Why Testosterone and Estrogen Dictate Your Relationship Dynamic | John Gray

In this video, Vishen interviews renowned relationship expert John Gray for a deep dive into the chemistry that will change your relationship forever ❤️ Check out the Quest All Access pass for unlimited personal growth for mental clarity during quarantine 👉 go.mindvalley.com/vCYmmHtN
Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus John Gray is here to help anyone struggling with intimacy issues with their partner at this time.
Listen out for:
💙 How to safeguard your mental health while being in lockdown with your partner.
💙 The key activities that create a healthy sex life.
💙 Male vs. Female Brain Health & Chemical Needs.
💙 A fun game to play with your partner to enhance intimacy whilst having sex and connecting.
TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 An Introduction to John Grey
1:59 How to Thrive With Your Partner in Lockdown
7:20 Estrogen vs. Testosterone
22:35 When Women Wear the Trousers…
28:07 A Practical Technique to Enhance Intimacy
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[@MindvalleyTalks]

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[@teritolbert8837]

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[@TheVickiecoet]

Shame the host looks very tired and struggling to listen to John or staying awake. I wonder if there was a huge time difference?

[@glorianunez7048]

Thank you

[@Bodysense369]

There is an art to a quality relationship! Grateful to have read his book when I was 20... saying that after 21years of marriage and 2 kids every day is a new day! It is not easy by any means but when one appreciates the other magic happens🌹

[@Evalutiontarot]

This is so perfect I just realised I was displaying symptoms of low estrogen and I've been looking for ways to fix it (through diet mostly) I feel like I understand the dynamics of my hormones a little better. Silly this isn't taught in school, every person has hormones and they impact our lives so much they shouldn't be ignored

[@everything5066]

Well..have you noticed any changenin your hormones, if you don't mind sharing.

[@EvaMariposa]

Yes, curious also if you've seen any difference after changing your diet... Can you also share what exactly you changed in your nutrition?

[@WilliamsPinch]

Maca Root could be a great addition for more estrogen!

[@mm.2728]

Just don't do birth control pills. And go ketovore or carnivore

[@truthosterloh831]

I love John. He is so amazing when it comes to feminine love and energy. In today's world women are expected to fulfill their own needs and desires and expect nothing from a man and that's what kills it for us.

[@Sbannmarie]

agreed

[@eva-nr2bs]

I can not get enough listening to this true “professional” in relationships field. Wonderful interview! Thank you 🙏

[@theluckycattarot8168]

John gray is simply the best ♡ he's way ahead of his time 🌟 Please do more videos 🌟🌟🌟

[@maureengannaway8635]

I read this book at a young age. Need to read it again.... I'm 54 and single😕

[@paulinecoburn181]

Found it interesting but he could have said it all in 2 chapters

[@RK-su4hs]

Destiny we have no control over. Every life has struggles Enjoy each day :)

[@WilliamsPinch]

R K “destiny” does not dictate whether you’ll be single or not 😒.

[@maggiezhang9695]

I love him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! His books should be in education requirements.

[@rayt2065]

I keep telling people. Nature doesn't care if you understand it or not....it's still going to act accordingly.

[@MuseSunflower]

This is great! Thank you so much for sharing. I love learning about masculine and feminine energies but understanding the biology and hormonal side to everything takes it even deeper. Thanks xoxo

[@alisa2997]

Dear Men, please please please listen to this 🙏🏼

[@cardboardrob1]

That's why I feel so good when I solve a problem. Wow.

[@DecadentDelicacy]

Thankful to be single, but diving back into dating post-quarantine is another hurdle

[@suepalmer4726]

I always love your information John. It is so grounded and practical. Bless you and thank you for the loving advice.

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

Thank you for making this! You two are so wise and helpful, Vishen and John!

[@sapnasardar772]

Awesome job Vishen👍. Very assisting in hard times like quarantine.

[@trinatomas2420]

Great content! I ❤️ how John simplify things so I can easily understand and remember

[@iamthechildofgod-kellykaye6665]

this is nice video..at least mind valley now is sharing their videos in you tube!!! more power and looking forward again to watch more videos!! Thanks so much!!

