight" reel I guess. And it's very very brave of you to post yours :) We're all so proud of you. And thank you, I needed this.

[@AdorableMe99]

This is so validating, I absolutely love learning but classroom environments are tremendously boring for me and having someone else say this is so important and really needs to be out there more!

[@wapolpie]

Thank you for this. I am a graduate school drop out. and I really feel awful, disappointed in myself because I don't have other life other than school and work. Now I don't have any plans in going back to grad school. I don't have any plans in my life at all. Maybe I am in the middle of quarter life crisis. also I am Bipolar. I cannot handle too much stress, I relapse. This video really made me feel that I am not alone. That a lot of people is experiencing the same. You are making my heart warm once again. I want to know my purpose and passion like before and it is very difficult when you have depression.

[@TP-zm6bo]

I feel this on a deep level. I’m in med school and my life consists on being depressed and stressed all the time, idk if i can handle it anymore.

[@kjoosy]

I just talked to my mom about college and how i have no direction in my life. She understood, which was surprising. I mentioned how I needed a job and she said that I can find a job instead, but still gave that “but you know AS A PARENT, I still want the best for you” and so yeah. Im gonna switch my major, finish college. I’ll prob finish in 5,6,7 years, but that’s okay! Talk with your parents, explain to them exactly how you feel. They might get mad, get sad, but it’s better for them to know. Let it out! Tell them you’re unhappy, you’re unwell. Im grateful that my mom understands me.

[@TheVeronicaGhoul]

Wow wow wow wow wow. Watching this video and reading these comments...just wow. So many people are going through the same thing, I feel a lot less alone. I've never gotten emotional over a KZbin video but this is literally on fucking time. I just had a breakdown about an hour ago because my life is an absolute fucking mess. I dropped out of school, my dad took my car because I dropped out of school, I was forced to leave my job and home because I was raped, I'm broke and I feel discouraged about my career path that I'm choosing to take. I'm fucking depressed, paranoid, anxiety is always high and absolutely nothing is going right. Nothing. I really want to pull myself out of this rut and I don't know how, but I also find comfort knowing I'm not the only one with this problem. I don't know what I'm going to do and feeling how I feel is ruining me. This isn't who I am, this isn't how I operate but I'm just so lost...I want to reach that light at the end of the tunnel but I just don't know how I'm going to get there when all of my resources have been taken from me in an instant. My life went from bad to worse in an instant and I can't live like this. Thank you for sharing your story, I feel as though what I'm dealing with right now is just part of the process...I'm just super discouraged right now. Hopefully one day I can come back to this video, read this comment, remember this feeling and say "I overcame this". I want success, I want happiness, I want peace and I want to live my life according to myself. This comment section and video is beautiful and feels really personal. I feel like the universe is trying to talk to me, as silly as that sounds. When I look at you, I see the person that I am striving to be. Happy, grateful, loving and accepting. I've never been moved by someone else's words before but I'm glad it happened today. Thank you for sharing, thank you for being who you are, thank you for not giving up.

[@Donaelley]

Take one step at a time❤

[@TheVeronicaGhoul]

somelocal girll I am! A few good things have happened in the past 48 hours, I'm starting to feel better (:

[@Donaelley]

VanityIsDeadly​ That's great! Don't give up beautiful, no matter how hard it gets

[@TheVeronicaGhoul]

somelocal girll Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it. You've been more a friend to me right now than anyone has during this rough time lol Don't ever change!

[@enkubella]

Stay strong. Do whatever you can to keep going.If your religious pray pray pray pray. If not do anything. I hope things are getting better!

[@eruzen2272]

My parents always told me from a young age to finish college first, then pursue my dreams because if my plans don't go too well I'll always have my degree to fall back on

[@melissadavis18]

Eruzen same and I’m doing that now with the degree I’m in.

[@Nina-856]

Are you in college?

[@arbitrarylib]

Very true.

