Why I Had To Cut My Hair Again‼️😤//Post Curly Cuts, No Oils & Butters Method😑

[@Erica-BakingCutie]

Let’s look at the bright side… without the damaging cuts, you may have never discovered how lovely you look with shorter hair and that it’s ok to have fun and do what you want with your hair! You look beautiful with long hair but that cut is so fun and edgy… I love it!

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you Luv 🥰🤗and I’m so thankful that I look decent in shorter hair right now. It’s a true blessing with all that has happened! 💖🙏🏽

[@BrittneyA87]

So sorry you’re experiencing this. Also, keep in mind that the sweaters, hoodies, scarves and fur-trimmed coats that we’re wearing during the winter months are also damaging our hair. I noticed with mine that my collars of my coats were damaging my ends and specifically that back middle part of my head. You’ll notice that when sitting in a car, the hoods, collars and scarves of our clothing press up against the back of our hair (against the headrest), and these materials dry our hair out. I realized that in looking at past years, my hair has thrived and grown a lot from May-November, is super healthy heading into the winter and then every year around April I’m needing to do some major hair cut. Also, I’m starting to wonder if the hot shower water is drying our hair out as well because it’s seems to be happening right up in the crown where most of us place our heads directly under the water. I know for me, my shower water temperature is hotter than it would be if I were just washing my hair under a sink faucet.

[@shelly.v.247]

Very true but I’ve honestly never had those issues. I’ve been blessed to be able to grow my hair really long and have it be healthy. However, should I decide to grow it back out I’ll definitely keep everything in mind that I’ve learned and maybe it’ll yield even healthier results. Thank you and stay blessed 💖

[@SimplyTamz]

Not a single LIE nor EMBELLISHMENT found in what you are saying. If the hair is damaged like what we experienced it’s better to just start over and jump start the healthy hair growth. Sometimes I look at my hair and I’m in awe that I have a TWA again.

[@shelly.v.247]

Isn’t it just crazy Sis!!!! We have been through it big time!!!! 😝

[@tacthom]

I now only do wash-n-go on special occasions....I stay silk pressed....I'm at waist length and have a goal of tailbone by the end of the year. Stretching your hair is key....(for me at least)

[@CaliNOLA9]

Wow, there’s no way I could do that and workout. I went back to wearing twist.

[@tacthom]

@calinola7957 I absolutely work out with a silk press...nothing gets in the way of my health and fitness

[@creamycazz1]

@@tacthomhow exactly do you protect your hair? I always start sweating from my scalp first before anywhere else.. maybe due to the high density. I could wrap my hair in 3 different scarves/wraps and I know it wouldn’t help, mainly b/c that would get me hotter but also b/c of the sweat/moisture!

[@ladonna1902]

In addition to working out, how do you maintain a silk press during the hot/humid summer months. Silk presses are only a winter time hairstyle for me because my hair reverts with a quickness.

[@creamycazz1]

@@ladonna1902 i think it’s a Wintertime hairstyle for most of us!

[@DrArleezahMarrah]

I've embarked on a nourishing journey for my hair following a period of neglect due to a medical condition, which unfortunately led to widespread split ends that went up the hair shaft. This journey officially began in February 2023 when I decided to invest in professional hair care. However, the ongoing expense of $150 every two months for minor trims prompted a change. My last trim/cut in December 2023 looks identical to your hair cut and I'm thoroughly enjoying the fresh look. Admittedly, I do miss the length of my hair when it was at its prime, extending beyond 18 inches. Yet, this process has transformed into a journey of self-love for my hair. Taking cues from various tutorials, I've learned to trim my own ends, a practice that has proved to be both empowering and enlightening. I've become somewhat of a “expert” at spotting and eliminating minor issues like fairy knots and split ends on my own. It is my belief that all Black women should take the time to intimately understand and evaluate the health of their hair, thereby reducing over-reliance on stylists. This self-awareness has been instrumental for me; understanding what my hair truly needs has allowed it to thrive and look its best. This journey has not only been beneficial for my own hair health but has also allowed me to assist others in nurturing their natural tresses, drawing from my personal experience. While I realize this is a lengthy post, I felt compelled to share this piece of my journey with you all. Much love and blessings. ❤ Edited

[@cmw1336]

So in agreement with you! I stopped going to natural hair stylists b/c I felt like I was coming away worse than when I went in (cutting way too much, not styled to my liking) on top of the exorbitant prices. So I too have learned to take care of my own hair including trimming. My hair is now healthier and longer than it's ever been in it's natural state.

