Can we have a SECRET NIKKAH if parents are AGAINST the Marriage? ASSIM AL HAKEEM JAL

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@m.tayyubbaig1581 10 ай бұрын

I like the simple term, hijabi and beardy, used by Sheikh the expressing haram is always haram as declared by Allah (swt) in Quran and through His Prophet (PBUH).

@appu1sundaram 10 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, some of the men are irresponsible, unreliable, not God fearing, not provided enough, don't pay for the medical and education for the children and wife and they feed out of their wife's wealth and in return treat them like door mats. May Allah ease all of our situation and guide us and keep us steadfast. Ameen.

@shadowstorm5261 10 ай бұрын

most of these men can be spotted from a mile away. it takes 2 to get married

@tataa51 10 ай бұрын

I agree 90% of these guys can be spotted by a practicing wali. But many sisters don't involve the wali from day 1 so they flirt and text until they fall in love and can't accept a no after that.

@greatsage3666 10 ай бұрын

My uncle in a nutshell, he wants his younger brother to do the same, according to him my younger uncle's financial problems would be solved by getting a wife

@zainabstewartstewart9585 10 ай бұрын

Exactly!My daughter got ask for marriage so many times to good working men,I met the families nice practicing and his excuse was he plays football ⚽️ sometimes…Allot got refused from him so now my daughters not interested in marriage anymore.. So for me some men are to emotional and unstable and to jealous and abusive to let there children marrry…

@zainabstewartstewart9585 10 ай бұрын

Ameen!!!

@sheikhhajee03 6 ай бұрын

There are many Hadith that Prophet Muhammad s.a.w have give us facilities,If a father is Drug consumer for example,she can choose another wakil(guardian)But the Right of the Daughter is important also

@vikaspurush 10 ай бұрын

Father & mother can recommend but not Force marriage upon daughter with boy she doesn't want to marry , parents aren't bigger than God, God has given right to choose whom too marry

@nematullahfarzad1928 10 ай бұрын

Jazakullah u Khairah Sheikh

@Konan_gu 9 ай бұрын

After my first divorce as a woman in my late 20s my father forbid me to marry ever again and stay single for the rest of my life. “You never marry twice” he said. Years passed and I got fed up because I’m getting old with no kids etc. . No one took care of me anyway. Not even financially so I had to work off my ass alone. Told the entire problem to an Imam and he let me marry a man of my choice. I’m in a happy marriage now. Father did still not approve. I don’t care anymore like he doesn’t care about me. He is totally misguided in Islam anyway and is doing worse things.

@mdkhan3928 5 ай бұрын

To the best of my understanding if the father refuses the marriage then she can go to an Imaam/Scholar to act as a Wali instead.🤷🏿‍♂️🤔

@mdkhan3928 5 ай бұрын

...I think the Sheikh saying if a few times the father rejects good potential husbands for his daughter, then she can go to the Islamic Scholar/Judge...this is not based on clear cut evidence...rather the girl has a right to appoint another Wali if her father refuses to let her marry a potential spouse.🤷🏿‍♂️👋Allah knows best.

@nurdinabdirahman2776 5 ай бұрын

You are so wrong brada

@mdkhan3928 5 ай бұрын

@@nurdinabdirahman2776 ikhtilaaf bro.🤷🏿‍♂️

@TahreemgulArif 5 ай бұрын

But i know if i told my father he will never agree either he also like that boy but he will rejected just bczn its my decision and beat me and get me married to someone else or either kill me .what to do ?

@jhsemoxitha3821 3 ай бұрын

Ask Allah to guide you, guide your heart to the right way, make your heart to not want something that'll disappoint Allah, seek Allah's help, and trust Allah.

@JiJiGames-rr5jo Ай бұрын

call the cops on him and pray

@elizabethteixeira2089 4 ай бұрын

This doesn't take into account if the sister in question is a convert and does not have a muslim male relative that can be the Wali. Also a woman who has been married before and divorced - if she is of an advanced age or her father is dead, then what?

