Why Is Everyone So Bad At Giving Gifts?

[@jasminflores6935]

I don't like watching people unwrap the gifts I give them. I feel like "thank yous" are awkward, and if they're alone opening my gift, they won't feel pressured to fake any emotions just to please me. When they're alone, they can express disgust or delight in their own privacy with freedom, sharing a moment with the gift itself. I also give them the gift's receipt along with the item, just in case they wish the return it in exchange for cash.

[@user-kvb023]

Then why just give money in a nice wrapper and a card wrapped in 10 layers of paper?

[@nabukuma]

Who doesn’t want a trash can as a present?

[@starburst9053]

Moo Moo I want one!!

[@user-kvb023]

Getting a new black large wastebasket for the new year from a loved one is every child's dream! After all, they can hide in it from their parents who gave it to them!

[@peachmilk2695]

We did Secret Santa a few years ago, and all the girls got nice perfumes and shit (girls had girls and boys had boys) while I got a fucking notebook for a six year old.

[@johnaio]

Women don't give good gifts to men because they're too busy thinking about themselves and have no time to really consider men. Yet, they want the best.

[@user-zh7th2ge1c]

@@johnaio ew. What a bleak view.

[@jellybean9319]

Ahh gifts are hit or miss...especially at Christmas. I always send gift receipt in envelope so can be taken back quietly

[@sancho7863]

I’m the type of guy who would get a vacuum for my wife. I actually did that. It was one one those $700 miele vacuums from germany. She loved it

[@wackolantern4786]

wat a legend

[@guardianofthegalaxy6902]

I've never seen anyone trying to give away unwanted cash they got for holiday

[@machematix]

I'm sorry but those are AWESOME sweaters

[@ThomasJamesBeauchene]

Nathan B love the sweaters

[@jellybean9319]

He he he 😆

[@s50201]

By nature, occasion gifts are forced consumption, not need-based. I buy my family stuff only when there're things I know they need or want. Otherwise, small gift card / card, or nothing.

[@guavayt203]

s50201 that sounds like a boring Christmas, all there friends are getting cool stuff and your kids get a small gift card or nothing 🙁

[@s50201]

Sofia YT All their friends' families will retire 15 years later than mine.

[@dragonsoul8675]

Why should Christmas be about getting gifts? wtf

[@MrVvulf]

There's a problem with your understanding of economics on the "dead weight" topic. The manufacturers are happy. They didn't waste their time - because your grandmother bought the sweater. Only the giver and receiver were unsatisfied. The sweater maker is drinking spiked eggnog and laughing at how much money they made.

[@HeyItsTyler2000]

I thought the same thing. It'd be loss in opportunity cost, right?

[@Ben-fg9wy]

Not the sweater maker, manufacturers are paid a salary. The owner of the manufacturing facility made the most money.

[@fanime1]

MrVvulf what about when that sweater is returned? I thought that's what he meant

[@elijahmiles3500]

@@Ben-fg9wy they also spent money to buy the facility previously

[@bloodgain]

When one of the suggestions to improve gifts is "give cash", maybe it's past time to admit that we need to stop giving gifts on a schedule -- at least for adults. Buy someone a gift when it will matter, like a nice dinner to celebrate their success, a graduation gift, or a housewarming/wedding present to someone getting their first apartment or home. Then just give gifts for no real occasion, just because you think of something a relative or friend would enjoy but might not buy themself. And give when someone has a clear need, but maybe doesn't ask for help (or, of course, when they do ask). These times are much more helpful and meaningful for a person to receive a gift.

[@kikihappy54]

For gifts not on one's list, I believe that there are exceptions. A few years ago, on Christmas, my brother surprised me with a 3ft teddy bear, and it is easily one of the most thoughtful gifts I've gotten. I didn't ask for it, but it felt like I had been asking for it non-verbally, and the fact that he picked up on that made it much more special.

[@rishitachakraborty9783]

I came here 'cause I just received a gift from my grandma that I'll never use. Of course, I can never tell her that and upset her. I hope she would have asked me what I needed or gave me cash. It's better not to give gifts at all.

