Why Japanese girls break up with their boyfriends: 5 stories

Today we ask Japanese girls and boys to share their stories of heartbreak with us. Why do Japanese girls break up with their boyfriends and what can go wrong when dating Japanese?
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[@rantme8765]

Bruh, that girl is trying so hard not to cry it's painful and funny at the same time. Why you gotta do her like that LMAO.

[@kajielin4354]

I started tearing up just watching her!

[@eXilanify]

Honor to the woman in the yellow tshirt actually having the empathy to take her friend out for a shopping or stroll through harajuku to get over it easier. Amazing friendship, thats like almost dead in germany... gone a little more with each new generation. and tops to cathy and the staff to have the hindsight from that said situation and doing the sweets video right like, after it. Beautiful. First channel about daily japanese stuff you know has real heart and love behind it.

[@MrDboydeluxe]

I wonder what % of people refuse Director san and Cathy's request to be interviewed? those that do agree really seem to have a enjoyable time being asked questions by CathyCat.

[@nehrina]

I never date a girl but i love hearing break up stories 😊

[@potatowarrior747]

Makes me feel like better about my sad life . Or are we just sadists? Lol.

[@ucornyfr8690]

@@potatowarrior747 sadist is way more than this little topic ☠️

[@potatowarrior747]

@@ucornyfr8690 it just means u like to see others suffer... That way👀 or not depends

[@ucornyfr8690]

@@potatowarrior747 yea u like to humiliate people but at that level it isn’t sadist unless ur were like 13

[@ucornyfr8690]

U were*

[@karlint39]

The girl you are interviewing @ 3:34 -- who liked a guy in jr high for 3 years, then finally asked him to go out, and he turned her down (i.e. not "break up") -- made me realize 「振られる」 in Japanese does mean "to be dumped" or "to be broken up with" but it also means to be "turned down" or "rejected" -- which happens without ever going out. So these are two different situations -- breaking up and being rejected...

[@evilbankai5166]

yea it was kinda mixed up cathy needs to work on them kanji hahaha

[@famichiki]

It can mean both.

[@karlint39]

@@famichiki You mean English "break up" or Japanese 「振られる」?

[@namadangao]

@@karlint39 Japanese for sure.

[@by.hau.]

"Tell me your broken-heart story." was written at the beginning.

[@gem330235]

Do a video about cheating in Japanese culture!

[@Bebo18]

Ask a bunch of Japanese guys if they've cheated or if they know a friend who cheated.

[@alban4220]

Bebo18 Boring video, most of them have cheated for sure, but the same goes for the girls. Japanese culture just makes it easy, long shifts and Nomikai are the perfect excuse. I have been told by many japanese woman actually, that they don’t consider it cheating, as long as it is purely physical.

[@freddycoreas]

x3iiSTee so you just gonna ruin my perception of me trying to date a kyoot asian girl huh

[@Bebo18]

x3iiSTee nomikai? Never heard of that

[@Mecks089]

@@freddycoreas dems the price ya pay for Yellow Fever.

[@chrispbacon299]

None of my Japanese friends have cheated as far as I know. I’m Japanese from Yokohama. Well, I’m sure it happens, but not around me.

[@brunoautran_89]

My life is a heartbreak stories compilation :,) Great video btw!

[@SpeKterDesigns]

I fell in love with a girl who already had a boyfriend when I was 20. We were working together and so I decided to leave town as I had an offer to play sports in a state team so I applied to move my work to a big city from the country. It turned out her boyfriend was cheating on her and she found out the week I was leaving and she was breaking up with him but I had already made the arrangements to go to the city. I don't know if she ever would have liked me more than as a friend anyway but I had told her by email while she was single and she didnt get together with me on 2 opportunities she had so I wrote off loving her. It taught me to be far more open and approachable as a person and to have a lot more confidence in the truth of my feelings and to always speak them out loud, that doesn't always work for partners I have either!!! Which is best???!!!

[@analennyja]

Your Halloween dress is so pretty ❤✨

[@Primeminister7381]

The kid in the white shirt was the smartest he kept focusing on his goals instead of love👍

[@abipao2964]

Llegué temprano ❤️ Saludos desde México Monterrey 🇲🇽❤️

[@veronica_y1957]

I had 2 boyfriends from Japan. One cheated and the other one was a geniuinely kind and sweet guy

[@user-zq7vi8lm4z]

2 at the same time? mad lad

[@Anonymiss28]

Are you still with the nice one?

