Why some people just don't make the cut!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Do you have any thoughts or stories about gifting your quilts? We would love for you to comment and share with us.

[@MylifeMyway7283]

Ms. Mabel , Thank You for sharing on what You do with Your Quilts. I have heard you sell Your creations. If there any way that You can tell me about the Quilts You have ready to sell..?? My colors are blue, black purple, turquoise, My birth sign is Aquarius, I love the Ocean and all the creatures that are in it..I watch a very great Quilter. Sometimes She has Auctions and I always bid and I win the ones I truly LOVE!! They are on the walls in my sewing room. Please , Ms. Mabel , please get back to me when you have a free moment, I truly appreciate it..❤❤ Thank You

[@merrymabelmarket]

@@MylifeMyway7283 We aren't selling quilts at the moment, but when we ever do sell them, they will most likely be for sale on our website. You can watch there if you would like. So kind of you to want one.

[@jacalynstaten5607]

I gave a red, white, and blue quilt to a lady I worked with who was promoted to the C-suite. It was gorgeous if I say so myself and I really pushed the limits of my skills. I mailed it to her and after two weeks of not hearing from her I called her to make sure she received the quilt. She had received it and the only question she had was if I made it myself. Not even a thank you or it’s pretty. It’s a good thing I have some emotional intelligence because I wanted to tell her to mail it back to me. I have finally gotten over it and imagine it will end up at Goodwill where someone who understands what it takes to make an heirloom quilt and that person will be thrilled to get it. That taught me to make sure a person is quilt worthy.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us!

[@auntdello5286]

I feel your pain! I have a Mother in law quilt gifting story. I retreaved it, and gifted it to my son who loves it.

[@cindyventura6275]

I know how you feel. I made one for my granddaughter and, a couple of years later, found it outside on my daughter' porch, stained and wet. While my daughter' back was turned, I picked it up and thru it out the front door. When I left, I put it in my car, took it home, washed it and now have it on my couch and use it myself. I have, since, made a few more and given them the family/friends but they live far enough away that I don't know what they are doing with them. Was thinking of giving up on doing anymore but (from the Last Homely House on KZbin) I plan on making more and giving them the a group named The Linus Project. And now I have another thought from you. There is a hospice near my place. Thank You. I'm gonna keep going....,

[@merrymabelmarket]

You totally made me laugh. I love that you are enjoying it on your couch.

[@kathieheath8716]

I gave my nephew a quilt. The best thing ever was several years later when he asked me to make him another one.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Such a compliment!!

[@nancym.5568]

I have a picture of my grandson, when he was four years old, snuggled under all of the 7 quilts I had made for him. It makes my heart sing everytime I look at that picture! He is 16 years old now and he still loves his quilts!

[@merrymabelmarket]

How totally delightful!!

[@lindab.716]

My MIL made all of my kids full size afghans when they were born. They are now 37-42 and all have those afghans in use and on display. Their Grammy is smiling down on them ❤

[@lorifontaine]

Hi! Thank you for this video. As always, inspiring and uplifting. Most of my quilts are made for charity. I have to let you know the best compliment I ever received. I was contacted by a family using our local Hospice society and they asked me if I would be offended if their loved one was buried in the quilt I made as he had told the family that was his wish. The fact that a stranger loved the quilt that much to want to "spend Eternity" with it warmed my heart and the memory keeps me quilting long after I'm exhausted!!! Hugs from Canada.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful story. Beautiful!

[@elainejudd4892]

How wonderfully honoring of your work! I can’t think of anything better. I have often said I would be content to be wrapped in a quilt at the end, so I get it! ❤

[@KimtheElder]

Okay, now I'm in tears. How lovely

[@bettywhittington9654]

I make pocket prayer quilts also and people tell me all the time grandma is in heaven with her beloved fidget or my baby still has it. It makes me appreciate all the love I put into them.

[@colleend2977]

I make quilts for the local police department. The goal is to perpetually get and keep one in every police car and when they come to a scene with a kid, they can wrap them up for comfort. Some of the quilts are intentionally made for that and some are quilts that just didn't go the way I expected but I know they will love and treasure it. Imagine being at a crime scene with a child and giving them this handmade treasure. I put them in a drawstring bag with the Winnie the Pooh quote: "You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think and loved more than you know".

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful way to give.

[@auntdello5286]

I really love what you are doing here. I will mention this to our group. If the don't go for it I may approach my local police/ fire.

[@MichelleFrazier-ze3xu]

Thank you for that!

[@kathrynboseman5249]

I'm def a horse of a diff color on this one. I truly enjoy the process of making the quilt. I get satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment with every one I make. Once it's done, I'm on to my next "fix"..😅, heck, I usually have several cut out and waiting in line! I rarely keep my quilts. Some are planned gifts and others hang around a bit longer but eventually a person or need turns up and off it goes. I already let go of it when I moved on to the next project. For me.. I already had my fun making it, I have the memory, I have pictures and I still have a healthy stash promising lots of future fun! Nothing, NOTHING...can ever erase the joy of that experience and often, lessons learned😂. Sure, I feel all warm and fuzzy when someone loves their quilt but I don't need that part to enjoy my hobby/passion. I gave a gift with all the best intentions. I hope it is enjoyed. I know one thing for sure.. I will be enjoying my time in the sewing room either way. ps- loved the fishing pole analogy! Spot on! It's so important to put energy into consideration of the recipient BEFORE spending $ and time on something that doesn't really suit them.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Such a healthy beautiful creating life! I love it~!

[@kathrynboseman5249]

​@@merrymabelmarketnowim blushing😊

[@auntdello5286]

Same here! 99% of the time, when I finish a quilt, I want it out of my way. I feel so free after delivering one to the recipient. On to the next one! Every once in awhile, I have to keep one😏. Of course, there are usually 2 or so flimsies ready to finish if one is needed in a hurry. I also have several cut and waiting to be sewn. My happiest time is when I'm playing in my sewing room!

[@carolblair2845]

@@auntdello5286Amen to that,sister 😊

[@buchmansrus]

I think your advice on gifting and selling and so much is very helpful. Thank you. I've never been to an estate sale but I may after I've seen what you were blessed with. Saving your videos. Thank you. God bless

[@merrymabelmarket]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Mimis4grands]

I will forever remember a neighbor in Indiana. She hand pieced and sewed a quilt for a gift for a family member. She dropped by one day to discover the recipient was using it as a dog blanket. I moved from Indiana 24 years ago and still recall Brenda's story of that and the pain I saw...

[@merrymabelmarket]

YES - I too have heard so many stories like this. It is sad. They just DO NOT get it.