[@Zacharon1]

Because no one actually considers the receiver AND people don't know each other like they used to

[@David-rm2eq]

OMG I need to show this to my wife . Who every year buys me things I don't want or need ..,..

[@AirLancer]

"But then it's not a surprise/asking would be so rude!" No, no, ask! Ask me! The best gift is the one that someone actually wants!

[@poolerboy]

Don’t worry. One day you’ll get the Fleshlight you’ve always wanted m.

[@EleanoraDzen]

in my school, we collected money to get a present for a teacher and the present seemed more for her new dog than her. the problem was that a committee was deciding these things and they had no idea how to do it like- she is her own person, her getting a dog that doesn't mean that on her birthday you get a sweater for her dog and a dog bone charm for her pandora bacelet

[@kyralindsey5885]

This year, i received a laptop. A laptop was something that i really wanted, but was not expecting to get. I think there are a lot more nuances to gift giving. In short, you really, really should know for whom you are shopping.

[@muffiefran4456]

I’m here because my girlfriend gave me a night light with our pictures on it for my birthday ! I told her I thought she was going to buy me the lenses for my canon camera and she said no because I was expecting that. Now I’m 33 with a nightlight

[@jellybean9319]

Yes...here because sadly had xmas gifts....that i do not like. Feel bad like it's my fault for being unappreciative. Only had a few, but its a shame that people spent money on things hoping that i would like them and unfortunately i do not 😥

[@michaelhuynh5760]

Give a personalised card and with cash/cheque in it. Perfect gift every time.

[@gwenythice7230]

I grew up in Europe where gifts were opened in front of the giver, but where I live now, people open presents after they get home, in private. It feels very different, but also less pressuring!

[@КириллБелоусов-с1м]

Skyeng: 70 practical unwrapping desirable feasible cash 30% overrated

[@fgfg2905]

спасиб

[@maxiden4ik609]

Thx

[@gangstermageforever]

лучший

[@dominopicamation5836]

I like to give people food. Pretty much everyone loves food. But ask what their fav foods are first

[@syguzman5739]

Domino Picamation 👏 Yes, ask first! I once gave a friend candy 🍬 just to find out (later) that she had gone on a clean-eating diet and was determined to stick with it. Good on her for the dedication to eat clean but since I was unaware of it, I felt like the money I had spent on candy could have gone towards something else she could have appreciated. We learn from our errors!

[@eigentlichtoll02]

In my family presents are unpacked one after another and that's rather uncomforting :(

[@CM-jw7jt]

How to be good at giving out gifts: ACTUALLY LISTEN TO THE PERSON AND ACTUALLY GET WHAT THEY WANT. How to do the opposite: NOT LISTEN AND GIVE THEM SOMETHING THEY CLEARLY DIDNT ASK FOR

[@miller1147]

+если ты тут, потому что дз в skyeng

[@АлександрАфанасьев-ш8з]

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[@miller1147]

@@АлександрАфанасьев-ш8з According to the statistics, about 70 billion presents are returned every year in the US. Recipients want things that are more practical . The givers are obsessed with the moment of unwrapping . The givers prefer to present desirable gifts, while the recipients prefer to be given the feasible ones. When in doubt, give cash . Up to 20% value of all gifts is wasted. Surprise is overrated - we are happier to get what we ask for.

[@mmuzzette]

MiLLer Дай Бог тебе здоровья ❤️💕

[@wild8109]

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[@actressintheatreofpain6855]

@@АлександрАфанасьев-ш8з ох спасибо!!!!

[@loxsannbraham8281]

I don’t want money. I want an item , but I just want it to be something thoughtful and/or useful to me

[@eidolon1809]

My mom gives me (and lately my sons) gifts we have specifically told her we DON'T want, and ignores our requests and wish lists. Her main obsession is knickknacks: tea cups, bowls, baskets, boxes and other things that sit on a shelf collecting dust. Her most recent "gifts" to my sons were paperweights. No matter how many times I've upbraided her for being passive-aggressively hostile with her gifting, she continues unabated, and acts all offended when we complain, return or donate these unwanted items. Any advice out there?

[@TheBondisReal]

Regift them to her 🤷🏾‍♀️🎁

[@chiara1363]

@@TheBondisReal sell her gifts on a second hand site

[@ZaTTTel]

Wait is that the guy from blue's clues?

