Why Narcissists Can't Be Trusted

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

They have an unfounded loyalty to others, but will always betray their victims.

[@amandaa3713]

@breakthrough Yes.

[@Mr8t0]

They seem to have loyalty to those that reciprocate but it would be broken if they stepped out of line enough. They connect strongly with others in the Cluster B making circles but often get abused by their pathological partners.

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

Yes. I found this out the hard way. So excruciatingly painful, too.

[@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470]

What? ​@@Mr8t0

[@meow2u22]

I learned the hard way not to expect anything from a narcissist: not honesty, not compassion, not even following through on their empty promises.

[@Mr8t0]

Sounds like you had a long relationship.

[@MarkLupson-it6xu]

Perfect and practical description. As usual.

[@carparthero]

the best protection (besides strong boundaries) against a narcissist is your strong self-esteem and self-respect. your self-love has to be louder than your desire to be loved.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You make sense!

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

I like what you have said. I need to remind myself of this.

[@CinzaChumbo]

Need to take note of your comment. It is truly well put. Thanks 😊

[@theresecote9276]

I can safely say, that this is a reflection of their lack of confidence and trust in others, being fully self aware of their own untrustworthyness , and they take for granted that everybody else is as bad as they are. You are so right Dr. C

[@Mehmet-rw9bu]

These shorts are extremely helpful. Thank you so much Doc. Keep up the good work.

[@RandomAnonymousChick]

Thanks Dr. Carter.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You're welcome

[@wendybesett5748]

Thank you. Yes, 100% agreed. This echos my experience. Very difficult to come up with a painless solution when financial interdependence is involved. Your work has helped ENORMOUSLY with my releasing emotional attachment and expectation. I humbly thank you for that and your free content. ❤🎉

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Well said!

[@Mehmet-rw9bu]

Having been raised by what seems to be a full-blown narcissist, I can speak from personal experience. My divorced mother wasn’t just driven by her countless insecurities-she always had at least one hidden agenda. This ultimately led to what is often referred to as Parental Alienation Syndrome.

[@caroleminke6116]

Family is the enemy then

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

Thank-you so much, Dr. Carter. In my healing process, I realized I didn't have a clue regarding boundaries in an intimate relationship in that I set boundaries and he ignored them. Nothing worked except ending the relationship and filing for divorce. We share the maintenance and repairs of a large motorhome. This has been tricky. I'm finding other sources to help with the lesser expensive things that I can take care of or do myself because of my ex-husband's ongoing manipulative, exploitive and predatory traits. The key for me is boundaries and enforcing them. Easier said than done sometimes because he may not be smart, but he is one crafty, sneaky creature. It's too bad that narcissists spend their time plotting and planning to serve only their needs because they are missing out on the joyful, spontaneous and happy moments in life.

[@Mr8t0]

Exactly! It would be easier for them to have a normal relationship but their fear manipulates them into a control posture. It’s sad that they are so controlled by something that happened to them at such a young age. They snapped & they now are slaves to pathological thinking.

[@caroleminke6116]

Be very aware he’s trying to destroy you now & always look for v alternative help until you can get away

[@WalkByFaith24]

As I was pondering on my roommate/landlord yesterday, I was wondering how in the world I got myself back into this situation. He gets the better of me in every situation, even though I know for a fact now (after knowing him awhile) that I am more book smart, have a much higher emotional intelligence, have greater street smarts, am a much better communicator, and can tell pretty much every time he’s lying, and yet I’m always taking the heat for everything or I’m the one “at fault”. Then I remembered… oh ya… that’s because I have EMPATHY, and he FEEDS off of it 🙄. If I’m not acting in a way he can feed from, then like a ravenous wolf, he will attack, looking for his next meal.

[@Hatbox948]

Time for a new roommate!

[@Mr8t0]

Very interesting insight. It answers a lot of questions in my relationship. Thank you!

[@carrielynnhoward4599]

But they like to say, “Just trust me.” 😂

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Honesty is not one of their strong suits.

[@Unser-4leigh]

Trust them to know what’s best. Whatever keeps them in charge is what’s best. If they get angry and envious of you , THEN it’s not going to be safe for you. Trust them. For your safety. Truth

[@Marimar917]

I just love your office 😍 I can see you like bears 🐻

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks...I went to Baylor University (Baylor Bears) so that explains the bears. When we built our retirement house, my wife had great ideas for my study, and it has become my (and Gus') man cave.

[@christinejason5756]

This is SPOT ON! Glad I had the option to just walk away!

[@genwill7677]

Thank you for your videos. It helped me to understand and put together what I instinctively felt all along was going on with the person I’ve been in a relationship with. I’m not going crazy or making things up in my head 😮‍💨

[@caroleminke6116]

You’re in a very dangerous situation now & going gray rock is your best strategy as you plan on no contact 😉

[@DennisMartins-pp7ry]

Perfect My Brother you are the very best at this issue I see clarity and can focus on stopping this sick person with determination. Total clarity. For anyone who reads between the lines ofcourse. 😊

[@tanyajohnson6066]

My daughter still doesn't get it. How can I have a relationship with her when she believes the lies of her father?

[@Spootiful]

They also don't recognise someone else's inherent individuality, that you exist regardless of them!

[@martydibergi5228]

Again, Run dont walk. Narcissistic brother forced me to get a lawyer to straighten things out after a while. He certainly got straightened out. Haven’t spoken to the fool in two years completely ghosted him now.

[@Exhaustedbutresilient]

You can always say what hurts you and what your emotional needs are in the friendship or relationship, but expect them to do the exact opposite multiple times because they will always come first. You can’t truly trust or rely on them to show up for you.

[@shirleyhunt8769]

Not team players 😮

[@judymeyer2935]

Dear Larry, I think you definitely have hope but I want you to know where you are coming from...

[@Truthwillprevail-n3v]

So how do you fight against a narcissist in a position of power that is surrounded by flying monkeys who stand by and watch as they abuse their power?

[@denisemorris5583]

Are they most of the time, or always, liars? Sigh... it sounds like it. The lability is entirely and successfully manipulative.

[@Unser-4leigh]

Just making sure you never outshine my community vip king. Under my thumb is the best place for you to be. For your safety ❤

[@Unser-4leigh]

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