[@pablosanchez5294]

Anonymiss (!) she said I had so I guess not lol

[@Anonymiss28]

@@pablosanchez5294 lol I was hoping the "had" meant, the guy that cheated is out of the picture so she has just the nice one now

[@silverwings8486]

People aspire for things that they can,t have ☕

[@quintrankid8045]

I admit I am very suspicious of the guy who told the girl that he had a GF overseas he had been dating since primary school. Reasons that cannot be verified.

[@famichiki]

Maybe her armpits were disgusting and he couldn't think of another way to turn her down.

[@quintrankid8045]

@@famichiki Certainly not.

[@quintrankid8045]

@Damin Mance Certainly not.

[@jaywye]

Certainly not.

[@user-mm9kv9nn5w]

Certainly not.

[@ybenax]

I don’t like that modus operandi. You know, just dropping a message to break up, that feels so irresponsible to me. If you’re breaking up with someone, you should confront that person properly and say your whats and whys in person.

[@Shiyiou]

04:00 that's actually a vocaloid song series and has an anime jsjdldnfor it's a reference

[@TheTishbite]

Two sides to every story and probably a lot more to the one-sided view shown in these few seconds. Still, a real glimpse into the mixture of modern and traditional thinking of Japanese culture and love life. Kat have a great trip, tell mom and dad hi for me. Travel Blessings.

[@xsteveconwayx]

Man, this comment section is mean. "Great video. Let me criticize you harshly." I wonder how prevalent cheating really is in Japan.

[@adelem2211]

This comment section is disgusting... What happened...

[@branphloe-mixes]

That’s sad wow!

[@nataliyainmotion]

Hmmm, I feel bad for the girl who thinks all men cheat. Definitely not true, but I guess in Japan where it is considered common (not necessarily acceptable) it is easy to fall for this way of thinking. I hope she finds someone faithful to change her mind

[@silverwings8486]

There some hidden string ☕

[@cindilouwho8681]

Oh damn, Disney breaks up relationships?? 😂😂 My husband wishes I would stop dragging him to Magic Kingdom with me but his mood always perks up in the actual park, lmao.

[@Sakawatchi]

I'm gay, my ex knew her parents wasn't ok with it (she's bi and had dated girls before), but she decided to try come out again because we wanted me to go to with her to her country after her exchange was over. They didn't accept it, she broke up with me by semi-ghosting. Lost a few months to alcohol there.

[@xiaorishu]

The only way for me to get over a guy is to get under another one, lmao.

[@xsteveconwayx]

On behalf of all men, thank you. We appreciate your sacrifice.

[@anamalaysiapulido4531]

Culture shock 😂

[@potatowarrior747]

But then you can't forget either one.

[@AlphaTanuki]

so does everybody in Japan use the LINE app to text and call?

[@famichiki]

Yes

[@adelem2211]

Yes, even coworkers and boss

[@nathanroad5591]

My Japanese friend said that she uses LINE to text and call because it is cheaper than using standard cellular services. And, there are a lot more emojis and other images to personalize text messages than the standard texting method.

[@AlphaTanuki]

@@nathanroad5591 but dont you have to be connect to a wireless service to use? I mean it is 2019 but surprisingly Wi-Fi is somewhat scarce in Japan and not having that constant connection and having to jump from hotspot to hotspot is not really ideal. Idk how they do it though.

[@nathanroad5591]

@@AlphaTanuki My friend carries a personal Wi-Fi hotspot.

[@imfarrahnoid]

Breaking up was the most difficult part of my life... until now.. 笑 Should I continue with Japanese men?

[@ariadnafrisky]

Up to you

[@nehrina]

I never date and that sad news don’t worry you will get a person who loves you 😁👍

[@silverwings8486]

@@nehrina When both party Willing to put efforts as much as other person afterall beauty fade with time & respect is earned with time. Love or lust can be instantaneous but respect & responsibility are completely upto to once act.

[@BlazinNSoul]

My heart has never been broken because I haven't fallen in love much lol. Boy does sound familiar here but good answer. Guys definitely seemed to take it harder than the girls though. I find that interesting as seems to be the reverse from here. I would be curious to see what the statistics are as far as guy vs girl breakups however. Who's the more likely to break up on average and why. 🤔

[@GajamangaCharitha]

Super video🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@romilmirata7777]

I have a Japanese girl everything runs smoothly😊

[@FuikaMusic]

Same here! hope everything is okay for the two of you!

[@romilmirata7777]

@@FuikaMusic Ganbatte 😊😊

[@theordinarygirl7289]

And here I am, 20+ yearss and never know what romantic love is😐

[@Skeiths]

I'm a boy, but I feel you girl. I'm 23 and still haven't had a GF.

