Why men LOVE women who DON'T try hard

[@babydii3487]

One thing I learned too is to never compliment a man frfr. You only boost their egos to chase other women

[@ichuze7312]

💯❤️

[@sofitocyn100]

And then they complain that women never compliment them. Just like they love saying that they are hunters by nature but complain that they are expected to make the first step. Whenever I compliment the guy I date, I always notice a shift - he believes I am head over heels about him and that irks him. He loses interest.

[@Whitetysnowny]

51:21 respect, security, perceived value, self reflection- they chase after you as a way of self validating.

[@lizzyav2555]

oh wow. is thats why men chase me? because i absolutely don’t do anything. im only motivated to do anything for my own happiness financial security health and preservation.

[@twincherry4958]

We should be friends 😅

[@2000Ns7]

Prediction: this account is going to grow big🎉♥️

[@user-fr9ns7mh6f]

Actually shocked he doesn’t have more subscribers tbh

[@hawanatujobe1111]

Ikr...this guy's so good 😊

[@Chalkartistry]

Hopefully the low level males don't find it

[@NathalieLiu-g7s]

agree

[@tmarie9413]

🧢

[@fluffythebluepersian4888]

This is so depressing. If i ever divorce i wouldnt even want to date or deal with men period. Being alone and getting yourseld a good toy seems peaceful and chaos free

[@bigthangz5489]

well then..pray tht u never divorce.

[@lizaarts9862]

Take a step back, take several steps - walk a mile backwards 😂😂😂😂

[@shellyshellz581]

If a “mature man” really likes you all this doesn’t matter ❤he’ll still like you

[@tmarie9413]

Exactly

[@lililalova9973]

not true :D no matter how mature, if he is desired buy a lot of women and he has a lot of options, it always matter!

[@seen007]

The point is MAN ... man is man and that's the fact

[@Hellthee]

@@lililalova9973that is a factor yes

[@Hellthee]

Yeah “mature”, the most rare breed in the men industry 😂

[@HER_DEKAAN]

This is really great advice for discerning when a man really wants you

[@supaguh]

I wish I found this channel before my last relationship.

[@yasmin9846-y3z]

I wish I found it when I was born :(

[@camille-7015]

@@yasmin9846-y3z😂😂😂

[@ichuze7312]

The example of the juggling and being set on fire was pure gold 😂😂😂❤

[@gloriamoulopoulos2925]

Thank you for saying this! I've been telling other women this for years and they think I'm crazy or corny. I always let the man court me and do not make it easy for him in the beginning. I agree with most of the things you're saying.

[@tas673]

You’re like the big brother we never had ! 😢❤ Thank you for all your hard work!

[@CC-pu6qn]

I just kicked my husband out, we are separated and he is doing more. The thing is that’s not attractive. When a person is nice it’s classic take for granted.

[@TheMoonlightMage]

When I left my shitty ex, he suddenly begged. lmao, at that point, they're not wanted anymore

[@Navyblue0785]

​@TheMoonlightMage congrats you can now had it to your resume "got my ex to beg" 👏👏👏

[@bahamagal4702]

Your channel is informative and I love the delivery 🤣

[@sherylcastro5688]

I appreciate you so much. I am healingggggggg❤❤❤❤❤ No more scammers in my life!!!

[@NannyDivaLiscious]

Ya know Tomisin.........T my brotha........it's something about when you say 'JackHamma himself inside you" makes me feel so lowly and ashamed cause that visual is soooooooo hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Looooove you❤

[@girltalkbeauty]

So true the guy i liked I did to much for and my emotions was not in check definitely pushed him away lol

[@massmediamanager9443]

I am a master of creating mystery abd attraction in a man BUT! But- i still do call then out on "what is happening between us, what is your plan" when time comes. At this point i don't care about losing mystery because it's a turning point - I sacrifice my attrativeness and become demanding, sort things with him, if he is not diving into relationship completely, i walk away and then distances does the dirty work for me. No contact then creates mystery.. I honestly think that being stuck in mysterious ways is only good periodically

[@fluffythebluepersian4888]

14:45 lmao not the juggling 😅

[@Lordvoldymort]

Had me crying 😭😭😭

[@ThePrettytrapgroomer]

Bruhhh caught me off guard 🤣🤣

[@annle986]

been binge watching your vids so far! Your channel is amazing!

[@S-jy4fd]

This is the best channel I have ever come across, so much gems. You’re so smart and articulate ❤

[@armenianchik]

You deserve 10 million subscribers! You are so thorough and very clear in your explanations!

[@Navyblue0785]

Take a second and ask yourself: Although all this information is good to know, do you think this will help you develop a long term relationship with a top tier man or are those just tactics to maneuver through toxic short term situationships?

[@eeri17]

Please keep going with your contents, they are great, i love the way you spread thoses messages.