[@Mimis4grands]

@@merrymabelmarket Sad and disrespectful. It is a gift of a person's time, energy and sacrifice to receive a handmade item. Be it quilts, crochet, pottery, etc

[@ignb9431]

Is the dog their baby? My dog sleeps on my bed and my quilts often because it smells like me and calms her down when I'm not home.

[@auntdello5286]

Some people really do adore their dogs! I just lost my little yorkie. She slept on a couple baby sized quilts. They weren't gifted to me, though. I found them at thrift stores.

[@MBird-ld6uv]

Showing gratitude is such an important part of receiving a gift. It can make such a difference.

[@barbaragoss6177]

I gave my son who has PTSD a quilt and when he's struggling he wraps him self in it which warms my heart. ❤

[@merrymabelmarket]

Quilts really DO hold comfort and love!! Thank you for sharing your experience with us!

[@KimtheElder]

🤍🤍🤍

[@terryanderson6153]

I once found a beautiful antique quilt wadded up in my father-in-laws garage. From his grandma or something?? I asked for it and he gave it to me. I washed it and it is cherished now. I don’t think I ever gave him a quilt😅 Thank you for the good thoughts that we need to remember. ❤

[@merrymabelmarket]

I have an old quilt from a warehouse that I was walking through. I didn't even really know the guy - gut THAT quilt needed rescued. (It was being used as a "packing quilt" of sorts. And it should NOT have spent any of it's life serving in that capacity.) I was so appalled that the buy laughed and gave it to me on the spot!!

[@lindab.716]

I found two quilts from 1920-1930’s at a garage sales in the 90’s, one was made by grandma for her new baby and one by grandma’s MIL as a wedding gift. Grandma, son, DIL and granddaughter were all there selling them. I asked if they were sure and paid them quickly. ❤ 😳 I would haunt my children.

[@jacquelinewittwer]

Gave someone a quilt and the next time I saw it, it was being used for their dogs. I was very upset, but then realized it belonged to them now and they wanted to use it for their pets. I am not upset now, but will not give them a pieced quilt again.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Smart decision. I would decide that too!!

[@interesting3813]

I know my brother. He likes thrifted things. I made him a Quilt with used flannel shirts and a flannel sheet for the backing. He and his dogs love it.

[@stephaniepugh1471]

Agreed! I gave a family member a crocheted afghan and about 6 months later she asked if I could make her another one. I inquired what happened. Did something go wrong with it? Did it fall apart? She said no she uses it for her dog bed and he’s kind of ripped it all up with his nails. Needless to say, I informed her I no longer had time to make afghans for people.

[@jacquelinewittwer]

@@stephaniepugh1471Wow. I just keep imagining how much fun that dog had. Even more if it were a cat. Still I agree. No more for them.

[@vikingwoman62]

Same here. A brand new quilt went to the SILs dogs. LOL

[@monataylor2600]

Such an important message for quilters. Well done!

[@hattierensberry2526]

I love that this video goes through ALL kinds of situations! As a knitter, we call these people "Knit-Worthy". I am just starting my quilting journey, and have a very short list so far of who may receive a full quilt in the next few years. For example, my mother and mother in law who both will buy quilts from the thrift store and have very easy to pinpoint personal styles. For my friends, perhaps not all of them. But that's okay! Some people are quilted potholder/mug rug gift people and others are complex quilt people. Not every lifestyle or interest suits every project, and I love the variety.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Ah yes... my knitting teacher (back in the day) said people were "sock worthy" or not. Made me laugh.

[@lornajoy8990]

Well said! I have given quilts to people who didn't appreciate or want them. Those people won't receive another one from me. I have learned not to be upset about it and just carry on gifting to others

[@merrymabelmarket]

Fabulous. It is really the best option.

[@Paul_Sheila]

Sheila here: thank you so much for this video. You expressed out loud some of my questions when deciding how I express my love to someone via a quilt.

[@26debsterdots]

Thank you for sharing this perspective of gifting quilts. And thank you for your tutorials I have really enjoyed them and am learning a lot.❤

[@amybiblewski6038]

Wow - I feel like I wrote most of your video. Thank you so much for posting this! My view on quilt giving has drastically changed in the 24 years I've been quilting. At first I gave baby quilts away to friends and made quilts for family, nephews going to college, etc. When I ran out of family I started listening to other friends likes and asked if I could make them a quilt to practice new techniques, try something other than squares & rectangles. I would not charge them - or just charge for parts not labor - and some said OK but others said no.... really? Like who wouldn't want a quilt for the back of a sofa or chair? After several years people started asking me to make a quilt for their grand kid, niece, etc. and I would tell them I would use only my stash, give them a couple options, and only charge for parts since it was a quilt I would make one day anyway. That was ok for a while but then people wanted to buy fabric for me to make them a quilt... and they wanted to pick a pattern or they'd have an idea and expect me to design a pattern for what they wanted. STOP - nope. They could not understand why I didn't want to use their fabric and their pattern to make their quilt for them - since I was quilting anyway why wouldn't I? It was hard for them to understand quilting is my hobby not my job. I want to make quilts that I like from fabric I picked out using patterns I chose. I would always offer to teach them and some said yes but most said no and were cranky about it. I have made almost 300 quilts and have given away 65% - I would say only about half that were gifted were appreciated. I have kept 10%, I have "sold" for parts cost or $2-$3/hr labor 18%, and have donated 4% (a few are currently homeless). The donation % is low because I have yet to have a positive "feel good" experience donating quilts and I have tried several charities. I just don't have confidence the quilts will be used and loved. I have had a couple charities tell me they have enough. I always try to have a few baby or toddler quilts on hand that are homeless until my brother or a friend will ask if I have one for them to give to someone Quilt-Worthy in their lives. I will happily "sell" to them for parts & shipping and feel glad one of my quilts found a forever home. I have stopped feeling guilty about keeping quilts I like. I have also become very picky to whom I gift them to - My Quilt-Worthy criteria threshold has increased substantially over the years. If I die with 100 quilts in my home then I am confident my executor will find a good forever home for each of them.

[@merrymabelmarket]

It is SO wonderful when you finally find the "perfect" place that you feel good donating to. That really is the trick. When you KNOW they are loved and appreciated, it motivates "more making" - because it is a joy to share. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@kellietrudel8222]

My gosh so true! It can be quite disheartening to make something, gift it, and then see that it was never used (or even valued). I love your sensible opinion regarding this…I think we take it “too personally”. With good reason due to the expense, time and care on the item…but we need to toughen up about it! Once that item left your hands and is given away, it is up to the new owner to use or not. People do not always understand our process or even the fact that we like/love them enough to hand make something for them. I must say tho that to give a handmade item to someone who truly cherishes it…my oh my that’s quite a feeling ❤. Cheers!

