Why I left my white hubby and lost my UK visa after 4 months of moving in

[@Tuko]

What message do you have for Tess Ogamba ? You can reach her through her tiktok account ‪www.tiktok.com/@tess_ogamba?_t=8plJQj9ijqg&_r=1 Her KZbin channel is:youtube.com/@tessogamba?si=SZ59AH0IWig5brSN To share your story with us, send a message to our WhatsApp number: 0115106407. Or email us through: [e-mail] or [e-mail].

[@VeronicaDunbar]

Ms. Kawira. Mom, Napenda ku watc

[@VeronicaDunbar]

Ms. Kawera, I wrote you a long comment. But, it did not post. Aje please? Niiandike tena? Kuna mtu mwengine ana access ya ku block or erase my comment. Na hope utanijibu. I hope sikuandika kitu ambacho hukupenda. Comment yangu ilikua ndefu, but not offensive. Besides, nakupenda Sana. Siezi or sijaona kitu cha kukukanusha. Actually, nilikua naitisha msaada fulani, unisaidie. - Tuseme ni SOS. Niko hatarini. Nilikua nataka unisaidie na Serekali yetu, nirudi home. Niko USA, na Passport na documents my whole handbag, ikapotea. I was seating somewhere, nikaamka, nakusahau my handbag na content yake yote. Ndani yake, kulikua na Passport, ID, my funds etc. Haja yangu ni kurudi home, lakini, Embassy yetu Kenya, siku hizi, ni ngumu ku i access. Na niko under EXTREME, EXTREME EXTREME Stress. Niokoeni PLEASE. SOS, SOS, SOS, SOS, SOS. Nipigie na Whatsapp, or text, or phone or kwa vyovyote vile. Okoeni mtoto wa Kenya. PLEASE.

[@roseochido6753]

Pp😊😊ppppp😊ppppppp😊😊p😊

[@dikolizaskk5847]

Why should we say anything to her cos she not saying anything

[@marynyambura4597]

Living with a white man is Not easy as people think.

[@legaleducation3265]

I Lived in the USA and i decided to come back to kenya. It was depressing and nothing good was going on.Went back to school and now i am an Advocate of the High Court of Kenya.Nothing to regtret

[@eyethumfazwe]

I'm South African and I'm proud of you. Love to see my fellow African brothers and sisters win in life.

[@SarahSmith-hu6qd]

It's the greatest decision you made

[@janetmunyaka7173]

Hey gal ,

[@marjashomes1148]

It was the best decision you took, & proud of you too.

[@Lorraine-u3c]

Staying in your country is best in life. Foreign countries won't make anyone rich although some people don't like to stay in their countries.

[@tessogamba]

Thank you for having me 😊

[@miriam5146]

Am proud of you Tess❤ Most Kenyan women dont realise that white men love to be with women who are not ambitious, they like the kind that dont know their purpose in life and will be worshipping the ground they step on likee they're some little god to the person they're married to Thanks for choosing your mental health over settling for societal expectations

[@Tuko]

It was such a great experience hosting you❤❤❤You're full of positivity..

[@prettyn1039]

You said something that took me back and resonated with me.... ati vile shopping zilikuwa zinaokotwa za the needy, I was the needy😊 that was me when mum passed on of an accident, I went from the girl who used to come with the most exorbitant shopping 🛍 to now the needy... but that was then times and tides change

[@VeronicaDunbar]

​@@Tuko I saw the title of this prog. ya Tuco, na nikaandikia Tuco. Hata sijaona hii prog. Acha sasa nisikize.

[@coyoluo]

Wee rudi UK upige warehouse wacha kuzembea wera. 😂

[@jessicambaya2108]

This beautiful lovely granddaughter has a beautiful future🎉 I am 73, and have been following her on KZbin. You are blessed baby girl. Amen 🙏

[@TinoSparks]

❤

[@rinmo2124]

I once heard a story about a Kenyan lady (or Malawi/somewhere in Africa) whose online boyfriend visited her and got married. But because he paid dowry the moment they got to America he treated her as a slave. He intentionally isolated her for years. One thing Id ask myself before involving myself in a long distance relationship; why is this man looking for a long distance relationship whats the obstacle keeping him from pursuing the options he has nearby? It could be he is attracted to blk women and there aren’t many in his hometown or it could be he is a narcissist who is looking for his prey. Be careful out there ladies.