[@shelly.v.247]

I agree with you wholeheartedly Sis! 💖I love being more self reliant when it comes to caring for my hair. I’ve realized no one knows my hair better than me‼️💯

[@DrArleezahMarrah]

Certainly, I wholeheartedly agree ladies. I’m glad we are thriving in this space of Black hair care which I believe leads to healing from “hair or haircut” trauma. ❤ At the same time, I still believe in seeking a professional's guidance is invaluable too, particularly when first embarking on your hair care journey without a clear starting point. I hold Narada's hair care advice in high regard; he fervently supports Black women in loving their natural hair and ensures they maintain control over their hair care decisions. Yet, I believe it is important to avoid becoming overly dependent on any stylist, as this can lead to a lack of personal hair care knowledge. This is particularly poignant considering the historical pressures faced by Black women, who were compelled (and sometimes by racist laws)to alter or conceal their natural hair to conform to Eurocentric and discriminatory beauty standards. I believe understanding this history of black hair care is crucial to fostering a healthier relationship with one’s hair today. Thank you for allowing me to share these thoughts. 😊

[@tannicejeanpierre6421]

This is the wildest thing I’ve ever heard about regarding hair! I’m so glad you’re sharing your experience because, personally, I wouldn’t even understand what you’re describing if I didn’t watch your videos throughout your journey. I am hoping you’re on the mend from here on out ❤

[@shelly.v.247]

Girl it’s wild!!!! Had I not gone through it myself I don’t know if I’d be able to wrap my head around all of it! 😅 Thank you for following my journey and for being so loving and supportive. I truly appreciate it Sis! 💖🙏🏽

[@naturalcurls4life576]

I’m so sorry you are still having issues with your hair. I pray that was your last unwanted cut and your hair flourishes going forward.

[@shelly.v.247]

Thank you so much Luv! 💖🤗 I’ve cut a bit more since the taping of this video and I’m excited to say that for the most part the unraveling has stopped! I have just a few small areas that have some “flicky bits” but other than that we are good! 🙌🏽🥳 What a crazy journey and experience this has been but I’m thankful for it because it made me learn about my hair. Now I understand how to truly care for it. God is good! 🙏🏽💯

[@YllonaRichardson]

I understand that chin-length was not your goal, but that bob with a curtain bang looks fantastic on you 💃🏽😍!

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you soooooo very much Luv! 🥹💖🤗 I was very thankful and feel very blessed that it came out so well because it could have gone the other way! 👀😅

[@nwb730]

Team “new head of hair” here. I am about 2 years post wash-n-go/curly cut disaster and what I believe happened to me is that the process just weathered, weakened and dehydrated my hair such that it was too fragile to survive despite my (and professional stylists) best efforts. I was getting my hair professionally treated and trimmed/cut about every 2-3 months to repair my hair, and like you said, I would leave the salon feeling like the damage was about gone but then when I would show up for the next trim/cut, those ends would look exactly like the damage I thought we had cut off the last time. The whole BGC process just destroyed my hair 😢. I have not attempted any more wash-n-gos (probably never will) and seriously considering becoming a straight haired natural once all the damage is gone.

[@tmcurly]

It is a shame that what was supposed to make us embrace our natural hair is the worst thing to ever happen to us..

[@funyhuny]

So, it still isn't any better after 2 years? 😮

[@nwb730]

@@funyhuny My hair is definitely a lot better but like what happened to Shelly, I had to get several cuts and I still don’t feel like my hair is completely back to normal. The process just really weakened my already weak (fine 4c) hair strands 😢.

[@shelly.v.247]

Sis you ain’t ever lying about how long it takes to get the hair back healthy again!!!! Like I stated, in my video, this type of damage is like nothing we’ve ever seen before! The damage literally runs rampant throughout the head of hair and works its way up the hair, strand fast and furious! Even after my very last cut, I still see remnants of the damage in a few areas of my hair. It’s on the very ends now instead of all the way up my hair, strand but it’s still frustrating to see! Unless someone has dealt with it personally it’s very hard to wrap your head around the level and severity of the damage that can occur. It’s crazy to think that what was supposed to give us extremely healthy, hair, instead destroyed hair. I pray people make informed decisions before implementing certain hair care practices so that they may be able to save their hair unlike us. Thank you for sharing your experience Sis 💖🙏🏽

[@trib31]

I relate to everything you’re explaining! Early this year, I decided to start straightening my hair (and regularly seeing a stylist to rehab my hair) and was in shock to see the level of damage to my ends. The way you have described your experience mirrors my own recent discoveries. Even your decision to just say “cut it”! I literally had my stylist cut off the the last remaining damage today because dealing with those “flicky bits” was driving me nuts! Anyway, thank you for sharing your journey. It’s truly been helpful in my reflection of my own journey and how to best move in the right directions to support having healthy hair. Love your new haircut!

