WHY IS A TRUE INFJ SO EXTREMELY DANGEROUS?

[@Wenzes]

What is your take on INFJ being extremely dangerous?

[@drewyoda]

It's extremely true. It's something we all struggle with. I like to learn alot about people...strengths, weaknesses, desires, etc.

[@simovtransportmedia1137]

Simple explenation. We can hold so much tention, but we also know how to release it straight through the heart of the person. Actually I love this. Well, not because it makes me feel good, absolutely not, but in the end the INFJ is made for a bigger porpouse and how we can impact the world otherwice than to rock the boat. The INFJ dark side is actually the way we bring our brightest side on front, our endless genuineness and devotedness so it almost makes me cry when someone takes my dark side outburst literally, because I don't want to harm anybody, I just want someone to understand me, someone with who I can be all my real self, with all that emotional extremes and dramas, I just want to be loved for who I am. Everyone needs that, right.

[@MegaCyberleader]

When Im about to do my "berserk" I sing this song over and over. Just to let people understand. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnysZn-ghpaijrc

[@GG-rk1bu]

I've crushed people before & broken relationships irreversibly. I agree it's so important to show my inner- self.

[@Phil_Scott]

That is about right. There are other phenomena as well...you are probably aware of these...I am a mechanical engineer, semi retired at age 80, projects all over the US and some pro bono work in Guatemala. I got plenty of attacks and got good at handling them. I used to notice that a company would come on hard times when I left...i thought that was my doing....I am still not entirely sure... ....currently however I think that the low grade energy of people that behave that way... is such that they self destruct on their own, and that has nothing to do with me. . There are some mixed situations as well. Something to do with an ethereal sort of limitlessly hard core ...*intent. Which I have learned to hold back on as unnecessary, and also I think a person becomes what he does so to speak...its a great feeling... .... but as you are pointing out must be contained, becoming a 40 pound rattlesnake is not all that gracious. and it seems that grace is what we came here to attain.

[@gerardocantu9702]

Narcissist: I have you under my influence. INFJ: I've played out 20 scenarios in my mind on how to unmask you in front of everyone.

[@christianjohnson2562]

YOOO😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@christianjohnson2562]

IN VIVID DETAIL TOO😂😂😂

[@xenarafique8871]

😂😂😂😂

[@Youmeanthatkarl]

What’s so sad is it’s true 😔 I hate being like this, and it’s all I can think about.

[@DiZZoLabs]

😂🤣😂🤣🤣💯👊🏻

[@BigTexan7]

I'm an INFJ and my trigger for coming out of my nice, laid back and patient demeanor is when someone questions my integrity or character. I've had tyrannical bosses that were shocked and horrified by my sudden emergence to stand up to their bad behavior when they dared to cross that line. They thought they had me pegged and could keep pushing me and testing my resolve to their every whim but my patience does run out and they never see it coming until it's too late and the damage is irreparable. I never learned how to make space or boundaries up front so that folks realize there are limits to my good nature. I'm a hard worker and I really like to help people without expectations. They don't value or respect this.

[@evegreenification]

Completely relate. What I like best about this is how good I have gotten at pattern recognition. "Ah, this is the first 3 signs of a person who is going to keep pushing it". Then I can save a bit of time. The other thing I like is how I have learned to say "what would I do if our roles were reversed?" If I would treat that person immeasurably better, then this realization also saves me time. In this way, it is not about waiting for my patience to run out and it becomes a useful filter.

[@HoshPak]

I ran into a similar situation with my supervisor, a few years ago. He wouldn't show any kind of sympathy and coworkers warned me about his nature and that he would eventually pick on me as well. The day came where he invited me to a "dialogue" which in reality is that sort of interrogation where he asks a bunch of open-ended questions designed for self-reflexion. Within my reply to his very first question I managed to flip the entire script he had carefully laid out on his 1,5h drive to work. I didn't prepare at all... There was a lot of back and forth and the dialogue was about to end prematurely, many times. My team leader who attended as mediator didn't dare intervene between the forces at work here and she later commended me on how I seemingly dominated the conversation and yet still managed to end it on good terms with a precisely placed joke. She was kinda scared of that side of me, too. I had a much easier life a to work from that point on and even got promoted for continuing hard work.

[@Rvals5]

Been there, done that. It’s tough when people think we’re so nice we won’t stand up for ourselves. It seriously bothers them when we do.

[@Womenswell022]

So meeee

[@erinjohnson4500]

I so relate

[@TheDarkness1]

INFJ with no fear is the most dangerous of all.

[@AshrekaKuku]

Thats me

[@billjacobs2799]

I learned at a very young age that my comeback lines hurt people because they were personal and extremely accurate. I stopped doing that as a result, but if someone hurts me intentionally I will slip and tell them a very blunt and accurate truth about themselves that usually ends the conversation. So I understand the power of the INFJ and actually became a counselor as my career.

[@judah9906]

Yup it's so easy, even with strangers, I look at them and can instantly tell why they are insecure and then I hit them with the truth and it's silence and fear afterwards. They just refuse to cross me ever again.

