Why INFJ Men Have No Friends

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MindScope

MindScope

Күн бұрын

Did you know that INFJ men are the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type in the entire world? In fact, it’s thought that only 0.5 to 1% of the population is an INFJ man, or only 5 to 10 out of every 1,000 people! Although there are a lot of things that make this type unique, their uniqueness isn’t always a good thing. In fact, because they’re the rarest type, INFJ men have difficulty identifying with others and frequently struggle to make friends.
Today on ‘Charisma’ we’re going to look at the 8 Reasons INFJ Men Have No Friends.
Did you relate to this list? Or have anything to add? Let us know in the comments! Keep watching Charisma to continue learning more about this topic and many others :)
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@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Did you relate to this list? Let us know!
@malumnexus7919
@malumnexus7919 Жыл бұрын
Part of the reason I started watching these types of videos, and many others types as well, is to better understand myself and to solve my social problems. Since I found out that I am an INFJ, I have been researching the INFJ archetype, then sharing the videos with what little friends I have, which has in turn improved my ability to keep my friends, despite not seeing them over periods of months to even years.
@PeterKnagge
@PeterKnagge Жыл бұрын
Let's be frank here, _it's not me it's you!_ 🤣 I have plenty of associates, but no friends...
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
@@malumnexus7919 Makes a lot of sense. I bet if other INFJ's took this approach they would hold onto more friends as well
@clintonb061864
@clintonb061864 Жыл бұрын
Do I relate? Goodness gracious me, this describes me to a tee!
@ernigsunderg4969
@ernigsunderg4969 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely yes! I relate to this list. I have no friends. I have a few associates I interact with on a boring, superficial level, but no-one I consider a friend. My brother and sister do not understand me. The times I've tried to share my philosophy with them it was like throwing gasoline on a fire. They've said I was "Of Satan!". I stopped trying to share with them. I do have a cousin I can share with, but I don't talk with her very often. I also have a good wife of 49 years who is empathetic, but she is like a captive audience.
@JackoBanon1
@JackoBanon1 Жыл бұрын
As an INFJ I can tell you that we are the kind of people who want to save the world while on the other hand don't want anyone to find out that it was us.
@Rose_Butterfly98
@Rose_Butterfly98 Жыл бұрын
On the bright side, it isn't that hard to do that. Just save the world from the threats that governments hide and leave the problems that humans created for themselves.
@Deckard-tw6jp
@Deckard-tw6jp Жыл бұрын
No worries. Neither will happen. You're just a loner. Nothing more. Why aggrandize it with nonsense?
@adarshmandal1210
@adarshmandal1210 Жыл бұрын
So true
@chronoorigin1931
@chronoorigin1931 Жыл бұрын
An INFP but still related.
@049harshrathore8
@049harshrathore8 Жыл бұрын
Like daredevil👹
@Lazydazey265
@Lazydazey265 Жыл бұрын
I’m an INFJ female and my best friend is an INFJ male. Sometimes we don’t even have to finish sentences, the other just gets it. We simply understand each other effortlessly. Also, the points made in this video are pretty accurate. I think the only reason an INFJ might not have friends is because he/she just doesn’t want to. We CAN, we just prefer being in our own company rather than in shallow, superficial relationships that have no depth.
@surefiremushroomsmicrogreens
@surefiremushroomsmicrogreens Жыл бұрын
Why is he still your best friend?
@sirdabomb123
@sirdabomb123 Жыл бұрын
@@surefiremushroomsmicrogreens Yes Marry him already.
@DCtheGod
@DCtheGod Жыл бұрын
@@surefiremushroomsmicrogreens probably because he’s not attractive enough. The only thing keeping a man as a “friend” from boyfriend is his physical looks
@Lazydazey265
@Lazydazey265 Жыл бұрын
@@DCtheGod biased view. Would you risk one of your best friendships for the “love” that’s always temporary? Besides, he calls me his sister.
@AV-kr6gc
@AV-kr6gc Жыл бұрын
@@Lazydazey265 Thats true, I have had close female friends that we both didnt want to be in a relationship with. But that doesnt mean we didnt sleep together every once in awhile 😂
@I_Go_Rogue
@I_Go_Rogue Жыл бұрын
I'm 37 and only recently learned about the science behind discovering personality types. I'm an INFJ male and this video hits home hard. I honestly teared up twice... it was hard never knowing why my every attempt in social life failed. I was just told I was a quiet and shy kid and that's all it was. It never felt right. I wish more people saw this. I'm gonna share it, but I have no friends. Facebook part time friends who never get deleted... your time to shine.
@Mike_MFn_Jones
@Mike_MFn_Jones Жыл бұрын
You're not alone !
@I_Go_Rogue
@I_Go_Rogue Жыл бұрын
@@Mike_MFn_Jones thank you brother. It's good to finally know I just belong to a unique group.
@klo433
@klo433 2 ай бұрын
You are not alone brother, 38 yo INFJ male here. I have friends but I've never had a friend other than my INTJ father that gets me. I'm sorry you've never had that.
@I_Go_Rogue
@I_Go_Rogue 2 ай бұрын
@klo433 thank you bro. It's been a year since seeing this. It's helped put things into perspective. Might watch it again now. Thanks for the comment and I'm glad you had someone around that got you.
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
Because most of the world is dumb AF and take advantage of the kind hearted. I have more fun doing what I love to do than helping people that can't help themselves.
@corporaterobotslave400
@corporaterobotslave400 Жыл бұрын
I also quit helping those unappreciative lost souls who prefer to fit in with stupid ppl. Save yourself instead.
@james12erby43
@james12erby43 Жыл бұрын
Correct 👏
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
@@james12erby43 INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it wasn't given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to set the world straight Done with the toxicity It's all about love, not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment My convictions are where I stand
@derealratos6332
@derealratos6332 Жыл бұрын
fr
@haunterdragon4580
@haunterdragon4580 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@icapitanloco2042
@icapitanloco2042 Жыл бұрын
The best tip i can give to my male infj people is to just simply get shredded as much as possible. Im telling you it helps in so many ways with our type of personality.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
It would not surprise me if most INFJ Men find themselves in the gym. Aligns very well with the personality type.
@said1975
@said1975 Жыл бұрын
i appreciate that!!
@JohnDoe-gf5he
@JohnDoe-gf5he Жыл бұрын
This is the deep and philosophical advice INFJs need.
@icapitanloco2042
@icapitanloco2042 Жыл бұрын
@@JohnDoe-gf5he Well this may be a passive aggressive response and sarcasm but if you think abt it and what it implies going to the gym, building yourself up, etc etc, this is actually really good advice
@iquandaley9565
@iquandaley9565 Жыл бұрын
That's no lie, that really helped me a lot
@zorawar3477
@zorawar3477 Жыл бұрын
I am reading INFJ people’s comments and they are so accurately descriptive, never thought id see so many people like me at one place😭
@SX41799
@SX41799 Жыл бұрын
Most of them aren't even INFJ. They pretend to be. You would'nt recognize them here
@jesset6443
@jesset6443 Жыл бұрын
I often wish I had more friends but then I remember they’ll want me to do stuff.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Yeah there is that..
@lllllllllllll31lll
@lllllllllllll31lll Жыл бұрын
Haha true, and I ain't going no parties no way
@lionnonny
@lionnonny Жыл бұрын
Hahaha
@ottor-007
@ottor-007 Жыл бұрын
Jesse T My mind caught up to their shenanigans, and my mouth say yes. After that, I fade away from existence.
