Why is it so hard to figure yourself out after you retire??

When you approach retiring your brain is full of all kinds of wonderful adventures and projects and plans... Then, after a bit -- the honeymoon wears off and... who the hell are you anymore? Why is that!?

[@nineangels7572]

I retired 8 years ago. Right away I moved to a city with beaches, nature, hiking, everything outdoors & beautiful weather. I fell right into volunteering & helping others. It came naturally as I came from a career of public service. I filled my home with rescue pets & it's been so fulfilling and my life feels complete and enjoyable for a single senior woman.

[@luilang7002]

It's ok not to do anything, that's the purpose of retirement.

[@robertwilson7736]

Exactly you've been a servant long enough

[@pereinarolsson3928]

yes to do nothing is ok - but after a while you will feel very empty and lost. Library, coffee, trips, meals, meeting freinds....yeah all rigt...but gets very luke warm after a while. No time to find your passion - your inner fire....

[@JJNow-gg9so]

🥀🦋👵🤗

[@MKF1205]

I see many multi millionaire went back to work because they are bored in retirement.

[@bold-women]

Yes, @luilang7002, that is the purpose of your retirement. We're all different and I'm not looking at the time after my day-to-day work as anything other than my next chapter. The purpose of my next chapter is focusing on what moves me and what calls to my soul rather than meeting the goals and expectations of an employer. Good luck!

[@artspark7697]

I retired early two years ago. At first I tried to stay just as busy as I was when working. I got burned out on this. Now I realized my God, I am retired I don't need to rush or do anything. I do go to the gym three days a week and run my errands, clean the house and paint some walls. I try not to stress about it anymore. People are so frantically busy all the time I am glad I am not there anymore.

[@bold-women]

Turning off the "hurry" button takes practice, for sure. Good for you!

[@arthurthomasware5004]

I'm 88. Started work at 15, worked for 44 years and have now been pleasantly active in my 29 years of retirement. What to do? Be serious and ask yourself "What am I?" Book into a meditation retreat. Start to find out 'what you are not.' Cease the seeking without. For, as it's been said, in the case of happiness, go within. "If you don't go within you go without." You really were born for a purpose. Let IT seek you out.

[@pereinarolsson3928]

congratulations to your life....

[@MJLOVEnow]

@@arthurthomasware5004 Great advise!

[@ithacacomments4811]

Be...a human BEING...not a human DOING!

[@karlabritfeld7104]

I've seen retired people who are bored out of their minds with nothing to do, no hobbies, no interests. It's important to have friends, someone to visit and socialize with.

[@bold-women]

YES.

[@nancy4366]

Remember when you were a kid? You woke up. You didn't have to become someone - you just were already and that was enough. You did whatever you wanted in the moment without judging how that might define you. You enjoyed the moment you were in. You didn't have angst or plan, you just lived. Do that. You already are who you've always been. It's enough. And if you don't know what to do - just do whatever is next and keep doing that.

[@bold-women]

Isn't that the truth? Just 'being in the moment' is easier said than done, sometimes. It's taken me a few years of practice to recognize when I'm NOT living in the moment, stop myself, and course correct. I believe for many of us, given the way we've lived the last 30, 40, 50 years... this practice will remain a lifelong endeavor. SOOOOO very worth it.

[@lulucly]

I retired about a year ago and it’s still trial and error here. I do know that I wouldn’t trade this learning curve for anything!

[@pereinarolsson3928]

right - you have to go through it - can be painful....

[@bold-women]

Yes - but you don't have to go through it alone.

[@annethall]

We do whatever we want to do. Nothing is boring because we are good with each others company. We seldom take out the car we share because we walk everywhere. We live in a quiet neighborhood but walking distance to grocery, coffee, bank, library, etc. We don't have to worry about money as our house and car is paid off. We travel when we want to and can go anywhere we please but it seems the older we get the less we want to travel far. Sounds boring to some, but we have no gardener, no housecleaner so we put on the music and work in the garden or house. At the moment we are painting part of the house and getting the garden ready. We can afford to have all of this hired out but we have the time to do it ourselves. We declutter as we go and give away so much that does not bring us joy or that we need. Life is good.

[@bold-women]

So, So, So good. Love this.

[@tertur2957]

Don’t overthink it just go with the flow. It’s the next step in life.

[@sjordan7085]

Exactly! No need to complicate it.

[@AnnMitt]

Where you live, if you have a partner who shares your interests, and if you have friends to do activities with all make a huge impact on your life.

