Why Modern Marriages Fail

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

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[@brotherbrovet1881]

Father... Ten years into my first marriage, I lacked the spiritual maturity and authority to overcome my wife's will to continue living in a very specific neighborhood we could no longer afford as our number of children increased. Eventually, my weakness led to the destruction of a 20yr marriage and children who became materially successful adults, but lacking a thirst for Christ's Truth. What you teach is 100% TRUE. Men can't just "lay down the law". First, we must humble ourselves confess our sins, and pray the Matins and Vespers at home every day, follow the fasts, practice the Jesus Prayer daily. That's the first step.

[@kingdomkid7225]

Fr Please do a video for us wives to understand what it means to “honor” our husbands. What that entails in a biblical context. Thank you 🙏 God bless and keep you

[@The5oclocktea]

The patreon link doesn`t work...

[@Vzzdak]

When wiping the board and trying to write 50% on each side, instead just erase text and draw your line that bisects the circle. Instantly, you have a visualization of 50/50 without needing text. (And from the context it is assumed that one side is male, the other female.) And in a subtle way, the circle is white without the text, visually depicting wholeness. (The eye focuses upon the wholeness of the circle, not that there is a bisecting line.)

[@edelkebap]

You know it gets serious, when the priest pulls out the whiteboard. God bless you Father Moses, you are fantastic.

[@PancakeProduct]

Moses is aware of how the younger generation notices subtle details.

[@petarbg123]

lol that's funny

[@kx23753]

“And don’t address anyone here on earth as ‘Father,’ for only God in heaven is your Father.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭23‬:‭9‬ ‭

[@cody6872]

@@kx23753so I’m going to hell for referring to my biological father as what he is😿

[@kx23753]

@@cody6872 are you being hyperbolic?

[@landonsarrett5686]

Coach busted out the white board for this one 😂

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

😂

[@GogglesOstrich]

Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, [9] not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Romans 11:6 ESV But if it is by grace, it is no longer on the basis of works; otherwise grace would no longer be grace. ❤✝️

[@humbertomarquez4497]

😂

[@sanukatharul1497]

​@@GogglesOstrich You can't be in God's presence if you don't want to. Apostasy is a thing.

[@EpistemicAnthony]

​@@GogglesOstrich Yes, we are saved by grace alone through faith. Not through faith ALONE though.

[@davidvenegasgellibert6930]

"Take your cross and bench press it"- Father Moses, probably

[@siegeheavenly3601]

No. You're being nailed to it.

[@aliyamathiesen7290]

Solid merch idea

[@agusstiinbt]

Damn this is hillarious. In fact you could make this a T-shirt

[@petarbg123]

Even outside of marriage I'm noticing women crave to control men in simple conversations, it's weird, this is spiritual warfare 100%

[@FatherSonSpirit1]

Agreed. I feel like so many women in the church cannot take correction from men. It’s like so many are allergic to saying “ I could be wrong” I should stay far away from these people.

[@dimitrisgakis9206]

these women have inferiority complex

[@thaimuayshoo1171]

@@FatherSonSpirit1 We are still called to love these women as our sisters but if you're convictions as a man that you are to become a potential martyr for your future wife, yet the woman you are dating or courting does not seek to submit to your headship at all, you must next her. If she's not giving you any room to work with, and she fails to respect any of your wishes, putting a ring on her will mean that you are only setting yourself up for failure & clowning yourself

[@hautecouture2228]

They can not control masculine men but only weak effeminate men who allow them to dominate. And that’s most men in todays society

[@ratherboutside2]

That was me. It comes from anxiety of not having protection. What first happened was men were broken down. Video games, porn, immaturity…how are women to trust their lead.

[@livinglikeahuman7918]

The wife needs to be loved and the husband needs to be honored is the GOLDEN TICKET

[@piotrekmajkowski5422]

if he is honest he will loose all property and will be easy to control. In the end he will also lood his wife.

[@pizzasurf3222]

The husband like a diva 😂

[@ethanlorenzo702]

The wife honoring her husband looks like submitting to and obeying him

[@icysnow57cold64]

I don't think the romantic type of love is special, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other. I think humans should just ditch concepts like dating, marriage, and pair bonding. I feel like this world would be a much better place without romance than it is with it. In my opinion, romantic love should not be on the highest pedestal. In my opinion, parents and siblings' family love is the strongest. Family knows who you are. Romance is fake for lots of people, put on a false persona and romance on most parts gets ugly real fast. For the reality of romance is no Disney love story. Parents and siblings' family love is one of the strongest types of love there is. If romantic love is actually real, it would be one of the weakest types of love there is. Romantic relationships are overrated and are just a waste of time. People should avoid being a romantic relationship.

[@august6197]

@@icysnow57cold64sound like you got hurt , you are negative but unfortunately right

[@TheSergio1021]

"Happy wife, happy life" is the worst saying ever created to describe marriage.