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww I’m so happy for you Sis! It’s been a rough ride but I’m thankful for the hard lessons learned! Never again though!!!! I’m excited to hear how your hair continues to thrive! 😍🥳

[@kimberlydrakeford7517]

You look amazing in that cut! I've experienced the same issues. I just gave up this past Christmas, and Silk pressed it myself. As I did that, the comb was getting caught on the ends. I clipped my ends, and it seemed fine. The next day, combing hair down, it started snagging again. So I called my daughter and she and I cut all the way up to my chin, Bob style. It was beautiful. A couple of days later, snagging again. So I ask African hair God about allowing hair to air dry. From there, I started washing weekly instead of 2x weekly, twistouts, and clipping every 4wks. Grew hair pretty quickly. I cut it again. Now I'm waiting to blow out in 6wks, will clip ends again and see what it looks like. SMH! For real, I don't understand what happened. If this doesn't work, I'll have to get a close cut. I just need to find out why this happened, so it never happens again❤ Stay strong, lady! Can't wait for this season to pass, lol!

[@shelly.v.247]

It’s definitely been a crazy roller coaster ride for many of us! I realize why my hair got so damaged and have since discontinued getting curly cuts and implementing the note oils and butters method. My hair is like a whole new head of hair since I stopped those things. I pray your hair is on the mend as well, and that you don’t have any further issues! 💖🙏🏽

[@cmw1336]

So sorry you have had to go through all of this hair (and other) drama. But I swear you have looked gorgeous through every stage of it all! Hopefully now you have finally hit your stride 😊

[@shelly.v.247]

Thank you Luv and I’m definitely praying it’s all over! 💖🙏🏽

[@BB-pv6cf]

Shelly!! You look stunning!!! I love the style, the cut, wow! beautiful!

[@diva4life361]

It sounds like your hair is severely dehydrated. Not just on the surface level but at the cortex level of the strands. I went through that with my ends because they are so curly, and my hair has so much texture it was almost impossible for my ends to hold on to any moisture. Trimming did no good, I had to do some intense moisturizing to repair my ends. Not just on wash days (weekly) with conditioning treatments but also moisturizing my hair between wash days. It was a lot, but it was the only thing that reversed the problem. Each week my hair got better and better. Sounds like your hair might be damaged on a deeper level and cutting it probably won't solve the problem if your splits are coming from dryness.

[@SimplyShadrika]

This makes sense. I also followed the BGC method for about 3.5 years and I noticed my hair would not hold a style for more than a day. Then I got color on my already damaged hair (which I wouldn’t have if I had known about the damage). So now my hair is damaged high porosity and I realized it’s extremely dehydrated. I’ve incorporated bond builders, protein treatments and moisture treatments but I know for me, it’s going to take a long time to reverse 3.5 years of damage.

[@diva4life361]

@@SimplyShadrika You got this sis!!!!!

[@SimplyShadrika]

@@diva4life361 thanks girl!

[@shelly.v.247]

It was beyond dehydrated. It was split from the roots to the ends of it. Fast forward 9 months post big chop and my hair is thriving! God is so good!🙏🏽❤️

[@shelly.v.247]

DM me on IG Sis! 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹😢

[@armanimacias5673]

So frustrating 😭 I keep having to cut my hair as well. Just paid a stylist $200 to blow dry & trim my hair to have to come back home & cut it more, to then wash it & STILL feel damaged ends. I’m so tired of this set back 😕

[@shelly.v.247]

Ugh I know how you feel! It’s been an awful experience 😩

[@jungled_hudiekd]

this sounds so freaking hard, shelly! i know going back to shorter hair can be difficult. i had to do it last year, big chopping after my hair had become a long, damaged tangly mess. the great thing about hair is that it grows back (unless you’re dealing with hair loss ofc)! i’m sure you’ll find out a routine that works for you and then you can just keep it the same, focus on other things and your body will crank out those inches steadily 😊

[@jungled_hudiekd]

short hair is also underrated in my opinion though! it’s so much easier to care for especially as someone with dense hair. every step just takes less time

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you Sis and yes indeed! 💖🙏🏽

[@shelly.v.247]

So very true! I’m loving this shirt hair phase right now. Plus it seems to be a little more sassy 👀🤣

[@NamaGVida]

Your personality is so refreshing and fun! 😁😄💖

[@shelly.v.247]

Hehe thank you Luv! 🥰 I’m so glad you get me and my goofy sense of humor! 👀🫣🤣

[@NamaGVida]

I LOVE it!! I’m goofy myself. It’s the best way to stay happy and joyous in this crazy world 🤣😁

[@RabielleParfait]

Sorry you and Rosie are going through this! But we all can’t deny it looks amazing on you! The cut is stunning! 😍

[@shelly.v.247]

Thank you so much beautiful! I truly appreciate you so very much!!!! 🥰🤗😘

[@esthertjones]

It's so unfortunate that you had to go through this, but at least you bought yourself time to get almost a year's worth of new growth!!

