Why I Proposed to My Boyfriend | Hannah Witton

I'm engaged!! Here's the story of why I proposed to my boyfriend & why I'm not wearing an engagement ring 💍
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[@sharxx112]

my parents got engaged on their way home from a wedding because my mam said that was a lovely wedding we should have one

[@LemonSte]

hahaha love it

[@LR11306]

Smooth AF

[@hearts_ease]

Awww i love that !!!

[@cassidybrewer]

Hint hint 😂

[@HermioneLouise]

I can't stop looking at Hannah's earrings. They're amazing!

[@plestrange511]

I knowww

[@nathanwalker6360]

Same makes me wish i had ears

[@nellimiriam7760]

I just keep staring at them instead of her face :'D So amazing

[@Cernoise]

And they go perfectly with her skin and lipstick colours!

[@mariannjovan1005]

Me too

[@Alexbws]

No one: Absolutely no one: Hannah: “I AM ADORABLE”

[@hannahwitton]

Yup

[@lucialveroy]

Well, she is!!

[@patrickwentzell4638]

@@hannahwitton 🤵👰 👍👍

[@sleepybiscuits]

Congrats on your engagement Hannah! Me and my partner came to see your Doing It Live Tour in Manchester, during the 'dating profile' segment, you coincidentally matched us up and we came on stage to meet you! You jokingly told us to let you know when the wedding is, well he proposed and we're due to be married in 2021! Your love matching skills appear to be pretty spot on! :D

[@lucymoon]

oh my GOODNESS I'm so buzzed to hear this!! congrats!

[@hayleyteasdale7896]

ah this is so cute!!

[@aaran2329]

haha that's awesome!

[@jaymonster81]

That's lovely, but she doesn't read/reply have anything to do with her channel as she pays someone to monitor it.

[@hannahwitton]

AAAAHHH AMAZING!! Congrats!! :)

[@mommamay01]

My husband and I got engaged via a conversation - which basically went like "When are we getting married?" "March?" "Sounds good." Then we went to the courthouse, got married by a judge in front of his parents, his brother and my dad, then we went out to dinner with his parents and went home. The wedding was unimportant to both of us, we just wanted to be married and for everyone to know that was the level of commitment we had for one another.

[@hannahwitton]

love this!!

[@zoeosman8313]

I LOVE that

[@hez_am_i2448]

My parents did the same thing. Dad asked mum do u want to get married but we will have to buy a new motor for the boat. She asked him why and he replied cause they would need the boat for the honeymoon. Mum said okay - still not sure if she was saying okay to the wedding or the boat motor

[@fuzzzysock]

This was almost us and I really wish we could have agreed on a courthouse wedding. As it was, even our very small wedding was super stressful for me to plan and the same people who would have been mad anyway were mad. Should have saved some stress and money!

[@mommamay01]

@@fuzzzysock We had a follow up tiny ceremony in the state where the rest of my family was and the whole time I was just like "is it over yet?". I hated it, so I know where youre coming from.

[@ryantrue4844]

Congrats! That's such a cute way of proposing and I bet Dan is gutted for not playing 😂

[@ryantrue4844]

@@padijeff5675 what?

[@Bladewing342]

@@padijeff5675 because she loves Dan? What kind of question is this? Should she just marry a woman to express her support for feminism or anything else? Definetly not.

[@montymontano8618]

You are adorable s as was the proposal. How could he say no.

[@halvedemi]

@@Bladewing342 what did she say? 😅 sorry for being nosy but this has triggered my interest lmao

[@Bladewing342]

@@halvedemi It's not about what she said but what @Padijeff commented to Ryan. Since the origianl comment is deleted, it was something like "why didn't Hannah propose to a woman?". And my comment is simply a reply to him. She didn't propose to a woman because she loves Dan and doesn't want to marry a woman only to show her support for feminism.

[@user-by2bu3pv4e]

Can we just take a moment imagine hannah getting married in a YELLOW dress it would be gorgeous

[@bextree]

She would look sensational!

[@greensteve9307]

Dodi yellow?

[@juliaertel6268]

L S yes! & it’d be perfect since she’s a hufflepuff 💛

[@TurangaNibbler]

Gold peacock dress that she loves so much 😍

[@MianCowell]

@@greensteve9307 Yup only Dodie yellow would do!

[@jinxx2528]

Flux needs to sponsor this. Do they know this story? They should.

[@SamarkandChan]

I was planning on proposing to my boyfriend in November this year on our 7 year anniversary. I saw your post on instagram about you having proposed to your bf, and I remember being happy to see another woman in a opposite sex couple do the same! I had a cute idea where an artist had drawn a comic book style poster with reference pictures of us from each of the years we've been together as well as text bubbles with things we'd said. The last image would be me saying "will you marry me?" I had even picked out my own ring because I thought 'hey, I'm gonna wear it, I could pick it out'. And then he proposed in September to my complete surprise! (without a ring, because he thought I would want to pick it myself) and I had to say" well.... I already have one!" So funny looking back in hindsight, like something out of a movie. 😅

[@bethbcrafts]

What a great idea for a proposal! Seems to me like you could still pull that one off and return the favor :) Or maybe a version updated for your wedding vows as a wedding gift? Maybe a bubble that says "I Do"? Best of luck to you!

