WHY MATURE People NEVER Say These Phrases

Someone’s age does not determine how mature they are. Maturity comes down to how people react to different situations and environments based on the experience that they have. If you are wondering how mature you, your romantic partner, or the people that surround you are, keep watching!
Do you want to know what's your mental age? We made a video on that to: • What Is Your Mental Ag...
Disclaimer: Of course, different circumstances will affect the things you or the people surrounding you say, which is why a specific explanation will be given for why each phrase would never be said by a mature person. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
Writer: Xinyi
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Ania K.
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Baty, E. (2017). The 20 Words You Should Never, Ever Say to Your Partner. Retrieved 18 March 2021, from www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/r...
Cosgrove, A. (2020). Only An Immature Guy Would Say These 12 Things. Retrieved 18 March 2021, from www.bolde.com/immature-guy-sa...
MacLeod, C. (2020). Traits Of Immature People. Retrieved 18 March 2021, from www.succeedsocially.com/immature

[@Psych2go]

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[@greyslayz2341]

You!! cuz ur awesome and deserve it

[@fighter_750]

Me because I am mature ;)

[@rudranshkhandelwal1206]

Me because I watched all your videos and old subscriber

[@hy2rochlor1c]

someone who has subscribed since the start, or someone who frequently comments on every video.

[@Bitchless_123]

Someone who was here from the start or is always commenting :D

[@kylaa9205]

I really hate those people who straight up tells you " Your not my Mom!" After educating them about something lol

[@seasaw1749]

That happens because, even though your intention is nice, they don't need the advice or they are just stressed.

[@atsukana1704]

Usually I hear it in the version of “ok mom!” Always lets me know their thought processes crystal clear. For the record I usually don’t hang out with these people

[@atsukana1704]

@@seasaw1749 well not always, it can oftentimes end up being said for a variety of other reasons. For example they have too much self pride to take the helpful criticism from another person which is what I think they were partially getting at with the video as you really wouldn’t hear anyone mature say that in this context. Usually mature people are open to criticism and growth and immature people are stuck in their ways.

[@megamusicmessenger]

@@atsukana1704 I say that sometimes but with more a jokey tone rather than an attitude.

[@seasaw1749]

@@atsukana1704 i guess when a person replies "ok mom" or "you are not my mom" their intentions could be different. They might be immature, or stressed, or in a bad mood, or they said that as a joke or may they don't just like you. I think that rather than the words, the tone and the condition of the person (as well as the environment) is something that should be focused upon.

[@kylaa9205]

0:48 "But I don't feel like it" 1:23 "Shut up!" 2:02 "your not my mom!" 2:38 "whatever" 3:21 "why can't you do it?" 3:58 "always/Never"

[@kylaa9205]

@Avo3adorable Nightcore Yes✨

[@redbitch3362]

Whatever? Umm I just used to saying it, but it's not like I'm negative towards people

[@MEAPIE101]

guess im a immature person for telling someone to shut up when they keep yelling at me -

[@zlabobabil]

some of these are very situational. "whatever" for example can just be a way of saying "it is what it is" when it comes to talking about yourself, for example "this water tastes a little weird but whatever" can signify that you actually are pretty mature in that you can tolerate something not being the way you want it to be. this doesn't apply when it's saying "whatever" to other people but if its something situational like I just mentioned it doesn't necessarily indicate immaturity. Many phrases are simply situational and putting the labels on these phrases make them sound a little worse than they can be.

[@wendybutler1681]

My oldest sister. 13 years my senior. Boy, was I surprised when we moved in together for the first time since I was 5. I consider myself emotionally mature. She throws tantrums like a bratty three year old. Asked her son if that was her normal--yup. I thought it was the onset of dementia. She's 77. She'll take her emotional angst out on whoever is handy. By best friend could have died and you will never know by my demeanor if I choose to not share it with you.

[@QueenEspeon96]

Actually, the phrase "I don't feel like it" could be used as a building block for boundaries. This is especially true if the person has a few set of boundaries or if one is overly dependent on others.

[@danielrobinson2877]

“Of course this does not ALWAYS apply because every circumstance is different.”

[@rainbowcraft2694]

"But I don't feel like it" Is a bit different from something like "But I don't feel ready to do this" or "But I don't feel like this will work"

[@SilverBiata]

I've gone years taking on a LOT pretty much hardly saying "No". Took me a while, but I finally came with a personal compromise, as I realized the problem was taking on too much emotionally/physically at once. My husband knows when I genuinely can or cannot help and respects my wording of "I'm not up to it right now" it usually means I'm having a hard time focusing on too tired to even stand. So, if I can't he moves on even if he has a lot. I feel this relates to what you said, as I didn't have emotional boundaries early on and took on a very stressful job that wouldn't take "No" but encouraged out of the box thinking. But sometimes you just gotta know when you can't, genuinely. It's give and take. I getchya!

