Thank you for being a supportive and soothing voice on such a difficult topic. I love that your dog is blissfully sleeping too❤🇦🇺

Some people don't WANT to be decent because they would much rather have the power they get from the abuse they inflict.

Exactly that's what happened to me

She had to delete her old KZbin account and patreon because he was threatening to kill her if she didn't(lol not like he wouldn't anyway) but shes back she needs peoples help in spreading the word about this monster!

Two of my favorite narcissistic survivor coaches in one video

Never ever again!!!!!

Any kind of feeling you show a Narc - whether it is a positive or negative emotion - will feed the Narc, so that they will feel "alive" and seemingly thriving forward while you will be punished, feeling confused and empty.

Unfortunately they're not endowed with ears 🤔😆

To survive you need to create a new mindset - mind above emotions. To heal your trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) you need to get aware of your triggers. To thrive forward you need to focus on your own identity, your needs and your goals.

Narcs perceive the world through their subjective feelings and not through any kind of logic. Their goal is to get power over you. And getting power over you is through your emotional reactions. Their manipulative play (by gaslighting you so that you will doubt your reality) is to feed them with your emotions.

Never show a Narc your emotions because Narcs are only concerned with eliciting emotional feelings from you. Your emotional reactions will fill their emptiness and will regulate their own feelings.

As an adult that has become awareness and insight into Narcissism, which is the absence of love, you can make a choice to survive with an approach to set your mind above your emotions. Because Narcs can only survive by any reactions of your emotions.

As a child you survived because of your 4 trauma responses: fight-flight-freeze-fawn. These were your protections. You did not know anything about Narcissism but your body knew instinctively that there was something terribly wrong, because you felt unsafe.

🤎Gus🤎

Several experiences over the years. One thing that can bring a strong narc back from the brink is to have a planned strategy. You know that next fight will be over a particular thing and the response will be a predicted threat or action. Make that action a red line that must not be crossed, and have a planned response if the line is crossed. This is the scary bit. This planned response has to be unexpected and HUGE. The way you play this out is that you give them 2 or 3 chances to back down and if no, operation nuclear begins. What will happen? Most likely they will not back down and have to eat the consequences. BUT if your response is huge but has the capacity to be reversed or mitigated in a day or two, you will discover that they will be negotiating with you. Now the terms will be unfavourable so some decisions on what you will put up with need to be carefully considered... but as things return to normal you will notice they no longer treat you with contempt. If they know you have the capacity to hurt them big, they will at least play nice even if they don't internally change.

All your doing is digging a bigger and bigger hole

My family member has gone, in less than a year, from love B-mbed to discarded in the cruelest way. Now the narc is stalking her because he can’t believe she’s had enough. I fear for her safety-she came home from work at night and he was in her house-he has a key. I told her to get the locks changed asap.

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They refuse to acknowledge that they are the problem

Good evening to Mr Gus !!! Thank you and I appreciate you doctor

B free Indeed

Appreciate Your knowledge on the word Narcissist it really Helped me leave & individual based on understanding this is Not just what they are but this is How they feel & behave I was totally oblivious . . . I mean totally oblivious- I realize I came into Such a Person from a place of tolerance & tolerating so much when I met this person that I jus learned to tolerate & that included what felt like pretty Much Nothing Coming from them when we met them I jus came into a place of tolerating as much as I did that it was Nothing or jus a different kind of tolerating of such person including behaviors etc - but ur knowledge Helped me see wat I was dealing wit I always considered this individual Needy & obsessed with me to a certain Extent as Narcissist are but I Never seen it as too Much of a Red Flag I Jus tolerated it . . . Now I see beyond my toleration & realize How Sick this individual is As Some of his behaviors did scream abusive but his Neediness & obsession to me kept me from allowing myself to walk away cus he Never lets me leave but my 3rd pregnancy & beautiful baby helped me stop Any destructive tendencies I have & Helped me see straighter clearer & videos like urs came to me with more truths from God once my mind was clear which Helped me release myself from Such a Sick person & Unhealthy behaviors that I see more clearly Now that my life is void of anything Unhealthy- Not Every Sad Person is a Narcissist Some jus have very low self esteem etc & u have to be able to recognize whose who & whose truly Sick why & How so . . . .buy Thank u for ur knowledge & insight . . .wow u really turned me Around!

I live with my sister, who called me a narcissist because she described our dynamic and situation to her therapist who then said I was a narcissist and our mother was an enabler. I responded to her that I didn’t think a therapist was allowed to diagnose someone who they have never seen before. But I was completely taken aback by this statement and began to wonder if I am truly a narcissist or if I have some narcissistic tendencies? I started watching these videos to understand narcissistic behaviors and try to work on myself ahead of going to a therapist. I also went to Reddit to try and get info there. The more I watch these videos it’s actually describing my sister completely and now I’m wondering if I’m actually the narcissist or if she was projecting or are we both narcissists in different ways and we are unable to see eye to eye? Either way, I am completely grateful for this channel. Thank you.

