Why should we only have 1 meeting & see her only once before marriage? Any evidence? assim al hakeem

[@tabassumfatimaahmad1251]

My brother when he went to see his becoming spouse he couldn't talk to girl and couldn't lift his head to see the girl because of shyness and when we came home he was asking me how is she and i was like oh my allah you didbt see her, saying to me i was feeling so much shyful i couldn't see her . Same girl he married for 16 yeras then he past away with cancer😢.

[@SMD3586]

May Allah have mercy upon him ❤

[@bushraqaasim4677]

​@@SMD3586 ameen

[@minhasukaina1]

SubhanaAllah thats beautiful. May Allah grant him jannah Ameen

[@nufailanoon]

​@@JackBud-z3h at the end of the comment he/she mentioned the death of their brother so it isn't funny 😢

[@DrDoctopus]

May Allah have mercy on him

[@OneUmmahh170]

- [00:00]🕌 In Islam, it's generally prohibited to look at other women without a valid reason. - [01:18]⚕ There are exceptions for necessity, such as medical examinations, where specific areas can be viewed. - [03:37]💍 An exception allows individuals to look at a potential spouse to assess compatibility for marriage. - [05:54]🚫 Continuous reevaluation or casual observation after initial assessment isn't encouraged in Islamic marriage practices. Summarized

[@KaiHera-mi4wr]

What about checking again to make sure she is the right one? Is that allowed?

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@KaiHera-mi4wr I'll make it simple for u akhi talk to each other, see each other, look at her in front of her mahram, but don't flirt, don't be alone together, don't be romantic with each other, and if u want to see her again to make sure she's the right one or to make sure that ur compatible with each other then go ahead but without doing those things that I just mentioned, cuz it's not dating as some ppl make it seem like, it's important to take ur time to get to know each other and see if ur compatible with her and I hope that answers ur question.

[@Myway165]

I guess the height of a a Years old child was just perfect for Muhammad. And the chemistry was out of the roof when Muhammad looked at Aisha while she was playing with the dolls .

[@justinz497]

"Hokie dokie" - sheik assim al- hakeem, 2024. Sheik is the best when it comes to entertaining the viewers while answering. Mashaa Allah...!

[@simonrocky7223]

When? 😂

[@BruvahSulaiman]

A lot of our brothers and sisters in Islam these days "meet" on FaceTime 10, 20, 30 times over a period of time before actually getting married if they don't end up disliking one another somewhere along the way.

[@Crimlex.]

I get your point. Sadly I am a person that can't make a good picture of a person's personality just by one meeting. There is so much hiding within a person that it's straight up not possible to make a good analysis of a person just after one meeting. The eyes are a very good tool to get infomation about someone and how they feel (in case of they are not ill or something - then it may decieve) but that alone isn't helpful enough in my opinion. Is there at least the permission of talking to a potential spouse more often even without seeing? Jazzak Allahu kheiran.

[@Salamanca-joro]

You can meet her not only once you can do it even for three times or more than that, but it needs to be with mahram

[@Crimlex.]

@@Salamanca-joro barak Allah oufik.

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@@Salamanca-joroyeah

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@Salamanca-joro u watch better call saul and breaking bad too?

[@Salamanca-joro]

@@mohamedsufi6153 yeah what's wrong with that?

[@kirim2007]

“You make a decision or move on!”

[@mohamedrafi9748]

Decision? Normally it can end like everything else✔️ Don't rush too much..

[@bullyversal5313]

How can the world run if the opposites can't interact? I have read many hadiths where women used to come to prophet seeking solution to problems.. then what was that?

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Obviously ur allowed to interact with each other in a case of necessity, but where did he say that u can't?

[@bullyversal5313]

@@mohamedsufi6153 but why normal conversation with opposite prohibited? I mean if u want to know someone with whom you will spend life then you should be allowed to have talk atleast

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@@bullyversal5313yh ur allowed to talk and get to know someone of the opposite gender and see them for the purpose of marriage, see Islam doesn't prohibit that, in Islam we don't do blind marriages, these r only rulings that modern day ppl have unfortunately cherry picked without any evidence, in fact, the Prophet saw told us to go see the person ur proposing to and if u want u can see them more than once but with her father or any other mahram present.