[@cheese_friesman5990]

they were addressing the context not directly saying the sentence in general

[@vAqeii]

Mature people never say: "Minecraft is cringe"

[@trule_bee]

Facts

[@rxsejay]

people still play Minecraft? 💀

[@uriel6018]

mature people also don’t comment on youtube videos or play minecraft or even know it in the first place

[@StoutTerrorist]

Minecraft is cringe

[@STATFANs]

@@StoutTerrorist ratio

[@ashviper6727]

Also they never say, "I'm more mature than you". That's one I hear a lot and it makes the other person actually seem more childish.

[@exotixbros64]

my "friend" has some narcissistic traits and ALWAYS talks about how he is much more mature than other people and me.

[@markarca6360]

Karens be like...

[@rainbowcraft2694]

Also they never say anything like "Who asked?" or "Did I ask?" (The first one sometimes if they actually want to know who they are answering a question for)

[@MeemahSN]

Yeah that’s pretty true. However, if you’re just joking around with a close friend and the two of you aren’t being serious, then it’s perfectly fine to make a claim like that if you don’t actually mean it, and they’re aware of it

[@Snezzleify]

Heard that one plenty of times in primary school 🙄

[@toska3528]

The, "you're not my mom" one got me. I used to have an abusive, alcoholic, drug addicted step-mother who was literally mentally insane and I used to tell her that all the time as a kid. It was based.

[@so1arsystem866]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. :( I hope you have a good day/night!

[@toska3528]

@@so1arsystem866 thank you, you as well!

[@postalpie]

Based chad alpha commenter

[@Matchujames]

Psych2Go: “MATURE people would NEVER say these things.” Also Psych2Go: “Using words like ALWAYS and NEVER is something MATURE people wouldn’t do.”

[@waftsofpetrichor]

😂

[@zizhuohe3504]

🤣

[@sleekyissleepy]

Bro true

[@Psych2go]

oops...

[@Sky_flame2799]

I love it

[@tjdouk4267]

You'll never hear a mature individual blurt out these 3 things: *"Sheeesh"* *"Ur Mom"* *"SusSy BaKa"* Now if you'll excuse me I'm off to go and say those exact 3 things in consistent succession to attain all the annoyance of the loved ones around me.

[@dreamieramune]

yup this entire comment is a fat mood

[@Psych2go]

Oop!

[@michaelcheng9987]

I know it's most definitely joking around, but a reminder that it's not often the words themselves, but like the video said it's the tone and context they have been said. "Shut up" can be a reaction to a cringey joke, "why can't you do it?" can be a genuine question, and I'm sure you can use always or never regarding things things you've liked/disliked since childhood. Really, it's about intent; the words are more a common byproduct of all these bad habits of immaturity.

[@Naphtali_hadia]

FACTS^^^^

[@roxanneadebayo443]

Exactly I totally agree. But that makes more sense if it's contextual meaning and voice tone. Coz it would be a little shallow if they meant not using those words 😅

[@rainbowcraft2694]

Something like "I have never liked that" or "I will always remember this moment" is a completely different thing altogether.

[@star5384]

How did you comment this in 2 months ago

[@infiresman4975]

2 months ago???? How?

[@brandonf.8360]

The only part I have disagree with is telling someone "you're not my mother". I've known some people to overstep their boundaries and had to be reminded that they aren't dealing with their child.

[@atsukana1704]

Yes but I can’t imagine there being many mature people that would say that phrase to let them know. Instead a mature person would normally say “hey, I feel like I am being treated like a child when you say that” or something to that effect. Telling someone “you’re not my mother” just sounds far too accusatory and name calling for someone more mature to say.

[@seasaw1749]

Exactly

[@brandonf.8360]

@@atsukana1704 I understand however maturity works both ways. If I have to remind an adult, whose someone parent, on more than one occasion about having how to talk or not violate space, there's a problem. There are adults who bully children and try with their peers due to not being checked. At some point they will test the wrong one.

[@PurrfectlyTabby]

@@atsukana1704 it's quicker to just say: 'ok dad' with a sarcastic tone.

[@mikestarr6204]

@@brandonf.8360 ..and then what will happen

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

We all don’t feel like doing something every once in a while I don’t think it’s what defines an immature person, unless this person says it every time for everything

[@ives3572]

"Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension." - Joshua Loth Liebman

[@Psych2go]

Truth!

[@nanalyo3696]

Actually, whenever you are reacting with emotions you are persieved as immature. But sometimes I wonder if it is correct to label someone based only on their reaction.

[@vecoolgaming]

Label comes attached with birth, peace comes after your enlightened.

[@teunvanwezel2282]

Emotional response aren't labeled as immature; strong, uncontrolled emotions are. Having emotions isn't immature (in fact it's perfectly healthy), not being able to properly manage and express them is.

