Why more parents are saying no to sleepovers

[@carmellem6813]

I never had a slumber party and I turned out fine. It doesn't matter how much you think you know the parents,you don't know what ppl do behind close doors period!

[@mermaidreviews4693]

So true I went to sleep overs at my cousins house

[@MamaHarperr]

Thank you!! Or who they have coming over to their homes.

[@queendivaism]

Absolutely 💯

[@gustavus0013]

Hello sorry if this has been asked before but what if the situations are like exchange years, studying abroad or overnight fieldtrips? Thank you.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Communicate with the other parents. If there are older kids in the house, best not to have a sleepover. You can suggest a half night: show up in pjs, do all the sleepover fun stuff, leave at 11pm and sleep in your own bed.

[@DarthFurie]

That's a good idea!

[@gayaneg.3805]

Heck I even get anxiety when my niece goes to neighbor house to visit her friend who is same age as her..you just never know what’s going on behind closed doors.

[@ajohonly3721]

Sleep over is ok when you also know the parents ,not just kids knowing each other.

[@kellymiller1891]

I wouldn't even let my own kids go to a sleepover, not unless their father Jason David and I get to know the other kid's Parents first, and what kind of place they're living in too, because you'll never know what kind of people are around in this world.

[@queendivaism]

Not only adults you have to be concern about you have to be concerned about other kids too 😮

[@Tam...]

EXACTLY!!!!

[@ronnieking3848]

I was lied to about who would be at a sleepover for my preteen....I picked her up at 2am because the parents were hosting a poker game with about 8 adults that weren't supposed to be there.

[@majorpayne100]

You don’t know what goes on in anybody’s house 🏠

[@alqoshgirl]

No sleepover at our house either. That’s how my parents raised us and I turned out just fine. As a millennial I’m shocked how many of my peers have experience molestation as kids. I was lucky I haven’t experienced anything and I can’t help but to feel that my parents protected me properly to not have gotten into bad situations. It’s my job to protect my kids now

[@BB-zn1bo]

As my mom would always say “No, porque una nunca sabe”

[@KrzNena]

👏🏻

[@Nolanoyayo]

Tambien

[@gasparma2316]

Igual no conose uno al agente como es hehe

[@mayradelgado1814]

Amen

[@daytonapeanut]

The idea of sleepovers sounds fun, but I remember the ones I went to as a kid and without fail drama would always arise and a girl would end up sobbing in the bathroom. There was one time I was ready to stand vigil because my friends were conspiring to draw on my little sister's face while she was sleeping. Thankfully I warned them off. Oh, and Truth or Dare would also lead to some very weird and dangerous crap that I'm not even going to mention. So yeah, I'd be that mean mom that cans sleepovers.

[@zammmerjammer]

That's silly. Dealing with conflict is healthy and necessary.

[@nanettevantriesteharder2469]

@@zammmerjammer You don't have to let your kids go to sleepovers for that. Parents, siblings, friends, teachers, classmates, peers, employers, and co-workers can provide plenty of opportunities to learn how to deal with face-to-face or remote conflict.

[@hlambrou1]

The things that happened when I slept over at friends is why I was really picky about my kids sleeping over at other houses

[@MsAwesome6814]

I was lucky to have no bad sleepover experiences. Tons of sleepovers happened at my house though my mom was more likely to let kids come over and she was big in the community and at school so parents knew and trusted her. We also had no adult men in the house.

[@sarahjames927]

In my culture you don’t sleepover peoples houses even family.

[@nikus2013]

“I can’t wait” Great parent!

[@mm7846]

Yes to sleepovers! Make sure good people. They’re more fun when you’re young. 5th and 6th is too late. That’s when kids start to act different (mean girls, etc)

[@_thebusphotograher_cali]

You can have playdates meaning the either parent of your friend are present to meet your parents and after that everyone goes home

[@awakentruth1116]

Whoever the black guy is on the panel... what a terrible father! "I don't even have to know the parents."... "Just take my kids" This is what NEGLIGENCE looks like! Absolutely disgusting!

