Why Self-Care is Important for Loving Others

[@ChildofGod98765]

Jesus, I still trust in you even though I’m struggling paying bills and providing for my children, I was so ashamed I felt like a failure until I found Jesus. I lost my job because I declined the vaccine. I declined because of my pre existing health condition (Lupus) and Heart disease. I was denied my medical/religious exemption from Forsyth Hospital. My husband passed away three years ago, I’m a single mother. Both of my sons are autistic, they require a lot from me. Every month is a struggle, a battle to not end up on the streets. I’m so depressed and embarrassed by my situation. I post my story all over to spread awareness of what mandates are doing, not just to myself but to many other families. I’ve been put down and mocked because of my circumstances even criticize because I post my story, it truly hurts me. BUT even after all these things. GOD HAS PROVIDED. He has sent strangers to help me. I’m forever grateful! This is my testimony! GOD HEARS PRAYERS! EVEN as I face homelessness seemly every month with two young children. GOD SHOWS UP IN TIME to save me and my boys. ALL GLORY TO GOD OUR Heavenly Father Thank you Jesus.

[@jeanmariedenning62]

So many families have suffered simply because they chose to stand up for the truth regarding the vaccines! Try to build your immune system . Vit C, D3, Zinc A and E . And prayers. Immunity is far more effective than the insipid as well as dangerous experimental MRNA vaccines. Bless you!

[@CA-xk4ob]

🙏❤️💪🏻

[@t.f.9378]

Incredible!! Sorry it's been so hard for you. Ugh I can't imagine. You're such a strong person and God used that strength to challenge u💙

[@bajone02]

Hi Mousy. Been waiting for you to pop up again. I thought of something maybe to look into. There are so many YT channels that repackage info from other places and put it back out as a new train of thought. Pick any topic you have a passion for, watch / read several resources and then write your own script about what'ever info you learned. Mention all your sources

[@teehee4096]

why would you deny the vaccine that jesus created?

[@gracerizza8694]

I struggle with understanding where selfishness ends and self care begins.

[@josetomashameaudavanzo4954]

X2

[@kell_checks_in]

Maybe it would help if you imagined observing yourself from the outside. (Pretend you're one of the angels. : ) If you were observing someone else in your circumstances doing (or not doing) XYZ, would you approve or disapprove? And, of course, you can always pray and ask for insight.

[@barbraluce675]

It can be a thin line between the two. I pray over this frequently.

[@evaschroeder4020]

Balance I believe

[@musicandthewalk]

Same

[@ShmurplesArePurple]

Jesus took time for himself a bunch in the Gospels and I think it's really important to remember that. The savior of the world, a literally perfect man, took time to himself and took care of himself as well as allowing others to take care of him

[@mtshrhr3232]

I struggle a lot with self love. I am always the one that cares and loves everyone except myself. Thank you Fr. Mike!

[@bajone02]

I recently saw this kind of conflict in myself as an obedience problem. Really. We know helping others, esp those who need help so badly yet they still won't hardly accept our help. We spend all our energies trying to find a way to help without it looking like a big deal. But it's still very draining for us. But if we get OUR sleep, take 15 minutes silence to decompress just a bit, eat good enough food and drinking enough water, then we can be better for everything God has on our plate for each day. Be not afraid. God is with you always. Listen for answers in songs, you tube commercials that pop up, voices of friendly advice as well as those upset voices. Discernment is the key. Listen. Be thankful always. Smile. God loves you. Really.

[@droberts8703]

Never give up

[@evaschroeder5869]

Loving yourself is commanded. Love your neighbor as yourself not much more then yourself. I didn't love myself I hated myself I realized this was a sin I now do love myself. I should it is a sin to hate yourself. I love myself. This is why I don't care what others think.

[@Rattlesnake153]

As do I, and I'm grateful for this message.

[@jackhubert]

@@bajone02lol KZbin commercials that pop up? You’ve got to be kidding.

[@60sGirl123]

Jesus says to love others as you love yourself. Pure genius and Godly wisdom. I believe it should be about the same.

[@gravytruck]

So if I don't particularly like myself I should treat others like trask?

[@dannineharkins1667]

I'm your Protestant sister. This is the best thing I've ever heard. I'm a CNA and I love giving to others because it makes me feel good. I had difficulty with boundaries. I have not always taken care of myself well. It was a false humility. Thank you for your godly talk. I will care for myself better.

[@Porcelainwhite-o8z]

I've always been a people pleaser and an over giver , so many needs to hear this . Thank you FR Mike

[@ianmackenzie686]

Only speaking for myself, I watch after myself, nutrition etc. primarily so that I'm not a burden to others. After that it is to be more helpful to others when they need it. Not taking *proper* care of your body, mind, soul, can be a sin. Proper care isn't selfishness.