[@JoyceAppia-cj1od]

the lesson is : don't ask them for dowry if you want respect and equality

[@tasneemhayati092]

​@@JoyceAppia-cj1odWhat???that's our African culture, why stoop so low, if a man loves will do his best to win you,bend to your culture, if he is a Narcissist even giving yourself free to him he will abuse you, take note

[@paulomondi-gp1hk8ng6t]

Conversely, we should ask, why are our ladies not using the local options available instead of seeking long distance relationships

[@Agape9598]

@@JoyceAppia-cj1odI dint receive any dowry but I was treated the hard way for three and half years. Still in the marriage because yea, I don’t know 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@tuka24a]

I would like to know why many Kenyan ladies want to date a white male. It is a culture thing or personal options?

[@Nekyslifestyle]

Can’t imagine what this lady has been through in life and she’s still standing tall And strong ❤👏👏👏👏

[@VeronicaDunbar]

Ni ngumu Sana sis/bro. MINGUMUUU. Na mimi hapa USA, I'm in the midst of it. Ninatafuta njia ya kuokolewa, but ninapiga mwamba. Nimeandikia Yvonne pia. The 1st one hapa, ikafutika. Si mimi nimeifuta. Nimeitisha help kwa long... comment. Nadhani, ika post, but then, ikafutika. Ya pili, same. Sijui kunaendaje. Mom Yvonne ni mom mzuri Sana, sidhani ndie anaifuta. But then, mbona inafitika? Sielewi. Na, niko hatarini.

[@suziahkish6354]

​​@@VeronicaDunbar pigia embassy ya Kenya..ama ya country yako yenye iko USA

[@celestinas_world]

@@VeronicaDunbar maybe you using prohibited words here ama obscene

[@realitycorner3365]

Europe is exaggerated. Nothing much to offer except stress, cold,loliness and racism. God bless our africa

[@Sheyifunmi360]

You are absolutely spot ON!!!👍

[@oliwebster9629]

Very true 😢

[@sufi8903]

Great PR...most of these countries were likely great when they had extra revenue coming in from colonized countries

[@gracemwanza1106]

I miss home

[@swts4k]

Her new hairstyle suits her. Cheers to new beginnings, Tess❤

[@cathymartina]

I remember Tess from the Kenya High School, never would have thought you were going through so much in high school. Such a strong girl, Praise God for your hard-work and God's continued favor. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@paulineandersen1760]

I loved it! A smart, eloquent and bold young lady. She is going far! What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. She was strong before, she is stronger now.

[@stevenmutumbu2860]

Can't agree more

[@annangonyo1202]

Thank you for telling the truth, most people try to make a broad looks like that’s where all the opportunities are, but that’s not true❤

[@coyoluo]

She made a wise decision to leave that marriage early, as many African women have suffered and perished in the hands of wazungus once they land abroad. Furthermore, living in the UK can help clear one's mind of various nonsensical beliefs about life. However, if one is not resilient, the experience can be quite challenging.

[@sebentilezanini1085]

It truly toughens you up....

[@ginamusyoka754]

Congrats Tess, you look so good. I watched you on KZbin when you were sharing your experience living in UK . Settle and you can always come to UK anyti me. The experience was a blessing...keep going you have a bright future

[@WEKHOBS]

Tess's voice sounds like one Pastor Liz Ocampos, from the CAMPOS family. So soft spoken.

[@jessicahijarunguru4117]

I think east Africans are very soft spoken but yet strong, West and Southerners speak faster and louder. I love the sound of their voice, accent 😍

[@fridahblessed9296]

And somehow they look alike

[@neisharoberts7143]

So true

[@hoglaswaitherero8778]

Very true

[@lifewithveronicah]

Thank you! I kept feeling familiarity in her voice and saw a semblance she has to someone. It’s Liz Ocampo.