[@merrymabelmarket]

All true!! Thank you for commenting.

[@dianareddell1496]

You’re speaking truths! ❤

[@merrymabelmarket]

I do try to always stay on the "truthful" side! Tee hee...

[@NanaKathy47]

My doctor treats homebound and hospice patients. I make lap and wheelchair quilts for her to give out (always with a matching tissue pack holder). Some people cry to think someone thought of them, some have her get me on Zoom to thank me, some send me cards. For one lady who has no family, my quilt was the only blanket in her house through a north Georgia winter which aren't as warm as northerners believe. One lady, like your friends with the wedding quilt, chose a quilt with a drunkard's path top but she preferred the backing made from all odd sized pieces of red that I had accumulated over time. But since she was 108-years-old, I didn't say a word, LOL, she could do whatever she wanted with her gift. Thank you for this video.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you so much for sharing your "gifting" stories. Wonderful fun!!

[@JisforJenius]

I heard once that red is a good colour for the elderly because some lose a little of their vision and red therefore appeals to them. I don't know how true this is, but it could have been as simple as that. But absolutely, a gift once given is theirs to do with as they please.

[@NanaKathy47]

@@35803 For one lap quilt, I put the hand holes for the internal pocket in the top border. My doctor didn't remember that change in my regular external pocket and didn't tell the patient. He was so upset that it was coming apart until he realized it was a pocket. He called our doctor the next morning and laughing, very pleased with his gift. LOL

[@auntdello5286]

I have been known to use a quilt back side up. It helps keep the top a bit cleaner. Especially since my Hubby likes to sprawl on the bed of an evening to watch tv.

[@SewSupportive]

Such a positive spin on this touchy subject! Your description of telling people how much a quilt will cost put my mind at ease about past interactions I have had. Quilts are expensive to make and so often non-quilters think we can just give from the goodness of our hearts because we are already doing this hobby (or profession). But my time is valuable and if I don't want to make something to someone's specifications, I don't want to do it--and that's okay!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Yes. We get to decide always where to put our time and money while still being loving and kind.

[@MichelleFrazier-ze3xu]

I totally agree with you! I only give quilts as donations or people that will appreciate them. for family and friends I always ask for a picture of them enjoying it and they are happy to oblige. Many people do not appreciate how expensive and time-consuming it is to make a quilt so I have become very selective of who I give them to.

[@warpedweft9004]

I gift my quilts to those who admire them, but I generally ask them first if they would like it. They take so long to make that I'm not giving them to anyone who won't appreciate them. I've given many as fund raisers, where people have specifically chosen them as a prize or have bid on them in a silent auction. That way, I know the quilts be appreciated and the beneficiaries of the fund raiser also get to benefit. I'm not the world's greatest quilter, so they aren't show-worthy, but they are made with love and care.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Sounds wonderful!

[@SuperBettyboop23]

I want to thank you very much for all the information and honesty that you share about the quilt’s that you give away and I agree about all of it there is so many quilts you can make that maybe you don’t know what to do with Them, the fact that you give your quilts away and also even if they don’t appreciate it. I enjoy making quilts and I will keep making quilts and I love to give them away and I keep some for myself and then when I’m tired of using them then I’ll give them away to my children and my grandchildren even if I gave them one already 🥰

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing what you do with us!!

[@tinbirdstudios]

Both my grandmas gave me quilts throughout my life. I received my first quilt when I turned 15 from my maternal grandma. So every year, I pull it out for my birthday, whether it is cold enough or not, and I thank her and think of her. I have been doing this for over45 years. It will keep me company for the rest of the year until early spring😊

[@merrymabelmarket]

Quilt heritage is SUCH a blessing! I love owning work done by hands that I love, that are gone from this life. It does feel like love left here for me.

[@soffyabad]

God bless you, for your good heart, and wisdom. Quilts have a story, cause they cost time. So to give them away, is really even hard to do. So again, God bless you!!

[@pattileal2065]

great message, dawn. we don't always know ahead of time who will 'love' the quilt and who won't. it's always a chance. i've found i give with my heart and just have to accept the fact that not all appreciate it. my in-laws were gifted a queen size (with intense hand quilting). they expressed joy but it was never seen in use. i give most of my quilts to charitable organizations because it makes me happy. i enjoy the journey the most. thanks for doing this, patti in florida

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience.

[@BookZealots]

This is my favorite video of yours. Great message regarding gifting quilts. I think some people are afraid to ruin the quilts and so "save" them or display them instead of using them. Also, it was fun seeing the fabrics and recognizing some of them. =) 🤗💗💗

[@merrymabelmarket]

Sweet Comment. Thank you.

[@loriar1027]

This is a good way to look at it. I actually like thinking that some of my quilts might end up in a thrift store for someone else to discover and cherish. Maybe even long after I'm gone.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Sweet perspective!

[@passthedonuts]

quilts are gifts of love

[@carolgroves4818]

I look forward to all your videos. Thank you for being you! You have put into words my thoughts….Sew on!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you so much!

[@TheRozylass]

Very wise counsel. And thanks for sharing all the gorgeous and delightful quilts!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank You.

[@barbarajohnson1572]

Wonderful post... such good advice and observations.............All so true and I wish more people could come to this sort of understanding... I have found my happy place with all this!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Yay!

[@Merry_Time_Quilting]

Thank you for voicing this!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Our pleasure!

[@freddiehansen7324]

I agree with all of it. As much work, love, care and thought goes into a quilt it is important to give them to people who will love and appreciate them. I have 4 quilts I found at thrift stores that I "rescued" - they were so well made that I felt it would be horrible for them to end up in the landfill. One I was going to use in our camper, but I realized it just went really well with the decor/colors in my living room, so there it is. I have just finished a quilt for my BIL for his 60's birthday. The man has "everything" so I felt a quilt might be nice. I included fabric from MIL (his and my hubby's mother), some from SIL's mother and aunt (who both stopped quilting) some from some of SIL's church friends - so them gifting ME that fabric is paid forward in a quilt for my BIL. Hopefully, he will enjoy it.🤞

[@merrymabelmarket]

It sounds like a really wonderful quilt that will be FULL of love!! I hope he enjoys it too!

[@freddiehansen7324]

@@merrymabelmarket me too!

[@froesfamily335]

I give almost all of mine away. I won’t sell them. And I don’t do anything mad to order. Takes all the fun out of it. I’m a retired missionary with little extra money but God always provides the fabric somehow. New babies, new couples, grannies, foster children, cancer patients, earthquake victims, and friends who give them to others they know are in need of love are the recipients.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Beautiful!!

[@ladyrebeccaroth-altic7011]

I give all the ones i make away too,frustrates my husband lol. I get my enjoyment from giving!!

