Why Isn’t This Girl Married Yet?

[@richardople]

Back in 2004 I began talking to a girl on the phone for the first time, we were slowly getting to know one another. During that call my mom called on the other line and broke the news to me that my father passed away. After hanging up the phone with my mom, I let the girl know what had just happened. She did something that no other girl had done for me ... She asked me if she could pray for me. At that moment I knew God brought someone very special into my life. That was back in 2004. We're now in our 40's ... I'm 44 and she's 42. We've been together for almost 20 years and happily married for 16 years. Together we've built our life, our home, supported each others careers and dreams and most importantly we've been blessed with two beautiful daughters. She introduced me to God and that was the best gift of all and I will love and cherish her for the rest of my life.

[@mrs.garcia6978]

❤😭☝🏻

[@yessir8805]

Sound like a real millennial. Damn our generation still had a little morals.

[@recabitejehonadab2654]

She’s a rare one.

[@amgineco]

may OUR FATHER in HEaven, in the NAME of Iesus, Bless you and your Family !!!

[@SleepyFox4000]

Beautiful 😊 when I was first dating my soon to be fiance (who I was friends with before dating), I was told by God to ask him about a specific thing that I thought was a strange thing to ask, but I did anyway. He broke down in tears asking how I knew that and how he had been wondering how to talk to me about it. I immediately prayed for him through tears with the deepest empathy I've ever felt for anyone. That's when we knew it wasn't just us in our relationship, but God was moving in it too.

[@nicholewilde4750]

Also, I have heard the “don’t date until you’re 30” from parents, professors, teachers etc, my whole life. Maybe we should stop telling young women that.

[@ЕвгенийПершин-е1ь]

You can't do that

[@ftwan5277]

There's a reason why they're saying that. Young people are too dumb to take such responsibility of marrying and having kids. Also my auntie had a child at 40, here is the normal age cause people are healthy and fertile longer than Americans so marrying at 30 is the norm as well

[@latashalea944]

You’re absolutely right and if you think about it, a lot of young women (mostly around 21-35 and probably older) are being mothers before they are wives. Now let that sink in. It’s very sad.

[@bugstomper123]

I agree with this! Growing up, a lot of people said to put your career first and all that. Granted, having a stable job helps with a lot of things, but it shouldn't be such a priority that it prohibits you from finding a spouse

[@Noin007]

@@ftwan5277 "Also my auntie had a child at 40" This is a prime example of using an exception to try to prove a rule. Don't be daft.

[@ConnectionKiller]

Women: "Men, you suck and we hate you, leave us alone" Men: "Okay, guess we'll head out" Women: "I can't believe you've done this"

[@tallgoofyb]

“How dare you!”

[@rajpatel8988]

why is bret reading it like ya that makes sense 🥺

[@jovannicorona9804]

Lmfao couldnt have said it better bro

[@ConnectionKiller]

​@rajpatel8988 yeah and it kinda sounds like she agrees with it

[@therationalistparty9742]

Poor girl missed her chance being brainwashed by feminism.

[@ashleyhenson290]

I got married at 19 and my husband was 20. We started dating at the end of 10th grade. We just celebrated 20 years of marriage and I pray our daughter has a similar path. Nothing like building a whole life together starting from your teens. Every single thing and we have is a result of working together towards a common goal and life for ourselves.

[@SirSwash]

If she thinks most men are ugly then her standards are too high. Most men are average looking by definition, average isn't ugly.

[@WestCoastAce27]

Exactly. The Bell Curve. But women only look at the men in the extreme right side. Even the women in the fat part of the curve themselves. Surveys show women say 80% of men are unattractive. Men - more logical - would say 50% of women. Which is correct.

[@MichaelNVADE]

Fr. Most men are average looking, but average can be insanely attractive. Just like a lot of women. A "mid" girl isn't a bad thing lol.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

She would be average too if she take off all the makeup and turn off that filter. She has that filter set so high she looks artificial.

[@earthstar7534]

Legitimately ugly people are pretty few and far between. I think I only know one or two truly unfortunate looking people that didn't encounter some horrible accident and those you can't count.

[@BajaNortMex]

They should just become scissor sisters and date each other

[@benjaminp9628]

So glad I met my wife in middle school and married her right after college. Saved both of us from a lot of years of bs.

[@nelacaro57]

That’s awesome and sweet!

[@kni9ght]

Good for you guys, making a life where I can get mine

[@StayArtsy]

​@@kni9ghtoff the internet for one....(I hope you do find someone who's right for you^^)

[@kni9ght]

@@StayArtsy me too and same to you

[@zionzenell9807]

This is definely refreshing, I’ve been with my bf for a while now, and we met in 7th grade, I’m hoping we stay strong as well ❤

[@bravowhiskey4684]

“Stop telling me i’m wrong!” No.

[@wvvwwvwvv]

Me Too'ed a little too close to the sun

[@Lawrence_Talbot]

Stop blaming men for everything. Once again Brett says men are the problem/“being trolls” for pointing out the obvious and says we should have pity on these women. These women A) did it to themselves and B) constantly blamed men for their problems, even now. How about learning some accountability instead of blaming “men” for everything wrong in your life.

[@EastsideSILENCER777]

@@Lawrence_Talbot PREACH BROTHER PREACH! Brett has no accountability and still blames men for female falters.

[@balitangkamatis]

you're wrong for not saying you're right.

[@noname-xu7fi]

Why would a guy buy the 1 woman when he can have them all for nothing.

[@martinv.6562]

I am a guy and I feel exactly the same as her. In the last 2-3 years i've done tremendous amount of self improvement: job wise, taking care of myself, confidence wise, flirting skills, hobbies. I have a good stable job, my own car, I work out, cook most of my food, I have hobbies, I go out with people weekly, people always seem to seek my company. Yet, every time I ask someone out, I get told "i like you as a friend" or something similar. Meanwhile, I know guys who cant tie their own shoes, with a family. And almost everyone around me is either in long term relationship or married

[@vanessaguzman7573]

Sheesh that’s crazy you sound like a great guy. I’m trying to as a women also understand why we look over men.. it’s sad. I know I’ve definitely done it. I don’t want to do that anymore, a lot of women are taught what to look for so they look to the world to see what standard. Feminism is so wicked. God help us.

[@aimeeharris4387]

I think it's partly an issue of both high standards and settling, I know when I was in high school I had such a stupid high expectation about what my boyfriend should be and when women go through that and are obviously disappointed after rejecting all the decent guys they kinda end up either thinking much less of themselves (and so accept anyone out of fear/insecurity) or fall for the fantasy while ignoring the issues deeming it as 'fate'. I know for myself I used to be into guys that I met in ways that seemed so romantic but literally ignore all the signs that he a) didn't like me and treats all people the same and b) would not actually be a good boyfriend. So you get rejected for not being the fantasy and then they pick someone much worse

[@Resist.Tyranny]

Just because a young woman says she is ready for marriage does not mean she really is.

[@kelsiebell1710]

I love this! So being ready for marriage and desiring to be married is different. I'm 19 and I'm engaged I've learned everything I can about marriage and what it takes to make it work. So has my fiancee. We have talked to many couples who have been married for a long time. Being ready isn't something that you can be until you have that person by your side because you could know how to be married but do you know how to be married to that person.

[@anastasiya256]

@@kelsiebell1710 that’s a different stage… I’m not sure if you’re confusing the two because you don’t know what it’s like to be ready to be married in general, since you’re still young… By being ready for marriage in general, in my understanding Brett is referring to what she said about being certain in your core values and goals for life. But the caveat is that people’s core values and goals for life can actually change over time 😅 oops! That’s one of the main reasons why people end up getting divorced, from what I’ve heard. People just grow apart, become different persons over time, instead of growing together.

[@kelsiebell1710]

@@anastasiya256 I'm not confused both of those ideas can be considered "being ready" what I said was not wrong and neither is what you said. To be honest many women are not ready for marriage in regards to core values neither are a lot men. But at the end of the day I am a big believer that you can grow together as people. And if you both grow in seemingly different directions that's not always a bad thing. And marriage is about working through that and choosing to love that person. Many many many people seeing growing in different ways as a bad thing but it isn't always.

[@Fernando-y7i]

🕯️🧘🕯️ Also just because a man' wants to stay married and.keep the family together it doesn't mean she does 80 percent proves this according to the stats

[@gwynnapnudd702]

She's going to make some man really unhappy. Just look at all the goop on her face. What if he tries to kiss her and gets poisoned?

[@mystkl]

The first red flag is her posting her meltdown on TikTok.

[@asparrow9876]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👌

[@chilliciouspatrioticmeatlover]

I agree with that sentiment

[@jcarp1776]

Her second is admitting she has a therapist. Always throws up major red flags.

[@Rockoblocko]

They tell on themselves, just sit back and listen.

[@godfatherezio]

TikTock user is an immediate rejection.

[@Rabid_Bonsin]

Met my wife as a Highschool Sophomore. Married her 10 minutes after I turned 18. Celebrating 10 years married in a few months. I am SO GLAD I do not ever have to date in 2024.

[@rcg224]

happy for you ❤ cherish eachother forever .

[@angryflowerchild7849]

I feel this comment I married my highschool sweet heart 7years ago this summer and we talk all the time about how happy we are we met so young so we didn't have to deal with what ever is going on with dating right now. Shiz is wild

[@kaonohiaukai4369]

I hope you still date your wife

[@KGChaos]

Wait so your wedding was at 12:10am?

[@BlessedBeesHomestead2019]

Yes! I was a sophomore in highschool and my husband had graduated the year before. We knew each other already, but we started hanging out the summer before my sophomore year. (Before people freak out TOO much, I was a year behind 😅) we've been together for almost 8 years and married for almost 5. 3 kids, 4 and under 🥰

[@Americanpride555]

“Women refuses all men. Here’s how it’s actually mens fault.”

[@aetank_yyteawu3436]

As a man I accept the blame. I have “NO REGERTS”… 😏

[@DangerZone200]

@@aetank_yyteawu3436 i agree i rather be blamed then be married to one of these tarts! now thats the real nightmare 😱

[@MyRomulos]

Basically the video. 😂 Here are women behaving like men wondering where real men are and why they aren't around at 29 and up. 😂

[@BubbleOfJelly]

I’ve been refused by a lot of men too for living too far, not wanting to have sex before marriage, them not sure if they want to get married in the next five years….