[@lauraormenisan1090]

Done that too at work. I had one older colleague and she never stopped saying bad things behind our back, always had to know everything about others, but never talked about herself. One day I exploded and I told her what I was thinking about her behavior, that she is jealous about other people success, etc. The lady never talked to me again, we met one year after the fight, and she pretended she didn’t see me, but I went to say hi to her regardless of our fight. 🤷🏼‍♀️ straight forward

[@lauraormenisan1090]

Done that too at work. I had one older colleague and she never stopped saying bad things behind our back, always had to know everything about others, but never talked about herself. One day I exploded and I told her what I was thinking about her behavior, that she is jealous about other people success, etc. The lady never talked to me again, we met one year after the fight, and she pretended she didn’t see me, but I went to say hi to her regardless of our fight. 🤷🏼‍♀️ straight forward

[@Vyjayanthi41]

It resonates 100 % with me. I became a psychiatrist thinking there was something wrong with me , since I understand too much & I don't need proof. And I was the sounding board , every person who they were in me. Traumatized persons projected their abuser identity on to me ! When I understood their trauma it got them terrified 😨

[@infj-tguy6275]

Sounds like fun way to hurt toxic ppl, your mouth is basically an emotional gun and your bullets are truth n blunt honesty, you don't kill ppl but you make them want to kill themselves and personality I think that's extremely cool, toxic ppl who won't or cant change for the betterment of themselves n humanity don't deserve sympathy or pity, if they can be reformed that's different, if not then why care if they live or die

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

What is my take on INFJ being extremely dangerous ? It's the "hitting them where it hurts" scenario. Every so often, we may have to come out of our shell and say the things that need to be said, or take action to correct someone or something. I've noticed that afterwards, some folks will say to me " Gee, I didn't think you had it in ya" . I say to them, " It's always there, I use it only when I need to".

[@JoyceHMoore]

Amen

[@nicolesaulsberry6973]

@Rose Madder Excellent point Rose! We have to scale that balance and not be spiteful and mean-spirited. I believe in taking the high ground. There is a way to say and do everything. This of course is easier said than done, but we must put forth the effort. Great comment 👍🏿👌🏿🙂

[@MyNameBeeKayy]

That last part. “I only use it when I need to” makes all the difference. 👌🏽

[@MyNameBeeKayy]

@Rose Madder most definitely. Not being in our power (and sometimes even when we are) makes us put up with a lot more than we deserve; the effect of the door slam depends on that person and how much power they feel like they’ve lost over us once that door closes. I’m glad you already have that understanding. Don’t hurt nobody. Lol

[@MyNameBeeKayy]

@Rose Madder the infj subconscious always protects self first. Even from or at the expense of self. Learn and love your power fully so you can live in it at your own discretion. 👌🏽 love, light, namaste. 💖😇🙏🏽

[@charlottew1245]

Being an older INFJ I have learned to tell significant others how I work, early in the relationship. However, I have found that very few people believe me, and when the door slam happens they are totally unprepared. Once I see the pattern in their behaviour I can see the future, that's really hard for people who have little to no insight of their own behaviours. I am probably not believed because I can only deliver warnings in a calm and benevolent way. I can't do the arguing and shouting. I think the calmness lulls them in to a false sense of security!

[@michaellopez7765]

Yes, complacency...

[@orangetulip1261]

"Once I see the pattern in their behavior, I can see the future." I love that! 👆 I'm...the...same...

[@courtneymeyers82]

You hit it on the nail when you say we're afraid of our own anger and power, we can cut a person to the core

[@petitefireball]

I'm dangerous because I'm honest and that intimidates those who are doing things they shouldn't.

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

What does that mean

[@danielaokoroafor641]

Same there l

[@SegoMan]

@@pomegranateseedling5592 Do we actually have to draw a picture for you??

[@oceanlover2426]

I completely get what you are saying. It would be great if, based on the ethical type of people that many of us are, no one really would ever wanted to cross us. That, unfortunately, is just not the case. Many feel intimidated by our wealth of internal resources and no matter how much many of us will stay in our own lanes and focus on our own things, many who are insecure and unethical take this as an open threat to their position in life/their very existence.

[@lolaeagle]

As an INFJ, that hitting them where it hurts , I try to avoid but it happens sometime , most time I door slam to avoid doing that, Great vid Wenzes

[@sonofhibbs4425]

Oh my gosh…yes! Same!

[@michaelr3025]

Same here. I'd rather distance, even part ways, than hurt anyone. Let them shine somewhere else with other people...

[@lisabriano118]

I am an INFJ and a Scorpio, I can emotionally hurt as well as physically hurt. When I have been hurt, I can plot to harm the person who hurt me so severely. I have a hard time forgiving. I can walk away from someone who hurts me, especially if they betray me.

[@karinteeples6517]

Ditto 🙌🏻

[@Womenswell022]

@Lisa you are dangerous. A combo of INFJ and Scorpio is a latent nuclear weapon. I like to introduce Jesus Christ to you. He helped me and he can help you too. He will never betray you. Ask him into your life

[@Papalegba22]

I also am a INFJ and Scorpio Sun, Rising, Venus and Uranus. I definitely have a hard time forgiving ones who intentionally hurt me. I have a huge issue with letting people go and or letting the problem between us go. I never plot revenge because of getting bad Karma. The Universe always hits anyone who crosses me with instant Karma. Sometimes it's pretty harsh. Anyway I'm Always in my feelings or completely numb. The struggle is real!

