What happened after leaving my UK husband | Interracial marriage

[@tessogambaupclose]

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[@stephaniechidinma]

Girl I have no sympathy mate you called the police on the person that brought you to the UK and spent so much to support you. Now you can see money don't fall from trees here. And that's not the issue but the main thing is that you haven't given any tangible reasons for leaving your marriage other than he doesn't wash his teeth before kissing u.

[@tessogambaupclose]

@stephaniechidinma You need sympathy more than I do. Step outside and let air in your brain and then go find him, marry him, and do better than I did.

[@hyasinthantuyeko1440]

@@stephaniechidinma Who want to be homeless in a foreign country? Who? What is a tangible reason for leaving a marriage for you? A death certificate? 🤷‍♀️

[@shirldey]

@@stephaniechidinmayou sound like you don’t brush your teeth and expect people to kiss you. Get a life Tess is being real. I would run away from such a person despite them bringing me to England. Abuse is real & no one should tolerate it.

[@stephaniechidinma]

@@shirldey you come here and support shit have you left your marriage because your husband doesn't brush his teeth or better still you are not married as usual. If this was your brother how would you feel that he brought a woman over only to be used. All the domestic violence she claimed you can see its a plot to get sympathy from the government because the uk 🇬🇧 has put this measure in place for people that really needs it not criminal like this. This are people that use the system.

[@Karimi.410]

I was searching for kenyans living in UK.. saw this channel and now am sooo hawked...much love from Kenya. Ur so educative

[@shlonzo]

Karibu, I’m here too… always looking to connect with people from back home. It can get really lonely these ends of the world

[@tessogambaupclose]

Wow, thank you

[@veronicajjingo8313]

Living in the UK humbles everyone. Every decision you make you think hard before making a move. It is a system no short cuts

[@nellydama4032]

Life abroad is not for the faint at heart and for you to open up about your life is so commendable because it is good that people back in Kenya know that it is not always roses. If it can happen to you, it can happen to anyone. I am happy that you are picking up pieces of your life and making all the challenges count. It will all be fine Tess, you've got this and I am rooting for you.

[@tessogambaupclose]

Well said! Thank you 💛

[@Victoria_maingi]

What a strong woman. First time coming across this channel and let me say i see tolerance i see a strong woman and as someone who has lived abroad and away from anyone i knew huh!!! You will win and be big girl.

[@RuthWambugu]

I love your courage to speak about your experience no matter how hard it has been.God got you, never give up and thank you for being strong to fight for yourself ❤.

[@busiesibanda6759]

'And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God' Tess God will come through for you He's All Powerful. Much love 💕

[@maureensworld3118]

Girl you're the strongest girl i know, like what you went through in a new country and still managed to pick up the pieces up to where you are now is just amazing. Keep it up.

[@Gogoaggie2018]

Wow, l am speechless. Girl, you are one of the bravest young ladies l have never seen. Keep flying, my dear. You make Africa proud ❤❤❤❤

[@Selis-c3b]

Your a symbol of hope, courage and Resilience to women going through similar situations.proud of you

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thank you 💛

[@Powerful_Akoth]

You are on the right path. You took a leap of faith to find happiness and it will come. You will thank yourself for taking the leap! You will be so happy again… you will find everything you ever wanted n dreamed of. Congratulations in advance 🎉🫶🏿❤

[@DiasporaDoodles]

I love that you are speaking about this and sharing with the world. A lot of Kenyan ladies go through this process because they all feel marrying a Mzungu is the way to a happy life. I hope more Kenyan ladies are watching this as I have come across so many of you guys in the diaspora suffering abuse yet loads still get into it without stopping to study the Mzungu properly first. Sending love and peace.

[@HeartBreakHigh]

Totally agree! 👊🏾

[@patriciahercules6852]

They only marry African women to make interracial videos.Its a market for these men to get easy money while the woman has to do all the heavy lifting.

[@knowz2367]

I have also noticed that a lot of Kenyan ladies have such stories on KZbin. I thought I was the only one who noticed this trend.

[@ednasigi1470]

Sending you so much love, light and hugs! May God keep strengthening you as you tackle each day, one day at a time! It is well and everything will eventually fall into place 🙏🏾

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thank you so much!