[@helenarichard]

I have a great man but I can still say that 90% of men are fucked up. Like 90% of women, probably.

[@joncarbone]

Women need to understand how much peace is valued. She's attractive so my guess it's her attitude.

[@multivariateperspective5137]

Exactly…. Not looking to be tormented and and being on the end of the whip of her emotions

[@nunosanches3693]

you probably guessed it right, just look at her gestures, she is clearly a feminist

[@theboywonder3011]

Well she's more "I , I , I , ME , ME , MY , MY "

[@winoodlesnoodles1984]

No. She doesn't listen. She lists so many people that have given her good advice and she freely admits that she refuses to listen to them. She just won't listen. Thus she doesn't have relationship and communication skills. She is pump and dump at best. To be fair, she is so damaged and is so full of drama, that I wouldn't even pump.

[@blah6883]

100%

[@daunyel-san]

You said it yourself. You built your life "for yourself." Lesson learned.

[@alexdromero13]

Exactly. No one wants to be an afterthought. Family men will build a life for their future wives and children, whereas modern women build lives for themselves it seems.

[@victorcates9330]

I'd assume that every relationship has an element of compromise and needing skills for communication and problem resolution. As a dude, I can't speak for other dudes necessarily. But I don't have my stuff together. And I'm prepared to admit to a teensiest level of (deep seated, soul-crushing) insecurity. If a dude's thought process is "what can I offer her?", then it seems possible that some dudes might look at your perfect life and feel unnecessary. Liking everything to be just so might also speak to control issues. With me, if I ever did manage to find someone then... first everyone should panic because it's definitely a sign of the apocalypse, but I'd need to make peace with someone else being present - and likely listening to music that I find to have the musicality of caterwauling.

[@Lawrence_Talbot]

Exactly and then she goes on to say us men should be feel bad for these women who became girl bosses. No. That is not our fault they bought into that narrative. It was not us men pushing this. These women only have themselves to blame and other women aka feminism.

[@Tiasung]

@@alexdromero13 Yeah, and women still talk about ''equality'' to men. If they actually wanted to be equal they'd try to build a life for their future husbands and children.

[@davidcox3076]

@@alexdromero13 and for their 23 cats.

[@Adam-i9s]

There are men out here who feel left behind, but we usually out here grinding out a blue collar living and not getting anyone willing to reciprocate

[@YorktownUSA]

Oh yeah, and the college "educated" corporate bitches won't look twice at us. It's fine though, less hassle.

[@EastsideSILENCER777]

I salute you sir.

[@purple-mtn-laurel]

I feel left behind and I work a blue-collar job as an auto mechanic and I'm a woman. Maybe not a very average woman, but sucking it up and focusing on the important stuff (like making sure I can put food on the table for me and my cat 🤣) is the mature way to handle it, probably just not the man's way to handle it.

[@Luke13579]

@@purple-mtn-laurel Men don't normally go for women in blue collar jobs because they are usually masculine

[@scottcrabface5662]

I also think it's important to understand WHY these men have left the dating pool. Men also want to find someone but women have been told that most men are ugly and not worth giving up what they want for.

[@celinedelarosa8228]

I got married at 23 and my husband was 21. I'm turning 30 this year, and a young, engaged couple asked us if we regret getting married so young. I said I honestly can't imagine going through adulthood and learning about life without him by my side. Yup, building a life with someone is so much more meaningful ♡

[@TaylorWright-p7u]

Same, I got married at 24, turned 34 this year. It’s been the best most rewarding 10 years! We’ve grown up together, started a family, gotten through tough health scares together, each year gets better and better. I can honestly say our relationship has grown and deepened so much over the years.

[@JadoreLulu]

I’m 37 and my issue was anxiety and depression. I didn’t believe I was good enough for anyone. I was convinced I would never marry and end up alone. Finally decided to seek the help I needed and lo and behold less than a year later I ended up meeting the love of my life and now we’re engaged.

[@Momofukudoodoowindu]

Awwww. May God bless your marriage ♡♡ Good for you

[@AnnSmajstrla]

Are we the same person?? I’m 32 and didn’t meet a quality, marriage-material man until I was 29. And by marriage material I DO NOT mean “rich,” “hot,” “tall,” etc. … I mean a man who actually treats me like a human being, who doesn’t see me only as arm candy and a thing to fulfill his physical needs. This comment section is sorely lacking in empathy. The notion that women have it so much easier than men when dating for marriage (keywords: for marriage) is simply not true. There are so many guys out there who treat women terribly; and contrary to popular belief, you can’t always immediately tell them from the actual good men. Anyway- I’m so happy that you found your fiance!

[@TheDreamchaser2016]

​@AnnSmajstrla most women have marriage material men in the friend zone because they are not "hot", "tall" or "rich" enough

[@alexsanderivan6511]

God bless ! Very happy for you

[@loganblackwood2922]

​@@AnnSmajstrlaOr, you were attracted to bad boys when most fertile, had your epiphany phase as time was running out as most women do, now in your post party phase years, found the sweet reliable guy you ignored for years and now you're pretending all of the men are awful and you found something precious now. Rather than you chased terrible and finally gave the sweet guy a chance. No wonder men have opted out.

[@BirdHouseBirdy1]

I am 100% Noelle here. Or at least I was. Dating was rough, I had no choice but to pursue a career. Even some of the "red pilled" men I dated shamed me for being a virgin and wanting to be a stay at home mother. I finally found the one at 28. I was devastated that it took that long and I didn't have kids in my 20s. But this is the life that was given to me and I will make the best out of it. I love my husband and am excited to be having our first child at the end of this year.

[@breakpack]

That is crazy they shamed you for being a virgin!? I have mad respect for that! I honestly do not want to date a woman that isn't a virgin. I have not disrespected my potential future wife by laying with another woman, so I want that same core value from her (if I ever find her). Congrats on your first child!

[@arturoromero3166]

Know that you are many a man's dream woman.

[@misscleo_]

Girl same. I still get so much shit for still being a virgin at 29, almost 30... Being introvert makes it worse. The guy I dated when I was 25 called me old virgin and acted weird around me. I tried and tried to date but met so many toxic men. I know I have met the one when our eyes can say "We've met in a past life, and I'm glad we met again." kind of feeling. I have no choice but to live the life I have right now.

[@joshw3010]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! 😁

[@richardy2071]

no red pill man would shame you for being a virgin and wanting to be a SAHM. I call BS

[@minademar]

I was married in 27. I had so many fears around it because I came from a broken family of divorced parents. But I knew I have the MOST incredible reliable mature man in the world, I took a leap and boyyyy was it worth it ❤️ If you are afraid but have a good man by your side, it may be your sign to go for it

[@sarah1957]

Absolutely agree!

[@rcg224]

that's right. happy for you ❤

[@BenLWolf]

Begin the count down to divorce, boys. I hope he has hidden bank accounts.

[@uchi9]

I can very much relate to your comment, I'm very happy you two have each other.

[@Ross-px9iy]

Married in 27 sheesh your either 120 years old or a time traveler 😂

[@stayathomemess]

She wants "love" for her own selfish reasons. She isn't mentioning anything she'd have to bring to a relationship. She doesn't have a clue what work goes into a relationship.

[@jond580]

I think this is where the majority of relationships are starting to break down. If only one side is contributing, it will not last.

[@clave7203]

Ah yes, as a man, I’m ready to be blamed in some way for this.

[@rattales58]

Brett: “they blame men…” Me: “of course” 🤦‍♀️

[@jamese3169]

We're blamed for everything else. I've told my wife I don't k ow who she's going to blame when I'm dead and gone.

[@Diametricallyopposed00]

Nope, it’s women. It’s feminism. It’s ruined the west. 💯 I’m a woman. 😂

[@rivkyweber9374]

@@jamese3169 probably some other guy.

[@jimpanse1638]

Even if im across the globe overseas on the other side of the fing planet: Im to be blamed... 😂 well yes i somewhat suck at life and im not confident about having someone comit to me at all... i would very much like to find a partner and marry her but i think no woman would want me so im out of the dating pool 😂

[@skyraider1656]

I feel so sorry for this woman that it hurts. My late wife and I were married at 20 and 21 respectively. We built a life together that was very rewarding and happy with three children. I lost her 15 years ago and though I still miss her, I have been able to find love again even at 78.

[@witnessfox3509]

I really don't get people who post their breakdowns online for everyone to see. I get annoyed when a website asks for my phone number and yet some people are comfortable posting their life story for the whole world.

[@the1972bulldog]

At least you get to see them at their best 😂😂😂

[@sakurazukamorisubaru]

I'm quite private myself, but I assume they reach out to people for comfort or solution. It's not that scary if you are not alone, also someone might know how to solve your problem or shares similar experience.

[@user-jv5pp8pv9l]

​@sakurazukamorisubaru They just want attention. If you're truly reaching out, you go to people you know. You don't post it on social media.

[@spencerd8504]

"get annoyed when a website asks for my phone number" same.

[@BoMwarriorVlog]

​@@sakurazukamorisubaru I think you're on the right track. My first impression of this video Brett is sharing is it's a cry for help. 🧐 I have lifelong MDD and it's incredibly frustrating to know what you want to do, know what finishline you're striving for, yet feel stuck because the options you've tried in the past didn't work. Yelling into the void for suggestions (mixed with a little comforting motivation) is all such a desperate person can think of. 😮‍💨 The mind is clouded by stress and warped by worry. Therefore a voice from a kind stranger who can have a fresh perspective is the prayer I've had at times. ...For myself for now I've settled for a few friends to talk to, and in the past few months God's blessed me with that at least. 🤷

[@rebeccanorth8896]

I’m 32 and not married. I’m not happy with it. But I 100% know why and what I don’t wrong. And a big part of it was the Lords protection. Because I would rather be single than stuck in a marriage that didn’t work or we were miserable

[@quiproquoJu]

exactly this! I am 30 and when I look behind, it was God's grace, I could even be alone now if I had married who I intended to at 22... And it is a real blessing that I had those last years to know better myself, know what I want and also grow toward marriage. People wrote that "it is easy for a woman to find someone to marry if she wants to"... yeah but to marry a good man, who is mature and responsible, who is able to take the responsibilities that marriage implies, and also for both of them to find common goals and have a good friendship/ "vibe" (I don't know how to call it in English) in their relationship, share values, etc. it's not that easy anymore.