@nabila3772 3 ай бұрын

The question was specific to that particular questioner. That is why it didn't take into account all of the scenarios. For revert sisters, divorcees or orphans, the Islamic court or Muslim authority can appoint a Wali who can look out for the welfare of the woman being married off. Some courts may ask for father's death certificate, previous divorce or proof of reversion to Islam etc.

@sheikhhajee03 6 ай бұрын

You know this is not the Hadith,there are many Hadith also..You can't just take only one hadith...they can marry ..prophet Muhammad s.a.w one Nulify about a lady that don't accept her father ,beacause the lady was not happy wth her father boy that he choose

@OYATca 10 ай бұрын

i dont understand the father part for the female, because of hadith where Prophet of asked so and so to go to so and so's father and ask for the daughter to marry him, the father denied but the doughtier said no, i will marry.

@fadumohassan5715 9 ай бұрын

Her father denied the man that the prophet SAW brought, what do you expect the prophet would bring? A bad man? Haashaa, the father denied because the guy was “ugly”

@Atlanta96 8 ай бұрын

There is a difference if the woman is a young virgin girl that was never married or a divorced woman they are not judged the same way in marriage

@patriciaj.4024 8 ай бұрын

Divorced means old?

@Atlanta96 8 ай бұрын

@@patriciaj.4024 it has been corrected

@Atlanta96 8 ай бұрын

@@patriciaj.4024 at least you Got my point

@Atlanta96 8 ай бұрын

@@patriciaj.4024 all I wanted to say was that a responsible and mature woman Doesn't need her Father's permission compared to a young lady that Doesn't know what time it is

@MSAHNWN5EMNSSSAKY 2 күн бұрын

Yes yes you can and to be honest the person asks for permission from his wife will never get married

@muhammadshabir4628 2 күн бұрын

Assalam o alaikum is he saying that a woman cannot marry without the presence of her father and brother who are Her wali? If he saying this then it means net Nikah is invalid without the presence of father and a father force his daughter then Nikah will also be invalid so it's necessary that they both should be satisfied with this marriage

@10oneluv10 10 ай бұрын

Is there a hadith or ayah that verifies this? Not disputing it...just want to make sure this is not a cultural and/or emotional fatwah as opposed to a scriptural one.

@fayaz2956 10 ай бұрын

I wanna know too

@Ahmed-ye5sd 10 ай бұрын

The wali's permission is mandatory for woman, there is a Hadeeth.

@abidrahman2636 10 ай бұрын

Who knows a guy better than a guy? Does a girl know the true nature of men better than men themselves? That's why both the consent of the bride and her "male" guardian(wali) is a must. The wali can't force her to marry someone she doesn't want to marry, similarly the bride cannot marry someone her wali doesn't want her to marry. Simple as that.

@10oneluv10 10 ай бұрын

I hear you, but it still has to be documented.@@abidrahman2636

@ummumariam2482 10 ай бұрын

Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” (Narrated by Abu Dawud (2085), at-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Majah (1881), from the hadith of Abu Musa al-Ash‘ari; classed as sahih by al-Albani in Sahih at-Tirmidhi)

@user-qb2lv8uo4x 10 ай бұрын

What can a mother do when there is a divorce and the father is very far from the deen? The father just wants to go against his ex wife because it gives him power? Call it narcissism or being plain stubborn. The daughter is getting older. The daughter has an older brother though who is married. Can he act as a wali? The father also has not had much of a part in her upbringing. But there are uncles around? Can they act as wali?

@yamazaki4836 10 ай бұрын

In such condition, I think the brother or her uncle can become wali ALLAH ho alam

@shamirk3257 10 ай бұрын

Don't take fatwa from youtube comments.

