Why I Gave Up On Trying To Be Cool (CONFIDENCE HACKS)

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I’ve obsessed at listening to self improvement podcasts and trying to figure out tips to be better. Now that I found your videos it really simplifies a lot of things and I’ve felt better already!

[@JulienHimself]

Nice! Be careful not to fall into the classic “self help trap” of just learning about your problems VS solving them… 😉

[@baylorcaperton3151]

Cool = lack of heat = resolving the inner resistance(which creates heat) to your emotions = authenticity

[@marcmoore4069]

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[@keonagrace]

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[@westsideslide5873]

Dude is cooler now than trying to be cool

[@JulienHimself]

Giving up on trying to be cool is how you ACTUALLY become "cool" 🔥👊

[@Mr.Honest247]

@@JulienHimself How ironic!

[@orellronnbeck7340]

@@Mr.Honest247 but so truee

[@TwiztedHumor]

My god dude, where did you come from? I literally found you at just the right time when I was ready to hear this. I have started to think some of these core ideas myself lately and you are just blowing my mind man with how far you are taking the insights and analysis. Just epic.

[@hugolols55]

Your seminars are so beneficial. It reminds me when I used to take therapy, and we will dig deep and revise old beliefs

[@liquid7315]

I get these moments of clarity, and everything spoken about from julian or other people in watch suddenly makes sense and I can see it..but then that voice in my head pulls me back, nonetheless it's a progress , and I'm learning a lot about myself and childhood trauma that has shaped my behavior . Letting go is really hard, in my head I can rationalize it, but im not driven, or my body doesn't agree.

[@billbirkett7166]

I am non-neurotypical and always saying things that make me look eccentric. I don't know how to be normal, all I can do is authenticity. But that lack of knowing how to be normal tortured me for a long time. I would get praised for my authenticity and empathy, but simultaneously relentlessly criticized for having these good traits. When I was 20 and had no idea how to analyze any of this stuff, I was horribly confused about what others expect from me. "Bill, you're nice but you're just not competitive enough. Bill, you need to know when to be serious. Bill, the world is not a neutral place, you have to pick a side. Bill, you need to be more professional. You need to learned how to dominate over others." Now in my 30's, I've come to the point where I have completely exhausted myself with self analysis. I used to be perfectly comfortable with being myself, and I was wildly funny and wildly inappropriate. But somewhere along the way, I lost some of my spark in trying to figure out what others were expecting out of me. But come to find out, "they liked me because I didn't give a shit about what others thought of me." But the reality is I was just oblivious to the anatomy of my eccentricity. When I look back on my tender youth, I long for that unmeditated weirdness. Now, I am still very weird, I have just lost the pep in my step, and I was conditioned to be ultra-placative (and I also pay attention to politics now...gross).

[@94oGs]

There's a great quote that I used to say when I was younger, never realizing it's foundamental to not caring about what everyone else thinks: "It is what it is"

[@rishabhprajapati8423]

Quick confusion: I sometimes question myself laughing at myself and embracing it as putting up a front. It's like questioning myself "Am I laughing to hide it and stuffing it down?". I sense the answer is finding that thin-line difference about the place it's coming from.

[@JulienHimself]

As with everything, there are subtleties and nuances yes... 👌

[@AgentOfLight]

Self awareness is a superpower

[@JulienHimself]

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This is actually high level advice for personal growth

[@Thewhiiiterabbit]

Great work you’re doing here man. Thank you.

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When he sang the wheels on the bus, I felt that.

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[@JulienHimself]

Glad my content resonates with you! 🙏

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Your words reach me deeply. Thnk for your selfless work Julian

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Love his voice.

[@dobredaniel5637]

Bro this guy is genuinely funny 😂 Daium the more I look at these dudes the more I start to realize that my stiflesness it s nothing in comparison to theirs! And yet as small as it is, it still stops me. Ain t that weird😅

[@lesantube1927]

I always struggle with this , when i'm with someone new I try to be cool and try not to look weird

[@JulienHimself]

Something to LET GO of then! 😉

[@asheshbhattarai8186]

@@JulienHimselfbut how to get it off?😭

[@Betty-ji8fy]

The Shadow question part was intriguing - I have not heard of it before. Do you have a list of these? I can see how they would be very useful in identifying and dealing with issues. Will be looking for more of your content.