[@VeniVidiVici456]

Precisely correct!

[@ElonMuskrat-my8jy]

It came from the worse generation ever, the boomers.

[@truthbetold2354]

Wife means - neck Husband means - head Ever turn your head against the ability of your neck? Exactly.

[@TheSergio1021]

@@truthbetold2354 the neck wouldnt know where to turn without the head...

[@jaymkz3225]

Yup the saying should be “happy spouse, happy spouse”…..kidding! It should really be “HOLY spouse, HOLY house”…without Christ, a marriage is doomed

[@skylerheil6856]

Not even kidding I just prayed to God about this not even 10 mins ago Glory to God

[@Nola-2000]

Knoks and he will answer.

[@jenniferprull1887]

So flippin accurate. Im 60. Divorced 30 yrs. 3 grown kids. This is so spot on. Thank you Father. Get in there kids... do it.

[@avo-w1s]

why do you think it ended that way, your marriage? if you can turn back time what would you have done differently, im curious as someone in their 20s

[@xlhits]

@@avo-w1s great question

[@lesliemoore2644]

@@avo-w1s I’m almost same situation married 31 years, 4 daughters, husband in adultery and divorced me. My advice from this point I would have prayed more and submitted more to my husband , more showing him respect and trusting God only to deal with him, having a gentle and quiet spirit ( which I didn’t ). Gods design is good and for the good of husband and wife and children.

[@Wizard-Girl9]

You’re allowed to be divorced in orthodoxy - even 3 x !!

[@Wizard-Girl9]

@@jenniferprull1887 Great! If you’re happy… but if you’re miserable it’s ok to divorce… We are not Catholics!

[@martymcfly4464]

Father, i have witnessed many marriages crumble because the man tries to exert his authority for the better of the family (things like enforcing modest dress, healthy eating, extra prayer time, giving tough lessons to the kids, etc...). But the wives don't like it so they just divorce them. Idk how these men i know are supposed to handle that. I know them personally and they are Godly men. Lord have mercy

[@sweetxjc]

I think this goes into what father is saying. He’s making having children heavier no lighter. He’s not just supposed to dictate what someone should do but help in that process if that’s what they need. Healthy eating is fine but cooking that can be harder depending on what. Modest dressing is great but if she doesn’t like his personal style it can feel controlling because it isn’t her style of modesty.

[@kakehavata]

... and above all love your wife (hardest commandment of all). being tender, gentle, etc. it's what the father emphasized towards the end.

[@despairknot]

Marty you're absolutely right. Whenever I'd try to steer my family, and gave my help trying to trying to get the kids to behave my ex wife would run off with the kids and eventually cheated on me too. We're fighting against a whole spirit of the age here and Father is overlooking quite a bit. The courts are more than happy to grant women a no-contest divorce and make money off of child support. They get their fair share with administrative fees. The women today are far beyond just wanting a shiny fruit. I've actually had to help counsel priests whose wives left them in the same manner. Our best recourse as men is to draw closer to God. This is why so many men commit $uicide or turn to drinking, and hete in America we get priests who talk big talk but don't stand up against this injustice for the sake of the families.

[@orthodoxboomergrandma3561]

@@despairknotI hope my book will help men understand the feminist brainwashing women have endured since the sexual revolution… soon it will be out Lord willing! Women MUST see themselves as the biggest part of the problem rn given the current society…. It’s the stance I took that helped

[@mihailomiodrag7257]

The problem is that they ever married such women. Those are Ezabel of our age.

[@reef6826]

Thanks for this video, I am 23, my wife 25 are catechumans in the Orthodox Church. Pray for us.

[@emerald10005]

"Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings." - Proverbs 31:3

[@St.MosestheBlack]

Christ preserve my marriage!

[@OvidiuCotrus-yz1ih]

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[@notsobuffedguy6388]

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[@Christianelvin]

Fr

[@peregrinusfalco19]

my husband and I believe in “happy spouse, happy house”. I honor him, he loves me. We are a team when it comes to parenting. We don’t undermine each other and any constructive criticism is always given away from our children and in a respectful manner.

[@chelseasousa2670]

Such a beautiful way of interacting not only with your spouse but also with your children. They will learn to mimic your behaviour in their own relationship one day and respect their partners as well 💕

[@L6FT]

Wives need to be loved. Husbands need to be honoured. Gratitude is the glue in a relationship. 4 sins tear it apart: Criticising, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling. Good advice, thank you.

[@AkseliHuusko-md5th]

These videos are a big help. Nobody teaches these things to me in school or anywhere else. Knowing and understanding the things you teach will most probably help me when I get married. Many of the concepts are extremely useful outside of marriage as well. Thank you for taking your time to teach me all of this.

[@ryedergrenier3561]

Getting married on September 14th! Thank you very much for this advice!

