Why married women are easy to have an affair with, sex and intimacy struggles & life after marriage

Today, we come to you naked and unashamed with Ben and Gathoni Kiruuthi.
What is sex?
What is intimacy ?
Why is it so hard for women to enjoy it after birth?
What happens after marriage ?
This and much more on today’s episode
#LNN #LNS
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[@LynnNgugi]

Hello team LNN🙏 We are happy to see you here:) Pull up a sit, we are gonna need it today😂😂 What are your thoughts on today’s show?

[@tiyanjanemalembo3191]

Lynn,please have subtitles when you speak your Native language for the sake of us who are not Kenyan. We love your conversations.

[@jemimahmukombo6638]

Married for 16 years marriage is a lot of work but it works 🎉

[@owenksimwizi9906]

My conclusion is that when husband and wife have their hearts in the word of God,they become invincible..These guys seem to nail it..

[@pkemboi-nn7yq]

How about their word?

[@tiyanjanemalembo3191]

Totally agree with you. The secret is the relationship with God .

[@AZITHEMLGPRO]

Too many married single mothers in the church

[@maggiemungai2540]

This man has wisdom, even the way he answers the questions, I like the way he's backing his examples from the bible. Well done 👍

[@bernicefenton]

religious folk are deep in their matrix bro. what do you mean this man - while in uni - was eyeing a young girl who was 13 years old and had just cleared class 8?

[@eomanga]

They will not believe 😂

[@k3ygvrv]

Lmao I was also wondering, this is some pedo shit

[@NellyMbotela254]

And saying it with his chest like it's a normal thing.

[@paulinemumbi1564]

They are here wowing like ambulances, this man groomed his wife and it's not even funny 😢

[@catherinemburu1806]

And so many missedthis cringy bit 😢

[@joankidon4626]

I loved this totally.... Thanks to you all ❤❤❤❤❤ Marriage can actually help you reach your destiny or actually destroy your destiny. It's a huge ministry....

[@elimukwadada]

This is true love... Their Non verbals say it all. Nice to see that true love exists in this day and age. God bless you and your family guys.

[@lucytatublessed9576]

Wow i watched them from Rawder kidula show recently and iam so happy to see them here too. God bless them❤❤❤❤

[@faithnchore3393]

I'm a Kenyan living in Kampala and I've been challenged and encouraged by this conversation. I'd really like to attend the Kampala one with my husband. I want my marriage to be a reflection of Christ and the church and I need to know how to do it best. Thanks Lynn for the great work. You're transforming lives daily!!!

[@miriamnyombi3556]

I love this conversation because what they are talking about is happening to my relationship, thank you for this Ben and Gathoni

[@elizabethmuhuga9512]

Yes it's happening I know of a guy who had an affair with a married woman for more than six years they even had a child but finally the lady is with the hubby and the guy eventually lost his family

[@ichooseviolence2532]

​@@elizabethmuhuga9512kwani the hubby didn't know the wife is having an affair to a point of getting kids outside

[@KeshieMusings]

I have followed this couple for over a decade, so so happy to see how God has sustained them and their growth is so encouraging! More blessings to the Kiruthis. Bring them back Lynn, their lessons are timeless for all. They are so warm and genuine, we need to tap into that.

[@esthermutheshi4111]

These is so educative im watching these and thinking I should watch with my husband for him to know as early as now what we women need before we get our baby❤❤❤

[@ichooseviolence2532]

It's always what women wants, you guys can't even satisfy yourselves

[@LucyKariko]

This is so amazing... every marriage that is grounded in the word of God shall stand🙏🙏🙏

[@JoyceMoses-zw5no]

Good to have these two amazing people here,I came to know them through Rawder Kidula show,ready to listen to them once again👏👏👏

[@LatifahNsubuga]

Right on time Hope all is well for everyone at LNN

[@jerrywahonya8163]

I agree with the man, i too help my wife in house chores and it has never made lesser of a man. We must help each other in family duties

[@lynbaker2321]

Please try and host the Mathenge's (Wahu and Namesless).. Kenya favourite please

[@annmungai-yx8ct]

@@lynbaker2321 i support 101%,they are a good example for celebrity marriage

[@emmahcheruto3974]

Wisdom loading for this generation, thanks Lynn.

[@gloriachepkosgei6569]

Wow , What a show , I felt like my ears were craving for more .I am a happy person to be at Lynn Ngugi's family learning and unlearning daily . Please more of this shows dear 😍

[@georgemayo5623]

Very well explained there is a confusion between religion and Christianity.

