Thank you for your channel. I just found you and your videos, but I feel as though I've known you for a long time. What I see of your journey resonates with me deeply. It is wonderful to find someone who " gets it ". I'm beginning to understand the difference between fitting in and belonging. Thank you.

Oh, my goodness. Thank you so much. #2 is a gem. I now can look at my [short term] X narcissist as a hobby. I think I'll think about that! Frankly, the whole list is great.

For infj's it is a strange phenomenon; pedestalising and unpedestalising again. Hey i know a song to accompany this movement

And unless the parents have cleared their inner closet from certain imprints the baby is being written consciously or unconsciously because of it. So that is why the narcissistic epidemic/ pandemic has been able to grow to this extent on global scale. Well this is my opinion so i had to adress it Marissa. But thank you for your Contribution to the Collective!

Some babies do get born with programming by how the mother felt during the pregnancy, in herself due to any kind of cortisol heightening experience, especially when it is traumatic. and also addiction by the parents may have an effect on the baby. Not always but sometimes it does. So Marissa Peer, i do respect your Contribution to the Collective but i must adress that saying a baby is blank/ unwritten perse is incorrect.

Before I became aware that I was an INFJ, personal conduct, business / professional management conduct was situated in three stages. Stage one - With reasonable people I would reason. Stage two - With humane people I would plead. Stage three - Tyrants get the axe. Seeing now the INFJ 5 stages of Rage, I now understand my conduct. I usually give people every opportunity to fail me. They then experience BEYOND the Door-Slam. AND are subject to it WITHOUT ANY EXCUSES. And I am at peace with that protocol.

In the INFJ world, you are a legend Wenzes, so happy you are back. Your content is the air we need to breathe.

These are not types of people but traits of people

Karate helps with those bullies. Trust me you need to learn self defence growing up.

Thankyou! This is me all the way!

I hate social climbers.

So very much of what youve said n your videos resonates with me n such huge ways, I was never taught to value myself I always chose everyone else's betterment over my own n I've only learned recently and through your stuff how badly I was hurting myself and my ability to help others. Thankyou for your insights and what you do

I’m actually the opposite. I don’t go deep fast cuz I find it awkward. I might think certain things but I would never tell the other person from not freaking them out. But I find that people go deep with me fast. It’s uncomfortable for me and I try to shift the conversations to something lighter and casual.

I hate confrontations but people are so f-ing dumb and selfish a lot of the times that you can’t keep avoiding confrontations.

I only keep quiet and not say anything when I have to live with that person, to keep the peace in the house. It’s been like that my whole life. I’m so happy I don’t have to deal with that family member anymore.

Thank you, this video has turned my life around

Thanks

I work on a team of technical writers. Out of 11 of us, 5 are INFJs. 😅 which about 50x the expected number.

I usually gravitate towards, genuine, mature, humble exceptional people. usually the artists. Though, ENTP tomboys are my favorites, their energy is like the sun to my moon, the only extroverts that I like to absorb and reflect back outwardly, and when the moon disappears from the sky periodically, they don't seem to get butt-hurt that I need my alone time from time to time.

True.

This was so helpful. I recently experienced this and can resonate with everything you said. Thanks for saving us <3.

Danke!

Thank you for this. I got stuck by losing my mom during the lockdown. The world turned into a lucid dream. Observing it like tv, forced to participate (eat,shower) by my husband. Went out damage, pulled a bully boss into my life. Back I go into my loop. Better today. It gets better.🌻

Thank you for making these videos Wenze . My take away from this video is that I should not participate or take responsibility for any event . I remember in my office I was asked to make something for decoration out of my own creativity . I was so exhilarated that even though I was so tired and reached home late from work . I just started making the stuff and then only I had my dinner . The next day I was so excited to show it to my manager but my mood went down the hill . I was mocked and whatever I made with my time , energy n money got into the trash can . Will never take any such responsibility from now onwards 😅 .

Wenzes has such pretty eyes 😮

It takes an ego to decide if someone else's should be destroyed , just a fortune cookie for ya

Sign 4: Damn. That's why I can't let myself retire.

What's the suicide rate for INFJs?

