Why Is Grief So Confusing?

[@dennett1565]

Self-compassion is so difficult for me. I push myself until I am exhausted and in tears. There seems to be so much to handle since my husband's death, and it's all so difficult to accomplish.

[@wendycopeland5147]

All of this is true for me. I am feeling all of this. Thank you so much for this video. I lost my Mum 18 months ago but have only started the grieving process recently due to avoiding the intense pain. I feel I've lost my identity since losing my beloved Mum. It has affected every part of my life so severely. I am working with a wonderful grief therapist who says I am dealing with complicated/prolonged grief. I had no idea grief could be so devastating & "destructive". Thank you for validating how I'm feeling ❤

[@nancypedrick5596]

❤

[@dawngcs8130]

It does effect everything! 😢

[@annebeyrer728]

Me too, not my mom but my sister, whose twin Jackie died in 2016 at 50, Judy at 60 in 2024, I had no idea grief was this hard.

[@wendycopeland5147]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Its the hardest thing I've ever been through. Sending you love ❤

[@jenniferhutto5418]

I needed to hear this session so much. I just wanted to know how long this will go on. I was married for 40 years to my best friend. He was my everything and now I’m so lost.

[@debracurboy5844]

Can't seem to move forward as your comments are true for me

[@StephanieFortune-dv3bw]

I relate so so much to what you say here. I will watch/listen to this again and again. Thank you so much Jo.❤

[@reutbenbaruch8960]

Thank you

[@karenkleinmaier1019]

Thank you for this. I’ve been navigating 9 years of grief over multiple losses. I keep trying to move on which just seems to lead me to anxiety and depression. Trying to be who I was before. But I’m not. Past present and future do feel smashed together. But I haven’t really allowed myself to sit in all this. It’s so scary and unfamiliar. This video makes me feel ok with the confusion. Maybe I’m normal.

[@MargaretMichelle1912]

❤yes Self Compassion would be very helpful. Thankyou

[@annebeyrer728]

Thank you Jo, this is so helpful. Since my sister’s death I have known my brain is temporarily broken, but my heart ache is on hold in my body, my emotions are a mixed bag, too up too down, too irritable. I will listen in several more times so it sinks in. You have so much to offer all who grieve. I am building a support team, with my therapist, and joining a bereavement queer group next week. I had no idea grief was so much work. I bless you for guiding us.

[@catherinetwomey7463]

Thanks 🙏

[@nancypedrick5596]

Dr Jo, it’s been 7 yrs since my mom passed and 8 yrs for my dad. I was the baby of the family. (Just as an aside) When my mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer she lasted 15 months and celebrated her 94 bday as if nothing was wrong but a month later she passed. They both had wonderful lives & lived into their 90’s. I was 55 when she passed & since I started a business, she was a part of it for 30 years. We became very close & even after 7 years, I’m still having a problem at times knowing she’s not physically. I no longer go to the shore bc it was our favorite place to take day rides. Now at 62, I still can relate to lots of things- I’m aging who am I now, and what do I do? Had a few grief counselors but Covid arrived and that went away, so did my job. Thank you for being around for everyone who may think they are different- there’s no one way of grief ❤❤

[@lifeisbananas]

Thank you, Jo. This is nice to listen to, its good to learn and understand.

[@silviavivanco6848]

My passions, my hobbies, everything is less important now, those things that motivated me dont mean much now

[@crystals6352]

Yes Self Compassion is a very important topic to cover. I noticed that I was neglecting my own needs while processing the grief and felt like I was running myself into the ground. A year and 4 months after the death I finally decided to get extra sleep and make sure that I ate and drank fluids regularly. I also take a vitamin dayly. Self compassion was on the back burner for way to long.

[@silviavivanco6848]

So true

[@jenniferhutto5418]

I can’t seem to get to a place of not feeling so lost and lonely. I was married 40 years and I can’t figure out how to want to keep moving on.

[@edgrossman8929]

I lost my spouse 6 months ago they were the very center of my life. I feel like I have no purpose in life I was completely devoted to them and their needs. I can’t seem to learn how to care for me when nothing holds meaning to me

[@silviavivanco6848]

Yes i relate to all of this

[@triciahird8986]

Jo this is such a good session. Before and after, who am I now and How do I place this loss in my future are such relevant questions. Thank you also for using the word death. My husband died he didn't "pass on" . I am 3.5 years down the track and have dealt with emotions as they came, I cried, screamed, rocked said no to anything I didn't want to do. I took charge of how I reacted in a situation where I felt I had no control. That is, I chose to experience every bit of emotion that came my way and made no apology for it. I felt my husband was worth that. I have just had my first 5 week trip overseas and I had a wonderful time. I allowed the people I visited to be kind, generous and so welcoming of me and was so blessed as a consequence. Thank you for your such grounded and relatable sessions.

[@Otessa-j4u]

I still have my faith, but there is 180degree change with me I have had to learn to navigate inspite of my constant emotional pain

[@silviavivanco6848]

Since my sister died I feel like another person, I don't feel the same excitement or motivation that I felt before

[@mikesmith6594]

I'm dealing with grief and loss because I'm in a one sided relationship with a narcissistic controlling manipulative father who loves gaslighting, playing mind games, bullying, neglect, silent treatment, blaming shifting me for literally everything. Can't stand to be around him because of the betrayal. Sure as heck feel triggered as f... depressed outta my mind can barely get outta bed anymore he doesn't give a damn about me everything's all about him always has been he has no right trying too control my life.

[@MADELENEC1]

DEPESSED HOPLESS sad all the time