[@phyllisatbraniff7097]

THX, I needed to hear that!! 🕊 🌹 🕯 My problem, it takes so much to take care of myself, & my disabilities, I become so lonely! 😥

[@ianmackenzie686]

@@phyllisatbraniff7097 Don't despair. For what it's worth I just said a prayer for you. Sin stinks and is the cause of all our woes: bodily, mental, spiritual. Keep doing what you can with what you got.

[@phyllisatbraniff7097]

@@ianmackenzie686 THX for the Encouragement, muvh needed!! God Bless You! 🙏 🕊 🕯

[@MagdalenaIsaiah431]

@@phyllisatbraniff7097 I suffer from depression and anxiety, with insomnia and anemia to liven things up. But I've found praying the 4 daily Rosaries a phenomenal tool to help my mental health. Nothing has ever succeeded in helping me beat that sinking feeling of doom and foreboding on a consistent basis before! I'm a Convert to Catholic Faith only a couple of years in and The Rosary is the Most POWERFUL Prayer devotion I have ever known. I can't imagine a day without my new "Best Friend!" Also Eucharistic Adoration when I can get to Church raises me to Heavenly places as I just sit there letting JESUS Love all my hurts away. And 3rd lately I've began talking to my Guardian Angel throughout the day as though he were really there with me and asking for his help. Guess what? I don't feel so long in my struggles anymore, as I remember to ask for his help as often as I can. Infact I just asked for help not 10 minutes ago with finding something I had misplaced and a thought came to me about where it might be and that's exactly where I found it in less than a minute❣️ Ah "The Communion of the Saints!" I *LOVE* being a Catholic because we have so many helpers in our huge eternal family located both here on earth and in Heaven!💖💖💖✝️ I'm saying a Hail Mary for you as soon as I finish this❤️❤️❤️ Virgin Most POWERFUL pray for us 🙏✝️❤️❤️❤️

[@MagdalenaIsaiah431]

@PhyllisAT Braniff I suffer from depression and anxiety, with insomnia and anemia to liven things up🙃 But I've found praying the 4 daily Rosaries a phenomenal tool to help my mental health as well as a boon to my physical health. Nothing has ever succeeded in helping me beat that sinking feeling of doom and foreboding on a consistent basis before! I'm a Convert to Catholic Faith only a couple of years in and The Rosary is the Most POWERFUL Prayer devotion I have ever known. I can't imagine a day without my new "Best Friend!"❤️❤️❤️🙏 Also Eucharistic Adoration when I can get to Church raises me to Heavenly places as I just sit there letting JESUS Love all my hurts away.✝️✝️✝️ And 3rd lately I've began talking to my Guardian Angel throughout the day and asking for his help as though he were really there with me and I could consult his wisdom and his loving guidance since GOD assigned him the role of helping me navigate my way through this perilous life and he, who loves and obeys my heavenly Father perfectly will never fail to lead me the right way out of Love for our Father and for the weak human creature he has been commissioned to help❣️❣️❣️ Guess what? I don't feel so lonely in my struggles anymore, as I remember to ask for his help as often as I can. Infact I just asked for help not 10 minutes ago with finding something I had misplaced and a thought came to me about where it might be and that's exactly where I found it in less than a minute❣️ Ah "The Communion of the Saints!" I *LOVE* being a Catholic because we have so many helpers in our huge eternal family located both here on earth and in Heaven!💖💖💖✝️ I'm saying a Hail Mary for you as soon as I finish this❤️❤️❤️🙏✝️ Virgin Most POWERFUL pray for us 🙏✝️❤️❤️❤️

[@armint2717]

After years of hearing your videos Fr. Mike, I finally came across this one. And yet it’s the one, it seems, I probably should’ve seen first. But even if I had, it wouldn’t have had the same effect as it does today. I’ve always seeing myself as worthless, unworthy of love and afraid of hurting others and being hurt. Once I began to grow in my faith a few years back I saw myself as a slave to God, that my life had purpose only as to which I could be of use to others. I’ve always been so quick to help others and neglect my own care. Thinking that if I could be a “martyr” for others and love others, that my life would have meaning and that’s what God wanted. And yet this past year I’ve began to notice that doing good deeds for others yes, is love, but not complete love. Not authentic. I remember first praying over “The Greatest Commandment”, to love God, and our neighbor as ourselves. And I’ve always seen myself stop at the “as ourselves” part. That’s been the part I’ve known I’m not living out. Because I’ve hated myself, my mistakes, my downfalls, my habitual sins I’ve struggled with. And yet God has shown me, looking back, so many times this past year and in my life in general how much He’s loved me. Yes, He’s shown love to others, but to me individually as well. So many people in my parish have shown me so much love, I’ve been loved by Him through them. It’s almost as though He’s been telling me in exclamation marks how much He loves me. And yet I’ve closed my heart off at times. Now I realize that I need to be humble, just let myself be loved. Let myself be loved and not rely on my own strength, but rather, rely on Him working through me. I need to let myself be loved to be able to truly love others, letting Him love Him through me out of His boundless goodness. Thank You Fr. Mike Schmitz