[@nanalyo3696]

@@teunvanwezel2282 I didn't say emotions are a bad thing. I said the reaction to it is perceived by others as immature. But you made a good point.

[@chesspwn7457]

It's fine to get get sad or angry about something. But the thing is, if you throw a tantrum, give the silent treatment, yelling, etc. that's when it's perceived as immature emotions. Emotions happen, maturity is deciding what you do when you feel an emotion, immaturity is letting the emotion decide what you do.

[@waftsofpetrichor]

@@chesspwn7457 Yeah, but giving silent treatments to others is also a way of setting boundaries which shows that you respect yourself. Cutting off people and setting boundaries doesn't mean you hate them, NOR does it make you immature, and it certainly does NOT make you egotistical.

[@Dr_zevia]

3:06 similar phrase: “Your (insert young age or a rank below them) why should I listen to you” This is when an adult or otherwise high ranking person is embarrassed they have lost an argument to someone below them. Remember, losing an argument fairly and taking it well it one of the most mature things you can do. It’s honestly impressive sometimes.

[@SilverBiata]

Graceful loss. Yeah. You are never too old or too mature for this. I am a teacher and I approve my own message.

[@Clownygutzz]

In my case, someone would probably say “you make Gacha content why should I listen to you” Just accept your loss with grace

[@Dr_zevia]

@@Clownygutzzoof

[@Stop1601]

Plain as day genetic fallacy.

[@SilverBiata]

@@Clownygutzz This is just me....but if someone dared say that to MY face, depending on the topic, I'd say/feel something to the effect of "Yeah my HOBBY has nothing to do with this but when you know your **** by knowing (insert brief wording here on topic that is relevant and concrete with a dash of a fact) so that you can be wiser/smarter as not to (insert reason here why them shutting you down is dumb in first place)." I've faced this a lot recently when folks wanna challenge my perspective as a teacher/nanny with no children and I play video games. Do I know this is easier said than done? Yes. It's because o f Role-play, acceptance of who/what I truly am/am not, and letting my intuition fly when it needs to with words that I've been able to. It took a lot, and a lot of what you said of being shut down like that...but for what it's worth, it's worth it from what I've seen. Don't give up. You've got what you need deep down in you. :)

[@floramew]

As a disabled person, "I don't feel like it" can def mean different things depending on context. I have had to turn down/ cancel fun plans to hang out with friends bc I didn't feel up to it pretty often both in my life as a whole and also recently. I don't have much motivation in the way of house chores either, and I can admit there's some level of "real" laziness (whatever that means lol) involved but it's hard to untangle that from both physical & mental health problems

[@KidKamma]

Agreed. I think that phrase was the one I disagreed with the most. Many times it can be very good to admit that you don’t feel like something. I find it mature of myself when I dare to say that I don’t feel like something. I can get that in some situations it might come across as immature tho. But I’d rather have people being true to themselves than force themselves onto doing something, while sometimes it’s good to force yourself. It just depends on the situation imo.

[@_chapternumberone_8782]

@@KidKamma but she was talking about things which you are responsible for. If you turn down activities or hanging out with your friends when you don’t feel like it that’s totally fine. No point in spending time with people if you actually wanna have alone time. But there are some things in life you have to do regardless of how you feel sometimes...for example taking care of your child, paying rent, doing hosehold chores once in a while, going to work etc.

[@rainbowcraft2694]

Though a valid phrase in some situations, there's a bit of a difference between saying it like "I don't feel like it" vs "I don't feel up to it". The first conveys that you don't want to, while the second conveys that you don't think you can physically or mentally handle it right now.

[@Psych2go]

Sorry about this... We will take this into consideration in our future scripts!

[@duckybald]

I hope you're all having a wonderful day :D

[@duckybald]

@Andrew Createz lol also 2-d pfp very epic

[@Psych2go]

Good day mate!

[@KhoiruunisaRF]

I think some of the phrases still can be used no matter how mature you are. It's just situational.

[@Psych2go]

Very true... Do you have an example of how some of these can be used in other situations?

[@Atsuoru]

I rarely but only use "whatever" not because I run out of argument or something, but because I am too lazy or busy to deal with someone who is not willing to listen to common sense or try to think so it reeeeally depends in which context this word is used 😂

[@scottmcintyre3896]

I use "whatever" all the time when dealing with people who won't listen, or always put themselves in the middle if an issue. The "whatever" disarms the person and forces them to change their perspective.

[@vitmartobby5644]

Seems like arguing in bad faith, as said in the video, saying "whathever" is a quick way of making null the entire point of the conversation... A different way of saying "shut up"

[@michaelkrull3331]

Keep telling yourself that 😉

[@atsukana1704]

@@vitmartobby5644 ya it wasn’t referring to using it as a way to defuse tension but rather as deflecting guilt I agree on that. Although the cases where that is actually the case are few and far between so usually if you find yourself saying that, you should triple check to see if you are actually defusing tension or just deflecting guilt. In the end immaturity can strike us all and is the root of most heated arguments. Usually two mature people don’t get into that heated of arguments without recognizing it together and defusing it on their own.