[@SamarkandChan]

@@bethbcrafts thank you! Yes I'm saving it as a wedding present as I manged to keep it secret! 😀

[@charlottewicks]

7 years? Yikes

[@SamarkandChan]

@@charlottewicks yikes?

[@SpaceDementia_]

@@SamarkandChan Love this! Not sure what Charlotte's problem is... I've been with my partner over 6 years and we don't have any plans to get married yet!

[@Aasa14]

for me a ring would be important but that doesnt mean that it has to cost much. A cute 20 dollar ring would be fine but i would just like to have something that i could look at every day and be excited about the future together

[@iizacrazychick01]

Aasa S Yes! I feel the same on this 😂

[@iwasalllikeomg]

I thought this too and was super proud that we found a very pretty Swarovski ring for about €40. Until I wore it for a couple of days and already noticed the metal start scratching and chipping. We've been engaged almost a year now and there's hardly any of the coating left and it's turning my finger green. I'm now having it remade in white gold so I can wear it together with my wedding band because I still absolutely love the look of it, but I am now wishing we would have gone with real silver or at least steel in the first place. By the way, silver doesn't have to be that expensive, he got me a €25 silver ring as a souvenir 3 years ago and I've been wearing that every day and it still looks fine.

[@tanyaf5653]

@@iwasalllikeomg Just so you are aware (I wasnt until I started ring shopping), white gold is made white by mixing gold with other metals like nickel. It is then coated with rhodium which keeps it from tarnishing or turning your skin green. The downside is that plating wears off, so you will have to have it regularly re-coated to keep everything behaving. In your shoes, I would look at having the ring made in platinum which is nonreactive for most people and is similar in look to white gold.

[@sssophie9292]

Yes I don't really like wasting money And for me personally an expensive ring would make me super scared of damaging it or losing it Obviously if it's sentimental I don't want to lose it either but I'd rather have a simple cheaper one It's the meaning behind it that *means* a lot 😂 not the price for me But I understand people who want to splash out on a special ring too :)

[@lisabo2267]

Tanya F actually I’ve been wearing a white gold ring everyday for 10 years and it looks exactly the same as it did on the first day (except for like 1 or 2 tiny scratches that were actually my fault and could’ve happened with a “normal” gold ring as well). I don’t want to say that what you said isn’t true though, maybe I’m just lucky.

[@meirabroderick5646]

My husband proposed to me as we were about to get pushed down a snowtubing hill. We had already talked about getting married and I knew he would propose soon but didn't know when. He said "So when do you think we should get married? Like soon?" And then we were pushing down the snowtubing hill and I couldn't breathe because I was laughing so hard. At the bottom of the hill, he pulled the ring out of his pocket and asked me to marry him. It was perfect and simple and I think that was so important. Took a photo afterwards and we are in all our snow clothing and coats and looking ridiculous but we look so happy.

[@fennwoodhouse]

I saw the title and just thought- “Uhh,,, because u love him??” I forgot it wasn’t ‘normal’ for the woman to propose lmao

[@twiapoc]

Yes, 100%. I read this title and thought she was going to explain why they were getting married vs just staying as de facto partners or whatever. I did not think it was odd that Hannah would do the asking

[@mariatrinidad1370]

Same here 😂 I would totally propose to my boyfriend

[@analorena6832]

True lol. Like, the one who wants to propose proposes, and that's it!

[@zapkvr]

February 29th. Its a thing

[@fennwoodhouse]

Lalogue okay but i’m a lesbian so in my mind, my first thought about proposals is that a man isn’t even involved at all lmao

[@patrickchase3307]

I’m a dude in a straight relationship. We’ve been dating for 5 years. We are also in this strange place where we’ve pretty much already started planning but neither has proposed however the expectation is very much on me. I’m not a huge fan of the pressure but I’m happy to make my girlfriend happy. Sometimes I worry it won’t meet her expectations but I’m sure it’s going to be fine.

[@AmyAberrant]

You can do it! I bet it will be beautiful.

[@Sunshine34891]

my parents were just sat on the couch one day and said "should we get married?" and the other one was like "ok!", they've been happily married for 25 years now hahaha! you'll be fine :)

[@Amyduckie]

You got this! As long as it fits who the two of you are as a couple.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Just make it romantic and special for the two of you.

[@bellaluna423]

Just do it! No matter how you do it. Go get a ring (if you want to) next week, and then just ask her whenever (If you want to!). The proposal doesn't matter that much. Do it at home or on a walk or wherever. She will love it, she loves you!