[@mwmwaniki]

Good brave girl. I follow your u tube channels n u are a blessing to me n to many am sure. Keep going Atleast you are free now n happy. God is so good

[@demanhassan4953]

A true definition of Mwanamke Bomba. Wish you all the best in your journey ❤

[@estherinyang4779]

You are really strong. Quitting and moving on, and starting afresh. None of that is easy. Life is just so unpredictable. We can't be prepared enough. Things switch any minute. I'm encouraged to see how well you are handling your situation like a pro. More strength to you and anyone going through challenges out there. All will be well.

[@ihechikaraibekwe]

So sorry you went through this, and grateful for all the help you received. God bless you

[@chesswellnesszone]

I really like your honesty and calmness in talking. I just subscribed. Thanks for your honesty

[@tessogambaupclose]

I appreciate that!

[@Remi-k2q]

Your story is a lesson to everyone and l like your courage to come out and explain your situation.gradually you overcome that is bravery.am watching you from Nigeria

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thank you 💛

[@sylviajepchirchir3080]

I'm literally crying 😭 watching this🥺 it's soo emotional and inspiring 🥺guurrrl you strong 😩

[@tessogambaupclose]

🥺🥺🥺 Thank you 💛

[@hyasinthantuyeko1440]

Girl!!! Girl!! Girl!!! Girl!!! You are a super woman!!! Jesus!!! Congratulations for having such unshakable courage..... Waow!!! Waow!!! Never being abroad before and you managed to sort out yourself like this? Salute!!!!

[@tessogambaupclose]

Honestly, I almost gave up, but thank you so much!!

[@hyasinthantuyeko1440]

@@tessogambaupclose You will get far! Trust me. And Remember everything happen for a reason

[@nancyeden1693]

That was the best decision u ever made..tess am proud of u for the courage u had..as a woman u first have to appreciate urself and love urself first...I love ur self esteem ,it on top!!!all will be well!!

[@estephaniap9027]

Thank you for sharing your story. I pay for all the very best in your life. I am also an immigrant living abroad and I know it isn't easy. God's peace is with you. May you continue in Him 😇

[@onyiliciouskitchen]

Is not a bad idea,we are proud of you.go girl

[@tessogambaupclose]

🧡

[@mpendulo7451]

I love the way you told your story and wishing you luck on getting back to your routine, I love your spirit and may you find the right soulfulmate...

[@Raetalkss]

I am sooo happy you are safe!

[@tessogambaupclose]

Me and you both sissy, wheew!

[@staycieayumah5706]

Hey Tess, came here from your latest video and I'm happy for the strides you've made so far. Praying that you heal completely and may God pour unending joy in your life. Could you do a video on what you learned about interracial marriage from your experience? Anyway, great job for inspiring people in more ways than one.

[@candygirl1990]

You are so inspiring tess, keep going thats all you can do. Well done girl ❤❤

[@tessogambaupclose]

That's really all I can do. Thank you girl

[@lucymuli7340]

I look at you and see myself i don't know in what way but even in your situation you still,inspire ,encouge and give me hope ❤❤my prayers are with you Tess

[@iopakayalo3459]

Keep holding on, dear Tess. Take comfort in the kindness of those around you, and know that brighter days are ahead. You are on the path to stability, and with the support of these angels, you will make it through. Stay strong, and keep believing in yourself. Jehovah God got you. Sending you lots of hugs for being so brave in sharing your vulnerability with us. Salute! 💚🙏.

[@millicenttuhairwe4416]

Your so stong may God make it easy for you dearie

[@HeartBreakHigh]

This is why I would only come to stay in another country independently, not through a boyfriend. Sharing your experience will be an extremely valuable testimony for people to learn from.

[@thenativeconservationist]

Exactly never for a man. I want to urge my fellow African sisters not to fall for such a trap. These Western men have evil agendas at times. I’m proud of her, myself and others who pulled themselves through. I am sad for the sisters we’ve lost and I pray more can avoid such 🙏🏽🥹

[@HeartBreakHigh]

@@thenativeconservationist I echo that too 👊🏾. BW have to particularly careful, because they is no protection for us. If things go wrong, we are on our own.