Again I say, thank you Dr. Carter. You’ll never know this side of Heaven how many people you have helped understand what we have been experiencing. Thank you again. May God Bless you and your family. One of team Healthy.

my father died last week, hadn't seen him in 8 years. i had to end the relation back then. Tuesday it all came back. I wrote it down. Today i felt so angry, just because of all the memories about things that happend from my teenage years on. Tomorrow is his funeral. I am not going to attend. But the anger from today suprised me. I haven't healed yet.

Thank you so much Dr Carter. Feeling trapped in a difficult marriage but staying for sake of children

I’m still coming to terms with my childhood as a survivor of two narcissistic parents who were both only & unwanted children of older narcissistic mothers. I realize that a happy life was denied me & their deaths came too late to free me. Counseling only worsened the problem. Finally a hospice therapist at my church mentioned that I was probably shamed. A lifetime of their sick projections has made it impossible to know my true self. What a waste of humanity results from narcissistic behavior

Thank you Dr C for keeping it REAL!!

Agreed 100%!

How are you supposed to stay away when u had to move in w them due to serious mold issues in my home I was renting ?? God help me

This is trump

Ain't it just the truth! It's also Tiresome. Nobody needs this

to argue with lying jealous envious narcissists, know it all narcissists, it's a fruitless endeavor. such pathetic pathetic pathetic narcissists. they are so pathetic. they are really really really pathetic.

beat you with experience?? what experience?

Surviving/survivor starts as a state of mind.

Just walk away .. then they call us 'crazy' they are abandoned intrinsically period. Abandoned all of their lives, nothing is food enough nor can we save them. Run asap!!!

Dr. Les, you are a wonderful human being. I appreciate all you give.

hello,les how are you doing today? i really hope you're doing fine. hope you're doing good my friend. how's gus?

of course the lying narcissists in my life would say to anybody who gullibly believes them or to anybody who will listen the lying jealous narcissists, they would tell, i mean the narcissists in my life would say that i don't have any legitimate reasons and that i never had any legitimate reasons,that's exactly what they would tell people. defaming my character, they always always always have. and they always did. and they always always always do. all of the time. constantly constantly and constantly. it is constant. and it is constant. and they have always always always hurtfully hurtfully lied on me. and they are always always constantly constantly constantly lying on me.

the narcissists in my life deflection of blame, they always always do, they always do. they always have. and they always did. they always have. and they always did. they always do. they are always always always deflecting the blame. always deflecting the blame. some of my 'family members', i refuse to call them family. i have always had my reasons. i have my reasons. my reasons why i have never really acknowledge them as family, i never really have acknowledged them as my family,well as i said i have my reasons, i have my own reasons.

Author, yes that is a good way of looking it, like they are the author of all truth, but they are not.

Heard this statement several times. Different men maybe pretending to b talking on the phone ( nobody want her now) who is that person? Ooh poor thing thought I could save ur life or did I just didn't want u? Ur day coming. Nephew lost his life. Haha. Nephew will always have the last say.

Do narcissists know they are narcissists???

If Viagra is doing so well? Y older females r left lost an confused. My latter yrs will b my best yrs. The past is what will make the present. A present

That Viagra should been taken off the market or put on the shelf. One stop bread milk an Viagra.

This describes my uncle to a tee

I'm married to a covert narcissist. My dilemma is that we have kids and if I've felt if I left, I would never see them again. My kids don't understand what their mother does, and I feel if I left, they'd be in an even worse situation. At least I'm aware of the sabotage, the energy drain, love bombing, and manipulation . It's not as bad when it's predictable. I still have hope for the future, that one day I will escape and have a life again.

Texas and Texans are great, But Tom Cruise is right about the psychology profession. Narcs are not worthy of anything but their end, but they are more prevalent than ever before. they no there are no consequences. thanks to the Psych Profession!!

the narcissists in my life are lying narcissists and they are so envious of me,they are really really envious of me,and they are pathological habitual liars and they are such trouble makers. and they lie and cover for each other,and they have lied just to cover their own pardon my french asses. just to cover their own tails. they are so envious of me. they always have been so jealous of me. they are so jealous of me. they are always insulting my intelligence,they are constantly constantly constantly insulting my intelligence. they are know it alls. they always have been, they always were. a whole bunch of know it alls. they have always put me down. they are constantly constantly constantly putting me down. they are always always always put me down. they always have put me down. they are constantly constantly constantly constantly constantly constantly putting me down.

It's a human don't the dream is OVAH~~~