[@wildcard4552]

For anyone who is reading this. Pray for me and many more who struggle with utter self hatred and negative thoughts especially in a state of mortal sin. Pray for us. This temptation of self isolation and thoughts about everyone saying hurtful things to me and to the point of abusing myself mentally by hurting myself by telling myself horrible things is mentally, physically nd spiritually crippling. It hurts my heart and my soul. Its become a habit of mine. Whenver i feel like someone is neglecting me (i probably just feel it and the person or people are just midning their own lives) I got cruel to myself because I know nd i believe that there something rong with me but instead of seeking hope, I seeks despair and self hatred. Ever since I fell to one mortal in, i kept cycling down, down. Although there are times i have been lifted up by he LORD significantly and greatly but this self hatred, negativity is slowly getting worse day by day, most especially when I thought I have ruined my friendship with someone i like. This self hatred is debilitating and i find myself slowly getting tired of hoping. Please. Pray for me. Please pray that I nd many more others would be able to get to confession.

[@michaelanthony4750]

Will do! There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep building virtuous habits and soon everything will be better.

[@wildcard4552]

@@michaelanthony4750 It did my fellow brethren it did. God has restored me to Himself and continues to draw me closer and the people in my life closer to Him. Continue to pray for us, i will pray for you in my next rosary :))

[@michaelanthony4750]

@@wildcard4552 Thanks!

[@martine2172]

@@wildcard4552How are things going now?❤️

[@wildcard4552]

@@martine2172 Pretty good ^^ ever since I've gone to confession (again), my journey has been great! I feel that I have more strength to serve at my local parish, other orgs and to pray and I feel more confident that the LORD, the Holy Spirit is within me. Before my confession, I was so close on giving up the faith, but the LORD kept being my guiding light that pulled me back. Mama Mary and all my heavenly brethren prayed for me, they watched over me. God reminded me afterwards that I am loved, I am not alone in the journey, and that I have value. And He strengthened this clarity where He wants me to serve. Right now, Im trying my best serve in my home, in the Legion of Mary and in the local parish :)) Thank you for your prayers. I love you all, Ill keep including you in my rosary intentions. Godbless you :))

[@deedlebug60]

Thank you so much. After 48 years of marriage I made a New year Resolution to do self-care. I had to if I was going to survive another year. It was the best decision I ever made. No more guilt. Praise God for this wisdom. Thank you.

[@Alma.-]

May I ask you what type of self-care you did? I feel that I need to do the same but I don’t know how!

[@kell_checks_in]

@@Alma.- Not a complete list: Journaling. Making a Bucket List (with space for ongoing additions) and making plans for pursuing an item on the list. Chatting with helpful people online (while guarding your privacy!) Being goofy. Playing games. Diving deep into a hobby. Getting educated on an issue important to you. Getting artsy. Getting enough sleep. Getting organized in ways that make your life less stressful. (continued)

[@deedlebug60]

I signed up for a Pilate class and stuck with it and lost 45 pounds.

[@wallinmk]

I cannot tell you how much I needed this tonight.

[@debbiereitmulder2151]

Same here.

[@he.is.real40]

God bless you Kristin!! ✝️

[@james.1975]

May God continue to Bless you and your family and ministry Fr. Mike and the whole team at Ascension ❤

[@AscensionPresents]

We're grateful for your generous gift, James, thank you!

[@jackcarello1678]

God bless you Father Mike! I needed to hear this!❤️✝️⚓️🙏😃

[@nicolesneedle3868]

I am in tears. I am a mother of three (6,5, and 2.5), at least one of whom is autistic and I very recently discovered I have ADHD. I had been feeling so torn and guilty that I had continued with my childcare arrangement for the summer even after my part time job was put on hold. Feeling guilty that I was having someone else do "my" job despite the fact that my husband and I had been deeply burned out the last few years and even knowing the hold at work was likely Providential... thank you for calling me out when I needed it and please pray that the message sinks in that I too am worthy of care.

[@all1he1imeGodisgood]

❤❤❤ The Lord will always support you! I am praying for you !