[@DadaSophia-rk2kj]

Grief from death or any other loss changes a person ,it makes one realize that many people whom we claim to be loving family or family members,are not as kind, thoughtful and accommodative as we would want them to be. Death of parents is an eye opener however life must keep going on.

[@aseken510]

true this

[@mapana7759]

So true

[@hudsongeeng215]

@@aseken510liliillkklll ko

[@epicwithflo]

Nipitie🙏🏼

[@bechimba]

Tess is so soft spoken

[@7jess-h4j]

Very but shez smart, very smart.

[@SaraAm91]

What does that mean is it bad ? I hate it when people say it to me I wasn't like that recently going thro things and started talking very slowly and been getting called that

[@7jess-h4j]

@@SaraAm91 its not a bad thing in my opinion, i am soft spoken too but it doesnt prevent me from doing what i love, and being good at it. People change when they go through difficult things. Find a way to get back to who you truly were before you went through that, if that doesnt work try to change your environment to one that inspires who you were before. I hope that helps 💞💌

[@thadinpro]

I'm not sure I can fully connect with her story. She had a difficult childhood but also encountered some commendable good Samaritans along the way. It's clear the abusive relationship with her husband was unacceptable. She didn't like London, felt depressed, and needed her space-she wasn't ready for marriage, which ultimately contributed to its failure. The need for space should have been communicated and agreed upon beforehand. Additionally, moving to a new country, starting a life married to someone from a different culture, and facing the challenges of an expensive environment were bound to create stress and potential for depression. Don’t blame yourself for what happened. Thank you for sharing; I believe the story could have been presented more reflectively, focusing on personal growth rather than shifting blame.

[@Binti1801]

Not only different culture but someone they barely knew each other, they got marriage on his first visit, I mean why is she suprised four months later they started having issues🙄🙄

[@BettyMesso]

..seems she wz depressed before traveling understandably from what she went through as a child. Hoping to marry fast n leaving the Country would save her but it didn’t. She didn’t like the Ctry n the man didn’t turn out to be who she thought or her expectation of what a marriage should be, n being a loner someone who likes her space. Happy shez safe back home n focusing on healing n growth.

[@Mofey_alex]

Oh you and the 9 others that liked this comment are damn triggered!

[@nelly5094]

True UK is really miserable cold and always raining, people are not social, i was happy when i packed and came back.

[@Chai-moto-fm]

Depend where you were

[@patriciakasenge9927]

​@@Chai-moto-fm yep you right , i live in one of the warmest parts of England ,and its lovely , i thank God for the opportunity😊

[@njiru24]

@@nelly5094 also had the same experience I was cold most times and working all the time

[@CharlesRachel-ck3uz]

Europe is not easy am in germany 14 years now natamani kama hizi pesa nipatazo hapa ingelikua kenya ningeishi kenya mombasa ndio home

[@mercysophiasiloba575]

True cold country with cold people ..

[@sharonmundia9457]

Glad you can now be able to smile ❤❤❤God is great

[@harrysuniverse6364]

This girl is very intelligent and soft spoken i just love her❤

[@Mofey_alex]

Kwani how do you speak if you call this soft spoken?

[@annritasimon7379]

As a kenyan working in UK 🇬🇧 I can honestly say this country isn't for the weak. Ni God ananisaidia personally. We have qualifications but our corrupt kenyan government won't give us jobs. Cheers Tess

[@shironjuguna5853]

Tess, you are my personal hero! I am in my mid-40s, and boy, i have learned a lot from you! Resilience! Courage! You are such an amazing, confident young lady and you will go places! Ignore the salty people😂😂they are salty because they can't even do a quarter of what you've done! ... you have reaĺly overcome great obstacles! I salute you! I stan my queen! Please punguza cuss words 😂😂😂

[@jenniferwaititu1711]

Welcome back, Tess! I’m so glad you found the strength to leave that difficult situation. It’s truly commendable that you stood up for what you deserve, especially when many might have chosen to stay and endure rather than return to where they are genuinely loved and valued. You fought for both your happiness and your peace of mind, and I’m thrilled to see that you succeeded. I know your marriage taught you a lot, and while it’s heartbreaking that you lost your mum too soon, she would have been your guide in navigating relationships and marriage. I admire your courage in refusing to be mistreated. Keep up the hard work, and trust that God will continue to guide and protect you on this journey.