[@PurrfectlyTabby]

Agreed. I wouldn't say I use it all the time but there are times where there is no point arguing with someone who will not listen to reason. I would like to know what the appropriate alternative to saying 'whatever' in this exact situation is. Other options I can think of would be either silence or continue arguing. Neither are healthy for you.

[@zenforce189]

@@PurrfectlyTabby personally if someone is arguing and I am in a consistent disagreement with the points or reasons said then I will say something to the effect of “suit yourself” or “although I may not agree with you” and then say what your point was and just try to end it.

[@makaylawatt8288]

Hello.I am a 13 going on 14 yr old girl in 8th grade and I struggle with really bad anxiety and social anxiety. Today I went to Walmart and I was buying something for myself and I offered for my grandma to go before me to check out and she told me to go ahead and pay, I nearly had a panic attack while digging to the bottom of my purse to get change and when I have it to the guy I was shaking really bad. My parents and grandparents have no idea about my anxiety because I mainly self diagnosed it and they would say "its just you being shy" or "pshaw you don't have anxiety you don't act like it" I mainly have panic attacks at school when there is a fight between my friends or there is a test, I also tend to have anger issues where I just start lashing out at people during the day. I'm sorry for ranting i just feel the need to tell someone to get this off my chest, I know you're never gonna see this anyway.

[@chompybanana]

Hey, Makayla! For all of this anxiety, I'd say it requires even more bravery for you to say all of that. Don't be "sorry". I'm proud of you, alright? And also, I understand what you're going through. Life can get really hectic sometimes, and we can feel as though we're surrounded by a "void" of sorts. Of course, different things work for different people, but I'd suggest trying to prioritize your self-love before everything else. When you feel more confident with yourself and create a strong foundation to tackle life's obstacles, you'll find progress, one step at a time. Also, listening to music has a way of speaking to the soul, ya know? I don't hesitate to lean on a good song if I'm not feeling too great. Anyways, I hope you feel a bit better about all of this, and of course let me know if you need any more help with anything. :)

[@IceWolfAlphaheart7777]

I’m so sorry to hear this! I have a good friend who suffers from the same thing. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path

[@vecoolgaming]

They are pushing you to be better. It's always best get protective parents than neglected parents. Or no parents at all. You have to live your life no one can live it for you. This is all people say in a subtext

[@LuvDelux]

@@chompybanana I love this advice. Solid. I would love to know what are other people's fave activities for self- love are and Makayla what are yours? Mine include gym, art, music, dancing, hot baths, nature walks, journaling, nature walks, cooking healthy delicious dishes....what else?!

[@chompybanana]

@@LuvDelux Thanks! Wow, you just listed so many amazing things to do. I definitely enjoy physical exercise, art, music, poetry, photography, nature, journaling, cooking/baking, watching motivational videos, playing the trumpet (or any instrument, really), archery, baseball, reading the Bible, etc. :D

[@EBThisThat]

I’ve said ‘you’re not my boss’ but in an assertive way to someone who was basically trying to tell me how to do my job like I couldn’t or wasn’t doing it well enough. I think I handled the situation well.

[@Psych2go]

good on you!

[@energyteam7235]

I'm so glad i saw this video, I can tell that I haven't used any of these phrases. I was always used to do things that i had to because of my own peace of mind, I let others tell their arguments... maybe that's more because i rather listen then speak..., And even there was some moments when i was a little bit furious because it seemed for me that i'm doing all completely wrong, i said to myself that they just want to do it for my own good, I'm not using whatever... but i remember momentss when i was talking with some people and they used it. And when some people asked me to do something i do it, because i believe that it will comeback to me some day back from someone... I really glike the video! Great work, again i discovered something new for me!

[@Psych2go]

[@IMT-Thurisaz]

I believe in life you gotta be straightforward and honest no matter how hard it is to take it,truth hurts but you gotta know it

[@teegutta4689]

GOOD MORNING ,FAMILY, FRIENDS I JUST STOPPED BY TO SAY HELLO AND THANK YOU FOR ALL THE HELPFUL VIDEO, LOVE THE VOICE. TEE, GOD BLESS

[@hackidreemurr]

Two days ago I dealt with an immature person and it still hurts me how she treated me back then. This video really helps me to calm down :) Thank you, Psych2Go! You really know how to brighten up someone's day

[@aaryadesai2587]

thank you so much.I really needed a reality check of what words I am using.

[@yassar87]

I’m a mature student at medical school, mature in the sense that I’m old (34), and it’s amazing (and very frustrating) how many of these phrases the younger students who’ve come straight from high school use. There’s no substitute for life experience and being humbled by hardships to make someone maturer. I just hope they learn these lessons before they start working, otherwise they’re going to be in for a rough time.