[@dodi3075dasr]

Father Mike mentioning Jordan Peterson and 12 rules for life 🤩🙏

[@kimberlyrose2092]

Start with the fruits of the Spirit. Show Love, Joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control to yourself. ✝️

[@junequinn4312]

I just can't love myself because I didn't do all I could have done for my children, I see the things other mothers did for their children and how they grew up, my children have suffered because of the things I didn't do for them

[@junequinn4312]

I just can't love myself because I didn't do all I could have done for my children, I see the things other mothers did for their children and how they grew up, my children have suffered because of the things I didn't do for them

[@kimberlyrose2092]

June, I do not know your story. I do know Jesus set you free when he died on the cross. You can start anew from this moment forward. It's not easy as a human, but I beleive God when he says all things are possible through Him. Prayers.

[@geraldine7981]

I’ve been called selfish for putting myself first and worries of my own problems by some of my coworkers when I don’t put energy of their nonsense at work. Thanks a lot for this message.

[@mateo2724]

The best way to cultivate self love is by making decisions today that your future self will thank you for tomorrow

[@florenciamitrovich605]

I truly believe Jesus spoke to me through you, its EXACTLY the answer to my question to Him, thank you

[@MrDarshD]

Treat and see yourself as someone worth taking care of. Thank you Father Mike! Such an important video and message!

[@rosealenius-spencer4823]

We are temples of the Holy Spirit. Take care of that temple!❤️🙏🏻

[@berthahernandez2209]

Unfortunately there is a lot of lack of self-love in this world. Prayers for all to embrace self-love. We are all God’s children. He loves us. Let’s love ourselves and each other 🙏🏼❤️

[@BlackWingedSeraphX]

Asking for help thing is so true. I missed out on YEARS of progress, that I coulda had done in a day, had I just asked for help! It's a matter of personal pride.

[@bajone02]

You are singing my song. My recent revelation is the delays in my response were largely spiritual warfare. he ( notice the case) does his darndest to distract us with even good things that just aren't the best things. So you took the bate, God made good out of it still, set you in the path again. Rince, repeat. BUT you are wiser now as you wake up from that spiritual brain fog. So dream big. Bestir yourself. Don't look back. God has great tasks for you. Stay in state of grace much as possible for best progress. Matthew Leonard has a program you might like if you want to commit to it. Same for the folks at Avila Institute. Stay strong

[@heisseblonde6837]

“No is a complete sentence.” I love this! 🙏🏻❤️

[@Annavae1111]

I literally just googled tips on self care without being selfish 20 minutes before I saw this video… so I’m taking this as a sign that I should make an effort in loving myself. I need to be free from irrational guilt and let myself be loved. Thank You so much for this.

[@vickicebulla419]

I love it whenever Fr. Mike vauge-references Prof. Peterson!

[@BlackWingedSeraphX]

My mom needs to hear this. She wastes time worrying about my dad and doesn't look out for herself.

[@rosemariekury9186]

I am just like your mom. I worry about my husband a lot since he’s in poor health. But lately I’ve been getting out a bit more because you need to do that. I’m 78 and my mom died at 79 or a sudden heart attack. She too worried about my dad but didn’t get out much herself and should’ve. Try and tell your mom this because if you yourself are sick, you’re not able to do anything. Even a short walk helps! Hope your mom does this!❤️❤️❤️

[@BlackWingedSeraphX]

@@rosemariekury9186 Thank you so much for your advice and kindness. God bless you, miss. And I hope you live a longer healthy life! Who knows, you could make it to 100!

[@NessaRossini...]

Thank you, Father. 3 Hail Marys for you. 🙏🏼🙏🏽🌹

[@worldcitizen7773]

I got it Father! Boundaries are necessary and I am not the savior. Thank you so much!

[@ivorybow]

For the first time in my long life, I closed the door on a friend. I allowed it to go on for too long, because I was so confused about being loving as I believed Christ had commanded me. This person had become such a source of stress and distress for me that those feelings were taking over my life. I didn't know for sure but I believe this person was addicted to morphine. I couldn't find a way to have a confrontation. I have felt guilty and confused, but at the same time, once I stopped the relationship, I felt freed and released. I have had great difficulty knowing where that line was, to the point I was taken advantage of repeatedly. Thank you for this, to help sort this out.

[@marystenson2852]

Yes, too much for any of us to deal with, so glad you saw the light, it may have saved your life- who can say?pray for this person and hand this person over to Him and let Him take care of it all. 🙏👍❤️

[@lizb853]

I have never been really loved in my entire 75 years by my family. I was tolerated yes but loved in any form. Absolutely not. As a result not only do I NOT, love myself, but I don't even believe that love even exists. To my way of thinking there's respect, admiration, kindness and tolerance and acceptance, but LOVE? That's very nice in childrens fairy stories, but in the real world. I just CAN'T accept that. So yes! Love is a HUGE issue for me.