[@bold-women]

Yes. True. If you don't have a partner, nor children it is a different discussion. Positives and negatives. Different.

[@kathleendonnelly6077]

Maybe living on limited finances plays a part in the lack of passion.

[@kimcreate1]

I am struggling with retirement. It was fun at first, now I’m bored and restless. Ugh

[@pereinarolsson3928]

I understand but also realise that it is you that create to be bored - and you stepping out of the boredom - sometimes it is necessary to taste the bitterness of being bored. You can have everything in your hand -.and still be bored.

[@rachelarmel7547]

I don't understand how anyone could ever possibly be bored in this magnificent world with endless possibilities and options. Could it just be an addiction to busy-ness and a lack of true meaning in your life? Maybe something to explore with a coach or counselor.

[@JuneAdams-li9sy]

For women, it's hard to figure out what to do in retirement because they've been working double days for their entire adult lives. When suddenly, all that social-instilled pressure to be everything to everyone is off, they find they have no acceptable model for their post-productive existences. It's hard for men, also, who have not cultivated hobbies and non-work interests/relationships. Loneliness is a biggie.

[@pereinarolsson3928]

Yes if you have got the pat on the back from others your whole life - it is time to pat yourself - it is simple but not easy...

[@bold-women]

Yes! It can take practice - emotionally and psychologically to get comfortable with patting yourself on the back. Important work.

[@lordjim3109]

For women, it`s never miss an opportunity to complain about how unfair the world is to women, is it?

[@JuneAdams-li9sy]

@lordjim3109 😆 clearly, you are a man of erudition; a woman magnet. I'll bet females are throwing themselves at your feet, begging for your attention. 😆

[@bold-women]

@@lordjim3109 Lord Jim. It's not a complaint. It's expressing oneself and an experience in life. I'm wondering what prompted you to land on this post and I appreciate that you commented without attack, albeit a bit snide.

[@ritacipolloni7063]

New sub.....enjoyed the talk today

[@tamlinm8258]

Thank you! Been retired for almost one year…I still have days I struggle.

[@bold-women]

@tamlinm82358 I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@ovingtonful]

Great topic and extremely important to settle this in our minds. Thank you.

[@user-hw9vf4pl9s]

how about doing nothing just be for a while and see what happens.... takes a long while but it will end up being glorious because you can do whatever you want to do and when you want to do it. We are human-beings not human-doings.

[@bold-women]

Yes, that is my first advice to ANYONE. First, you have to just STOP. I wrote a brief ebook/report - whatever you want to call it about just this. www.bold-women.com/resources#EBooks if you want to check it out. This is a free pdf, but the "official" hardcopy is also available on Amazon. I'm a (self) published author!

[@JT-qr8lt]

Just BE! You don’t have to do anything for the sake of doing it!

[@sandracote6501]

Been retired for 18 months. Starting to feel comfortable with my new reality. I have many hobbies/ interests but it still required me to shed my old identify and discover my new life.

[@Cherrytune386]

Enjoy the time you have to yourself, ❤

[@MJLOVEnow]

Being retired and not being constantly distracted by activities has allowed me to be extremely sensitive to my thoughts and feelings, and therefor beautifully educated as to what is really going on with me!

[@bold-women]

I love the way you describe it. "beautifully educated as to what is really going on with me". Increasing your self-awareness will change your life. It did mine. Thank you!

[@MJLOVEnow]

@@bold-women Thank you!

[@nangel270]

It takes so long because we were so focused on just getting to the finish line of working. We figured we would sleep in, walk more, eat better, read, have naps - all the things you think about while working. Then after the first few months goes by you realize you just needed that temporarily and now it’s boring. You think you will fall into or discover something that will fulfill you that didn’t avail itself to you previously. Then you realize it’s because you were sleeping and reading 😂. You gotta get out in the world with people in order to discover new things for the most part. Now get out there!

[@bold-women]

It's funny you mention that we're so focused on the finish. line when we're working... Here's a post I recently wrote on just that! lynnellewilson.com/posts/buck-it-change-how-you-define-success

[@ithacacomments4811]

Slow living. Enjoy every moment.

[@pereinarolsson3928]

that is the key....

[@nancyabbott4076]

Yes 2 years retired this month, still searching, wondering, flailing and failing feels like .. whatever, like to explore with you all 😊

[@pereinarolsson3928]

I would say it takes at least two years to step out of the system - to leave the hamster wheel - but also of all the programming from parents - upbringing and society.