[@theorigami3685]

My marriage didn't workout the way I wanted. Insecurity can be a cancer to a marriage. My poor wife just could not help herself and no matter what I did she was terrified I'd cheat. Its ironic because she was terrified because she was the one who cheated and realized the guy she cheated with wasn't all that.

[@starstray4326]

I’m sorry to hear that dude

[@StoicMiles]

The same situation happened with me although we weren’t married. We were together for 4 years. It feels like you’re drowning the entire time. After a situation like this you may find yourself trying to be over reassuring to people you date. It’s then that you realize it was not a normal thing nor is it needed for someone that’s secure.

[@despairknot]

Yeah, my wife did the same thing.

[@theorigami3685]

@@StoicMiles same. We married in 2020. I was happy for 2 months, found out 2 months after we were married she cheated 2 days before our marriage with some guy from work. She had a whole relationship with him. But I forgave her. The problem was that she was scared I would cheat as revenge. I didn't. Thought about it and then realized that it would solve nothing and just make me evil. So I tried to get past it. She became worse, and worse and worse until I had to leave it all behind.

[@StoicMiles]

@@theorigami3685 I feel for you brother. I am so glad you didn’t sink beneath your character to seek control or revenge. We might be dealing with a lot more to unpack if we leveled with people like this. My ex also had an affair with a co worker. You can feel the change in them when it’s happening but you bypass your intuition for the sake of love and trust. I truly am hoping and praying for all of you fellow men like myself that have gone through something similar. I pray that you regain trust in your god given intuition again, that you forgive as Jesus did, not for just them but for yourself first and foremost, and I hope that you all choose to believe in a love that can hold a person with love and faith as you once did.

[@MrPigeonnn]

I've noticed this in my parents. Anytime we asked my dad to do anything he didn't want to so we wouldn't. But then if mom wanted to he'd say "I guess." It was very annoying. Also in a couple hosting a Bible study. The women is taking the lead while her husband just sits around waiting for orders. I think a lot of guys fall into this complacency because their goals are get women and have kids. Once they achieve that, they quit working. If your goal is to live a Christ centered life, you will always be able to improve and never have a reason to quit. So this should be our focus.

[@AntiSewingCircleChristianity]

They are simps and likely effeminate.

[@kvnd6577]

God bless always dropping gemz

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Thank you!

[@rush8044]

Seeing my parents have these issues is sad but I pray I do not repeat the same mistakes as you mentioned over coming these proclivities through Christ and to have patience and love for my (God willing) future wife.

[@stevefischer197]

I have never looked at marriage like this. Very good information. Thank you for tying all this together.

[@PurrfectLaw]

Another sad part of life pornography, only fans, etc. is only allowed to flourish because we men keep it in demand. We men need to to do better, than these evil industries will fail

[@LuminescentShine]

Women also participate in creating it. But I agree that we men need to do better.

[@mrscharmless]

@@LuminescentShine Fewer women participate it than men do, the women are just the actresses but the producers and consumers are mostly men. It's very rare to meet a man who isn't completely addicted to pornography nowadays. Even the men who recognise how evil it is and quit often relapse, time and time again, hurting their wife and children.

[@CherryDreamer96]

Satan's industry has impacted our minds and society more than we realise.

[@captainvanisher988]

Those things will always exist. In fact the Orthodox church purposefully kept prostitution legal during the ERE. Believing that majority of men can conquer sexual sin without marriage is like believing women will go for a guy on their level in a sexually liberated society. Never going to happen.

[@bumponalog5001]

This doesn’t make sense. Around 40% of corn watchers are women. Even if all men stopped watching it, it wouldn’t fail.

[@billkilgore9798]

6:29 my late grandpa called this two child and done mentality the 2-kid Suburban Standard. He said most couples would probably only have one kid if they could, but they have two so they can avoid the single child stigma. It’s such a cop out. We need more big families.

[@BibleBasedAdviceFromAndre]

God gave Wisdom to you grandpa to see that! Awesome. ❤

[@Wizard-Girl9]

Not in this world honey! Why bring kids into a fallen world? This is Protestant thinking not orthodox. Better to Never reproduce folks

[@hallvardjrgensen2452]

This wisdom is like rain in the desert, in today's world.

[@Jacqueline.Guerra]

this is all so true unfortunately. my husband and i never agreed with "happy wife happy life". Marriages are supposed to be constantly sacrificial. We please one another and that means bending and not doing everything exactly how we want it.

[@Dark.Wisdom95]

I totally agree. Feminism harmed our society and now we ended up with men getting intimidated by women and running away from commitment. I wish God blesses me with a good man someday who knows how to lead and make decisions without having to point anything out to him.

[@Danfigueroamateo3870]

I love how this is like a school class but we are actually learning something that will help us spiritually, socially and emotionally as human beings and Christians.

[@mastershredder7061]

Amazing video father Moses. My wife watched it after me and we discussed for 20min. The concept that a woman needs to be loved and a man to be honored explained a lot of our previous frustrations.