[@shelly.v.247]

Yes indeed!!! 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹💯

[@ChiannaNycole]

I, for one, am going back to grease. I know a lot of people think it’s the wash n go’s causing our blues, I feel that is just the scapegoat. what about the process of washing and setting our natural curls is so much more dehydrating of a process than setting in ‘created’ curls? i think it’s the products, specifically those botanical gels that keeps the hair shaft swollen (i’m convinced this is what’s causing the tree splits) while allowing the natural oils in our hair to leave the hair shaft because it has too many humectants and the hair rewets if there’s moisture in the air. I stopped using combos the rewet (so, i no longer use ufd, kinky curly in large amounts). So far so good, will continue to analyze my shed hair on a piece of white paper. I’m experimenting with grease wash n gos this week let’s see how it goes.

[@brianahurt5111]

Omg please let me know how the going back to grease goes!! I am a new wash and go natural, for about 7 months washing weekly and only doing wash and goes and having it professionally trimmed every 2-3 months. My 2nd blow and trim after getting an initial cut to start my wash and go journey everything was fine and my hair looked great. 3 months later I pretty much had to get my hair cut back to its initial length 7 months ago because my ends were SO bad. Even tho I have had consistent trims the entire time. I am so sad because I made all the needed changes (no oils, butters, grease, and quality products)from products to methods and I thought (and saw) my hair flourish like never before… until I went to get a routine trim. I am seeing these amazing natural curl KZbinrs experience this AFTER YEARS of being natural, I am getting this issue after 7 months. Not sure what to do moving forward but I’m glad to know it may not have been exclusively my fault. I am thinking about going back to being a silk press and braids and grease natural, It wasn’t this hard or heart breaking☹️🥲

[@ChiannaNycole]

@@brianahurt5111 Yea, my hair felt as though it was flourishing in the beginning as well. I think we all just needed a good clarifying treatment, that’s why we all felt an improvement in our hair. I just installed some mini twists into my hair, I used a spray leave in, a super lightweight leave in then sealed with a little dab of grease, hair feels AMAZING. Using sulfur 8 this past week has been the only thing to calm my itchy dry scalp. Going good so far! I support your blow out natural journey, do what works for you. I know a lot of people blame wash n gos for all the damage, that’s where I disagree. Why is the process of setting one’s hair in artificial curls (twist out) so much more dehydrating of a process to the hair than setting your natural curls?I still believe that we can grow our hair out in it’s natural curly state, I think it’s a matter of keeping the hair from becoming dehydrated . I definitely was over stripping my hair initially with that kinky curly come clean every wash day, so moving forward with an appropriate shampoo each wash day to remove what was applied during styling. Also, a little grease between the hard hold gel to seal. Bless you on your journey ♥️.

[@shelly.v.247]

I think you’re definitely onto something. However, I also believe it was the hard hold gels, and then baking them into the hair under the hooded dryer for such long period of time. I also believe the harsh shampoos played a role because our hair was being constantly over cleansed. Not to mention, we were not replenishing anything that had been stripped away with those cleansing shampoos. In my opinion, it was the perfect storm along with the curly cuts. So I’m glad to hear you are moving in a different direction too and I pray all goes well for you and your beautiful head of hair! Stay blessed and uplifted! 💖

[@philaz215]

Shelly, you are so beautiful and fabulous! Keep doing you and exploring, it keeps you vibrant gorl.

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you so very much for your kind and sweet words Sis! 🥹💖🤗😘

[@pamelatownsend276]

Shelly....gurl I love how you tell a story!!😂😂😂 I know the situation ain't funny, but you got me cryin over here!!🤣

[@shelly.v.247]

👀🤭🤣

[@gloriaroberts5944]

I am older than you and I have been cutting my hair a lot lately. I have been thinking that I was the only person experiencing this. I see splits a few days after cutting them off. It looks prefect after cutting and a few days later I find myself cutting more off. I understand exactly what you are experiencing. It is frightening but hopefully this splitting fiasco will stop. You are still beautiful!!!

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww I hope it has finally stopped for you! As you may know by now, it took me big chopping to make it stop. Such and awful experience to go through!

[@funyhuny]

Another great lesson I've learned through your journey is that none of the treatments worked (K18, olaplex, etc...) to repair your hair. It looks like starting over is the only solution.

[@shelly.v.247]

Yup the bond builders definitely have helped me with the health of my hair but they can only repair so much. Splits can only be fixed by unfortunately cutting the hair.

[@Jade-rf8ov]

Great video, thank you for sharing your journey! Yep, everything you mentioned validates the damage I got too, it was irreversible. You found a way to transition out of the damaged hair still looking flawless though - so the products/testing/trials did not go to waste! All the best for healthier hair! x

[@shelly.v.247]

Thank you Luv! It’s been crazy to go through this and connect all the dots. I’m extremely thankful for Rosie Amelia, Afrikan Hair God and SimplyTamZ for all of their help in figuring it out. What a journey!!!! 😅

[@TheBeautigoddess]

Thank you so much for this. I’m going through the same thing and I’m frustrated 😢

[@shelly.v.247]

You are so welcome Sis and I’m sooooooo very sorry you’re going through this too! 🥺😞 It’s really hard to understand the experience unless it’s been one of your own. 😝 Just know there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will get there. It’s just gonna take some cuts. The most important thing is determining how slow or fast you decide to cut it. Please stay encouraged because you’ll get there just like I have. 🙏🏽💖😘

[@sonjacrudup8728]

Your hair is beautiful, Shelly! Thank you for sharing this.