[@that1guy568]

It takes two to tango. I’m 25 and I have had one date in going on five years now. And it’s not to the lack of trying. I want to sympathize with women. I want a wife, I want to give someone a home, children, and the world, but all I get is “you’re a great guy and I see you as a friend.” I’m not going to force a woman to do anything. So I’m stuck.

[@1libra.]

I feel that, granted I'm only 19 and headed on a mission trip soon, but its hard even at a university of likeminded people because its just hard. even when nothing should be in the way. And trusting in God's timing is hard too

[@sara_sofia_1984]

I feel for you. One thing that very few people are talking about is that the most important factor in physical attraction for women is pheromones. Pheromones are determined by genetics - we are attracted to a compatible genetic match - which is rare. So my advice for men is to keep meeting new women until you find someone who feels that strong pheromone attraction towards you. It's a matter of statistic probably to find that person, keep trying, don't get discouraged ❤️

[@tomliemohn624]

I'm there.

[@spiff1]

because youre lame bro

[@skinnyguy7773]

Yep they are all waiting for hot guy chad

[@ninahowell6550]

She said she's happy but then she breaks down. Honey, I don't think you're happy. I think you've tried to convince yourself you are. You might need to think about someone other than yourself. Start there. Guys don't want someone that only thinks about themselves.

[@StayArtsy]

That's the entire reason true love is hard to find these days. True love is sacrificing for the other person, and the narrisicit people these days can't stand giving something up for someone else.

[@itznoah-live6881]

Nah not fair, somebody happy can have periods of sadness and vice versa. A moment in time is not their entire life

[@msovaz77]

You can be a happy person and still be frustrated. Come on

[@ElenasDad]

If this was a man crying in his car about not finding a women, he would be clowned all over the internet.

[@JagerTRL]

​@ElenasDad Exactly! We just take the beating, have a beer with a buddy and move on. Simple as that 🤣

[@nathandrake1447]

Breaking News: Women Are Single, Experts Say It's Men's Fault

[@theboywonder3011]

You probably found the next big news title

[@dnagremory5626]

It's crazy not one single one wants to take accountability.

[@Googleistheantichrist]

When women find 80% of men unattractive, it’s obvious that it’s the man’s fault 🤦‍♂️. He’s a godly man but he’s short, no good. He’s an excellent provider, but he’s bald. Obviously worthless

[@johndeaux3703]

Breaking News: Men Are Single, Women most affected

[@yaboyjosh3023]

This is just our monthly reminder

[@ashleynobin2938]

I feel for this girl. It took me years to finally meet my husband. I was 27 when we finally met. Up until that point I had gone on a few dates but nothing really worked out. I think a lot of people are being too critical on her, just because you met someone at a younger age or have an easier time finding someone doesn't mean that is the same case for everyone. And I remember when all of my friends got married and how much it sucked, I was really happy for them, but I missed seeing them, and kept wondering when I would meet someone. I know several people in their thirties who have still not met their significant other and I feel for them too. It ain't easy, but I believe it's also on God's time. Sometimes you just have to patient, which can be frustrating.

[@maiaatkinsschalchlin2075]

I found my husband online at 27. We were both pretty "set in our ways". It turns out when you are both humble and looking out for each other's best interests you both change for the better and create something amazing that neither of you could have imagined. 💕

[@CooliWurscht]

Guys, a girl invited me to her church and i plan on asking her on a date. Wish me luck Edit: I have known her since September 2023, when we went on a school trip sailing a week in the Netherlands, so she isn't somebody I don't really know.

[@alissakain9302]

Good luck! Praying it goes well!

[@BasedPhilosophyMom]

GOOD LUCK!

[@asparrow9876]

That's a reformed 304.

[@carpentermic1]

Make sure she's not a born again.

[@Alison2436]

good luck!!

[@alcredeur]

My generation was basically encouraged to "grow up" before marrying and having kids. The problem is that getting married and having kids IS PART of growing up.

[@EthanWillingham]

And generally, the "growing up" that is recommended is the complete opposite of actually growing up, so then ya gotta make up for that lost ground to boot.

[@harsectinal]

Nailed it.

[@rbssls]

Is it necessary to have kids and form a family to grow up? Sounds more like a cultural obligation.

[@MainframeSupertasker]

there's a billion problems you need to solve after marriage. solving problems is growing up

[@mkrstn]

Well said

[@JACKWEASEL]

I got married 12 years ago and I did not understand what my parents meant when they said it will be the hardest thing you can do but if you do it right it’s also the best thing you can do. Work hard at your marriage like you would a job or education and it will take care of you. I hope everyone is having a good day!

[@NikosM112]

Sounds hard. I don't like that. Guess I'm going to have to live and die alone without ever experiencing romantic love ever. rip

[@Jordanthecool7]

I agree. As a guy I also gotten the same advice to just “ focus on yourself and the right person will come around “. For some reason people just assume that you can just easily meet someone without actively looking. This type of advice in my opinion is one of the reasons why you see so many young single people . That alongside other things like people only talking about negative things of the opposite gender , ect.

[@marianaquintanilla1603]

I agree with you, but to me the man should observe the women in his sorroundings to see if one stands out to pursue. In the case of women, to me at least it's hard to make the first step as I would wait for the man to do so. Plus I'm always at work, so we will see if I end up married or not, The Lord will tell in His timing not mine. I would advise for you to have girl friends that are older than you to "be comfortable" around the opposite sex and the right girl will eventually come up, at least that's what I would like to think. Best of luck!!

[@Jordanthecool7]

@@marianaquintanilla1603 thanks for the advice 👍💙

[@Jonathan-hx6oy]

My experience has been the best relationships in my life happened organically when i wasn't "looking" every woman i pursued thru dating means turned out to be dumpster fires.

[@rachii6687]

​@@Jonathan-hx6oy I feel ya too. Best friendships and relationships in general happened to me naturally. 😊

[@orion_x-000]

I thought the same, that working on myself will somehow make a partner spawn into my life, like as if I unlocked her through my real life level and stats lol. That mindset put one of my closest friendships in jeopardy, thinking me and them would become a thing after helping them through some tough stuff. Damn...

[@melaniehancock2210]

I got married at 19. My husband and I have built our lives TOGETHER. Now 11 years and 4 kids later, we are happy, settled, and never really had a life outside each other. WE are set in stone, plural. Why people have been advising others to set their lives up completely alone, I’ll never know. It all seems extremely selfish to me, and now look where these poor 20 somethings are. Miserable and alone.

[@catherinewetzel417]

Good for you! We didn’t get married quite as young as you but 10 years in July, 6 kiddos and still going strong. We basically were up together from our early adult years to now. 😊❤

[@edwardsantoyajr6322]

That is the life❤❤❤ bless that marriage with many more yrs to come and many healthy kiddos,,, I'm single lol I put a strain to society lolol you peeps keep it going lol ❤❤

[@adararelgnel2695]

I got 4 kids in just over 3 years. Lol. I live in chaos right now, it is the most fun I've ever had in my life!! 4 kids aged 3 and under!!

[@jennifertwede7142]

Yay!! It only gets better😃 I got married at 19, have three kiddos, and we just celebrated our 31st anniversary! I couldn’t have said it better myself👏❤️

[@BikesandMusic]

Ladies, you give real men hope that there's still decent ladies out there. Thank you.

[@cdgmalone]

I got married right out of high school and so many people gave me a hard time about it. We’ve been married almost 20 years and it’s been so nice growing up together.

[@markymarknj]

I watched a few of this young woman's TikToks, and she said that she was in two long term relationships in her 20s; she said that they both cheated and ended badly. She also said that she was in a situationship at one point.

[@GiasJulii]

Ok my big issues with the women's statement she's reading is this. They first assume all men to be the same and lump them entirely into a group. I have 5 sons from 40 to 31 (ones adopted before anyone ask) and they are all different, so how are 150 million of us the exact same when my 5 sons are so different? Next, they say the women have fewer good guys to choose from. I am sorry this is princess mentality, you see it all the time, 5's thinking they are 10's. The woman that was saying that about men being unattractive I would bet is never seen without make up and full glam yet wants to slam men for being "ugly". The whole "queen" mindset is one thing that really turns so many men off. You are not a queen you are not a princess you're a woman with flaws just like I am a man with the same. Another thing they kept bringing up was "not making enough" I am sorry I never dated a woman in my life that I asked her what she made before the date. Personally, it's the person I am dating not her bank book. My fiancée makes more at her job than I do mine almost about 50% more. I also have an Army retirement that we don't touch, now this woman would look at my checks now and go uh not enough, while I am putting away almost 3 times what I earn each month from my Army money. So, in short that "ugly" book she so quickly wrote off may contain the most beautiful poetry ever written but she won't know because she didn't like the cover.

[@bjay347]

🙌🏿👍🏿💯

[@chilliciouspatrioticmeatlover]

Ya nailed that on the head really damn well. I could not have said it any better.

[@dcarvalho6144]

I agree. They have stupidly high standards, and like to pretend that what they ask for, is basic stuff. When height becomes a deal breaker, or how much money you make, or whatever stupid criteria, it clearly is a problem with their standards. It's one thing to have as a requirement, being attracted to the guy, it's another when they nitpick on everything, and are expecting straight up perfection. That statement had one thing right, women get their standards from princess movies, but also from social media, romantic comedies, music, and so on. It's a fantasy that sets them up for failure, where they have this primary requirement to find a guy who is pretty much a "prince".

[@dirtyace1668]

Very well said! Totally agree.

[@taryndancer29]

Yeah exactly like there's lovely and not so lovely in both genders. I've met great men, I've met crappy men. I've met great women, I've met crappy women. Generalizing is never a good thing.

[@ashtonback1713]

29 male here, my single life is peaceful bliss. Whenever I’ve tried relationships I’ve been absolutely rolled over by young slags in their ‘prime’. I’ve not experienced a true relationship and yet I’ve been left repeatedly heartbroken. Modern social media and feminism has destroyed the mind of the young woman.

[@PatronHall]

This is what women don't realize. They are in competition with peace and peace is kicking their collective ass.

[@PatronHall]

@QNK591 We understand that not all women are like that. The issues is that the culture went too far with divorce law and #metoo. We warned ya'll to reign it in and keep it fair and due process but too many women wanted to get the bag. Now many women are entitled and those that aren't don't feel comfortable differentiating themselves in society. It's not that every women will ruin you, it's that every woman can, and if she tries, society doesn't gaf. So much easier to manage peace on our own until this situation hits rock bottom.