@Soldier-Of-Mahdi 10 ай бұрын

Join Shiekh's QNA stream or visit nearest masjid/islamic court

@tataa51 10 ай бұрын

islamically this is possible but this can't be decided by the daughter or mother. You can't just "switch" your wali to your liking. This needs serious consultation by reliable people. I would say the uncles and brothers need to sit together with the imam and work it out.

@sabdulrahmanshaikh1621 10 ай бұрын

So what? Narcissism or anything he has full right to reject the boy. But you do too...the girl has the veto...you can deny unlimited but he cannot....so I don't see the problem

@nabir84 10 ай бұрын

Does anyone know what happens when the Muslim woman is a revert and not on good terms with her parents. Does the same rules apply?

@meanderingmangomanthe1stof611 10 ай бұрын

In the case of a revert woman, her father cannot be her guardian if he is non-Muslim. Usually a local imam will act as her Wali in this case.

@taimurahmad 10 ай бұрын

It is a recognised islamic authority

@taimurahmad 10 ай бұрын

Leader ps islamic organizations etc

@D-A-N- 10 ай бұрын

@@meanderingmangomanthe1stof611u suu sure? I beg to differ it’s still her father

@taimurahmad 10 ай бұрын

no its not@@D-A-N-

@NantumbweSarah 10 ай бұрын

Ha ha ha ha its sugar mummy for me😂😂😂😂

@nadirahsaafir3273 10 ай бұрын

Any guidance on a marriage that appears to follow all the SunNAH guidelines but the marriage is a secret from the man’s family and his other two wives. He only supports the the new wife leaves the other WIVES TO cater for themselves. When he visits the other wives he pretends that nothing has happened he then depends on the other two wives to feed and cater for HIM FOR ALL HIS NEEDS ALL as in ALL his needs. Can someone help this situation make sense ISLAMICALLY?

@miidoo443 10 ай бұрын

everything in this statement u made is fine .. aman doesnt need to his family s permission only the woman needs her father's approval to marry a man.. also he doesnt really need to tell his other wives because he is not doing anything haram in the first place .. it would be preferable if he tells them tho it is recommended but he doesnt need permission... HOWEVER if he s using his wives to pay for his needs . then idk how u are calling this a man... part of taking multiple wives is treating them fairly and justly and this guy seems to be exploiting them.. i suggest you seek different opinions fromm different imams from different cultures just in case they might have a cultural bias

@moab0226 Ай бұрын

This is not true for hanafi madhab where the girl doesn’t need her father to act as her wali for the marriage she can get 2 other males

@sandrabullock6319 10 ай бұрын

What is the Hukm if the father is Kafir Mulhid, does he need to know??

@stari313 10 ай бұрын

I'm not a sheikh but my logic tells me, yes he should know, however his opinion is not valid because his assessment of the potential partner isn't going to be based on Islamic principles. Allah knows best.

@maazmustafa2322 10 ай бұрын

lol sheikh is right about Pakistan. Idk how my fellow Pakistanis consider the country to be safe when you got armed security guards outside every public building - airport, hospital, mall, office, school/ college, even some restaurants. Look at the level of security offered to foreign cricket teams when they come. This sort of security is not normal in the world. It gives the impression to a foreigner that if the security is removed all hell could break lose just like sheikh it seemed to the sheikh. Besides the northern touristy areas no part of Pakistan is safe esp if you remove all this excess security

@PreetiKumariRajak 6 ай бұрын

Wt about revert Sheikh ?how she will get married

@ayeshamalik8308 9 ай бұрын

And if the girls’ father died. Whose permission does she need?

@rogue_114 9 ай бұрын

Sheikh already said in the vid to go to an Islamic court to get her married

@Godislove47 7 ай бұрын

My father died so what do I do? my brothers are non believers,,,,???????