[@lyla0775]

ZaTTTel BRUH

[@welwitschia]

OMG, you cracked me up! :D

[@sharondaatlagniappe]

I thought the same thing!

[@ren.pfa.99]

i always ask for money as a gift, since i can collect many of them and get myself something too expensive to ask for from one person (eg. an electronic device)

[@siennadelborrell6667]

For tip #2 to make money more like you meant it and less cold do origami with it. Fold it into a their favorite animal or something. I do it 30 min before every party and people always love it

[@cinnamonbun7135]

the meaning of giving gifts is more like a friendly gesture for me, not something i give under celebrations.

[@DaniAlexandria]

Here is a thought. instead of continuing the notion that "Christmas lists" or what were event lists are for "kids" and everyone just makes a list of what they want at different price points. Then people buy the things on that list and ONLY the things on the list and then everyone is happy!

[@flashbackfrank8781]

I don't agree that everyone naturally wants something selfish when they give gifts. Base, crass people, sure, but not everyone. Some people do their best to be honest and kind, and seeking glorification for being a good person is just as bad as no gift at all.

[@lucia_kidtech]

Me and my brother go and buy each other gifts together so we know what we're getting and we actually want it.

[@artuselias]

Don't gift and I don't want to be gifted. It's that easy.

[@syguzman5739]

Artux - you look unhappy in your profile photo. Are you ok?

[@scribblecloud]

Sy Guzman but i want to be gifted though

[@itsnearly3am]

meh money as a gift is overrated my parents stopped getting my gifts when i was about 10 and always just gave me a check for the holidays i never spent the checks on anything particularly special (usually i didn't even spend them at all) plus i just felt like my parents never knew me well enough to even try to think about what i wanted so it just distanced us more

[@chiara1363]

yep my dad just gave me money and my mom a wallet when i was 12 (?)

[@annimu9081]

Am I the only one who doesn't try to return a gift I didn't like?

[@ren.pfa.99]

you should.

[@krazytim9050]

speak for yourself, i'm a great gift giver

[@eps3154]

I know. This is such terrible advice. Give money?? Good gift givers know their giftees well enough to know what they want. That takes time and concerted effort to remember any mentions of wanting something but being unable to afford it, or feeling guilty buying it for themselves, or any hints being dropped. So much of our lives are already made into pure transactions. Holidays and special occasions are supposed to be about human connection not fucking economics.

[@pilarlalyre9752]

this was a really awful video ... I don't get who told this guy he can speak like that in a video?

[@Zacharon1]

Same. If you just put a tiny bit of effort I to it it's amazing what good gifts you can give.

[@botas5254]

Just give money

[@janneywar8518]

I like you thanks for reminding me people like to get what they ask for

[@vaylonkenadell]

No, **narcissists** are terrible at giving gifts. Empathetic and thoughtful people are able to think about others from a different perspective than their own and imagine what gift would make them happy.

[@CelticKitty]

Me: *tells my mom what I want* Mom: okay sure Mom: HERE ARE SOME SOCKS YOU SPECIFICALLY ASKED NOT TO GET

[@yakineko6635]

i got my brother a manga for his birthday

[@justStardust940]

everyone needs to watch this video

[@jcherry875]

The best present i've ever got: a weight watchers book about meat. I am a vegetarian and she knew, i also gained weight because i had a hard time with my mental health and medication and she also knew that.

[@ren.pfa.99]

ouch thats just mean

[@moua0067]

Easy: give money or experiences/trips/activities they already said they wanted.

[@whycantichangemychannelpic3517]

0:19 - A trash can????? That's ridiculous I thought that she might get a whole load of sweaters or something, what's wrong with the nariator's Mum?????

[@m.taylor]

I don't get why friends give me stuffed toy gifts as if I am a five yr old, which I am not...or a framed poster pic that I have never asked for. Such useless impractical gifts clutters my home and only creates extra work for me to have to dispose of. What a waste of money, that it is better to give food gift cards.

[@dingdong3508]

Just ask them what they want.

[@WithYouIDisagree]

I always ask for money. Sure it doesn't show that you care, but neither does a Starbucks giftcard when I hate coffee.