@user-yr2en2sh1i
@user-yr2en2sh1i 3 ай бұрын
I wish I was able to my friends. Coming Out as gay, than family bringing moved away from which friends that I had. Caused me to restart my process of trying to make friends. I never having a time getting a guy to say yes to me want I asked them to be my boyfriend. Males don't seem to be jumping to knock on me door to ask me out. 🏳️‍🌈🇨🇦
@andrewm4138
@andrewm4138 Жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to this. I always preferred to be by myself. As a kid and teenager, my dad would always be on my case about getting out more and making friends. I would tell him all the time that I am happy that way. In school, the kids would pick on me for being so quiet, they would always ask me why I never talk and I never had an answer. I never felt that I fit in and because of that I would keep my distance from people. My sister, who was one grade below me in school, was the total opposite of me (Extroverted). She had so many friends and went out all the time. She would tell me all the time that people would tell her ("Your brother is so weird, what is wrong with him?"), of course she always agreed with them. I was always a sensitive person when others would yell at me and criticize me. (Including immediate family). If I ever would make a mistake causing inconvenience to others, I would feel so guilty, even though I knew it was never intentional. I would apologize constantly. It always makes me happy to help others, especially knowing that I made a difference in their life. I never wanted anything in return even though some people thought I did. I also served 20 years in the military and it was a tough time for me, I sort of dealt with the same issues there as I did growing up.
@halcyonzenith4411
@halcyonzenith4411 Жыл бұрын
It's been a hard life, but it rewarded me with the realization that I don't need permission from other people to be happy.
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it wasn't given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to set the world straight Done with the toxicity It's all about love, not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment My convictions are where I stand
@nicknog00
@nicknog00 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful 🐺
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
@@nicknog00 Thx. Dark Wolf Sitting in the shadows Watching, Observing, Protecting No harm comes to peaceful creatures The cunning eye can sense danger Threats are met with razor fangs Freshly sharpened in preparation of attack Tearing straight into the soul of the unknowing As they are hidden from the rest forest But always prepared for battle
@GMacII
@GMacII Жыл бұрын
Bravo 👏🏽
@tphongable
@tphongable Жыл бұрын
Absolutely love both of your poems. Do you post on IG or somewhere else?
@babycakes8514
@babycakes8514 Жыл бұрын
lol, infp alert
@akunbora
@akunbora Жыл бұрын
as an INFJ with an anxiety disorder. My life feels so empty and uninspiring. But I'm 26 yo now. There are so much floors that need to be swept.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
You can turn your life into a fulfilling one🙂
@brandtcarroll9316
@brandtcarroll9316 Жыл бұрын
As an INFJ... the Metal community has been a Godsend. It feels like Thanksgiving every time I go to a show, the crowds don't bother me, I just want to hug people. I know by default that there is a deeper connection with hardship, terror, and thorough rumination of difficult topics not acceptable in every-day conversation with a normie.
@ElPresidenteKhan
@ElPresidenteKhan Жыл бұрын
Metal is best. Metal forever!!
@1594simonsays
@1594simonsays Жыл бұрын
yep been listening to metalcore/hardcore/deathcore since like 2006 and even before that with alternative/punk. music is heavenly to me
@mitchclifford1761
@mitchclifford1761 Жыл бұрын
I love going to gigs too. Generally stand up the back of the mosh, drink in hand just enjoying the show. What's everyone's favourite bands? I love metalcore. My fav bands are Northlane, Polaris, Parkway Drive, Invent, Animate and ERRA
@brandtcarroll9316
@brandtcarroll9316 Жыл бұрын
@@mitchclifford1761 I've been big on Pharmacist, Haemorrhage and Absent In Body lately.
@Zokon
@Zokon Жыл бұрын
After taking a personality test a while back, it made sense to me but I didn't take the label too seriously as it isn't always accurate and the community tends to be yelling it out because it makes them feel special. But after watching this video, you hit nearly every point and it bothered me quite honestly. Thank you for posting this.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Totally understand that. No problem
@chrisclunan5097
@chrisclunan5097 Жыл бұрын
True, every person is unique so every person who tests as an INFJ isn’t going to fit into the stereotype. Personally, I’ve found astrology helpful as a way to understand the different aspects of myself and what makes me fit into the category of INFJ
@AdrianIsaacs
@AdrianIsaacs Жыл бұрын
I'm an INFJ, and this describes me pretty well, with a few exceptions. I would never go to a restaurant and grill the server about the food, for example. I've worked in customer service roles before, and I always got annoyed when people did that sort of thing to me, so I don't want to be that person for someone else. The old soul part is pretty spot on for me. I also have trouble forming new friendships, especially romantic ones.
@DekkarJr
@DekkarJr Жыл бұрын
Maybe you would have if you didn't work in the customer service industry? Idk my numbers - im the mediator type of personality... so that's why im here presenting an alternate reality to consider ^_^
@AdrianIsaacs
@AdrianIsaacs Жыл бұрын
@@DekkarJr It's possible, but even if I hadn't, I still suspect it's likely that I wouldn't. Given the situation and the nature of the interaction, I might make some small talk about the food. Like, I might be like "It tastes like there is oregano in this. I have never made this dish with oregano before. I might try that.". That was just an example. Thanks for presenting another point of view.
@tnix80
@tnix80 Жыл бұрын
I would if I hadn't been there myself. I get upset pretty easily, especially at injustice
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
YOU ARE NOT INFJ
@DekkarJr
@DekkarJr Жыл бұрын
@@winterlows Shut up you freak. Stop being a SHEEP and CRAB IN A BUCKET and dragging other people down because you SUCK at your own life. People like you use the internet because you are angry at yourselves. Shut up and apologize to adrianisaacs right now or your gonna feel it. We cannot leave bad behavior unpunished ANYMORE. By anyone in this entire society. So how bout like the rest of us you sit down and take your meds and play ff14 or w/e u do with the rest of us. Get along or get OUT. Is what I say. -The Mediator Personality
@tehsensei
@tehsensei Жыл бұрын
Jesus, man. Described me to a tee, especially the part of feeling like you missed out on partying when you get older. This hits too deep lol.
@brennenhrebeniuk9661
@brennenhrebeniuk9661 Жыл бұрын
When you start your typology journey at 18 identifying with the XNTP archetype and after 4 years of obsessive contemplation, maturity and meta analysis you found yourself indulging in balance and fully taking action on the jungian ideal of integrating the shadow and superego. I am finally aware and working towards the Superego of the XSFP in me and aspects of the subconcious XSFJ and not forgetting the unconcious XNTJ in me in a pursuit of all encompassing holistic balance. Its very alienating and any time I explain these concepts im seen as sacrilegious amongst my family and wife for legitimately affirming the unity of God as love not just fear or division. Its very difficult to have the understandings only to be told by people that I sound crazy or to far out there. It is now that I am working on my emotional and Physical unity to integrate my Se and Fe to better all of mankind in everyway possible by being an example of Love.
@steveleeart
@steveleeart Жыл бұрын
In the last few years I’ve shared more through my writing but it’s not easy, and sometimes I overshare. And then, often, I don’t share everything. Sometimes I’m just sharing what’s on the surface. The goal pursuit thing is true. I remember I set aside friends and even my girlfriend when I was focussed on trying to oust a group of people who had taken control of a nonprofit association we were a part of - this group was basically lining their own pockets. At one point it felt like they’d won but I was determined not to give up.