[@bold-women]

Nancy, I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@allisonspeer649]

Great video. I tried to plan ahead as much as possible. I joined a local church and made some new friends, scheduled activities with some of my friends from previous workplaces (breakfast dates), etc. before I actually retired. Husband is 11 years older than me and was retired 10 years before me. The first 2 years were occupied with finishing up all the things on the To Do List I never had time to get around to as well as enjoying my grandson's last few years of high school and sports. But then it happened... a sudden stop and boredom (winter is the worst) My husband has had some health issues and he is pretty sedentary and I also found myself sitting around the house in front of the TV way too much and pretty much going "crazy". LOL. After a lot of thought and self-examination I've set some goals for this year. Traveling (even if it's just smaller trips or solo trips), I live 5 miles from a State Park and started hiking and will be adding swimming in the Summer months. In the winter I started adult paint by numbers and found it very relaxing. I schedule one Old Gals breakfast a month and go to a Women's Club meeting once a month at my church. Currently I'm looking into free online courses or local college courses and I'm going to start going to our Old Fashioned movie theater to watch a movie occasionally. This will most likely be a solo adventure as well. It's important to keep your mind and body active. Most of the things I do are inexpensive.

[@bold-women]

Allison, I love this! The biggest thing you mention is "a lot of thought and self-examination". Good for you for stopping to take that time, #1. And, #2, for taking action. Hope to hear from you again.

[@user-nq9gz4xf7f]

Focus on a healthy lifestyle and relationships

[@pereinarolsson3928]

Vary interesting - born 1957 in Sweden and retired since 2022. Yes - to retire is leave the old system. That is difficult. You need to dare to live in not to know until you know. Buddist men leave their family at the end of the life and enter the temple. To be a servant of society. So that is it be of service to society - in your own way - don not be tricked to follow the old...

[@bold-women]

That's what I'm trying to do with this KZbin, BOLD-Women effort - be of service to other women who might not have realized this transition can be a big one. Thank you for your comment.

[@pereinarolsson3928]

​@@bold-womenIt is really challenging - that is probably why so many here in Sweden keep working or looking after grandchildren. Maybe even more difficult for women who often are the spider in the net and used to be busy.

[@staciecampbell5078]

I retired at 55 and tried so many things without figuring out. I even went back to work at the same company. One thing I have figured out is that I DO NOT want to be working full time. I’m going down to part time in a few weeks so maybe that will give a good balance. I do like being appreciated and part of a team and I like feeling like I am contributing.

[@bold-women]

I feel you. I'm wondering how you're doing. It's been 3 weeks. Are you happy with the part-time? Apologies for the delay in my response. I am just getting used to figuring out how to know when there are comments here! Thanks for yours.

[@sjordan7085]

It is not difficult at all when one is spoilt for choice.

[@anitas5817]

I retired a year ago and recently realized that my stress level actually increased. My head has been spinning with all the things I thought I would do, and not knowing what direction to go in. A year in, it’s not what I expected. I’ll get there.

[@bold-women]

@anitas5817, think about how many years...decades your life pattern was based on stress. It takes a minute to make that kind of change. What I realized was you have to get to know YOU - again or for the first time, as in my case. It's something I believe I'll be uncovering for the rest of my. life and I'm so thankful I've made it over the biggest hurdle of "WTF am I doing???" (I'm praying I"ve actually made it over....)

[@Scottweeier846]

I lost over $70k when everything started to tank. Not because I was in an exchange that went belly up. I was just stupid to hold and because that's what everyone said. I'm still responsible. It just taught me to be a better investor now that I understand more of what could go wrong. It took me over two years of being in the market, I'm really grateful I found one source to recover my money, at least $10k profits weekly. Thanks Gloria Robinson

[@Josephbasta827]

Wow. I'm a bit perplexed seeing her been mentioned here also Didn’t know she has been good to so many people too this is wonderful, i'm in my fifth trade with her and it has been super.

[@Jessecote875]

She is my family's personal broker and also a personal broker in many families I'm United States, she's a licensed broker and a FINRA AGENT in United states

[@Charlottehornets4]

You trade with Gloria Robinson too? Wow that woman has been a blessing to me and my family.

[@Nguyenvictory83]

I'm new at this, please how can I reach her?