[@barbaraquayson1190]

Ol 5a

[@edelweiss9424]

Wow, das war viel. Du hast sicher viel durchgemacht. Ich wünsche dir so viel in diesem Leben. Immer das Beste... Pass auf.. ❤

[@olufunkeogunbiyi3277]

Much love Tess you are indeed a virtuous woman despite all youve passed through you are still strong.Proud of you

[@nicoleakinyi1938]

Ooh my sweet Tess 🤗your voice is so soothing, I'm so proud of you and happy that you're are much better now. May God always guide you🙏

[@wambumwash8510]

I just love her and the way she expresses herself

[@valorinejepchirchir702]

When I heard her saying sexual abuse, I felt so bad😢.May you heal Tess❤

[@desmondwallace-h6c]

white man fetish

[@user-wr9fn4ny4i]

She is not truthful to her story. Women have a lot of support here in the UK, and the guy was not the kind of man she expected with a lot of money.

[@BarbraOwegi]

I can relate 💯. I was in a similar situation and overstayed in that relationship. Eventually I found myself in a mental institution for one month due to stress and depression from the mental, physical and emotional abuse .

[@Shanaz870]

Hugs

[@njokindungu1370]

Trust you are ok now n stress free.

[@Sabrina1977-y]

NEVER MY DEAR AFRICANS!!!! WE MUST TO GOOOO!!!!! I KNEW IT TOOOO FROM MY WHITE HUBBY!!!!! I WENT AWAYYYYYY!!!!!!

[@jesusfound8758]

❤

[@Lily_muthengi]

Hugs❤

[@nancymande8152]

We tend to appreciate 🇰🇪 more when we go abroad,l was in the 🇺🇸 for close to 3 yrs and l was DEPRESSED 😔..There’s these thing called SAD Syndrome and maaan is there.l booked my one way ✈️ back to 🇰🇪and let me tell you Mainaaa,Home is always the BEST…Kenya is a good good country of course we have afew problems but me l prefer 🇰🇪 aMillion times

[@Lorraine-u3c]

I never dreamt of working and living in foreign countries in my life. Home is the best regardless any problems that my country can have, I just want to stay in my country. Yes, I can just visit foreign countries but not staying or working. It's a big No to me. There's no better place like home.

[@JayJay-my1mk]

Well some of us go through a lot but my story is difficult. Just celebrated my one year anniversary married to the best Brit guy ever ❤ can’t ask for a better partner than him. It’s not easy it’s a very bipolar country and one needs to be really selfless and selfish too. Set boundaries and be smart

[@brendaatieno2240]

Nitafutie mzungu uko .mm am tied na mateso

[@tuforu4]

Kenya has no PSYCHIATRISTs.

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

How can she be talking this calmly after all she went through? Mimi ingekuwa bipolar pap though out.

[@fay7255]

And the way Liz ocampo is jean woi wish you knew. Someone i know ia married in theur family and boy,! You would be baffled to know her real character!

[@PumlaNgwane]

She's so well and soft spoken...and super intelligent...and beautiful..basically the whole package. ❤❤.she could be a good therapist herself ❤

[@MarNgosi]

Tess, I love you❤ you inspire me keep shining and keep rising!

[@kamashproduction1376]

Tess you are Strong woman. It is not you, hawa wazungu our women wachaneni nawao

[@dorothyadega4338]

I Tel you

[@tradingnews7563]

Better our African people 100⁰%,are petty,high pressured..treat you like you never deserve 😢

[@Navalekathehorselover]

They are fake,marriage scammers,luciferians ,champions of emotional abusers!

[@Liliokh]

Shout louder! Kenyan women adore Wazungu men. They hunt them online!