@Nini_Peris
@Nini_Peris Жыл бұрын
I take the test a few weeks ago and I got INFJ ... Everything's so true what I read about
@tldr7159
@tldr7159 Жыл бұрын
These INFJ channels ive seen popping up have been a blessing to help me understand myself and other INFJs, especially INFJ men. I don´t want to put myself in an INFJ box just to say well thats who I am, thats my weaknesses, thats how it is - but rather to try and improve the weaknesses and find a balance with everything. But so many things makes sense from these videos, not just this channel but others as well. A video suggestion idea from me would be maybe a video on how to combat, or improve weaknesses, or i.e how to deal with these common things etc. So instead of just stating things, maybe also videos on how to improve or use these different INFJ qualities?
@zhu777hao
@zhu777hao Жыл бұрын
Can't agree more👍
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
This was very well said. I am going to look into your suggestion for potential future videos. Thank you
@GMacII
@GMacII Жыл бұрын
I 1000% agree! Ever since learning that I am a true INFJ-T, I can’t stop researching because it feels like I am FINALLY being understood, but I have a STRONG desire to overcome my emotional side as a man. I’m currently on Amazon looking for books that I can put into practice.
@Intuitioncalling
@Intuitioncalling Жыл бұрын
I’ve just seen all of your INFJ videos. After watching them, I must say that you know us quite well. Good job 🎉
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Thank you, we took extra time to make sure our information is accurate.
@qwerty0yt
@qwerty0yt Жыл бұрын
You explained me quite well. I’m always seen as a weary weakling because I have already been that old man since my very first ages. No wonder it’s easier for their lives to cut the links out of me.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Well glad you found the video informative, INFJ's are very powerful so while they may see you that way only you know who you are and you can become stronger than all of them.
@haunterdragon4580
@haunterdragon4580 Жыл бұрын
I felt more mature then my age group to the point I kept wondering if I had that disease that makes you grow old faster. While adults around me were worried about saving money on coupons I was contemplating the meaning of life.
@youtubestudiosucks978
@youtubestudiosucks978 Жыл бұрын
@@haunterdragon4580 life is meaningless and that makes it beautiful, an open canvas for you to gice your own meaning too
@MohammedZadjali
@MohammedZadjali Жыл бұрын
@@youtubestudiosucks978 as an infj, I would have to disagree. I have been thru some serious social anxiety and depression periods (still 25) that made me look into the meaning of life. Without religion & faith there is no meaning, seek refuge there. It will also teach you that you don't have control, do what you can and let it unfold. I thank the lord for blessing me with Islam, trust me the true Islam is rarely seen and truly followed by modern 'Muslims'.
@youtubestudiosucks978
@youtubestudiosucks978 Жыл бұрын
@@MohammedZadjali you're supposed to give your own meaning to your own life so stop trying to convert me. My life is not your life so stop it with your predatory tactics of trying to convert me to a religion that hates dogs, i've seen you people throw chocolate and broken glass in dogparks of all places and i'm not about to betray my baby for some stranger who hates my dog for no reason.
@rft1509
@rft1509 Жыл бұрын
I'm as INFJ, my problem was never making friends, because people where attracted to me because of my energy sometimes and my quietness and deep looking personality on other times, and because I try always be good and honest to others, and many value that. My problem was always maintaining those friendships, because either I'm not always around to catch up or i struggle to keep having interest all the time and it feels always like extra energy usage. My advice to other INFJs is to make friends through activity and hobbys, because you always feel easy to talk about that thing and it draws motivation out of you, second, find one friend only because of his light heart, those people will be highly attracted to you and you will be super loyal to you, because of your good heart and charisma in the real situations. The last point, i felt it deeply as I'm in my 27th year and feel like missed out on many things and didn't get real grasp on my teens, but I'm trying now at that age to open up more to people and share more. You can't be a teenager again, but you can still have the child inside you and try to find fun and laughter in everything you do. I'm feeling like going to another level of my life, keeping the qualities of my personality beside being more public and appreciating of other relationships and personalities. Hope my all other INFJs fellows are doing good and find the best way to feel comfortable with themselves and others beside knowing where they're going with their goals. ✌️
@DekkarJr
@DekkarJr Жыл бұрын
People don't value honesty and goodness anymore in society a lot these days tho ya knaw mean :/ " You can count your true friends on one hand in life, and the hand can make a 0. " - my dad lol XD
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
YOU ARE NOT INFJ
@rft1509
@rft1509 Жыл бұрын
@@winterlows why is that?
@jithinjs8708
@jithinjs8708 Жыл бұрын
👍
@nialhorizon2261
@nialhorizon2261 Жыл бұрын
most relatable video ,thanks for explaining me more!
@theisheep2676
@theisheep2676 Жыл бұрын
This sums up my whole life. I'm a month away from turning 19 at the time of writing this, and I seriously regret isolating myself from the rest of my peers at school for from the ages of 13-18. How much I wish I could rewind time and fix it all again, and have a brand new fresh start.
@thewatchtower8330
@thewatchtower8330 Жыл бұрын
I really struggle with this, from time to time. I need time to reload after social interactions, to be at my own, in my own world (of thoughts). It's difficult for me to keep social contacts with friends, but also with my parents, who ask me why it's been so long again I came to see them. It then makes me feel guilty, because they are good people and I hate to let them down. I know I cause disappointment. In those moments I really feel bad, but if I force myself to have those social contacts anyway, it feels forced and not like myself.
@Klewie
@Klewie Жыл бұрын
INFJ here, very lucky to not be part of, what seems to be the majority, of INFJ's who struggle with creating meaningful friendships/relationships, and if I can do it, there's hope for you bros!
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Truth 🙌 thanks for adding this
@JackoBanon1
@JackoBanon1 Жыл бұрын
I'm an INFJ man with an ENFP wife and thanks to her I now have a small group couples that I would call my friends because my wife also included me when she plans social activities from the beginning. Before I met her I spent most of the time home alone or went hiking or to the gym alone and didn't have any desire to make new friends. Sometimes it''s to much social activities for me and my wife gets annoyed if I tell her that I would just rather spend my evening with her alone but all in all we benefit from each others different personalities.
@yewniii5356
@yewniii5356 Жыл бұрын
@@JackoBanon1 i relate to this bc my boyfriend is an INFJ and im an ENFP lolll ive read that INFJ(male) and ENFP(female) are one of the most compatible personality types in terms of synergy and how the two personalities work extremely well together/balances each other out
@angelfigueroa6907
@angelfigueroa6907 Жыл бұрын
Dude, this describes me so well. It's crazy to wrap my head around
@jdunk6652
@jdunk6652 Жыл бұрын
Feel like this video was made for me! Thank you so much for making this. It really spoke to me
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Your'e welcome :)
@Rutger360x
@Rutger360x Жыл бұрын
I am an INFJ with NLD (nonverbal learning disorder). I got a hit to my head twice when I was a child so there might be some brain damage there. I have always felt very lonely and never had any close friends. I only recently discovered that I want to help people or provide a service and would like to make a change in the world. So, I never felt truly happy with what I was studying or with my job and I get fired or I leave my job most of the time. I try to pick my friends wisely because most people just drain my energy or don't really care for me anyway. But when I do find someone that I actually like I often become too attached and try to use them to soothe my loneliness. They then feel that and go away. Especially with girls, this is a big problem. I have never had a girlfriend and often I wonder why anyone would want to be with me anyway. My parents always told me I need order in my life and in the past, I might have been better at planning my day but now I don't plan anything anymore. I have been traveling and working around Australia for the past 3 years, so all my structure and routine are gone. I have no fucking clue what I want to do or where I am going let alone that I have a 3-, 5- or 10-year plan for my life. I feel overwhelmed and stuck. Most of the time I engage in escapism and feel guilty about it afterward, I am sexually frustrated and think about death a lot. I try to look for help but I don't know where to begin or who might actually be able to help me. I need a psychologist who specializes in these topics (INFJ, NLD, neurology).