[@stephaniecade6708]

Infj & Scorpio here..im a good person but don't take my kindness as weakness.

[@cheyanne919]

Same.

[@cynthiasanchez5882]

The terrifying aspect is how closely it borders a manipulative aspect. I don't ever INTEND to be predatorial and pray my behavior resonates true intentions. But the few that have stomped my toes have spent a lifetime trying to forget that beast coming out

[@karinteeples6517]

A lot of infjs that have had childhood trauma relate to Borderline Personality Disorder, and that’s the manipulative part of the personality. If we haven’t dealt with our brokenness, we can be very toxic ourselves.

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

Reply back to this comment so I know you will read what to what else I want to say.

[@sakenne]

I had to dim my light from very early in my life due to a very narcissistic mother (a very unhealthy ENTP), so I'm one of those who are considered extremely dangerous. The INTJ I'm in a situationship with says that I'm different than him because I say what I mean to say with a very cold mind and aiming to hurt, instead of just venting out like he does... That's why I'm super careful with my words, someone's weak points are crystal clear to me. I'd rather shut up and let my bad feelings dissolve instead of just lashing out and ripping someone to shreds. Great video, you're awesome!

[@sirphil13]

oh, but the ENTPs are like Satan (devil advocates) to Jesus (INFJ - God's advocates), they help us spiritually grow, expand out our comfort zone, and give us tons of sigma points. Plus, a mature INFJ can easily manage them, because we are charmed by their attention span of a 6month old golden retriever puppy, mischievous and innocent that keeps is in the present moments (as opposed to being mostly in the past introspecting or in the future planning...they help ground the INFJs). And the female ENTPs are ultra-sexy (due to their mind) tom-boys that can turn on their feminine charms easily towards the INFJ males (because we are safe to them).

[@nicky9148]

@@sirphil13 I said my final goodbyes to an addictionship with a narciccistic entp! Let me say this..I went through all the stage..but I do have to say this evil bird showed me what I do & don't want in a relationship..I am stronger than I ever thought I could be..I have had a spiritual awakening like I never knew was even possible..& I have the most beautiful soul in our son...for all that I am truly blessed!

[@BrainPill]

What INFJ need to be happy. Please watch and comment if you are able to relate. kzbin.info/www/bejne/n2O9k2irpr-Gnbc

[@abetteryou4228]

@@nicky9148 wow that is amazing -Infj I hope all the best for you and you child 🙂

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

I would venture to say that you are INFJ BECAUSE your mother is a narc.

[@AnonymousBosch3158]

My mother always said that I always hit exactly where it hurts.

[@sting0103]

If someone makes me angry I smile and walk away nothing upsets them more, I don't let this person get to me. If the person is a manager and an Alpha I destroy their ego and show them how wrong they are crossing swords with me this has made me a lot of money people underestimate me. If it's someone humiliating me I use my strengths as an INFJ/Sigma and fight back that breaks their confidence, ego, their masculine or feminine side but whoever they are I give them a chance to apologize, I don't like trauma and conflicts it takes a lot out of me.

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

Let me know if you would actually read the comment I will reply back to you with. I don’t want to write a paragraph or something for no reason.

[@wren23_bass-synths]

This is exactly how I am. Even though I project a calm and peaceful demeanor, I've been told many times that I'm to intense for them. I guess I don't let just anyone's energy affect me and don't really put their energy back.

[@rooramblingon895]

I know how personally devastating I can be to those who cross me. It scares me.... But after 50 years of being taken for granted, I cannot say I do not like it. I should have realized many years ago that I was never a carpet...maybe my life would have been better if I had not appeared so weak!

[@debrasullivan7479]

Perhaps your life would have been better but those experiences have led you here on a path of self discovery and betterment of humanity! Embrace the "bad" and realize it's value. You will no longer see it as bad and inturn your vibration will soar to bliss!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@danielaokoroafor641]

You no weak you are so strong ❤️

[@Jewelsquiss]

I love what you are saying! BUT if I start out expanding myself, which I am very good at, people think I'm extroverted. Then people are disappointed with and don't understand that I need to be alone to recharge or that I like and prefer to be alone. Their Feelings are hurt when they want me to socialize and I won't. I hurt people no matter what I do.

[@GG-rk1bu]

I guess we have to be ok with hurting people, so that we can like ourselves.

[@EmunahFL]

I've had to tell a co-worker once, "Don't mistake my niceness, my patience, my good nature for weakness. You try me again, and "gentle" is *NOT* what you're going to remember about me." The more I said this, the more rage was growing inside me (because I had just _had it_ at that point), and I growled through gritted teeth, my head lowered, but my gaze fixed upward in that scowl that evil people get, "This is a warning. Don't try me." They were like 👀 and never tried me again. While I can be all the good things about an INFJ, I can also be downright narcissistic in my defense and protection of myself. I'm not truly narcissistic; I want others to win, too. But damn it, don't cross me.