[@genesistrudy6943]

Heey, Jacob needs to learn the Christian union as well. I am single and this couple say it all. Thank you for being sooo honest and taking us deep. More happiness and blessings.

[@cherylgardner848]

These conversations give me new hope!!! Ah how I wish I spoke the language...I feel I miss all the gist 😉. All the same...I love this channel Lynn❤❤❤❤

[@jacquekhaemba9246]

The guy is a gem😊 Gathoni you are blessed. Keep spreading this....I love

[@FelixEreu]

I like this conversation, it is so encouraging and if all families could lead their marriage life like this no divorce would be there. May God bless this family and make them continue to teach other on how the family can be led.

[@joycewanjiru8577]

Glad to see you again after so many years,, and thank you for being so honest in your conversation

[@jasonkiwah]

Am in uganda , a music producer and a married man. Lynn thank you for bringing this couple, I have learned a lot from them. Thanks again Thanks.

[@beatricenashipae6149]

I love the wisdom in that Man😊

[@elizabethwanja1750]

Hi Lynn I'm so excited to hear it will be in kampala..I live in kampala and I can't wait for that day

[@angelamanzini3497]

I subscribed as from Madlile interview.Lynn you are on touch with issues on the ground and I am impacted with that in particular....🇿🇦✊🏾

[@HopeyHopey-j8m]

This was incredible ❤…….Lynn I give u your flowers 💐 , but that Bens friend is a catch 😢 and it’s so pleasing of how he speaks about him😊

[@kanyoroesther41]

Lynn is always ready to listen,,i love that🥰🥰

[@SarahKakai-k2s]

Lynn receive your flowers 💐💐 mamaa together with your guests and may favor be upon you always ❤❤❤

[@hotensiermusili337]

One thing that glues me to you Lyn is your childlike uncomposed expression. You are just so real in your expression. That's a catch.

[@maryannmwaura7752]

Back here to admire Lynn's authenticity 🎉🎉🎉❤

[@nimuyreemu3723]

Marriage is good on paper and on Television.When you see those bridesmaids dancing,it looks soo good!! But truth is its soo hard!.. Its not for everyone.. Its for those who are blessed and graced with it.Its clearly not for everyone!! Wuuuueeehhhhh!!Lets aim for heaven.Mbinguni tunaenda.

[@fionaachieng8270]

One of the most beautiful love stories of our time..God bless you Ben and Kiruthi

[@magdalenemwikya8691]

Good and powerful conversation there Lyn. My view though is: on the note 350 ladies/10men, am assuming most of these pple are aged btwn 30to 40. Now am aged btwn this age and i give you my honest opinion,men of our age were somehow neglected "sorry to say",as we were growing up,thats when the slogan "A GIRL CHILD CAN DO WHAT A BOY CHILD CAN DO ,IF ALL GIVEN AN EQUAL CHANCE", its true am not disputing but then i feel our parents took it too deep and kind of forgot our brothers. They are supposed to naturally man up without grooming,how now? Somehow feels the boy child is forgotten in our generation, that's 1980s and 1990s generation.

[@peaklegacyafrica]

🔥🔥🔥 Best conversation on love, dating, sex and marriage I’ve ever come across The conversation oozed pure wisdom 💯 Part 2 is welcomed Lynn

[@janetadhiambo912]

Going to put up this conversation down with my hubby,out of town in a room just to allow us reform

[@veronicahmutua3201]

Ben ooozes wisdom.Can listen to him a whole day.

[@Florence-l5f]

Wapendanao. Wish them the best

[@LLL3712]

Lynn is really having fun, Lynn is very intelligent how she articulates all topics and asks the right questions.

[@faithayuma6088]

I like the way Lynn probes for more😂😂..❤❤

[@tomokilabruce4853]

Hapa ndio unajikutanga umeuliza msee.."Is your wife married?" ama , "Is your husband married?"... haha!.. They are a lovely loving couple putting in the work and embracing their reality ...❤❤👌👌😊😊

[@johngitau6995]

Soo authentic.though the reality makes singles think twice,weeeh! God help us

[@cerahngugi890]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂I could not wait to finish this coz honestly that's the reality of the matter.