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
You're going to get through this, all of these struggles and hardships will make you stronger than everyone around you. It's easy to see all the things that go wrong or overwhelm you but it will all work out. Given how you've explained this, its understandable why you feel the way you do. I know other people in the same situation but are scared to tell anyone. While you might not see it this way just you writing this comment is helping people and making a change as others who feel similar won't feel so alone. I've seen this first hand that things often get worse before they get a lot better. So keep pushing on and If you feel you need a psychologist I'd just start with finding the one that sounds closest to what you described and start there. While they may not be totally familiar with INFJ and NLD they will be familiar with what you're going through. If theres anything I can do let me know:)
@ohno6325
@ohno6325 Жыл бұрын
first, it's ok that you feel how you do and it will get better if that's deep down what you truly want and are committed to taking what necessary steps are needed to "get better". similar to a drug addict(or really any addict) when trying to get/stay clean, if there's a small part of them thats not ready to "quit"(a lot of addicts say they want to quit, but then don't, not because they didn't want to quit, but because they wanted to quit less than they did use) , they never will no matter who offers help, no matter how many times they try. only when they are 100 percent ready and willing to quit because theyve absolutely had enough and want change more than anything else(including using) will they fully commit to the paths laid out for helping people quit, do they succeed. obviously, there's exceptions to that, but in general. (hopefully you make the connections I'm getting at there) also, video gaming yourself only sounds easier than what it would/will take to pull yourself outve depression an find meaning in life(something only you can determine for yourself), and the last thing anyone who is depressed wants to do is make things harder for themselves. when you've been driving on a road with potholes for a period of time, you're gonna need to repair a couple tires, maybe even rims and suspension, before it feels smooth driving on a normal road again. also, even animals in a nice fancy cage will attempt to escape.. it's part of nature to when feeling trapped. don't be so difficult on yourself, life already got that part covered lol but, for real though, legitimate help is there when you decide to crack the window and peer out. I recommend. the breeze feels nice. :) idk the specifics with your life, and mental thoughts, etc.... so don't take anything I'm saying too serious or personal... just throwing out what general advice/perspective I have. I hope things get better for you. stay positive friend :)
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
Your not a fucking INFJ lmao
@hashmath3458
@hashmath3458 Жыл бұрын
I wish more people, especially people who know me and family watch this and understand that there are people like this on earth! Grew up feeling hatred for myself for the way I am. After taking the personality test and finding out I was an INFJ, it gave me a sense of identity but not validation! I wish people understood why we INFJs are the way we are and acknowledge that!
@lionnonny
@lionnonny Жыл бұрын
I acknowledge you, bud.
@halcyonzenith4411
@halcyonzenith4411 Жыл бұрын
The ultimate blessing I received from being INFJ is evolving past the need for external validation. What a man never has, he never misses.
@renza481
@renza481 Жыл бұрын
Good luck 2% off the world vs 98%. Still trying to find a place in it all after 27 years. Still overlooked, cast aside and worse. Hope 1 day it gets better for us all.
@ShinkuGouki
@ShinkuGouki Жыл бұрын
I used to have over 30 friends in high school. Then it dwindled to 20 in my early 20s. By 26,I only had about 6 friends,my closest ones. One by one,they betrayed my trust or tried getting at my gf at the time or did me wrong in some way. I now have no friends. I thank them for all the great times we spent together but I don't want them in my life. I don't know if I fit into this category but I enjoy doing what I like to do. I realized that the more people I was involved with, the more problems came up. It getting lonely at times and I do sometimes wish my friends would have been better people. I wish them the best but I'm moving up in my career and don't have time to socialize anyway.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Understandable. You have a strong mindset which is good
@haunterdragon4580
@haunterdragon4580 Жыл бұрын
Very very similar happened to me too
@thewatchtower8330
@thewatchtower8330 Жыл бұрын
The INFJ doorslam. Right?
@drivventodrumm1
@drivventodrumm1 Жыл бұрын
I’m going through almost the exact same situation, and am happier in general
@NukubiMusic
@NukubiMusic Жыл бұрын
After taking the myers briggs test a few years back i came up as an INFJ myself. I would say that this video is roughly 90% accurate. I'm not too sure about other INFJ types, but i've personally never struggled making friends. Of course i only have a few out of the many who really match my wavelength, however the 'difficulty making friends' thing has been more true for me in my romantic relationships than anything else. I would also advise anyone taking personality tests to do the big 5 personalities. The two provide a much more nuanced report of you the just the one.
@chrisclunan5097
@chrisclunan5097 Жыл бұрын
I’m also an INFJ, I’ve made friends easily but I haven’t had success in having a deep connection with those friends. I also find it confusing as to how to be around acquaintances and people I am friends with on a more surface level
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your perspective, I’m sure many others have similar experience
@NukubiMusic
@NukubiMusic Жыл бұрын
@@chrisclunan5097 Hmm, I would say try and identify those out of your friends/ acquaintances who are the least effort to be around, and then try make a conscious effort to spend more time with them. Because I understand that unconsciously that may just not happen lol
@jonvia
@jonvia Жыл бұрын
Feeling misunderstood is the story of my life! Whether its talking to a family member honestly and they take offense or its having serious conversation with a friend and it gets heated, being misunderstood is so annoying. Glad Im an INFJ though because I love my alone time and since Im a songwriter, I need that time alone to focus and produce the best music possible.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
You're definitely not the only one who feels that way.! Also love seeing people talk about the positives of this type. In my opinion the positives of being a INFJ significantly outweigh any negatives.
@ernigsunderg4969
@ernigsunderg4969 Жыл бұрын
I can relate to what you say. I am unable to talk with my brother and sister, et al. in a meaningful way. I do have a cousin who is open. Not sure what her personality type she is. I know she is different from her brothers and sister. I think she and I had some familial relationship in a previous life. She understands me. Even if she does not, she is very respectful and supportive. Being misunderstood is frustrating, lonely and annoying.
@ernigsunderg4969
@ernigsunderg4969 Жыл бұрын
George Harrison was an INFJ.
@user-rx7uh9mg4f
@user-rx7uh9mg4f Жыл бұрын
Same can be said for INTJ females. We don't fit in our gender stereotype unless we actively decide not to be ourselves. I can heavily sympathize with INFJ males and hope we can find people that appreciate us for who we are.
@teh_Hiko
@teh_Hiko Жыл бұрын
My partner is an intj female and my best friend an infj male. It took me a while to sort it but I agree. Those two both seem to be the gender polarities in myers briggs.