[@tinker-ing-around2317]

"........But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this." 1 Corinthians 7-28

[@unknown-vo3di]

That's why I won't be getting married

[@jelayastewart4804]

Yup

[@ninjakungfucat8617]

yeah thats why my bloodline is ending with me

[@SKATEHACKS]

This was a Godsend Father thank you, baby #2 kicked our butts and I’m guilty of cowardice and the exact other issues you said. May God keep us vigilant. Many years to you and yours

[@eliasandrinopoulos8746]

Great exegesis. My wife follows my lead not because I’m domineering or forceful, I simply lead my own life, making it easy for her to follow. In fact, she wants to do it. Thank you, Father! God Bless. ☦️

[@jackelinevalladares7118]

I'm not married yet, but I hope to apply this knowledge in the future ❤ Thank you Father ✝️

[@jeffjunk]

Well.. good luck.. it's a living hell out there..

[@Santoriniyoga]

Hahaha ....good luck amigo😅

[@altekamerad]

Father Moses busted out the whiteboard and actually gave us a mid-game pep-talk. God Bless, this is something that we need.

[@He_Shall_Reign_Unto_TheAges]

Sociological reasons: 1. Secular, individualist-based, competitive society based on ungrounded classical liberal values. 2. Materialist presuppositions for human "value" as the roots of the modern attitude of the social sciences to persons, such like the 'homo-economicus.' 3. Lack of community due to modern utilitarianism, self-interest, and egalitarianism. No emphasis of necessary spiritual hierarchy or objective Orthodox spiritual quotas to be filled by denizens. 4. Lack of social-based architectural planning reflects the competitiveness of a community and the idea of "making it to the top" at the cost of organic unity. 5. Lack of shared spiritual values. America is relativistic and utilitarian to the question regarding faith, folk, or fatherland. 6. The rise of liberal femenism in corporate America. Now, even women compete against men. The liberal market knows no morals. Usury, greed, pride, and envy, are all technically "good" for the market game. 7. The privatization and capitalistic subversion of the traditional Christian extended family system, and its transformation into the modern 'nuclear-family' innovation of the mid-twentieth century.

[@polinap8027]

Wow, your comment is awesome 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 Very short and accurate observation of modern stuff ✅✅😥🚨

[@KennethJohnson-st1uv]

You got it right

[@aero4379]

Every kind of feminism not just liberal.

[@Enynra]

Yea. I have a GF I love to death but she told me she hasn’t been happy the last two years with me and our son is two. I don’t like to argue when she wants to start an argument because I grew up with it all my life watching my parents argue all the time and things get violent. I’m a pacifist and just stay quiet and let people say their piece because I just don’t care anymore and don’t want to talk to people when they’re irritated

[@KaelDenna]

Recent christian convert here. You have no idea how much I appreciate your guidance 🙏🏻 god bless your heart

[@TiagoGomez-hb9te]

What’s your username?

[@MyGuy42069]

Father, I thank you for what your teachings you give to this wicked world. You know more about why my own marriage is in turmoil than me. God bless you and your kin.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

God help you!

[@animusora]

Father I have sinned against a brother and his wife, I have never felt so low in my life. Please pray for him and his family.

[@Z3r0Strife]

If you're truly repenting then you should pray for them and give alms in there names. Also go and confess to your spiritual father and do the penance he gives you.

[@acs1602]

Repent and pray to the Lord in repentance,ask for forgiveness and then repay the damage you did to your brothers

[@nexstbob6911]

😂 no way did u fux bro’s wife

[@deacong.4310]

I would love to have a priest like this. He is a good understanding of relationships.

[@Ilovedeiselguzzling]

i might not be an Orthodox Christian or very deep into my faith yet, but your videos help everytime i see them. i haven’t even graduated high school yet and you’re already helping me learn important things about life. thank you Father.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Dude. Explain what "responsibility" men are running from? I'm the one who prioritizes church. I'm the breadwinner. I work full time and run a business. I'm the one my son respects. I'm the one planning a future. I'm the one who takes all of my wife's mental and emotional abuse. She's obese and can't even manage one child. She's hopelessly dependent on her parents and wants to live next to them because of their money. I don't play video games. I don't do drugs. I'm dying here man. I'm drowning and I just need a break. I feel like I have no control over anything and everything is my fault. I'm constantly being blamed for anything and everything not just by my wife, but by people like you who don't even know me or my situation. And anytime I ever did marital counseling I always took a brunt of the beating because she was always handled with kid gloves

[@seanm8665]

You my man are part of the silent majority of married men. I’ll pray for you brother. Keep God in your thoughts don’t let the darkness win.

[@jakkuhl6223]

Do what did. Tell her to her face that she is the problem and tell her, literally, to shut up when she is verbally abusing you. If she escalates to physical, get her arrested and file for divorce. Accuse first, file first, and do not let her take the kids with her if she leaves. They do not have the right to do that without your consent.