[@cheyanne919]

Same.☺

[@chamham6734]

Yeah, she has a video on how to deal with infj rage! We ALL need to watch that!

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

Do you reply, because I would like to talk to you about something.

[@kenc439]

We are dangerous because of the quick wit and sharp tongues that we can and will use to shred our enemies.

[@annap-g2184]

Brilliantly analyzed Wenzes 🙌🏼 I remember that when I was a teenager and tried to speak my truth to adults, they acted extremely disturbed, were hiding, feeling extremely sorry for themselves and looked so weak… and I think that I unconsciously became scared that I can destroy people psychologically with my words, so I kept my thoughts for myself, feeling like my words could almost kill… very disturbing. Now I understand that those adults were extremely fragile and that they probably exaggerated their pain to make me feel guilty and back off. I have the right to show people my boundaries and if that hurts them, they have to face it…

[@DearStephanieX]

So true, I feel the same. 🙏🏽

[@Womenswell022]

As a child I attacked my grand-aunt. She was taken aback. I was 10 years old. My mother was not at the conversation to wink at me. So dished her a good meal. I have a feeling she never forgave me...

[@vickiv.v.615]

Occasionally, someone will mistake my tolerance for weakness and will repeatedly step over the line. At a certain point, I will correct them with precision and truth, and then they become inconsequential.

[@trinityflow]

Great insight! Be not wise in your own eyes. Be aware of your thoughts before you speak. Be direct… Not aggressive, not passive, not passive aggressive.

[@RhondaTaffet-wz9ni]

I will never let anyone come in my home when I am so hospitable and giving. If a man or a girlfriend become disrespectful, I ask them to take the same door you came in go out:🎉

[@sandeepk3001]

"We are actually afraid of power so often because of what we can cause and other people, how we can make them feel" Can't explain my feelings (like being relieved) when I heard this I almost broke down in tears, that FINALLY!!! somebody understands this!!!!

[@madisong5276]

I always warn close friends about the door slam possibly, give several warnings, and give a lot of warnings.. but I have to say when i reach the point of surgically removing a cancer, it feels incredible. A lot of hard emotions to process, maybe it’s ego but I love walking away from toxic people I deserving of my loyalty

[@briettasonlen1208]

LOL. I had someone in my life that told me I kept burning bridges. I tried to explain the INFJ door slam. Their ears covered (I'm talking literally) saying NaNaNaNa I can't hear you. It truly gets exhausting, doesn't it? We be rare :)

[@DishonestTrack6]

When I am myself from the start people are fearful of me and think I'm too good to be true.

[@JoyceHMoore]

You so far, out of all the other people or automated voices that I have listened to have totally hit the BULLSEYE in explaining this personality truth. I have finally awakened to the truth and meaning of my INFJ trait and that it is a God-given gift. God has truly endowed you with the knowledge to have explained this trait in this video with clear articulate understanding and I understood all of what you spoke. Thank you!

[@lowellmiller6663]

There is an expectation of how much you should trust people. With my intuition I pick up early on if people are trustworthy or not and so I dim my light sometimes because I feel unsafe around people. They feel me pulling back and judge me for that.

[@jadalauren6171]

Felt

[@pamela5250]

Yup

[@egobuilders415]

Yeah it's true. I can be fuming furious and no one would even know it. I'm a very gentle, kind person, but it's really not a good idea to piss me off.

[@blove2023]

I'm an INFJ. I'm expanded. I'm not lonely. I'm very happy and content. I'm Happily married. My mamma loves me. God loves me. My boundaries are in place. This is who I am So take it or leave it. Lol.

[@lowellmiller6663]

In order to survive in my Social Circle growing up my authentic self was not accepted at all. The more I tried to be authentic the more abuse I got. I grew up in a religious environment were nothing less than complete worship and obedience was tolerated from those in authority. As a kid I was afraid I could get killed if I didn't obey.

[@user-nt4ls7ri7o]

Aww.. I hope you're doing well. It must be really hard for you, right? Being yourself, is a battle we constantly take with ourselves and society💥🤕, and we're still fighting, it may seem simple to other people, but it's extremely hard for others especially who gets caged because of factors such as societies, traditions, religions, and others.😞💦 However, we have to stay strong and fight and never give up on being ourselves👊😾! Being yourself is one step towards happiness and a satisfying healthy life. Once you accept yourself and loves it, you'll eventually find the people who'll accept the real you and your thoughts and ideas! I hope my words encourage you even little bit and I wish you happiness 🥺♥️

[@karinteeples6517]

It’s still not really accepted at 50 and I still taper down in my friendships as it might be too intense for them. 🤔

[@mermaidmarina86]

I call it "emotional evisceration". We can only put so much energy into hiding our dark side for so long and when you reach that goalpost, well, it was nice knowing you. Thanks for the memories.

[@senrabetrollin]

Yup the "My genius, almost frightens me" Highly resonates with me

[@northwestprepping7315]

i spent over a decade in the army, as an INFJ, it benefited me, greatly

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

Tell me how, I want to know.