[@alicjagodlewska1059]

it's not your problem, worring about stuff like that is childlish ;-)

[@rainbowcraft2694]

I still prefer literally any of these over the phrase "who asked?" or "did I ask?"

[@Psych2go]

It takes time and a few life lessons...

[@crowreaper9393]

Everybody I met, use these phrases. Maturity is a bit subjective for others. I think maturity is more about being independent and accept that things won't go your way. It could be proven wrong by other people, but who am I to judge?

[@vecoolgaming]

The way of the mastery. Discipline the philosophy. Alter the element of nature. Awaken the mind and its might. Flow like water, strike like thunder, go like the wind

[@chesspwn7457]

There's many areas to be mature in and they only kinda relate to each other. Most of these phrases are being immature in interpersonal interactions. Being independent is personal maturity. There's financial maturity too as another category.

[@Psych2go]

Hmmm.. intersting!

[@Malosphere]

Only 1k people found this vid.

[@grotebaby1827]

2k now

[@EdfrePDS]

I found this after it was unlisted...

[@brawnerbandwidthpartdeux643]

Uh yeah

[@nausheenn_]

6.9k now 😏😏

[@brawnerbandwidthpartdeux643]

@@nausheenn_ whatever. Jk

[@ErikWhitford]

You’re the second video that I watch today that has peoples different forms of reality or lying or deception so when anybody says whatever they don’t want you burst in their nice little bubble of them knowing the way certain things are the way that they’re taught to not into new information still the thing is they shut up Juan even asked after you asked the person politely enough to please quiet or he let me finish talking making my point and they tell you to shut up is because they’re tired of you talking most of stuff in here is still common sense but everybody has taught or they’re just generation X where we don’t give a shi

[@aestheticgcddess]

I’ve had moments where I’ve said these things, the one where I have said a year ago is “whatever” because I knew I was in the wrong but I didn’t want to admit it in an argument I had caused with my boyfriend. The bright side of this is that I’ve grown to be a better person for my own self worth and my relationship with my boyfriend, I admit when I’m wrong regardless of any situation. The one I have never used is “you are not my mom”.

[@YourNickIsTaken]

I am immature but I don't use these phrases. - I assume that others want to hurt me (and rearly Im wrong about that) - I hold grudge. - I care too much about what others think of me. I want fit in so much I don't talk out loud my constructive thoughts, while I cannot keep everything inside and I burst out a pile of criticism, ideas, thoughts and good practices when I'm overwhelmed. - When someone gives me feedback I can only hear that I'm not good enough and the world would be a better place w/o me. - I don't make friends because it is too exhausting not share my thoughts with someone I care, and I cannot be around people I need to pretend to be part of a social life that has no flaws and battles. I'm immature in a different, unhealthy way.

[@Lunasera]

"why can't you do it?" Is actually a good way to get people with a holier than you attitude off your back. Like those relatives that keep telling you that you should spend your time helping the relative that tormented you for years but they won't offer any help themselves.

[@valencialim127]

I think most people would handle things in a mature manner, just that sometimes, out of frustration or anger, then the negative words just blurt out. So sometimes, I just close one eye and just try to understand that maybe the other person isn't feeling so good about certain issue in their lives. I am trying to practice self-compassion and hope to see things improve, which I think improvement is a sure thing, as long as I put in some amount of effort.

[@pedromoura1446]

What i got from this is that my whole family is immature.... Nice! Now im not the only one and can use the video as a weapon. You know... The mature thing to do... Thanks psychtogo!

[@jenlina2326]

This video is extremely helpful because now i could better myself to become someone i dont hate.

[@ajs4925]

It’s all about how it’s said and if your willing to compromise plus taking how something was said personally just shows how mature u actually are

[@Hannah7Banana]

Thank you for this it will help me improve. Although I really don’t understand how people get upset about what people say to you I don’t let it get to me and I just laugh it off lol. Although ig years of mental training and past experience will do that to you lol. I have trouble with emotional numbness from derealization and complex ptsd although I consider my emotional numbness a blessing in disguise because it helps me calm down my social anxiety and it helps me to stay calm in any situation. On top of all that I have adhd so that’s just GREAT but it’s whatever that’s just how my life is so I mind as well just accept it and live with it and be greatfull for every small or big thing I have.

[@Psych2go]

[@TheJasonx7]

But sometimes doing chores you really don't feel like it though. When your just so drained. Just know you'll get them done but it helps to take things much slower at times

[@noahlani6480]

Folding the laundry is 💯 more difficult when you mind is urging to do something else. But if you just sit there, on your bed, doing laundry. It’s a perfect de-stresser

[@exposingproxystalkingorgan4164]

This video voice is very calming and relaxing.