[@nafeesahtynetta]

YOU JUST HELPED ME UNDERSTAND MY BRILLIANT, 9 Y/O DAUGHTER MORE. SHE HATES THE CONSTRICTIONS AT SCHOOL AND UNDERSTANDING IS ALL I NEEDED. THANK YOU. ♥

[@elleekani]

I thought about dropping out , but I’m still in college because I need to first figure out if Im just scared to even try(fear of failure) or it’s honestly not for me. College stresses me out because I feel like im giving up my 20s. I’ve already given up my childhood, do I really want to give up more?

[@tarinaaleamoni6531]

I completely agree. I endured a lot of childhood trauma and have had a really rough time with a lot of things up until now. And I feel so relieved to move out and start a new chapter, but I feel like college is the one thing holding me back from what I really want to do

[@JanayRollins]

Aww Asia, this was wonderful. Everything you said in this video struck a chord with me. I'm graduating in August and I hated every second of my college experience. I hated it. I was diagnosed with depression, I've failed classes, I've felt alone, lost. It's been the worst 5 years of my life and I feel like I've just completely wasted my time. All I've wanted to do is create. Which is what I intend to after I'm done at the end of summer :) You're SUCH an inspiration, keep doing you boo 💕❤️

[@KristysEdits]

I really want to drop out of college. I feel so unhappy every single day and almost 24/7 I am crying in private. I usually think of dying and get panic attacks. I am so so so unhappy. I want to drop out and I've always wanted to become a tattoo artist instead. Only reason I haven't dropped out is because I am scared of what my family will think and most of all, I am scared of disappointing my mother who has always supported me. She really wants me to become a Dr. I used to want to be one but I AM SO UNHAPPY. I got my diploma when I was 15 and when I turned 16 I entered college. I am about to turn 18 in Oct and I am about to be in my 3rd year of college but I want to drop out sooooo bad.

[@pinkdanielle]

Kristy's Edits you should do what u know would make you happy regardless of what your parents think!!Remember this is YOUR life, not theirs! When all is said and done you’re the one who deals with the consequences. And if u do drop out and find it was the wrong decision, u can always go back

[@NaNa-wy2tk]

Kristy's Edits you can do it, you're so close

[@harubaru4912]

I’m going through the same thing, my parents are forcing me to go to uni because they want me to be a doctor just to get money. I hate itttttt. I want to have a job that requires me to make stories and have them developed as video games. That’s the type of job I want to be committed to and devote my life for. I’m at the point of dropping out because I hate the classes I’m attending which are not teaching me at all, I’ve been teaching myself which causes me so much stress. And then my major, I hate bio, I wanted to change it. I told my parents that and they went nuts and told me stop complaining and deal with it. That broke me apart. I was looking for guidance and support and that destroyed me. I can’t even talk to anyone about it anymore as I feel it’s hopeless. I don’t even know what to do now but to transfer to a community college and see where that takes me. 😔😔

[@Nina-856]

@@harubaru4912 You can still change majors. At least you won't fully disappoint your parents because at least you'll be getting a college education.

[@harubaru4912]

Nina 88 true, I wonder when my parents will understand that I would like to do stuff I enjoy instead dreading every second about my grades 😔😔

[@hannahjoycheng]

This video is so important to me. I just finished my junior year of high school today, and this was the year that made me realize school teaches kids to care about grades and numbers, NOT learning. School is just an institution, it does not envelope the grandiosity of life and what it means to LEARN. Learning is for everyone, but school isn't. I'm so happy and thankful for you Asia, you are a role model and what you said about failure is very true. It sucks to fail, it hurts like hell- but it's how we grow as human beings. What you went through after not booking any acting jobs for a year must've been so hard, I cannot imagine it- it's one of my worst fears to feel useless and unmotivated. I'm so glad for you, that you are doing what you love now, and it seems like you're in touch with your soul and spirit- that's what matters. I still want to go to college lol even though I just criticized the education system, but at the same time I will always keep in mind that school does not determine my worth or future. If I fail a class, who cares? Life goes on, we just need to move forward.