[@SxiiJXii]

I can typically read an agenda or I can tell when someone has an emotional shift. I can almost instantly see when someone goes from one emotion to the next. The problem is I'm either pulled back so far that I just end up feeling numb and don't know what to say; or I feel all of what they are feeling and just end up being awkward. There are times I can fully be myself but it takes meditation and good health to keep up.

[@ayo1232]

Every sentence you echo resonates with me so much. Thank you for your words

[@BrainPill]

What INFJ Must Need to be Happy. Please watch and comment if you are able to relate. kzbin.info/www/bejne/n2O9k2irpr-Gnbc

[@costoncr]

The way I’ve chosen to work around this .. is giving the boundaries up front.. You can be You as long as it does not disrupt Who I Am… it’s a win win

[@KM-ov9wb]

I think this one right here is the most AHA eye opening video you've done, at least for me. This is something I have never been able to put into words. This makes so much sense, thank you!! I have definitely been in the dangerous zone all my life, being afraid of my strength and afraid of being too much for others so constantly people pleasing and then it backfires for everyone.

[@sukhbir6246]

K M - agree my feelings too regarding video.

[@MegaCyberleader]

And I thought I was exploding but in fact I was transistioning to my true self. Thank you sooo much for this understanding. All my rage is gone and everything you have said is in fact in play. Everybody in the house seems sooo much happier, now that they know. Now that "I" know. The powa is very very intoxicating, and I got drunk within my rage. :( I dont like being drunk.

[@Wolfighter1]

its hard to believe that there are so many people having this very same experience . this is so awsome . thank you.

[@lilydarling4215]

Thank you! When I had to break up with my bf this year it was impossible not to deeply hurt him with the truth,so I yelled abuse all day about the house we shared with his best friends and and that I can’t take them anymore,and did a ‘door slam’ on the house and the live style,but not him specifically! He was too traumatized anyways,because he totally didn’t understand Anything,where did it all come from,we seem to work so well together! Yeah,dummy,if I swallow my entire personality and potential,and act like a companion dog,sure! 😳🤦‍♀️

[@HappilyAnonymousGirl]

You know how to explain things really well. It felt like I was hearing my thoughts and past situations being explained through this entire video. I was told once that my words cut really deep, after I had been pushed to the breaking point and decided to "hit" back. I agree that we are extremely dangerous, and I think it really is because we hold back and allow people to underestimate us. I never realized I was doing that as a way to protect myself, but it makes a lot of sense after hearing you explain it. Now I actually know what's going on and why I've been doing that my whole life.

[@SegoMan]

I think in part it's set back and let them hang themselves, we're just the hangman that installs the neck tie.

[@kristinbolinder5955]

Lately I show who I am from the beginning and it seems like all I'm attracting is the narcs. I don't really worry about it because at least I'm not wasting time with toxicity.

[@jasperstone7413]

Why is it that I am always the most dangerous one when I am just protecting myself from you?

[@TroyPosey]

Great video Wenzes! Absolutely we can be dangerous, I was for a LONG time (majority of my life life), and if we go through life without learning how to harness this, we can become extremely toxic individuals (like I used to be). Between discovering my twin flame several years ago, and in finding her made me want to change myself for the better... And then finding your channel, and learning so much more about who I am (an INFJ Sigma-Alpha male), and learning from your videos on why I do certain things and how to either correct/consciously know how to adapt that and use it for a positive and to my advantage, and no longer as a negative, has entirely changed my life for good. Thank you Wenzes! ❤️

[@onecoolcat2478]

I have no problem cutting people out of my life. I am fiercely loyal....but once I see that you will hurt me and my friends....God help you

[@remygallardo7364]

It is particularly interesting watching your videos as an INFJ autistic individual. I have to limit my social circle and life significantly in order to manage the emotional sensory input to a level that allows me to function in everyday life but I've found that a major amount of the emotional trauma I built up over time has been because of the social pressure to internalize emotional experiences and denying yourself the right to experience them externally, especially for men but the general sense is more than enough to get the point across. I can say that I always have a strong emotional read on people and that being autistic has made it a much more contentious life because it took years for me to understand that people don't like their internal worlds exposed so easily, even just between the two of us, let alone accidentally in a group setting. Conversely I relish the idea of living my internal world externally and contributes in no small part to my deep creativity and desire to entertain and create art to share with others. I liken it to everyone having a black hole in them that they want to keep invisible while I'm a supernova hidden in the blackness of space that you can't see unless you know exactly where to focus the satellite.

[@twobeagles1365]

Kindness knocks them out, Subtle words and phrases Destroys them, Must be careful on what is spoken when it is spoken, Sometimes better not to interact with the Good, the Bad or the Ugly, keeps them puzzled and confused. Sit back and watch the show ! Interestingly enough, to see people project negative energy towards Me, only to shield it and see it return to them in some way!! Best reaction sometimes is no reaction at all...

[@briangreen8033]

"One must be aware of, grapple with, and ultimately integrate the monster (Shadow) within, not only to aquire self-respect, but to be truly virtuous to begin with." - Jordan B Peterson (Paraphrased)

[@solomonkudus6747]

Narcissist think am afraid of them but actually that's not true fear nothing but my own anger ..