[@mrscharmless]

Brother he is not speaking directly to you. He's not blaming you for anything, he doesn't even know you.

[@owlobsidian6965]

He wasn't speaking directly to you. He made a video addressing a common problem, it would be impossible for him to comment on every person's unique situation. Why take such offense?

[@clubdesalud1488]

Dude, I was exactly where you were! What you're describing: running a business, living by her parents and her constantly complaining, NEVER happy blaiming me for everything (and her putting on weight all the while me in damn good shape working out regularly). She was the proverbs 21:9 woman. She was the evangelical pharisee. Here's my advice! Get your financial shit together because that lazy self righteous entitled fat pig will come after your shit and take your kids away from you! Take sometime to spread your business through several LLCs - but if you can make someone else the officers and not you! In my case the entitled pig kicked me out of the house. I finally started getting laid again! Life got waaaaay better for me but the diabolical ex did everything to divorce rape me and turn the kids against me (doing psychological damage to them in the process). If I get married again, I'm doing it with a contract stating shared custody with the kids, all medical decisions made by me, and percentage of alimony low as an incentive to not play games. The problem is not with men its a coordinated attack on the family by Hollywood, the CIA, government laws that empower family court, family court and the parasitic system that has grown up around it. The attack on the family is percise and its directected at the man.

[@BerserkNBA]

I don’t think people can even understand how much wisdom there is in this video. Unbelievable. Thank you Father

[@lolo82829fcb]

I anticipate Fr. Moses’ videos as though my favorite band is coming out with a new album. Absolute bangin’ truth every single video! Thank you Father! ☦️

[@capybara5381]

An astounding video packed with wisdom and knowledge, where not a single word is wasted. Each word carries its weight, seamlessly leading into the next, making it extremely palatable and an amazing watch. Thank you, Father Moses.

[@cccycling5835]

I understand what you’re saying Father but until Divorce is not normal or illegal, nothing will change.

[@eloi4297]

Very illuminating video, thanks father. You're right on your criticism about us the men, I think men implicitly know that authority goes together with responsibility, so we gave up the former to get rid of the latter. In the end, we're lazy a lack a direction in life.

[@scr4932]

In the end, we got rid of our authority but we still bear all the responsibility and we're paying for this. I don't think our unwillingness to take on responsibility is what led to this, though - on the contrary, it's that we didn't understand the immense responsibility which comes with authority, so we thought that hogging all of the authority for ourselves is somehow "oppressive" towards the ones we lead. Or maybe I'm just projecting because this is how I used to think before I understood what authority really was.

[@justadog-headedman6727]

The experience I have of leadership is at work. I have had situations where I was leading a team of a couple of people and with only one exception it was fine, the relationships were fine, there was good communication, they did the tasks I delegated them etc. But with one person right from the beginning it did not work and it lead me to wonder sometimes "what did I do wrong?". After reflecting a lot I could not find a particular thing I did and my conclusion was that the person was not in the mood or was irritated with something else or just plain deranged, because with all of the other persons it was fine. So my conclusion was that there is just so much that you can do as a leader, the subordinates must also be willing to play their role. Unless you are in a situation like you are an army officer at a war that can execute a soldier that refuses to attack the enemy, there is just so much you can do, the person you are leading has to be willing to play their role too.

[@maddief775]

My husband and I are about to have our first child, this video couldn’t have come at a better time!!

[@dimacharav3318]

Congrats!

[@Jnd.2y]

Congrats❤️

[@clubdesalud1488]

If you want your family to survive use your nesting instinct to make your home a place he desperately wants to get to not a place that he wants to avoid and stay away from.

[@salonez91]

This is true. As someone who is not into fate and probably will never be i recognize this advice from my relationship 100% true. I thought if i just listen to her needs and wants its gonna be all good. NOPE ! It all went to crap as soon as i let her have more authority in 2nd year of relationship. I tried to turn the thing around, but realized my girlfriend simply got too confused what to do. On the one hand she agreed with me, but then put the stop on any of my plans. So we quit. I suggest men never let go authority, its key. Doas not mean you dont listen to her, but dont just do what she tells you its the best for her. You just simply do what you believe is the best and explain her as best as you possibly can. Take control, take actions.

[@NamorVendetta]

They try to take ownership of the relationship, yet never takes ownership for herself or the relationship!😂 make it make sense!

[@jimsteele2072]

The last woman who let the man control the relationship was my grandparents. Things were not perfect for them, but they complimented each other and stayed married I don't think a relationship like that is possible in this day and age.

[@CosmicMystery7]

Father, bless. The pre-marital counseling class my wife and I were required to attend through Goarch (surprisingly enough) included a lot of the stuff you cover.

[@same5songseveryday]

I needed to hear this. This is exactly what god has been encouraging me to remember every single day.