[@bernadethh4992]

It's been five years since you posted this but I'm watching it now, after a panic attack and days of depression, insomnia and anxiety.. all because the realization of having wasted almost two years, the fear of not being able to make my parents proud by finishing university in time and the overall guilt just hit me like a truck, all at once. I just wanted to say THANK YOU... Thank you for posting this. Listening to you calmed me and made me realize that failure is okay and college/university isn't everything and shouldn't be an imposition. Unlike what everyone has been telling us ever since we were kids college/uni isn't the only path to success to exist. And whoever chooses to take another path isn't any less than a college graduate student.. If anything, that's a RISK TAKER to me!! I needed this❤❤:)!!

[@suukikang]

WOW! I almost cried because I have a similar situation. Thank you for sharing this! You are so strong,brave,compassionate, and amazing! LOVE YOU ASIA!! #blasiannation #blasianrepresent

[@raysroom3223]

Asia. I am so in awe of your grace and class and honesty with us as an audience. I needed this video cause I am at crossroads in my life and it's so important for people to have videos like this be available. Thanks for helping me and others on their journey.

[@aaliyahparis6711]

I love you so much girl!, I have not been the most top notch student in highschool. And I fear that I won't get accepted into university, I want to get my BA and study music, and possibly law. I agree with you completely, school environment isn't my thing. I've done some modeling with a brand called Wear your label (check them out), and it was amazingly amazing stepping out of that comfort zone. My whole life I wanted to be known, and I still do. But I want to be known for something good, as well as what I love you know?

[@Candicedickinsonllc]

Aaliyah Paris college is completely different from high school! I just graduated college and high school doesn't reflect your college performance at all. C student in high school can be an A student in college vice versa. I've seen valedictorians flunk out and high school "failures" pass me up (I was 2nd in my high school class" . It's all about your desire and work ethic. If you are willing to put in a lot of work then you will Succeed . High school is just a popularity contest and doesn't test work ethic at all

[@codi112]

high school performance does not reflect your performance per se. If you want to go to college do it. College gives you the opportunity to study what you want on your time. It is basically self study. You can be a model and do school at the same time. Just go hard at it, and don't let anybody tell you any different.

[@itsbunessa]

I was a C- high school student and now I'm graduating from the #1 public uni in the world. High school doesn't define you. Go to community college, study what you love, and transfer. It's cheaper and you have more time to learn about yourself.

[@08anonima]

Vanessa Vestal Congrats! May I ask where is located your University?

[@itsbunessa]

08anonima Thank you! It is UC Berkeley in California.

[@Lachicadelcable24]

"Regardless if the student understand it or not, they don't really care" I learned that long time ago.

[@alanderson9711]

Good luck dropping out. You can always drop back in later, or just take some specific classes for your career development. Work on Plan B, as well; many people your age need the structure of school. When they drop out few return. I've been both a teacher and student for a few decades. Personal experience and statistics show education provides many benefits in areas of personal development, such as peer relationships, learning group dynamics, & task performance. Additional education translates to higher incomes, ability to change and adapt more easily and enhanced career development. Regardless of the path you choose, taking classes is never a bad idea to further your goals. My very best wishes to you...may I share this? The harder my wife and I worked and studied, learning new things in our fields-- the luckier we became, the easier life got. Cheers!

[@aena5995]

Dude, explain why so many masters grads r jobless nowadays ? Degrees r not translating into jobs anymore those days r gone it seems , i m considering going myself but in a diff country maybe but this stuffs scaring me wht if i applied got in did all this work for visas and hated college still😣😣😣

[@besong-tataw]

this is so inspiring and such a good reminder about fear, failure, success and hard work. Thanks for sharing!

[@oracularvernacularr]

You're going to get so far and I'm so happy that we will be here to watch! I'm so happy for you! You're honestly too good for any university and that fact that you've paved a way for yourself, even your accomplishments as a young age is astounding. You're incredible Asia, never forget that.