[@brittanys.7191]

Junk goes on at upper elementary sleepovers. I got caught in some awkward situations when the parents tried to play an R rated movie and I didn’t want to watch it. And one time all the girls wanted to walk in a bad neighborhood. I was the only child who stayed behind. One of my friends moms was on the city council and turned out arrested for drugs. You think you know where your kids are but you don’t always.

[@Gabster1990]

I grew up in the 90's, 2000's. My parents did not let me go to sleepovers. They didn't trust other parents and other kids.

[@javiruiz8365]

Same!!! We never did that!! Only once I spent the night when I was like 14 years old with my friends from highschool, but that’s because my mom had passed away or she would of never allowed it lol 😂

[@deirdremorris9234]

For the best. Bullying, molestings, drugs (yes drugs...I knew 12 year olds smoking pot), sneaking out at night and walking around the neighborhood, lack of sleep.

[@jbowman2791]

Trust me from personal experience, it really doesn’t matter how well you know the family or the parents…people are sick.

[@MamaHarperr]

And this is the bottom line!!! You do NOT know ppl they way you think you do, nor how they monitor their housrholds!! I'm very sorry you were subjected to a bad experience and hope you are healing from it as best you can 💜

[@sparkle845]

I had sleepovers and went to sleepovers as a child, they were fun but I would not advise parents to allow that in these times Parents must use major discretion!

[@onthelam1841]

We are more than happy to have our son's friends stay with us, but our son will not be sleeping over at a friend's house. Period. I know we will monitor our children in our house well. I do not know how other parents monitor and you can never be too careful against predators.

[@ascent8487]

Weird. I was just thinking about this. I have no kids but I kind of assumed this might be a thing of the past and I was sad about it. Those were my favorite nights.

[@sharongale9558]

My kids had sleepovers on their birthday every year at our house when they were in elementary school. They are now 36 and 34 and always talk about the fun they had. I rarely let them go to anyone's house overnight. Today in 2023 they would not have a sleepover at my house or go to anyone's home. Times have changed too much.

[@majorpayne100]

You don’t know what goes on in anybody’s house 🏠

[@dissatisfiedmario]

Not many people talk about it’s not always the parents that are sick. There’s plenty of messed up siblings and even peers of your child. You just can’t read minds and you can never know for sure.

[@BenjaminHartleyReturns]

The one time I had a sleepover at a “friends” place, the kid had a psychotic meltdown in the middle of the night. Didn’t sleep at all. No thanks.

[@Ky-xn8ud]

You can always stay at our house but I won’t let my daughter stay at other peoples houses.

[@majorpayne100]

Sleepovers are dangerous

[@AprilTeniente-eu1mj]

They are

[@_thebusphotograher_cali]

They always been dangerous even in the 80s

[@AprilTeniente-eu1mj]

@@_thebusphotograher_cali Well, they can be dangerous due to inappropriate things and dangerous things like making messes and tripping over things

[@zammmerjammer]

The only kids I knew who weren't allowed to go to sleepovers were the ones whose parents were recent immigrants. It wasn't part of their culture so fair enough, but we definitely didn't understand that as little kids. (these same kids who weren't allowed to go to school outings or dances or even hang out at the mall... they all turned out fine but I just don't see the point in depriving your kids of harmless fun)

[@PassBySpace]

my parents who immigrated from india had these same rules... i felt left out. though they let me go to the "mall" once a year that was the most of it. i went to 1 football game my entire high school and yea thats it. pls dont let your kids or anyone elses kids live like this. i have a lot of hate in me for these reasons. i just wanna go back and do the things i never had the chance to do...

[@absatwell8163]

Sleepovers are great! It’s a part of growing up. Always make sure you know the parents! My kid started sleeping over her besties in first grade and vice versa.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

Personally, I’d let my future kids have sleepovers so long as I know the kids and the parents well. If any of the parents or the kid has a criminal record for any reason, I’m saying no.