[@heyitsshay6058]

I've been waiting for a video like this!!!! 🙏🏾

[@ameenahhightower7608]

Hey Tomisin. I found you or you found me? Romantic huh? Lol.. I was watching Stephan.. u know about him.. he talks about relationships... I fell asleep, and when i woke up you was on my T.V. I started watching you and I was like!!!!! I LOVE THIS!! SO IM SOOOO SUBSCRIBED NOW!!! 😅😅😅😅 ONE THING I HAVE LEARNED.. RELAX AND DONT PUT PEOPLE ON A PEDALSTAL!! NEVER LOVE/LIKE ANYONE MORE THEN THEY LOVE/LIKE U!! FAIR EXCHANGE NO ROBBERY!!

[@Jayslyfe]

31:33 Hollering 😂😂 Idk why I heard the Gingerbread man’s voice from Shrek 💀

[@Stephiegarciaa]

I’m here for the examples 😂 so funny and accurate!

[@lunalawless1845]

It’s like the bad smell factor. I like how you made a reference to a free iPad. So easy to understand that way!

[@jaythomas89]

I needed to hear this 😩

[@AngelaFrench-n8n]

This is so deep!! I needed this!! Thank you ❤

[@Machezhi]

Thank you so much for the efforts you put on these videos for us, the insights are incomparable. Please do a video specifically on questions- right and good questions in detail please. 🙏 thank you

[@DR---]

The problem isn't that women try too hard. The problem is women lack empathy and have no idea what men want. Women keep trying to attract men by acting like a provider and don't seem to understand how emasculating that is to men. Men want a nurturer. Nurture means teach which is another word for guide. Men want a woman who will guide the relationship by telling him what she wants instead of expecting him to read her mind.

[@UberZambrotta8]

Problem is a lot of men are with women they don't even like that mucht just so they're not alone. And a lot of women are pouring their hearts out for men who don't even like them much. Tomisin is trying to help women become more perceptive and behave in ways that will let in only the men who really want them, and let go of those who aren't in it for the long term.

[@JlynneBenson]

Too many back and forth games I'm too old for

[@beatricehart5614]

The 22 year old with daddy issues has no business dating the 37 year old man. She's too young and vulnerable and he'll easily manipulate her. Won't end well.

[@riasharma8253]

Really appreciate your content. Your voice is calming.

[@apryllmarie1596]

Doing less has never done much for me

[@TheMoonlightMage]

It's funny cause when a man doesn't put in effort I'm out

[@hannahrial2820]

"I am sensei" lol

[@nancykajoka1385]

Learning him. That's too much work!

[@shuntaemac9440]

I think of it as studying him, for you not for him. They do it to us for themselves.

[@Sleekoprah_]

Thank you so much for teaching me❤❤❤

[@rainetravels1410]

😂😂 We met walk a mile backwards😂😂😂😂

[@Jazzi_Jeff]

This man cooked so hard. Straight facts.💯💯💯

[@venusis9117]

A mature man got mad because i didn’t chase him. He blocked me. This is not true when dealing with sick people. Just be alone.

[@iStorm-my5fp]

These men act like woman as of late

[@bigthangz5489]

be glad he blocked u.u are never supose to chase a man. it would not ever have ended well even if u had.

[@feliciafromshrek1562]

Ho is you dumb? If he ever wanted to you, he will do anything to talk to you

[@virginiaxoxo]

I really like the set up actually its so professional

[@Lpbaby-x2c]

Omg Tomi I lost I got called out ! 😮 @51:11

[@7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he]

Your wonderful and so smart. Great advice🤣👍👍👍

[@FreeCongo27]

You are the bomb!

[@maryw3989]

Men are too much work, complicated, difficult and, make no damn sense, I don't even want one anymore. I have a dog, I'm good with that! Never compete with another woman for a man, if you have to compete with another woman for a man let her have him, bc he's not worth your time. I learned that lesson the hard way.

[@Capricornmoon3]

This is gold

[@dorkygirl97]

Can you please give advice on how to know when and where to say what. I know people dont remember what you say, they remember how you make them feel. I'm autistic and really bad with this.

[@tfushtfushtfush]

Thank you !!!!

[@nehajain5850]

What are PPL using snap for nowadays(at 1:32:26)?

[@nelldanger]

THANK YOUUUUUU

[@catesj15]

“Men” play too many games so I’ll wait on a real one

[@natalianatalia9579]

Sheesh he knows what he’s talking about !

[@MarYam-gx2lo]

Thank you, i learned a lot❤❤ im from philippines working in muscat oman 🇴🇲

[@MarYam-gx2lo]

Thanks🙏

[@Roseberrylove]

Like ur shirttt!!!🦋🤣💕✨✝️🎀🤍

[@gok655]

Well I get a text saying I'm not ignoring you clearly they where. TOTALLY will totally ignore him now I DID TEXT HIM BACK NO REPLY so friend zone if they are lucky. players club when they are not the player we become one when we not they become the player is it not just so like that al the time yeah ignoring them should do the trick

[@michellebrown3107]

How can I make sure he continues to pursue me when I sit back and not take it as lack of interest? Where is that balance of reciprocating and being in receiving energy? Or is there a time frame?