[@L4A1D1Y]

@@PatronHall😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@anastasiya256]

@@PatronHall I think there have always been these “lone wolf” type men who just don’t want the “drama” typically associated with being married / in a relationship with women…

[@anastasiya256]

@@PatronHall also, in regards to #metoo, the ideas of consent have gone too far, as Jordan Peterson points out… consent has ruined sex 😂 🪦

[@lqstar]

I met my hubby at 19, he was 24 and this was in 2009 when the economy was going to sh*t. Neither one of us was looking for anything serious but it quickly did. He didn’t have much money that wasn’t what I was looking for. We clicked and I told him I want to be at stay at home mom. He work his *as off to become the man he is today and be able to provide for our family. Women today want the whole package at once and make the mistake of not growing with someone. I would be happy with my husband if we were poor - which we were for the first few years. But the love he has for me has pushed him to be a great provider and I still get my best friend who I love and grew with. We need to bring the Skater Boy song back. Good lessons to be learned.

[@rcg224]

skater boy ? 😂

[@barrettorth8413]

@@rcg224 The song she's referring to is "skater boi" by avril lavigne

[@addiebillinghurst2012]

It is GROWING together. Ten years married here and the ups and downs have been crazy, but it brings you together more. You certainly don't marry the whole package immediately. What a privilege to be able to see your spouse grow, or your spouse to see you grow!

[@Fernando-y7i]

🕯️🧘🕯️you are a very rare woman' and your husband is very blesses 🙏because woman today' feel entitled to having there 🍰 and eating it to

[@ufokemo]

No Bret. Don't try to blame men for women 'not finding men".

[@josephbenz4913]

She spends the entire video comparing herself to others. She doesn’t want a relationship. She wants to win. She wants to get someone as good or better than her friend’s fiancés/husbands. If she does get married, it will end in divorce. Women like her will never be satisfied.

[@M16-bf4ku]

true. Women often subconsciously compete with their peers. This is the reason they want bfs who are taller, richer, etc. than their friend's bfs

[@huffepuf3066]

True!

[@ЕвгенийПершин-е1ь]

Idk, my wife friends envy her that we still together and don't argue... People say I'm a catch, but I'm not a Chad or alpha in any means... I was surprised how people look on you, if only you try to be little tactile in public with your woman. Other women go crazy looks if I touching my wife hair or randomly massage her shoulders for 3 seconds, and it's just my hands live their own lives...

[@debbie7259]

@@ЕвгенийПершин-е1ь Exactly! My husband is definately NOT a Chad! 5'3" and is shorter than me. He doesn't go to the gym and doesn't make 6 figures. He's definately a regular guy from everyone's perspective, but to me he's the most hansome I've ever seen! And, yeah, he's a catch because of his character and integrity. Also, the fact that he only had a girlfriend 14 years before we met and he didn't sleep around was very attractive to me. When we met he was manly in the sense that he didn't play games with me. He knew exactly what he wanted. And we were honest with each other about family, having kids etc. from the first date.

[@brianthesnail3815]

Yes, I think you hit the spot there. Whatever happened to just falling in love with someone you can build a life with. A lot of these videos sound like people looking for a job promotion and being unhappy when that dream job doesn't appear.

[@annonymouslibertairian9120]

Ladies. Don't call it "settling". Call it "developing a realistic view of where you stand on the dating market, and understanding the pool of men that are avaliable to you for more than sex."

[@ShaferHart]

This. In reality they aren't settling, settling implies they could get better but willingly chose worse when in fact they could not get a better mate.

[@shoopdawhoop8730]

Any woman who claims to have settled has in reality been settled for in my eyes... If you have such a shit character to say that about your partner you sure as hell don't deserve him.

[@zayinseven7923]

its the "Mirror mirror on the wall" telling them that they are NOT the fairest one of all and they HATE IT. So instead they PROJECT that hate and call it settling. the person they've "settled for" is the mirror of themselves and they can't handle that reality.

[@Mina-hm2og]

We have an expression in my country for settling "Putting water in your wine", and thus it being diluted and not so tasty anymore. I do not believe in settling in your relationships. I do believe though in a)recognizing that by not doing so you may end up without a relationship ,and b) taking responsibility for your actions and not blaming others.

[@shoopdawhoop8730]

@@Mina-hm2og Excuse me?! are you hating on what we call "Weinschorle"?! It's nice and refreshing!

[@Love2DrawManga]

I had really bad social anxiety that made it so I didn't join the dating scene when I was in my early 20s. I kept waiting to become the "perfect person" one that didn't have anxiety, that was strong and could do things on her own. I felt like I needed to have all my stuff together before anyone could love me. But when I was 26, I joined a dating site and after talking with many guys and almost giving up I found my husband. Through our relationship I learned that my anxiety doesn't make me unlovable. Since the beginning my husband was always supportive and understanding of my anxiety. With him by my side I have done so much more than I ever thought I would, it's amazing how having someone to be there with you can help so much. So, to the person reading this, yes, it's good to work on yourself, but you don't have to wait until "you are perfect" to start dating. 💖

[@gratefullyliving6576]

Good advice 👌

[@littleleafyleaf]

That’s inspiring for me, I have anxiety too and feel that way sometimes about finding the right man. Which dating site did you decide to use?

[@Love2DrawManga]

@@littleleafyleaf I ended up using eHarmony since I liked how in-depth it went. I almost gave up on it because it felt like it wasn't working, but thankfully I met my husband before that happened, haha!

[@Maarks91]

Brett cooper: Women wants to get married! Also Brett: You cant excpect women to settle for anything but the best type of man!

[@internettearsandglory]

She’s not wrong. And she also said women should have standards. If more women didn’t give men anything they wanted then men would have something worthy to go after and protect. But there’s always women out there who would sleep with taken or married men. Women who stray from their relationships & go on breaks just to end up back with the ex who doesn’t really respect her. And hookup culture, dating apps where people are using fast easy s3x for validation or thinking it will bond them together

[@ab-gail]

The best type pf man: shares your morals, has a job, loves you.

[@Maarks91]

@@ab-gail and is also 6 feet, earns 200k a year, owns a house and car.

[@IMDunn-oy9cd]

She should marry a bear.

[@theboywonder3011]

Problem solved 😌

[@theAzeo]

True

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

grizzle grizzle

[@Darkkent83]

Yo 🤣😂🤣😂 FACTS

[@devilgames2217]

🤣👍

[@JakeFilkeystudios]

I’m a single man. I live in California , about 80 miles from the Bay Area. I’m healthy. Mentor kids. Good with money. Built a beautiful life. But, anytime I’ve invited different women into my life-they bring chaos. Or, they are not ready for a union with a man. I’ve heard a lot, “You know, I’ll never cook for you” or “I’m not changing for anyone” or “I’m not going to be your slave” or “I’m not going to let a baby ruin my body.” One time I showed up to take someone on a romantic date. She was wearing a hoodie. I was clear that the Resturant had a dress code. Her reply, “This is me. I’m not going to change for anyone.” An obvious test to my fortitude. She’s still alone to this day. All these women went to church. A few months ago I went to lunch with a woman that liked me. As we talked she said this: “You know, I’ve thought about you and I. I think I could really be a help to you. But, you’ll never domesticate me. I can’t have children. I’ve worked really hard in my career. You’ll always have healthcare. But, I’ll never leave what I’m doing for you.” It was one of the strangest conversations. It reminded me of the 80’s movie “Cherry 2000.” I asked, “Is that your offer. I’m sorry, but that’s not what I’m looking for.” This is a common experience not just me. I’ve spoken to much younger men who are currently having the same experience. I know women are saying these things on camera, but what they are doing in real life is very different.

[@miguelben610]

Passport, Philippines

[@jurassicthunder]

cons be like: man up and marry these 304s.

[@Kmb33831]

That is CRAZY!

[@ntxawmyaj347]

Wow, seriously ..? Don't get me wrong, I can see women saying those things (not fully realizing what kind of impression they are giving by saying such things). Women only say those things to mean "I do not want to be taken advantage of". It's not that she doesn't want to marry, have kids, etc (unless she truly/unmovably states it's not in her future plans). Some women probably would change their minds if they truly knew they had a strong, dominant man that could convince them they can be a good caretaker/leader in the home.

[@elaineweaver12]

I’m so sorry for what is going on around you, and I commend you for still pursuing love!! As an engaged woman, if I know one thing about love in this broken world, is that it must be pursued in the way God intended it to be. So continue to pray and seek the Lord first, and he will reveal your wife to you! Love and patience through the Holy Spirit will be your guide through singleness and courting and marriage. All you need is one 😊😊 God bless you, Jesus loves you!! 🙌🏾

[@mav4516]

I do t want a girl who’s built her own life, I want a girl who wants to build a life WITH me

[@katwaugh1686]

True. She is essentially asking for a wife to slip into her life, not a husband to build a new life with.

[@mittengrandma807]

I agree. Unfortunately, both men and women have been badgered into not marrying young. Parents say, go to college, get a good job, buy a house, yada, yada, yada. Under the guise of not struggling. But the struggle is what binds a couple together! I wish more couples would get married younger and STRUGGLE!❤️

[@crismotionproduction3519]

Until the divorce

[@isaiasherrero7889]

exactly!

[@joser_1295]

Facts

[@Flamepwnz]

Most men aren’t ready to get married “young”? How young? In their 20’s? Most men are not “ ready” by women’s expectations today. They want an exceedingly exceptional man who can provide at 25. Woman expect a 25 year old man have what normally a 35+ man would have, in an exceedingly more difficult economic landscape. I would say most women want what they can’t have, or aren’t the same as their grandmothers or great grandmothers were as they married young and built a life together. My grandmother and grandfather, married had 6 children. Both involved WORKED in education and were straight up middle class. Modern women aren’t my grandmother.

[@carlbarrows2487]

Preach!

[@Cliffy_Boy]

I wanted to be a husband and a father so badly that I lost 106 pounds, read TONS of books, meditated, worked on my emotional intelligence and self improvement, all to be told I'm too ugly for my goals. That's what men who try deal with.