[@afrinatanwi6907]

Correct..in my country peoples /semi men take it just for flirting they meet several,talk on phone continue then cancel Naujubillah.

[@Amrobe]

She's not a book in the library 😂

[@MuslimTorch]

SubhanAllah

[@anouaressanoussi]

Random bots about crypto lol

[@Finefella]

keep making duas

[@mohamedrafi9748]

1 Meeting only? It's Impossible✔️ Relationship with a lady requires 7 Months minimum to organise the Marriage❤

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Maybe not that long but definitely more than one meeting that's for sure.

[@mohamedrafi9748]

I'm talking about ITALY

[@mohamedrafi9748]

@@mohamedsufi6153 Here in Italy there are two situations: DATING✔️ FRIENDZONE✔️ And I don't like to be selected as simple "FRIEND" when I want something else with girls.

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Ah alr

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@mohamedrafi9748 But u do know dating is not allowed in islam right?

[@zee-zee4932]

Everybody pray for me to get married this year please 🥺🤍💌

[@KaiHera-mi4wr]

🤲

[@jamilasulayman9582]

May Allah bless you with marriage and bless the marriage for you, amin. Please make du’a for same for me.

[@zee-zee4932]

@@jamilasulayman9582 ameen

[@Muslimah7775]

Ameen

[@ibiro868]

Where are you located?

[@Mr.Anders0n_]

Why is it only either dating in a romantic restaurant or only seeing her once? There's a middle ground: seeing her at her family's house, and speaking on the phone with her. As far as Know, Aisha (RA) taught men in masjids. If teaching is a legitimate reason to have limited contact with the opposite gender, then a marriage proposal should be as well.

[@javghyas1945]

She was behind a screen and they were not looking to marry her

[@Mr.Anders0n_]

@@javghyas1945 yes, of course, marriage wasn't the purpose... Did you actually read my comment and understand it or do you just want to agree with this cultural practice of "only once"? I said if teaching is a legitimate reason for LIMITED contact, then marriage should be. Last time I checked, phone calls work better than a veil to hide the body... Finally, remember that the wives of the Prophet pbuh had special instructions different from the rest of women to stay at home and not to get married again.

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Don't make it difficult for yourselves guys, if ur interested in marrying someone, just go and meet her as many times as u wish with her mahram present, just don't be alone with her.

[@Mr.Anders0n_]

@@mohamedsufi6153 yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying

[@15l4m]

Yes, though now a days people don’t show who they really are till they get comfortable where either spouse can become abusive and many aren’t willing to see a Muslim marriage therapist or see a shaykh for Islamic guidance.

[@cushconsultinggroup]

❤❤❤

[@AyeshaShaikh-pd3mz]

Can he see hair once b4 marriage?

[@NaeemF7]

If it is uncovered during the marriage meeting then that is when you can.

[@bilalkpbilal9230]

Hair is awrah. One cannot see awrah of anyone other than wife.

[@mickey459]

Yes in a marriage meeting in the presence of her father or brother

[@afrinatanwi6907]

You can send your female relative or sister to see.

[@bilalkpbilal9230]

@@afrinatanwi6907 yeah. I didn't think of it 👍👍

[@KhadijaMadowe]

Am I the only laughing 😂here

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Where's the proof then huh, ur just cherry picking opinions rather than actually bringinh evidence from quran and sunnah, the prophet saw said "See her for this is more likely to bring about agreement between you", and he said "When one of you asks a woman in marriage, then if he is able that he should look into what invites him to have her in marriage, he should do it", and in the narration of a muslim where he told the prophet saw that he asked a woman in marriage and the prophet saw asked him "Did you see her?" He said no and the prophet saw said "Then go and see her", and not once did the prophet saw encourage us to only meet once, we ain't talkin abt dating or inviting each other to dinner and playing violin or whatever or flirting with each other or being alone with each other, it doesn't have to just be either dating or just meeting once like u extremists make it seem like cuz it works out better as they say, there's a middle ground too, I'm talking abt meeting as many times as u wish with a mahram present to govern the conversation, doesn't that sound more convenient rather than just getting ur haram gun out and making what Allah made halal for us haram.