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you 💖🙏🏽

[@NamaGVida]

So THIS is why when I would trim off the splits, they would come right back!!! 😢😢 All the damage I have keeps going back to the curly hair, no oils no butters method. I did it for a year and a half. This didn’t start until I was knee deep that method. 😖 I followed the wash day routine to a T.

[@shelly.v.247]

Ugh unfortunately yes Sis! 😩 I’m not sure if you follow Afrikan Hair God (he’s a natural hair stylist), Rosie Amelia or SimplyTamZ but we’ve all been documenting what we’ve been uncovering. Let me tell you, it’s been a crazy ride!!! What we’ve realized is the hair will continue to split up into the healthy new growth and it’ll continue to unravel until you cut past the affected and damaged hair. This year alone it’s taken me about 4 cuts to get my hair to finally stop unraveling. I have also had a total of 6 cuts this year because although my hair stopped unraveling I still had some flicky bits left on the tips. TBT, I still have a few but they are pretty much all gone now. You have to know what you’re looking for to see them. Also, to add insult to injury, they are taking our suggestions on how to repair the hair and blogging about it all as though it’s their original recommendations. An example is, just last week BGC wrote a blog on when you might want to deep condition. However, when we said we had added it back into our regimen Aishia made reels making fun of using deep conditioner and leave in but now it’s okay??? 🧐 Make it make sense!!! I’m extremely sorry you’re going through this too. It’ll get better over time but it will require lots of cuts because just when you think it’s all gone you’ll see more. 😑 Please know you’re not alone in this and we are all here for you. Should you need us we are all just a DM away! 💖🤗

[@NamaGVida]

@@shelly.v.247 I really appreciate you and this information! I love Afrikan Hair God’s videos and how he advocates for us. It’s through him that I learned about you and your experience. Also, I had no idea they are taking the healthy hair methods that have worked for us and marketing them as if they were always using them. I went back to my deep conditions and leave-ins because that’s what had my hair so healthy before I started their method. I’m definitely starting to not feel alone anymore. I wish it was more ways we all could connect. Like a zoom meeting or hair show or at Narada’s salon or something! 😂💖

[@shelly.v.247]

@nakiaguystudent6636 Narada is so amazing and I’m sooooooo thankful for him! 💖🙏🏽 Girl yeah, they sure are! It’s just unbelievable yet then again it’s not when you know how they have moved through all of this. We definitely should create a support group for those affected. I’ve been thinking about it but you know there will be some trolls who try and crash it. 🤣

[@NamaGVida]

@@shelly.v.247 Yes! Thank goodness for him! And you’re right, it’s not surprising! It would be so great if we had a support group centered around us listening to our intuition, looking to ourselves as the experts for our own hair, learning to do effective research to learn the science of hair, finding stylists we trust, etc. No one can trick us ever again when we know the science and we listen to our intuition. I neglected my intuition in this situation.

[@rachelk4914]

Thanks for continuing to share ❤

[@shelly.v.247]

My pleasure ❤️‍🩹

[@JunePolk-o3r]

You’re blessed to have such a beautiful thick head of hair, because no matter how you wear it it’s beautiful!

[@Katalina_Eve]

your hair is looking healthy and fabulous!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@shelly.v.247]

❤️❤️❤️

[@1GoldenBreeze]

What's most important is that you are happy with your hair. Whether it's long, short, curly, or straight you look great. All of the styles suit you!🥰

[@shelly.v.247]

Thank you so very much Luv! ❤️😘

[@CaliNOLA9]

I still want to know what exactly damaged our hair. I think it’s the products. My diva cut never did this to my hair. Also that Dyson blow dryer made my hair hard and brittle. A lot of people are still using it.

[@tmcurly]

Dyson is not the problem sis. Dryness was the bottom line.

[@funyhuny]

Isn't the dyson a dryer?

[@shelly.v.247]

I believe it was some of the recommended products and the items we were told to take out. Example: Too harsh of shampoos and no leave-ins, oils and deep conditioner. Plus I think baking all that botanical gel into our hair with a hooded dryer also impacted negatively. Basically it was the perfect storm!!!!