[@heathersanderson01]

When my mum and dad got engaged my mum just threw an Argos catalogue at my dad and told him to pick a ring for her

[@noknokstar3381]

🤣

[@ariane7843]

I LOVE YOUR MOM

[@gladlock]

I hope it worked out but women should never pressure a man to commit, no matter how bad you want to be wifey. It’s a recipe for disaster.

[@heathersanderson01]

Evolve they were together for 8 years before getting engaged and have been married 20 years since, so not much worry there 😁 also obviously had talks about getting married in the build up to that

[@AshleyZieman]

Love it!!

[@smurfmaster90]

I love the idea that it could've gone on for days or weeks of you just being like "Hey Dan, wanna play flux?" And him just being like "Nah, I'm good"

[@feathersmcgrawlaysdownthelaw]

my parents had a low-key but cute engagement where they were sat watching the sunset and my dad did that magic trick where he was like “what’s that behind your ear?” and produced the ring 💍🧙‍♂️

[@abi_rose]

i guess my parents had a pretty “untraditional” engagement. they got “engaged” by mutually agreeing that it would be a good idea to get married for financial/tax reasons lmao. they had a very small ceremony at a registry office (my mum didn’t even wear white) and went to the pub with their friends afterwards. they didn’t go on a honeymoon, and they don’t have wedding rings (mainly because my mum doesn’t like how her hands look with rings on lol). 29 years later and they’re still going strong. i guess it’s because of them that i don’t really care about the traditions and conventions surrounding marriage (also because i’m gay so things will end up being a bit more non-conventional anyway)

[@hannahwitton]

haha yeah my parents got married (after they'd had 2 kids!) when my dad got a job in Texas and they needed to be married for the visa so my mum could go with him!

[@monsterthing2]

@@hannahwitton My parents got married after have 2 kids as well! I'm not sure their reason but I do know my mom went to sign the papers in her pajamas.

[@caramayer]

Love this story! My parents also had like 2 proposals (one per conversation and one I believe by my mum) before my sister and me were born, and they always considered them to be engaged but somehow life happened and so they married after being together over 30 years. But that time my dad got a ring and proposed while on vacation. Although really they had a conversation beforehand going a little bit like this "hey, we are getting old, and if someone of us gets hospitalized or dies then the other has no legal ground to work on, and everything gets complicated" sooo not much of a romantic reason really. 😁 But I liked being at the wedding as a grown up.

[@em-emma-em]

My husband and I didn't get engaged we just decided to get married.

[@Diana02400]

Thank you for sharing this is awesome!!

[@ArielBissett]

I’m sure he’ll never say no to playing flux ever again 🙈 so excited for you Hannah!! Happy Engagement! I can’t wait to see photos from your wedding, I know it’s going to be so joyous 🥰🥰

[@hannahwitton]

Eeee thanks Ariel!! 💛

[@renyaguirre1866]

My parents had a conversation and then my dad bought my mom a washing machine instead of an engagement ring. I think it was lovely, but not what I personally would like for me and my partner.

[@thatjillgirl]

Oh I think in the vast majority of healthy relationships, people are "engaged" before they are "officially" engaged. I don't know any couple who had the proposal *before* having conversations about marriage. When true surprise proposals happen in real life, it tends to lead to bad outcomes where not everybody is ready or problems come up later that people didn't think through before committing to the engagement. It's a great thing to know you both want to get married before officially popping the question. In my own relationship (heterosexual), my husband did propose, but we had talked about it a lot beforehand, and I had even picked out the ring I wanted (he was positive that he would choose wrong if left to his own devices). So I knew full well it was coming, though I didn't know the how* or when. *He legit wrote me a fantasy novel with lead characters based on us. It was a rough first draft of a novel that needed some major grammatical editing, but HE WROTE ME A NOVEL. And he is not a writer. I cried.

[@nikkijaneallison]

Hihi the novel part was adorable. People do things like that when they are in love. X

[@Akikinova]

We had various conversatiom for a while, then it kinda exploded in a convo that I felt we would split up after and he then said he has a ring at home but not with him and then I told him that I didnt want this nasty me crying my eyes out in a forest moment to be our proposal if he was fine with it. So he got a timeframe of a month to do sth special. I didn't tell anyone the following week and then he did sth cute and it was fine. It couldve been a small thing at home or out but not crying out of fear preferably.

[@elexneonabingdon]

I learnt this lesson from my parents. My dad did a surprise proposal to my mum after six months of dating... she said no (her parents had got divorced and she wanted to be completely sure before she said yes). Then he surprised her again some time later... no again. Only by the third time was she actually ready.

[@Faylengames]

@@elexneonabingdon I love this. Being ready is important and so is being able to hear no when someone isn't ready and supporting them. Your parents sound cool.