[@mariyadepeche1658]

I think that first we have to know what love is. So often in our society it’s defined as over-indulgence and feelings. I’m learning that it’s a commitment to willing the good of others despite feelings. But to do that, we have to keep ourselves healthy - spiritually as well as physically & mentally. I’ve had a daunting struggle with self-hatred and PTSD/ various anxiety disorders on top of that. Self-destructive behavior was the norm for me. The past couple of years, I’ve finally reverted to our Holy Catholic Church and I thank Jesus Our Precious Lord for not giving up on me. Finally I’m feeling like I’ll very soon, through the Grace of God and the prayers of our Holy Mother Mary, to be sane and healthy enough to help others more rather than being a burden to them. Thank you 🙏🏼 Fr. Mike. Your videos have been a big help on my crazy 😜 journey this year. Your BIAY has helped to give structure to my days à la the Rule of Saint Benedict. I’ve been studying his Rule and within his Ora et Labora I have been attempting to give my life structure and sanity. Sorry if I strayed off-subject, but I think that the Benedictine daily rhythm is helping my health on all three levels - put spiritual first, but also include mind and body because we are primarily spiritual beings but one cannot separate that from the mental & physiological. Then after ordering our own life so that we can be as healthy as possible, we can be best-equipped to take care of others. As Fr. Imbarrato says, “Take care of those whom Our Lord puts in our path each day. “ Thanks y’all for reading this. Greetings from Catholic Oklahoma. Pray the Rosary every day. Please pray for me that I stay on the Holy path of Jesus’ Catholic Church until we all meet in Heaven. 💕💖🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼📿🕊🌻🎼🎶📿Viva Christo Rey!!! God bless Fr. Mike and all others here. Blessings to all.

[@MagdalenaIsaiah431]

Love your testimony ❣️ I'm a Convert to Catholicism and I Love the ROSARY PRAYER because it has almost single-handedly saved my very fragile mental health. It helps beat back the demons of depression and anxiety in an amazing and unfailing manner daily and gives me a boost of physical energy and Joy to face my day as needed ❣️ I pray all 4 Rosaries daily as often as I can. So I'm doing good on the "Ora" part but I definitely need to do more on the "Labora" part so I can have a good balance. I haven't really read the Rule of St. Benedict but you've inspired me to look it up, so that's my new homework from here😇 Virgin Most POWERFUL pray for us 🙏✝️❤️❤️❤️

[@sandyv2195]

God bless you! 🙏

[@sandyv2195]

@@MagdalenaIsaiah431 God bless you! 🙏

[@Lolo-lt2lf]

Sending this to my mom

[@annieh1315]

I've been struggling with identifying this line for years, and I've given of myself to the point of burnout. It's been 10 years since my burnout, and I haven't fully recovered yet. This helped. Thank you, Fr. Mike.

[@Hatsuu20110]

I've always been thanking God for his love for me but constantly remind myself I am unworthy. Earlier today after church, an old lady came up to me and told me, "I appreciate you". I never had many interactions with that old lady and I don't remember doing anything to her that made her say that. But after watching this a thought came to me, maybe this is God's way of telling me to cherish myself and that I am worthy of love. That maybe I should stop telling myself that I'm not worthy and accept the love that's being given to me. Thank you Father Mike, I never would've realized this on my own. I pray for you every night, god bless.

[@Wisebug26]

There was a point when I couldn't understand anything that he was saying. But yesterday, I started watching your videos and everything makes sense!

[@sammyc9617]

So very timely! So many people in healthcare need to hear this right now! God Bless! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@thingsihate_3333]

Was you're intention to make me cry Fr Mike? Because you did and now I just can't seem to stop. I think seeing your face looking directly in my eyes...I think that's the first time ever, in my 30 plus years of life, that anyone, ANY PERSON I KNOW, has ever said that...."You are worth taking care of." No one, has ever said that to me before. And the sincerity with which you said it, the intense eye contact....I can't stop crying now...

[@DanielWSonntag]

I take care of my dad 24/7 now, so this has been a learning journey in "self-care". Also, having previously lived such a selfish life, I have to be careful not to go back to that way. Going to God and letting Him fill me never fails.

[@josiahselectricgaming1566]

Thank you father Mike. I’m Protestant but I truly enjoy your videos. Very encouraging.

[@Paul-ml4fk]

Jesus grant me healthy self care and generosity

[@pattyespinoza8902]

Thank you! My husband, may he rest in peace, asked me one morning to please make sure I take care of my like I used to take care of him and the children. There are times when I smile at myself , I make sure to eat healthy, and if there is something reasonable that I want, I tell myself if I would buy it for someone else, why not for me. God is absolutely amazing. I love him SO much. God bless all of you.