[@nurulzakiah8375]

I think if he give effort, you give it back. For me don't take anyone for granted. If he give you love, you give it back. If he don't seem be interested with you, move on.

[@darlingspade9653]

:20 - 13:22 is really what i needed

[@mrunalpatilbds]

Men who protects women🫡

[@SiSTARWande]

You went hard

[@ceridwynnhaven3335]

& they say men aren't complicated ha

[@chm1466]

Exactly this!!!!!!!👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

[@tmarie9413]

Or she’s genuinely a giving person & don’t feel any anxiety. You can have a stance on men without making complete guesses on what the woman is feeling or doing. Also using a woman is a garbage man anyway 👎🏾

[@Sillyshianne123]

tbh, I haven’t had Snapchat for 8 plus years, what do “people really use it for”????

[@ecclesiastesThreeVerseSeven]

Prostitution

[@dominiquecorbitt4606]

Thank you

[@maleficarla]

22 vs 37 is way too much age gap. At 22 you still know anything about life and you're still getting to know yourself and what you want...

[@lizaarts9862]

Omg youre such a nice person

[@vonettawills2928]

What about if you are 6 years into the relationship and he stops making the effort.

[@divinenone]

Pull your energy back and focus on yourself.

[@aagueye]

Mirror his behavior and if he ask you if there’s a problem you say no. Take twice more care of yourself, put on the effort, put some makeup on, smell good , look sexy and find a new activity, go see your girls and decenter him .. and see magic happen 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@tmarie9413]

Tell him what’s wrong and if he does nothing or emotionally hurt you again. LEAVE…

[@rosewatersweettea]

Start ignoring him, do your own thing.

[@ecclesiastesThreeVerseSeven]

He got comfortable..leave. ive learn this after eight years, they dont get better they get worse.

[@dukatimachiavelli813]

It don’t work for me they just leave me alone 😂lmao

[@elharrop]

Of course men don't sit around planning to disrespect you, they just take the path of least resistance though laziness which usually results in the same outcome.

[@user-fx7gy8ur7q]

He told me that he was the only one doing effort....so what should I do?

[@feliciafromshrek1562]

Just manipulate him tell him you’re sorry he’s feeling that way

[@Prettyandpaidofficial]

But this doesn’t apply to all men, he’s generalising men are all different in thier own ways .

[@GoodVibesAffirmation]

Timestamps?

[@ednacohen9909]

do you on call coaching ? this a a special case

[@FertileG]

But does work in an established relationship

[@Jehh-l1g]

How abt seeking attention?

[@Navyblue0785]

I love how people think man and woman dynamic is a + b = c. Do this and he will do this lol. Might work for a dog

[@Christina-yu3gu]

I can never sleep over....I have Malinois...Has to be planned in advance.

[@Lpbaby-x2c]

@57:00 backtracking not a good idea ; harder

[@Camillyahreal]

The world would be a better place if (men) just treat all women with respect. I’ve learn men don’t like responsibility in certain situations and sectors of women. Ok just don’t use the women then, but that would be too much like right for a men to do.

[@MaryAkpan-z4o]

I'll believe it defective

[@barbaralandsaw7949]

Vice versa

[@positivel5530]

Who is this Sheera person he keeps mentioning

[@ladydonp1636]

Hello

[@oyungerelchuluunbaatar2756]

Wahahahahah this was so good

[@ronnietoni819]

I think its cringy to date somebody so young that's just my perspective. I'm 40 ain't no way ill date someone whose 20s or 30s, he's most likely trying to take advance of you. Smh

[@breezysgirl8314]

Your amazing

[@Christina-yu3gu]

Peter Pans want you to try hard....Real masculine men will chase..Few left in this time

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

🎯🎯🎯

[@DeserttoGarden]

“You are a black man” 😭

[@JulieMorales-z3w]

Here

[@Hannah_BananaXO]

❤️❤️❤️

[@jessicahitchens6926]

So the young one from the army is the man in the relationship 🤣 My God no proper role models in childhood. Tragic.

[@Highlove96]

You could've worn any nice T-shirt but you chose disrespect. It's interesting how it's always the same religion facing these weird behaviours. Try and do this with another religious figure 😅... You wouldn't dare would you?

[@jessicahitchens6926]

He is the West why would he wear a Talmudic /Mohammed Tshirt? Where does the modern day media originate from yes that's right the West....Which group runs the media 🤡💀

[@aquariusense]

not a "eightsome"😆🤣

[@HQ-S-11]

👏

[@crypto2276]

❤

[@7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he]

Mars do what he Said. He's right. .... He's a leach