@halcyonzenith4411
@halcyonzenith4411 Жыл бұрын
There are people who appreciate our abilities... I call them clients 💲💰
@user-rx7uh9mg4f
@user-rx7uh9mg4f Жыл бұрын
@@halcyonzenith4411 Lol no doubt people appreciate us in the workforce for what we can do for them, but I'm talking about romantic/personal relationships.. it can be very hard.
@user-rx7uh9mg4f
@user-rx7uh9mg4f Жыл бұрын
@@teh_Hiko Nice to hear and I'm glad it worked out!
@halcyonzenith4411
@halcyonzenith4411 Жыл бұрын
@@user-rx7uh9mg4f It often works for me the same way in relationships. I offer a niche product, while not everyone wants it, those who do will pay top dollar because you can't find it anywhere else.
@GrizzlyDancosse
@GrizzlyDancosse Жыл бұрын
This explains alot about me I didn't know this was a thing until today.... thanks for this info...
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Glad we could provide some insight
@saxophobe
@saxophobe Жыл бұрын
No matter how many times I hear this, it still blows my mind how precisely they hit the nail on the head.
@masonhall2981
@masonhall2981 Жыл бұрын
As an INFJ, joining the military was one of the best things I could do for myself. It gave me a surefire way of having social connections, plans, dreams, and purpose. After retaking the test I actually scored higher as an extrovert. Now I am a ENFJ.
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
You’re not a fucking INFJ lmao
@str8profit81
@str8profit81 Жыл бұрын
Didn’t even know this was a thing. This just popped up randomly on my feed, I always thought of myself as someone who lives in a world where only I understand myself. I’ve been called a introvert but never done really any deep research and stuff like this I just live my life, want my peace, and working towards my goals.
@Jarrow13
@Jarrow13 Жыл бұрын
It's pretty accurate. One thing I've noticed as an INFJ (A) male, I tend to have very good and meaningful relationships with INFP's, it's also the people that understand me better and I understand them very well. I tend to bump heads with INFJ (T) females as I'm very opinionated and would call out their flawed logic in their ideals. Profiling folks is something I tend to do but will look at their actions from a "why" they behave a certain way. I'm one of those, if you rub me the the wrong way in our first encounter, I write you off just then and there. First impressions is the make or break for me. I don't show emotions as it's something I will deal with on my own and in my private time when I'm in a rational state of mind, traumatic events I'll apply reasoning. For me to compromise is a "tongue in cheek" for me, meaning I don't approve but I'll accept. Big social gatherings drain me, so I will go do the dishes just to disconnect for a while. I'm pretty much at the point where I don't really care about searching for people who understands me as I do my own thing in life and I do like to have full control over my own life.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
These are some important traits to have as an INFJ in my opinion. Thanks for sharing this
@laconsuela69
@laconsuela69 Жыл бұрын
This was super validating. I can't believe how spot on this stuff is-like the sensitivity thing, or the intensity, honestly all of it. Sometimes I feel like I'm taking crazy pills. Like I'm the only one seeing what I'm seeing. I really do have a hard time making friends not because i don't go out or socialize - i actually am a great talker. I just don't feel the connection. Luckily I have one great friend who has been with me since I was 7.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Glad you found the video to be accurate, theres a lot of other people here who have similar situations/feelings as you
@scprojekt1896
@scprojekt1896 Жыл бұрын
Same here. I'm not struggling to get friends, it just the connection is not there.
@franzjosefmueller-alban509
@franzjosefmueller-alban509 Жыл бұрын
It’s quite simple, the moment we realize that the one and only best friend we need is… ourselves we ( me & me ) are more than enough . Would we love to have a real honest and understanding significant other ( male o woman ) which we can build a friendship ? Yes !!! The problem is to find someone out there that have the same intelectual level… that I found to be almost impossible. Also… since the meteorological rise of social media I’ve got the feeling that 90 % brought out their narcissistic / egocentric nature to the highest level I have seen/feel in my entire life so thank you but no thank you . When one learn to love himself, we are happy alone. Best regards to you all
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Lots of good points here, thanks for sharing this perspective
@bryantgaray4774
@bryantgaray4774 Жыл бұрын
Thankful I came across this video 10 minutes ago. I’m not alone 😊 INFJ-man sounds like a superhero name lmao
@FieryRed19
@FieryRed19 Жыл бұрын
Oh man, this relates to me completely. The lone struggle is so real.
@yarransmyrell1112
@yarransmyrell1112 Жыл бұрын
So much easier to connect with this video than other poeple.
@MusicfromMarrs
@MusicfromMarrs Жыл бұрын
I think our current social structures contribute to this. There aren’t a lot of community activities in which people like INFJs can hang on the fringes, connecting with like minded people.
@lionnonny
@lionnonny Жыл бұрын
Great business model idea..
@coreybrown4921
@coreybrown4921 Жыл бұрын
INFJ/ Aquarius/ childhood trauma. Glad there are others
@lextor4712
@lextor4712 Жыл бұрын
The "NF" gets created through childhood trauma. In any case, the work (books/audiobooks) of Alice Miller can be a blessing if you're interested to dive deeper.
@justinengland9814
@justinengland9814 Жыл бұрын
I am only learning about this INFJ concepts recently. This is a good opening video and I can relate to this, also the Incel concepts are very interesting.
@STERNWAERTS
@STERNWAERTS Жыл бұрын
it's utterly hard having an infj personality combined with male sex, high iq + eq, hypersensitivity, childhood trauma, a general disgust for modern life, society and the ways of the world plus a general and life-long lack of people among family, friends and acquaintances who are similar or at least understanding and supportive. now imagine living rurally where there's basically no chance getting to know people you could actually "click" and be friends with. regarding the actual topic of the video: i have one real male friend left, a lot of people know and like me, and a lot of them want to have me as a friend. but most relationships just drain my energy and simply bore me (i have lots of interests and hobbies that crave attention); i need meaningful, deep, valuable stuff in my life.
@DiegoBR
@DiegoBR Жыл бұрын
Be rich and use your money to help you out. You will be able to live where you want and live your hobbies with more freedom.
@bogusmcbogus2637
@bogusmcbogus2637 Жыл бұрын
A dog. A dog will never let you down. They will tune into you when you're having a bad day.
@STERNWAERTS
@STERNWAERTS Жыл бұрын
@@bogusmcbogus2637 i know, i know. but i can't have a romantic relationship with a dog, can I? I need a dog and a soul mate who too enjoys the quiet life and has just as few friends as I do. some day
@popkhorne5372
@popkhorne5372 Жыл бұрын
One of my favorite types, as an intp. Strangely, despite the sheer difference in functions, we have a lot in common.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
As we've been making videos on both types I've noticed that INTP and INFJ share a lot in common! I could see these personality types getting along very well in real life.
@mackieincsouthsea
@mackieincsouthsea Жыл бұрын
Defo feel like boxes can be restricting without reason, definitely got attacked by this video!! 😆
@marklabuzzetta8977
@marklabuzzetta8977 Жыл бұрын
Wow, this is pretty accurate. A few things I don't feel align, but overall correct. It's comforting reading all the comments of "us". My circle of friends seems to dwindle as time goes on, and have always felt I'm at a different stage as everyone else.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Glad you found it to be pretty accurate. Lots of other infj's feel similar to you
@marklabuzzetta8977
@marklabuzzetta8977 Жыл бұрын
@@mindscopechannel well we are a special group..😁
@Diegoelchapin
@Diegoelchapin Жыл бұрын
I got my degree in Psychology, I did get heartbroken by a female who was a lost soul at the time and i have been told that i light up the energy in the room when i walk in or that I am the life of the party. Its been hard making friendships, I made a couple and really valued them thanks to me moving alot. Its kind of all clicking now that I could be an INFJ
@GlacialScion
@GlacialScion Жыл бұрын
Look into the creation of and methodology behind MBTI before deciding how you feel about your label.