[@thenativeconservationist]

@@HeartBreakHigh that last line echos so much we really are on our own and I pray that God protects us🙏🏽

[@HeartBreakHigh]

@@thenativeconservationist The Most High will protect HIS children if they are living a righteous life and up to a point, with HIS amazing grace, HE even protects HIS children when they are not living a righteous life, hoping that they will repent. So, we must all repent daily and continuously and pray without ceasing. APTTMH 🙏🏾 🙂

[@thenativeconservationist]

@@HeartBreakHigh Hallelujah Amen 🙏🏽

[@vivianatieno9854]

I'll always be proud of you darling 😙, you're one in a million ❤❤❤. Sending love and hugs 🤗🤗❤❤❤.

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thank you, Vivian.

[@samanthasomman530]

Hi my name is samantha im in the uk im a mother you said u dont know anyone in the uk if u need anyone to talk to im here my sister

[@miss60kiss]

Hey Samantha, i really wish i knew you. I am here and have nobody to speak to.

[@mercynjeri702]

Hi Tess,i love your videos

[@CathysJournal]

I really salute your courage and resilience. I wish you God’s blessings all the way. ❤

[@malkiascholastica5121]

I always see myself in you. I hope one day I will gather courage and share my story 🤗🤗🤗

[@Nani-Hana-kwao]

If courage is was a person.... Hands down girl.. You are doing great

[@loiceconnectug]

You are not alone. God is with you

[@Chosen1962Anointed]

My dear God is your strength. He will be with you on this journey! Just ensure your life is in the Master’s hands! Daddy Jesus sustain your daughter please. Give her the strength and courage to carry on! Prayer, hugs and kisses to you!❤❤❤❤😢

[@tessogambaupclose]

Amen 🙏 Thank you so much

[@butterflychild2797]

Going through rhe exact situation. Except i am Australian and escaped a DV situation here in Nigeria. Im still in nigeria and luckily i met some reaslly good people here who are investors. Im always very safe here in this compound. But i was lucky. Anything could have happened

[@abdulmalikkoiki]

This is a hard watch for me as a man and i can ONLY wish you the best as you navigate the rest of your life in the UK 🇬🇧 and hope you can get your life altogether again. Learn and move on. I heard about Reading, it's a nice town which i have lived for over 20 years. All the best sis.

[@PhallenJongbloet]

Courage is your name my darling. Cheering you on as you soar high. You are truly destined for greatness sis❤❤❤

[@tessogambaupclose]

I appreciate that

[@nancie_daisy3213]

Much love😊

[@tessogambaupclose]

💛

[@Peggy-l3c]

God is always before you he is Omni present keep it up you are in our prayers Amen 🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@abdulmalikkoiki]

I hope the police are involved so that this guy should not be able to do it to anyone else and also prevent other women from DVs.

[@faithb4236]

Gotta give it to you girl. You did well in your research i gotta say.

[@tessogambaupclose]

I really did research. Thank you 💛

[@vivyfunpage]

Aki Kenyans who live London can't u help our sister, ata to find work ,am sure we have Kenyans who owns homes , pls help your sister,

[@celestinas_world]

Even realtors wakenya

[@vmat6684]

The immigration laws are strict, and people are afraid to harbour or employ someone in case they are an illegal immigrant. They would be fined a minimum of 20.000 pounds. Also, the homelessness route is better for her because if she lives with someone, the government will be under no obligation to give her housing because they would no longer consider her homeless.The laws are tough and strict.

[@kellsvlogs7930]

Not sure why KZbin suggest this video for me. May be because of the side hustle thing. Any ways girl you very strong may god continue to bless you. I wish I could give you a hug. May god open more doors 🚪 for you. Definitely subscribing and will book a call with you soon.❤️⭐️

[@emmanuelnzini7708]

Always consult God in all you do Tess he wasnt the man for you thats why God cancelled the marriage depend on Him in all you do and I pray God will restore you you are in my prayers❤🇰🇪🇺🇸 Love from North Dakota

[@Kim_Nyasha]

I wish you all the best Tess

[@KENYANQUEENOFFICIAL]

Watching from France,proud of u babygal ❤❤❤❤❤

[@nabbosabeldine8885]

Thanks for sharing you are brave kindly share more of the online stuff available I am battling with stroke any help ...