[@AnnaWestfalia]

I'm sorry for the struggle. Please, don't give up. Many women are shallow and focus on looks, but not all. If you have good character and a warm personality it's a matter of showing up enough. Seriously, when someone who's beautiful on the inside gets a chance to shine their personality becomes them in the outside somehow and they become the most attractive person. Kinda like the girls who are gorgeous on the outside, but later reveal how wicked they are on the inside. They are no longer beautiful but repulsive. Just Said a prayer for you. ❤️

[@realIronKnight]

I’m 19 and that finding that someone has just become a distant dream. Doesn’t help by the fact that people in our generation just flat out suck; everyone’s so glued to their phones and so focused on themselves that it’s hard to connect anymore when I feel like I’m one of the only people who still has hope and confidence for themselves and my own dreams. As much as I’d like to find a girl to share my dreams with, unfortunately that’s just not happening lol.

[@niallk9336]

@@AnnaWestfalia Thoughts & Prayers™™

[@niallk9336]

@@AnnaWestfalia Thoughts & Prayers™™

[@tonydiesel3444]

Looks an height are 1# sorry

[@Jaredpoth]

Man that one girl talking about men being ugly and not having anything to offer and that we should probably be more like Disney characters is... Really out of touch.

[@defeqel6537]

some women have a very difficult time understanding that they aren't princesses

[@billusher2265]

they will act baffled men don’t want to commit than point to things like that as reasonable, imagine committing to someone like that.

[@David-tp7mc]

(doctor)

[@larry5272]

She wants to be a princess but doesn't want to act like one.

[@nicelypenn]

It's literally why many men check out. Imagine being married to that.

[@taraosborne4559]

Women have been falsely told to build an independent successful life instead of being encouraged to find a good supportive man. I’m teaching my daughter both. But tell her most important to find a good partner to build a family with. Family is far more important than an employment title.

[@alandrian]

Men have said the opposite but are called misogynistic for saying it. Now being called all sorts of other things because she listened to the other people. The most ridiculous thing is women constantly say what men want and other women listen but if a man says what he/we want he is wrong and or evil.

[@Ribbitplease]

Why can’t you do both? Imagine if you don’t build a career for yourself - and you get married with a man who completely shatters you. Then what? You’ll be living on the streets. With a career, at least you have a safety net to fend for yourself. Can’t believe this needs to be explained to people.

[@Ribbitplease]

@@alandrian what? You’re blabbering.

[@Locksden]

@@Ribbitplease It's a valid view. No one will object to your assuming the worst as a life strategy. But on point for this video: you have to plan for the consequences of your decisions. Time cannot be reversed, and _"there's no cure for regret"._

[@Ribbitplease]

@@Locksden Exactly. You have to plan for the consequences of your decisions. What’s the worst that can happen in both scenarios? 1. The worst that can happen if you marry but don’t have any career to fall back on is: you end up completely shattered and heartbroken, alone, and left out on the streets with nothing and no money to fend for yourself. 2. The worst that can happen if you do have a career but didn’t find a partner is: a financially ok life, but feeling lonely. You could also have a cat or dog. I encourage young women to look for a proper man to spend their life with. But it shouldn’t come at the expense of not having a net to fall on if the worst happens. Why are we encouraging this for young girls and making it seem “trendy” to focus only on getting a husband claiming having a career was a “falsely led life”? Everyone SHOULD have the ability to be self sufficient and independent.

[@chrisn1710]

You get what you get, and you don't throw a fit. Welcome to "equality."

[@thunderbird982]

The men that are leaving dating are not leaving because they don’t want women, they are leaving because women don’t want them.

[@nunosanches3693]

80% of man are invisible to them, i know this becouse im one of them, and i get rejection after rejection and im not even ugly probably a 6/10, and guess what if they knew how big my bank account was they would probably beg me to date them XD

[@rajpatel8988]

but ones that are in are mostly fucking around so what difference does it make ?

[@wizeguy2388]

BOOM THIS. I'm a 5'4 man, not white, not rich. I am godly though. I wonder if her eager-for-marriage friends are still interested knowing this...

[@gwennvy]

No, it’s because they can see through your personality. I know you’re not a good person because of your previous comment where you won’t date anyone over 25 but want a wife and kids. (And you’re 30…)

[@bebdaumon3948]

@@nunosanches3693 same...lol however, I am happy being single. I have friends that are married some got divorces and their woman like treat them like shit. They make them do so much not just work but a lot of work and still don't recognized that they're doing a lot and don't need to be yelled at or argumentative.

[@bethlochrie5639]

I do feel for her. I had a horrible marriage in my early 20s that lasted only 6 months. I vowed to never marry again. And I lived a great life for many years perfectly happy. Then out of the blue I met the perfect man for me in my mid 40s. We have now been married for 7 years and I couldn't be happier. I am so blessed. I never felt sorry for myself. I never cried in my car. I never envied those around me. I trusted in God. And at the right time, I met the one man He had picked out for me. Live your life with happiness and love. You are right where you should be! God bless ♥️

[@mikebalentine]

This is why in the past male family members would vet the man because the data is in, young women do not choose well. Societies where this is the norm almost all marriages are successful.

[@mr.fettesq.7705]

I'd have to agree that young women are bad at choosing men. Which includes letting go of the good ones.

[@jasono2139]

Funny how "trusting in God" magically "solved" your problem... I guess God just "oopsied" that first one? ...nevermind that God doesn't condone re-marrying except for "death do you part"... ... but DETAILS, amirite?! 🤷

[@nariman7458]

In mid 40s? Do you even have children with that man? What's the point in it for him?

[@ErezElene]

​@@nariman7458Are you saying that men only marry in order to procreate? Children are great and all,but that just sounds like a birthing fetish or something. Marriage is between a man and woman who love each other first and foremost

[@heybrowhatup]

Is she trying to stay unmarried? This is an advertisement for men to stay far away from her. She also looks like Rachel Zegler.

[@beliber6681]

Shes j sharing her issues. Ik oversharing is prolly not the best idea, but its such a common thing nowadays w social media, ppl dont even think twice about doing or seeing it. Also w a topic like this, she might want to share her experience to help others.

[@JBMorris9]

"... she also looks like Rachel Zegler" 😂😂😂

[@jpt610]

​@beliber6681 yea but there's still ways to communicate your point without sounding crazy. She sounds crazy.

[@hoopandhands3328]

@@beliber6681 Actually it's been said that if a guy finds out that a woman, especially grown ones like 27+ have tiktoks, they generally react negatively and move on. Theres hundreds of women on there complaining about that very thing.

[@asparrow9876]

And now it's on the internet forever

[@richardy2071]

i love how you are still blaming men. 'i understand why you're checking out, but my friends want a man so get back to it'.

[@sorrykhary]

At what point do you ask "do men want what I am offering?" or "why are so many men checking out of dating?"

[@theAzeo]

Woah are you asking them to take accountability?

[@WestCoastAce27]

This. While women will be upset that we’re using the ‘product’ and ‘marketplace’ references… that’s what it is. Or we could go with sports/competitions… and she’s just losing. We men learn about losing early - these women have had it so easy their whole lives. When tough times and setbacks happen, they crumble.

[@houseofhas9355]

Reflection. How are you mate!

[@asparrow9876]

STOP NOTICING PATTERNS!! WHEN IN DOUBT, JUST BLAME MEN!!! 💁‍♀💁🏻‍♀💁🏼‍♀💁🏽‍♀💁🏾‍♀💁🏿‍♀

[@newdivide9882]

Having hung around mostly female spaces for the last few weeks, I can say your second question is my biggest takeaway. Women won’t ask why men do what we do or think the way we think. They’d rather invent reasons that somehow make them victims. Even of men alone in their rooms minding their own business. And yeah, not all women do this, but A LOT on social media do

[@josephkeegan319]

I feel some of her pain. Next month I’ll be 33, and besides a brief few weeks with someone last year, there’s really nothing else to mention. People all over the world don’t get along for so many different reasons, expecting to find someone you can live with and share life with just feels impossible. At this point, I just try to be thankful I have a good job, food, and a roof over my head. Good luck everyone, with whatever you’re looking for.

[@sxsx5951]

I need a woman who can cook for me. If she can't or won't do that, I don't need her.

[@ThrdSonofSparda]

You as well stranger.

[@imaginyas]

😍❤❤❤❤

[@Mina-hm2og]

You have a point there. Yes, having someone special to share your life with is amazing, but if cannot find him/her try to make your life good and be thankful for the good things you have, not spend your time crying and miserable.

[@russby3554]

Funny thing is, men I know have the exact same experience. I had the same experience until i randomly ran into the woman I'm now dating. Men feel like they can't talk to a woman without risking harassment claims. Men are vilified for being too manly but are ridiculed for being too feminine. And when a man gets hurt or reaches out, so often he's slapped down and told "man up." It's not a one side issue here. I've heard every single one of those pieces of advice and my responses were the same. But with the culture the way it is, I don't see things improving.

[@Swearengen1980]

It improves by not being a bitch and letting the minority of women on social media emasculate you or change your attitude. Men let themselves be emasculated by this nonsense. Men in real life don't get accused of harassment for approaching a woman, that's tiktok bullshit. Most women are flattered. I'm a redneck currently living in a life wing University town so my odds of approaching a person with values was low. Sometimes I'd do it while wearing boots and an AR-15 or Redneck Nation shirt....and no one was ever rude to me, nor accused me of harassment. Repeating this BS narrative that social media pushed as a way to continue to divide us and turn men into pansies worked. You are correct about the "man up" thing and it's not healthy. Dax's song "To Be a Man" can be strongly accurate, to a degree.

[@RoseBaggins]

Yeah, I agree, I think it goes both ways. The gender war did its job and has separated men and women, making each other seem even more alien than before. Thus making it harder for those who are seriously looking to get married.

[@russby3554]

@RoseBaggins and the question is: how do we heal that divide? Can it be healed? I was watching Louder with Crowder the other day and something he said was he held the door for a woman just trying to be nice. She smiled and thanked him and he mentioned that depending on where he is, it's a 50/50 if the woman will say thank you or "I can do it myself!" It's sad how a simple kind gesture to a stranger can now be seen in such a negative light.

[@RoseBaggins]

@@russby3554 just like everything that has been built, it will take time, determination, hard work, and perseverance. And one interaction at a time. I am one of those women who say thank you when the door is held open for me. In fact, I quite like the gesture, but then, I am an old soul of a romantic. I will admit I have picked up some bad habits over the years that are hard to break, but making progress. That's all it is, one step at a time.

[@russby3554]

@RoseBaggins I've been seeing a girl for just over a month now. The first few dates I brought her flowers. She was so surprised by that and loved that a guy would just bring her flowers on a date.