[@suomanuunyango92]

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this form of inspiration. Your story is so much like mine. I fell into a depression just like you and I recently overcame it. One point you made that stood out is rather fail at something you love. You gave me a light to walk my path and to keep on going. Thank you so so so so much.

[@ravensmanricks8967]

I like the points you made in your video! I’m going through the same situation and I’ve been feeling terrible about my life. I just want to be happy and I haven’t felt that way in a while since I’ve been failing some important classes in college. One of my goals is to volunteer in a food bank and give back to the community because I feel happy when people are being fed and that everyone deserves to eat! I also like your points about how social media creates this picture about how life is “perfect”. I believe everyone must struggle before they get to where they want to be. I wish you nothing but the best in life and I hope you keep being you 🙌🏾!

[@mchobbit2951]

God does this resonate with me. Try to explain to people that you hated school and your grades weren't always stellar but you LOVE to learn. I just learn better by myself.

[@jujuraffe3732]

I agree

[@pastry111]

I wanna give you a big hug. Thanks for this video, it really opened my eyes.

[@sharlotececilia]

Thank you so much for talking so openly about your experience and being vulnerable. This video has helped me so much. I’m so happy I found this video. It’s like exactly what I needed. I thought that there was something wrong with me if I wanted to drop out of Uni. I hate uni with all my heart. No matter what major I take I still find it a waste of time. I can’t stand repeating the same thing everyday. Which is attending classes and then doing assignments. It doesn’t make me want to grow and get better. All I think of is passing the course. I’ve told a lot of people that I want to drop out and I explained why and they all thought I was crazy, and that I’m just lazy and that I should take the traditional path which is going to Uni for 4 years then getting a regular job. So again thank you sooo much 🥺🥺❤️❤️ when you started crying I felt that🥺❤️ everything you said in this video! I needed to hear that.

[@raycaitlin8796]

This is the EXACT thing I really needed tonight. I am an actress too and just graduated, and I am also getting busier and busier in my work. When you said that more things started happening when you put in the work was like a small slap in the face/wake-up call because right now I am beginning to put in more work than ever and I am now seeing more results than ever, and I can't wait to see what else is to come the more and more I get involved and the harder I work in my art. Thank you so much, this was so inspirational and very much needed!

[@wagdanhasoon6590]

I dropped out of school bc my family was putting so much pressure on me like if u don’t pass this test your getting your phone taken away like why I’m learning I when to college and yes I failed I wasn’t mad bc I new I’m going to get through it I new I was going to have success my dream and my goal was to be a doctor 👩‍⚕️ and I thought it wasn’t going to happen bc I was failing and now I’m a doctor 👩‍⚕️ and I’ve saved so many lives u fail big u only live once don’t get sad for not getting your goals done in a month no it needs time hope u guys to have success in your life love u all

[@lucyjenkins20]

This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you

[@marenagalaly828]

You're beautiful and you ARE successful.

[@bj-m4866]

This really touched my heart, a few days ago I was so depressed because I got a crap grade in 3 of my law exams and I felt like a failure. But your video made me realise that I don't even like law but I was only studying it to please my mum. Being the first in the family to go to Uni is so stressful but I thank you so much for this video. God bless you ❤️

[@cattaleyaaa.n01]

I remember watching this video a year ago and crying. I’m in year 11 now going onto year 12. I wanted to come back and watch this video again to remember how far I’ve came as a person. This video surprisingly made a huge difference in my life and for that I thank you for being honest. ❤️

[@queen4396]

I truly needed to hear this 3 years later. Thank you so much. 😊❤😊

[@ashessss]

Degree life is not for me. There is one lecture that triggered something inside of me and makes me hate studying and the environment eventho I love the course. The course was my soul but I’m not going to force myself and make my mental health worse. I decided will drop out from college soon :) Thank you for this Asia

[@iamsirjeff]

Thank you, I am also in college and studying Computer Science. This helped a lot and I feel inspired to dedicate more of myself and my time to my field of study. You are clear proof that hard work and dedication pays off, and you have just gained another subscriber. God bless you.