[@blisswkc3344]

Thank y’all so much dearest 🌹 Y’all such an inspiration 🥰 Appreciate y’all from the bottom of my heart 💜 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏😇🌈

[@lee_annhammant]

Love your content Vishen it is always uplifting and positive Thank you 🙏💞

[@normamando1479]

Thank you very much for both of you.. lots of gratitude for your services...

[@patriciascott5867]

Vishen I want to do a quest with John please! Please be the Genie through all Access. This explained so much. Thank you.

[@craftychick48]

Very insightful. Thank you.

[@evelynmills495]

Thank you for such priceless message yet only accessible by few in today's world 🙏🏾

[@hrealthyfoods6032]

This is an amazing interview! So much information that I typed 4 pages of notes! He mentioned his partner but I wish he would have told more real stories of his own relationship during lockdown. He married his long-time translator and tour guide from China - Lin Wang - on May 4, 2020 during lockdown and right before this interview but barely mentioned her! It would be fascinating to have him back on to hear about the differences they experience everyday in their marriage - culture, dating, passion, age (she's 30 years younger), and how their kids blend. She is so lucky and he must be too!

[@sadiaswr]

Feminine energy the power to attract support

[@fitdoctor1622]

Amazing, very practical John. Thank you exploring these ideas even as doctors we dont understand these balances.

[@ScorpionPrincess1989]

If you want him to feel happy and content don’t have intercourse everyday. This leads to addictions for men if it’s a daily thing without him connecting to you. And women may become more needy for a man to give her this “happiness”, but for her to feel grounded she needs to depend on other sources e.g friends, doing things for herself e.g pampering herself. So men will become more distant since it takes time for testosterone to rebuild, and women will become more needy if intercourse is done frequently. So the best way to keep the attraction, relationship afloat is to have intercourse once a week.

[@Bgirl7020]

Agree.

[@kutie216]

Only once a week?

[@kerrymillar1267]

Think this depends on the individual pair

[@ymillyg9]

I love this! It's so true!

[@lemonspica]

John Gray is an amazing man.

[@marijkee5738]

Amazing talk!

[@nicolelouis8968]

I so get what John Grey is saying. Definitely need more estrogen things in my life.

[@tinacross3423]

love me some John Gray, thank you!!!

[@lorettatripodi7531]

Wowww!! Learning so muchh

[@yourguidetolove7457]

Wow 😳 powerful video!!

[@jodirowe2996]

I must confess….it feels like Dr talks more about how women need to accommodate & understand men. I would like to hear more input toward men; how they can be more supportive and helpful to women, to feel supported and safe.

[@satyam1914]

😄😄 humans r humans

[@janinemillirons2927]

@@satyam1914 I think you're missing the whole point. Men and women are different and the needs of each are different. If men don't understand their role it affects their partner and the cycle of unhealthly relationship issues continue.

[@davidkral118]

That must be why I'm so horney, I'm out here dealing with life on my own and trying to take care of business .

[@stephaniefortney22]

So so Good…❤️❤️❤️

[@coachrazankilani5092]

Dr John Gray's work in my opinion is built on sound knowledge. Despite of his work's critics, it is still considered a solid and useful scientific reference. Love all his work.

[@carolewright563]

Absolutely fantastic words of a clear understanding of Men & Women Thank you Very much 😜

[@lorettatripodi7531]

Can't wait to try out this game 🤣

[@murungsedihdandepresi.sadn4489]

Interesting. ❤️

[@marciavernor1849]

John Gray & Allans Pratt I enjoyed your presentation. John I especially like the Ginny in the Bottle Game!! That’s awesome 👏 💕🤗❤️💜

[@marciavernor1849]

Vishal please forgive me I didn’t see your name. Thoroughly enjoyed your video with John Gray.

[@consciousmotivationsoldcha3916]

Cool guest

[@gabrielleheaven1266]

Hahaha the way the interviewer suffocates when Mr Gray says that women need romance nowadays Hahahaha xd

[@rayt2065]

Bottom Line.....Society makes relationships more difficult.

[@marinaschaefer8229]

So true!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

And it's important for women to realize oh, that talking to someone isn't the same as talking at them

[@robboelectronicaus]

So here's is his "professional training l" As a teenager Gray became involved in the Transcendental Meditation (TM) movement and eventually became the personal assistant of TM founder Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. Gray took a vow of celibacy and traveled with the guru for nine years, learning firsthand the necessary attributes of a charismatic leader. Throughout the 1980s he worked as a “spiritual counselor” and conducted relationship seminars. His credentials as a professional psychologist were questionable to some, as he held degrees from the Maharishi International University (from 1995 Maharishi University of Management) in Iowa and obtained his Ph.D. through correspondence courses.