[@ZoroBr7684]

It's better to have a wise enemy than a foolish friend.

[@mitjamackenzie1219]

Not really.

[@ZoroBr7684]

@@mitjamackenzie1219 yeah it's just to say that u are prepared for the enemy. But never expect your own friend to fail with u.

[@NicoleCzarnecki]

It depends on intent. For example, as two other commenters said, those of us with disabilities often really don’t feel like doing something precisely because we aren’t up to it or even can’t do it. We know our limits.

[@csisver]

one of my pet peeves is when people dont admit they are wrong

[@midas_tones]

I’ve got a video request. If you could do one about the stages of exhaustion I think that would be cool. I was sleep deprived recently and temporary insanity along with a confidence boost came ip pretty quick. I also heard that after three days without sleep you start hallucinating so I’d like to hear more about that too

[@nakshatramusic21]

One more phrase that immature people say: "Psych2Go sucks"

[@thebrokenolive5213]

that's what DUMB people say

[@gibbyboi5703]

9 months ago wtf

[@SPIRIT1949]

True

[@roxanneadebayo443]

@@gibbyboi5703 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg how did I not notice that

[@udunnomeson]

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[@Gwpersonal]

Go into more detail about B.E.D and more about the cycle and some about the impacts it can have on your mental, psychical, and financial health.

[@heartoflinnea2131]

A good time to use the question "why can't you do it yourself?" is in situations like the one I often find myself in... I have this friend who's great at saying "okay" when being asked to do something... She's also great at the very next second ask someone else to do the exact same thing... In other words, she tends to delegate the tasks SHE'S been given to others who have their own tasks...

[@Psych2go]

Tru!

[@Kaempfdog]

Well some of these depend. But in flustered response to big yourself up or cut someone off, THOSE are the ones you’re looking out for.

[@braunbroadnax2151]

I came for the cat in the tree kickin' it with his three friends dancing at the end. lol Love it.

[@Psych2go]

[@TheCatWatches]

I’m going to start wearing a monocle and sip tea

[@blue94rose]

How to react or be with someone who is immature? I have a family, who -most if not always- make me do their chores and work and still is cranky and rude no matter what, just screaming at the top of their lungs and asserts their dominant knowledge even on things they don't know and then when it's wrong, never care how it affected me or anyone... I know people too who use whatever, but this person and so many others I know are like this.. if you can make a video on how to be calm or be persistent with these types of people, it would be great ❤️ btw I love your videos 🥰

[@TheRealMespotine]

It's funny, that one of the great breakthroughs and growing in my therapy was learning to say "but I don't feel like it" as this helps me not to overload me with work and chores 👀 (I know, you mentioned that the phrases depend on context but I think this perspective is very important for people who think, taking over responsibility means having to work and do things all the time...which can attack selfcare measures.)

[@chesspwn7457]

I think the difference is that you mean more to say, I don't want to do something someone is offering to you while the video was more of, when it's brought up to do something you should do/are going to do sometime anyways.

[@3cent]

making excuses, exploding, misreading intention, shrugging off/belittling, over-generalizing/stereotyping etc. gaslighting...i digressed. my take is that m it's a lifelong journey no matter the stage we are at, even at death's door.

[@vecoolgaming]

Yolo

[@WolflingD]

Yeah, my mom uses those phrases all the time when she fights with my dad or is just generally angry. It gets on my nerves and makes me want to leave the place in general (but I can’t cause I can’t drive and she’s way too overprotective of me to let me go outside by myself) I really can’t wait for her to get out of my life.

[@norayoder3189]

I’m surprised I’m even writing this comment as I’m notorious for giving whether of myself or in a more tangible way and almost feel uncomfortable on the rare occasions that others shower me with gifts of either variety BUT I would really Really love to give that plushie to my 23 yo “adult” daughter. She’s a good kid, big heart & a little too empathetic for her own health just like her mamma. She is going through a very tough time emotionally, mentally & physically currently and she LOVES those kind of anxiety aids❣️It would make my month to surprise her with something special like that especially since my time, energy & budget are extra tight as I’m fighting my way out of the hole Covid dug for myself & my family❣️

[@dearsal6761]

I adore the voice of the person talking in that video

[@PikminandOatchi]

I mean if someones being racist or something it's pretty reasonable to tell them to shut up.

[@vecoolgaming]

I don't have a problem 😌 with racist there very funny 😄

[@davidc4396]

You are still immature because you failed to control your emotions. Racist person is more likely to stay racist if you treat them like they don't deserve their voice. They follow the logic of "Ah, you hate it, then it must be the truth". They see at as if you don't have a proper argument and therefore they must be right. This is true for everyone you disagree with, not just racists. It's not about spitting on them, it's about being civil and trying to change their mind respectfully. Just look at the response you got before my comment. They already won the argument because you gave them all the room. You can read people like a book if you just put yourself in their shoes.