[@shellieblack528]

Father Mike I actually had to reach out to a professional because I could give and my job celebrates that and then I was left wondering if I disappeared would people miss me or miss what I could do for them. And you so correct.......I learned that I have a choice. And sometimes that choice is "no". Just thank you and may your steps continue to be blessed!

[@celestejohns681]

This was a life-changing message for me because I have lived my life so far as a pipe. 😮

[@Weiweisunn]

I really need it right now. This video is a gift from god🙏

[@elizabethtrujillo541]

For so long I felt that I needed to always show mercy on others who damaged me.. never knowing when to cross the line, let's just say "70 x 7" was reached. As I contemplated on lifting a restraing order for domestic violence my guilt attacked me on seeking revenge and seeing 360 but this video.. Fr.Mike spoke the words that I've needed to hear. This is my testimony 🙌

[@IONov990]

I am an extreme procrastinator so it looks like I do not love myself enough. Most of my problems are self-inflicted. I hate accepting my limitations. I need to realize everyone needs help. I usually do not need physical assistance because thankfully I have a healthy body but I am someone who needs emotional support because I am easily discouraged but I should not be so emotionally dependent on others.

[@t.f.9378]

Wow we sound so similar. I relate to everything you said in that

[@marystenson2852]

Wow! Now you have started, keep going👍💪🙏❤️you are not alone🙏🙏🙏

[@michelleferrao8888]

Thank you Fr Mike 🌟 “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. “This is the first and great commandment. “And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” Matthew22:37-39. To love God with all our heart & soul in the midst of all the seasons in our life. Learning to love ourselves prepares and helps us to show grace, act with compassion, serve & forgive our neighbour🌻

[@analuciaserranosilvestro1323]

Sometimes we think that our mission is to love others but we forget about ourselves. Thank you Father Mike for your reflection about it. 🙏

[@Joecrow-waytogo]

When I was taking care of my elderly mother, I wondered every single day IF and how Mother Theresa took care of HERSELF.

[@bajone02]

She prayed without ceasing. God helped her with the rest. She said she was just a pencil in God's hands. Takes a lot of docility to follow God so closely. Esp with work she accepted. I have wondered in just the last few days if Mother Theresa only experienced the dark night of the soul on occasion, but because she wrote it down, and not the consolations, if people misinterpreted her person journals. It is easier to write down the negative side in our pleas for help, but those true consolations are hard enough to accept as possibly being real much less to be able to put into writing the intense joy of being directly recognized by God. So she left those words out and all people who looked at her journals saw were the empty times God gives us to take a break from the intense love. He's just that kind of Father.

[@marystenson2852]

I was thinking the same 🙏❤️👍she also lived in community I imagine that’s a strength

[@JoseDeJesus-ux3ll]

Thanks Father Mike

[@17CW68fNv]

Thank you Fr Mike...these are ideas we don't often give much thought to. God bless. Claire.

[@mynameisYumi]

One of the lines that gave me a breakthrough about self-love came from the cartoon Steven Universe, which goes something like "when you love yourself, that's me, loving you!" I think it so often feels like loving yourself takes effort, like we have to be the ones doing the loving (cos who else will), in much the same way we have to care and be responsible for ourselves. But in reality, it's God who does that. Love, like Fr Mike says, comes from God first. To love yourself is to claim God's love for yourself, to accept it even if you don't feel worthy. So if you don't feel like you're up to love yourself, giving yourself permission to be loved by God and by others is good as well.

[@anumarianus6745]

I wept when I was watching this video Father... I have been praying for the grace to love myself (i really don't think I am worth being loved and valued).. i believe Jesus spoke to me through you. I also pray that you will be an overflowing bowl rather than a pipe... God bless you father!

[@onyinyechukwu]

Jesus loved you so much that He died for you! You are definitely worth being loved. The world and people around you might not show you that, even you might not love yourself, but believe me when I say there are people who are praying for you, Fr Mike loves you and God is looking at you lovingly. He only wishes that you would look up and see acknowledge his loving gaze. When I feel down and unloved, I simply ask the Holy Spirit to wrap me up in His loving embrace, and perfect peace settles on me.❤

[@peterlindal3352]

Hello dear, you are a Temple God chose to Dwell in, he loves you so much, i pray he gives you peace and Joy, remember you are Gods child, and his light, be kind and merciful to yourself, like God is! God bless you!

[@LauraC-hq7sm]

I can totally relate to how we are so consistent with giving our pets medication. Pets give us so much love we treat them like family.