[@moniquelemaire5333]

I work part time in a department store as a Front End Supervisor. I really didn't want to take this job, but that what I could find after the Plandemic. At one point I walked in to work with my cane. Occasionally due to my having MECFS , I need to use a cane. One of the so called managers said to me: "you can't have that thing (the cane) in here" (the Front End of the store). Within the next day or so I write up a report of what happened and gave a copy to the HR department of the company itself. In it, I mentioned that once that so called manager said what she said, she not only broke a rule within the company, but also the Federal law concerning disabled people. Guess what???!!! She has been extremely nice to me ever since then. There have been other instances of other of the managers saying completely inappropriate things, and each time I point out the store policy or a state or federal law. The managers don't like me, but the other employees do!!!! Not exactly a door slam, but close enough!!! Yes, people either like me or can't stand me!!! Oh, well 😥😅😥😅. Miss Monique 🙂🌷🙏💗

[@jenniferarnold-delgado3489]

This is amazing , mirror energy is something that I love and am fascinated with in mathematics - the flow that goes between the two sides of the river is faster smoother and clearer and brings fresh water into the situation faster than when the two sides of the river do not mirror each other . Very very lovely work . Your work is really perfectly clear and so good . Amazing for me at age 60 to see these videos . Thank you for doing this work and creating these videos .

[@Tomken8d2]

INFJ's see to the heart of things. We also have empathic and psychic abilities. We WILL use our insights to defend ourselves if we must.

[@StephenJackson1958]

I've known for a little while that I was an INFJ-T but only this weekend have I come out as a Sigma (I'm a writer...by the way). Your work on KZbin is without parallel - and so wise! Thank you, thank you for giving me power, self-insight... and yes, pride ☺️

[@Peaceforall20111]

I have so many times had to hold myself back from saying that thing I know will hurt them. I have known this fear but I now understand myself better and k ow how to control it

[@lanilani3601]

I’ve overcompensated this very hurtful trait by intentionally practicing the power of a kind and graceful dismissal . Instead of hitting them where it hurts I just say we have differences in personal principles and that I respect their point of view in their unique walk of life, but then say that it goes against mine . The result has been amazing because I gain a level of respect that I didn’t know what possible . Infjs turn out to be quite similar to what is described as a flame star in relation to narcissists. We are people who are kind , highly aware , and when someone crosses out last straw , we have been observing truths and gathering so much heat that we can come out with a fiery punch that goes straight to the gut . I have learned to live being an INFJ , despite how lonely it can be. We are more than enough if we lean into our own company :)

[@madebywade85]

Great advice!

[@mariagordanier3404]

Hell to the yes!!

[@xenarafique8871]

Thank you for sharing ❤

[@martcichocki5571]

Bravo, very accurate, illuminating, helpful ! Great presentation!

[@longtailgt]

I can absolutely attest to the "hitting them where it hurts" thing, as I have done that, unknowingly (and sometimes knowingly), quite a few times and now that I look back at it, it definitely had an effect on the conversation. There was one time recently where I did that and the other person immediately got defensive and the topic of the conversation was changed. It's something that certainly needs to be worked on because it can really mess people up if done with bad intention.

[@aquariusstar7248]

I love you, Wenzes!😘 As i watch yr videos more and more, it becomes clearer and clearer how I have been undermining myself, self-sabotaging my dreams and basically trying to live out fantasies and fulfill ideals that work against me!

[@HanonSama]

I started showing my true self after a series of still ongoing reality shifts and betrayals by so called family members after the main person who raised me passed. I learned who these so called family members really were during the time she was sick and passed, and these people learned my boundaries and who I really am. The most accurate part of this video is people being intimidated by you because they're not able to influence your world view, so in response they themselves pull back. The worst part of this is being labeled a villain or problematic during this, however, my moral compass has been violated so much in the past year by so many people, everything feels like a threat to everything I stand for and live for, and likewise everything that I stand for is somehow or another being attacked, which is a true threat to an INFJ, as the advocate, we strongly stick to our morals more than anything. So I'm sure all my fellow INFJs will understand how what I'm going through is being attacked fundamentally as a being, feels like soul murder.

[@malibubliss8153]

OMG… so afraid to hurt when I accept to be hurt myself, thinking I’m “too dangerous” to retaliate… But I’m tired to fear myself… Yesss “Danger is power if use wisely” 🙏🏾 Yes!!!

[@mir-jan3496]

Sometimes I am like a volcano,I can cause big damage,or I try to spuwe slowly my lava.