[@unicornwithluv950]

@@davidc4396 standing up for what’s right is something that needs to be done at times when it’s necessary, so I won’t call it immature if a person speaks up against something racist/offensive, even if they seem upset while doing so, however you do have good points. I wish to know if there’s a better way to handle people who are just insensitive in general and are not aware of how big of a negative impact their words could have.

[@LeeirahBrashka]

I am guilty of “always and never” and its actually because I am angry. But when I am angry its because someone crossed my boundaries, and its normal to be immature when we are emotional. It’s human nature, and its not about mental health too. Its behaviours that humans share within another to socialize, emotions can be difficult to manage and cope with in many situations. But also, being immature will make you more mature. Experiences don’t just happen, you have to actively seek it. Anyhow, thanks for reading it all😅😊

[@deathblog1014]

I didnt know that that is sad , childish and rude too but this video helps alot tho thank you ❤

[@surreallane9730]

My mother and her husband lack boundaries, especially with chores. They want consistency and see things as kids chores and won't do them. I think I do pretty well in doing chores while having bad mental health, but I will get a lot of attitude if I miss chores for a day. So I believe I get to say I don't feel like it.

[@thomasstanhouse6224]

These felt really obvious hearing them, but when I think about it, I know many adults that do these things. Also, I sometimes use always/never when I don't mean it literally. I think I use these words the way an immature person might swear for "emphasis" (attention). But it does say a lot about the people in attracted to 😖 yellow/red flags I never thought about

[@sixkeiii]

"Hmm i think im pretty mature" Psych: *Think againnn!*

[@mayalord984]

Thank you ❤️

[@Jabberwalky42]

Good advice.

[@DrummerSwagger]

Great animation

[@rainbowcraft2694]

You missed the most common immature phrase out there. The always toxic "Did I ask?"

[@ashfuryaboi4338]

Can you make a video on how to deal with stress and anxiety? cause I have anxiety 24/7 and its starting to take a toll on my health. Im always constantly stressed out and go into an emotional breakdowns. Ive tried a lot of things but I'm still dangerously anxious :(((

[@norayoder3189]

Guess I’m not as mature as I hoped I’d grown to be🙁Though I do not wholly agree with all of these phrases pointing to one being immature. For example, “I don’t feel like it” is something I say at least a few times a week when I’m dragging my aching old joints and bones out of the door to go work a third or fourth 11 hour consecutive shift. Once I’m up, dressed & clocked in I meet all drama, chaos and stress with genuine positivity and approach my humble work with the same level of ethics and integrity that I would employ if I was say a neurologist with my patients lives literally in my hands❣️

[@azscn8192]

There are premises which telling that Evil can be mature aswell (bible, James 1:15). Besides immaturity don't negates rightness of arguments. You can be immature and still being right. If you shout at someone or calmly talk that don't change basic mining of that argument. It only change your appreciation level but maturity itself is only pigeonholing and labeling for that what we don't like in others.

[@krisztinafarkas2976]

Sadly some only undersrtand rude way only. You can be aa mature as you'd like, if what you say in a polite way is not heared ir understood, but as soon as you put it on the more rude way, it gets done. As is said: say the way it is understood.

[@NAFIZ_NF]

"I don't feel like it" is the only phrase I use.

[@hanarielgodlike9283]

"I don't feel like it" for me is the Oposit, its a sign of maturity... I'm fed of ppl making up excuses for not doing something that if someone say "I don't want to" or "i dont feel like it" it will earn a lot of points with me.

[@bastionsea2829]

I've sorted people by maturity for a long time, glad to have some backup now I think of someone who loves twintails (a trait of immaturity in anime) and I don't think she uses these phrases, lending credence to having her inner child close to the surface

[@PurrfectlyTabby]

Guess I'm immature then. I do say: 'whatever' after I try to reason with someone of whom I do not have authority over and does not want to listen. I consider it a waste of time to argue any further after you have stated the facts and they still choose the wrong course of action. I will also use 'never' in the following related statement: I never say 'whatever' to a person after I was proven wrong. That to me is extremely immature and shows that you are closed minded and stubborn. I think it is very interesting that 'whatever', 'never' and 'always' are words listed as words mature people never say.

[@xDennNiex]

watching this to improve myself, but finding many of that in my partners behavor isnt the kind of trace i was hoping for.

[@dallasmckim4370]

"You're not my Supervisor" is one of my default phrases and I don't imagine benching it anytime soon.

[@CorpusOrganic]

"whatever" is one i use a lot. i keep trying to warn someone that something is a scam. they argue it isn't. i tend to just say "whatever" and dropping it. i don't like seeing them getting themselves hurt. they don't want my help though. i keep forgetting that and trying to help anyways. the one where they asked for my card to pay the $1 fee to get the ipad contest entry they won has been the worst so far. i'm hoping it didn't accept their card because they put it in wrong. instead of the site being designed to auto reject cards and keeping the details

[@spookyspice596]

My dad ALWAYS says “whatever” whenever he’s proven wrong. It’s so frustrating!