@Richie_Godsil
@Richie_Godsil Жыл бұрын
I took an MB test for psychology in highschool and got an INFJ, some of the facets discussed in the video still rings true but not so much other anymore. I haven't taken one since cuz I feel like I'd meta-game the process a bit and it wouldn't be a great reflection. I'm a little curious though
@TheBobbyjuba
@TheBobbyjuba Жыл бұрын
I remember reading extensively about INFJs after finding out I am one. I recall seeing something along the lines of “An INFJ is capable of getting a stranger to completely open up to them about something they’re going through and the INFJ can learn everything there is to know about this person in one conversation, only for the stranger to realize they don’t know a thing about the person they just told this information to”. I love getting to know people one on one. I am not a fan of groups but people can be quite spectacular when they feel comfortable showing their true selves. It makes me feel good that people tend to enjoy speaking with me, especially about things that are troubling them. Though it does make me sad that the active listening I do isn’t often thrown back my way. I think that’s a big reason why INFJs can be a bit hard to understand… because you just haven’t taken the time to really get to know them. You merely saw what they felt was necessary for you to see, essentially what they wanted you to see and know about them.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
This makes complete sense, thanks for the perspective
@hushmypuppy
@hushmypuppy Жыл бұрын
This is totally right up my alley for overall personality but you can manage friends in life, you have to sacrifice bits of your time and perceived self and having good times with your friends can be invigorating! I study psychology at my university and we would say these personality traits are correlated with particular individuals but we ask know that those same individuals can be correlated with other personality traits (such as extroverted individuals).
@QorvoAttano
@QorvoAttano Жыл бұрын
I honestly feel that last bit about missing out on things as a child and then returning to them as an adult where your friends are in other aspects of life, is backwards. I had an extremely easy time making friends in my youth and I did a hell of a lot of partying as well. Now, I'm 24 years old. I dont go out, I dont socialize unless its on the internet, I dont crave bars or parties, I just want whats best for myself and my family - safety and comfort. Of course this is subjective but I'm just speaking from my own life perspective. I also value trust to an extent where it actually prevents me from wanting to make other friends as I havent established any sort of trust with a stranger. Dont get me wrong, I'm still very well versed and speak to people but its all surface level now. It would take a special person for me to trust and open up to if they were not my friend before or if they are not online and I have the luxury of turning it off whenever I want. I just want to re-ignite past relationships with people i've already established that line of trust with.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
This makes a lot of sense. I feel like out of everything on this list thats the one part that seems to be the most debatable. Many INFJ's do experience that backwards as well, just depends on their experiences growing up.
@janisilverlake0783
@janisilverlake0783 Жыл бұрын
OMG am I you? hahaha. Same age and scenario.
@mrztempo4315
@mrztempo4315 Жыл бұрын
hahaha same thing in my schools and collage days i had a bang now am 26 still feels i can have it when ever i want.🤣🤣🤣🤣
@MrgLoRybLue
@MrgLoRybLue Жыл бұрын
@@mindscopechannel Mind explaining this point further? I am trying to understand this, cheers.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
@@MrgLoRybLue In response to number 8 from this video. Some INFJ's feel they missed out on the partying/going out phase so then they try to do it when they're a little older but most others have moved on from it at that point. However, theres also other INFJ's who did party earlier in their lives and got tired of it quick or never cared as well so they dont feel like they missed out. I hope that makes more sense. It is a little difficult to explain but essentially just listen to the part of number 8 about the INFJ missing out and then consider that some INFJ's dont feel like they missed out.
@coldxsushi
@coldxsushi Жыл бұрын
I'm an INFJ, and 2 months away from becoming a registered nurse. Pretty happy to see Florence Nightingale being an INFJ.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Thats awesome, congrats🙌
@gabegutierrez21
@gabegutierrez21 Жыл бұрын
Is nursing worth it brotha? I heard its a stressful career for introverts like us? I was considering going into nursing
@coldxsushi
@coldxsushi Жыл бұрын
@@gabegutierrez21 oh definitely, nursing is like the swiss army knife of healthcare, we can go anywhere, from easy to hard. There's gigs for nurses that doesn't even require patient contact. Where INFJ strive the most are in mental health clinics, we're great listeners and usually those places are low stress. You're not even allowed to wear uniform in psyche facilities, just normal street clothes to match the clients/patients. I'm considering getting into psych nursing, or rehab. Some gigs can be 1 on 1, compared to a floor nurse that may have 4-5 patients per nurse. It's rewarding, you can leave the job anytime and find a new specialty, and you'll make big bucks no matter what. If you need to take out a loan, this is one of those programs with a high return, you can literally pay back your loan within 2-5 years with your first job. I say try it out, shadow or volunteer, see how you like it :) biggest job security job, and very rewarding. I know INFJs have it hard to find purpose in the world, leaning towards healthcare will help unlock a lot of your potential! Good luck bro!
@coldxsushi
@coldxsushi Жыл бұрын
and just a little more background on me, I went from film major, digital art, martial artist, massage therapist, now EMT and next step is RN. I've been in school since graduating high school (18 years in college, I'm 36 now). I've changed my paths many times, just know your lifes purpose and keep striving in that direction! :)
@gabegutierrez21
@gabegutierrez21 Жыл бұрын
@@coldxsushi Thanks brotha for the encouragement! This really inspired me to pursue what I was meant to do :) Keep up the good work man and I hope you succeed in your endeavors
@richardmorrison2686
@richardmorrison2686 Жыл бұрын
Spot on , great presentation of me , how did you know ?
@rustynail3519
@rustynail3519 Жыл бұрын
This video really relates with me...I am not boasting but everything said in the video, I can relate with myself...I always wonder why am I finding hard time to maintain the friendship circle I have whereas for others, people are naturally drawn to them...and I here find a very hard time even to maintain the flow of conversation. Don't like small talks, hadn't found anybody who actually understands me even though I can understand them to certain extent.
@LuisKnight
@LuisKnight Жыл бұрын
As an intj I could relate to some of these points. I have a best friend who is an infj and two more intj friends. I think as we grow older we become better more well rounded people. My infj friend has a good amount of friends and so do my intj ones and myself. But I could tell the friends we make are usually the type you know would die for you and you would die for them. They are deep relationship that seem to last a lifetime.
@djay6651
@djay6651 Жыл бұрын
Apparently, I'm in the INFJ sphere. I can definitely relate to the secretive aspect. I'm extremely secretive. When I speak to one of my few friends about a subject, I only want that person there. I don't want an audience. I can also relate to having trouble finding people who understand how I operate. I have one friend that I have a lot in common with, and she understands me better than my wife does.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Is your friend also an infj?
@djay6651
@djay6651 Жыл бұрын
@@mindscopechannel I couldn't say. I'd be pretty confidant in saying she doesn't care about that stuff, tho.