[@Scottweeier846]

she's mostly on Telegrams, using the user name

[@glbertin6008]

I've been retired for 5 yrs & I still haven't found it. Covid squashed my plans to move to S. America, literally the day before I was buying my ticket, and when it opened back up I bought a cargo van, set it up as a camper & traveled around the US for 3 yrs, which, as it turns out, is not for me longer term. I've searched my mind, many places, and my heart, have continued to take courses as I have my whole life, worked the tax season, and traveled abroad a bit, and I'm bored. I'd love to get the link.

[@bold-women]

@glbertin6008, I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@BeautyOver70WithLea]

Hi,I’m Lea and I have a YT channel ( Beauty Over 70 With Lea ) your thumbnail caught my eye and I had to drop in.I’m retired and will be (76) in June. I retired many years ago worked as an esthetician/ freelance makeup artist for around 25 years.I started my YT channel two years ago during Covid-19 for something to do and this channel work is in my blood.I’m retired but feel as thou it’s a full time job and it’s really work…the good thing is I do what I enjoy and love and for me,that’s enjoying my life.Have a good week ahead…Lea

[@PamSheen]

Spot-on! Please send link for Thursday.

[@bold-women]

Pam, I"m sorry but this recording is from a while ago. I try not to mention dates in these videos but it just pops out sometimes. I'm hosting a virtual event May 22, 23 & 24 and would love to include you in the invitation, with your permission. The invitations and ticket sales start at the end of next week, after the first of May. Thank you foryour comment.

[@AgingOnYourTerms]

I retired to become a caregiver to my inlaws. It's been a challenge going from the top of my game in Corporate America to learning something new on a daily basis. But I feel more alive now than at any time in my corporate career.

[@SistersGenXandBboomer]

Agree

[@AgingOnYourTerms]

@SistersGenXandBboomer love your channel. New subscriber here! ❤️

[@bold-women]

I "retired" to help my sister care for my Mom who had to be placed in Memory Care. I know what you describe as going from the top of my game in Corporate to being a beginner at almost everything again. My Mom passed away only a few months after I left my career. After about 18 months, I fell into a ditch, I call the ditch of despair. I describe it in this, if you're interested. www.bold-women.com/6Phases_LM

[@lindaharrison175]

I'm 71 ... retired when covid came ... my husband had already retired the year before and then passed away Dec 2023 ... am completely lost ... no friends, can't find a good church to go to, no interests ... retirement for me has been miserable ... I need to make a life for myself but don't know where to start and don't even have the desire to ... how in the world does a person get out of this state?

[@bold-women]

Linda, I am so sorry for this delay. I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@BarbDixon3545]

We're ostracized from our careers and families told to go away

[@mlg8398]

I just stumbled upon your channel. So timely for me! Please send me the link for the upcoming discussion. Thank you.

[@bold-women]

@mlg8398, you may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@pls5201]

Timely. Retired five years ago. Life now filled with volunteer boards and some 1099 contracts. Ready to let all that go and stop “near work,” but don’t know what will come next at 70, single and healthy. Love travel but not all the time and am not a hobbies only person. Lots of energy. Now what?

[@bold-women]

Join us on the private Facebook Page, facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement or consider the 3-day virtual event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE this week May 22, 23, & 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024

[@cathyahr8722]

Yes please. I would like the link to continue this conversation.

[@bold-women]

Cathy, like Gisele, please accept my apologies for the delay. I didn't realize there were comments here! Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience too, Cathy.

[@abbaschild2499]

I have just found this post. I retired last year and although I love being out of the workplace, I haven't been able to settle down and plan anything, really. Would love the link and the discussion.

[@bold-women]

@abbaschild2499, you may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@WestShoreMan]

My best friend retired a couple years ago and gained 100 pounds in a year. He is now getting control of himself and starting to travel etc. it was a major transition for him. I choose semi retirement first for a few years before I jump in or not.

[@bold-women]

Retirement from a successful, active career is a HUGE step for many. Easing into it is such a smart thing to do. I hope it's going well for you.

[@allthingsnu4673]

I retired in May of '22 and have been busy learning to trade stock options since. Thankfully, I've gotten pretty decent at it. My hope is to start traveling more starting this summer or fall. Like another poster said, I wouldn't trade my learning curve for anything. It's been fun figuring myself out now that I don't have to please others to earn a living anymore. I'm not looking for anything to do as far as part-time work or volunteering... I've spent my whole life "doing". I just want to experience and learn about whatever catches my curiosity at any given time. I am interested in receiving your link for the conversation.