[@tiffanymroberts808]

Thank you for sharing. Failing has always been hard for me but I’m learning at age 23 that it’s gonna take failure to do what I wanna do in life. You don’t see a lot of the downside of success so I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope I get to meet and work with you one day! Best to rest of your career! You’re gonna do bigger things than you think!

[@ElDaCreatrix]

Thank you for this. I’ve made the decision to withdrawal from college because my TRUEST joy and passion is not found in getting a degree. This life is short and I want to live it knowing I at least tried to go after my dreams

[@officiallykhy9900]

I love this whole video ! literally in the process of leaving college b/c I'm not happy . I know I'm not making a " terrible" decision .

[@victorinprogress]

Having the right mindset is super important! Thanks for sharing!

[@cocoabutternunu3567]

So glad I found this video i actually just dropped out of college today and I really needed to see this video ❤️

[@harriyanna]

Asia, I love you. I understand what it feels like to fail. But it's ok. I fail all the time, but I see it as motivation now instead of anger and sadness. I will always be here to support you and your channel. Enjoy the rest of your day 💙

[@Jazminthechristian]

I so needed this. I received an e-mail from my professor an hour ago stating, I failed the class for the semester. Oh how that hurt me! I just began to cry because of how disappointed I was and couldn’t believe I failed after all the work I had done and how long I worked on projects and homework assignments. Watching this video reassured me that failing at something is not the end of the world. You can get back up on your feet and start over. There are other opportunities and options in the world other than college. I also love creating. That’s something I know I am great at and am confident about. This is the first time watching you and I am so glad I clicked the play button. Keep up the great work with inspiring, motivating and encouraging others!

[@lilatate5498]

It's okay Asia. I look up to you a lot especially cause I'm black and Filipino. I can see you getting big girl. Keep pushing for your goals and aspirations.

[@cosettenelson9005]

This the most beautiful thing I have heard. It literally brought me to tears, I think I really needed to hear it too!

[@darrylfrancois8446]

I just failed my data structures and algorithms class for computer science. This video made me realize maybe I didn't try hard enough the first time, maybe I needed the failure. There's so many things I could've done differently, I know I like what I'm learning and maybe I'm just making too many excuses for myself. I'll try a lot harder this time, but also work a lot smarter. Thankyou :)

[@aaron41trueGOD]

Hey Asia, I just came across this absolute gem of a video. Just earlier today I decided to drop out of college for reasons very similar to yours. To say it was inspirational is an understatement. Your words rang so true to me and call me crazy, but I’m actually excited for the uncertainty that lies ahead. Keep on doing you. The world is better for it.

[@darkinside2203]

I understand how you feel, I am living this currently, it's sad how we fight ourselves to meet ours and others expectations. To anyone who is living this stay strong and get through it do not ever give up. ♥️

[@RBLife]

I just dropped out today. KZbin is where my head is, even though my channel is small. I just started uploading regularly, and within a month I'll prove to everyone that I made a dope decision.

[@carinv9583]

What a beautiful video! I haven been stuck feeling all that you just described ever since I was bullied in elementary school. Keep in mind I'm 21 years old! I really want to stop feeling this way. So you encouraged me to work harder in all aspects in my life because like I said I am tired of feeling like this. Here's to hoping it works 😊

[@ellemccray6171]

You just pulled me out of a depressive episode at 2am, thank you so much

[@reciechristian3096]

Miss Asia I couldn't finish your video because I must say this. Education is not for everyone as long as you're pursuing your personal goals in your heart. Your heart is full of goodness. Your heart gives you that burst of energy to shine everyday. Your heart gives you the courage and confidence to stand alone and encourage yourself to keep pursuing your dreams. Dreams become reality when you stand up and put the work in. You are not a failure because in failure there's growth and growth gives birth to wisdom. God bless you !!!!

