Why Results Come When You Stop Caring

[@KatyaMorozova]

Let me know in the comments which of the 3 reasons you resonate with the most!

[@venturini09]

I appreciate that this isn’t about “scoring” as so many of the videos put out by guys are. It’s helping understand WHY it’s happening and what to be mindful of. And it’s about attracting QUALITY women. Thank you Katya.

[@scottdunn2178]

Don't chase the wrong one... the right one won't run.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Well put!

[@iherigbonathaniel3705]

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[@iamthestorm1004]

No such thing as the " right one...or the one "! She's NOT nor will she ever be yours.... It's just your turn"! Modern western women are a total waste of time Social media and the feminazi movement has destroyed the dating process relationships and the creation of the family unit. Women suck up all the attention and validation from weak simpass men on social media, dating sites etc then soon hit the wall in their 30s..40s..50s and end up alone with their cats and boxed wine I do not support nor endorse this type of content nor do other confident secure high value men !!

[@Revolution-tl5wo]

The problem for the guy that comes back after I've stopped caring is... *I've stopped caring.* I don't give second chances once I'm done. If you can't appreciate me when you have me, then you can do without me forever.

[@jonahdab2491]

Agreed 👍👍👍

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[@Thedesertguy75]

Its just true, when we simply are not worried about it, they love it. I did well in my 20s because i just didn't care, once i lowered my guard and became more emotional, i crashed and burned. Of course, with a good natural fit, it shouldn't matter.

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[@jonathanfisher3845]

I wish I would of heard this advice in my 20's.

[@brightymlaano2826]

At least you know it now

[@durjay21]

I also

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[@dr_corrupt1014]

you can’t learn to catch fish with fish learn that skill from a fisherman check out richard cooper channel for this kind of advice….

[@gn2665]

Honestly I am a woman and I want a man to care about me, I am just extremely tired of the childish games people need to “feel” love or “attract” I actually call these things desperate and nothing more.

[@iherigbonathaniel3705]

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[@Nola5427]

This is sadly the way it works , when you are all focused on that man or woman you are causing resistence ,slowing down even stopping progress but when you let go of control and aren' t focused on a specific outcome and in fact are focusing on yourself and livimg your life that is when they come back, that is how the Universe works.

[@bobk.463]

It's a paradox

[@markpack798]

Nothing you do will ever be enough, Especially for something that is just temporary .. one man isn't enough for today's women..in the past dated 100s of woman ..even 3sets of twins thrown into the mix!! And yah every guys dream... but now ""time to walk away and avoid today's women like the plague .. Peace out homie!! Stay safe out there....

[@petewangen-groovedrummer8083]

Excellent work, thank you. Wow, this is like the missing link : ) Men somehow learned that this is the way to approach women, no more.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks for sharing. Glad it was helpful!

[@jacknjill3000]

I’m in my 50’s and in my generation, women would say they wanted someone sensitive and caring. Well, that got me nowhere and was a big lie and only made women feel wholesome and validated that they were not shallow. All that did was label you as a pushover and weak and tell women to stay away. Did learn later in life that I expect a 50 50 situations and they women need to earn my respect and not let her get away with the bs she comes up with. If she stays after showing her that, that’s when you gain her respect and will put work towards keeping u. So don’t listen to women on their needs and show her your needs and lead in the relationship. In the past or most cases, she not going to admit she wants to be lead by a man, bc that’s shows vulnerability and weakness, but that’s what she wants. Humans have not evolved very much since the cave man days. But feminism came along and empowered women to be more confused about their role.

[@roberttruman8444]

Personally I think Cosmopolitan in the 80s & 90s has got a lot of shit to answer for, namely consistent man-bashing while throughout the revenge years. Granted it was the era that did away with a large amount of male dominated workplaces, and it was for so many Western women their 'time to shine', and rightly so. As an adolescent at the time and living with my 30+ single mother, I witnessed this shift in society's regard for men in general and it was less than sympathetic to their struggle to suddenly modernise and adapt to the new gender diversity in the workplace including senior management. Numerous double standards began to emerge, for example removing Page 3 girls posters and increased criticism of men for objectifying women but no such scrutiny at the time over the topless window cleaner and the 'Diet Coke Break' commercials; similarly things like the female menstrual cycle were to be understood and accommodations made (no arguments there), but if men were feeling sick it was simply labelled 'Man Flu'. If men wanted to have sex more than once a week they were "perverts" and "dogs with bones" accompanied by the exaggerated yawning and rolling eyes, but if women wanted to have sex twice a day they were "empowered". To top it off unemployment was on the rise and men got hit hard. Women suffering were told "I'm here if you want to talk", while men suffering were told "oh man up!". I always supported equality in every aspect of our lives but I never liked hypocrisy, and there was rather a lot of it going around back then. With regards to your past problems it's not being sensitive and caring was and is a problem, but the neglecting of your own needs and identity. Unfortunately the lines were very blurred back then and I don't recall anyone explicitly telling men to neglect themselves, but there was nobody telling men to think of their own manly needs back then either. The one possible exception may have been the audiobook that Kevin Kline purchased on how to 'be a man' in the film In & Out. Anyway I didn't mean to go off and write a social history essay. The only advice I could offer is to avoid expressing bitterness against women for the promoted attitudes and ignorance at the time, and that you take time to reconnect with yourself and your needs as a man. Maybe even book yourself one of those male retreats out in the woods with the spa treatments?...............Joking haha