[@LelaosXVI]

Guys believe me there is nothing you’ve missed.

[@Clangokkuner]

@@Skeiths quite easy to deal with when you're aromantic in the first place 😏

[@anamalaysiapulido4531]

Me too and still a virgin. Even younger generation's way ahead of me 😂

[@Nihonbunkaotaku]

My Japanese girlfriend broke up with me becuase she went back to Japan and I made less than $100,000 Canadian a year. my Japanese Canadian Christian girlfriend broke up with me in Tokyo japan during our two week vacation becuase she handle my mania in japan…we got back to together in Toronto for 3 months and she broke up with me becuase I have bipolar and now we are best friends and talk on the phone everyday after she finishes work. She is too busy working to find a new boyfriend and she isn’t allowed to date co-workers or she will get fired if she doesn’t end the relationshi. She had two boyfriends after me. One Japanese Canadian boyfriend who broke up with becuase she didn’t make enough money and her third boyfriend was white Canadian boyfriend that broke up with her becuase he chose his job over her 😢🇨🇦🇯🇵

[@joannejones363]

These girls seems almost unfazed by being cheated on. Makes me wonder if cheating is that common in japan?

[@anamalaysiapulido4531]

Yes. It's pretty usual.😂

[@silverwings8486]

Se# being overnormalised ( you can,t say a person who used to multiple flavour of ice cream to stick to only one )☕ Cause & effect

[@joannejones363]

@@silverwings8486 well they not talking about ice cream here.

[@silverwings8486]

@@joannejones363 Dude but be real dude when people get innate tendency to perceive world from objective stand point & they are used to trying out variety of things & suddenly there was restraint put on them to trying some of the most common things they enjoy. There will be rebellion & they will try to break out of it. & Japan cheating & se# is being to overnormalised the fundamental sense of value 2 people bring to each other life is non existent. The value system got both ways & it easier for woman to get man rather than man to get woman for most ( so the perception of the world greatly differ )🌅

[@joannejones363]

@@silverwings8486 so they are plain cheaters. At least the rest of the world has the minimum decency to break up with a person before they move to the next.

[@EthanSoFar]

That last girl cheated on her bf woooww

[@famichiki]

Breaking news, more at 11pm.

[@bishalrai2326]

Who would cheat on these beautiful angels 😭😂

[@silverwings8486]

When you buys things only based on looks rest assured you eventually realise you are more used to scam than you are being aware of. As the saying goes * Every golden looking stuff is not Gold *

[@Buzzramjet]

To all of you bitching about her color...you do know it is HALLOWEEN...did you notice what she was wearing? I didn't think so. She looks fine.

[@user-hu9gr9to5b]

Wow, Where is she from?? She is very fluent in english and japaness!!!

[@vivibuffy3352]

She's a native of Germany 😊. Amazing, isn't she?

[@user-hu9gr9to5b]

OMG🤭 I can't believe it!!

[@noor6858]

@@vivibuffy3352 Oh really !!! I thought she's half 😮

[@vivibuffy3352]

@@user-hu9gr9to5b Sometimes she speaks her native German on this channel too.

[@vivibuffy3352]

@@noor6858 On her own channel Cathy Cat, you can see her early videos from years ago when she first started to learn Japanese. She was already at conversational level before moving to Japan.

[@DebraKadabra]

I'm kind of having a not so good time right now which is triggering my depression so... I really don't want to mention it beyond the fact that unrequited feelings really hurt.

[@DebraKadabra]

@ It's not your fault but thank you very much regardless. :)

[@xsteveconwayx]

Been there a couple times. You get over it with time. Then you meet someone who's awesome.

[@DebraKadabra]

@@xsteveconwayx Well, the depression is more about medical issues and it turns out that the person in question has been quiet for similar reasons and we didn't want to overburden each other. (sigh) I hate when the monster makes me believe its lies.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

:-( big hugs

[@dadaasuncion1230]

It looks interesting, though I don't understand.

[@miguelsantos1038]

wassup cathy cat well unfortunately there are serious women but many not so much not all are equal don t judge the book by its cover best regards for all

[@djkoz78]

I'm pretty sure the first girl really didn't care about the dude.