[@Luluz938]

I feel like you are just reading my diary! I dropped collage 2 years before graduation because I felt like I was not happy or like those anime character that act like that they have not soul (just doing something or living just because its life) and just like in school and high school if something didn't stimulate my imagination I got bored! I love art, working with my imagination, music, dancing, writing, acting or painting (even if I'm bad 🤣) I just feel happy somehow when I do any of this things and sometimes even cry of happiness, sounds weird but it means a lot when I'm doing something I love because after leaving collage I was depressed for months feeling bad that my mom paid all the money she had to pay for my education and I quit, I felt lost but my friends made me feel better and one told me to join the his entertainment agency and start acting and I felt in love with it 😊 I'm just doing extra roles or a little more but I feel happy doing it! This year I will start studying again but this time is art: acting, dancing and writing!! I hope and know that one day I'll be and actress not just an extra, maybe sooner than I think but meanwhile I'll study and focus on improving myself! 😊💪🏽 And the best thing is that my mom supports me and don't mind me not having an stable job and even brags about me being happy! I really love your videos and I know that one day you are going to do much more as an actress and creative creator! 👍🏽 And I don't know if is just me but I felt watching this video that your tears were the kinda ones I cry when I'm proud of myself and feel incredible happy! Keep being you and doing what makes you really happy! 😘 pd: sorry for the long text but I felt motivated 🤣🤣

[@sweetangel6304]

You dont know how much it means for us that you talk about your experience. There is so much young people that can relate to you including me. I am also a college drop out. I had only one session left and even was passing all my class at the middle of the session but I decided not to go anymore. I couldnt. It was taking to much of my energy and felt like I was drowning. Ill never know if it was the right decision but im never going back I listened to my little voice. My parents always wanted me to have the best education so I kinda feel like a failure. I just need love and appreciation from both of them no matter where I am in my life, but I just dont feel it, its really hard.:(

[@anitasantana6022]

omg i really needed this right now Asia, i don't even know what to say, i wish you were my friend and i could call you and tell you how much i love u for everything you just said in this video. i feel like only you, with your experiences, would understand what i'm going through right now. thank you so much. i love you, admire you, and you inspire me!! yes gurl, you do!!! (and congrats on your youtube button i swear this moment was magical, i'm still crying!!)

[@gxddessglxup7528]

I WAS NOT READY to bawl with you watching this video Asia. This Asia that I'm watching right now means more to me than the makeup tutorials and the food videos (even though I love those too). I subscribed because THIS is the one thing you do that other youtubers don't: YOURE REAL, ALL THE TIME. Real experiences and real triumph from those experiences is what keeps us attentive to your content style. You've inspired me so much from your first video all the way down to this one, and I know you'll rest easy tonight knowing that YOU EARNED THIS ASIA JACKSON!!! I love you so much, and I wish you nothing but the best ❤️❤️❤️

[@deb.emmiii]

14:50-15:11 the most realest words ever said.

[@mariepaclijan5268]

Hey Asia, i just wanted you to know that you have helped someone with this video. And by the looks of it, it wasn't just me. I'm pretty late to the party but I just wanted to say that everything you said on here resonated with me so much. I was just like you. I failed college and dropped out too. So much has happened since, but the biggest change I've made was moving to California. I had no friends here. Only family and family I've never personally met because they were here and I was in the Philippines. I grew up and lived there all my life. The change was so drastic for me. I didn't know what i was gonna do or how i was gonna get up on my feet. I'm gonna admit, I still don't know what to do with my life but I do have a job now. I actually love where i work and the people i work with and life has definitely been very good to me. But lately I've felt a little more blue than usual and I realized that it's because I still don't know what I'm gonna do with my life. Watching this has opened my eyes to look into my life and inspect a little bit more. I have a loooong way to go but at least I know I'm not alone. So thank you, Asia. Ps. I too, am rooting for you. I know this is only the start for you. I can't wait to follow your journey ♥️