@juveekhan 7 ай бұрын

Maybe ur paternal uncles or an imam of your masjid

@YoMegaStar69 7 ай бұрын

what if the father and mother is dead? how will a women get married

@playerunknown12396 7 ай бұрын

Guardianship carries on

@YoMegaStar69 7 ай бұрын

@@playerunknown12396 where does the guardian ship go to like she only has her mom left

@ericalfon1620 9 ай бұрын

If you have a kid and thinking you will have FULL-CONTROL over them. You SHOULD NOT HAVE a kid at all.

@piqueny8872 10 ай бұрын

Most cases parents know the adult child is not mentally or financially independent to support a marriage This late 30s brother begged his parents for him to marry on the condition his choice of wife but his parents have to help pay for his wedding and have his wife live in there home The parents only agreed to stop him from having babies out of wedlock He took full advantage of his parents home Him and his wife would leave there babies for the parents to babysit while they went on dates and work Eventually the parents kicked them out N told them for taking advantage

@TheAviation101 10 ай бұрын

Sheikh said he gave birth to a girl, I’ve heard it all now

@mahmoodmohammed1679 6 ай бұрын

She's hijabi and I'm beardi😂

@IrfanArif-j7u Ай бұрын

Never

@ZeneCa-vg2ny 10 ай бұрын

If the father of girl doesn't approve despite a perfect match..thn I this case the court becomes the wali ..and girls can opt for court marriage

@miidoo443 10 ай бұрын

nope.. only if he does it multiple times... he has the right to reject he is her father but there are limits to his authority and when he crosses it then then girl can seek the "islamic" judge not any judge..

@ZeneCa-vg2ny 10 ай бұрын

@miidoo443 no ... father has no right to reject a proposal without any reason..he can't blackmail her or force her to marry someone against her will...girl in this case has all.the right for court marriage..and nikah will be valid

@ummayesha2784 9 ай бұрын

@@ZeneCa-vg2ny where did you learn this please? And who would step up to be the wali?

@abidrahman2636 10 ай бұрын

@shaziyataranum710 10 ай бұрын

But what if the Wali is refusing to let the bride marry the groom because the groom doesn't look good. But the bride and groom really want to get married and have good chemistry but the parents care about physical appearance. I know forced marriage is haram but what about forcing the bride and groom to not marry each other for no valid reason such as vanity.

@abidrahman2636 10 ай бұрын

@@shaziyataranum710 wait a minute, brother. Why is there a chemistry between a boy and a girl in the first place? This is "zina"(fornication), in case you don't know. Unmarried men and women must avoid interaction between themselves unless absolutely necessary.

@abidrahman2636 10 ай бұрын

@@shaziyataranum710 brother, pre marital chemistry is haram. It's called zina (fornication). A man and a woman who are neither married to each other nor prohibited to marry each other must avoid interactions between themselves unless absolutely necessary.

@ZeneCa-vg2ny 10 ай бұрын

@shaziyataranum710 look if a girl marries without the approval.of his father ...the nikah will be valid but she will be sinful ..just like a man who does 2nd marriage even if he can't do justice...his marriage will be valid but he will be sinful..so parents should also not blackmail their kids and accept theri kids choice

@abidrahman2636 10 ай бұрын

@ZeneCa-vg2ny brother, don't make invalid things valid. The hadith is clear. Aishah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Whichever woman married without the permission of her Wali her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid. Jami at-Tirmidhi 1102 Grade: Sahih

@snakeeater3177 10 ай бұрын

3:56 wait what? Doesnt the mother give birth

@islamictreasuresacrosstime5529 10 ай бұрын

Our religion is based on sacred knowledge

@Paqcar 10 ай бұрын

Wait really 🤯 🤯

@abidrahman2636 10 ай бұрын

@sabdulrahmanshaikh1621 10 ай бұрын

So what...giving birth qualifies for non emotional judgement....what are you on about?

@ZeneCa-vg2ny 10 ай бұрын

@abidrahman2636 father also cannot forbid daughter to marry someone if her choice without any valid reason...he can't use this Islamic rule to blackmail his daughter...