[@joshnowakowski873]

These days responsibility is decoupled from authority. That is why men don't want to take responsibility.

[@UnimpressiveG]

Women want the authority while demanding the men have the responsibility. This is modernity.

[@MH-jp8en]

this is one of your best ones yet I’m trying really hard to lead my family. I have improved a lot over time. but, to be honest, I fear divorce. I fear the modern legal system that will take my kids away from me if my wife becomes “unhappy”. sometimes this fear prevents me from acting.

[@scr4932]

The defining characteristics of a leader, in my opinion, are 1) the courage to make necessary decisions and accept the responsibility which comes with them, 2) the humility to admit mistakes and learn from them, and 3) the cooperation to listen to the feedback of the ones he leads - we all have some blind spots for our mistakes. Of course, taking feedback into account does not mean following it - there is only one thing for a leader to follow, which this video already covered. If you do all this and she's still "unhappy" without being clear about it, she's either a bad communicator or has ulterior motives - not your fault. As a follower, it's her responsibility to understand the weight of a position of authority and that it's impossible even for an experienced man to always know what the correct course of action is - only an omniscient being would be capable of that. Also, she has already joined you *and* had a child with you - as a mother, it's her responsibility to devote herself to the marriage and if she abandons it just because she doesn't like a (thought-out and good-willed) decision you've made, it's *her* who has failed, not you. Even more so if she leaves for even more frivolous reasons such as her own lust. And then, if the legal system takes your children away from you on a whim, then it's the system which has failed. If it comes down to that, you must still fight for as much custody as possible - we have already seen what happens to children with no father figure.

[@Faithmaxxing23]

In our darkest moments, He is there when no one else is. You’re never alone when you walk with God. 🖤

[@FiremanKevin]

Great word, father. Thank you ☦️❤️. I’m 41. I watch a lot of men at my age still whining about getting to play video games and smoke weed. It’s what running from responsibility looks like for my generation. God bless

[@nel7105]

Father breaking it down in crayon for the boys. Which is exactly what we needed

[@reddroid8499]

Okay but women need to be held accountable.

[@justenmerk1193]

Thank you Father. These videos help keep us men, husbands and fathers accountable as we should be.

[@juliejohnson5724]

I’m a non catholic but Father you just crushed it! Bravo 👏 best example of how to get along and honor your spouse in marriage I’ve ever heard💪🙌

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

I’m Eastern Orthodox :) I have been married 22-years and have 5-sons. :)

[@kaidenhall2718]

At parts you exactly described the end stages of my parents relationships

[@utoob371]

I love that you point out that men have given up their authority. So true. “Men need to bear the responsibility of all things.” Otherwise chaos ensues.

[@cccycling5835]

The thing is if they do decide to get married, it’s still legal to divorce them. Ask any man: they aren’t afraid of marriage, they’re afraid of divorce. At least the bottom 90% of men anyway.

[@Karina-tw6ly]

​@@edm-london1660thank you. Hope you have a good wife 🙏

[@captainvanisher988]

​@@edm-london1660Yes in an authoritarian way. Authority means exactly that. Same with obedience. Humor and kindness won't solve a disagreement. Authority and submission will. Meaning the wife ought to submit to the authority of the husband at all times.

[@FireflowerDancer]

@@captainvanisher988 A wife can't submit perfectly to a husband that isn't also submitted to Christ.

[@FireflowerDancer]

@@captainvanisher988 It's also important to point out that the man will not be right all the time. And this why he custom made you a help mate, so you can see when you're missing the mark 🫠😉 Always here to help! ✝️🙌😁

[@alexandrosdimitriadis2020]

Thank you Father Moses ! Really important issue and very true insights for solving it, based on the word of God! 🙏

[@Mavvyd96]

Fr. Moses is at 40k now?! Insane. God has truly blessed his channel.

[@SaturnReturns]

This is exactly where I'm at. You are always on the mark. We literally had our 1st child and 2 years later she's talking to another man and saying "she loves me but she doesn't love me".

[@seanm8665]

Don’t give in to the darkness. Women know the game. They know how to make you look like the bad guy. Take care man.

[@nickthompson1812]

@@seanm8665 and willing men will believe her to get in her pants. The cycle continues. Nature doing nature things

[@corvin87x]

Authority does not mean fulfilling a woman's luxury wishes. In my case it got to the point where the children had nothing to eat because of her shopping addiction. I was tired of fulfilling her wishes until I took control, but she resisted extremely even though we had a good standard of living. She got divorced and now she is bankrupt because of her behavior.

[@TiagoGomez-hb9te]

This is very tragic and sad…

[@Runningwritingreading]

In the name of the Father The Son and the Holy Spirit Amen great video Father Moses, I am so grateful to hear these messages from someone within the institution with a critical thinking mind, your perspective and preaching is so valuable.