[@user-yd1qn5ng5h]

I bought a few. I need to find Mars and Venus on a date.

[@tinacherry2295]

I wonder if that's the reason for such a rise in older men and there obsession with video games these days....

[@margaritajohns7907]

Thanks so much John for this words and lessons we all need so much. I would really appreciate that you could give me a call. Or please give more often your information so I can contact you. Thanks. I like to find out about your Consuling sessions ?!

[@Talkinglife]

Nice interesting

[@happyduck9223]

So a depressed man automatically has low testosterone? Does that mean if he were to start to make testosterone he would have the motivation to solve problems and not be depressed? Why are there so many men who are lazy and proud of it? They don't want to solve any problems. What motivates them to ever take action? Genuinely curious.

[@chancreager6855]

Men's testosterone on average is less than half of what it was 50 years ago due to environmental factors and diet

[@cynthiashelton826]

Vishen, what John just said that after a woman who is independent and making testosterone, then she needs a mate to help her build estrogen. I don't watch TV or movies, but one time I saw a part of a movie with, I believe Scarlet Johanson or someone who looks like her. She had super powers and she discovered something that was feeding those powers, hence, testosterone. She had some guy, maybe a police officer, that was witnessing all this and helping her. He finally asks her, why do you need me? She says to remind her that she is a woman or something like that. This is what John is saying.

[@MMm-le7jj]

Good info - however in snippets and with a break in between would be easier to digest mentally.

[@angewels]

Try pausing the video

[@clarlaabmayr]

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus is like the Bible of relationships 😊🙏

[@ManishBurse]

Great one.. ideology

[@AbdiAarPodcast]

Who dislikes these vidoes srsly.

[@marynawilson5396]

I love the way mr John speaks ) this is a great interview. On my channel I have his legend remade in a beautiful illustrated fairytale.

[@everything5066]

Intressting...i need more tips on how to rise estrogen level in my body

[@MuseSunflower]

Emotional healing will help get the tension and anxiousness out of you. It will help you feel safer which can lead to more feminine and estrogen. :)

[@beatricebliss9379]

Talking to your girlfriends about your feelings and wgat you are going through can help you produce estrogen. A sign you have a healthy dose is that it is eaay gor you to ask men for help.

[@WilliamsPinch]

Being around women, finding something to nurture (pet/plant), dancing, yoga. Also adding maca root is great for building estrogen!

[@1Sun111]

will never do that

[@tamarazippy9976]

What about I a single lady and searching battling estrogen dominance interfering with my optimal health now trying to lower my estrogen instead and increase my testosterone, how do I go forward trying to still flourish in a relationship and in this conflicting hormonal imbalance situation?

[@paulinecoburn181]

Hormones diminish and we age, how does he explain this ?

[@user-yd1qn5ng5h]

Right from 7 habits interdependance

[@briant40]

A+ material

[@rosiebudish]

Is the safe word pineapples? 🍍 😅

[@Lic.en.derecho]

no other languaje subtitles???? need to share this with other cultures

[@richardheng]

Wondering because John Grey's studies took place in a time and place where lots of programming like "I'm not enough" was and still is ingrained in today woman's mind, if the way for them to level up their estrogen is not now different for the woman who "upgraded" their beliefs system ?

[@mujtabaalam5907]

Biology hasn't changed.

[@richardheng]

@@mujtabaalam5907I'm sorry, I know what you mean, this statement go through my mind too, but actually we can't state this that quickly without checking it scientifically. More and more study shows how meditation and furthermore thoughts affect our neurons. So is new awareness impact the biology at large too ? And even if it doesn't, does it mean that evolve woman are prisoner of biology and doesn't act differently ? Which leads back to my first comment.

[@anthonyphoenix7215]

Dr John Gray what happened to all of your health videos you use to put on KZbin?

[@angewels]

Go to his website

[@anthonyphoenix7215]

@@angewels hey thanks so much. Yeah that's where i use to find them but now he replaced them with short clips. Different videos

[@mujtabaalam5907]

It's John Gray, not John Grey.