[@Psych2go]

He just doesn't have words for the comeback

[@elisewei5145]

hey, can you do a sensory processing disorder video? I haven't seen one, and although I have previously been diagnosed with it, I would like it to be more well known.

[@DarrenStevensohnOfficial]

I almost never tell people to "shut up" in an argument as long as they remained objective with their statements regarding the problem or topic. however, once I heard anything personal or subjective, I wont only tell them to shut up, I will immediately ignore their presence at all. If that happens on a phone call, I will put my phone away and leave them talking to themselves. I it is in group chat, I will mute them. If it is in a direct convo, I will just immediately wear a headphone right then and there.

[@creativeflame_]

Honestly I see “whatever” as like agree to disagree which is kinda mature in my opinion. It depends again bc you can be mature about it like “sure whatever works” or you can be immature like “whatever you say/ I’m still right” so I guess it can be both

[@DinoFish-jv6ft]

Personally saying "Whatever" in a conversation is either my way of admitting I'm wrong because I'm stubborn and wont admit it right away (I will eventually be okay admitting it once I'm over the fact that I was wrong or over the heat of the argument) or my way of getting into saying "it doesn't matter" cause I don't believe them anyways and I know neither of us are gonna stop.

[@Psych2go]

True!

[@sherithiede9333]

I have never claimed to be mature but I am working on it

[@niyati1218]

Time- travelling all the waaaaayyy!!!

[@wunderkindt]

I love what the thumbnail is based off of

[@Mystik_Music]

The thing I usually say the second one or fourth one is because I usually don't think too much when arguing therefore leading to me acting far more immature and childish than I actually am. I don't know why I can't really control myself at all times, do you have a video based around this concept?

[@chesspwn7457]

Haha, my Ex did at least three of these. It was super frustrating. Not only are these things immature, but it's an effective and quick way to get someone to stop trying to have a relationship with you.

[@luvslovinq254]

Hi, i was just wondering if you can make a video of how to control your emotions when you have toxic friend's, I'm sorry if this is too much, but i just need to help, again I'm sorry if I'm asking too much.

[@dennisunplugged]

a close friend of mine always uses whatever when we talk about stuff or we argue and generally whenever the conversation gets an awkward turn against them they try stopping it like that and i try to keep up with my points and find the solution. i’ve talked to them about it and why i find it annoying but they don’t seem do understand. this reminds me of myself in some way cause i used to be like that a year ago and i stopped only when i realized that i need to solve problems instead of avoiding them. how can i convince that person to do the same?

[@brooklynbaritone]

After watching this, I realize that I'm lacking a monocle.

[@VxDxLx]

I don’t think I’ve said any of these in a few years other then I don’t want to before doing so regardless because life is not fair or fun inherently. I do think that implied meaning behind speech should be understood before speaking if possible as often that’s the point if your words anyway. An example would would be calling a partner dumb to a associate, that especially if you picked them implies you select dumb people, the why could be a number of reasons but it’s still the implied statement.

[@plank3865]

Could you make a vid about alternative ways to appear less hostile or disrespectful?

[@ajs4925]

I don’t feel like it isn’t bad ur being honest .. for example hey I don’t feel like vacuuming however I don’t doing mind doing the dishes instead..

[@noahlani6480]

The last one kinda hit me hard. Whenever I ask my friends to hangout they are busy, so I ask them if they can arrange another time but they just say that “we *never* get to hang out because your *always* grounded or busy” It kinda hurts me that because they don’t even try to ask if we could hang out because they think that I’m gonna be grounded (which was only twice) or just lay them off just because I have extra homework.

[@vividannt]

I'm pretty mature in most situations, but I day almost all of these phrases. Most of them, though, I say when I'm around my friends and joking. I usually don't say it to just anybody. 😅

[@ajthagg2429]

I don't think I'm a mature person but I don't say these words

[@BoBo-pe3kv]

We never stop building character. Sooo ya never stop maturing as well!) There are immature people that believe they are mature. As well, mature people who think they are immature!) A persons Criticism’s and conflict resolution can determine the proper status. A mature person can have a healthy discussion over confrontations. Immature people usually cave to the frustration and project their behavior in means of compensating their fragile ego. Ego- there’s a strong indicator sign of hidden insecure immaturity. We are not our Ego don’t let your’s trick you into listening to it.

[@daxmaverick7646]

Dumbledore: All this time? Snape: ALWAYS

[@michaeljordan5630]

Sometimes I feel too mature for my own good. Sure my KZbin commentary says otherwise but I rarely let thing that make me mad let me express myself let alone act on personal endeavors.