[@bold-women]

@allthingsnu4673, I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@maryjoan4128]

I was told it takes 4 years to get comfortable with retirement,,,I think that is true,,,,,, its hard to find a balance, sometimes I think I have made it sometimes not,,, But I do regret moving to another country when I first retired,,, All the best,,,, its a dance,,,,

[@bold-women]

@maryjoan4128 - YES!! It is a dance! Here's my 6-Phases of Life-After-Career where I describe Phase 6 as, not a permanent phase of life, but a dance between exploration and fulfillment. www.bold-women.com/6_Phases Thank you for your comment!

[@janjensen2048]

I love this topic. I would like to join your conversation

[@bold-women]

Jan, I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@jackiebennett3762]

I am retiring from state service in October then going back part time

[@GISELEPOOR]

Please send me the link

[@shellyfeaver7613]

I suffer from 'panic / anxiety' that i am not making the most of retirement ... that i am not being energetic and busy enough .... i am 61 and had to retire on health grounds 4 years ago , and constantly feel bad that im not leaping around and full of energy

[@bold-women]

For about 2 years I felt the same way you describe, minus the health issues, fortunately. The anxiety that I'm not doing retirement the way I'm supposed to do it - or the way "they say" it should be done... Well, Shelly, that's BS. First of all I dislike the word RETIREMENT used to describe a phase of life. Retire is a verb. It is something you DO, not a lifestyle. Stop thinking of yourself as "RETIRED" and start thinking about just being alive. You don't happen to have a full-time career anymore. The question isn't what can you DO now to fill your time. The first question is "Who are you now?" then "What is important to you now?" then "What do you want now?" Easy for me to say - yes. But this is the process I've been going through. I "retired" in 2017. Three weeks ago, (almost 7 years!) I finally followed through with something I've dreamed of and wanted for years - but never thought I had it in me - or that it was really possible. You have to get your mindset tuned in to the real you. It takes more than a minute to do that. It also takes ongoing practice to "stay in shape". Good luck.

[@SistersGenXandBboomer]

Appreciate this video. Send link

[@bold-women]

I'm sorry this video was recorded over a year ago. Please subscribe here if you haven't already. After September, there will be more Women's Circle gatherings and other connections.

[@suesteyn8990]

I would please love the link.

[@bold-women]

Sue, I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@user-em5vb1wk9s]

Been retired for three years now. Finding that it takes a lot of trial and error. Would be interested to join in on the discussion.

[@bold-women]

Check out the private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement or the virtual event I'm hosting this coming Wed, Thur, Friday - May 22, 23, 24 www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024

[@ndtea]

Hi Lynette, I just posted a that comment on your "Moving to France - Lesson #1" post and am back here to let you know I'm interested in taking part in the conversation. Thanks!

[@ndtea]

well shoot -- autocorrect strikes again! I typed out Lynelle but the computer changed it to Lynette. Life in the age of algorithms 😅

[@bold-women]

Ha! No worries about the spelling - With a name like Lynnelle you have to expect it. :-) Now, it's my turn to apologize to you - I'm so sorry I didn't realize there were comments here! Please forgive my tech ignorance. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience. Please join me in the FB group and consider coming to the event!

[@JillGeller]

Saw this today, 4/19/24, not sure if u r still collecting addresses for joining? I would be interested in a New Retirement Grp: Navigating yr 60's. Thank you.

[@bold-women]

Jill, you may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@carolhannah6060]

Very interested in participating in this and similar conversations. Retiring later this year and already having those thoughts. I'll be working on Thursday; any chance the conversation can be made available as a Replay?

[@bold-women]

Carol, I am so sorry for this delay. You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@Fer-vq6ru]

Cultural differences definitely influence how we feel after retirement. I have been in the UK for almost 25 years, originally from Latin America. Very successful in my career, and yes, afterwards no one cared anymore what I had to say or offer. OK, it feels weird and it bugged me for some time, but the hardest thing is the lack of social life. Back home, my contemporaries are so busy with social activities, that if I had a 1/4 of their social life, or even less I would be so happy. The UK is very impersonal, as an example, I went to Peru to do some consultancies, and I was welcomed in such a warm way, I was like part of the neighbourhood in no time. It is what it is!

[@bold-women]

I was born & raised in the US, Texas primarily. 3 weeks ago I moved to France. I have been welcomed with open arms here. Consider relocating to where you feel welcomed and whole. It is making a HUGE difference to me.