[@reviveachilduganda7322]

Whats your budget? My landlord is Tanzanian, they might have a free apartment in Scotland if interested

[@tessogambaupclose]

Aaaww, thank you 😊 but I'm looking in England.

[@celestinas_world]

Just give it a try, Tanzanians are really nice

[@cherrypilah]

How much is the apartment

[@naturalhairchronicles]

Go gal, you got this.

[@ElizabethMaina-l2x]

❤❤ JUST DO U. PROUD THAT UNLEFT A BEAST. WHAT HASN'T KILLED U,WILL MAKE U STRONGER. GOD GOT U. THANKS 4 BEING STRONG AND NAKED BE4 MILLIONS,U NEVER KNOW HOW MANY U SAVE. FORGE ON.

[@Omo-i8z]

You got this gal everything is gonna be alright hanging there

[@lilliz4631]

You're very clever gal.

[@tessogambaupclose]

🧡🧡

[@katiedalton7549]

Gal you are a victor. Chin up and keep moving you🥰

[@smilesallround]

You are so resilient, God bless you ❤🙏🏿

[@Africanmumsworld]

Great work

[@InspirationswithZippy]

Always looking forward to your videos 🎉🎉

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thank you, Zippy

[@josephinekilungya1889]

You go Tess my girl ❤

[@ammukami]

There are companies that offer guarantor services. You pay a certain amount and they offer rental guarantee

[@idehenreosas3969]

Always remember the reason you first got married and leaving or staying will not be a big deal to you. Enjoy your journey in life and be happy regardless.

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thank you 💛

[@UK-sm4co]

I wish we lived in the same county, i would have made friends with you, we for enjoy plenty waka waka 😅😅😅. Sending you big hugs 🫂

[@CeceEunice]

Oh my God, how can refuge reject her because she doesn't have income, that is soo sad. Women Refuge should help women who experience domestic violence no matter what the circumstances. I've worked in Refuge for seven year. I'm disappointed to here how you're were rejected first.

[@victoriatubula7704]

You will make it girl.

[@OajwandeTakueo]

Please don’t later remove it from ur KZbin later oo

[@DeeDeeGlobalGist]

I REMEMBER DROPPING A COMMENT FOR YOU TO BE VERY CAREFUL BECAUSE YOU CAME THROUGH A SPOUSAL VISA ROUTE BUT ONE OF YOUR OVER SABI FOLLOWERS WANT TO EAT HERSELF RAW NOT ME THINKING SHE'S KNOWS EVERYTHING ABOUT IMMIGRATION OR BETTER STILL WORK WITH THE HOME OFFICE.. HOW I WISH THE PERSON CAN SEE THIS POST BECAUSE SHE SAID YOU DON'T NEED VISA TO BE IN THE UK WHICH I DON'T KNOW HOW CAN THAT BE POSSIBLE

[@tessogambaupclose]

They were wrong. Once the marriage is over, the spouse visa sort of becomes invalid

[@nancynyongesa4487]

So sorry for what you went through. You are a strong lady

[@betsyakoko6810]

Stay strong work work save as you are still looking for better place a quick one stop posting your personal life on media not everyone laughs with you loves you the world is evil

[@nighni459]

Facts. She is sharing too much.

[@celestinas_world]

It's a lesson to someone else you never know when you will need this

[@uyai234]

The accomodation policies only started 2yrs ago and this is because so many people from different countries have migrated to the UK since BREXIT and they are now security conscious.. Things used to be easy before and anyone could pay for accommodation hassle free… Sorry about what you went through

[@tessogambaupclose]

Wheew! They really tightened the rules then, but all is well. Eventually, things will fall in place

[@uyai234]

@@tessogambaupclose Amen, do take care

[@mz_it789]

Get a job and then leave it after awhile when you find a better place to rent and continue working online side by side…it’s a lot in the beginning but you don’t have kids and could possibly find a way to find time for both for a short period.

[@Katlego.Makinita]

Africans top tier with housing to be honest, things are complicated this side to rent house is such a struggle.

[@ziporazama590]

This is just a suggestion. I love following your story. It would be a good idea to invest in a good microphone, maybe something you can staple close to your mouth. Because you are naturally soft spoken, that will be helpful.