[@giorgiaalexanderactingothe1892]

I’m so glad you posted this today! I’ve been seeing some misinformation spreading about this in communities of believers. I will watch when I get off work :)

[@beccamiller9929]

I have always struggled as being enough or asking for help when I need it or when I am overwhelmed even as a kid. I think it comes from parents being such intensely kind, loving, generous, and faithful Christians. My dad and mom have always gone over and beyond expectations from friends and family and especially societal norms.

[@bajone02]

Becca, please elaborate a bit. As one of those parents, or tried to be one, I now have early 30 adult children that are insecure. Highly functional and successful on the surface but aching over something inside What is the disconnect between being a loving parent and children that are taking way be too long to appreciate what was given to them many times. I know more chores and stronger faith practice at home growing up would have been better. St. Monica, help needed here, please. Thanks in advance

[@jac1161]

Yes, and agree. My parents, even with disability, are more giving, sacrificial, incredibly loving and selfless. However, you said the word that is a red flag to me and I find that the Catholic goods don't always go deep enough. I looooooove Fr Mike! However, sometimes there needs to be a little more psychological exploration too. A lot of this is about codependency, people pleasing and other wounds that makes us feel better when we are good to others. And we talk down to ourselves to self victimize actually. Perhaps your parents have not engaged in honest, balanced looks at things and possibly avoiding something about themselves. It goes deeper than Fr Mike is taking this. And when you get the psychological portion, the spiritual portion will be easier. Otherwise, it won't work. Just being honest and ...balanced. Soul AND mind AND body. A loooooooot of unaddressed issues in our day and era. No silence, no processing, no reflection. WE gotta "go there" ....families are messed up. And the only ones who don't have problems...are liars. Not asking for help is PRIDE. God complexes and spiritual illness.

[@heathervancalcar4446]

You are blaming the Love from your Parents? When others are praying with all their hearts to understand why they are born if they are not loved? Honestly, I think its a cop out for you not stepping up. No offence, but did you ever try being a little more like them? Try and step up and DO it with them.. HELP THEM then they are not doing in on their own anymore are they? I think you have Great Parents there.. Just like mine are. They should be cherished and supported for the Good they do. Have you ever felt the Love of God out pouring on you? I have. It is so overwhelming. I had to ask Him to slow down. How can you Love too much?

[@heathervancalcar4446]

@@bajone02 Being a Loving Parent does Not make your children insecure. Society and Pressure does. They are pressured to always be "cool", and to BE the Best (not just trying their best). If they are not perfect the world (peers) uses it to crush them. I have depression and anxiety.. I do not blame my Parents who were loving and generous. My Grandparents too were like that. No they are inspiring. They remind me that I DO have people behind me that love me. Even if the world forsakes me. True, responsibility is a good thing to have for all children (chores, church etc. (the more Prayer Groups the better, they learn from each other) But my friend, do not and never apologize for Loving your Children. You don't see God apologizing for Loving the world to the point of Death do you? Every person needs the support of Loving Parents... Even if the love is the tough kind... It is all Good. People just need to learn to take responsibility of their own lives. Daily prayers and a stronger trust in God helps with that. They are struggling inwardly because we are in A spiritual battle (trial) right now. The devil is doing all he can to bring people to their knees and shake them up. We that have mental issues are a HUGE target. There is no better people easier to throw into despair. Your children need more God... The Divine Mercy Chaplet with the Ending Prayers included is great for insecure people. Tell them to Link their Anxieties to Jesus's Agony in the Garden where he experienced the feeling of Anxiety. He will help them find their strength and resolved to... "Let God's Will be done." I thank God for Parents just like you who Love too much. God Bless you and your whole family!

[@beccamiller9929]

What I mean is that I have seen my parents over extend themselves, always putting their family and extended family first. Seeing them always caring for others and never seeing them take care of themselves They model always having love and caring for others, which is good, but it was rare I shown to rest and be content to rest. My parents are always on the move, which how I am. I immensely love my parents, could ask for better parents.

[@brendapeter446]

One of Fr. Mike's best videos!!! So necessary in our day & age. People in our modern era are very proud, i.e. broken, and have such a hard time letting God love them. They don't realize that it is the key to becoming holy!

[@babybeckyandmarkytravels4208]

I have a hard time loving myself. I always take care of everything and everyone but me. I love you father. I loved your talk so nice to hear because some of us need to love ourselves 🥰🥰💗💗

[@annkreager1996]

"You're limited". Father, I needed to hear this. Thank you

[@thecolorfulchristian]

Wow, this is one of the most powerful videos for me. I needed to hear this, this is a reminder coming from someone who has always felt like they are not doing enough. I'm going to keep watching this as a reminder for myself, to remember that I am not the savior of others. We are a body, not just a singular person. Thank you Father Mike, you continue to enlighten my path towards God. Many blessings to you!