[@chioma5633]

Tbh sometimes it’s the lack of heat. Air drying means that the hair is damp for hours. I am currently experiencing this. I am colour treated but I have a lot of splits and it’s confusing because I trim 1cm a month. Yours could be caused by silicones too

[@shelly.v.247]

I wasn’t air drying when my hair got damaged. I was using a hooded dryer because that was recommended by the BGC method I was following. I also wasn’t using silicones then either because all the recommended products were silicone, sulfate and paraben free. Fast forward I do all the opposite stuff including using silicones and sulfates etc and my hair looks great! I wish you luck in figuring out what is going on with your hair. 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹

[@hopew6979]

What trials and tribulations you went thru girl! whew! It's really sucks to get those cuts only to keep finding damage. But glad that you've made it through and have a head of healthy hair now. I know a short cut wasn't what you wanted but it does look fab on you. ❤

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you so very much Luv! 💖🤗 I’m excited too! 🙏🏽🥳

[@Iamfava0811]

The cut still looks great, although, you didn’t plan to go shorter 😊. Most importantly, you recognize the split and you are tackling the issue. We’re here sis and supporting you guys ❤; Shelly the inserts 😅 thanks for making me laugh during a serious conversation (much needed).

[@shelly.v.247]

Haha and thank you so very much Sis for your kind words, love and support as I navigate through this process. 💖🙏🏽🤗😘

[@rduff1103]

Hey Curlfriend! This has happened to me and I could not figure it out. My hair was in a constant state of dryness. I did not think it was because I washed/conditioned it regularly but I kept getting splits. Is didn’t matter want I did. I decided that I was going to cut it all off and go back to relaxers. I gave myself a date. Until then I just started Deep Conditioning, moisture twice a week. By the 6 weeks, my hair started reviving, moisture levels came back and NO more splits. This was right before BGC craze, so I knew that no deep condish/masks would not work and I thought we would all be here eventually. Not I do it twice months even once a month and I’m find. Still no splits. I personally don’t think it’s your revised WNGs. It’s deeply dry. Love ya! Oh and ps. My splits would come back after I got a cut as well, each time & growing up the shaft.

[@DIANEKING-u8u]

GANG SIGNS😄😄😄😄😄😄, so that’s what I have; right and yet soooo funny!!

[@shelly.v.247]

🤣🤣🤣

[@monicaDD]

Beautiful bob! It’s funny that we all had different levels (lengths) of damage but it seems most of had to do major cuts

[@shelly.v.247]

Yup because this type of damage is like nothing I’ve ever seen before‼️😓

[@2010NursingStudent1]

Scarf reference please from the video before this one🥰

[@shelly.v.247]

I got it off of Amazon and the link to my Amazon store where you can find it is in my IG bio @Shelly.V.247 💖

[@erniecelindsey8418]

OMG this is happening to my hair. It seems as if I need my ends clipped daily. My hair was almost bra strap length. I had 2 inches cut off, and I had single braids put in. I took my braids out my hair had grown almost 2 inches, so I cut another inch off. I think I will continue to do this until all of the damaged hair has been cut. It is awful, I don't know why this happened, I have been natural forever and I usually keep my hair in a blow-dried state. I have never had this problem until last year.

[@starmaxx4]

First can I say I’m luvin this new look 🥰💙.. And secondly so happy that you are making the best decision for your hair 💙.. luv your channel Shelly 💙🥰

[@tmcurly]

I am inspired Shelly you look great 😊

[@lovelota6334]

I'm wondering if your stylist was using dull hair scissors, which could cause the fraying of the ends. Then I got to the end and saw that you cut it again yourself! I hope you used good quality hair shears. FYI to anyone who isn't aware - dull, non-professional, or damaged hair scissors can cause damage to your ends. Hopefully your hair stylist is using professional shears and maintaining them properly but it wouldn't hurt to check with her. Your hair looks nice and healthy though. Hopefully you are past the damaged phase and can enjoy your hair in peace.

[@shelly.v.247]

Great questions and my sheers are professional grade and were brand new when I cut my hair. Also, funny you should ask about my stylist sheers because I literally just got to check them out because I was assisting my stylist/bestie with her hair this week. Let me just say, her sheers are scary sharpe!!! Mine are sharpe but hers seemed like two extra sharpe razors ! Lol 👀😅

[@lovelota6334]

@shelly.v.247 OK good. At least we can rule that out on both ends.

[@lizzieclay6774]

I totally agree with you about the shears. So true.

[@juanitarobertson306]

I really hate that you are going through with this hair journey! And thanks for sharing. My thing is how do you keep this from happening again and again? What styles do wear, what products do you use? It seems it never ending! My hair has some of the same issues.😢😢

[@shelly.v.247]

The damage I sustain in my opinion was due to the curly cuts in implementing the oils and butters method. I have since stopped all of those things, and my hair has begun to thrive again! So it just depends on if you had implemented some of the same hair care practices or not? If so, I would strongly encourage watching my previous videos on what I have done to repair my hair. Hope that helps 💖🙏🏽

[@jdbailey442]

Your hair looks so pretty!! I love a bob 💋😍❤️🤗🥰

[@michelleej]

I do too! It’s my favorite haircut.

[@shelly.v.247]

❤️❤️❤️

[@madih473]

This is happening to my hair! The level of damage.