[@tessogambaupclose]

Thanks for the tip!

[@dikolizaskk5847]

What exactly happened? Besides there two sides to every story......

[@shirldey]

Come to Bedford and be my new sister. It’s only an hour from Bedford

[@carolyewa4711]

From london or bristol

[@malehlohonolomogasoa4165]

This is a genuine question...since the relationship you came to the UK for failed...why would you insist on staying there and not going back home? You sounded very distressed with the thought of going back to Kenya, was your situation in Kenya that bad? did you leave Kenya for UK for greener pastures or was it for love

[@vmat6684]

Maybe she had sold her belongings since she was moving to be with her husband and had nothing to go back to.

[@samueljones7754]

I need to visit Kenya 😊

[@myonlinetherapysessions9668]

Welcome

[@tessogambaupclose]

You really should. Life is simpler honestly

[@skrefurbishedinteriors]

Encouraging & Triumphant story but please NEVER EVER mention areas/places of refugee homes as it puts vulnerable victims in harms way. I don't think u shld even mention the part of UK ur in as u never know ur ex cld seek revenge! Js. Good luck going forward.

[@brightername8801]

Do want a room in London

[@carniscrowe3898]

Amen 🙏

[@holymonke5165]

❤❤❤

[@marykimari4495]

Go go gal

[@miss60kiss]

Tess, i started watching your videos after the one you posted on Instagram about going back to Kenya.,first and foremost, let me just say, you are so brave!you are so strong!you are so courageous. Never mind the naysayers especially those who have never lived in the UK. You survived you made it!! Its very hard especially when you have encountered a broken marriage! There is nothing as bad as being homeless because, even then, how do you work without a place to sleep? Even paying for hotels and airbnb i must say, you must have saved up alot to achieve that! This iwas a literal life or death situation and you made it, I cant wait to see whats in store for you.

[@lilianjamba7935]

Tuko brought me here

[@pinkkypig8746]

Sorry to hear that if you still need help holla i know a nice place you can stay

[@thestretchstudio01]

As long as ulichukuwa ur stay

[@NtombizonkeMehlomakulu]

You left without having a job first, next time when you fall in love, start by job hunting, to enable you to have stability. Love is not a ticket to sustainability.

[@Pebles_chat]

You used him to get to The UK. 😂😂

[@marthag2885]

She's in Kenya now

[@knowz2367]

​@@marthag2885Thank goodness. She's home and safe.

[@sahotamarie71]

😢

[@muntuyeravictor3107]

Like number 595. I am in uganda. Can i join u there. Its not kenya alone uganda is number one.

[@MyBea1984]

Fanya nursing....

[@blissofzion]

🤍

[@tessogambaupclose]

🙏💛

[@Erick-qs1vz]

*PromoSM* 😝

[@amordelicacies.]

1c

[@maryawuor7205]

Were I dm u u kana ki buri. Stop barrette .say what yr husband did to u.

[@Crystal-t6g]

Why would you think of coming to a country were you knew nobody, it’s completely irresponsible. You have put yourself in an awkward vulnerable position. Everyone knows uk is a nightmare for housing. We have millions of illegals coming in demanding asylum. Where do you think the money comes from to support you. Uk taxpayers me and my family who are born here and we can’t get anything free. To hear you complaining it’s really upsetting. I couldn’t imagine leaving my country of birth and expecting money housing and healthcare etc from your host country. I was born in this country, have worked all my life and l have never received any benefits or free housing. Please take responsibility for your mistakes, Stop expecting tax payers to bail you out. You are extremely lucky to have a studio flat alot of people can’t afford to live in London. You give black female a bad name . 🏠🙏🏾🇬🇧🇯🇲

[@tessogambaupclose]

You're projecting, ma'am. I understand being frustrated with your country, but this is not the place and I'm not the cause of your frustration. Get off my comment section. Go fight with your policy makers. Jeez!

[@Karisma187]

Stop projecting on her u loser, I live in Sweden and I’m happy that my taxes go to the people who need the safety net.

[@organicafricantechfarmer]

Yippee missed u in this space had to DM u on ur Instagram

[@tessogambaupclose]

Oh, hey, I'm back 🤭