Why people love drama | Andrew Huberman and Lex Fridman

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Full podcast episode: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4Wlcqt6a9GnaMk Lex Fridman podcast channel: kzbin.info Guest bio: Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist at Stanford and host of the Huberman Lab Podcast.

I settled down with man that gave me peace and protection at 23yrs old. Now celebrating our 16 year anniversary ❤️

you are very lucky.

The prayer part hit home for me. The last 10 years of my life have been an emotional roller coaster due to circumstances completely out of my control. My suffering became so overwhelming I began to wonder what it was all for. I finally surrendered and prayed every night to the universe, to my mom, to my grandmother to anybody who would listen. I just wanted guidance. Show me what I need to do and I’ll do it. I have to say that my new found spirituality probably saved my life. My meditations are where I can find some peace. Thanks Lex for this amazing interview with Andrew. And thank you Andrew for sharing. It means a lot.

Great talk, vulnerable, real

Huberman nailed it with the settling on peace and being yourself. that's exactly what i experienced. so important.

Love Lex’s comment about Doc fighting in the dorms 😂

Nice 😂

[@patravinci]

I crave passion and loathe drama. Sadly, many have a difficult time distinguishing between the two.

Yet music, film and art in general can have both passion/drama so you probably desire both like most humans

Deep

I grew up with my parents being drama, a holiday never went by without police or ambulance or family fights.. then I had 2 kids with a guy alot like my dad, (alcoholic), I left him when my second was only 5 months old.. when I got my first place alone with my kids I remember looking at the front door and saying, "no drama through that door!" And I've stuck to it as much as life permits, and my kids and calm and intelligent! No addiction issues and I'm so happy I broke that curse

[@patravinci]

@@izzydeadyet7336 your strength is truly inspiring. If only all children had a parent as loving, brave, and introspective as you are. Congratulations on breaking the cycle of abuse. I wish you and your children good health, happiness, and continued healing. Thank you for sharing your story.

The ego can’t exist w out drama .a sense of separation and me vs them. All the spiritual teachings go deeply into this. Eckhart Tolles books and KZbin’s explain this brilliantly

Re: "Being Yourself" in a relationship - I think many (chronological) adults continue to seek the "unconditional love" they may not have received in childhood. But that desire is totally misplaced, out of time. That child "died" as in "ceased to be" long ago and no "unconditional love" from anyone else in the present can fill the void that may persist. It is appropriate to mourn the loss of that childhood, mourn the loss of the opportunity to grow up with the unconditional love of ones parents. However, after that, such a person has to Move On and learn to Love Themselves unconditionally. Following that, they need to realize others will and, actually, Should love them Conditionally; i.e. for the person they are now, the choices they are making now, not just for their "self," but the Best Version of their "self." Isn't that really what we want as adults? For people to appreciate and respect us for the humans we are and are choosing to become, in spite of our weaknesses, in spite of our history?

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:30 🎭 Humans are attracted to Shakespearean drama due to subconscious pulls despite seeking mental peace. 02:21 💫 Attracted to individuals with passion, uniqueness, and depth rather than raw ambition. 03:30 🔥 Shakespearean drama arises from various drives in different ratios within individuals. 08:38 🙏 Incorporating prayer for humility, acknowledging defects, and seeking guidance helps achieve right actions. 15:36 🌞 Sharing tools and protocols for mental health and well-being based on empirical evidence. Made with HARPA AI

School of Hard Knocks. Sound about right? Heartfelt. Mr. Huberman Thanks. This is the kind of meeting which needs to be shared. Thanks 4 the clip, Lex. Peace.

I think what Andrew is finding his way to is Stoicism. The little comment he made about not being able to control everything. How he described a higher power, the Stoics would call Nature or Fate. How he increased his agency through this, by taking action. He's also reflecting on his day and his place in life. I'm excited to see his journey.

Nature, faith, the way, God, it all points in the same thing. What words we use isn’t so important. It’s the feeling

I love the part about drives bc I’m driven heavily by pleasure, but also the part about prayer and feeling like somethings can’t be resolved alone. You can understand your drives, take loads of plant medicines, meditate, etc, but no matter what this life seems so mysterious. Just when you think you have it all figured out, life humbles you. You only can look inward or beyond the stars. The answer is both, but still this experience is a fruitful yet paradoxical question mark.

Lex thanks for doing it man.

Wow! So beautiful to hear Andrew talk about God.

What a beautiful man acknowledging his limits. I love this❤

It's a banality.