[@ravipeiris4388]

Avoidance-attachment issues which you discussed towards the end of your video really resonated with me. My sister is a therapist which I plan to discuss your video with as it pertains to a woman I genuinely care about but has issues of trust, giving and receiving love. Thank you for your insights, Ravi Peiris M.D.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks Ravi! Would you say that you typically date women who are more avoidant? Oh please do share with your sister, I'd love to know her thoughts on the topic

[@M_elliote34]

The BEST video on KZbin

[@KatyaMorozova]

Well shucks! That’s a big compliment. 😊

[@matts6287]

I messed up my relationship & she broke up with me. I didn’t catch her indirectly communicating her losing respect & attraction. Our 9 year relationship ended last March. Of course towards the end I started chasing & acting needy. I’ve been in no contact for 6 months & wondering if I should reach out for new year? Any advice?

[@KatyaMorozova]

Hey Matt, thanks for commenting! I think reaching out after 6 months is pretty solid. That's a healthy amount of time and distance. If you'd like support coming across as powerful and secure when you reach out and want to know what to say that's unique to your situation definitely book a session and we can come up with a game plan >> www.katyamorozova.me/services-2/

[@matts6287]

Katya Morozova Thank you. I will consider it. : )

[@KatyaMorozova]

@@matts6287 groovy! Also, I made a video about reaching out. This could be helpful. >> kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqummIaar6l7qNk

[@matts6287]

Katya Morozova Thank you! : )

[@thomasandrewmcgonigal5150]

Don't contact her ,it is over.

[@jeffjgarrett269]

Amazing stuff. Thanks for the helpful information.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thank you! And you are most welcome.

[@iherigbonathaniel3705]

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[@inspiredx3866]

The not ready to receive love is a deep point. Seems familiar in my breakup. She said she had to work on herself. Shes going through a lot. A yr later from giving the same energy and effort and saying im the best guy since her divorce...seems she got scared.

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[@kicksalot9943]

Katy’s, my FA girlfriend broke off our year and half relationship. She told me I deserve better and she feels smothered right now and knows it’s her FA attachment style deactivating and wants to be single for awhile to work on herself. I said okay and goodbye, she said we could still talk/text and be friends I said No it would be to hard, I don’t wanna be on the back burner. She was hurt but so was I. I’m not waiting moving on and working on myself gone NO Contact for 1-week so far. My question is will she come back??? I definitely over pursued. And she said she doesn’t feel worthy of my love. Yes she does the push pull a lot 😔

[@thomasandrewmcgonigal5150]

She was seeing someone else,stay no contact,never take her back.

[@kicksalot9943]

@@thomasandrewmcgonigal5150 how do you know she was seeing someone else?

[@iherigbonathaniel3705]

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[@Nola5427]

I don' t think that' s a given Thomas, some ppl really don' t feel worthy of Love and have low self esteem.

[@adamfindlay7091]

As some one put: care inside, but show you don't so visibly, take some pressure off both of you. But really just be what/who you are. I guess the smothering ain't attractive. I do avoid toxic/narcissist behavior-those who demand rather than care, meaning, love.

[@grumblesa10]

My mental shift is...she's NOT WORTH IT.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Well. There you go!

[@grumblesa10]

@@KatyaMorozova Cpacebo!

[@iherigbonathaniel3705]

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[@davidcoppotelli3957]

2 years 2 late But I must say a Very Good Video. Viewed on 11/11/22. Very Well Done.

[@davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796]

I've attracted several types of women in my life, because of my authentic nature, and coming across different to most men women encounter, ( their words not mine ) For me relationship have been mostly interesting, sometimes tiring because a lot of women in my life said they're not at my level, and wanted help because of their insecurities. Just keep it authentic I always replied, and if it doesn't work at least we tried. Sometimes short lived relationships can be very enjoyable, but when the cycle of love runs out, call it a beautiful experience what life had to offer, and simply move on. Hopefully without complications, as humans seem to like complicated situations 😉 After all living is all about experiences. Some people stay in long term relationships feeling very unhappy or being unfaithful and staying together. In my experience the best and most definitely secure relationship is the one, one has with themselves. I Enjoy listening to what you have to say Katya on the subject. Love to all and all to love and the rest will follow. Namaste 🙏

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[@antonykibet3019]

this was me until 2 days ago..