[@shelly.v.247]

Ugh I’m so sorry 😞

[@MagikMO]

My hair is doing the same same. Have cut and cut esp recently and wondering what is happening. I am also working from inside out and it’s still puzzling. Loved this beautiful layered bob I got cut 2 Fridays ago. It feels much better AND it’s still not the healthy hair I know my beautiful Locs are naturally. I feel Ya Shelly V. Considering shorter again. 😅”them hot spots Lawd

[@joybanks4974]

I had split ends after a cut because my bestie stylist had dull scissors.

[@shelly.v.247]

That sucks. I was just addressing another comment about the sharpness of my stylist sheers. Hers are like two extra sharpe razors! I know because I got to hold and use them. Also, mine are sharp too because they are professional grade and were brand new when I cut my hair. 💇🏽‍♀️

[@AfrosandArtichokes]

This is the comment I was looking for. Being a stylist for over 30 years, I know for a fact dull shears will split hair after a cut. I’m glad to know this wasn’t her problem. Although, I still believe they should get sharpened more than some stylists would like. I also hope they are not serrated shears. I can’t stand them for straight cuts.

[@Bfoxy4life]

Could it be hard water? I use malibu c once a month

[@shelly.v.247]

Great question and no because I have had hard water treatments done (Malibu C in the gold packet). Not to mention, I have a soft water loop in my home that filters out the hard water throughout my entire house. 💖

[@NoireBeauteCompany]

Nothing against your stylist however.... it could also be a dull blade. Sometimes, when shears are dull, it cause hair to always seem like its split ends.

[@shelly.v.247]

That’s a very fair and excellent point! Except I know for fact my stylist gets her shears sharpened routinely. Not to mention, she had gotten them sharpened the day before for my last cut. The method I was using to care for my hair left it like straw. There’s not much you can do with the damage that occurs afterwards but cut it off. 😤

[@diamondsandlipgloss]

hey "damaged hair twin"....i know this sounds CRAZY, but i found out my hair shaft is continuously damaged due to hyporhyroidism , anemia & low vitamin D .... who knew 🤷🏽‍♀️ might not hurt to get your levels checked i sent african hair god a comment to tell him

[@MyeshaB]

I'm also anemic, and my doctor has me on a 3 month high level vitamin D regimen. I've been noticing a section in the front would break off and was finer than the rest of my hair. Even after a big chop a few years ago, it grew back the same, so this makes sense that it could change the structure of your hair.

[@diamondsandlipgloss]

@@MyeshaB girl, "tree" splits almost half way up the strand, even when i keep cutting it short & starting over so im getting iron infusion, eating more iron rich food, & wearing sew-in until december to avoid further splits... then i'll cut it one last time

[@shelly.v.247]

Sorry I missed your comment and am responding 8 months later 🤦🏽‍♀️ Great point! I actually get routine and extensive bloodwork done every 3-4 months to check everything. I also can read bloodwork because I use to do it as a strength & nutrition coach. Needless to say all my hormones and thyroid are balanced and were at the time all this happened. I know because I was getting my routine bloodwork back then too. 😅

[@cassandrawilson8813]

Girrrrllll 1st of all I love you. 🥰 I have been in Phoenix for a year and baby guurrrlll...this water, this water is so dog gone hard. I have lived in 3 other states this by far has been atrocious for my hair. It has helped to add lightweight oils through the wash day process. I've tried the hard water shampoos & conditioners...there okay...any hoo I'm am here in the struggle with you. Would love to visit your beautician. Not sure if here info is available in the description. Hugs and hair grease!! Keep doing you . 😊

[@rdejlee9288]

I'm having the exact same issue with my ends🫤....It's so frustrating...I have had to go from bra strap to a bob ear length...And still the horrible ends 😫....I will have to keep my hair straight at this point...Don't know what the heck is going on...

[@tmcurly]

Were you doing the curly cut methods?

[@lavinaweathersby7889]

As we age we begin to develope some graying. The grays tend to be weaker and wirey. Even when we cover them with hair color the weakness and brittleness remains because the hair is just different in these areas, though the hair that is still naturally black is still healthy. Maybe this is what you are experiencing, It may be just your new normal. Its my deal, and I'm 53. Your hair has always been lovely regardless.

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww thank you! I think I probably have a total of 5 gray hairs throughout my entire head and that’s being generous.😆 The damage I experienced in my opinion was due to the curly cuts and no oils & butters method. Combined they destroyed my hair and that of numerous others. I’m just thankful for Rosie Amelia, Afrikan Hair God and SimplyTamZ for helping me to connect all the dots on what was happening to our hair! 💖🙏🏽

[@LivingInTheShade]

You and your hair look fantastic. This problem is perplexing I thought it maybe the shears but you already addressed it in the comments. I'm not a fan of wash and goes I just think leaving your hair wet for long hours or days will damage your hair. Have you thought of going to a cosmetologist, you need someone to look at your hair on a deeper level than just on the surface.