[@helenmamu5346]

Learning a lot and gaining wisdom from this wonderful couple Take your flowers 🌷 🌷 🌹 🌹 Lynn

[@solomonndungu4543]

please i wish to request that you bring back this couple they are an inspiration to us and we need a men's confence so that we can save our young men from, this toxic masculinity talks in the world. Please Lynn

[@sharonmagdalenebooysen2874]

Totally agree to Ben and wife back,, really wisedom encouraging women

[@GrindrKennedy]

He basically groomed her a campus guy hoping a 13 year old would notice him cringe asf

[@Glorie-nc9zj]

"Strength is very unattractive to men"🚩😂 Let him speak for himself

[@Muchirikelvin]

😂😂😂

[@bellaolum9768]

🤣🤣🤣

[@rodneyagesa1851]

Is there a man called Glorie?

[@christinenjoki-mo8cw]

😂😂😂 I have the same thought. It's such a pick me interview. What business does he have to tell women how to be women😂😂😂

[@martharinebiseko1457]

You missed the context

[@chuchuone]

for those thinking I ALWAYS reject you are wrong. I actually liked this one. very honest/open discussion. and yes I am looking forward to the next one.

[@napleieunice]

Congratulations Lynn can you plzz find out where Ibrahim's empire, sarah and moreen are doing🙏🙏

[@bellaolum9768]

@@napleieunice I think Abrahams Empire collapsed. Just checked their channel, they last posted in Jan. 2023 😀😀😀

[@napleieunice]

@@bellaolum9768 Thank you, may be coz it was impossible for two wife's in the same house

[@bellaolum9768]

@@napleieunice it's not easy at all

[@pauline2604]

Abraham is now with Maureen, Sarah left

[@napleieunice]

@@pauline2604 Are you sure???

[@armoncakes7318]

I love this. ❤️ Love your journey and your pictures, too. May God continue to bless your marriage and use it to bless others, too.

[@connie8809]

This was the most interesting show about sex And marriage that I have ever seen. It makes marriage sooooo sweet and admired.

[@lilywhite8029]

Ben is a dream for any woman Gathoni you're blessed. He oozes wisdom and above all his relationship with Christ is incredible . He plays the role of a priest of the home so well For Gathoni I love how she lays back and listens without interrupting. Nothing fake, no scripts just love and submission. Woow Lynn. Good job, you really enjoyed this episode. I can see you love love

[@marykariuki7381]

Speak for yourself 😅, not mine in any sense!

[@GrindrKennedy]

You're very foolish he's a predator

[@lilywhite8029]

@@GrindrKennedy It takes a thief to catch a thief. Only a fool knows his fellow fools.

[@seanreacts254]

​@lilywhite8029 so you'll be okay with your underage daughter kupendwa na mtu ako 18+

[@TopChoiceTilesDecor]

Shindweeeeee!!! Ati a dream for who again? Talk on your own silly behalf please.

[@olivewanjiru-Mwaniki]

I first saw them during their wedding Look at where they're!!!! How they don't forget God.. More Grace.

[@josephmumita8986]

This is insightful and inspirational. Thank you, Lynn, for bringing such a conversation.

[@salomekariuki1363]

This is powerful. I need this couple to speak to my husband, ciz he is very difficult. Then talk to both of us as a couple.

[@dorcaskim8250]

Hello Lynn ...today was the best thing i need to hear .i learn alot and focusing to have it more.i want to hear more from them

[@JaneWanjiru-u2r]

"Men love themselves so much it is true,,," my fellow ladies let us love our self also and moreso taking care of our self period

[@ichooseviolence2532]

Men love themselves more coz women have taught them that they can't be trusted for whatever reason

[@samuelkibe95]

Singles are learning....thanks Lynn for sharing this.... atleast now we understands what is marriage

[@fanuelhomatenikwedhi567]

If only I could find myself with this kind of wisdom

[@ruthwagathu8282]

Best video I have watched recently! Thank you Ben and Gathoni for explaining sex and intimacy so so well..baraka

[@risperkariuki1459]

This was one of the best conversations about marriage i have listened to in a very long time. This was phenomenal 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@WanjiruMuya]

Ben & Gathoni is one couple that has zero clout, just lessons & loving God❤️

[@eomanga]

Haha 😂

[@NJERINJUE]

lemme give him his flowers; Ben you are an inspiration,a true definition of consistency,see where you are now 👏👏👏🎉umetoka mbali

[@ADayWithMe.]

The wisdom in this couple, please bring them back again.