@haunterdragon4580
@haunterdragon4580 Жыл бұрын
Having an easier connection to the person you're not with. You secretly wonder if you should be with them or someone like them instead but repel the thought of it.
@ohno6325
@ohno6325 Жыл бұрын
slippery slope my guy
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
Your are not INFJ fkn idiot
@Crossfoxcoon
@Crossfoxcoon Жыл бұрын
Damn, feel like I relat to almost every one of these traits down to a T! It can be so hard to feel understood and be seen as I am - almost all of the people in my life just seem to be in a different place in their lives. Seeing this helps me feel not so much alone on some level. Thanks for uploading!
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
Your just a loser you ain’t INFJ 💀
@IcePakOG
@IcePakOG Жыл бұрын
This sounds like my life experiences.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Must be an INFJ then
@skinnylegendz6940
@skinnylegendz6940 Жыл бұрын
Man I've hated myself for so long, I thought there was something wrong with me, I guess there kind of is. Please don't hesitate to message me friendo's, I love you all, thank you for this video 💚💚
@goodlearner5867
@goodlearner5867 Жыл бұрын
some of us still hate ourselves
@skinnylegendz6940
@skinnylegendz6940 Жыл бұрын
I wonder what it's like to communicate with humans and not scare them off with extreme awkwardness lmfao, I can dream.
@goodlearner5867
@goodlearner5867 Жыл бұрын
@@skinnylegendz6940 i thinks for days and approach like weirdo my God when i,ll feel normal
@skinnylegendz6940
@skinnylegendz6940 Жыл бұрын
There is no normal for ppl like us, you have to make your own personal little happiness and normality
@goodlearner5867
@goodlearner5867 Жыл бұрын
@@skinnylegendz6940 my God sometime i feel like i,m cursed soul. too many questions pops up in my brain 🥺
@Sedite
@Sedite Жыл бұрын
I thought this video was gonna be bull crap but it did resonate with me on many levels :) thank you
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
No problem :)
@TwoTrakMind
@TwoTrakMind Жыл бұрын
Man, this was so affirming to me. As an INFJ male, I relate to the majority of the characteristics on the list and it feels really good to be understood.
@jamesrutter4100
@jamesrutter4100 Жыл бұрын
Wow every INFJ in the world all on this site amazing 👽
@Stress_._Free
@Stress_._Free Жыл бұрын
@@jamesrutter4100 😂
@zs_flowers99
@zs_flowers99 7 ай бұрын
We are unique guys...being an INFJ is really hard 😅❤
@JKRuc
@JKRuc Жыл бұрын
This video perfectly explained me 😅🤦🏾
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
😅
@scprojekt1896
@scprojekt1896 Жыл бұрын
Sums it up... I'm a teacher, and the topics that will always make me talks to no end would be about education and of course the students. Trying to deep dive into the topics as well understanding the root cause of everything that's happening, be it bad or good.... Sometimes I'm thinking probably I'm the weird one... Confused till this day why I can't connect with people more often.. Or probably it iust a boring topic😌😌
@1992chevalier
@1992chevalier Жыл бұрын
I have done the test four times in the last 10 years, getting always INFJ as a result. I am a male, 30 years old and I have just never managed to fit in. I am nothing special and the most special one you'd ever seen. Simultaneously. As a child I was deliberately avoiding other kids and was spending all times with playing imaginary roleplays alone, or talking with adults. As a teen, loneliness stroke upon me and made me suffer for approximately 15 years. In the beginning of this calendar year, after having been experiencing yet another severe disappointment, I kind of gave it up. I am not longing for finding that Little prince&Fox-like friendship anymore. I am still needing it, but I have accepted the fact that it might never happen to me. People will always find me odd. They do accept me, some of them like me too, however I am nothing but a question mark.
@thatsjustmytake
@thatsjustmytake Жыл бұрын
I had to Google what INFJ stood for. I had no idea this acronym existed. Every point this video mentioned described me in exactness. No wonder why I only have 2 friends and why I reject invitations to weddings, birthday parties, sports gathering etc. The perfectionist part in me is what my coworkers have a hard time understanding.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Yep, everything you said totally aligns with INFJ.
@henryjohnson859
@henryjohnson859 Жыл бұрын
So what does INFJ mean?
@lionnonny
@lionnonny Жыл бұрын
@@henryjohnson859 Introverted, INtuition, Feeling, Judging
@winterlows
@winterlows Жыл бұрын
you ain’t INFJ LOL
@thatsjustmytake
@thatsjustmytake Жыл бұрын
@@winterlows you are right. You've known me for 40 years, you can tell by a simple text.
@Writergirlk
@Writergirlk Жыл бұрын
I'm an INFJ female and I relate 😂
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Understandable 😂
@haunterdragon4580
@haunterdragon4580 Жыл бұрын
I like your name 😂
@gjersdalen
@gjersdalen Жыл бұрын
I can relate to point 4, 5, 6, 7 & 8 starting from 3:25.
@pritpalsingh3609
@pritpalsingh3609 Жыл бұрын
I was very skeptical of me being INFJ during the first half of the video as being INfJ it is my nature.But when it said at 3:50 that INFJ are drawn to art philosophy and psychology,the heavy subjects I threw my phone away for a while.I tried to change my nature and personality but something always seemed off and I always felt like faking myself.I just accepted it for who I am and accepted the fact that I would if I find someone would find them rarely to talk about my feeling and thought.I just talk shallow now .
@derealratos6332
@derealratos6332 Жыл бұрын
I dreamt my old friends whie I was in rem sleep between 5:30 am to 8:00 am this morning. I felt like i slept alot, woke up fresh n i thought my dreams were real life. It dawned on me that I dont really have any friends anymore. The one or 2 I thought I had dont even message anymore...
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
You dont need them then, if you're an infj then you're strong and can stand alone until the right people come along. You'l find your people🤝
@AVIVAFilms
@AVIVAFilms Жыл бұрын
😎Like Us INTJ'S! Maybe its the Introverted Intuition which does it. Yes, Introverted Intuition leads to so many of us Ni types being Misunderstood.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
This is true, the introverted intuition is definitely very relevant
@daniellegreco1821
@daniellegreco1821 Жыл бұрын
LEADERS ARE LONERS.. REFUSE TO FOLLOW👑🌞
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
Boss or Leader? Leaders inspire through love Bosses threaten through fear Leaders bring the team up to par Bosses want to see your tears Leaders teach lessons from experience Bosses bark orders into place Leaders listen and continue to learn Bosses use anger just to save face Leaders work for the greater good of all Bosses try and hold you down Leaders show passion and pride Bosses act like a clown Leaders take you to the promised land Bosses promise through empty words Leaders are truly dignified Bosses are insecure turds Leaders love to see you smile Bosses love to see you frown It takes a leader to stand up To take away the bosses crown
@JT-gm4fk
@JT-gm4fk Жыл бұрын
Leaders indeed are usually loners...this is true.
@james12erby43
@james12erby43 Жыл бұрын
Deep 😯
@tempest-tom9180
@tempest-tom9180 Жыл бұрын
One must follow in order to lead.
@dnicej1293
@dnicej1293 Жыл бұрын
Myself and my fiance both tested as INFJ. The only thing that I know as true is that we crave, pray, and wish to make an impact on the world. We hope to help others. We want to provide aid to the less fortunate. We are taken advantage of... more than anyone else.