[@Fer-vq6ru]

@@bold-women Thank you for your comment

[@shess1640]

no angst or turmoil here. Just enjoy the now : )

[@bold-women]

Yay for you! Enjoy.

[@shamanicsoulcoach9588]

I have found this to be ahuge issue. I have now found Impro - comedy improvisation. Its full of younger people, a new skill, affordable etc but i am scared of what happens in 7 to 10 years time when i am not fit enough.... Also in the UK you become invisible. No status unless you have grandchildren. Its hard

[@bold-women]

I hope you'll consider joining us in the private FB Group and attending the 3-day virtual event Don't Retire! ReWIRE this week - May 22, 23, 24. I feel you and understand what you're experiencing. My suggestion is to not DWELL on what may or may not happen in the future, but envision what you want, plan and take action today needed to get there. But, do NOT give your present time to what may or may not happen. When you do, you are envisioning - which is in part, how your future comes into being. Only envision what you want. It's like a radar/GPS.

[@Chris-hp2gg]

Do we ever "figure ourselves out"?😂

[@bold-women]

Hmmm. That's an interesting question. It probably depends a lot on what you mean by "know yourself". What does "know yourself" mean to you? Based on that, do you know yourself?

[@hendriegrant9324]

You seem pretty passionate about trying to figure yourself out after you retire :) Seems you are in the question. Likely something you will show up. Whats the hurry? Fondly

[@bold-women]

Yes, you're right. Something is showing up - Me. Since this video, I moved from Austin, to Charleston, lost a 15 1/2 year 4-legged companion, a 10 year relationship, a long-time love, moved back to Austin, sold 90% of my belongings and am now living in France. No hurry. The universe unfolds as it should. Thank you for your comment.

[@bridgetduemler2718]

I would like the link

[@bold-women]

Bridget, I'm so sorry I didn't realize there were comments here! Please forgive my tech ignorance. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience, Bridget. I hope you'll forgive the delay!

[@jackiebennett3762]

New subscriber and i would love the link

[@bold-women]

OMG, you are one of many comments I was totally ignorant to, Jackie. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@kimcreate1]

What do I need to give you to participate in your meeting?

[@bold-women]

Kim, you may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@survive-1-day-at-a-time]

Great question, I’d be interested in talking it out if you can send me your get together link.

[@lulucly]

Me too!

[@maryschneider8780]

Me three!

[@bold-women]

@user-gp8ud1gc3d - @lulucly - @maryschneider8780 - All three of you!!! and so many more here... I am so sorry for this delay. I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@bold-women]

I hope you see the response below!

[@bold-women]

Did you see the response below?

[@dianacraftydesign]

Retirement scares me 😱

[@bold-women]

Why do you think retiring scares you?

[@gloriagreen1123]

Your viewers might want to look into Friendship Force International.

[@bold-women]

I've not heard of this organization. You're right! It looks wonderful. Thank you.

[@GraceLarche]

Hi. I would like to be part of this conversation, too, please.

[@bold-women]

Grace, you may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@narcissisticgammon4327]

What the f are you talking about, ????

[@bold-women]

Well, I'm talking about falling off a cliff. I'm glad you don't relate. It's a tough experience when you're not expecting it.

[@erinmackesey-topp6156]

My retirement from 45 yrs in healthcare coincided with pandemic lockdown..that was challenging! 4 yrs later I am loving my life. I first had to shed my identity of what I did working..that is not who I am. Then create a healthy non stressful daily routine. Volunteer @ something you LOVE. I work in a town barn 2 mornings a week...a whole new experience. Not rushing is great. Back to exercise @ ymca. Expect the first year to be tough if you were in a demanding profession. Very hard switching gears.

[@winuet]

I would be interested I. The link too please?

[@bold-women]

You may have noticed that I missed several comments requesting the link. I'm so sorry for my tech ignorance!! Managing this new You Tube venture is a learning curve for sure. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience and understanding. I hope to hear from you again.

[@bold-women]

You are so right and your advice is great. I find that the professions I see most coming to me are healthcare and education. Thank you for the comment, Erin.

[@GISELEPOOR]

Please send me the link

[@bold-women]

I'm so sorry I didn't realize there were comments here! Please forgive my tech ignorance. Here's a link to our private Facebook Group - facebook.com/groups/boldwomenredefineretirement Here's a link for information on the 3-day Virtual Event, Don't Retire! ReWIRE, this week, May 22, 23, 24. www.bold-women.com/rewire-may-2024 Thank you for your patience, Gisele. I hope you'll forgive the delay!