[@peterr4431]

I hope the whole of gen z is here..... cause vitu nimeona........marriage is gonna be very interesting

[@janerose92]

When you meet the right person

[@simonkimu5368]

Who has noticed this man by the name ben is so handsome and his wisdom is oozing....im impressed by this man

[@lilywhite8029]

Yees and the melanin Any intelligent man is sexy 🤣

[@shaicagates5341]

He is wise but I wonder how a man will notice another man is handsome. Sounds weird.

[@lilywhite8029]

@@shaicagates5341 Stop sexualizing stuff.

[@aj5819]

@@shaicagates5341they do, I believe, even from a neutral sense because it’s a physical appearance.

[@Lesby-Mogale]

I must say this gentleman is very well spoken and knowledgeable.. wow👏🏾!! I see what she meant when she said she was taken by his intellect😅

[@martharinebiseko1457]

True

[@bilhahnjeri6427]

This episode was 🔥🔥🔥 bring them back again

[@marangatabitha8413]

Lynn av been watching you for long, this one nailed it!!! welcome kisii

[@edsonmatose6470]

Lyn looking beautiful and delivering the best content

[@marykabutu6839]

Good conversation, very encouranging words.

[@judwmbiyu]

This what makes marriage works Communication,say how you like it and how you want it It works so well I love the couple 🎉❤ As Women esp those in marriage let’s embrace our marriages and stop giving excuses Lovewins Marriage works Our bodies are wired differently let’s keep our men updated and work it out Kudos lyn good forum 👍😜

[@georgemayo5623]

Very well analysed. One has to work on himself or herself, in terms of character building. Then when they meet and want to be in a marriage all else follows in the marriage.

[@goodheartedgal8001]

Lynn, great conversation. Can you ask Ben to come back and talk about widows & widowers and what the Bible teaches about them moving on and finding love again?

[@loverofHS]

The Bible allows you to remarry. Once a spouse dies the one left is free to remarry. It's not a sin.

[@bellaolum9768]

The marriage covenant ends when one spouse dies. You can remarry

[@norahatambo9515]

I'm sure many women can identify with this discussion.

[@lydiamgongo3436]

Wow, I really love this couple, uwee Gothoni, please love your husband 😊his so full of wisdom

[@viletkerubo505]

Hello LNN good job God continue Blessing you and your team happy Sabbath ❤❤

[@LynnNgugi]

Thank you so much ❤

[@Patriciaedwards-w1u]

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom and ben have that.wish all men had the fear of God in them this world wld be a very peaceful and happy place

[@KATUSIIMEHILDASHIRLEY]

I totally agree with Gathoni the woman has to feel the husband's love and care the whole day then the bed thing will just come automatically. Well said Gathoni but Ben is a good husband too.

[@ichooseviolence2532]

Women wakifanya umalaya they really don't care about feelings but still give intimacy to random men.. but when married is when you guys change script for the husband to get intimacy he has to make you 'feel'

[@4382.M]

​@@ichooseviolence2532 shut up! Stop projecting!

[@ichooseviolence2532]

@@4382.M projecting kwani mm ni mwanamke

[@rubierawbiz1165]

​@w.k4382 how is that projecting while they are stating some truth? Seems like you are pissed by it.

[@JaneKuria-e4d]

yes,they do, for money.most of them have no choice and they don't enjoy it.why would a married woman do this everyday?kwani ni slavery?they just choose not to.Unfortunately there are some who don't have the courage to chose otherwise,so they stay,unhappy and bitter.

[@wacera-l5n]

Yooo Have been listening to this great people since their ruracio, wedding ,pregnancy wooo I just Love them

[@leahanitareddig]

This couple is power 💪🏾 and I love there wisdom

[@Ndubi254]

Wow! This is a very very good conversation! Am going straight to their KZbin! I love this openness! I will sit my husband down we listen to this again mostly about sex cause that's exactly what I went through and still going through after so many years but I don't think my husband understands it this way! I need their counseling so badly! We need them more here Lynn

[@Kaelicious221]

What’s they KZbin pls

[@Joycembuguawm]

If only I had watched such a show years back before the mess😅but I know my God pays back years eaten up.Ben n. Gathoni,shine on.God bless you.

[@naomynjoroge4733]

More blessings to you Gathoni and Ben ❤

[@carolynkangethe1431]

I remember their wedding on the Wedding show citizen tv it was so beautiful 😊

[@sandievlogs1]

Marriage is hard work but doable if both of you allow God to lead you

[@MichelleisMyName]

Great conversation…Great insights..I’d love a ticket to this event 😊

[@henrykaranja4353]

If you are unmarried, just know you will have to pass through the seasons of marriage, the good and the ugly you will most likely forget all the wisdom shared by the guests on the show, but soldier on

[@faithnjoroge5861]

I couldn't have said it better🎉🎉🎉

[@Afrikanagardensresort]

The best video I have watched this year....