[@tann_man]

you're wrong on the "more women are ready for marriage" There was a recent poll that found for the first time in recorded history young men desire marriage more than young women.

[@Twotone-ld1fb]

The problem is with the destruction of family's and the lack of fathers being active partners in raising children more and more young men are being raised by women only and take much longer to learn to be men.

[@tann_man]

@@Twotone-ld1fb for the first time in history more men are ready for marriage than women. "the problem is men" OK...

[@Elisarrrr]

women are being brain washed into not wanting kids and a husband bc of feminists

[@scu8ast3v3_88]

I’m a 35 year old man. Never married, no kids, veteran, good with my hands, great job that pays very well, own my own home, car, two dogs. I can’t find a feminine, fit, friendly, godly women that wants to be a wife and mother. The dating world is screwed and there is a generation of lost souls that are going to be very lonely.

[@purplered-eq5of]

Indeed my friend. Stay strong!

[@miguelben610]

I can't say it enough. Get your passport. Get out of the US. Find a traditional woman who wants to have kids in a family gio in The Philippines

[@MomoAfterDark]

Go outside the country.

[@Lilacskynile]

I'm from Sweden, feels the same over here. 24 years old and therefore, gen Z. Please, apologizes from me, for my whole generation of women 😅

[@jimbohi3648]

Exactly what I did bro getting married in Tacloban on August 23rd ​@@miguelben610

[@FernandoCruz-np9ev]

She’s that type of girl that rejects every Guy who asks her out

[@flacsmada]

100 percent

[@SaxaboomJamz]

Yup

[@samuel-west]

There are at least 5 guys (that she my or may not have friendzoned) that know her that saw her tiktok and proceeded to punch a hole in the wall

[@Scorpiotwinnk]

Because 90% of men are red flags and hate women😂

[@pridefall3304]

@@samuel-west if they proceeded to punch a hole in the wall, then she was right to reject them

[@chumdog6060]

As people say to men when they say things like this you're not "entitled to a relationship"

[@italopaula]

Women on the internet, “How dare you say I’m looking forward to my life as a wife!” Also women on the internet, “How come nobody wants to wife me up!”

[@chaphil1]

She said even her THERAPIST told her she's doing wrong.

[@death_anima]

It doesn't matter who tells you the truth, either can be a scientist with 20yrs of experience in human behavior or can be your best friend, if you are a foolish and victimist, everyone is wrong except for you.

[@joaquin67]

And women complain about men not going to therapy. Not listening is the same shit lol

[@sakurazukamorisubaru]

We don't know what the therapist said tho. Maybe it was something about "love yourself first" or "focus on self-improvement" which clearly doesn't work for her.

[@JustMeeZZ]

Nothing wrong with working with (key word is working) with a good therapist.

[@aetank_yyteawu3436]

The part where she says “I need…” she briefly stops and realizes she can’t say man because it’s not part of the plan. So instead of man she proceeds to say love. It’s like bruv, you have love from your family, friends, dog, and hell maybe even your therapist. It’s hilarious how today women struggle so much with saying “I need a man”. I have never heard men say “I don’t need a woman”, although they are saying “I don’t want a woman”. Which in my opinion it’s worse because the only need they would have is the need for s*x since they don’t actually want one. Sad future ahead.

[@Nabinut]

It's hard to feel empathy when it's the same thing every time. Woman complains/cries on camera talking about how bad it is being single. But never admits she might be the problem. It's always other people, It's always other men. It's always society. Nothing is ever her fault.

[@nathaniels9141]

Its hard to feel empathy when you know what all these women's reaction would be if a guy made the same video and said the same things never taking any accountability.

[@asparrow9876]

@@nathaniels9141 This....

[@misscolettepoppins]

As a 23 year old single who went to Bible College (so most of my friends are married and married young) this is SO important. Seeing them grow TOGETHER, as couples, has been one of the most amazing things and I’m absolutely clapping and cheering for them, as someone who loves them. Sometimes you don’t get married even when you want to (myself being a case in point) so you HAVE to move forward with building a life for yourself and whoever your people are. But that does mean you get to work on yourself and your character flaws so you’ll be a better person when you * hopefully* meet your person

[@rachelfitzyritzy]

I relate to the girl everyone hates. I’m so young, but dang. I feel so alone and when I talk about it, I’m told it’s better to be single and that I’m lucky. I’ve lost all my friends to their boyfriends. I’m so alone, I’m so sad. And yes, I am tired of being yelled at constantly for whatever I believe in, or just venting. I know I’m going yo get hate but I’m so tired and so done.

[@Antr707]

Her preferences: 6'0" 6 figures 6 pack abs 6 Infinity Stones

[@simdal3088]

"6 Infinity Stones" you killed me 🤣

[@asparrow9876]

6 Pokémon 6 .6 inch rod 6 extra lives

[@asparrow9876]

Soon it'll be: 7 Dragon Balls 7 Chaos Emeralds 7 Chakras unlocked

[@trickyric67]

Guaranteed.. I know a lot of guys who are in great shape, make good money but are under 5'10... dating apps do not work for them at all.. simply because they are not tall enough for the majority of women..

[@MercenaryCookie]

😭😭😭

[@KittyKat-xg4tx]

Ive been with my husband since i was 17. Ill tell you, ive been with 3 different versions of him in 12 years. You change and grow so much. Going through our 20s together was hard but i wouldnt change it for anything. You cant just give up, because you dont feel the spark anymore or are bored. especially if they are good to you. We had to learn how to communicate with each other better and make the spark. Also talking at the end of the night or in the morning without kids is super helpful.

[@BasedPhilosophyMom]

I like to tell younger people that relationships and sex are only boring if you're boring. 😂 Don't give up.

[@trista_sue_writes]

I got married at 19 and I have zero regrets. I married my best friend and got to literally grow up with him. We have been through everything together, and I wouldn't want to do this life with anyone else. Getting married young was the best decision I ever made. ❤

[@mysticc6232]

Ok Yan

[@clubedejurupari]

All those women are approaching 30 years old or past 30. They didn't wanted no man to "spend life with" 10-15 years before when they were 18, and they surely had many opportunities. Only now they realized they want it. Curious isn't it?

[@internettearsandglory]

To be fair a lot of the opportunities I passed up in my 20’s are still childless and unmarried, or even single. In life we are not granted love, not everyone.. I’ve met a guy who thought just because he walked me to my door that I owe him a kiss even though I wasn’t ready, and when he got home texted me “are you a lesbian?” I’m sure he considered himself a “nice guy” and think “I did kind act for the day where is my life time wife, kiss, and s3x?” When I was 22 a customer at my job I as older than me I think by like 6-7 years, we went on one date & hung out another time, and after that he was texting me asking about s3x and got mad at me saying he wish he ran game on me! I was terrified when I read his inappropriate rude texts just because I didn’t put out after ONE date! and couldn’t believe even older men do not want to respect younger women. There is always pressure to give in to being intimate but if we do then we’re bad and impure

[@JamenLS]

Honestly at this point, the damage has been done. Feminism destroyed EVERYTHING

[@devilgames2217]

It freed us men.

[@chilliciouspatrioticmeatlover]

​@@devilgames2217 so that we can do our things when we want and where we want without anyone telling us what to do.

[@balitangkamatis]

@@devilgames2217 I second that. The holy trinity of essentials for blokes today; work, gym, videogames. black myth wukong baby

[@devilgames2217]

@@balitangkamatis That one looks like it's gonna be great.

[@sebastiansuarezcruz]

​​​@@balitangkamatisthat sounds like a nice life free of stress, outside of work. For me, my holy trinity would be work, martial arts, videogames or watching Netflix and/or Hulu.

[@survivor-3572]

She Probably rejected all the stable guys for being too boring.

[@Knlght0fZero]

I believe it's more likely that from her point of view those guys didn't even exist. They are invisible to women like this. Her swiping left on 100 guys didn't even register in her brain.

[@armaan8463]

Or not having a lot of 💴

[@tritan130]

Or short

[@juriagagarin]

Im 25 years old an have given up completely on Dating. I would love to marry someone and have children and the whole thing. But after spending some time in the dating pool it just takes a toll on you and it is just a more quiet and calm life and ao far im fine with that.

[@DisneyFan-eg3oz]

Don’t give up yet ask friends if they have friends that is how I met my wife of 30 years join a class or club trying a local dating app but go very slow ask a lot of questions. Do not look in a bar or nightclub They only want one thing and I am sure you know what that is all the best! David

[@zrugel]

how monumentally infuriating 😂 I'm one of those guys that's been looking, hunting, praying, begging for a wife or girlfriend and I can't find a woman to give me the time of day. this has been my life for over a decade. I get her frustration but I don't think men are the problem.

[@miguelben610]

Get your passport come to the Philippines. Change your life. Just make sure you choose the right one. There's lots of choices

[@zrugel]

@@miguelben610 though I already have my passport, and have nothing against passport-bros... I don't think that's for me.

[@miguelben610]

@@zrugel I thought the same thing when I was about 30. Had a friend who went to Vietnam and wasn't careful and got hooked up with a bad relationship. But if you do it smart come to Southeast Asia just for a month. You never know till you try it. I guarantee you it's a life changer. Worst case scenario, you'll have a nice Beach vacation with lots of pretty girls checking you out

[@asparrow9876]

@@zrugel I would bet my life savings that one day, most likely very soon, your mind will change on that..... Every man I know who said what you said did and moved eventually.

[@mebeangela]

american girl with a filipino family here-even us american born filipinos know how to study hard, work hard, and run a household. i had to basically raise my past boyfriends-how to make an egg? how to do their dishes? do their laundry? set up a doctors appointment on the phone?no, men aren’t 100% to blame but i’m finding parents aren’t parenting their children to be self sufficient and responsible adults. maybe it’s the childhood trips to the philippines that showed me how good life is here in america and humbled me since i realized the sacrifices my mom and dad made to raise me here. chores as a kid taught me responsibility and living at college taught me how to be self sufficient. i’m 29 and not married. it kills me to be 29 and not married since i want kids. i own my own house and car, went to college, and am debt free. i’d happily sell my home (or in this economy rent it out) and move in with my husband in our dream home. i love know how lucky i am yet i’m so annoyed that all the boyfriends i’ve had in the past were just…boys with no life skills. girls that have their lives together need a masculine man to bring out the feminine because it is there but when boys are not rising up to be real men with basic life skills, it’s hard to be feminine. it’s hard to see a future with boy that blow their money on bs. it’s impossible to see a future with someone that can’t get off their parents phone or insurance plans. it goes both ways. not just women but also men and it all comes down to how people were raised.