[@elainejudd4892]

@@froesfamily335 I once told a friend who was buying “all the fabric” that God won’t let me run out of fabric. Yes, I buy fabric, but I am convinced if I didn’t buy any He would keep having fabric arrive at my doorstep. It comes in totes, it arrives in bags, it is on the free table at the guild. It comes for $1 a yard at estate sales. I make quilts for foster kids and veterans and have just started working on quilts for nursing homes. “Cast your bread upon the waters!” When we give joyfully, He always gives back!

[@koalasez1200]

Timely!! I wonder whether I should give certain folks a quilt but always overthink it….and end up with huge self doubts. Heaven knows I have all the material, batting and a couple sewing machines so that’s not an issue. In my area I wonder about charity quilts because there have been reports of quilts made for nursing home residents or hospice patients that are taken by staff (patients will never know). I know we can’t control those things but it does make people hesitate. Linus blankets are an option but some organizers won’t accept them if the maker has pets, while others will….and see? That’s how I overthink things. I drive myself crazy. I’m going to save this video and watch it a few times to get myself out of this self-defeating mindset. THANK YOU!! (I love your channel btw). 🥰

[@merrymabelmarket]

Best wishes as you search for a worthy cause that works for you!

[@beckypetersen2680]

This is how I think about workers at those agencies that take your quilts. Maybe they need one as well - and I always figure if the nurses or doctors etc want them, they can take them. Eventually the quilts will make it to their forever (or not) home. Someone will appreciate them. If I make literally hundreds, eventually those workers have enough and they start trickling down to the patients. :) Here in Poland often the workers aren't really very well paid either....and could use that encouragement as well.

[@susanmei9980]

My mom was in a nursing home for awhile. The other patients, who had Alzheimer’s and other kinds of dementia kept stealing all her stuff. (They wanted it and convinced themselves it was theirs.) They even swiped her eyeglasses! The staff didn’t care and didn’t try to help! It’s a free-for-all at those places. My mom was very upset and tried to hide her belongings from them. No locks on doors; so patients were allowed to wander into other’s rooms and take what they liked. It’s so sad for these ppl. 🩷

[@MaggieWinsbro]

The video was wonderful. I enjoy everything you've shared. I am in awe of all of you that have someone to give quilts to. I made quilts for hospice until they ask me to stop. They had enough. I made quilts for the local Linus group until they disbanded because of leadership difficulties. My daughter appreciates the quilts I make and my husband understands my passion. My sons don't care anything for quilts. Their wives don't like or want anything "home made". Now I just make them and put them in a closet. I offered them to a thrift store but they didn't want them because textiles didn't sell well for them. So now when the closet gets full, I load them in the car and take them to Good Will. Donating there is a large bin behind their store so they don't have an opportunity to decline the "GIFT".

[@merrymabelmarket]

Do you have a quilt guild in your area? They usually know the local places that need donated quilts. I wonder if they could help? Not sure. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@elainejudd4892]

I have a couple of ideas for you. An assisted living facility or nursing home social worker would likely love to have your quilts for residents. Also, your local social services office can put you in touch with a foster home group that would love to take your quilts. I live in a very rural community, but between nursing homes and foster groups there are never enough quilts. Your beautiful quilts would no doubt be welcomed by either group. Bless you for your kind heart.

[@beckypetersen2680]

I hope you can find a nice outlet like the Sherriff's or children's home for your quilts!!! There are missions and homeless shelters for women and children that would probably love your quilts!

[@susanmei9980]

Oh my! You could make a KZbin channel and sell from online. Even other quilters would love to have your quilts! What about sending them to people who lost everything in the hurricanes or tornadoes? Maybe there’s a local organization that goes to these places to bring supplies and help. Maybe they would be happy to deliver your quilts. Those people lost everything. I’m sure most of them would appreciate a handcrafted quilt to wrap up in. 🩷

[@denisestilling2810]

Your talents are much appreciated…I really like your Rooster quilt.. believe I watched a full video on its construction. Thanks for gifting me your knowledge in teaching me how to quilt…I feel you have given me more than a quilt made with so much love.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you so much for your encouraging words.

[@PetraRobinson-gm8nh]

This Video was very helpful. I have not made a quilt yet, I am still learning and watching Video Tutorials on KZbin, and that is how I found your channel. So much hard work goes into making a quilt and so much love too. A quilt can make a wonderful Heirloom to pass on through the Generations. I am 61 and started sewing about 1 years ago and regret not have started decades ago, but one is never too old to learn something new. I do not intend to make garments, but I can make bags, pouches and cushion covers. I love patchwork and adore charm packs and mini charm packs, such fun.

[@merrymabelmarket]

You are truly a perfect age to start quilting. There are so many "quilting tricks" and if you already are sewing, I bet you will find it to be easier than you know. GO FOR IT!!

[@patriciacrafton92]

I love your videos! You have a pleasant voice, friendly delivery and down-to-earth approach to quilting that keeps me on the alert for new videos! Also, while I enjoy your tutorials (made your Trip Around the World baby quilt twice), I find your “opinion” videos like this one refreshing as well (I also loved the video about buying all the fabric you want if you can afford it). Please keep making more of these videos and we’ll keep watching!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you so much!! We'll keep them coming!

[@beckypetersen2680]

I really love your videos. Thanks for all the eye candy and ideas during the video! I've heard about the using the quilt for a dog blanket before - though I've not seen it happen to me. BUT I have seen the "using the back as the front" lots of time esp. here in Poland where they tend to use reversible duvet covers. Once I realized that it was common here, I started making sure to put a very nice fabric for the back esp. if the top is what I consider not so nice. This way I have confidence that if they do not really appreciate string quilts or crumb or whatever it is, they will have a beautiful print they can turn over and use as their top. I figure someday they may grow to appreciate the piecing. (I do a lot of charity quilting.)

[@moonmare]

I just made my first quilt to give away. It's a baby-ish quilt (winging it on size and shape), and I know they are touched by the gift. I have no idea whether they will use it with the baby or tuck it away because it's too good to use, or what. That's OK. I had fun making it and gifting it. Beyond that, I have no control. Wonderful advice, as usual, in your video.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Congrats on making your first quilt gift!! I love that you got to have that experience. I love gifting home created gifts!

[@judeaquino9457]

Awww... I wish and would love ro receive quilt as a gift. if only there will be quilter/s who' gift me one. Or at least pass me on their extra scraps. Oh if only. I'm so dreamy as I watch this vlog.❤❤

[@KimtheElder]

I love this. I was afraid by the thumbnail that it would be a quality call on the quilts themselves. How relieved I was to be wrong and inspired! Thank you

[@merrymabelmarket]

You are so welcome!