[@Logotechful]

Thank you for the advice I took it to the heart. I have started pray along side my meditation everyday and I see real change. If we don’t have humility and acknowledge our limits that we cannot control everything it will lead us eventually to a self destructive path. I know for sure I done that mistake quite a few times but I always got up and try to become a better human being every day.

i love huberman. what a great guy!

❤ them both. I’d love to share a lunch date listening to them & Rogan breaking bread🎉

@@jelizabethpetrie6656 tomorrow if you like?

I relate to his take on praying. I do the same as I believe it is powerful.. Words and intention and understanding we can't control evverything...and a higher source

inner peace. whatever exists within ourselves and our consciousness happens outside in our personal reality.

[@brannenstack]

10:10 so valuable thank you Andrew for sharing your experience in prayer. Prayer is power and there is something bigger than ourselves/higher power/creator

Prayer is powerful. Thank you for sharing!

Andrew, you are turning right. That’s natural and good.

I've found sometimes it's about ACCEPTING our flaws rather than getting rid of them, so long as they're not hurtful to ourselves or others. That resistance to what is can really cause angst.. in my experience anyway. Nobody is perfect.

❤ it!

[@nicholasmesa3588]

Even Bruce Lee reached that point in his Training. The sign of Transitioning into the State of a Master.

[@andyoates8392]

Humans are drawn towards drama on Homeric levels of drive. 💚♾️

I kind of interpreted his prayer segment as him being self aware of things he can’t change when he focuses on changing them. So he left it up to “a higher being” to resolve them when in reality he did it himself by letting them go.

There's a reality called God.

@@WJKaplan Which one? Zeus? Apollo? Amon? Ra? Or wait just your god? Let your ego centric human superiority shine my friend. How about ants what if they have a god, but wait I forgot humans are the center of the universe no god will ever be as strong as the human ego.

@@dmcentYT the fact that you mentioned all those different God-idols is a proof that mankind has a tendency to worship and turn themselves to a higher being. You should get to know the person of Jesus, and come back to me when you have had a deep dive on arguments about the existence of God. People have met him and felt him. He is present in our everyday life and has real power in the world. There is no one like him.

@@WJKaplan Prove it

@@dmcentYT no problem, what type of proof are you looking for?

The best way to enjoy drama is when it’s not yours. Get a partner that bring you peace then you both can enjoy others’ drama on the weekend.

Beautiful ❤️😍❤️

Men like comedy, women like drama.

Yeah I’ve always been attracted to wild cards, much to my detriment haha. Nothing good ever happened with those people. But man was it exciting. I told my boyfriend the other day that these days I have to be very careful the people I choose to be close to. Because I am drawn to shocking and controversial people, and I’ll easily get swept up into their shenanigans, because I’m a daredevil at heart. My life depends on me sticking around safe and stable people haha. Or at least stable quirky people. But not the people who were getting us into life threatening situations or law breaking situations every time I was with them. Im also in Adult children of alcoholics and one of the traits on the laundry list is that we’re addicted to excitement, and that’s always been my M.O.

[@PureSparkles22]

6:20 morning routine

Shout out to Ben Barres, RIP

If you want to know more about what Andrew is saying, look up the 12 steps of AA.

I feel like Andrew sounded so sad

I disagree. You can find that bigger thing within yourself and that's all that you need. "...but the human spirit can soar, it's more than we can ever be in one lifetime. We need more to become Gods ourselves." - Devildriver

Why does this remind me of hannibal and will

Correction * "Why Women love drama "*. That's why soap operas, "bad boys", and many reality TV shows are very popular amongst women. 🤔

Fact.

It’s scientifically proven that men watch just as much garbage reality tv as women

Lex, your thumbnail image 😓😰❤️‍🩹

Why women love drama!

It’s sad how many qualifiers he feels he has to apply to his feeling compelled to pray. The groups who preach non-judgement seem to reserve all their judgement for those who believe in God. To which the rebuttal is (quite justifiably) “well have you seen how they judge everyone else?” But spirituality and God is a whole side of life which has evolved with humanity from the dawn of our consciousness. Whether you “believe” it or not, the real question is what is it? What does it mean that we so collectively feel the desire to reach out to a higher power. Anyway, I don’t remember why I started this. 😂 I’ll put this soapbox beside the others.

❤🫶🏼🧠

[@PeterJohnson-xm8pg]

HELLO Amost first ; )))))

you have to change title "why woman love drama"

So he has no clue why people love drama.

Jesus you dig every second "rational" guy and discover a flowery housewife who enjoys oprah and magic crystalls.

😂