[@stephenfegely]

I feel expansive like the universe right now, Wenzes 💥

[@PeachyKins]

That's cool. Unfortunately, it most likely just the planets ("right now"). Lol, it's pretty funny to observe ppl, when the energy is like this-- it's another great way of testing people; How they choose to channel the energy. Learning astrology is like learning any foreign language. You already have the ideas, concepts, and experiences of your life within you; you are just learning a new language for what you are already experiencing. - Barbara Goldsmith

[@ban5geverywhere]

This video made me cry. You nailed it and I've never heard somebody explain so deeply how I feel that I've kept hidden

[@Sgtspicey01]

I just learned I am an INFJ....and a Libra...I have no idea how to understand my dark side

[@johncoaleii1423]

I know everything about everyone and everything around me. I am very cool, calm, friendly and understanding. However if you disregard my boundaries and push. I will dig in and I will summon the monster inside. I can dismantle anyone including what they've never told me. There's been a couple instances I regret but most I don't. It rarely happens any longer as I've matured and grown. Most people I can smirk and glance up looking into their soul. At that moment they understand they are not messing with a regular model. I have the ability to peer into your inner child and when my eyes glaze they know I've seen everything they've kept secret. I can also build the world around me and motivate them to greatness. I've had people tell me the energy I possess and can release is surreal and frightening. At the same time those close to me carrying similar core beliefs proclaim it is amazing and the connection we share is unrivalled. I'm quality over quantity for sure. It has taken a long time to understand what I internalized and held within. Those things that anchored me were repeating in my mind that cannot cease or slow. I buried my demons about a decade ago and the success and life I've built is phenomenal and worth giving gratitude for daily. I am private and do my own thing. I find I'm happiest removed from toxicity and happiest attached to the land raising my children. With age I've become tremendously spiritual and I hold my peace n tranquility dearly. If you rattle my cage I have little time for tolerance. Most I can clip before it's even possible. If I allow you to pass go and you fail stage 2 I don't always shut the door but I let you know I'm not the one and I explain how I know or what you've done. If you pursue round 2 or 3 I shut the door. If we're established I'll do anything for my people but if they manipulate or show disloyalty you are dead or I'll double down dig in and crush your soul like a gummy bear. Most it only requires a .22 I always keep the .308 ready 😂

[@heatherdale5571]

Legitimately NOONE has laid it out like this, or even come 1/10th close to anything you’ve said here…you’re speaking my truth here 1000000%. Not sure what else to say except…Thank You. I thought there was something wrong with me…but now I know I’m not alone, it’s just hard to find others like me. And that’s okay.

[@aidasark3771]

It’s amazing I’ve been in that transition period the last few years and now I am finally creating my own life. I hated how badly I could cut people and decided to start being me took back all my energy. My friends are still processing and digesting I think but I’ve never felt more peaceful and honest

[@juliehofer1940]

I seem to always dim my light. I am a hairdresser and I always try to pull myself back and let the other stylist shine.

[@helenharch447]

Unbelieveably good content! I'm pretty good at this on the whole. It's guts plus grace in the moment but often people come back around further down the track and let me know how my stance impacted them. It's almost always positive, (except for the narc - but I don't lose sleep over him). 🙂😎

[@DivaEagle77]

Wow. You just explained my whole existence. I’m speechless. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@gayatrimatapurkar933]

Brilliant accurate and deep revelations..thanks.

[@teastrainer3604]

If you mistreat me, and I can find a way to punish you for it, I will.

[@earthangel6503]

People (mostly family) have historically be able to get away with bad behaviour towards me. I know I am capable of blasting them which usually ends up painting me as the villain. If I notice new people in my life being manipulative or trying to take advantage of me, they don't get a chance to take it too far before they get the door slam. I have to be careful though as if I speak up too much, I won't have any of them. The threat of losing them all keeps me in a shrunken state.

[@debrasullivan7479]

The fear of losing everyone is based on the reality that we will lose everyone in this life. Work on transforming that fear into knowing this is a law of living and love them everyday to the best of your ability celebrating the fact that they here right now and enjoy them without that fear. What a gift to give your loved ones and yourself😊❤️ Much love 💕

[@mariagordanier3404]

@@debrasullivan7479 WooHoo! Good advice.

[@ban5geverywhere]

I try explaining to people I'm like Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting when he was attacked verbally by someone he would rip them apart with words and hit their weaknesses

[@MS-ns4ki]

The biggest mistake that you can make is being rude to me. Because after that, I am going to be very frank with you and tell you the truth. You can’t handle that🍒

[@bymysense3861]

Uuuuh you are sooo good. I can feel the power of me! 😁

[@williammedford5891]

I have learned that I have the ability, verbally, to singe peoples' eyebrows with my targeted utterances. Most of the time, I just keep it nice and gentle.

[@bcfortenberry]

I hurt a lot of people when I was younger. I didn’t understand what I was doing, but I could intuit exactly how to hurt them. I now limit my interactions with others and try to be mindful of how “scorched earth” things get when the blowtorch gets lit.

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

It’s not some power.

[@jldormido3029]

I fully agree with this!!! This is truly me!!!

[@t.f.6297]

This is so true, because most people that are narcs have deep trauma, especially around abandonment. So when an INFJ shuts the door because they have had enough - these types of people lose their minds. They become obsessed with the INFJ because the INFJ has taken away their energy supply. It's crazy as I have experienced it several times. I can literally feel deep love with someone's personality and feed their energy supply for weeks, but when I'm done it's like a light has switch has been turned off and I literally go emotionally cold. It's like I can totally walk away like nothing ever happened. Once you understand your power you really can use it to your benefit because people let their guards down so easily around an INFJ.