[@natashaglen1007]

Your hair cuticle are open you need a serum or some oil to seal your ends its not damaged don't keep cutting up your hair

[@shelly.v.247]

Sis my hair was literally spilt from the roots to the tips. It was like nothing I’ve ever seen before!!!! 😑

[@AmbitiousBeautyXo]

Shelly, I am right there with ya girl! I ended up just doing another big chop. I’m about chin length as well now and my front was REALLY bad for some reason. I went back to just straightening it every 6-8 weeks, so that I could get a good trim. In between then, I’ve been deep conditioning weekly (occasionally using olaplex 3 as a pre-shampoo treatment), and wearing it stretched. For me, that means braiding it and putting it under a wig. Then I repeat the whole process the following week until I get back to my stylist for another thorough 8 week trim. All of this kind of defeats the point of they who shall not be named’s method 🫠 ….buttttt my hair is now getting back to the hair that I recognize. Pattern Beauty’s deep conditioner has been a game changer for my hair in this process. See what your stylist thinks though!

[@shelly.v.247]

We sound like we have been on a very similar journey to getting our hair back healthy. How’s your hair doing now! 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹

[@AmbitiousBeautyXo]

@ Hey girllll! The overall health of my hair is better, but the length isn’t what it was before I started the no oils, no butters method. I’ve been having to chop off. The splits almost looked like little branches coming from a tree, up the shaft like what Rosie first posted.

[@shelly.v.247]

Ugh I’m so very sorry! I remember how distraught I felt when I found that first tree branch split! I didn’t know the hair could do that! I Aishia recently said that we should all have new heads of hair at this point and basically move on. She has zero empathy for anyone and I think her behavior and words are toxic and reckless! I pray your hair makes a full recovery soon! 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹

[@iateyursandwiches]

Are you still doing the Anthony dickey method? Also, perhaps you shouldn't be silkpressing so much as well...remember so much heat isn't good for your hair. I honestly think once a year is enough.

[@shelly.v.247]

No, because I’ve been wearing my hair straight. However, I recently did a wash and go and I’m resetting it every few days. I’m honestly enjoying using heat in my hair again and my hair seems to respond well to it. I don’t recommend it for everyone because everyone’s hair can’t handle heat. 💖😅

[@iateyursandwiches]

@@shelly.v.247 alright. Do you think you will go back to the method though? I'm assuming you co washed with that wash n go reset or did you just shampoo?

[@lnyawilliamsmoore]

Thanks for sharing. (Rev 21:3-6) You remind me of Sheila E🧐🤔😏😎

[@shelly.v.247]

Haha I do? Well shucks that’s a huge compliment and thank you so much Sis! 😍💖🤗

[@MsRouge2000]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@shelly.v.247]

❤️

[@taahdaah3813]

Every black woman at my job, including myself, hair has become damaged after the pandemic. And none of can figure out why.

[@FrenchCocoa369]

Same here. I really think it’s related to all of the DIY’s and natural hair rules of KZbin university, AND STRESS! I find that the women who were not effected are those who have always maintained their hair by seeing a professional and a frequent and regular basis.

[@shelly.v.247]

My hair was super healthy even through the pandemic. My hair went into a downward spiral one I started the curly cuts and no oils and butters method. 😑

[@shelly.v.247]

@FrenchCocoa I’ve always seen a professional. One of my best friends is my stylist so I had access to her at all times. I’ve never been a DIY person. Also, my issues started when I started to no oils and butters method and started getting curly cuts. IMO they destroyed my hair!!! 😓

[@lesliesestates2763]

Hi, I’ve seen the opposite of those who didn’t stop using oils and butters like Naptural85 and others, hair down their back

[@lesliesestates2763]

@@shelly.v.247 I often wonder about the constant use of the hair dryer without a leave in conditioner under those recommended products of BGC

[@dorissykes8469]

Hi Sis❤ I just subscribed to your channel, this is not good what happened to you 😔 So was it the curly cuts and no leave in, I'm not familiar with the hair care technique you were using but I do remember wanting to get a curly cut but thankfully I didn't, you and your hair are still Beautiful ❤️

[@shelly.v.247]

Aww welcome to our small but mighty and amazing community of natural hair enthusiasts Sis! 😍🤗 IMO, it was a combination of the curly cuts and the no oils & butters method. Together I feel they destroyed my hair. It took me and others several months to figure it out and connect all the dots. I’m so glad you were able to make an informed decision for your hair and have not been impacted at all! 💖🙌🏽

[@knowEgo]

What does your husband think of the new cut? I'm assuming you're married I see a ring 💍

[@shelly.v.247]

He loves it! 😍 We aren’t married yet though. We just got engaged in December of last year but are super excited about it. 🤩🥳

[@knowEgo]

@@shelly.v.247 oh wow - congratulations 🎈🍾🎉 will we get some type of wedding vlog when the time approaches?