[@stellajaeger2520]

It's not about race but personality. My hubby is mzungu and amazing btw! He was a guy who couldn't appreciate her strength.

[@georgemayo5623]

What this lady went through is very unfortunate. In Europe or UK, someone has to be wise, in the relationship they engage with or get involved in.

[@chiccollatta]

Very true i'm in Europe right now and wueeeh its not a bed of roses out here

[@sheilaalosa8118]

TUKO..what took you so long to get Tess Ogamba.. glad to hear your whole story at one go. Thank you.

[@mercyauma9592]

Thanks for sharing your story and may God give you the grace to heal fully and restore everything into your life. Sending you hugs and prayers

[@KenyanMomVloggerItaly]

Some Wazungu will be nice to you before you move to their Country,Then ukifika Kwao they’ll show you their true colors

[@jesusfound8758]

Very true

[@marieheiss6560]

@ Lizzy, very true, wakiwa ugenini wana nyenyekea, inchini kwao mambo kwa ground ni tofauti kabisa true colors utastajaabu.

[@betricemainoya4176]

That's why natafuta mzungu lkn tuishi kwetu Africa piriod!

[@ceciliahmwangi497]

True

[@carolineobonyo5699]

They are all like that. Whites hate blacks in Europe, but try telling our Kenyan girls that, they don't listen. Mzungus are their God

[@Ichbinthee_dali]

Congratulations Tess on your achievements & resilience; I wish you healing and nothing but success & prosperity in all aspects

[@HeleneaTroy]

Kudos Tessa vor finding your way & not caving in to the guy 🎉🎉🎉! Haki Europe nikuvumilia tu. Jungus have a totally different culture & mindset from ours. It takes strength & effort to adapt in the West. One has 2B very focussed & determined. As Tessa says; depression is rampant in ulaya. You hafto be extrememly strong 😢. Culture shock is worse than you can imagine, especially since discrimination is on the rise 😫

[@Joseph-s3o3o]

I like this interviewer , she is so calm and peaceful.

[@Deedor72]

And allows the guest to pour out her heart

[@jameskitoto3315]

What an experience, very unfortunate. You should have reached out to Kenyans in UK. Like that part at 42.50, london is soo experience, it's not what people think. We'll share this with irish community

[@Mayellah19]

I have listen to her story and having watched alot of crime documentaries abroad all i can say if all this is true,You did well Tess by protecting yourself and your sanity...You didn't act desperate to stay with him because,you could have died there and he could have covered it up and your family couldn't have gotten justice...

[@amazingmimi6682]

Tess, I texted you offering help as a mum,but you didn't respond. I'm in uk. I wanted to be there for you I knew it will come to that when you left the guy.

[@antonattachihombori9561]

May God bless you. ❤

[@agneskaigua9329]

I love this girl. She is a strong girl. So eloquent

[@Joseph-s3o3o]

not every woman is meant to marry, some are meant to be independent, not living under any man .

[@nualisplace]

Its a blessing to be able to see and identify an extraordinary human being.The world celebrates mediocrity and calls intelligence, confidence boring or pride.Tess Ogamba you are smart, awesome and a shining beacon for todays young woman in a world that will eat you alive Reading some of the comments demonstrates the challenges of this era.The dumbing down of society and willingness to settle for the bare minimum while looking down on those who strive to work their brains and use the gifts they've been given.We are living in the days of Animal Farm for sure Believe me people want to see tears and broken down souls just to feed their own demons without having to face them.Keep standing,those for whom your message is intended,will get it.Thank you for checking out of that predicament sooner than later.There are no medals for those who lose their lives just to please a warped society I appluad you

[@truth7834]

Those judging Tess probably have not experienced being away from home, pretty much by yourself and in a bad relationship - vulnerable. She doesn't have to share all the gory details to be believed. I think you are a strong and intelligent woman which helped you to get out of a bad situation. Many would probably continue suffering because they don't have the same courage and others also, just because they don't know what to do. Enjoy your peace.