[@elainekindred9266]

I gave granddaughter a quilt and put the rest of the fabric in a horizontal uneven stripe on the back, see liked the back best and that is how it laid on her bed. I just chuckled to myself. 🥰

[@merrymabelmarket]

That is awesome!

[@m.m.4645]

I only give my quilts to people who appreciate them, actually deserve them. Years ago, I made one thank you quilt and gave it to a lady. At least she thanked me for it - I had worked on it for several months besides my fulltime job, the household and taking care of my 80+ dad, who couldn't take care of himself any more. The next time I visited that lady, her dog was laying on the quilt I made. The dog had thrown up on it and what was even worse to me, was incontinent! I swore to myself that something like that will not happen a second time.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Yes - it does feel personal.

[@michellehenderson1397]

Such wisdom and amazing advice.Thank you so much for making this video.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@mari-annstumblingbear174]

As always, full of wisdom. Thank you!

[@merrymabelmarket]

So glad!

[@angielovett4159]

Thank you for sharing those thoughts! Very great points 💕

[@BalconyFish]

Quilting is a relaxing creative journey for me. I quilt when the mood strikes, making whatever pattern pops into my brain. I once was asked to make a wedding quilt for a family member. I agreed and the process was a nightmare. They chose the fabric colors that I seriously disliked, a pattern that was uninspiring and a deadline that was tight. So my creative mind was tortured every moment of making that quilt. The family member loved it, and proudly displays the quilt on the bed and thanks me every time. I just shudder inwardly. I have only sold one quilt, on payments, it was a painful process to collect every payday. I said never again.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Shared experiences are the best. Thank you for sharing.

[@elainelear4982]

I agree with your observations. I make a lot of charity quilts, these I have learned to let go. I make gifted quilts on a very limited basis. So far they have been welled received and used.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Yay!! I love it when people understand the value of a quilt gift when they get it!

[@katehenry2718]

When Neuter Scooter( low cost neuter service) was in driving distance, I made stacks of little quilts for the cat carriers. After hysterectomy, cats NEEED a cushy in their carrier and at home. I made them pillowcase size so they could rumple them as they liked, pieced or printed or plain... all with a little heart applique. Over the year 300 were delivered. WEll appreciated.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Very wonderful.

[@1smileykat4u]

Excellent advice! Thank you!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank for commenting!

[@JudyTrost-e9w]

I think it was fate that I discovered your channel now. Not only am I binge watching and thoroughly enjoying your content but I can easily relate to you. You help me find a way to not be up tight with all the political conflicts on the airway right now. As a grandmother with young grandchildren as well as my three daughters, the far, far left policy proposals are so concerning. I even worry about our small business local quilt shop and little local grocery store. My husband and I are blessed - we will survive to the end of our days but if Americans don’t make the right (and I do mean Right, conservative) choice and elect a president who has policies that will be there for our future generations- what type of living environment will they have?

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for binge watching. I hope you are able to enjoy many happy hours.

[@vikkirountoit497]

Such an important video - thanks! I have gifted a quilt and had to deal with being sad that they don't seem to care about it as much as I do, so I love the fishing rod comparison. Especially since I fish a lot and have purchased a really nice high-end reel and found it less useful than my old go-to reel. I imagine that if someone had gifted that reel to me it would have surely made them sad how much it didn't get used or appreciated. And it would be totally ok for them not to gift me fishing gifts. And it's totally ok for me to gift that person something else instead of another quilt.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I appreciate you.

[@paulacostello6912]

What a lovely video. 💞

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you! 🤗

[@ArtByKarenEHaley]

I can’t keep them all but I’m not going to throw em away either!

[@kat-75]

love that rooster and owl

[@merrymabelmarket]

I love them too. They are featured in this tutorial if you want to see more of them. kzbin.info/www/bejne/omaTo5RnmJeMZ9E

[@mamakaka73]

I make quilts and pile them in my closet. When someone comes over and wants one they just pick one. It's better than rotting in the closet.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Great System!

[@klwmadeit]

Great thoughts!…thanks for sharing 😊

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thanks for watching!

[@simplyquiltingwithnancysanders]

I love this video.❤

[@Sewwithdebee]

Marvellous video ❤

[@elainejudd4892]

It is certainly disappointing when a quilt is not acknowledged or loved. I have 27 grandkids, and have sort of a loose “schedule” for making quilts - baby, toddler, grade school and then a teen quilt. They get them whether they are excited for them, or not. I try to match their interests and/or make something generic (like flannel for the teen boys). But I have been known to sneak in an extra quilt (or two, or maybe three 😂) to the grandkids who obviously love them. “You love horses? Here is a horse quilt for you. I loved horses at your age.” Met with great joy from a ten year old. (And now her cousin, also ten, is horse crazy, so I get to sneak in another horse quilt because, well, can’t do one special horse quilt for a ten year old and not the other!) Or the response to a grandchild squealing with delight over a Paw Patrol quilt I was making for charity - “Here you go! Take it and enjoy!” (Because I was the recipient of a nearly never-ending supply of that Paw Patrol fabric. I made several, and I am really tired of Paw Patrol!) If you love quilts, I will sew just for the joy of seeing you love it. But I have spent many hours on gifts which I am careful to send with a signature required from the recipient because that is the only way I will ever know they got it. I don’t blame the children for the errors of their parents. I was recently surprised when told by a six year old grandchild from out of state that she liked the pillow case with bears on it and book I sent for her birthday. I wasn’t even sure she got them! (No signature requested for pillow cases with a book tucked in.) Hmmmm. I have some cute Rebel Knights fabric she will love made into a quilt for Christmas. 😊 She is an early reader. I will put in a note with it and ask if she loves the Lady Knights on horses. Maybe she is an early writer too. In the end, we sew because we love it. I make a lot of quilts for local foster kids. There is no way to know if they get to keep the quilts, and certainly no way to know if they appreciate them. But it is a gift of love, and love sent out always has value - whether to a sad lonely foster child or a sweet granddaughter whose parents don’t bother to acknowledge the hours spent on a gift for their child. On my list of people to receive quilts are the parents who do acknowledge gifts for their children (a photo is great!) and not on the list are the ones who don’t ever say thank you. It is pretty simple, and I agree we don’t need to be angry about it. ❤ Don’t give a fishing pole to a non- fishing person. ❤ You are always full of great advice and I very nearly squeal with delight every time you have a new video pop up on KZbin.

[@merrymabelmarket]

I LOVED reading your quilt sharing experiences!! Thank you for taking the time to share with us. Such a positive and kind note.