[@hysee1738]

my asian mom never allowed me to do sleepovers. she told me, you dont know how their dads are, i thought she was ridiculous. but now that i am an adult, i get why she was concerned, and she was right!

[@en2p187]

I mean I had an Asian mom, was allowed sleepovers and had a blast. It can go either way

[@tiffandfam7466]

It totally depends on who and where! You definitely don't know what happens when you leave 😩

[@melodramatic7904]

I never had a sleepover and always felt left out as I watched all my friends having fun. I am happy to host sleepovers for my kids. I've been hosting them since my kids were in kindergarten, but only with the same 3 kids (siblings). I would never have a sleepover with say...the entire class or something.

[@PassBySpace]

same here i felt left out asf. im still in high school tho but my parents still wont lemme have sleepovers at our house or at my friends house. i just wanna let yk that ur really a good parent for letting your kids live a little. i plan to do the same with my kids... i just want them to live the life i wish i had..

[@melodramatic7904]

@@PassBySpace thank you!!!

[@Tam...]

​@@PassBySpace Your parents did you a favor....Prevention is better than trauma... A lot were victims and never talked about it... There are so many other things that create great childhood memories... The risk is not worth it.....

[@nickyoung630]

I used to LOVE sleepovers! Pizza, video games, movies, staying up late! It was such a fun time!

[@KA-eu9sy]

Why do you need 5 anchors? 3 max.

[@sherieAntony]

True

[@ajohonly3721]

No jobs available 😂

[@javiruiz8365]

Right!!! They need every color of the rainbow 🌈

[@renfri5233]

I knew someone who got abused by the father of the child at s sleepover.. even though their parents trusted them. You just never know who xan be dangerous. Best not to put your kids at risk.

[@okayimbackwhateverjones]

Idk there are a lot of different factors at play. But overall I think there's something about a sleepover that felt like productive fun, like, lots to do and get through (dinner, change into PJs, watch a movie, play a video game, brush teeth, lay out sleeping bags and pillows, tell ghost stories until someone has to move their sleeping bag to the middle, wake up and do all the hygiene stuff, eat breakfast (or on a special sleep over, load into a car to grab fast food breakfast), play more videogames or do hwk, and everyone out by 11 (which really means 10 if you were reasonable)). I actually think that sleepovers prepare kids for work more than actual school these days- along that bite, should all colleges be Montessoris?

[@davemathews7890]

Gee, maybe parents should next keep their kids away from baseball, football and track.

[@en2p187]

Plenty of sleepovers as a kid and I turned out fine.

[@musicandotherfunstuff]

Bullying is not what they are afraid of. You all know that

[@Angeloflight1415_LastelleCrea]

I'm glad I had a good experience with sleep overs and that it was often with good friends and people I knew I could trust. So it depends, also there's nothing wrong with still going to sleep over birthday parties and not staying the night

[@gasparma2316]

I never had sleepovers. My parents would always tell me there was no need cuz we had a room over our head and should never sleep on someone’s else’s home and were scared something bad could happened. N I also me eres liked the idea of having to wake up so early on a home that wasn’t mine

[@chiantibliss5846]

I know that is right!!! As my mama would say… they are welcomed to come here!!!

[@kellycraddock269]

I understand

[@AgCharmsStudios]

I went to my first sleepover last night, so much fun!! Before when I used to get invited but my parents said no. So I would just sit there watching them post pictures having fun and feeling so left out. I’m happy my parents finally let me go!❤

[@nanettevantriesteharder2469]

Are you a child or an adult?

[@nataliejones8308]

It's been a while I've been to a sleepover. I only do it at my grandma's apartment just to spend time with her. I might get back to do sleepovers. My parents are fine with it but they will need to know my friends' parents in order to let me have a sleepover. I did it when my best friend came over and spent the night at my house.