[@anatanosiranaihito3132]

なぬぅ、LINEで別れようだとぉ　そんな直接会って言えないクズとは別れて良かったぞ 大丈夫だ、人類の半分は男だし優しく誠実な男なんか幾らでも居る 色んな経験をして男を見る目を養うのが良い　但し、男は重い女を嫌う事を忘れずに、体重じゃ無いぞ＾＾ しかし、聞く相手がガキばっか、いや若すぎる人ばっかじゃ無い　もっと色気の有る良い女性に聞かなきゃ～　カティーちゃん、幾ら頑張ってもモテない人はモテないよ 処で、可愛いカティーちゃんに聞きたい　彼氏は居るの？可愛いから居ない訳が無いか 彼氏を公開しろ！と思ってる人は沢山居ると思うが・・・　　　　　おしまい。

[@fladmuse7129]

One guy cheats on her and she thinks all guys are like that🙈

[@kingdomheartsispeak4724]

5:17 I'd date the tall girl

[@evilbankai5166]

men are simple beings xD

[@quintrankid8045]

@@evilbankai5166 What do you mean by simple? I'm very... Oh! Look! A Ball! Let's play a game!

[@danielessex2162]

Hmmmm well Cathy Cat is 5'2 and the other girl is probably 5'7....5'8......is that really tall?

[@quintrankid8045]

@@danielessex2162 According to some completely accurate source on the intertubes, average height for women by country is Germany 165, Japan 158.8, UK 163.7, US 164.1. I included the US because reasons. According to another completely reliable site 172.7cm is close to the 92nd percentile for Germany. How do you know that Cathy is 5'2"? Please show your work.

[@pablosanchez5294]

Daniel Essex it’s short and tall at the same time. Some people consider them tall some don’t. For me she would just be huge in heels since I’m 5’10 lol

[@uelim9271]

What does "みたいな" mean that the Japanese speak so much?　俺は日本語を勉強する

[@kingdomheartsispeak4724]

I think it means "I want to watch/see"

[@jonassalazar2788]

Literally it means "want to see" but a more practical translation is "like/similar to." Kanojo mitaina otoko da naaa = That man is like a woman (very feminine.) I've also heard そうみたいな感じ "sou mitaina kanji" a lot which means "it is like that feeling/style"

[@mlee2803]

“Like that” “Similar to that” “Looks like that”

[@gaijinhakase1575]

It means “kinda like ~~”. Don’t listen to the weebs who are talking about “look/see” lol

[@doubled9645]

do you make your clothes yourself? they're pretty unique

[@famichiki]

It's called Lolita fashion.

[@duzdondead]

What the heck happened with the other guy at 7:06?? o.O

[@olliepopAMV]

yall crazy for just talking about her dumping experience for like 2 minutes straight LOL

[@TrocarSlushWeasel]

Somebody needs to tell the woman who got rejected by a guy that said he had an overseas girlfriend, that he was lying.

[@Lala-jk4bz]

昨日... 何の...

[@user-mt3uf1mc2e]

i dont mean to be rude but does anyone know why the interviewer uses a super high pitched voice its like shes pretending to be an anime character

Femininity, Japanese-style.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

@Damin Mance in Japan there is a dress up get together where everyone dresses up like this. It's pretty nice :-)

[@el_kelvin1346]

I am a failure at relationship. I mean, 1st : I was dumped 2nd : What the hell happened here?? 3rd : Both of us confused 4th : I was dumped when she sleeps with a lot of guys behind me. Apparently i don't understand women.

[@silverwings8486]

☕Simple ( think people of as not people but things you get a new game or car you used it & get bored from it & now you look for new one thinking the new model will better than older one ) & since if you yourself are spending rather than your mom or dad buying for it . You feel think back depending upon amount you spend ( effort you put ) I guess emotional investment is what it called.

[@eatmaipoop]

that hair no no no and the lighting made you look yellow. i like your natual german look

[@prodbyNOVAER]

@Damin Mance chill out, it's just the style she likes to wear

[@edwardemanuel5337]

No English?

[@klawliet7129]

test

[@tryrugby]

Why are your hands Orange?

[@noort1255]

Ask them if they are ok with foreign beard

[@_Amiri]

They asked already in an older video. Summary: it makes you "look like an uncle" to them, and it doesn't look very clean too (to them). If you wanna be more popular with Japanese girls, you gotta shave. Besides dating, it's alright to have a beard in everyday life. That's the summary.

[@zazenwind]

Seems like the girl didn't consider the possibility that her friend lied to her about her boyfriend cheating.

[@Buzzramjet]

They have in my years of following this and other youtube and living there for two years it really isn't something they do regularly so I would believe the friend.

[@kitebabe05]

ehhh?? why the girl is laughing? o.O because she was dumped? by textmessage??!...pretty immature..and a coward as ex-friend. ok maybe i would laugh about that i finally got rid of him. XD

[@aiquynh4802]

I need boy friend