@goodlearner5867
@goodlearner5867 Жыл бұрын
and i am thinking how you find out about me. Thankyou for giving me my explanation🥰
@eveilstien865
@eveilstien865 Жыл бұрын
So how then are we supposed to choose careers? My only difference is not literally being future oriented, but simply going off of intuition. Despite having had a sense of what to do, i always seemed to fall short and caught in the chaos called circumstance. Plus not being outgoing makes the arts field hard to navigate.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Many INFJ's find that pursuing their passions and entrepreneurship fits them very well
@rainmaker1461
@rainmaker1461 Жыл бұрын
Entrepreneur. It has been so much better in every facet than being an employee.
@servantofallah4597
@servantofallah4597 Жыл бұрын
I did not know of this acronym till today. It's almost as spot on for me; I try to better my flaws in what I might thing I need to work on. overall, I feel no need for a friend who doesn't have a true meaning in what they do or what they're achieving. Although I try to be a riotous person to all and love all
@MA-naconitor
@MA-naconitor Жыл бұрын
I think this is true for both INFJ and INTJ men. I’m myself INTJ, and can relate to this a whole lot
@dangercovey
@dangercovey Жыл бұрын
INFJ "MEN" including Elenore Roosevelt and Florence Nightingale. I guess it really is rare when you can't find actual men as examples.
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
🤔 What do you consider a man?
@iamrubenmes
@iamrubenmes Жыл бұрын
I noticed this. Rare indeed.
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
There are quite a few rock musicians that are INFJ. Truth with feeling and a message, but often mistyped because we are chameleons.
@thewatchtower8330
@thewatchtower8330 Жыл бұрын
ML King, Gandhi and Hitler were INFJ men too, I thought.
@juvaungriffiths5232
@juvaungriffiths5232 Жыл бұрын
Damn, most of this video describes me 😂
@KDkaivalya
@KDkaivalya Жыл бұрын
OMG! This is me! ❤️
@ravenken
@ravenken Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I have taken the MB test many times over the years and pretty consistently came out INFJ. This video made me feel like someone was telling me about my life. Don't know how I feel about it, but the video has educated me about myself. Thanks. I will also say that the comment section also has very interesting insights too. Thanks to all. One last thing. I'm interested in knowing what political affiliation INFJs aligns with. I'm liberal.
@BackToNature123
@BackToNature123 Жыл бұрын
I'm an infj british woman and don't support a single politician as so many are manipulative and inauthentic. I look at what an area looks like when the party has been in place for decades, labour/liberal democrats are run down areas or cities with no soul. Consistently when people earn enough money they move away and keep voting the same way, unaware that the reason they left was the unintended consequences of their voting. I struggle to understand how people cant see the bigger picture of their choices. I may be closer to the original Conservative political values of taking responsibility for your own life (with compassion) and understanding that small businesses are essential in a strong economy. I'm not anti-corporations in principal but I'm very much against the control of society that corporations currently have. Deterring them by increasing tax massively is pointless as many move or simply use tax avoidance. I believe closing loopholes and changing the tax setup so every business is treated fairly, the only benefit big business then would have would be economies of scale. I think we need separation of corporation and state. I support the most vulnerable in society that are trying to turn their life around. It takes an emotional toll and massive impact on my mental health so question my choices every day. They need love, kindness and continued support but molly cuddling them will not help them. People who believe chucking money at the problem, cause more harm to them with low expectations and it breaks my heart to see those in generational reliance on benefits because they've got not resilience or hope. I wish there were more infj people in their world to help 🙄 Narcissists (or worse) are starting to be called out finally (Chrissy Teigen, Amber Heard, Meghan Markle, Ellen, James Corden, Kardashian linked with Balenciago) and I notice that consistently the people being outed or arrested are the ones who shout about being good and have spent their careers portraying the good image. As INFJ we often see this before others and we need to keep holding a mirror to them. Create a world that rewards the people that actually do good (and think through any unintended consequences) rather than the people who pretend to be good. Move in this direction and politics will move there too as people reject the systems now in place
@johnking2740
@johnking2740 Жыл бұрын
While this video hits all points, the answer to 1 of the riddles 'The Chicken or the Egg' is easy - it's the egg, when the reptiles ruled the lands, they laid eggs, including the flying reptiles and their cousins the not quite flying reptiles which became poultry . . . which lay eggs. The main question of if INFJ men have no friends is incorrect, we have plenty of friends, every day we are swamped with our friends, the only difference is they tend to not show themselves when other people are about, and not for shyness either, our friends are unique to each individual, they just cannot interact with the real world like we hope they could.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Thanks for adding this
@addisonfrance
@addisonfrance Жыл бұрын
Feels good to know there’s others that relate in the comments
@kingodd
@kingodd Жыл бұрын
well said
@lyledeyounges1276
@lyledeyounges1276 Жыл бұрын
Mmhmm interesting, interesting... *my god, there's a lot of aspiring actors out there!*
@TheDarkness1
@TheDarkness1 Жыл бұрын
I've only aspired to be me. Couldn't act if I tried. Not a fan of wearing masks.
@lyledeyounges1276
@lyledeyounges1276 Жыл бұрын
@@TheDarkness1 good for you, really - I am referring to all that stock footage though
@Ki30
@Ki30 Жыл бұрын
I like the part where he explains what an INFJ is before going into the video about infj people 🥴
@RSebastian97
@RSebastian97 Жыл бұрын
As an infj I know and agree with everything mentioned, but it would have been much better if some valuable tips were given on how to work on it.
@ottor-007
@ottor-007 Жыл бұрын
I am trusting of others and am friendly towards them. I have high expectations for them to return that sort of kindness back. I don't like being alone or ghosted for days. I tend to return favour back to them, the way they treated me. I turned bitter as days goes by, mainly because online friends ends and can't get actual friends irl. I close up my windows and put up barriers so that I won't get hurt ever again, and having no one to disappoint nor them to me. I am a disease and a curse. Life is cruel, and so I've become.
@techvirus
@techvirus Жыл бұрын
As INFJ, I just wanted to rule the world
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Make it happen🌍
@techvirus
@techvirus Жыл бұрын
@@mindscopechannel thanks, your support is very important to me
@amadeobagacay2202
@amadeobagacay2202 Жыл бұрын
i cant disagree on this. all of it is me .
@GenX1979
@GenX1979 Жыл бұрын
All of these are true for me and have gotten much more apparent and impossible to ignore as I’ve aged into my forties. I’m much more alone as a result but honestly I’m a million times more stable and fulfilled.
@mindscopechannel
@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын
Its interesting how much better INFJ's thrive when alone compared to some of the other personality types.
@thoudiscorddisruption7549
@thoudiscorddisruption7549 Жыл бұрын
I'm always prone to bullying. I'm sensitive. I'm shifting my ability from talkative and silent. They find me edgy. They find me unworthy. They do not belong me.
@ianlacey
@ianlacey Жыл бұрын
If I'm comfortable without friends, is it a problem?
@Zokon
@Zokon Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, I'd say it is. We don't want to get too comfortable. It can lead to insanity.
@hanskazan7403
@hanskazan7403 Жыл бұрын
It's not a problem at all
@ernestdrozdz1889
@ernestdrozdz1889 Жыл бұрын
Jesus, my life in a nutshell xD
@SleepyMontana
@SleepyMontana Жыл бұрын
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