[@julias.8236]

My biggest quilting fan is my mum. My very first quilt was gifted to her and she had tears in her eyes when she opened the present. She got several table runners, place mats and another quilt since then although she has the quilt uncuddled on a day bed to make the room cozier. But as you said, it is hers now and I know how much she cherishes the quilt even though she does not use it to wrap herself in it. The second quilt had a soft cuddly backing ;) My baby quilts were very appreciated as well. And my sisters wedding quilt will come back to me, now that she is going to be divorced... I can understand, that she does not want to keep it but it's a bit sad anyway. Loved everything you said about giving quilts away. For people who are not that quiltworthy there are still potholders or cushions to be given 😉 I also once made a quilt with the intention to gift it to a friend. But I then loved the quilt so much that I kept it for myself. When my friend saw it, she liked it so much and suggested to make one herself (she also sews but more cloth than quilts...) with my help and she created such a cool quilt with the pattern I used and she could pull whatever fabric from my stash she wanted. When she once said "I cannot always take your beautuful fabrics" I just replied, that she just should take the fabrics since I intended giving her the other quilt in the first place... I gifted her another one some years later 😅

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing your great stories!

[@Shelly-j7r]

This is a lovely post. I will no longer feel bad about the lack of excitment when I gift one.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Wonderful!

[@elvabarlow6756]

I really enjoyed this tutorial.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for your kind comment.

[@sandracedar368]

I agree with your valuable points. I might go the extra step & TAKE IT BACK!😂 I’d suggest “feeling out” a potential recipient of my heartfelt treasure. If I sensed a quilt from my hands & heart wouldn’t be a treasure to them, I wouldn’t make them one. I’m sure they’d appreciate a gift more to their interest & liking. What do you think?🫶

[@merrymabelmarket]

I think you are smart to be investigative!

[@auntdello5286]

Agree!

[@sandracedar368]

@@merrymabelmarketYou’re sweet. Thank you🫶

[@peggyroy2651]

My nieces were so appreciative of the baby quilt I made for their baby.. I'll just leave it at that. I learned a hard lesson. And am more thoughtful who I give quilts to anymore!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing.

[@sahmnancy]

I think I missed something. If they were appreciative, what was the hard lesson?

[@eljay5623]

Wise words 😍

[@ladyrebeccaroth-altic7011]

Im in the final stage of my disease so im trying to make lap quilts for my mother,aunts, & gma hoping they will appreciate it when im gone!

[@merrymabelmarket]

i will hope with you. Best wishes,

[@sjfuqua]

I laughed when you said they were using the back of the quilt on their bed. I spent many months crocheting my daughter a mosiac crochet bedspread and she ended up liking the back better. Anyone who knows mosiac knows its very labor extensive to get the beautiful design on the front. She did ask me if i would be offended. Nope just going to make her regular striped blankets next time 😂

[@merrymabelmarket]

I love this! Not offended at all. Just making private "rules" in my head!! (Totally what I do!) Ha, ha!

[@sjfuqua]

​@@merrymabelmarket Right lol! My bestie did offend me though and I doubt she gets another quilt from me. I have made her many crochet blankets and quilts (throw size). I made my daughter a queen size quilt for her birthday. My bestie said ugh you made her a bed size and just made me a throw? I want a king size!! She's a spoiled brat and wants anything anyone else has. The way she said it as if my throw quilts I made her were nothing really hurt. I said sure you buy the fabric and I'll make it....crickets 😂

[@debrayakel2447]

I mainly make baby quilts, I call myself “ The Quilt Grammy “😊 I’ve never even considered that the new mommy would not be, to quote you, “ quilt worthy “. Yes I put in a lot of work and materials, but my quilts are not really fancy. I tell the mommy “Use it!, wash it, let that baby drag it around if they want to “. I have moms come back several years later and tell me that their kiddos are still using the quilt I gave them. This does my heart a world of good!!! No criticism intended here, just sharing my story 🥰

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing. We love hearing about all the experiences out there!

[@FlynnMorrow81]

My church used to have a group of quilters who gave every baby getting baptized their own baby quilt. My kids call them their "born blankets," because they got them soon after they were born. This was so meaningful for us! They eventually stopped because there were too many babies too keep up with, so my two youngest don't have one. I want to start quilting to make sure that my grandkids get this kind of gift (because my sewing is very slow and I don't think I'll get to my own kiddos in time).

[@jeaniemichaels8281]

I once made a quilt for a charity raffle prize and overheard the winner comment, "that's the mother-in-law's xmas present sorted". I assumed she intended to pass it straight on to her least favourite person but who knows. It's so easy to assume the worst. Maybe she loves her mother-in-law and knew it would be much appreciated by her 😂 Regarding your friend, maybe she has it wrong side up on her bed so it doesn't get faded by sunlight. I always fold the lap quilt over the back of my sofa this way for that reason.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment!!

[@susanmei9980]

I’m just finishing up I quilt I made for myself. And I deliberately chose a really pretty backing fabric for it; so when I get bored looking at one side, I can turn it over and have a whole new fresh look. Then back again. 😁

[@ginhenry-1214]

New subscriber to your channel. Totally agree when you give a gift its theirs to do with as they choose. It still hurts when its not appreciated. I have only had it happen once. Also don't understand why people think when you have a stash of fabric, thread & batting its free to make them a quilt! I know when I went to the fabric store they didn't gift it to me. I have a pretty good size of stash too since my husband likes to tease me Joann Fabrics called today & they are running low on stock could I help them out? You showed some beautiful pieces in your video. I need to get busy & watch some more of your past ones. Thanks.

[@merrymabelmarket]

So glad you found us!

[@WthrLdy]

My mom, about 30 years ago, made a gorgeous lap quilt , made from imported Dutch fabrics, for her very best friend, who promptly turned around and made it a back seat cover in her Lexus - for her DOG. Needless to say, mom never gave her another thing, ever again.

[@merrymabelmarket]

What a story. Thank you for sharing.

[@lindab.716]

I have used the term craft worthy since I do other crafts as well. Some people are craft worthy and some aren’t. My own mother was not craft worthy. Took me a long time to realize that and cut her off (like she cared). My older brother, who had been hard to deal with since the day I was born, is craft worth. He values the time invested. 🤷‍♀️

[@merrymabelmarket]

It's so great when we realize this!

[@beckypetersen2680]

I think if other people do crafts, they appreciate the time/effort/money that goes into something handmade.