Just learnt that I'm an INFJ . Been single for more than 12 years , no friends n black sheep 🐏 of the family 😢 .

i always have to check the post date of your videos. BC it must be of something i posted recently about this exact experience... turns out infj is a predictable ras... weird almost unexaptable to contain

we are a magnet for narcissists, they love how we make them feel admired and infjs love the power of being able to pull this rug out from under them like no other... one of the real joys of our lives

we only make em better for the next one and we know it from the start... its sad that we have so much compassion, also knowing we'll be the ones who always be left out in the cold... guess its our mission than 🎗

were not negative.. were realistical.. we dont like to live in the delusional "lifes always a beach" fantasy. we dont wanna be struck with reality later lol. i get why this looks negative. we are also self aware. we just want infjs to come back to planet earth

I have suffered slings and arrows my whole life. So going it alone aint nothin new to me. The world has not come knocking on my door and has very sparingly acknowleged me. In that i have continued on out of a love for the craft and intellectual process of articulating my perceptions. My temporal achivement has and is to clearly and concisely use all my knowledge and skills to articulate the point of light at the intersection of duality. What i can say is that my language and perceptions are being repeated through out the conversational lexicon. However as of late i have been disrespected once again where the biblical parable of Abraham came to mind where God asked him to sacrafice the thing he loved the most. With that i withdraw my gift and take back the power of insight by becoming silent.

And may they realize how much we can mess them up and be ruthless.

As I say a lot now, "I don't do pretend. "

Thanks. We don't need a boot camp, we just need to tap into our powers. And you're teaching us a lot, as are many others.

I definitely do not want to live anymore but it’s such a brutal conflict because I feel so blessed to be who I am but all the downsides just make it impossible to live as an INFJ, the things I want like a relationship, stability to be seen etc.. just seem impossible and I can’t see a way without them or a way to accept that’s the way it is, I definitely don’t see this life worth living, the only reason I’m alive is because suicide is hard to commit too.

Thank you. Your videos and advices are very important to me. 🙏❤

No one ever hurt me physically but the thing is if we are in a group they always pick on me. If they want to laugh on something. What am i ???? Sometimes i think the problem is in me because i can't be a rude person like them

🙏 so much . Just learned I am an INFJ (via MBTI testing) just a few days ago. I thought "no way... that just can't be!!!" But I have been through intense research mode since the test and now have come to a state of acceptance in that all that the pieces seem to fit. Thankfully have found - and watched in amazement - many of your videos. This is just the start of this eye-opening, awareness journey I have embarked on. Have your posters now. Getting your book next. Have so much gratitude that you are here! ps: Now in hermit mode for 4 years..basically since the onset of the pandemic and hopefully on the precipice of climbing out of this mode. I'm now exhausted of being in it.

Being disconnected from my vision and lost and have no clarity

Happy holidays God bless us all.

4:46 nunca me senti tão compreendida 🥺❤️

Thank You, for all your doing. I developed the ability to sense others in a way that I use it in therapy. I sense what is going on in cl body and I use my intuition to see deeper what is beyond or created it. In the beginning I felt lost, now I love it and can combine both. Still a bit anxious to show my capabilities

I'm INFP and I relate to all of the points except the first one and a bit for the second. For the first one, while its annoying when people think that I'm incompentent, I would just accept it as a push to do better. I fumble a lot and I get why people would doubt my skill. On the other hand, if other told me I'm immoral, it would cause me a meltdown. I always strive to be a good person in any situation, it is my core value, so it's gonna sting if my actions are viewed as immoral. One time someone close to me said I lack empathy, it caused me to question my entire being lol. For the second one, I do want to understand a lot of stuff but it's often not in order to see the big picture, instead it's usually out of curiosity. I'd stuck with people, whom I preconceived as bad, and try to understand them just to see where would this go. I have some of my most wholesome friendships because I overlooked bad feeling I have about these friends. Plus, there's this feeling of satisfaction after understanding something. Sorry for the long comment, hehe. I just find it interesting how INFJ and INFP can act similarly through different thought processes.

You are such a unique and beautiful wise soul #queen

Oh girl, I had what an experience, sang my heart and when ignored I showed em up but w kindness so I didn't look bitter. It was a beautiful bomb. I know they then realized I won their game.🏆 How? I rose and blew past all of them career money wise- which is way too important to them, and look way better too while kindly explaining how I couldn't stay w them becuz they let me down but I know it's becuz the truly do have issues when it comes to loving others due to bad abuse as kids. Never did I try to hurt but I leveled up and past up when they let me down we always win!

The problem I always run into is thaty self awareness and honesty scares people though. They have trouble being honest with themselves and here I am living an authentic life instead of rwlying on make believe and creating a fictional persona.

I'm not a witch, stupid behaviors in people. 😂sometimes I wish I was a witch, a wicked witch too.😂😂😂👀