[@Kbear-xt9mh]

I feel bad for the kids who have never had sleepovers. when they go to college...these parents are basically conditioning their kids to only feel safe to sleep only when their mommy/daddy are in the next room. This method I think will just lead to a bunch of kids going to grow up with severe separation anxiety.

[@FreeBird2.0]

Hum... agree to disagree, but I can see where there could be some flexibility.

[@queendivaism]

Totally disagree my children turn out fine 🙂 its not the end of the world if a parent decides to not allow sleepovers, play dates and hourly home visits will suffice just as well to bond with other children

[@crystalmasters8582]

Yep no from me

[@Nolanoyayo]

My parents never let me sleep over until I was around 12 and I had to beg my parents. Only then it was for a birthday or special occasion. I know kids that use to every weekend. Now that I have kids I'm not sure it's a good idea.

[@littleseamstress]

um i fn loved sleepovers. and it was a break for our parents

[@gustavus0013]

Hello sorry if this has been asked before but what if the situations are like exchange years, studying abroad or overnight fieldtrips? Thank you.

[@hartzaire]

I don’t blame them these kids are out of control now

[@amandaalves6936]

My mom need to know the parents for two years. I didn't go until 13

[@alezandradavila2581]

Exactly

[@Tam...]

Not everything that we experienced growing up was good for us(Some of us were just luck bad things didn't happen to us)...I'll rather not risk it over nostalgic...

[@millis1804]

Sorry, were these people never kids themselves?

[@stacystoltz8722]

Cool Children

[@juliagoolia5604]

Is that the same guy who said “what is internet”

[@majorpayne100]

Most of my friends are boys 👦🏻

[@minalld2873]

Why sleep in someone else house if you have your own list miles away? Doesn’t make sense

[@a.randolph8112]

What a weird generation of parents.

[@debbiemoseley3570]

Your teenage girl could be using a sleepover as an excuse to actually meet up with an on line boyfriend.

[@thehapagirl92]

Good. Let her have some fun.

[@queendivaism]

To each it's own, its not my interest to do for my kid but i dont knock other parents who do.

[@rosemclean8142]

I don't agree with sleep overs. There are many other ways you can foster a child's independence, teach them social skills etc. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. As my son would say, " I'm that parent". I never had sleep overs and it never impacted me in any way.

[@bensk8in467]

It’s more of a question of the parents than the kids. Are my kids going to be exposed to poor virtue? That’s the bottom line for me an would be the basis of my decision. I don’t think it’s anything new. Parents would base their decision on this when I was younger they just didn’t come out and say it. There are some households I would have probably been better for not staying at. In hindsight I get it now.

[@stacystoltz8722]

Cool for Sleep over Party with Friends

[@Beautylifestyle222]

Morgan and Anissa as the inspiration I guess

[@MISSLOVELY_REE]

NO CAP FRFR

[@snsn7251]

The friends can come to me. Mine ain't going

[@lilblackfish2009]

its more safe now, kids have phones and are smarter just that American are so obsessed with docs and stories about creeps , they became alarmist and they get all hype all about that

[@fatinabangura7265]

I wasn’t allowed to go either growing up and I’m not allowing my kids to go either 😊

[@PassBySpace]

look ik its not my business but my parents never let me have sleepovers (and other things like going to the mall and stuff) and they were overprotective. i despise them now. i honestly dont care what happens to them or whatever. i have a burning hate for my parents. please allow your kid to have like maybe 1 sleepover a year or just invite kids to your house for sleepovers so you can keep an eye on ur kid. it hurts. i dont want anyone else to hate their parents as much as i do... love your kids please

[@larissa_7729]

Hated them

[@PapaEvri]

👏🏼👏🏼👍🏽

[@lizabetx483]

Yes you can sleepover. You have two choices 1) by maternal grandparents or 2) paternal grandparents. Once they are trustworthy.

[@alezandradavila2581]

Yea if you know the parents sure but not if I don’t know you

[@A22208]

Nope nope nope

[@indhiramarchena8665]

No, no sleepovers. Never get to know people deep down inside nor their mannerism. Nope.