[@prolificzee8771]

this was so uplifting Asia i love your mindset , i can tell you have a really strong personality .right now im failing at college but i fuckin love what im doing thats why ill never quit this but it sucks failing at something you want badly.thank you for this video Asia you are very strong ,such an inspiration .girl you are going to be huge. oh by the way i code too

[@blankpaperstudios]

Asia, thank you for this video 🙏🏾 It came at the perfect time. I needed this today. I'm at a loss for words to express all the things that this video meant to me, but I'm really glad you decided to make it. I can very much relate to your feelings of being a disappointment and life not turning out as expected. It's encouraging to see that you are now on the other side of that. Creative careers are so hard. I went from being an over-achiever who excelled academically, to graduating college with a bachelor of arts degree in film and not knowing what on earth was next. I will be 24 next month and have wanted to do KZbin since I was 14. Now I'm doing it, but I'm in the early stages and there is so much uncertainty. There is no guaranteed formula for success, but hard work is not an optional variable. So we creatives work incredibly hard for a slim chance, but somehow that's worth it because of the love we have for what we do. I have so much respect for you and other creatives out there that dare to do what they love despite all the challenges. Asia, you are an inspiration 💗 Never stop doing you!

[@jjstyle8500]

I needed this and I’m sure thousands of others do to. You’ve opened my mind to things I would tend to ignore or lie to myself about. Bless you

[@AlyssaADUB1D]

I just dropped out of college this year, and everything you said I can TOTALLY concur to. Preach Asia! ❤️ you'll go far if you keep sticking with it and have an open mind for improvement! Best of luck and thank you for this video ❤️

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

While I may not have the same pressure as a white person with both parents who were born and raised in the United States, I do relate to the fact that both of my parents are extremely successful in their careers and I constantly face trying to measure up to them. Especially when I've been the "golden child" and my brother was the "troublemaker" since we were children.

[@mocacal]

I've wasted my whole day avoiding a lab report that I should be writing and looking at college drop out videos instead. This has continued this positive feedback loop of self hatred and disappointment. This college experience is fucking hard and I hate it, but this video has humbled me and given me some hope in this shit period. Thank you so much.

[@DeniseTheDreamer]

I needed to hear this! I went back to school after 5 years and really struggled with it. I started questioning whether college was for me. Honestly, I'd rather be a full-time blogger, and college made me feel like I didn't have the time to invest in it. I work a full time job too because bills gotta get paid. You sound a lot like me when it comes to your feelings regarding school. I've dropped out of both a private college and community college.

[@Moirenaa415]

I'm a new subscriber and this is the first video of yours I have seen. I just talked to my sister yesterday about how I'm in college and how I'm not happy and how I feel like I'm wasting my time while life is passing me by. I also talked to her about how I feel like I'm disappointing those who worked so hard to get me here, including myself. She gave me some great advice. This video reinforced what she said and then some. This is exactly what i needed. Thank you.

[@oliviasmith6511]

I'm 18 and I want to leave college so bad. Its seriously affecting my mental health. It's not even guaranteed success, but my parents are gonna be so mad at me. I'm so lost. :(

[@bestbetdan]

If you didn’t do college what would you do?

[@TheBWord]

Thank you so much Asia for this video. As a budding actor & fledgling KZbinr I couldn't relate MORE to video & am motivated even more to make my dreams come true!

[@celebrity_rooster7488]

Dropping out of college has really paid off for me, because I found an education platform, despite it costing monthly, that teaches you stocks, and 8 months into this, I'm starting to make consistent compound interest. While most people are afraid of failure and love to be pussies, this platform normalizes it.

[@mish.esthetics]

You're definitely an inspiration ❤️ I'm currently studying at csulb and will stay taking acting classes this summer. I'm happy you shared your experience and advice! STAY AWESOME girly!

[@sunnyhakemy6935]

I love you Asia! You're such an inspiration to me. Thank you for always sharing & being so open to us ❤️️