[@mercynjeri6070]

I have watched some of her content on KZbin channel and she is a strong lady indeed. Watching her here, she looks so different, her face is brighter and definitely the change of hairstyle. Keep hope alive Tess❤❤❤

[@okujet277]

Tess! Are you back in Kenya? Oh no. I'll message via your channel you strong woman. 😘😘

[@kadzo6614]

Why the "oh no?" She is fine.❤

[@MusaMunyiva]

Nothing is wrong kenya

[@SharonWaBarakaVlogs]

The U.K. is very difficult if you find yourself in a situation of DA and a visa that has no recourse to public funds. Sorry you went through that I wish I knew you then ningekusaidia. You could have applied for DV concession visa to be eligible for support and a visa in your own right. Halafu refuges in U.K. are shocking they have no spaces most of them and criteria is so high

[@bettyada852]

Hi dear kindly can you drop your number I need your help 😭

[@kawiranaivasha5699]

Tess is a go getter. I was in Kenya High School...

[@Its-chacha2024]

Ex-bomerian too

[@glowtechvisuals6176]

Tess has taught me alot about online jobs. It is good to thank God in all situation. There are lessons to learn along the way and at the end you will gain a lot. Thank you Tess and Tuko

[@marinasalufu3634]

I have come to love you girl, that is goodness of education, and i like such woman, I wish all women could learn, God will bless you more, I love people with brain, love you brave girl

[@shoptitobella]

Couldn't imagine what you went through, so sad yet you are a positive vibe. I am following you right away. You go gal. You are a very strong Lady

[@rosemakena8267]

If strength and resilience was a person,Tess keep soaring. You're a winner ❤

[@epicwithflo]

Nipitie

[@linetmwangi2740]

Tess is good to see you happy again . God bless you sis.

[@pamelamugo9627]

God's grace is always sufficient 🙏 ❤

[@eunicenjeru215]

The guest has impressed me with her wisdom and confidence.Not many come out of abusive relationships early enough before they are crashed totally.Kudos gal❤❤❤❤

[@winniekaburara4000]

I think this lady just didn't have feelings for the guy

[@youcandoit5748]

I thought that too I think people should not just get married for the sake of marriage!

[@Sleepybabes]

😢

[@marshawilliams5073]

Definitely! I feel the same. She didn't even give it a fair chance, but why would she when her intentions were off!!? A lot of women are using this domestic violence situation to get their permanent residence. I feel sorry for the real victims!

[@KingdomconversationswithDali]

Glad you're back home. God has better plans

[@danielamicheal4680]

i was in your shoes for 3yrs depression hit me and woooo not easy but am good now

[@annalinejepkiyeny6834]

I love your passion for the things you believe in and positivity in life Tess. Have learnt alot from you

[@deborahadanu4580]

A narcissistic is difficult to deal with. I am glad you got out of that space.

[@Blessedmum-m3x]

Wait until you meet a narcissist. Then you will have a platform to judge people.

[@ChildofLightOfficial]

Trust me girl.. I wouldn’t wish a narcissist on anyone. Deadly!

[@brendangonyama]

Such a beautiful lady, first time watching your show and I love it

[@JaneHealth-wg2ig]

COMMENT TO HOST, PLEASE TELL THE STORY NARRATOR. WE DO NOT NEED CAUSING AM ASSIMING THIS IS A FAMILY FRIENDLY CHANNEL.

[@JaneHealth-wg2ig]

I meant NO CURSING. My apology 😂

[@evajepkorir2570]

Kawira is not good in this platform she.just found herself

[@ebonyatoti]

​@@JaneHealth-wg2igit's no big deal.

[@petronillanyangoma-eo3xl]

Sorry about what you went through. You came to UK when it was winter. Food you just cook what you want.

[@jackiesimpson9068]

When we meet people online, you have to know them well to move In with them

[@Stargate234]

Even those you think you have taken time to know then can actually change to monsters. Life no balance. There are those who met and got married just after meeting and are leaving happily.