[@vdan6613]

If you are an adult you should buy your own stuff, so I give don't give gifts. I don't even buy things for my nieces because they have too much stuff.

[@lkm_6689]

Let's face it, we are all thinking of someone who could benefit from this

[@phenomenal6218]

My mother in law is a wealthy person. She always buy a gift for me for 5 dollar. I pretend to like it too much . I always buy a goodgift around 150dollars just because she gave birth to my husband . I feel when ever you give a gift give it heartful Or dont . I don't want to put myself so cheap or stingy woman. End of the day its all memorise we build everyyear.

[@aur3liom]

The worst gift you can get is when you don't get any gift!

[@squidfanatic2831]

The worst gift I've ever gotten was a Slytherin girl's t shirt from my mother. I'm a Hufflepuff and I'm not a girl.

[@squidfanatic2831]

@Milana Mezhieva The shirt didn't even fit.

[@berthaantoinettamason9207]

I was given toilet paper as one of the gifts instead of something I actually asked for. The intention was either a joke or was practical which I'm not sure which one it really was, but I am actually secretly offended. I'm not the kind to want to share personal bathroom information, so it actually does bother me. Why is it any of their business how I clean myself? Do they think I can control what comes out of my body as a woman? Do they unconsciously think I'm dirty since they want it to be known that I use too much toilet paper? I had given a list of things I actually wanted. I don't get it, because if you get something from the person's list, you have a 100% success rate. I feel like the gift was because they thought it was funny. But I wasn't included or cared for with the joke. I don't usually get offended, but this does hurt my feelings. I wanted the things on the list too. The easier path from them would have made me happy. If someone tells you what they want, please get that.

[@TheBBallEnthusiast]

What are people's thoughts on Visa Gift Cards vs. Cash? Personally, I'd rather take cash because I don't want the gift giver spending $55 to give me a $50 visa gift card

[@glynnispitcher9423]

( REHAB TIME! ) WEN IT COMBS TO GIFTS PPL LOVE TO SAY IT IS THE THOUGHT THA COUNTS NEVA HAS A MOOR ACCURATE THING BEEN SAID ABOUT GIFTS BUT PPL LOVE TO SAY THIS WEN THEY DIDNT GET THE REIGHT GIFT SPECIFICALLY BECAUSE THEY DINT REALLY PUT THOUGHT INTO IT. FACTS OVA FEELINGS!

[@SchwerMetall154]

Because when little Billy wants a new Xbox, I can't afford that shit, so he gets a shirt in a box with an 'X' on it in marker. I'd like to get Billy a new Xbox, but when I'm barely able to buy groceries on top of my rent, he's gonna have to deal with the fact that not everyone is Bill Gates.

[@danielfortney5837]

I always encourage people to give old fashion gift cards, money.

[@RemindFindcom]

Just make sure you know which stores or activities they like before buying them. Over $1bn worth of gift cards expire unused each year!

[@danielfortney5837]

Daniel Fortney I don’t have to. An “old fashion gift card” IS MONEY.

[@RemindFindcom]

Ah, I get you. Do you swap equal amounts with some people at Christmas?! And do you like to know what people bought with the money?

[@danielfortney5837]

I haven’t found anyone, including my wife, that wants to give cash. They are brainwashed into buying gift cards. I prefer to give the cash, including what I would have spent on a gift card, to a person instead of a business. I also ask if I can go with them when they spend the cash. That way we get some quality time together and generally I pay for a meal, a double gift for them. If it doesn’t work out, I ask them to let me know what they got. Nice things about an old fashion gift card are just about every business takes it for payment, it never expires, and no one has ever wanted to return it.. And not surprisingly, I’ve never heard someone say they re-gifted it. Haha. Have a great holiday!