[@lylecheckeye6300]

How does this work with a DA ex girl freind. AFter the break up its been 10 months and I went way to much pushing love and sending gifts and she is amazing but I think I did too much ? So I went No contact so I hope I can show her I can cool my heals and calm down. FIngers Crossed !!

[@KatyaMorozova]

Best of luck Lyle! Sounds like you’re recognizing your patterns and learning. Also, try not to be too hard on yourself. 😊

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[@samuelwebster2769]

This is what's happening with the girl I'm currently persueing.. It's the first lady I've persue in 19 years.. So been doing my own thing for many years.. And only been waiting for someone I'm really attracted to and have a connection with.. But I've had success getting closer to her but she isn't available emotionally all the time.. It's very frustrating as I really do like her.. She's had a bad marriage before so I can understand why she hesitant.. So I'll pull away for a few days is that to short a time? Really confused

[@hatemaljweinat7773]

Exactly

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[@bobk.463]

"Dad, you and mom have been married for 50 years!" What is the secret to your long marriage, Dad?" " Gee that's easy son, it takes lots of not caring and being aloof ." That's the secret my son to keeping someone that you don't care about ."

[@219ccollins]

What if we are not talking any longer? Its been about a week since i have stopped pursuing her. Will she feel the sense of detachment or the sense of not caring? Or will she only sense the "not caring" if we are still in contact but not pursuing her?? Thanks! Hope to hear a response

[@omarhamdy8288]

Been doing this for 2 years and no results…don’t get what I’m doing wrong…

[@ronaldpage5007]

Best video on this topic!

[@rosequartz1889]

Do you think this applies to men? Also, if I’m not into a guy, if he stops trying I’ll probably just be relieved and feel like I no longer have to worry about not making him feel bad.

[@alejandroga366]

Does this apply if she is your girlfriend are a girl you like that is playing hard to get, can you plz help me she seems really interested in person when I see her at the gym but every time I ask her out she keeps on flacking and she aslo give me a bs excuse,but when I see her at the gym she all over me flirting an talking,help

[@KatyaMorozova]

I wouldn't reduce how much you care in a relationship, especially a committed one. What I would do is implement strong boundaries.

[@alejandroga366]

But we not in a relationship she a girl I like but she playing hard to get what's your advice she acts cold and hot Everytime she see me at the gym..

[@troycarpenter3675]

@@alejandroga366 let go of your intrigue. It would be a nightmare relationship.

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[@stewart2313]

What if she’s an ex who felt neglected? Shouldn’t you try to fix it. But that seems to push her away.

[@KatyaMorozova]

It’s different when someone feels neglected in a relationship(and you’re still in it) vs. after you’ve broken up. You would treat the two differently. Different mindset. You can only work on the relationship if you’re in one. You can’t work on the relationship if the other person chooses not to be in one with you.

[@stewart2313]

@@KatyaMorozova Ok I guess that’s why she shows interest when I leave her alone.

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[@antonioperez3558]

You are amazing

[@KatyaMorozova]

Why thank you! ✨

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[@renaldogama5108]

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[@struglrt]

OK so I have experienced more and more that I meet a girl in person or someone tries to set me up with someone and often, they come to me wanting to know more. Not even my plan. We have a GREAT convo exchange numbers, a few texts in *poof*. I never hear from them. I try just once more a few days later and, as always, no response. So then I pull the I dont care and resist responding at all but yet they still haven't gotten back with me. None at all. So this magic "boom" response from not caring hasn't produced anything. They have gone from 100% to 0% instantly and suddenly and early on. Usually within a few texts. I don't want to seem desperate so I let them go with maybe one more to confirm a few days later and it's been the same story every time. It's been so many that I am giving way to angry feelings and enfranchised feelings about everyone.

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[@coldservings]

I was always told when I as younger that when it came to finding love "it will happen when you stop worrying about it." Here's the problem. I'm probably "on the spectrum" (not diagnosed, but have some of the signs). In particular I don't "get" social cues (one of those signs), partly because of that and partly feeding into it, I have severe social anxiety. On top of that, I'm a natural introvert. So what "when you stop worrying about it" looks like for me is that I. never. leave. the. house. The activities I do that are outside the house tend to be solitary. I ice skate, for example, ("Goth on Ice" videos show some of that) and that's a solitary activity (even though in a crowd, my interaction is generally limited to "are you okay" if someone take a bad fall or "I'm fine" if I'm the one who fell). "Stop caring" then, translates to "stop interacting with other people".