[@gladlock]

elexneonabingdon what a mature response. Yes surprises are romantic but a forever commitment is too important to just jump into

[@ReadByJess]

Literally I am that person that got married and when people asked me how we got engaged I had to say “we had a chat??” 😂 here’s to doing things your own way!

[@byeam_]

I think my parents just had a conversation and decided to get married. I think it was my mum who initially said "Let's get married".

Exactly the same!

[@KreeZafi]

I think my paternal grandparents did something similar. They had been together since my grandma was 15, and got married when she was 18. From my understanding there was never any kind of proposal, more that they just knew they wanted to be together so when she was old enough to marry they went ring shopping together (both people wear rings during an engagement where I'm from) and that was that.

[@mariona713]

My parents are the same, there wasn't a proposal moment just like an agreement after time. And then when dad got the ring made he just gave it to her I think.

[@teamonsterrr]

I’d be so interested to know what your thoughts are on some other marriage/wedding social norms such as taking your husbands surname, father walking down the aisle, maid of honour, men doing all the speeches etc etc. GREAT VIDEO 💍💜 congrats on your engagement!!

[@tamaraellis2733]

As a wedding registrar I meet lots of different couples with completely different stories of who proposed, why, when, how and the sort of wedding they want. I’ve been doing the job 10 years and it shows there’s no one size fits all when it comes to weddings and proposals x

[@hannahwitton]

Ahem!

[@lara_xy]

personally, I want an engagement ring because I treasure simple jewellery that I wear every single day and can touch/look at and feel happy and that means something to me because it comes from my partner. I don't want something pricey or super shiny, just something nice and elegant.

[@libbyallen2566]

My parents just agreed to get married on a random day. According to my mum this is how the conversation went: My mum: I think that we should get married. My dad: so do I. Mum: I’m being serious. Dad: so am I. Mum: ok. Dad: ok. It’s the most chill proposal ever.

[@preciousmousse]

This got me laughing, so lovely!

[@crystaloona]

4 years ago, I got proposed by my boyfriend, then of 5 months (only), after I nearly killed us both in a car accident. He saw that I was shattered and that I thought he would leave me, so he proposed to me during the evening of the accident, with his broken watch. 4 years later I still have that watch, and I'm forever keeping it. We kept the engagement secret, knowing that it was not the time to display our affection thus. But now we talk openly about our futur marriage to our friends and family. I kinda want to propose to him, but I know he wants to do it again, and I kinda want the real traditional moment too. Anyway, I'm very happy for you both and I totally understand you!

[@ellieminett]

My parent's got engaged by making a pros and cons list and then got married really quickly after the engagement. They've been married 30 years and still going strong and I love their engagement story, it always makes me laugh! Congrats to you two!

[@ObsessedWallflower]

I love this video but oh my god, I can’t stop staring at your earrings! They’re brilliant, I’m obsessed

[@loosetooth1989]

Hannah where are they from?

[@robertmenzies6939]

Congratulations Hannah and Dan 👫👩‍❤️‍👨

[@cprk594]

Robert Menzies Dannah?

[@margueritek1995]

My mom proposed to my dad 30 years ago after dating for 3 months. She was like: « so should we get married? » and my dad agreed. Doesn’t sound very romantic but it was so obvious to them that they didn’t need to prepare a whole thing, they just new they wanted to be together forever 😊

[@irenefernandez6656]

I'm a 19 year old bisexual woman and my current thoughts are that if I ever want to get married, I'd like to be the one that proposes, regardless the gender of my partner. So I'm really grateful that you did and shared this because now I don't feel like I'm the only person that thinks this way. Also, something I've seen and think it's terrible is when the one who's proposing asks the father her daughter's hand before asking her. It makes me feel like the wonan's live belongs to the father

[@darciaglaucerica]

I had plans on proposing to my partner. He did it first 🙄 I'm still annoyed about it but it was lovely 😂 Also, congrats!

[@Frankenzebra]

You could propose in so many years after you're married and renew your vows?

[@praalgraf]

congrats! loving the earring/lipstick combo

[@lauratyler2948]

Hey as someone who is older and been married for 7 years I think this video was thought provoking and fantastic! You are an awesome lady! Congratulations!

[@shaunlomax1]

I bloomin' LOVE the message behind this story, that people should choose their own path and not be afraid to do things their own way! So lovely! Thanks for sharing!