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this was insightful! Watch this video here for more shadow questions: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWS1Zn1vqrOqqKs

[@rahil_01iyman]

I just laughed in the beginning on myself,, u are a helpful reminder, thank u buddy

[@proggigs]

Fuck me. I fell asleep with my watch later playlist on my headphones, woke up to 9:40. Rude awakening. Also, hey well done mate! 😂

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What baffles me is how hella good looking these guys are! Gives me and other average guys hope too. ❤

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Now we just need him to voice act for some epic character because his high pitched voice was super cool!

[@MathiasBacher]

It was hilarious 😂

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The entire back and forth between you guys was intense. LoL. Do you do entire clips?

[@JulienHimself]

Glad you enjoyed it! Here's a playlist with more coaching videos like this: kzbin.info/aero/PLeztx1--I_i-a14ahPisp-2JoykbaxyCx

[@Mr.Honest247]

Damn you are absolutely right!!! Love this!!!

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks! Glad this resonates!

[@jaklair]

Wird World represent represent

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Love the Macbeth shoes ;)

[@Lukas_Steen_Karlsen]

To the guy on stage, fucking sick!

[@deboyskyswuzzz]

Broo these shadow questions got me crying about a trauma that happend and caused sexual repression. And I nornally cant remember the past like that.. crazyy shit 14:13

[@gawtus]

When i let go, do i focus on certain scenarioes that scare me, then focus on the feelings the scenario brings up until the feeling is gone?

[@JulienHimself]

Goes a lot deeper than that… 😉

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[@tatianamellstrom7806]

The thing with COD is that theres no filters, u can be racist and all dark sht. All drama stuff partyl cus ure anonymous. so theres a full of expression. GL doing it in irl without getting punched in the face. Im currently working on being dramatic irl which sounds funny lol, but i dont think i will be racist in real life. So honestly im not as expressive. But its interesting in funny movies they do joke for example about chinese, like in hangover 12 and 3. I think it comes back to being aware what others are feeling. If u joke with a loose fun person ofc they dont care.

[@alminoalves3189]

Tomei um susto com essa legenda em Português. Tá doido, que top.

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[@marty7887]

What about if u don't hear that little voice in your head?

[@briandickson7674]

When I’m with me family members call me a weirdo when hurts me and makes me change the way I act

[@mindsetmotivation9124]

I call this the "posturing phase"

[@kareemmohammed5270]

resonate

[@jaklair]

everyone so cool evry one so lame act like they so kewl act like they dont care

[@elkero7095]

Then you start not trying to be cool with not trying to be cool so so you are trying to be cool again

[@deboyskyswuzzz]

Ies thies Julien Jung?

[@the-catalyst]

Dude, say brrrrrrr

[@n_tink9512]

Why does my father not loved me? Hit hard…. And I hate him so much.

[@keonagrace]

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[@oliverhaar2168]

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[@ryugo7713]

I can only be #1 if I go #2.

[@fredsobrinho80]

Do you think drinking coffee makes social anxiety worse?

[@louthefou4052]

Wtf was just asking this myself, then the comment scrolled up by itself while watching the video and there you were 😂 dunno by myself, but that was a funny one

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[@JulienHimself]

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How can I get you to be my husband..?🧐

[@QuietPlaysOfficial]

199 likes.. let me be the 200

[@JulienHimself]

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[@Watercolordragon]

Laxatives?? 💩

[@JulienHimself]

Most people are socially constipated, yes... 😂

[@shellbell313]

Why do ppl look to this guy for guidance?? A leopard doesn't change its spots.

[@yungsouljah2012]

this made me think ab somethin funny. i rmr bein out in public talkin to someone in a store, n i was nervous, worryin ab stutterin or messin up my words … until i messed up my words. right after that i laughed n for sum reason stopped carin completely lol