[@tradingnews7563]

True,but white guys are hard to live with 😊

[@MpressRuby]

I got engaged to my husband one week after virtually meeting and got married one month after physically.Been together 6 years, so there’s no way of knowing someone “well” …

[@jackiesimpson9068]

@@Stargate234 that’s good point

[@health_ontrack]

You can never know someone through online very well until you live with them or meet them frequently

[@sarahmhlongo6729]

I really enjoyed watching and listening to Tess's story, young and resilient lady. Soft spoken and smart, i am glad she found her way out and finally got home safely. I just wish she could stop this cursing act because it doesn't look good on her. May she heal in the process.

[@lucynguru2128]

Just a lot of words but she doesn't say what was so bad in her union What is manipulation? I think she wasn't really in love with the man

[@nicetoknow27]

The same way I see...simply the way she express her self here, it's like she was equal to the man and such a marriage can't last. She doesn't know how to abey and that's why she talks of respecting and giving the space... giving space is for dating partners but not couples.

[@HUKUGITHU]

I agree Kwanza vile amesema the relationship was low effort I think she didn't love that man enough...

[@marionwangari3928]

I concur,she wasn't into that guy

[@susanwaithera3715]

I 👍 agree

[@epicwithflo]

Nipitieni

[@vimbaisavanhu4082]

@tessogamba thank you for having the courage to share your story. Don't allow people who have no idea what you have gone through what you went through to judge you. Keep growing keep thriving ❤

[@mercykaranja6726]

Tess your courage, resilience will take you to great places.

[@Simply_Moniquee]

As much as she suffered,UK isn’t that bad,the noise,housing and stuff aren’t really bad,if may be she took time to settle in after she found her place,she’d probably have a different story right now.Anyway,I wish her the best of luck!

[@judynganga9821]

I'm surprised that people are noisy ,that's not true and houses are not that bad. She just moved to a flat which will definitely be noisy .she didn't really get to know uk well

[@Simply_Moniquee]

@@judynganga9821 I agree,even in towns and cities it’s not noisy,can’t compare it to Kenya,and the houses are definitely very well built.Never heard of any whose walls are made of cardboard tbh,I feel like a lot of the things she said are absolutely incorrect in terms of quality of living.

[@estheromotunde427]

I agree UK is not that bad but it is extremely boring, cold and can get very lonely- it lacks the community shield and interactions we have in African countries ....... And FYI I lived for 15 years in England so I am speaking from experience..Wishing Tess all the best...God bless her for being true to herself .

[@estellasimpson9975]

I agree.. UK isn’t as bad as it sounds. Tessa was already a self accomplished girl and wasn’t going to sit around. However if she’d been like some of us were she could’ve moved out and started on her own with all the right support in place.Yes services are scarce but when it comes to DV/ sexual assault the support is there. I’m sorry to hear her experience was this horrible. But all in all Tessa wanted to come back home..and she will do great things in the future. Bristol is a great city but has its own inequalities!

[@ebonyatoti]

Is this your takeaway from this story? 🙄

[@Ekimcom]

Very beautiful lady, brilliant and articulate. Self driven and very motivated lady. The only advice is to drop the F@#! and Sh!* words, they are no appealing when spoken over and over again. However, it is a lovely and great story of resilience.

[@MaryMuhura]

You are one girl who knows her own self-worth and were quick to waste no time in letting go of a toxic person who was more than ready to destroy your self-esteem and break your spirit. (People who love their own company, being alone, are usually strong people - because they are not looking or chasing other people validate them) There are many girls/ladies who are still prisoners of very toxic relationships that have reduced them into a shell of their former self.

[@yomiolayinka8754]

You made the best choice girl👏👏👏👏. Dust up, chin up and God will always be there for you🙏🏽

[@njokindungu1370]

Gal you're strong,live your life,im proud of you ,you are a go getter, lessons sharpen pple.keep it up gal.

[@jera2904]

She is soo soo hardworking i used to follow her from back then she really used to inspire me and just hearing her story i am just more inspire that a girl can work genuinely and survive ...

[@Godsown-2]

Very encouraging. Thanks! Respectfully please loose the “F” word. Older generations like me are here too. It’s offensive.