[@analaloo4371]

I told my boyfriend I would want to get married at one point to him and that I think, proposing should be the one for whom it was further away. My boyfriends parents are divorced and the concept of marriage was pretty vague for him for a long time, but when he got to the point where he was seeing the both of us being married he proposed and I said yes. Technically he could have been sure that I would say yes, because we talked about it long time before, but he was nervous never the less and I was very surprised by the timing of his proposal. I thought we wouldn't be there yet. Happy we are though :D Congratulations on your engagement :)

[@yikes8932]

I would totally propose to my boyfriend but I know him and he's said to me that he's not ready to get engaged/be married yet and considering everything that he's had to work through that is completely fair (hell yeah broken families)... The way I see it in my relationship it would be so much more special if he proposed to me because then I know that he is ready and not just in it to make me happy. Also I have said to him because it came up that I didn't want an *engagement* ring but to get a ring like the one I already wear which was thrifted so it is tonnes cheaper... I'll also get around to telling him at some point that I want to choose it (or choose three and he can pick one) because I love him but I don't even know my style of ring haha

[@alexaballance]

Yikes this is exactly EXACTLY how I feel!!! I’ve never thought about the ring situation but I love the idea of choosing a few for him to pick from.

[@ellieminett]

I'm in this situation so I understand completely! I've told him I'm ready and I'll say yes whenever he is but we've had several conversations about when and where and what we'd do for honeymoons so I guess it's not official official yet but we're sort of engaged?? I also agree with the ring, if you're going to get one, you need to wear it, not him so I think unless they know exactly what style you'd love, you should get to have a say in it. I don't even know what style I want so how is he supposed to know?? :D

[@paulamanuelvieira]

I'm kinda in the same situation, even though I'm the one from a broken family and he's the one that doesn't feel ready. Or more like he doesn't see it as important

[@bethbcrafts]

I didn't get engaged until I was in my thirties (a few years ago), so I'd had a good amount of time to think things over, and being a feminist I turned my nose up a bit at the idea of all the traditional things expected from relationships In fact, my now-husband and I talked multiple times about how marriage itself wasn't important to us, and we had no plans to have children, so we were pretty comfortable with just being in a long-term relationship with the understanding we were fully committed for life. Then my husband lost his mom, and I think that maybe changed some things for him. He proposed in a non-conventional way (no ring, no knee), and I was very surprised given our previous conversations, but it was also really special. And our wedding day was also unique to us, and it was the best party I've ever been to :) Every couple has to figure things out for themselves. I think overall people want their relationship to feel special, and the best way to do that is to figure out what really matters to you and your partner. Congrats to you and Dan! And congrats to you both also for talking things through and deciding what's important to you and what's not.

[@erykahcameron6332]

This is so lovely! I love that you literally wrote your own rules and are doing it your own way! I hope you guys have the best wedding!❤️

[@ChadDeanxo]

We love a 21st century Queen. Congrats

[@JJO54]

I proposed to my husband 24 years ago ! Still together at 50 years of age ... people still seem surprised when I tell them ! Congratulations 😘

[@IKY94Zac]

I honestly never gave this much thought, but this talk is hella inspiring.

[@juliaertel6268]

Congrats on getting engaged! You’re the actual cutest 🥰

[@Megs_B01]

Congrats Hannah, so happy for you two!

[@kinsienoble6755]

I also proposed to my boyfriend in August, using a ring box I'd made out of Lego. And we've also been together 3 years! I was kind of surprised by so many people thinking it was a big deal that I did it. Congratulations to you both! ♥️

[@mouseluva]

Congratulations! I am so ready for our favourite productivity/organisation queen to spill the tea on wedding planning! (If you two don't want it to be a private thing of course :) While the process would be fascinating to know more about, I totally respect that we all have to have boundaries at some point!)

[@ruthgovanbader]

This made me so bloody emotional, because SAME. We got engaged in August, I asked him, we had already jointly decided we wanted to get marred beforehand. Congratulations ❤ the thing that surprised me the most is how HAPPY it made everyone! People flippin love an engagement!!! And so few people raised an eyebrow about it being me. Yay - happy chill wedding planning x P.s. I got myself a ring!

[@YK-hr5tu]

After I voted I thought to myself "wasn't it contradictory?" 😅 Shoot, I think we need to see more women in opposite sex relationships doing it. It's really inspiring! Hopefully mindsets will shift someday soon 😆

[@caitie226]

"my parents are away travelling for most of next year" the rona: evil laugh

[@blueyedgirl4vr]

You are just so fabulous! I love that "you do you" and are unapologetic about asking for what you want in life (consensually of course). I'm so glad that you've found someone who has similar values and supports your choice to not follow certain social scripts.

[@Jasper112]

Our engagement and proposal story has been all out of order, and I absolutely appreciate doing certain things to make it make sense to other people. And what made it more complicated was that each of our families have a different understanding and cultural traditions in the whole wedding thing! Some people consider us married now, some people see us as engaged. We see it as half way married aha. I am very glad to hear your story and explanation 😊 resonates a lottt

[@JudyCZ]

7:15 Oh, this is totally my reason why I want to get married soon (me and my partner have been together almost 5 years) - I'm like - I have a friend who's known her husband for a year altogether and in the society, they're respected as a proper couple who are serious about their relationship while I get a lot of "yeah, boyfriend, right". And I want that because I feel like when it comes to the level of commitment we've been in the "marriage, wanna be together basically forever" for years now. I'm a pragmatic person, always have been. Also - I had no idea Shan got married, that's so awesome! :) Congrats to Shan&Jared and of course Hannah&Dan!