[@notesfromleisa-land]

Great video and perfect couching! Facts: (1) A quilt is a gift; (2) A recipient should thank you for the gift in writing; (3) the recipient is not required to use or love/like the gift. This is basic gift giving etiquette. I quilt, and I see plenty of quilts that are unappealing to my eye and taste that others seem to love. And if you generously give quilts, you will have this happen to you, you will have to come to terms with it. My guiding principle runs as follows: BEFORE you MAKE or GIFT a quilt, ask yourself this: If this recipient does not acknowledge or like/use my quilt am I going to be irremediably perturbed? (It's okay to be disappointed; any normal person would be). If the answer to any of these is yes, then don't give this person a quilt. Don't even test the water. I believe that there is an important distinction in how we use "quilt worthy". This term is objectionable to me. I think that everyone is quilt (and fishing rod!) worthy. Accordingly, I don't like that labeling as it seems pejorative to my ear. However, not everyone will appreciate the gift of a quilt--and this is what I thought you nailed in spades. Ultimately, we are balancing our love of making and gifting a quilt against how it is going to be received (enthusiastically? underwhelmingly? Did they snort disapproval?). That scale does not always tilt to our liking. If it it used for the dogs (I love them), for the kids (them too) or it travels to the car, boat, beach or dog bed ...it is comfort and utility that I'm gifting not heirlooms that I'm working for months and years on. I will NOT be offended (but I did have to crawl to that space). And you can bet that my beloved dog will be buried in a quilt that I have made.

[@merrymabelmarket]

I appreciate you sharing all of your thoughts on the matter so clearly. You have made ponderous and well presented discussion points. I love people with an opinion!! (Thank you.)

[@notesfromleisa-land]

@@merrymabelmarket HAH! I had to find my way back from being irremediably perturbed..it was a 40 day 40 night walk through the quilting desert thing. I had to codify my thinking on it. I give lots of baby quilts as my adult kids have friends with great fecundity: Recipients often share pictures of their babies on the quilts gifted which is quite special.

[@gailrodgers3079]

I had made a log cabin quilt for my sister. One day when I went to visit her, I found one of her big boys with the quilt wrapped around them as tight as they could hold it. I could hear the stitches screaming. I also made a baby quilt for one of her grandchildren. They apparently had talked to the fabric woman at Walmart and she had suggested a design for me to make which sounded horrid. They bought fabric they wanted me to use in the quilt. A set of patriotic fabrics and a set of juvenile prints and somehow they were all supposed to be used in the quilt according to the WM person. I had to ask them if I had to follow what she said which was confusing. They said no. So I worked on the quilt. I think I spent 40+ hours making it. I bought more fabric to blend the weird fabric they had gotten. I bought batting. I bought backing. So 40+ hours making it plus all the extra it cost me. She had promised to pay and when she went to give me the money, she handed me a check folded in half for $65 with a look on her facer that she was paying too much or I should have done it for free. I have learned to always be cautious when some one pays me an unknown amount folded up. In my mind I think they are thinking what they are paying isn't worth it. Later my sister had some kids move out and she took over one of the bedrooms for her place. I spent over 40+ machine embroidering a wall hanging for her room. My husband was right there when I handed it to her. She literally glanced at it and set it aside! Less than 60 seconds in her hands! He about exploded as he was very aware of the time and effort that I had spent making it. I will never, ever, ever, make her anything again. It took me a few times but I am a lot quicker on the draw to know I will not give something to someone that doesn't appreciates the time and effort I have made to give them a gift. This same sister when she turned 50, the whole family did a big party and gift for her. 4 years later when I turned 50, no party, My mom visited and gave me a present and gave me a present my sister had sent for me. I was born on Halloween and for some reason she gave me a Chhristmas mug from Avon. She was an Avon dealer so got it at a discount. To me it was nothing special or thoughtful especially since I am not a coffee drinker, I don't have much use for mugs. So so long. Just getting it off my chest.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. So nice to have a husband who understands the value of what you make and do.

[@beckypetersen2680]

Anytime you add embroidery to anything - either hand or machine, it adds an infinite amount of time/work to the project!

[@DH-qz2so]

I visit people's homes, in which I have made and gifted quilts... I don't know where the quilts are, as they are not being used or displayed...and this is in ALL of them...seriously... did they give them away? Store them in a closet? Are they all in the laundry? No clue..and they were very nice quilts...Moda Fabrics, sewn well, and fabrics picked out carefully for each one's taste. So now I make quilt tops for my mom's church's Blanket Making Ladies...who finish them by hand tying/binding..then they get sent overseas to people who have nothing, living in poverty, homeless, war torn villages... who I believe cherish them, as they have no other possessions, but now have warm, beautiful quilts, which serve as bedding, or walls covering for insulation in their tents, etc... I don't make quilts for family and friends anymore...I'm over it!

[@merrymabelmarket]

Some folks really do not "get" it. And, so.... there it is. Are the quilts in some secret "cedar chest" to keep them safe? Whatever the case, we do get to decide where to apply our time and talents. Sounds like you have come up with a great solution for your soul!

[@beverlyfleming6352]

Yep❤

[@magdavanzyl6141]

True❤

[@Beth-v5q]

Love your videos! I am a beginner and would love a video about batting....what kind to use for different projects, best places to buy it, can you piece it, etc.

[@merrymabelmarket]

I'll add it to the idea list. Thank you.

[@chrysantha9769]

when I first started quilting over 20 yrs ago. I made and embroidered 2 quilts, one for MIL and one for FIL. Each very different. When they got them, FIL said...We don't use quilts. So that was the first and last time I gifted quilts to anyone. I still quilt, but I donate. (there was never a thank you or any other words said.)

[@merrymabelmarket]

WOW.

[@chrysantha9769]

@@merrymabelmarket I was flabbergasted...🤐

[@beckypetersen2680]

So sad!!!

[@TheQHunter]

I've only been able to finish a handful of bed-size quilts, mainly because I have a full-time job, and a side gig, and only so much time.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Understandable.

[@margaretWestminster]

Anyone that is given a quilt hand made, or even bought for them is a moron if they don’t appreciate. How can they be so rude, thoughtless and awful. You have a wonderful attitude about accepting that the person who received such a wonderful gift but is ungrateful. I would be so upset because it is the opposite of how I would react if given any quilt, especially hand made. I have never been that lucky to receive such a special , beautiful gift. Thank you for your story. ❤

[@sahmnancy]

After my mother-in-law died, I wanted to make a placemat and table runner set for my sister-in-law and her husband who were living with my father-in-law. She told me, "Oh, that was Mom's style, not mine." When my father-in-law was in hospice, I made him a quilt and after he died, she never said anything about what happened to it. I found out by accident that she gave it to my granddaughter, which is fine, but I would have appreciated either being asked or at least being told. I learned that she and her husband are not quilt or craft worthy, and whatever. It leaves more time for me to sew stuff for my daughter, son, and granddaughter. The little one begs all the time for me to put her gifts (quilts or dresses) at the front of my queue of projects.