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks for sharing! This advice might not be helpful for you then. Though, when I hear social anxiety it makes me think that you care a lot! And possibly a lot about what people think of you. That’s usually at the root of social anxiety. So it’s not so much about not caring but understanding why you care so much about things that are out of your control(like peoples opinions). In regards to being on the spectrum. I recommend reading the book Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller. I believe that many people(not all) who are on the spectrum actually suffer from developmental trauma. We learn social cues from the time we are a baby when we’re reading our mothers face and mirroring expressions. When that’s not reflected back to us or we grow up with a neglectful or misattuned parent it can stifle our social development. That said, this is something that’s addressable!

[@coldservings]

@@KatyaMorozova "Social anxiety" is not a matter of whether I'm looking at possible relationships or not. It's not rational. You can know that it doesn't matter in the least what the people around think of you but it hits at a deep level. Much like a person with acrophobia can know, with absolute certainty, that there's no danger of falling, that they're absolutely safe but that doesn't matter. The fear is there. And all the logical arguments in the world don't make it go away. Also caring has many factors to it. One might not care for one's own sake but not want to make things awkward for other people. I also know people who are also "on the spectrum" who use that as an excuse. They aren't just awkward. They're downright creepers--the the extent that they recently got banned from a convention that's pretty open-door. They don't care what image they present to others and, well, those are the results. I don't want to be the creeper who makes things uncomfortable for other people because I'm no good at social cues and can't tell where "fun flirtation" ends and "creepy" begins. Perhaps that's caring too much. So, yeah, I guess I do care. I care that my incompetence with social cues doesn't inadvertently hurt other people. And the concern that I might causes anxiety.

[@KatyaMorozova]

​@@coldservings I appreciate that social anxiety feels like it's not rational. That said, I do think in some ways it is very rational. It's your mind-body system protecting you from perceived danger. It may not actually be a present danger but people who experience anxiety are responding to "something" that feels very real. I'm not suggesting you can "logic it away" I know how difficult it is to live with anxiety. I lived with it for a very long chapter of my life. That said, there are parts to anxiety; thoughts, beliefs, physical sensations, and emotions that are coupled together to create the experience of "anxiety". Uncoupling those from one another can change our experience of social situations. I will say that if you have awareness about "potentially being a creeper" and you're worried about trying not to be one... then you're probably not as creepy as you think. Generally, creepers don't have the level of concern, awareness and care that you do. I've helped clients work through anxiety, and noticing social cues comes a lot more naturally when you feel safe in your own skin in social situations. If you'd like support with that I can definitely help you. It's very attainable to be free of what you're experiencing. Reach out if you want to chat more [e-mail]

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[@algrande2841]

Women get confused when you care. Got it

[@KatyaMorozova]

It's more about having a level of care that's appropriate to the level of intimacy you have with a woman. When a man bends over backwards for someone they hardly know it's confusing to a woman.

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[@mossesjesus4250]

By doing all this you can simply play mind games with your partner and get her /him notice u .. After some time again the same shit happens then u can again start with this games and ultimately whole life u can keep playing this game only 😂😂😂

[@parkerhowell-r5f]

I've stopped caring about women, and I haven't gotten results but whatever ig

[@ping9836]

💖

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[@bobk.463]

" I really don't care about you or what happens between us, so would you marry me and spend the rest of your life with me?"

[@gnbalaji7437]

Hundred percent

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks for watching!

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[@iamthestorm1004]

Asking women for advise is like a fisherman asking a fish how to fish !!

[@RootBoyJim]

Nope. That doesn't work either.

[@carlosbushm]

This is illogical! Even in the realm of emotions you don't spend resources in a task if you are not convinced or care about it. The problem are the avoidant personalities lurking around us ...

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks for sharing! I agree that there are quite a few emotionally unavailable folks who have a hard time when people show care. What I'm addressing in this video is caring too much too soon. In a sense, investing too fast before it makes sense to invest so much and before seeing that the other person is doing that too.

[@carlosbushm]

@@KatyaMorozova got it, Katya! Thanks for all the hard work . We appreciate and thank you for help!

[@KatyaMorozova]

@@carlosbushm It's my pleasure!

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[@joncabana7290]

Lol so I’ll pretend I don’t care.

[@rnt45t1]

I've been single since 2012. Haven't even had anything casual since 2017. I obviously have stopped caring, but would like to know where these supposed women are now? Also, I'm not fat. I'm 6'1" and 170lbs, work out every day, working on building muscle. I'm bald, but supposedly that doesn't matter? I make $134,000 a year. I'm not a loser, just no one wants me.

[@DannyBoy443]

I love her advice and it's mature, but she needs to offer a free consultation first before you pay for her services.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Hi La Porta, I offer complimentary consultations to folks who are interested in signing on for a long-term program with me. Otherwise, for people who just want to check out how I work you're welcome to book a single session.

[@chriskalmar4016]

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[@contracthit9839]

This video is cliche and she ignores men are attracted to looks and 70 % of American women are overweight..High demand little supply..IRRATIONAL MATHEMATICS !