[@gladlock]

JudyCZ honey don’t pressure him, sometimes men aren’t sure about what they want! If you are afraid he will make you wait until your best years are gone, assess why you love him and if he makes your life better. Who cares if others move fast, divorce rate is almost 50% so obviously there are tons of people making poor decisions. If being married is more important than having him in your life, you have to let him go

[@JudyCZ]

@@gladlock I'm not pressuring him, don't worry. :) We had a talk about it in July that was very honest, so I think we're good; no one's having to guess what the other wants, etc.

[@calvinit21]

Congratulations!! That is awesome!

[@biancamillan4692]

aw i love this idea! i'm almost engaged myself (lol)! my partner and I have been together for two years and on a recent trip to guadalajara for a friends wedding we decided that it was time to really get serious. it was a very sweet and exciting conversation in this beautiful location and now we're planning on getting our ring sizes on our third year anniversary-- I'm very excited :) congratulations hannah and dan on the engagement, marriage, and now baby!

[@sophieofnorwich8281]

30 years ago my Mum decided she was sick of waiting and if my Dad didn’t want to marry her, it was better to junk him sooner rather than later; so she proposed in the car, on the way home from a trip to their favourite pub. I’m amazed that 30 years on, the Metro ran a story - that, is the real shock!

[@christamurray1852]

We just planned our wedding. Neither my husband or I purposed. Do I don’t have an engagement ring which to me doesn’t matter

[@ktleee83]

Congratulations!!! I love this and what a cute proposal!

[@drewkulele]

congratulations !! ☺️☺️ i totally agree with that “practical” view of getting married, i’d never really thought of people thinking of it differently

[@sophieo1565]

of course there's no judgement and this is just a question but why do you also want him to propose? That kind of surprised me after all the other points in this video. What's the purpose/meaning of that for you? would love to know x

[@eloisem226]

2 seconds in ... and already in love with the earrings and colour combination with the lipstick 🧡🧡

[@faeriesandrainbows]

Thank you for sharing! 💖

[@oykukoc6778]

This video was so effective, I followed the advices and 2 years later I proposed to my boyfriend! Just had to come back to this video and thank you 🤩

[@PilgrimKat]

I love how down to earth this video is! I don't love the high pressure "insta worthy" expectations for engagements/weddings so this was a really good reminder of "you do you" :D

[@bridgetthompson3663]

Love that emerald ring, I wore it the whole time when I was in my 20's, but was scared cos the emerald was getting scratch so put it back in Granny's jewellery box, love that you want to wear it as your engagement ring, that is so cute....xxxx

[@prokyono]

i asked my partner pretty early on in our relationship how long he'd have to be with someone before getting married and he said five years, so i immediately set a reminder on my phone for five years from the day we got together called 'propose to nicholas'. we're both v queer but he's the one ppl would assume to be the 'man' in the relationship

[@chocochipcookie17]

No matter who proposed as long as both of you are happy and love each other❤ I'm just excited for your wedding video 😭😭😭😭😭

[@emmagracelukens]

You’re so awesome! What a great way to explain something that feels so hard to explain!

[@barrypate8600]

Congrats on the engagement ❤ I have been with my current partner for just shy of 4 years and am dying to propose to her. We have talked before about marriage etc and she was keen but not excited. Hoping to get the nerves together and take the plunge when I feel the time is right x

[@summerkennedy348]

I want to propose to my boyfriend as well. Gotta wait till I accomplish major goals first but it could be in one or two years! yeeee!

[@hannahwitton]

wooooo!! good luck!

[@ItsaboutbeautyNl]

I don't think you need to get those accomplishments out of the way first. Love is love, no matter your status or big things you succeeded at. Good luck on your proposal!

[@summerkennedy348]

@@ItsaboutbeautyNl That is true, but we've had conversations about marriage and it's important to me to graduate college and get a job first. It's just our choice. 🥰

[@lozzy188]

This video is so thorough and well done I love it!

[@nognog3333]

This is a really interesting video, and there's lots to say about it, but also yay! Vlognukkah is back! I'm real excited

[@danielleferguson2332]

Congratulations! I'm in a similar, we already feel engaged, sort of boat. A lot of people in my life find it weird that I know that my boyfriend is going to propose in february when we go to disney world. I even know the day. But all of the other details I'm in the dark about. This was super important to him, that hes the one who does the asking. Otherwise, I would have no problem asking him. We already know we will be getting married. We know we are making the conscious decision to be life partners. But he wanted to formally ask, so that's how its gonna be

[@chloeelizabeth423]

I've been in an almost 3-year relationship and I've started getting people commenting on us getting engaged soon, which makes me laugh because we don't even live together 😂

[@victoria-8967]

this is literally me and my gf! we’re going to be together 5 years this year but we JUST moved in together so, no marriage yet 😂

[@AthynVixen]

Oh god same 3 yes in Jan 20. And everyone always asks me if we are getting married. I didn't realise itwas still such a pressure . We don't live in the same country even. I really don't understand.