[@TW-fs3fj]

Best advice I ever got was to be a good role model for your wife. She wants to look up to you, so give her a reason to. ☦

[@levikainalu5825]

💯they want to look up to and admire the accomplishments of the husband

[@ivangamboa1860]

Thank you for your insight Fr. Moses, you hit every nail on the head.

[@OldKingJoel]

Good word. Only God can fix what’s broken at my house.

[@DomnulDarius]

Perfect timing. God bless you Father! Thank you so much.

[@antoniom6289]

Father, how to be the authority when not allowed? Women these days only recognize authority in sadistic, manipulative men, they live in such a horrible world that any act of kindness is seen as a weakness thus a lack of authority. I believe the advice is good for the small percentage of women that haven't fall for this modern day culture. God bless you father and thank you for your content!

[@jareddegen9937]

I hope he see this one here and comments. I feel the same way it's hard to navigate it.

[@smiechu47]

You can't lead unless the wife submits. Imagine a company where no one submits to the boss.

[@josephbischoff2469]

Women have always wanted that kind of man. Female programming has never changed in the entire history of the world.

[@TheBanjoShowOfficial]

authority does not ask to be "allowed," bud, you've got it all wrong. That's literally contradictory to what authority entails. Authority _commands_ respect and submission, it does not ask for it, otherwise it is submissive to the other. If they do not willingly submit, you don't associate yourself any further with such women. Because we don't live in an Islamic world, we wouldn't beat her to death or stone her, we simply move onto the next dog. Let the wolf search out its food in the wild, it shall meet its end in the wild. Let the dog enter the home, for it knows where the food is to be found, from the hand of the master which feeds him.

[@spungypizzacaker]

@@TheBanjoShowOfficial Bro cooked XD

[@ar2851]

Convinced I’m seeing the fall playing out over and over again.

[@petervandolah5322]

Father, I stepped up, I lead, pretty well for a long time ... 21 years ... But I still ended up loosing my family for just these same reasons ... 21 years ... That's how much of a sickness this really is ... And now I'm totally alone and nobody speaks to me ... At all ...

[@spungypizzacaker]

I'm so sorry.. may the Lord bring you peace ☦

[@sydneyleblanc3054]

Lord have mercy, pray for them, stay close to Christ. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🙏🏻😔

[@LuminescentShine]

Sorry to hear that

[@stephenzelesnik6153]

Fr Moses this video was excellent and you covered a lot of ground quick. This could definitely be broken down into a series.

[@ΓιώργοςΘεμιστοκλέους]

Hello father your videos have really helped me in becoming wiser🙏

[@xueperman]

Thank you very much - this is really true.

[@prestonowens4594]

Hmm, this exactly the opposite of what I thought I was supposed to do as a man. I’m 29, and single. I have not dated much, only 2 previous relationships one in Highschool one in college. Something I noticed from women is it seems like they don’t want a man to take charge. Honestly I think most women I’ve interacted with kinda wish men did not exist deep down. In my case, it was like the more I tried to do for my last girlfriend, it was never enough for her; it was like pouring nectar in a sieve and trying to hold it in. I am deeply frustrated with women, and am reaching a point of hopeless celibacy. I desire relationship with a woman, but I seem to repulse them, it deeply hurts me.

[@spungypizzacaker]

🫂

[@dimitrisgakis9206]

mgtow is a starting point for you, but let Christ be your only guide

[@prestonowens4594]

@@spungypizzacaker I am sorry I do not know what that emoji is depicting. Is that an old timey film camera from the side?

[@prestonowens4594]

@@dimitrisgakis9206 I believe I have heard of MGTOW before, but to me it just seemed like dudes that had a disdain for women. I love women. I desire to be with a good woman and to love in a productive marriage until the day I die.

[@rasheedlewis1]

It looks like two people hugging​@@prestonowens4594

[@KR-si3dx]

The couple that worked with us on premarital counseling told us if we made it to anniversary 8, we’d pass a threshold they couldn’t explain but that around year 7 they’d seen in themselves and in friends that it’s the hardest year for marriage. We will celebrate year 10 in a few months.

[@sniper6081]

As Patrice O' Neal once said, "Happy wife; miserable man. Happy man; happy relationship."

[@snowbully777]

Amen brother Patrice O’Neal is game master! ☦️🤝

[@missinterpretation4984]

@@snowbully777 Wow, Patrice O’Neil and an orthodox cross huh? Disgusting.

[@Bidenomics2024]

I came up with this saying. Instead of that BS happy wife happy life crap I say Happy me Happy We. If she don't like it she can leave 😂😂

[@FireflowerDancer]

@@Bidenomics2024 It's so nice to meet your lovely wife, "Budweiser." What a gal 😂

[@Bidenomics2024]

@@FireflowerDancer Dylan says hi 🤣🤣

[@michaelcruz8425]

This channel is a gold mine of generational Godly masculine wisdom. It does not matter whether you are Christian, Jewish, or Muslim. Any man who believes in God can see the wisdom in this content and respect it. Very happy I came across you Father Moses, and I am recommending you to all of my closest friends.