[@JacintaMurugi]

I wish I had come across such conversation long before my separation because the whole conversation is what we went through.

[@davidnangolo9631]

This is the best video I have ever I watched on Lynn Ngugi. It is informative and educational and I have learnt a lot. Keep restoring lives. From Namibia

[@lucyjohn1587]

Learning is an everyday thing and I really appreciate cause I have really learnt a lot.Thank you sana Lynn

[@ropgloria8121]

happy to see kiruthis i first met them in university 10 years ago taking me through photo graphy and they are a power couple

[@faithvuyanzi5769]

This couple is definitely onto something with the intimacy and sex subject but the subject of submission has been regurgitated for so long and centuries of women submitting under men, they woke up to violence, insecurity, alienation and almost no place to call home in the world with their names on under 10% of Land which is a god given resource that men took ownership of to subdue women further and protect their sexual interests making us perpetual squatters on earth. I like that Ben uses the right term on what it means to submit "reduce yourself," yet if your feet are grounded on reality you know submission is not the answer. It only serves a skewed interest, that of men and their ego interests, not women and children. I understand their focal point which is religious and I would say Gathoni is possibly 'loved' in this context and quite accepting of it considering the age gap and experience its expected. Ill be looking forward to the show hosting successful couples who operate outside of these religious norms, but meanwhile Ben mentoring men outside of the toxic masculinity messages is without a doubt a step forward

[@martharinebiseko1457]

Be hosted and share non Christian stuff but as far as I know even non Christians resonate minus the quoted scriptures

[@faithvuyanzi5769]

@@martharinebiseko1457 I agree, the majority male non believers have hijacked the same beliefs in order to meet their needs and sustain status quo

[@RosyKilele]

Exactly. Especially the lady. Let her stick to her speciality in intimacy and sex. Otherwise, she cannot relate with single women because she has basically been in a relationship all her life(Since 18years)

[@chuitiger9393]

A feminist speaking. Your views are soo narrow and selfish. Back then family worked with several wives one husband. You should know why women never inherited land

[@LJTL]

Even in Kampala you're coming wow this is interesting. Thank you for sharing love from UG.

[@DadaSophia-rk2kj]

Their are men , who tell their wives to stay at their rural home,while they stay in the city, barely going home,maybe once in six months...Is such a union considered a marriage?

[@martharinebiseko1457]

Lazy to type but let me summarise . A certain lady I know lived such a marriage. Worse still the man got another family in town. She remained in the village and tilled the land to get fees for her children. While her last child was winding up univ the husband brought the small step children from the town family. She kept quiet. The man relocated to the village knowing that the bigger children will take care of their mum. She just woke up one day and asked to attend a relatives function in town. Left all her clothing and went to town to start a new life. She had lived a lonely life but stayed to work hard and raise her children. Now hubby wanted her to raise another lady's children. She never returned to the village!

[@DadaSophia-rk2kj]

​@@martharinebiseko1457I wish she left earlier,as she was hardworking,she would have met another man . The man certainly never cared for her.

[@bellaolum9768]

Do such things still happen? That was in the era of our grandparents, not acceptable in this day and age!

[@DadaSophia-rk2kj]

@@bellaolum9768 they do,to those living in the interior areas who aren't exposed ,maybe their husband hustle is a mjengo in the city,he tells you stay home as it will be cheaper if I stay in the city alone.

[@damarismoronge3163]

That's not a marriage, it's a rumor

[@KyoshabireSarah]

Wisdom spoken here!¡, thanks guys.

[@shani5747]

I loved how Lynn advocated for the minority Communities in Turkana, Isiolo, Taita, and others. Marriage is a beautiful institution. I really wish I could be in one of the couple sessions. I have been in marriage for ten years, but missed intimacy. My divorce just went through, but my ex-husband wants reconciliation and there is a disconnect. I don't know how to reconnect. This session was a blessing.

[@ichooseviolence2532]

I hope you're not assuming the disconnect is coming from him alone 🤔.. the disconnect is coming from both of you equally!!

[@shani5747]

@@ichooseviolence2532 it's in fact from my side

[@angeliqueumuhire7521]

very good conversation, plz bring them back