[@josephbanks1691]

ok has anyone gotten a gift that is work? Ok i just got 4 packages of bacon from my step dad. I am polite and say thank you. Also how much do i owe you, because that has come up before. He says nothing. Maybe just give me some when you cook it. I say ok. then he says maybe you can cook it and give it to everyone at Christmas breakfast. So basically it is him saying he is too lazy to cook bacon for Christmas and wants me to do it. Any ideas on how do i deal with this? My best guess is just never take the bait.. say no thank you, and let him try someone else. If i get mad enough i will confront, but usually do not like making waves. Gifts have no price, but all i seem to get from him are things he likes and needs me to do. Ok once i got a breville pie maker.. which is good, but im not a big fan of pies myself. later i had to use it to make 40 pies for his event for him and his friends. Is there a nice way to just say leave me alone? or do i need to get to homicidal rage before it stops?

[@josephbanks1691]

ok another oddity as i work this in my mind is if he asked hey can you cook this for Christmas.. That is no problem. He wants me to owe him for doing his work. tom sawyer anyone?

[@radiobiologist]

Candles are overrated

[@MrKrushgutz]

Just ask people what they want. It’s not that difficult.

[@edenteo5099]

I need my friends to see this...

[@thespiderspartian]

I always get good gifts

[@moua0067]

Dear ALL MEN everywhere, Women hate corny gold heart necklaces from mall stores. Please stop! Also, if you are not sure what to buy a woman, ask their sisters or best friend for ideas. They know her better than you do.

[@coolpeace5363]

I love Present

[@coolpeace5363]

Nonono I love 💸 💰 🤑 💲 💵

[@allamasadi7970]

Buy fancy toiletries, soaps, shower gel as those are practical, get used and safe the recipient time shopping for them.

[@RuRaynor]

Nah. When I was a kid people would give me them and I couldn't use them because I has eczema. Nowadays I have a very specific skin car routine and unless you buy me something from that routine, I probably won't use it. Plus I don't like baths so you can keep your bath bombs

[@bethm203]

Cash is pointless as a gift. Eaither you have wasted time by giving money then also receiving the same amount back or you make a loss by receiving a smaller cash gift. I would rather I didn't recieve bought gifts at all and instead, someone to make me something or give me some of their time that I can spend with them.

[@ethwir7496]

Thannnnkkk u sm

[@окок-э4ж]

Для Скайэнг: 1) 70 2) practical 3) unwrapping 4) desirable, feasible 5) cash 6) 30% 7) overrated

[@enemy6695]

I am from Russia and it was my homework

[@l.tc.5032]

Just ask me, and I’ll tell you.

[@moua0067]

Right!?!?!

[@oshichickenchips.2152]

What a difficult language English is ((

[@readisgooddewaterkant7890]

agree

[@rupertfergusson]

Perhaps it’s that people are bad at receiving them.

[@whatsnxt9144]

Hate gift giving

[@insanely420]

I got a book

[@kristofersknesis]

this is a great video but sorry, every single one of the sweaters in this video was awesome, so you suck if you don't appreciate your grandmother's awesome sweater present

[@hermansila9224]

Just give them McDonald’s. It worked for me.

[@Ausholliday15]

I never give gifts on holidays. Gift giving never important to me.

[@pilarlalyre9752]

this is the worst video I could've ever wasted time watching, though... not everything this guy said is not true... but you can't make a video like this without studying more about psicholgy and what makes a person want to give a gift, you basically called all givers selfish for wanting to impressed another person? wow... really ... that's just... wow...

[@alventuradelacruz522]

I don't give gifts and I don' t care

[@MEGAHAN]

Hands down, the WORST advice ever posted on the internets.

[@eigentlichtoll02]

It's quite comprehensible in its arguments.. But a list of creative gift ideas be nice, too

[@Pslm91v14n15]

eigentlichtoll02 Creative gifts: when you know of an item that can solve a problem they have. Such as knowing of a type of boot that will keep their feet warmer than what they have and you know suits their style. Especially if you are able to buy it and know they never would for themselves. Always losing their keys? There are products to help that. I think tiles is the name of a bluetooth thing you can use for that. Offer to provide a service like cleaning for them or free childcare/pet sitting. Pre-pay for an activity they enjoy and can redeem whenever. Biggest thing is putting aside personal interests for their interests. And when it’s expensive, be sure they’ll use it. Not that I assume you needed such a list but that’s what I’d suggest to the video makers. I too was hoping for more ideas.

[@ThomasJamesBeauchene]

You are ruining Christmas.