[@89sn00py]

I heard once from a wise man: 'Admitting that I have needs is not selfish. Demanding them to be satisfied is selfish. '

[@kathann1999]

Thank you, what you have just said is what I needed to hear right now

[@jamesnoriega4698]

Father Mike, you are the man. Thank you for your inspiration and wisdom. You've definitely saved some lives

[@KIMMYSSONG]

Blessings

[@stephaniemizepfe8997]

As a teacher this was a very empowering thing to listen to before the school year begins.

[@JanetOConnor]

Thank you Father Ike! I guess I need to hear this more often. I need God’s love to help me care for myself❤

[@TarebeartheWriter]

The Holy Spirit is talking to me through KZbin autoplay. Needed this ❤️

[@Lolo-lt2lf]

He makes a REALLY good point about if other people talked to us like we do to ourselves sometimes, there would be fights

[@SilverCottage]

"No is a complete sentence." I LOVE IT.

[@GJ3ful]

Very good response, @Ascension Presents! When we all PROPERLY LEARN how to TAKE GOOD CARE of our own SELF, then we will all BECOME to SEE BETTER - in how to CARE RIGHTLY for all OTHERS too (Romans Chapter 14 and with PRAYER ~ Ephesians Chapter 6); ~ PEACE!

[@jellybean7605]

So so so amazing❤ This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you Father Mike!!

[@chomperthefirst533]

May I be an overflowing bowl of God’s love. Amen. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you Jesus.

[@mariachijazmin3970]

Just what I needed to hear. I grew being taught of putting others before myself. I am horrible at self care.

[@Anna-mc3ll]

Thank you for sharing this message!

[@TJ1920]

Love others as I love myself Sounds straight forward Try putting it into practice How much do I really love myself, something to ponder over

[@marijananitraj029]

Love God, then love others and yourself 🌼❣️

[@carolinenorman6141]

There is a wonderful comment in the twelve step program. " WHEN WE CONCENTRATE ON OUR OWN RECOVERY GOD SORTS OUT ALL THE THINGS WE CANT CONTROL. JESUS TELLS US TO LOVE OURSELVES ITS SELF CARE NOT SELFISH.

[@martyvestal1222]

Father Mike, always what we need to hear!

[@KnightGeneral]

So true. When my depression moments attack me, I don’t have the energy to serve in any way. That’s why Im committed as well with self-care: Healing, Therapy, Counseling, Healthy lifestyle. Thank you fr. for reminding me! I’m taking care of myself so I can serve well for Christ.

[@jansonmur4362]

I too read Jordan Peterson book and it was fantastic

[@schweitzer1]

Thank you very very much Father, I really needed that message. God Bless you !!!!

[@dawnlapka3782]

Thanks for being someone else who reads the same psychology articles thar I do. Thanks also for saying things that I frequently tend to say. May the Lord grant me the grace to practice what I preach. I want a different way of life than what most people consider the "normal" way of life. Sometimes I have to ignore my own family to take care of myself.

[@geetadsouza2888]

Thank you so much Father for your beautiful and meaningful words on this imp subject! I have become more stronger in my faith ever since i have started watching your videos on daily basis!! You are truly a God sent angel for us !!

[@SoulfulRose]

Thank you. I needed to hear this. 🙏🏿

[@danafennell6647]

Preach!

[@jerryhoffmann8828]

Father, You just blew my mind! Thank for all of your teachings. I am new to your channel but am loving it ❤

[@ks7343]

So.incredibly.helpful! Thank you Fr. Mike! I'll keep praying for you. I'll try to work on being the bowl!

[@jakesasak3448]

This is way better than the world's "self care" and do what makes you happy and feel good

[@jayorilla3696]

Listening to this felt like Jesus talked to me through you Fr Mike..Almost every sentence really got me..God bless you dude..😊

[@monicageorge8010]

So thankful to hear this today. Very much a wow moment.

[@blancaocana6397]

Thank you father Mike, you've been so helpful, and you're right, we need to share our chores at home with our children because we are not alone in this world, we are family! God bless you all!

[@suzyjarwa9129]

Thank you for this and for all you do Ft. Mike. God bless you.

[@francesmagro5468]

Thank you Fr.Mike. Many Need to hear this, maybe me too. Much love.

[@Paul-ml4fk]

Jesus increase my ability to love myself and others Amen.

[@peggys3267]

This is a message I really needed to hear! Thank you, Fr. Mike.

[@marieroche9282]

In a perfect world, Father. This ain't a perfect world yet.

[@Natural_Nuturer]

Thank you Padre!! God bless you

[@damoon2631]

You must take care of yourself but not at the expense of others! If I don't take care of myself how will I be able to take care of others if and when the need arises!

[@cathyhannahperez]

As a Health Coach, this is so resonating with me! Bravo!