[@nancybaumgartner6774]

They fail because people seek to be loved rather than to love .

[@vincentcedric-4449]

True, most people dont know that to be loved, we need to love others. Just like how to be listened by others, you need to be a good listener

[@yamirtomas]

hi father Moses, i'm learning from your videos, i'm trying to get closer to god. i have almost no religious background so slowly wraping my head around all of this. you were already a really good guide for me. regards from Argentina.

[@boyar3033]

Amen father Moses ! This is becoming something of an Orthodox Self Improvement movement. This is miles better than the red pill, alpha male, business entrepreneur self improvement community.

[@OvidiuCotrus-yz1ih]

Boyar jew Luke

[@Z3r0Strife]

Those guys are a sad joke and it's a sad state to be in just living a hedonistic life. Those ppl need alot of prayer.

[@freedominion7369]

Another important lesson, Father Moses and thanks for posting 🙏✝️

[@smiechu47]

How is the husband supposed to lead if he's one phonecall away from a domestic abuse police call?

[@spungypizzacaker]

Real 😂😂😂

[@scr4932]

If she's so difficult that the husband has to use force to get her to follow him, then she's not marriage material. And if she's willing to make that phone call even if he doesn't lay a finger on her, then she's even less so. Ironically, if a husband is afraid to lead due to this kind of threat, she will gradually lose respect for him, which will only make leading more and more impossible. People do tend to hide their true colors too well, but we must still do our best to vet our partners with utmost scrutiny - solitude is much better than being with someone like that.

[@smiechu47]

@@scr4932 The true colors usually come out after marriage and kids. Most men get whatever woman that wants them, they don't have much of a choice.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

@@smiechu47 then dont do a government marriage contract, do a religious one. It will weed out more pretenders.

[@captainvanisher988]

​@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNotNo such thing. Most religious contracts involve the government. At least here it's impossible to get married just by the church. And that only mitigates the divorce issues, not the thing the OC talked about.

[@BBBRRROOODDDYYY]

Thanks for doing these videos on this topic. You are making real world changes on the ground with this wisdom right away

[@nuerboi]

Being baptized and married next month alongside my girlfriend of almost 3 years. Amazing advice.

[@highoctanehummus6564]

Thank you father. May God give you strength.

[@TheShifter1001]

I had to walk away from a relationship recently. I asked a woman(early 30s) if she could take no for an answer and she told me that she feels no is too harsh. There was no particular context. It was just simply if she could take no for an answer and she told me no. I’m a little scarred after this, not in the sense that I’m hurt, but in the sense that I’m discouraged with the idea of marriage if women today can’t handle any sense of assertiveness and or firmness when a man truly has the best interest of the family in mind.

[@Nola-2000]

Men in the past would think no is too harsh and not permissible. It's only about respecting others to accept no.

[@aaronvanzomeren8775]

Thank you for this Fatheer Moses. I am almost 20 years old and just so confused about marriage and how I need to become a man, husband and father.

[@A3GSPD]

Fr. Moses does not miss. Thanks be to God☦️

[@MrEthanMasters]

Amen. Amazing insight and articulation.

[@Best-dz6ny]

For young men, embrace your masculinity, stay holy, stay righteous. Live with good virtues, conduct business and work with good characters. Live the words of the holy Scriptures from all sectors of religion, these are the words from our forefathers transcriptions of our future calamities of the verge of downfalls.

[@FatherSonSpirit1]

WOW. This was amazing Father Moses. Please keep making videos. I am new here but you make some of the greatest biblical connections. Thank You

[@andrewpearson1903]

A relationship where the woman puts a ring in the man’s nose and leads him passively around is one of the ugliest things I’ve ever seen. I agree with the replies, the unspoken fear of every married man who wants to change the dynamic is that she’ll reject correction and headship and leave with the kids. I can only say I’m sorry. If you’re an unmarried man, learn to be as picky as a woman about the important qualities of your spouse. Feel out whether she can take correction and defer to your leadership when you disagree about something; if not, drop her like a hot potato. Do *not* expect to “fix” fundamental disobedience and disrespect. You’ll eventually find a woman who will respect you - I know I have.

[@DamaniJones]

This is absolutely speaking to me. Everything that I’ve been thinking, father Moses just verbalized. Wow.

[@thebookofdavidinspiration]

Men, do not be in a rush to get married. Focus on developing yourself until God brings her into your life

[@Wizard-Girl9]

Like wait till your 73

[@orthogainz]

Father Bless! Perhaps you should consider writing a book on these topics, a lot of Orthodox brothers and sisters would benefit from it! Thank you so much Father Moses, I've really benefited a lot from your videos this last months! God bless you, your family and community! ☦🙏Amen.