[@KreeZafi]

@@AthynVixen Same! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years so not that long, but we also don't live in the same country. Though for me that has created kind of the opposite scenario - I would happily spend my life with him without ever getting married, but because we live in different countries (different continents, even) we might get married just for convenience. I live in Europe and he lives in America, which really complicates things since the US has strict rules about how long you are allowed to visit. If we got married I could get a green card and stay with him for as long as I want, and then when he finishes his military contract in a little less than two years and we move to Europe it should be a lot easier for him to move here as he's married to a citizen. Marriage is really unimportant to me, so for us it'd really just be to make it easier for us to be together.

[@meganl3859]

Same here, but nobody has asked when we're getting engaged lol (I'm in France)

[@DearestDiaries]

Congratulations! I've been waiting for this video because I was really interested to know your process behind making this decision. I even mentioned it to my boyfriend and had a convo about me proposing. We decided that proposing was something he'd been waiting his whole life to do (which I don't think is really talked about - I get the societal norms argument against that) and so it's down to him. I do think it's a lovely idea to have the conversation and maybe re-dress how marriage and engagement looks!

[@jessm4101]

Congrats! We did it the “traditional” way in that my husband proposed to me but we had already had several conversations about marriage and engagement and so knew that we were both on the same page! He knew I didn’t want anything public so he just proposed in our living room but it was sweet and personal to us and that’s what matters 😊

[@HeyMonday100]

Congratulations (even tho I saw on your socials) but it such an interesting thing about dan saying you’re already engaged as me and my boyfriend have always said they same. None of us have officially proposed to one of enough but we basically class ourselves as because we are as much that then not tbh.

[@taylorcarmen5336]

I love that you did it and this was right for you. My husband proposed but that felt like the right thing for us. My feminist spin on the tradition was this: Women do most of the emotional labor in the relationship. This gives men a task that falls squarely on them if that's what's best for the couple

[@eherbert33]

that’s nice. i don’t think we should need a reason, most people have a preference of whether they’d rather be proposed to or propose, so just go with that. at the end of the day, ya just a question that you probably know the answer to anyways

[@florenciaiturri2743]

Congrats! Love the story, and love the video! (Also love your aesthetic in this video the earrings really complete the look and it is stunning).

[@emmal2429]

Congratulations!!!!! I'm so happy for you guys!

[@zzkeokizz]

Why not? My best friend's girlfriend proposed to him in 2000. He accepted and they have a nice life and a cute kid.

[@joshuagroleau6762]

You are amazing ! So happy to know you had crush this gender role. I wish you all the love in the world.

[@_september_4799]

First time in my life as a guy I’ve wanted to here every juicy detail of a proposal, congratulations genuinely happy for you!!! 😁

[@haileykay1112]

This makes me so happy!!! Started binging your videos! Love them❤️

[@KristinaMariner]

Congratulations 🥳🎊 From one 2020 bride to another 🙈 xx

[@NotPMHarper]

I'll start with congratulations on your engagement! I'm in a same-sex relationship (both men) and we're 3 years in, have lived together for most of it (over 2 years) and have talked casually about marriage and future plans like career and kids. We've established we want to get married at some point and I sometimes refer to him as my husband for extra cuteness but I feel like engagement and marriage should wait for a few more years. We're both young yet (21) and I figure if we're gonna be together forever anyway, it wouldn't hurt to wait a few years to get hitched. In terms of engagement, I'm the more romantic person in the relationship and I have made more active plans about proposal so I'd probably be the one to do it though honestly I'd be thrilled either way.

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

I'm 27 now and have been with my partner for 10 full years now, marriage really can wait and isn't as important as some people make it out to be. Just enjoy being with each other and do all the legal stuff later if you want to. If not, then don't because this is the 21st century and a lot of people never marry but still have been with their partners for decades. Wish you all the happiness for your future!

[@sarahdarling12]

This is so awesome to see this represented!!! Thanks for sharing!

[@cenedra20]

Congratulations on the engagement! So happy for you two! Why shouldn't you propose?! Also, I remember you being single and NOT ready to mingle, so the fact that you're engaged now gives me the feels... PS love the orange lip and earrings combo, so aesthetic!

[@vanessaelsa5983]

When my mom and dad got engaged there wasn't anyone who got down on one knee. They just kind of agreed to be engaged and changed rings. My cousin and her fiancee did the same (but a lot of years later).