[@r10magical76]

seeing her only once is wrong. what if she was another person after marrige another character? your monye of your life wont comback. thes sheekes are just stupid. ther allready marreid so why worring about us young men.

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Exactly and it's so risky to do that as well, that's not even part of the sunnah and that's what some ppl don't understand.

[@r10magical76]

@@mohamedsufi6153 yah

[@somebody_55]

Have trust in Allah don't speak like hypocrites

[@r10magical76]

@@somebody_55 so if am a hipocrit if i want to make sure to marrie the right women? wallh you people are dum and stupid. you want me to get marrid to a women who i dont know nothing about. and spend all my monye i saved my whol life. and what if she was not a good women. in that case i wold devorce her and all my monye and savings are gone. you want that to happin to people? your just like thees sheeks are fake and dont care about anyone. and you call me hipocrit. dont make me laugh

[@mohamedsufi6153]

@somebody_55 So what r u saying then, that we should just trust Allah while taking some stupid and unnecessary risk of only seeing the person ur gonna marry once, don't get me wrong I'm all abt trusting Allah but u can't expect us to do smth risky and just say "oh well I trust Allah".

[@AbdulHakeem-bc7fh]

Is talking permissible r not?

[@NaeemF7]

If it is with her mahram, this is fine. Alone, absolutely not. This is during the marriage meeting only!

[@afrinatanwi6907]

Correct​@@NaeemF7

[@khairiyusoff5040]

Haram

[@mohamedsufi6153]

Ofc it's allowed, don't listen to those who say that ur not allowed to talk or meet each other until the wedding day, it's absolutely baseless

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@@khairiyusoff5040proof?

[@lilbirb082]

Muslims say modern dating leads to pointless unfulfilling relationships, then say that one look at a woman and a 20 minute conversation is enough to decide whether you wanna spend the rest of your life with her

[@averroesthecommentator2989]

And that still works better than modern dating lol. Stay mad

[@taimurahmad]

It is. My parents have been married happily 20+ years and million other muslims. This was how it was done for centuries. Alhamdulillah

[@JackBud-z3h]

@@averroesthecommentator2989 prob never had a gf LOL

[@AM-dn1iq]

The relationships last longer. Muslims create less bastards Less single mother homes Less undisciplined children Less fatherless teenage pregnancy

[@Sagginballs]

Yes now compare the statistics 😂. Cry about it we don’t care, Allah’s command is perfection.

[@onyxxxyno]

Look once, but talking to them to get to know their character and temperment would be better.

[@adedayoread6668]

Don't kid yourself. You can never know a persons character or behavior like that because they are usually on their best behavior. This is why istihara is VERY important. May Allah guide us all, Ameen.

[@mohamedsufi6153]

It doesn't matter how many times u look at them there r no limits.

[@mohamedsufi6153]

​@adedayoread6668 So what's ur suggestion, pray istikhara and do nothing abt it and just hope that the marriage works out?

[@randy4443]

@@mohamedsufi6153you do istakhara after doing your part.

[@BruvahSulaiman]

​@mohamedsufi6153 The suggestion is that you ask a scholar who you know knows more than you about what the best steps to take are and you go about it the way the scholar tells you to. Or you study for as long as the school did and determine based on your vigorous studies what is permissible and what is ideal, and you proceed accordingly. It's really that simple. Unfortunately, many arrogant ppl who are aware of their own lack of knowledge refuse to humble themselves and follow what a scholar says because they find that most scholars advise them to do something other than what they personally want to do.