[@merrymabelmarket]

My mother (who was actually a quilter in her younger years - but is in her 90's and getting picky apparently) gave the last little table topper that I gave her (last spring) to my sister to get rid of. She said she really didn't like it. For some reason - that made me totally laugh!! I mean, it is beautiful!! (My sister gave it back to me.) Yep - I'm all done making my Momma quilts. Unless she needs one of course. Tee hee... I love that your grand daughter is already learning the value of "sewing gifts of love"!

[@sahmnancy]

@@merrymabelmarket I've made her a bunch of dresses, a three yard quilt with ice cream cones, pillowcases, an am binding a quilt made from some 10" squares of Sophia the first I don't remember buying!

[@donnaherzig8106]

How about gifting them for play/sitting rooms at children's hospitals to brighten their day? Would be enjoyed by many.

[@merrymabelmarket]

I used to donate to a children's hospital (before I moved) that gave a quilt to every child who came in for major surgeries. I loved the comfort that they brought.

[@donnaherzig8106]

@@merrymabelmarket what a beautiful, comforting gift. My mom used to knit baby hats for the NICU and baby nursery. Wish more people could experience the joy of giving like that. 🥰 TY for responding back and keep up all the wonderful ideas on your site.

[@minmoller7738]

No good deed goes unpunished.

[@auntdello5286]

I have learned to gift quilts only to people who appreciate them. To satisfy my quilting habit, I am a member of a church quilting outreach. They have located needs for baby, lap an twin sized quilts. Lately I have had friends and relatives coming out of the woodwork "needing" my quilts. I love it! I am guilty of giving baby quilts to my beloved dogs. Just trying to be the devils advocate here.

[@merrymabelmarket]

I think you can make and give quilts to your own dogs without needing to advocate for the devil. lol! (You really did make me laugh!)

[@M-hc9xm]

As a knitter and quilter, this is a risk you have to accept whatever they do with it if you didn't ensure that they did want it and it is to their tastes. Yes, I love making quilts but not everyone wants one.

[@Jude8111]

Yes, when you gift or give something away you are the one that has to learn to let it go. It's no longer yours and what the recipient does with it is entirely their choice. People can still be grateful to receive even if the quilt is not to their taste. A lovely friend and long term quilter (30 years) gave me one. I was very touched by her gift even if I don't use it - it's a lap quilt and has a lot of pink in it. I don't use lap quilts and pink is just not a colour I like. I only began quilting myself about 7 years ago and in that time I've made over 30 quilts. All are QAYG and made on a standard sewing machine with just straight line quilting. I just don't have the patience for hand quilting. Too expensive for my limited finances to pay for professional quilting. A longarm only exists in my dreams! Have never paid full price for any of my fabrics or supplies. I save and wait for a big discounted sale, then shop and stock up. The first few quilts I made I gifted to friends and they were all very happy with them. A couple wanted more made, so they paid for the cost of the fabrics etc. To date I've donated about 16 quilts to charity. Most go to refugees that are part a resettlement program, having spent many years in refugee camps and arrive here in Australia with nothing. It warms my heart to gift them a quilt. It's a small thing after the extreme hardships and suffering they have endured. The local organisation I donate to tell me the quilts are treasured by those that receive them. I will continue to donate my quilts because I get the enjoyment out of every aspect of making them.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thank you so much for sharing your feelings and experiences.

[@r.p.thompson4635]

I also give quilts to the refugee families I encounter. They have lost so much. Most of the women are very accomplished at sewing and other arts that form parts of their culture, but have had to leave all of that behind to survive. Quilts can represent something both aesthetically pleasing and useful after so much deprivation and also the hope that they will eventually be so situated that they can again express their creativity through their own arts.

[@Jude8111]

@@r.p.thompson4635 How wonderful of you as well. It's horrific to know there are so many people displaced across the world and the trauma and tragedy they have experienced is just awful. The group I donate my quilts to are all volunteers who give their time and expertise to support the refugees to settle. They work with them long term and teach them all the basic skills that many have never been exposed to or learnt due to being in refugee camps for 10+ years - banking, supermarket shopping, enrolling kids in school, applying for jobs, learning to drive and so on. I feel the quilts I give are a comforting gift with a practical use.

[@mio.giardino]

Years ago before I was married,the mother of our best man (my husband and her son knew each other for over a decade and went to school together until they each went off to school), I noticed that she made quilts. I completely loved and adored every one that she showed me and I begged her to make me one, I even offered to pay for fabric. She said no, and to this day, I understand why she said no when I asked, I asked with all the admiration and respect for her art. I now quilt, and I also work at a fabric store to support my quilting habit. This lady did come in a few times, and I helped her find what she needed but it was very coldand she did ask me for a bit of a discount to which I refused because after all, she couldn’t be bothered to give me any of her time… Why should I risk my job for her now? Just be careful to who you say no to, you never know if and when that person will turn out to be someone important or a friend or a family member one day.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Good story. As I stated in the video, I always tell them that I will help THEM make it. It's a kind way to say no - without saying no. I bet you WOULD have wanted her to help you make a quilt. (I have had some people want one enough to take me up on my offer!) They forever REALLY value quilts afterwards!! I even let them buy their own fabric with my help. A great way to spread quilting and bless the world.

[@mio.giardino]

@@merrymabelmarket Yes, I’d love that. I was new to the city and I didn’t have anyone here to talk to, and I would’ve appreciated having a woman that I could visit with, and learn from. Her own daughter now lives in another province and her son’s wife doesn’t do anything crafty at all, so I would’ve been ideal to have around I guess. Like I said, her son and my husband practically grew up together, so I wasn’t a stranger or random person on the street. It’s fine now, I’ve taught myself using KZbin and creators such as yourself have been an invaluable source of information. Thank you.

[@sarahkinsey5434]

I work at a fabric store too and if you're nice I'll give you the 50% remnant, but if you give off ~vibes~ or think I'll automatically do it, then no. Technically if the customer says they want all of it, then there is no remnant/remainder. It's all how you ask

[@AvivaHadas]

I purposely choose nice pretty wide backs so that my recipients have the choice to use it with the back up.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Love that!

[@stitchann]

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[@vickieinman6621]

Many of the experiences you mentioned are so applicable in my own quilting journey. Thank you for other ways to effectively say "no" when needed

[@merrymabelmarket]

Thanks for sharing!

[@vickielane7387]

When people ask me to make them a quilt, I come right out and say, I'm sorry, no. I have a list a mile long. Some ask how much money. I say for me to sell it would hundreds of dollars just for lap quilt, and add it's a hobby, if make to sell it turns into a job. I want to live my hobby for as long as I can. And then there's the, since I made for one family member, I have to make for all. So there the delemia of who's next lol.

[@merrymabelmarket]

Fabulous response on your part!! And......ALL TRUE!