[@cookiecutter80]

When you said Bethan, I was thinking what a funny coincidence that his sisters name is also Bethan like your friend...and then I went back and stalked a Bethan video with her brother. I feel late to that information! Haha I love that your proposed and that you did it in a card game! Gives me a good idea for how to propose. My partner and I have talked about the “marriage as an institution” but realized we both would like the commitment ceremony and party with friends and family. I definitely want him to propose but I want to propose as well! Both ppl should get asked! I also want a ring but that is because I love rings! My mom got pearl earrings because she had always wanted pearl earrings. I think everyone should write their own rule book for life!

[@PuddingCat101]

I’ve never actually thought about how I’d like to propose/be proposed to. It’s weirdly exciting to realise that it can be anything I want!

[@pile333]

Good luck, guys! Have a nice life as a couple! Now I'll be waiting for the first pregnancy!

[@gemmi1]

I've been binge watching your old videos and there's one when you say you'll never get married!

[@chloecook8187]

I'm saying this as someone who has previously proposed to a cis man. I don't think a cis woman proposing to a cis man is automatically a feminist thing to do. I mean I'm sure it can be in some cases, but in others (like mine) it wasn't. Some background. I planned our first date, I asked him to be my boyfriend, I told him I loved him first, I planned fun days out for us, I courted him and I proposed to him. I chased him. In the end I was with someone, who I feel, wasn’t with me because he loved me, but because I made his life easy and he didn’t have to put in any effort to keep me. He earnt almost double what I earnt. We still split the bills. We worked the same number of hours. I still did most of the cleaning and cooking. I had mental health problems, but I was the one counselling him through his problems. Honestly. To me if you’re a cis woman proposing to a cis man (and I’m not saying this is Hannah’s relationship, I know nothing about it!! I wanna make that clear) that leaves it to you to remind him when his mum’s birthday is, or leaves his dirty underwear on the floor for you to wash, or spends hours playing video games so you have to do the washing up, it’s not feminist.

[@moongirl8807]

That's right but why did you propose then? Didn't you realize before that he just likes you because you did all this stuff for him? Not judging, but I'm just wondering since you don't sound very happy.

[@mariavn89]

Congratulations Hannah! Loved your engagement story

[@warp00009]

Congratulations to you both, and all the best in the years ahead!

[@Diana02400]

12:34 “I made it very clear to Dan that I still expect a proposal back at some point.” Why? :p I’m curious

[@skylarsa]

Because she still wants the traditional proposal..

[@mimicovers97]

Skylar S I’m not trying to be judgmental here, but if the traditional proposal is important to her why did she decide to propose? It feels so contradictory, I’m so confused.

[@skylarsa]

@@mimicovers97 I'm slightly confused too!

[@toni5543]

Yeah that's a bit odd lol. What's the point in proposing if you actually do want to be proposed to?

[@goldschool9050]

I love women and their feelings even if they don't make any sense

[@_dukeluke]

congrats! I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years, and we do plan on getting married (probably not until 2025 or later tbh, because we're both studying long term (both want to be doctors and that's a long-ass journey lol)). I'm going to propose to her probably within the 1-2 years before we plan on getting married. I already see her as my life partner/wife/fiancee/whatever, but I am really excited to officially tie the knot, though I know that we're nowhere near ready for that life stage yet and we are still way too young to have the sort of married life we both want. We've already talked a lot about engagement and we are both on the same page in that I will be the one to propose. As much as it may be heteronormative, proposing to the love of my life is something I have always wanted to do, I've always wanted to plan something special and make the event memorable, and my gf also has said she would rather be the one to be proposed to, so it kinda worked out. I'm also trans and one of my goals for my life, when I was coming to terms with my gender identity (we're talking like 10 years ago when I was only 13-14), was getting married and engaged and going through those big life changes as a man, and how I saw it in society is how I've always really wanted to do it. By no means are we following through with anything toxic or antifeminist that we don't agree with because that's how we feel we are meant to do it or something, but we are probably going to be fairly traditional bar certain traditions (eg asking her father for his 'blessing', being handed over etc), which we probably will go about in our own way? I think as long as the people getting married are on the same page and want the same things (or are willing to compromise) it shouldn't matter how it's done or who does what. Love is love, engagement and marriage is what you want it to be!

[@_dukeluke]

I've already completely planned my proposal lol. I know where and how I want to do it, but not too sure on the timing as it'll depend on when we graduate and where we are at. The only thing I haven't really thought about is the ring. I've got a good friend who's dad is a goldsmith so I will probably go to him sometime closer to arrange something custom. My girl is pretty chill and not really one for big flashy things, so I'll probably just go for something pretty minimal and subtle, with a matching chain so she can wear it around her neck when she needs to for work. I plan on doing the same for my wedding band.

[@gabo9583]

1) love your earrings 2) oh my god it’s so cute! Very happy for you💍 congrats!!

[@nikkijaneallison]

Congratulations, Hannah! All the best to you and your partner. I am also enjoying reading comments about 'untraditional' marriage stories cause I feel so pressured right now.