[@angewels]

Dr. John Gray

[@sachalopez2157]

All good and well, but what if the guy doesn't bother or want to do all those things for you?

[@sachalopez2157]

Isn't that the reason why there are arguments, because they're not doing itt!!!!

[@angewels]

@@sachalopez2157 listen to more of his podcasts, ted talks or go to John's website...I don't think you quite understand the concept

[@whitneymiller5139]

The point is that by not being demanding, but being more open to accepting the guy as is and being more appreciative we can inspire him to want to do more for us. If we are happy and appreciative the man will be drawn to us and need to feel like a man for us

[@user-cz9dh4yy3g]

can we clone John Gray, make him 40 years younger, single and at my doorstep? I'll marry him asap.

[@stephaniep1761]

How in the hell are we supposed to do this?! It's impossible.

[@hrynkoa]

10:39

[@brinellekaduda]

29:28 trying not to laugh.

[@Danielle-tx2es]

WHICH IS THE ONE FOR STIMULATE THE SEX PART IN WOMAN?

[@HJ-su1zx]

Did you notice? the HOST LOOKS REALLY UN FOCUSED AT THE END OF THIS CLIP

[@crooney29]

The look on Vishen's face says it all... On the verge of cringing

[@lapeaches8006]

I specifically came to the comments to see if anyone picked up on his body language... MY GOODNESS, it was uncomfortable to watch 😳😖😖!!

[@angewels]

The guest (Dr. John Gray Phd) has 30 yrs experience on the subject...its also based on biology/science

[@MariaLopez-hc2nm]

I can't stand watching, seeing him.

[@angewels]

@@MariaLopez-hc2nm complaining is deafening isn't it?

[@brendab1276]

I just focused on watching John Gray.

[@fishstickbio594]

You are talking about stroking male EGO. In order for me to open up sexually the guy HAS to show me he is a gentleman that cares about me first , sex will come AFTER that . You have to talk about narcissistic people and narcissistic sex and narcissistic abuse and porn addiction and how porn got normalized in American society . 😉

[@chanceyglover9044]

There is something that just doesn't seem right about a man explaining estrogen. Seems that this is more acceptable than having a woman explaining testosterone.

[@becunning]

Chancey Glover yep. Feels weird.

[@EadsB7002]

it's strange, but i will say he does get it right/knows what he's talking about

[@angewels]

You don't know Dr.Gray very well...

[@sadiaswr]

Hahahah wife feelings first before mens feeling hahaha because men LIKE to solve the problem hahaha ok then thank god for biology

[@livaliddlelaffalot2898]

With all due respect: John was not answering any of the questions that Marisa was asking. He responded, but he did not answer-total difference.

[@betyou3501]

I was taken back with you telling us that you compared the Covid 19 is not a threat. I can’t believe you are stepping into this. So disappointed and I’m a huge follower. How dare you tell your followers this. I’m so sad that you moved into an area that you have no experience in. Now I question everything you say about behavior managing my hormones.

[@Crystal107]

He is generally a liar who uses hormones to justify everything he says... when in reality? There is no way he measured hormones for each of the situations he describes... but when you use "estrogen" and "testosterone" for every argument, you make people fall for it much easier.

[@Wildchile]

99.9 percent survival is safer than pretty much anything

[@ninamurrell1708]

This seems to be a whirlwind of bias rather than fact.

[@themooneytwins]

John looks like a woman tho.

[@1LaOriental]

What's wrong with the host? Looks fidgety and uncomfortable.

[@NooranOstadeian]

Glad the zoom is over but the presenter is so bored that he shows he doesn't care about the things the speaker is saying. He doesn't need to be visible on Zoom.

[@Crystal107]

This guy has no biology knowledge, he speaks a lot of nonsense, he is fit to his old age / primitives era where he came from, but we have a lot more knowledge to prove much of what he says is false. His relationship dynamic using hormones to describe it - Gets no answer for same-sex couples or bisexuals... if everything he says is true, then how do you explain feminine and masculine roles in homosexuals? Cause I promise you that - feminine men have plenty of testosterone, that's not a hormonal issue. Don't let this guy fool you, be smart, check his portfolio.

[@jacquelinegreene110]

Love your content Vishen it is always uplifting and positive Thank you 🙏💞

[@ymillyg9]

I love this! It's so true!