[@michaeltorluemke3322]

For decades they complained about getting married and having a family at such young ages, for wanting to have a career, for wanting to live a little before they settled down and had a family. Now they complain because they got exactly what they asked for. They’re still missing something. They’re missing the happiness that comes from the inside their looking for happiness to come from the outside, from jobs, careers, relationships, possessions. They don’t find what makes them happy inside, then they can look to the outside to support that feeling.

[@sharoncundiff7680]

I have a 29 yo son, in the same boat. He has gone through periods of opting in and out of the dating pool. Finding that the women wanted to "hook up" because they were in #girlboss mode more often than to discover a marriage as the goal. Currently, he's back in and we are in deep prayer. As his parents, this is so very hard to watch. Even typing this, I'm restraining from hyping him up! Thank you for putting out this content and shining a light. I KNOW every bit of awareness will ultimately aid our Son to finding a wife. My husband and I have been married nearly 42 years. As parents we want our children to at least have all that we have. Our marriage IS THE BEST THING we have.

[@realracing3specter295]

in the video, 13:16 exactly my mom, who kept me away from dating as a whole, considered talking to other gender as a sin. Result = me 35, single, now been forced by mom to get married asap just to produce a baby for her to play with... (dude, talking to them was a sin !!!) she never knew she'd been ugly toxic and extremely abusive toward me to such an extent that i suffered from severe clinical depression other illnesses for multiple decades because of her. my mom was completely opposite, and i still cant believe she hated her own child and cursed him thousands of times to die alone. I, on the other hand, always and always wanted to find a decent girl, who i could love and spend my life with... now find it next to impossible. love? a kiss? forget it... it would always remain a dream... not sure if i would ever be able to touch someone or not, when even talking is not allowed. i've grown myself into the belief where i hate everything and every aspect of my body/life/health... so who would like to spend their time with the person who hates himself to such extent? with no actual friends, family, co-workers, etc, i have considered myself to be one of those loneliest men on earth who craved for so many things, but would die without basic human interaction.

[@anastasiya256]

@@realracing3specter295 dude, you need to move away from your mother ASAP. Also, you’re not the loneliest man in the world because there have been actual hermits throughout history - people who would go out into the wilderness to live completely alone, sustaining their survival by their own means, without the help of civilization or any other humans, only with animals as their companions. The Bible mentions such hermits a few times. One example is the prostitute who, after meeting Jesus, went to live in the wilderness by herself (in the desert). Although, the difference for them is that they have God with them, so that’s why they’re not lonely. I’d highly recommend for you to read Robinson Crusoe by Daniel Defoe. It’s a tale about involuntary solitude on a deserted island (and an encounter with God). But it’s not overall depressing on dwelly - the story moves like 📈📉📈 and it’s relatively quick-paced for classical literature. Sending prayers your way 🙏

[@anastasiya256]

@@realracing3specter295also, get a pet. They really help with loneliness on a physiological level 🥰 Bonus points is when you can learn to love and care for a pet, you gain skills that will be transferrable onto humans (big and small). It’s something that normal women naturally appreciate.

[@tonydiesel3444]

If you're a real mom a quality mom and you actually care about your son the 100% best advice you can give is tell him never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever get married I'm 38 years old and every single person I know is divorced glad it hasn't happened to me I'm not dumb enough to get married because if I would can someone was to try to divorce me and take what I work for I will take their life force from them gladly

[@yessir8805]

Millennial men been redpill tbh.

[@hooptyhoop7862]

I’m almost 35, and I’ve been single the majority of my life. I had 1 girlfriend that I didn’t get until I was 31. The relationship lasted only 4 months. I been alone since. It is really hard and has been hard. Being on the autism spectrum makes it worse for dating when reading social cues is not easy to detect.

[@chilliciouspatrioticmeatlover]

I agree as I am also on the spectrum.

[@ghettomist1575]

I fee for you man. Lots of love and hopefully good things your way.

[@sara_sofia_1984]

I'm in love with a man who I think is mildly autistic. He's totally clueless about women flirting with him. I had to tell him directly about my feelings. But he doesn't want to be with me because we are long distance and he doesn't want to move. I'm totally heartbroken. My advice to you is that you can learn to recognize body language in a woman who feels attracted to you. It's just a skill that you haven't learnt yet, but you can learn and get good at it, if you want to. There are online courses on body language and learning how to read emotions on people's faces. I recommend the work of Paul Ekman 😊

[@JohnVDenley]

Yes, I was 41 before I found out that my social struggles were because I was just on the spectrum enough to cause me problems, but not enough for anyone else to understand why! I ended up only dating women who asked me out... Sadly they never do anymore!

[@jeffsmith2283]

The phase "work on myself" has become the red flag of red flags for me. There is a direct correlation between how messed up a women is and how much 'work on myself', 'finding myself' etc. she has done.

[@S2k_GRsti]

Correct

[@mo.ka.9661]

So a woman should just never improve herself?

[@joeyvandermolen]

Yup!!! Seems the more they work on themselves, the worse they are as partners.

[@mioszduby2842]

Generally, the more self-centered you are and the more you're thinking about how life is treating you, the more unhappy you become.

[@TVClaireBear]

You gotta learn how to love yourself first before you can love others

[@Daisy-mb8kt]

Knowing that you’re married and so close to my age (21 next month) makes me feel so much better. I come from a divorced family and marriage is kind of a taboo discussion. I’m in college rn and talking with my mom I’ve expressed that yes the career I’m going for is what I want but when considering what I want I seriously think about my boyfriend of 3 years as part of those next steps. She always warns me that I shouldn’t do that, that I should just focus on me. He’s a good man I don’t want to let go and I know he’s the one I want to have a future with. What’s so wrong with me setting up my future with room for someone else I’m serious about?

[@sbboy333]

A lot of women with Bachelors, Masters and Phd’s are too embarrassed to date/marry mechanics, linemen, first responders, etc bc we aren’t “educated”, even with the irony being that the blue collar men are often making more money lmao

[@houseofhas9355]

And are far more educated because education can mean many different topics.

[@jackieruso6493]

You men have to stop saying that, I know some women who would date blue collar workers but most of the time you don't consider them either.

[@afriendorfoe]

I would love to date a first responder and even tried but we didn't work out

[@elasticharmony]

The point is the two aiming to couple must be equal. She doesn't have an honest appraisal of herself yet nor does she understand the way to find the compatibility , this is why fate is very strong in love. The past had more marriages but they were society's pressures for society's purposes, love is a personal goal. Finding love in the current culture is a miracle but this gal probably does not pray.

[@gothic_oma]

I don't think that's true, OP. I am a very educated woman and I ONLY dated (and married) blue-collar men. They are attractive to me! And many of them have intelligence in a different way. 😊

[@tiberiuslamar]

Replace “settle” with “compromise” and I think it highlights why so many upset women online put men off of dating.

[@Harrison1Bergeron]

For real. Respect is everything and that word shows that women using it dont respect others

[@zaklex3165]

@@Harrison1Bergeron Respect is EARNED, it is not given...anyone that gives respect before it has been EARNED is doing it wrong.

[@markpitchford7375]

@@zaklex3165 love is earned. See how dumb you sound?

[@The_LightArrow]

when guys are constantly called evil and the reason for all the bad things, you cant help but laugh when it swings back and hits them in the face once in a while (even though Captain Save-A-Hoe will always be right around the corner)

[@imb4928]

And it's even crazier when their ideologies come back to bite them. They still choose to blame men for their issues that they've caused. At this point, all I gotta say is they should go marry a bear since they trust them so much.

[@DessMelissa]

Shame I couldn’t bring myself to watch this the day you posted it, but it hit a bit close to home as that was two days after my 29th birthday. This stretch of dating advice videos are perfect and so so good, thanks for making them.

[@mione134]

I'm 34, not married, but I wish I was. I have a severe anxiety disorder. I've dated maybe 3 people in my life. Nothing serious. I'll be honest, I'm a virgin too. Waiting for marriage. I'm Catholic. I'm honestly scared to find someone. I have a lot of trust issues and the men only want one thing these days. I just want a godly man with values and who wants children. I pray to God that I'll find my husband soon. All ive ever wanted is to be married and have children.

[@KNIGHTSFALLN]

Don’t they have things like Christian mingle and other networking for folks…? I’m pretty sure that’s how Ben Shapiro met his wife.

[@Adanu191]

Women only want one thing these days too. That line of thought goes both ways.

[@shangrilaladeda]

I want children and follow God

[@young5395]

Don't ever be afraid to say that you have been chaste.

[@mione134]

​@@KNIGHTSFALLNI don't trust dating apps. I'd probably have to find a Catholic version of that. It's wild out here.

[@medic1937]

All I want is a guy that's 6'4" 200 pounds, blonde hair, blue eyes, multi millionaire that will let me stay home why he pays for everything. Why can't I find anyone?

[@marienmorand]

Too many dark haired people in this world. Boring .

[@whattheflimflam]

LOL! Or, she finds one and he is allergic to dogs or something so she's like "OH NO I JUST COULDN'T"

[@ixsandsxi7938]

Probably found a few of them but they do something wrong like breathing, walking too fast, walking too slow, etc

[@maliamichelle2059]

Right! Lol.

[@artawhirler]

Well, I have some good news and some bad news. The good news is, men like that really DO exist. The bad news is, there's only a few of them, and Sydney Sweeney wants them too. 😅

[@oogaboogalou4521]

"Stop telling me I'm wrong!" Says the lady who openly admits she is clearly wrong about everything.

[@TDOTSE1]

😂😂😂😂

[@alandrian]

Yea its really bad when its not just one person telling her she is wrong but everyone.

[@joimumu]

Then she complained that her friends are happily married but she doesn’t want to do what they did

[@istouder226]

I got turned down once because she said my face was too round. My hair was red. So tough shit ladies, deal with the loneliness of being shallow when you were young.