[@JoanaTimko]

calm down or go to bed

[@mercynicevlogs2874]

Tess you are so cute and eloquent..your very bright as well.keep pushing on

[@georgemayo5623]

The culture in UK or Europe is different from the one in 🇰🇪 Kenya.

[@gofgan]

Hello Ms Tess....im glad now u can freely share your story without fear

[@fay7255]

These curse words make some of us think sh had role to play in this. She sounds like a person who is never content with anything.complaining of cold and rain on day one yet as sh saud she reseraches,why didnt she rezearch about weather food and all.Tess change your attitude.

[@user-wr9fn4ny4i]

Well, in order to make in this Western countries you have to work hard.??Nothing easy.

[@jacquelinenyanga8137]

Tess , thanks for sharing the emotional and inspiring story . May God heal you fully and grant you courage to move on

[@mosesmoloi5532]

I’m halfway through the interview but struggling to continue due to its vagueness-no clear names, places, dates, or context. As an African living in Europe for over two decades, I’ve seen many marriages fail due to ignorance, poor preparation, or misplaced expectations, and I can't tell which is the case here. Why conduct an interview without verifiable facts? What can be learned from this? Cultural differences between Africa and Europe are significant. If you’re entering another culture, it takes more than just finding someone attractive. Is that all an "analytical person" considers for a lifelong commitment? Very disappointing! I hope to get more clarity by the time I endure to the end now that I am already more than halfway through.

[@nataliamutilifa]

After listening to your story you are strong dear you nkow who you're i salute you for leaving that marriage.

[@elizabethgoodwin998]

From end of November to March people suffer from severe depression, anxiety and brain fog during winter months in all Europe.

[@nomathemba8688]

I am dreading it 😂😂😂 especially our UK winter

[@phillipinachari8872]

What a warrior ua gal...jus proud of who ua .u story has inspired mi alot

[@bikoflavious2903]

May this serve as a lesson to most of Kenyan ladies..you treat white men as " second god " or " saviour"

[@sabbathfaith879]

Wickedness has no color, we have black men abusing their wives as well just like a white man with similar character would do. Let's not put everyone in same basket. Judge an individual as an individual not as a community.

[@PeninaMukora2097]

Tess pole Sana that you didn't have friends whom could stand, support you😢but i see GOD has been with you all the way

[@cregperkins5857]

God help our young African young women, meeting foreign partners then marry them within a short time, that is a clear red flag why the rush that shows there is something wrong with such a man

[@mwendapoleee]

It happens everywhere even our fellow Kenyans go through hard times only whites are high lighted.

[@martinekamga66]

My dear it's not only foreigners, your own people are the worst, I was in her shoes with a guy from my country, for eight years I suffer so much because I filled for his paper and I didn't want to let stranded, he use me just to get out of the country, by the time I left I was a shell of myself, with nervous breakdown, in deep depression, by the grace of God I'm doing ok

[@Ola-ck6tr]

Especially Kenyan ladies

[@harrietkamau6710]

Issues of fixation as in I am this kind of person, I have to disallow anything that comes my way. Also too much self love that cuts off people and friends. You had to do that to survive because that's who you are ; a survivor

[@deborahadanu4580]

The way people are brought up determines how they behave.

[@nomathemba8688]

💯 true and include the people we associate with

[@bluebird4815]

As someone that was raised in England from my early teens, i'll be honest and tell you lot that it definitely can be alot!!! If you have a good life in Kenya, please don't uproot your life.

[@JaneHealth-wg2ig]

I meant NO CURSING. My apology

[@annenjugi3826]

Tess, you are blessed the Universe has an excellent plan for you, you are a survivor not a victim always remember this❤

[@cregperkins5857]

Why didnt she reach out to Kenyan community in London?

[@britanniarose]

You wish dear! Majority of Kenyans abroad cannot be dependent on!

[@celestinas_world]

She was all over asking for assistance my love

[@Flourish_today]

I commed Tess for being self empowered. Regardless of everything she went through, she knew to call the police and get out of that horrible situation. 👏 bravo,bravo!.