[@kellyanng2215]

And when we do stand our ground, how many of us feel vindicated like we are standing up for all of humanity? ✋🏻

[@Xenotork]

When I was 10, I had made a comment to a good family friend about the way she was being too hands on with her kid. Later my mom told me that she came to her in tears, discussing what had transpired with me. I didn't even mean to do that, it just came out that way.

[@deltaradiance9034]

I can't expand myself from the start because that is not my strength. I like being behind the scenes, I enjoy the behind the scene vibe and I have noticed that people who feel a certain way when I expand are usually people with narcissistic tendencies. Other people are fine in fact they appreciate me surprising them. I don't need a lot of people around me either so the few that get it are the ones I'm happy with.

[@verntoews6937]

Our most dangerous attribute is the subtle way we can control the emotional barometer in others

[@pixelqube3274]

I have attempted to always be myself at all times as an INFJ and INFP. I also have anxiety disorder and ADHD. Saying that no one can hurt me cause im always open and non one would want to. Yea. My life is filled with people who know and do it anyway. I agree that we are good at striking where it hurts because we know about you. We care. What happens to people who care enough to know you deeply and you piss them off? You are now the target of someone who know you the best. Great video.

[@arielletucker6560]

I feel like a perfect example of what you’re talking about in being purely yourself and allowing your light to shine is Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter. The narrator even talks about how her blunt honesty and understanding of other’s emotions makes Harry and other characters uncomfortable at times. And when they visit her home, she has this huge painting of all of her friends on her bedroom ceiling, showing her deep love and care for them.

[@DD-kr1sn]

Wow!!! The accuracy!!!🤯

[@enjoypennsylvania9515]

Thank you! I recently found your content...every video creates a “Lightbulb Moment” for me.

[@cancerlight7842]

This makes so much sense. The mirror thing. Ive noticed that people i date have strange reactions to me. If im putting up a front things are fine but then im " mysterious" or hiding something and they want me to open up. When ive been open from the start they find it too much. i definitely bring something out in them that they dont like, like their demons are confronting them or something. If they have pushed it all down it comes out and i see that they arent stable. It puts me off. This tends to be a cycle. And other people are weary of me even though im nice to everyone lol. Its an odd one

[@tamannatazz5800]

Same

[@FantogemeStudios]

I like having that INFJ super power to hit people where it hurts to some extent.. but I treat it as a sword that should never be drawn unless you mean to draw blood. Samurai honor or something, idk. Fortunately I'm rarely in a position where I ever feel the need to use it.. and if there's trouble I try to resolve things peacefully.. or if I'm in a position where I'm too fired up, get someone to mediate so I don't accidently go into war mode. Kind of more in line with work place issues in that situation. And I work with some pretty stupid people that think everything is a joke.. ya know, orientation, race etc. Feels like I'm working in a Call of Duty lobby sometimes. Piss me off soo much. Fortunately, since I've always been the straight faced silent stick in the mud "all business serious type" that doesn't ever talk, they're mostly too scared to even say anything to me. This is for their own protection XD .. cuz if they ever got to know me for who I was, it would be a disaster. Their feeble brains could not fathom me unmasked, and it would be a waste on my own energy. At the end of the day I just want to do my job, get paid and go home.. and one day leave for better pastures once my escape plan yields fruit. I'm totally not afraid to let people die at my gates. If I don't like you, you ain't gettin in. "I can give you nothing, and you can like it." To live like an INFJ, is to live like a Dragon in human skin. No one knows you can see and smell their soul.. no one suspects you can weight it in the palm of your hand. And at any moment, you can transform and breathe fire on their ass if they piss you off.

[@pomegranateseedling5592]

Why do I get so mad at other people when they think they have some sort of power? It gets me all fired up for no reason.

[@sagebay2803]

This video was SOO helpful. Thank you very much.

[@JoyceHMoore]

You'd better say that! Just your opening statement right there, that's all you had to say. ALL TRUE!

[@Vyjayanthi41]

I love this video. We have a lot of information about others with out actual evidence but it is so accurate . Yet we choose not to believe our Ni until they hurt us and corner us to a point where we have no option but to give it back. And we are strategic , not at all impulsive , so it is never an outburst. We try to be non violent till the end. And we don't stop if they hurt someone vulnerable or fragile , and who trusted us.

[@ACNelson-officialchannel]

The information here is just as good, if not better, than any therapy I have used. This is amazing, and made me feel so much better! Kudos! ❤

[@brennadickinson3562]

I've never enjoyed the catalytic effect I can have on people. This can happen when I demonstrate ideas beyond the norm. Not everyone can handle sudden shifts in their worldview. I really try to remain aware that it is not my job to create interference or upheaval in other peoples lives. I try to remain supportive rather than prescriptive. Everyone has a right to their own choices.

[@hamzayusuf333]

It’s a natural defence mechanism we know how to stand our ground

[@Kima-e1b]

My manager was a toxic man, until he met me, now he is a decent human being, around me anyways! To be able to be a lamb I have to be a lion!

[@sophiegilbert6381]

Oh yes, so true. Thank you for explaining it.