[@POPINCONEJO88]

Im a hispanic male fixing to be 36 this year and have never been in a long term relationship. I had 1 gf over 20 years ago, but im usually to myself dont really talk to anyone. Ive basically accepted ill be alone. I dont drink, never even been drunk, never smoked a cigarette, have never met with anyone on any dating site and ive tried. Usually only "match" with girls who only really want to sale me their onlyfans content. I think im a pretty decent guy, have a pretty good paying job, hard working, stay active, family oriented, religious. Idk it does suck at times but as a men it feel like we arent suppose to express our feeling cause we'll be shamed and this generation just sucks.

[@Suarez05]

Facts Bro, I Agree.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Same but I’m white. Tried to even join a church but didn’t fit in there either. I just gave up.

[@katie4996]

I broke off a 9 year relationship with my high school bf because I realized I wanted children and he wouldn’t be a good dad. I was 25 when I became single. I dated, got into shape, but knew I wanted a marriage and family. I eventually met my husband at 28. I was very upfront that I wanted a family etc. turns out he wanted the same things. Fast forward to now, we’re happily married have a beautiful baby girl. I’ve never been happier. I’m 33 now. I prioritized my career but now my husband and I are working towards me being a SAHM.

[@anastasiya256]

I had a similar thing, but I broke it off with a BF of 4 years at 21… after realizing he was largely a man-child 😅

[@KnightRighteous]

Awesome! If only women like yourself were easier to find.

[@ghhfgbbkufgh]

Shamu???

[@jimmcneal5292]

Imagine breaking a relationship and later marrying someone as non-virgin just because you thought your bf wouldn't be a good dad. You're part of the problem

[@katie4996]

@@jimmcneal5292 if you must know why I broke things off… I was 15 when we started dating and didn’t think I wanted kids. I began to mature, grew in my career and Once I realized I wanted a family, I just knew he wasn’t the one. My ex played video games 24/7, had no ambition, and let our dogs pee and poop on the floor. I won’t even go into the other reasons. But we grew apart and no longer wanted/valued the same things. I stand by my decision. I now have an amazing husband who’s also an amazing father. I’ve never felt so fulfilled. ❤️

[@RobbieSuede13]

I'm 43 single with no kids and never been married, It really sucks being in your 40s and all alone.

[@emilygooner9697]

Hey same. Sometimes it’s just luck eh, it’s not always easy. I’m tired of ppl who are married acting like it’s easy to find the right person. I feel like we are being dumped on a bit here, we are not the ppl with babies everywhere or divorced yet (those numbers are high) we seem to be getting judged more. I felt at lest that girl is being honest, I wonder how many ppl that are judging her are actually happily married.

[@Ange1ofD4rkness]

I worry I am going to fall into this

[@chrisd8006]

imagine your 50s and 60s....all your peers are married and turning into grandparents and showing off pics of their family gatherings, the graduations and the birthdays and vacations. They now have singles vacations...it's a group trip for you to take with other single people who are in your age range ...who wants to visit Europe or Jamaica totally alone? better to go with some other people...these group singles trips are on the rise now Not everyone needs kids but as you turn over 45 years old it gets really scary when you imagine being alone and single with no family or kids to pass anything onto. It's kind of a mind fuck that you realize your getting older and your going to die alone one day and no one is going to even care

[@gtagameplayvidz]

I am the complete opposite. I'm 39 and I absolutely love living alone and having my own place/space.

[@TheMemoryPolice]

@@chrisd8006 - what do you want to pass onto? The planet is dying,there are wars everywhere, people are struggling witth Mental health, People are constantly being laid off an the US has the added problem of gun violence.Bringing Children into this world is a crime in itself.

[@Lem0nsquid]

I like the part where they said, “men take more than they have to offer.” What the hell are we taking?

[@fobosydeimos]

They're talking about the part where women are expected to give their life to protect their husband and the part where the woman has to be the main provider in order to be liked.

[@whateverthefuckiwant4289]

Yeah, honestly shut up. I know just about zero men who actually gave up their lives to protect their wives. Zero. And yet you always use it as an example. And I know around 100 of women that gave up their careers for kids. Guess what? The men had kids plus the career and many times they decided to get divorced. The women walked away with shit.

[@DangerZone200]

you taking bed space these women want you to sleep on the floor like a fucken animal

[@newdivide9882]

I’ve recently been lurking in female dominated spaces online so as to try and see how women think. I’ve done this for a few weeks maybe? And honestly, I’m just tired. My biggest finding, which I see in this video too, is that NOBODY wants to ask the question, “Why?” Everyone wants to point fingers and accuse men of doing this and not doing that, but nobody is willing to ask WHY. “Men aren’t marrying young!” You wanna know why that is? All our lives, we’re told we are nothing if we can’t provide. A man is supposed to provide for his wife and family, the Bible even says this. But society has twisted it to a degree it was never meant to go. On top of that is the fact that it takes a LONG time to get to where you can take care of yourself and others. The idea of actually building a life together has been replaced with the idea that a man needs to have a house, a car, and a perfect job for a family instantly and women are just supposed to move into that. Can’t marry young AND hold that ideal at the same time. It doesn’t work. “Men left the dating pool!” Yeah, wanna know why? Probably not, because it has to do with women. Speaking personally, I gave up because of women’s mind games and almost getting used for *** when I wanted love. After that, I became an observer over the years and I have actually watched women, over time, become more selfish, rude, unloving, and unloyal in real time. What makes it worse is the rise of people who legitimately expect you as a man to just lay down and take women’s emotional and mental abuse. And it’s men AND women who participate in that. I actually spoke to a woman who called another man weak for checking out because every woman he ever dated cheated on him. When I asked if that’s really what she thought, all I got was “lol”. In response. Nobody expects a woman to put up with that from a man, but people genuinely do think men should put up with that from women. Well, I don’t have to. And I’m not going to. There’s only two kinds of human beings, male and female. If one kind is checking out of relationships with the other to a noticeable degree, it’s obvious there’s something going on. “Society’s” answer is that it’s men’s fault that men are walking away, but go ask some men. We like women. We want to love them and we want them to love us too. But like I said before: Nobody asks us questions because the answer is: Women. And you’re not allowed to place any blame for anything on women… Before someone accuses me of this, I never said men were perfect. The problem is that we’re allowed to point out men’s faults (and even blame men for things that aren’t our fault), but we’re now allowed to tell women they’re wrong. Nothing will EVER change if only one side is expected to change

[@--Morpheus--]

Agreed, well said

[@SlickZero1028]

Well spoken! You hit on all the right points!

[@KeminaKelvin]

I met my husband when I was 19 and now I'm 29 (still childless, because of health problems), but we are here with the dream dog, and two cats, a home, an okayish car. He struggled to find a job, but I helped them on the way, and now I'm struggling, and he helps me. It was a hard 10 years: fights, money problems, health situations, car accident, deaths in the family, but it is life.

[@Elisarrrr]

i hope you have kids

[@_Atlas.]

I'm 5'6" and I can guarantee that most of these women would say "nope" before ever getting to know me. It seems that people have forgotten that having love in your life means choosing to love other people yourself.

[@Alison2436]

naw that's a myth. any girl that's not 6 ft tall herself just wants a guy taller than herself. so unless your 5'6" is actually 5'2" that's a cop out. the average woman is 5'5". You are taller than half the female population..if they don't want u, it isn't height, maybe it's your attitude

[@nicosuave9]

Every woman is different of course, but for me, height was never a problem. Some of my biggest crushes have been short guys. I think women are naturally very choosy, because the stakes are extremely high for us. Pregnancy is a very big deal for women, so naturally we don't want to risk that over some awful dirtbag loser sociopath. Therefore, I've always been very picky, but who exactly would pass my desires seems a little unpredictable. Looking good and being fit certainly never hurts. I mostly just want a really good person, that I'm really compatible with. Shared hobbies, excellent character, chivalry--- being good at Waltzing or swing dancing! Being kind, yet confident. It wasn't easy finding someone I could settle with, but I did get married.

[@_Atlas.]

@@nicosuave9 It's great that you found a husband! I hope you both choose to love and cherish one another for the rest of your lives.

[@Aiden-zl4ht]

My husband is only 5'7. Don't lose hope 😂

[@3.v.4.n]

⁠@@Aiden-zl4htim 5’2. im absolutely and utterly fucked in this dating pool. being in an extremely limited dating pool is something that i have to accept.

[@tiffystyle1322]

I totally agree with those last points you make. I've been married for 26 years, since I was 19. We grew together and built our lives together. Worked on ourselves while also working on our relationship. Best way to mold your life is together.

[@kaylah3963]

My husband and I got together when I was 21 and he was 20, we're now 29 and 28 with a second baby on the way and couldn't be happier. We are both so grateful to have met when we were young and been through so much, growing together over the years and we will continue to do so. ❤

[@daelkolwitz3509]

Dave Ramsey has said multiple times on his show, "If you buy a house before you get a wife, you'll find out you bought the wrong house." He was pointing out that if you build your life without someone else, you need to be flexible to make the relationship work. The single ladies I know in their 40s are too set in their ways and are inflexible to changing anything they have already built. (Then they like to vent and don't want solutions to the problems they have created, so I don't share wisdom passed down from my grandparents, because that would be man-splaining).

[@OrganicRobot761]

Never take advice from Dave Ramsey.

[@saltycat662]

Men are the same at that age. It's not a gender thing, it's an age thing. You are set in your ways in your 30's and become more infexible. The crap I tolerated as a young woman, I would never tolerate today at 44. No way in hell. It's called wisdom and toxic people hate that.

[@kirito3082]

I guarantee no man will complain about the house if a woman buys it before marring, you precisely pointed out the problem, women are entitled and expect YOU to be flexible but not her, while simultaneously having insane impossible expectations about what everything that the man needs to be and do for her.

[@rachelrogers1355]

So thankful that my husband and I got married right after I graduated. We’ve been able to build our adult lives together and navigate all the new milestones together. Has it been difficult at times? Absolutely! Growing together includes growing pains. But like Brett said, hitting those adult milestones together, being able to cheer each other on, is so incredible. Celebrating promotions, pay raises, new hobbies, everything is so sweet.

[@JustinK0]

9:20 this is the issue.. "at the same age" why are woman trying to date men thats the same age as them? Theres a reason why in a vast majority of cases the men is older, I seen a comment on IG which said "i dont care if you're both in your 30's, a 5 year age gap is not okay" wtf are they talking about? its always better for the male to be older as long as its not something crazy like a 20 year old and a 45 year old.. but if a woman is 27 and a man is 35, its fine. my dad was 6 years older than my mom and 13 years older than my step mom,